Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bobump · bobump

Well, as I mentioned in chat. Had a visit w/ my therapist Friday. He specializes in addictions and I picked him to help me cope with the A and all that goes with her. Things of interest. He said many times when he has patients that are showing codependent behaviors, he hands them a c...

Hanna · Hanna

Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...

Powerless · Powerless

I don't know how to say what i want to say. I know this is the most serious post I have ever posted and it may anger some people. It is about my children. My eight year old daughter does not want to return home. She is with her father after he refused to return her to me when I returned to m...

pixel04 · pixel04

My husband and I are living with my father-in-law, renting the bottom half of his house while we save up to buy something of our own. When I tell people about this, most people respond with shock and pity. People tell me to buck up, one day I'll have a place of my own.... Well, I guess in an ideal world...

gardengal · gardengal

DO'S-------------------- Forgive Be honest with yourself Be humble Take it easy-----tension is harmful Play------find recreation and hobbies Keep on trying whenever you fail Learn the facts about alcoholism Attend Alanon meetings often Pray DONT'S-------- ...

Rebecca · Rebecca

why is it that when your little the world seems like one big great adventure. when you hit your teenage years you begin to imagine sharing your life with that "special someone". i thought i found mine. why does life throw you these awful situations that sometimes seem sooo surreal that...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grievin...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Dear Family, The hard days are over for now and all is peaceful and calm. My son was out in the cold all week. no where to bath,shave,brush his teeth or sleep other than my car. I provided him with food but made it very clear to him that he needed to follow through with his commitment of a re...

confused · confused

i am wondering in i am lying to myself. With all the emotions i am feeling anger is not one of them. am i suppressing it. i don't know. i feel sad, confused, scared the list goes on, but not angry. not for the lies, the deception, the loneliness and this list goes on also. but yet not angry. this is not to say th...

Flora123 · Flora123

I have tried, repeatedly, to get into chat room - sure I have not annoyed anyone (even edna, lol) that much, so, what is the prob? Sigh, think prob is with Java, maybe having a personality crisis! Keeps telling me - connecting - then comes the confusion, rejected, trying to connect - never says failure....

tea2 · tea2

Hello fellow Al-Anon-ers

Thought I would pass this along, the details I have now are a bit sketchy. I just heard this and will update more as I find out at this weeks face to face meeting asap, the one who spoke of it has the brochure and I don't have her number. It's a yearly (Eastern) event a...

angel123 · angel123

> > One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son > on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of > showing his son how poor people live. They spent a > couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be > considered a very poor family. On their return from > their trip, the...

KathyS · KathyS

Hi All, I'm finding this Holiday season with my A very ironic. Not even sure that's the right word. In the past the months and weeks leading up to the holidays my A was active in his cocaine addiction. This year was different. Actually it was the longest he'd ever gone witho...

cdb · cdb

Hello supportive friends who make my life better :) I am back again from time at my parent's house :) My mom is progressing (worsening) in her alzheimers but I was able to talk to her neurologist's nurse with mom's permission. She won't let my dad discuss her medications with her for s...

angel123 · angel123

Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking: I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man. Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called w...

Powerless · Powerless

I am still here and have been doing a lot of thinking. I had to take my daughter to the hospital today and did not get a chance to return it today so I thought I'd make use of it. My daughter went to the doctor Wednesday and had an ear infection. She received antibiotics and we thought she...

confused · confused

Well, I went to go see my A at the hospital today. The kids did not want to come and I respect that. They have their reasons. If I am confused I cannot imagine how a 9 and 12 year old are feeling. I did not tell him that I was coming and hadn't spoken to him today so he was surprised. He was lying in a dark room all by...

Hanna · Hanna

Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...

pixel04 · pixel04

I'm so happy for knowing the 3 Cs today. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I can't control it. My mom called me this afternoon, wanting to chat about my upcoming visit. She didn't want to talk about this too close to my arrival because "she knows how I can be when I am confronted." She goes on to sa...

Barbara · Barbara

Oh man Im struggling not to cry right now! Just came from Christmas lunch where my A husband, teenage son and I met my mother and older brother. We were doing fine w/appetizer, soda, main meal but then the bill came. Husband insisted on paying the bill even though I had already bought a gift card fo...

Feather · Feather

Hi All! Yesterday I had an experience that I believe had more than a little HP message in it! After a not so pleasant visit from my drunk A husband yesterday morning, I was sitting out on my back veranda having a coffee, replaying his visit in my mind and arguing with myself to "Ju...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

Hi (((((((roomies)))))) The first update was to let you all know about How I was doing with my hubby being laid off and this is what has happened since then: I just thought you all would like to know that My hubby and I have decided to start our own bussiness. So far Hp has blessed us with lots of doors...

WakingUp · WakingUp

She's pregnant again. She and her boyfriend told me yesterday. They're getting married. She hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months. She has two job prospects. He's fresh out of prison and struggling not to fall into his old life with his homies. ...

katiescarlett · katiescarlett

Hi, I am new!!! I am so tired the last 3-4 years dealing with my youngest daughters Heroin addiction. She has been clean for almost a year and I can see her coming back to some extent to the child I had before drugs but honestly I still worry! I am so bone dead tired sometimes it scares me! I am trying to make...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i was just thinking a bit and reading replies and i came to the thought that i think im scared because as ive said before im seeing life more clearly now and how things really are and am practicing in baby steps letgo/let god. i think im scared to do this. im scared of the changes im making. im scared im reali...

John · John

After viewing the presentation linked to below, there is a link on it that will bring you right back to this message board. I hope you view it and obtain from it the strong message it revealed to me. http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/anger.html

Cyn · Cyn

I had a great nights sleep last night - and only remember ONE dream which was an amazing dream... I dreamt that I was walking down the road heading to someplace far and a limo drove by. I stared at it trying to figure out if there was a wedding party in it or someone famous or just people. The l...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm losing it a lot lately. The stress is getting to me. I'm just tired of worrying about everything. I was upset about my Mom last night, and then my husband called and he was giving me a hard time. My Alanon tools did come in handy, but I still got angry. Who knows maybe I told him some things I needed to ge...

Cyn · Cyn

It is now 7:40 and I am awake AGAIN. This time another dream about him - we decided to try to get together and talk at a bar in my town - my car broke down on the way but I got there. I was so happy to see him and scared at the same time. Deep down I knew he was still using. We really didnt t...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well this morning a came home. we had a bit of a talk. he wants sobriety i told him he knows where to look etc. it has to be something worked on everyday. then went to his grandparents and i had my first meal in like a week. still didnt feel too hungry though. and still have my headache. day five. then we went to...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i just got back from the pet memorial place and picked up my gerbils ashes i know that sounds stupid but i feel a whole lot better not worrying about what i did with her body. my a and his mom took me. the whole time i just wanted to cry. so as soon as i got home i let a huge cry out, this kills. my best friend sh...

angel123 · angel123

Serenity Alphabet "A" ... Awareness, Admittence, Acceptance, Action "B".... belief in a power greater than my own "C" calmness and contentment... begin to arrive "D" deelopments occur.... distractions are less important "E" .... enjoyment "F" faith replaces... fear "G" .... God brings growth...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Hello. I am looking for support through my trying times with my ah. I have small children and he's out of our house right now. Just wondering if there are any others in my posistion here. Raising children with A's in their lives. I've grown alot in the years. I have learned to detach. Me and my children are...

angel123 · angel123

If I had life to do over again....I WOULD have talked less and listened more.....I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded....I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fi...

Kim · Kim

I have decided at least for now that the party's over. This week has been busy....my boss took all the supervisors out for dinner on Wed and it was a good time...Thursday my new tenants signed their lease (YEAH!!!!!!!) and at least now I know that rent will be coming in...today I even had some car trouble...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well here i am and its 1am. my friend just left and now im alone. the only way i got through tonight was by lying to myself. i called my a and told him i wanted to talk to him when my friend left and would call him later. i wanted him to come home tonight. i knew that wouldnt happened but made myself believe he wou...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Dear Friends, Thank you all for your concern over my recent "female health probs". I had my ultrasound done today and found out I have several fibroids and a cyst on both ovaries. Still have to get my bloodwork done. At least I now have some explanation of why I have this constant b...

Picowitch · Picowitch

'TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE XMAS (politically correct version) Twas the night before Christmas and Santa's a wreck How to live in a world that's politically correct ? His workers no longer would answer to Elves, Vertically challenged they were calling themselves. And labor conditions at the North...

Powerless · Powerless

My husband got paid today, but it wasn't enough to cover the basic expenses. I did not even have enough money to buy laundry detergent and toilet paper. I am so down, depressed and worried. husband's boss said they won't be working until after the new year so he won't even have anoth...

velvetpaw · velvetpaw

I went to my first al anon meeting recently. I have some very mixed feelings on whether or not I belong. I didn't grow up wiht an active drinker. I'm dating someone who is in Recovery (4 years), but wasn't involved with him while he was using. However, both my parents are children of alcoholics. My fa...

jaja · jaja

...that is, the my ' Are ultimatums wrong?' But I love you all for the response! I'm not really giving him an ultimatum - he just thinks or wants to believe that's what it is. When he's here at the house quietly watching TV, I look over at him and think 'how in the world does someone who looks so...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I have not had a chance to post in a few days. As some of you know my "a" and I are back in therapy. One of my questions about doing this counseling was what do I do if he is still using and we are trying to learn these new skills. He has refused to refrain from drinking or smok...

missylost · missylost

Hi all, pardon me while I vent, but I do welcome any and all feedback. As most of you are aware, my A and I are evacuee's from Katrina recently relocated to Virginia. Well he had to go "home" for a week and that's fine, it's giving me time to think and re-evaluate and spend time with my HP. However, he h...

Cyn · Cyn

I've been feeling so good lately and today I just dont feel so happy. I started thinking heavily about my ex. I have been questioning everything - especially why he hasnt come apologizing to me about ruining what we had with his drug use. I am starting to doubt that he really was happ...

angel123 · angel123

TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME It's true that sometimes life is full of trying circumstances, And sometimes we must struggle For just minimal advances. Despite events that slow us down And magnify our worries, We must learn that progress is A word that seldom hurries. To try to grasp the total pict...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi All, Got this in an email, thought I'd share it. Be Thankful Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult...

Cyn · Cyn

I am on my 3rd night not taking Ambien after taking it for over a week (I hate being dependant on any kind of drug so I dont want to be taking sleeping pills for longer than necessary). I fell asleep on my own at around 11:30 - woke up at 12:30 to go to the bathroom (WAY too much cranberry juice tod...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im gonna keep posting for every new feeling or everytime i cry cause when im done typing i feeel relieved. im eating a pizza pop its so gross but i have to eat something. my a called and he is taking me to pick up my gerbils remains as she got cremated today (i know sounds sick) but i have to get the ashes. i dont...

Rinny · Rinny

I found this site a few days ago and thought it would be good to become a member. My name is Erin, I am 28. I have been married to an alcoholic for nearly 7 years. We have 2 children, boys aged 5 and 2. In between our boys we had a little girl who was stillborn at full t...

confused · confused

I guess it certainly was a duck. LOL My A is in a hospital, having threatened suicide and trying to break out of the psych unit he was taken to under protective custody. Me, well, I am here, trying to figure it all out and i cannot even figure out what to make for dinner, let alone the rest of the mess I call my l...

Picowitch · Picowitch

A Christmas Story 'Twas the night before Christmas--Old Santa was p..sed. He cussed out the elves and threw down his list. Miserable little brats, ungrateful little jerks. I have a good mind to scrap the whole works! I've busted my ass for damn near a year, Instead of "Thanks Santa"--what do I hear? Th...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a's mom never came here to talk to me but my a showed up while i was sleeping. he gave me his keys and apologized. i said whatever. he left. so im up now even though i havent slept well last night and im hungry with nothing in my house to eat. this makes me sad. my a is the cook around here i wreck everythin...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im mailing the xmas card from canada, how many stamps do i need to put on the envelope?

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a's one month sobriety went down the drain last night. i knew it would. im not suprised. but he didnt go to work didnt even call his boss and will probably lose his job. i told him to leave me alone and now he's talking about suicide. one of his friends killed himself about a month ago and since then wh...

captcodee · captcodee

I can't read anybodies posts.

jaja · jaja

I am at this moment ticked off about something and my brain is stuck somewhere. I have told my A (who still "stays" at a motel) that this relationship cannot work unless he first gets support through AA or whatever. Then maybe we can start talking about our marriage stuff. I've been...

tea2 · tea2

“Letting Go” My sponsor informed me I need to focus more on letting go. I recently have been running in circles -where my focus should be. While here I was thinking I had a relapse in my recovery, due to some “stinking thinking” It’s back to the first topic that brought me to al-anon that I need...

Christy · Christy

God's Boxes I have in my hands two boxes, Which God gave me to hold. He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box, And all your joys in the gold." I heeded His words, and in the two boxes, both my joys and sorrows I stored.. But though the gold became heavier each day, The black w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

OK, if i don't get responses on my shorter shares, i totally understand if you don't want to give esh on this one....this is just MY feelings sharing in the hope that "giving this away" helps someone Hope for Today - December 16 I had a job in my alcoholic family,...

Barbara · Barbara

mine are to keep doing what Ive been doing since mid Oct when I realized I needed help: 1) AlAnon meeting on Sat morn (thanks Megan for keeping me at it). They will be starting the steps and I'm planning on doing them w/them. 2) Keep attending weekly Mass 3) Keep doing at least 30mins of physical exe...

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	thanks for alanon and thanks for my alanon friends (Preview) Well, as I mentioned in chat. Had a visit w/ my therapist Friday. He specializes in addictions and I picked him to help me cope with the A and all that goes with her. Things of interest. He said many times when he has patients that are showing codependent behaviors, he hands them a c...	bobump	11	505	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	New and confused (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...	Hanna	8	483	Dec 19, 2005 by Flora123
	Feelings of extreme guilt (Preview) I don't know how to say what i want to say. I know this is the most serious post I have ever posted and it may anger some people. It is about my children. My eight year old daughter does not want to return home. She is with her father after he refused to return her to me when I returned to m...	Powerless	7	567	Dec 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	perspective (Preview) My husband and I are living with my father-in-law, renting the bottom half of his house while we save up to buy something of our own. When I tell people about this, most people respond with shock and pity. People tell me to buck up, one day I'll have a place of my own.... Well, I guess in an ideal world...	pixel04	4	430	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	DO'S & DONT'S (Preview) DO'S-------------------- Forgive Be honest with yourself Be humble Take it easy-----tension is harmful Play------find recreation and hobbies Keep on trying whenever you fail Learn the facts about alcoholism Attend Alanon meetings often Pray DONT'S-------- ...	gardengal	5	542	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	life is a rollercoaster (Preview) why is it that when your little the world seems like one big great adventure. when you hit your teenage years you begin to imagine sharing your life with that "special someone". i thought i found mine. why does life throw you these awful situations that sometimes seem sooo surreal that...	Rebecca	6	605	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Hard Week But Light at The End of The Tunnel (Preview) Dear Roomies, This week has been tough. My seven-year relationship ended this week. The original break-up was a few months ago, but we'd been talking and I had had hope that we could work it out. The finality of the break has left me a little stunned, saddened, and I feel a great loss. I've been grievin...	BlueCloud	5	436	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Silent Night,All is calm (Preview) Dear Family, The hard days are over for now and all is peaceful and calm. My son was out in the cold all week. no where to bath,shave,brush his teeth or sleep other than my car. I provided him with food but made it very clear to him that he needed to follow through with his commitment of a re...	bluecrow	7	551	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	am i lying to myself (Preview) i am wondering in i am lying to myself. With all the emotions i am feeling anger is not one of them. am i suppressing it. i don't know. i feel sad, confused, scared the list goes on, but not angry. not for the lies, the deception, the loneliness and this list goes on also. but yet not angry. this is not to say th...	confused	4	412	Dec 19, 2005 by dogscribe
	What Is Up With Java? (Preview) I have tried, repeatedly, to get into chat room - sure I have not annoyed anyone (even edna, lol) that much, so, what is the prob? Sigh, think prob is with Java, maybe having a personality crisis! Keeps telling me - connecting - then comes the confusion, rejected, trying to connect - never says failure....	Flora123	5	401	Dec 19, 2005 by nycbt
	Convention (Preview) Hello fellow Al-Anon-ers Thought I would pass this along, the details I have now are a bit sketchy. I just heard this and will update more as I find out at this weeks face to face meeting asap, the one who spoke of it has the brochure and I don't have her number. It's a yearly (Eastern) event a...	tea2	4	383	Dec 19, 2005 by Maria123
	Perspective (Preview) > > One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son > on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of > showing his son how poor people live. They spent a > couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be > considered a very poor family. On their return from > their trip, the...	angel123	3	358	Dec 19, 2005 by tea2
	Ironic (Preview) Hi All, I'm finding this Holiday season with my A very ironic. Not even sure that's the right word. In the past the months and weeks leading up to the holidays my A was active in his cocaine addiction. This year was different. Actually it was the longest he'd ever gone witho...	KathyS	3	380	Dec 19, 2005 by tea2
	cdb is back! Update and Holiday wishes :) (Preview) Hello supportive friends who make my life better :) I am back again from time at my parent's house :) My mom is progressing (worsening) in her alzheimers but I was able to talk to her neurologist's nurse with mom's permission. She won't let my dad discuss her medications with her for s...	cdb	18	553	Dec 19, 2005 by cdb
	Amends (Preview) Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking: I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man. Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called w...	angel123	3	413	Dec 18, 2005 by tea2
	Still here and counting my blessings (Preview) I am still here and have been doing a lot of thinking. I had to take my daughter to the hospital today and did not get a chance to return it today so I thought I'd make use of it. My daughter went to the doctor Wednesday and had an ear infection. She received antibiotics and we thought she...	Powerless	5	501	Dec 18, 2005 by whitie
	his pain overwhelms me (Preview) Well, I went to go see my A at the hospital today. The kids did not want to come and I respect that. They have their reasons. If I am confused I cannot imagine how a 9 and 12 year old are feeling. I did not tell him that I was coming and hadn't spoken to him today so he was surprised. He was lying in a dark room all by...	confused	2	366	Dec 18, 2005 by Flora123
	New and confused (Preview) Hello everyone, I'm writing here and I'm scared but I'm not really sure why. Maybe it's because I'm afraid that what is going on in my crazy world doesn't belong here. I've been going to site after site trying to find out if I should belong to Al-anon and I'm starting to think I am. But I don't know. Thi...	Hanna	2	475	Dec 18, 2005 by notsonew1111
	3 Cs (Preview) I'm so happy for knowing the 3 Cs today. I didn't cause it, I can't cure it, and I can't control it. My mom called me this afternoon, wanting to chat about my upcoming visit. She didn't want to talk about this too close to my arrival because "she knows how I can be when I am confronted." She goes on to sa...	pixel04	2	468	Dec 18, 2005 by Jill
	someone pls give me back the Christmas spirit - bad Christmas w/A husband and family (Preview) Oh man Im struggling not to cry right now! Just came from Christmas lunch where my A husband, teenage son and I met my mother and older brother. We were doing fine w/appetizer, soda, main meal but then the bill came. Husband insisted on paying the bill even though I had already bought a gift card fo...	Barbara	1	394	Dec 18, 2005 by just me
	Butterfly Power! (Preview) Hi All! Yesterday I had an experience that I believe had more than a little HP message in it! After a not so pleasant visit from my drunk A husband yesterday morning, I was sitting out on my back veranda having a coffee, replaying his visit in my mind and arguing with myself to "Ju...	Feather	2	506	Dec 18, 2005 by kitty
	another update on Bubbles123 (Preview) Hi (((((((roomies)))))) The first update was to let you all know about How I was doing with my hubby being laid off and this is what has happened since then: I just thought you all would like to know that My hubby and I have decided to start our own bussiness. So far Hp has blessed us with lots of doors...	bubbles1990	4	414	Dec 18, 2005 by Maria123
	The Latest Development (Preview) She's pregnant again. She and her boyfriend told me yesterday. They're getting married. She hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months. She has two job prospects. He's fresh out of prison and struggling not to fall into his old life with his homies. ...	WakingUp	1	388	Dec 18, 2005 by Christy
	I am tired! (Preview) Hi, I am new!!! I am so tired the last 3-4 years dealing with my youngest daughters Heroin addiction. She has been clean for almost a year and I can see her coming back to some extent to the child I had before drugs but honestly I still worry! I am so bone dead tired sometimes it scares me! I am trying to make...	katiescarlett	4	574	Dec 18, 2005 by Diva
	more to add (Preview) i was just thinking a bit and reading replies and i came to the thought that i think im scared because as ive said before im seeing life more clearly now and how things really are and am practicing in baby steps letgo/let god. i think im scared to do this. im scared of the changes im making. im scared im reali...	notsonew1111	1	410	Dec 18, 2005 by BlueCloud
	About Anger... Presentation (Preview) After viewing the presentation linked to below, there is a link on it that will bring you right back to this message board. I hope you view it and obtain from it the strong message it revealed to me. http://www.12stepforums.net/misc/anger.html	John	7	595	Dec 18, 2005 by Diva
	Getting better (Preview) I had a great nights sleep last night - and only remember ONE dream which was an amazing dream... I dreamt that I was walking down the road heading to someplace far and a limo drove by. I stared at it trying to figure out if there was a wedding party in it or someone famous or just people. The l...	Cyn	0	312	Dec 18, 2005 by Cyn
	Lost it again (Preview) I'm losing it a lot lately. The stress is getting to me. I'm just tired of worrying about everything. I was upset about my Mom last night, and then my husband called and he was giving me a hard time. My Alanon tools did come in handy, but I still got angry. Who knows maybe I told him some things I needed to ge...	Jeannie	7	906	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	Bad night (Preview) It is now 7:40 and I am awake AGAIN. This time another dream about him - we decided to try to get together and talk at a bar in my town - my car broke down on the way but I got there. I was so happy to see him and scared at the same time. Deep down I knew he was still using. We really didnt t...	Cyn	6	369	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	update (Preview) well this morning a came home. we had a bit of a talk. he wants sobriety i told him he knows where to look etc. it has to be something worked on everyday. then went to his grandparents and i had my first meal in like a week. still didnt feel too hungry though. and still have my headache. day five. then we went to...	notsonew1111	1	369	Dec 18, 2005 by cdb
	back (Preview) well i just got back from the pet memorial place and picked up my gerbils ashes i know that sounds stupid but i feel a whole lot better not worrying about what i did with her body. my a and his mom took me. the whole time i just wanted to cry. so as soon as i got home i let a huge cry out, this kills. my best friend sh...	notsonew1111	2	406	Dec 18, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Serenity Alphabet (Preview) Serenity Alphabet "A" ... Awareness, Admittence, Acceptance, Action "B".... belief in a power greater than my own "C" calmness and contentment... begin to arrive "D" deelopments occur.... distractions are less important "E" .... enjoyment "F" faith replaces... fear "G" .... God brings growth...	angel123	4	373	Dec 18, 2005 by Powerless
	New here (Preview) Hello. I am looking for support through my trying times with my ah. I have small children and he's out of our house right now. Just wondering if there are any others in my posistion here. Raising children with A's in their lives. I've grown alot in the years. I have learned to detach. Me and my children are...	Friendofyours	8	460	Dec 17, 2005 by Friendofyours
	if I had to do over (thoughts) (Preview) If I had life to do over again....I WOULD have talked less and listened more.....I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained and the sofa faded....I would have eaten the popcorn in the "good" living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fi...	angel123	6	429	Dec 17, 2005 by WakingUp
	so pity parties come to an end after all (Preview) I have decided at least for now that the party's over. This week has been busy....my boss took all the supervisors out for dinner on Wed and it was a good time...Thursday my new tenants signed their lease (YEAH!!!!!!!) and at least now I know that rent will be coming in...today I even had some car trouble...	Kim	4	380	Dec 17, 2005 by chrissy
	waiting (Preview) well here i am and its 1am. my friend just left and now im alone. the only way i got through tonight was by lying to myself. i called my a and told him i wanted to talk to him when my friend left and would call him later. i wanted him to come home tonight. i knew that wouldnt happened but made myself believe he wou...	notsonew1111	4	455	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	Update and a Thank You (Preview) Dear Friends, Thank you all for your concern over my recent "female health probs". I had my ultrasound done today and found out I have several fibroids and a cyst on both ovaries. Still have to get my bloodwork done. At least I now have some explanation of why I have this constant b...	kismetstrand	9	556	Dec 17, 2005 by Flora123
	Night Before Xmas (Preview) 'TWAS THE NIGHT BEFORE XMAS (politically correct version) Twas the night before Christmas and Santa's a wreck How to live in a world that's politically correct ? His workers no longer would answer to Elves, Vertically challenged they were calling themselves. And labor conditions at the North...	Picowitch	2	376	Dec 17, 2005 by Flora123
	Won't be posting for a few weeks (Preview) My husband got paid today, but it wasn't enough to cover the basic expenses. I did not even have enough money to buy laundry detergent and toilet paper. I am so down, depressed and worried. husband's boss said they won't be working until after the new year so he won't even have anoth...	Powerless	8	438	Dec 17, 2005 by Flora123
	Do I belong? (Preview) I went to my first al anon meeting recently. I have some very mixed feelings on whether or not I belong. I didn't grow up wiht an active drinker. I'm dating someone who is in Recovery (4 years), but wasn't involved with him while he was using. However, both my parents are children of alcoholics. My fa...	velvetpaw	9	1688	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	I think I kinda phrased it wrong.... (Preview) ...that is, the my ' Are ultimatums wrong?' But I love you all for the response! I'm not really giving him an ultimatum - he just thinks or wants to believe that's what it is. When he's here at the house quietly watching TV, I look over at him and think 'how in the world does someone who looks so...	jaja	3	420	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	What do i do with this? (Preview) Hello Group, I have not had a chance to post in a few days. As some of you know my "a" and I are back in therapy. One of my questions about doing this counseling was what do I do if he is still using and we are trying to learn these new skills. He has refused to refrain from drinking or smok...	twinmom2	4	431	Dec 17, 2005 by sonya
	It's My Time (Preview) Hi all, pardon me while I vent, but I do welcome any and all feedback. As most of you are aware, my A and I are evacuee's from Katrina recently relocated to Virginia. Well he had to go "home" for a week and that's fine, it's giving me time to think and re-evaluate and spend time with my HP. However, he h...	missylost	8	661	Dec 17, 2005 by sonya
	Every up must have a down (Preview) I've been feeling so good lately and today I just dont feel so happy. I started thinking heavily about my ex. I have been questioning everything - especially why he hasnt come apologizing to me about ruining what we had with his drug use. I am starting to doubt that he really was happ...	Cyn	4	589	Dec 17, 2005 by nmike
	Take it one step at a time (Preview) TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME It's true that sometimes life is full of trying circumstances, And sometimes we must struggle For just minimal advances. Despite events that slow us down And magnify our worries, We must learn that progress is A word that seldom hurries. To try to grasp the total pict...	angel123	1	618	Dec 17, 2005 by Maria123
	Be Thankfull (Preview) Hi All, Got this in an email, thought I'd share it. Be Thankful Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult...	jonibaloni21	1	402	Dec 17, 2005 by toto12
	Bad dreams (Preview) I am on my 3rd night not taking Ambien after taking it for over a week (I hate being dependant on any kind of drug so I dont want to be taking sleeping pills for longer than necessary). I fell asleep on my own at around 11:30 - woke up at 12:30 to go to the bathroom (WAY too much cranberry juice tod...	Cyn	2	504	Dec 17, 2005 by megan
	gonna keep posting (Preview) im gonna keep posting for every new feeling or everytime i cry cause when im done typing i feeel relieved. im eating a pizza pop its so gross but i have to eat something. my a called and he is taking me to pick up my gerbils remains as she got cremated today (i know sounds sick) but i have to get the ashes. i dont...	notsonew1111	4	530	Dec 17, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Just Joined (Preview) I found this site a few days ago and thought it would be good to become a member. My name is Erin, I am 28. I have been married to an alcoholic for nearly 7 years. We have 2 children, boys aged 5 and 2. In between our boys we had a little girl who was stillborn at full t...	Rinny	5	500	Dec 17, 2005 by Rinny
	sooooo sad!!!! (Preview) I guess it certainly was a duck. LOL My A is in a hospital, having threatened suicide and trying to break out of the psych unit he was taken to under protective custody. Me, well, I am here, trying to figure it all out and i cannot even figure out what to make for dinner, let alone the rest of the mess I call my l...	confused	5	378	Dec 17, 2005 by Rinny
	Santa's Not coming! (Preview) A Christmas Story 'Twas the night before Christmas--Old Santa was p..sed. He cussed out the elves and threw down his list. Miserable little brats, ungrateful little jerks. I have a good mind to scrap the whole works! I've busted my ass for damn near a year, Instead of "Thanks Santa"--what do I hear? Th...	Picowitch	8	460	Dec 16, 2005 by Picowitch
	im sad (Preview) well my a's mom never came here to talk to me but my a showed up while i was sleeping. he gave me his keys and apologized. i said whatever. he left. so im up now even though i havent slept well last night and im hungry with nothing in my house to eat. this makes me sad. my a is the cook around here i wreck everythin...	notsonew1111	4	409	Dec 16, 2005 by jaja
	re: christmas request from john (Preview) im mailing the xmas card from canada, how many stamps do i need to put on the envelope?	notsonew1111	1	442	Dec 16, 2005 by shimo
	the latest (Preview) well my a's one month sobriety went down the drain last night. i knew it would. im not suprised. but he didnt go to work didnt even call his boss and will probably lose his job. i told him to leave me alone and now he's talking about suicide. one of his friends killed himself about a month ago and since then wh...	notsonew1111	1	371	Dec 16, 2005 by megan
	I can't see posts Dec 16 (Preview) I can't read anybodies posts.	captcodee	2	408	Dec 16, 2005 by captcodee
	Are ultimatums(sic?) wrong? (Preview) I am at this moment ticked off about something and my brain is stuck somewhere. I have told my A (who still "stays" at a motel) that this relationship cannot work unless he first gets support through AA or whatever. Then maybe we can start talking about our marriage stuff. I've been...	jaja	9	1095	Dec 16, 2005 by DaddysLilGirl
	Letting Go- Curious (Preview) “Letting Go” My sponsor informed me I need to focus more on letting go. I recently have been running in circles -where my focus should be. While here I was thinking I had a relapse in my recovery, due to some “stinking thinking” It’s back to the first topic that brought me to al-anon that I need...	tea2	10	626	Dec 16, 2005 by Maria123
	God Box (Preview) God's Boxes I have in my hands two boxes, Which God gave me to hold. He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box, And all your joys in the gold." I heeded His words, and in the two boxes, both my joys and sorrows I stored.. But though the gold became heavier each day, The black w...	Christy	6	656	Dec 16, 2005 by jrtjosey
	recovery has been hell but it is worth it (Preview) OK, if i don't get responses on my shorter shares, i totally understand if you don't want to give esh on this one....this is just MY feelings sharing in the hope that "giving this away" helps someone Hope for Today - December 16 I had a job in my alcoholic family,...	rosie light shines	2	596	Dec 16, 2005 by notsonew1111
	New Years Resolutions - whats yours? (Preview) mine are to keep doing what Ive been doing since mid Oct when I realized I needed help: 1) AlAnon meeting on Sat morn (thanks Megan for keeping me at it). They will be starting the steps and I'm planning on doing them w/them. 2) Keep attending weekly Mass 3) Keep doing at least 30mins of physical exe...	Barbara	8	707	Dec 16, 2005 by Flora123
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