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Yesterday I lost my Uncle Kelly, the man who took the place of my A father after he left when I was 7 yrs old. He was 92 yrs old, had everything under the sun wrong with his poor ol body and was very ready to meet his God. But, did you ever notice , that God always takes the most giving wonderful people to be with Him? His own only child didn't appreciate his Father, but Uncle Kelly was so wonderful to me growing up. He'd come over with my aunt and talk to me about childish things when I was a child. OOOh and AAAh over my schoolwork and drawings and lift me up onto the refridgerator and walk off and leave me up there!!! The first time he did that scared me to death , then I thought it was fun! He'd take us out to eat at a cafeteria or another restaurant, something my single mom couldn't afford to do hardly ever, and what a thrill that was to go with him! He'd laugh at my silly jokes and eat lunch on Sundays with us and say the blessing and talk to me about "important" stuff like helping my mother and doing my schoolwork well and boys and such.
Then when I became a single parent , it was my aunt and uncle who'd send me a card with $50.00 in it at just the right time, when I wondered what I was gonna do about some problem.
And they let me know they were always praying for me too. He'd send me books in the mail on different subjects thoughout my life to 'help' me , guide me , keep me going.
And he cried and hugged us very tight the last time we got to go over to see him cause 'you never know when it might be the last time I'll see you, and never failed to tell me he loved me'.
I wish every alanoner and nonalanoner alike could have an Uncle Kelly in their life. Maybe now that he's gone , his son will realize what a fine father he truly had. I know I did.
I sure do love you Uncle Kelly and I'll never forget you.
Joni, what a beautiful tribute to your Uncle Kelly. He was the window that opened when your father shut the door; the silver lining to your father's dark cloud. You were blessed and the beautiful thing is that you and he knew how you felt about each other!
This is a difficult time of year to lose a loved one (not that there is a good time, mind you)--it is supposed to be a time of joy, a time for making memories with family and friends to share at future get togethers. This year maybe you can take some time to remember the good times with your Uncle and make sure that your family shares the good times they remember with him, too.
I'm so sorry for your loss but so glad you had your Uncle Kelly for it is obvious that he taught you what love is all about.
Oh my ((((Joni))))). Hope your uncle, Robert, and your other close friend are smiling as they tell stories of you RIGHT now. Losses is a row can be a blessing and a curse all at the same time (know what I mean) I know you are strong, have a stronger faith, and can make it thru this ok. I'm praying for you in your loss and Thanking HP that you had your uncle in your life since at all the right times.
How wonderful that you had your Uncle Kelly in your life :) My Grandmother was my Uncle Kelly and gave me unconditional love. I feel so lucky to have had her in my life, especially when life wans't so grand. She's been gone 13 yrs now and I was by her said when she left this world. I swear, I could feel the angels in the room when she took her last breath. It was a gift I can't describe and will never forget. I knew and felt then, as I hope you do also..that all the wonderful things she did for me and others was greatly rewarded with happiness, peace and everlasting joy. How lucky we are joni, to have crossed their life paths.
Love ya Christy (Cjo)
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Sorry to hear about your lost. I am very close to my aunt and uncles so I know the pain you must be feeling. It is going to be really hard for me if any of my family goes because we are really close.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
(((joni))) thanks for sharing your memories of your Uncle Kelly. It sounds like he was a very special person in your life - can hear it in your words. So happy you could have someone like that in your life. I have people like that in my life, too...thanks for the reminder to always tell them I love them. (((joni)))
(((hugs)))) sorry for your loss. it sounds like your uncle lived a wonderful long life. he is where he needs to be now with the lord. your very lucky to have had someone so wonderful in your life.
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stay in the now...dont look forward, dont look back....your life is what you make of it
that God always takes the most giving wonderful people to be with Him?
there are two kinds of laws natural (god does not interfer) and spiritual (we CAN change in this with our relationship/alignment with our HP)...what i am saying is death and sickness comes to all at one time or another ....it is part of the "natural" law......"i shall shine the sun on the just and the unjust" or words to that effect.......death/sickness.......ebbs/flows.........gains/losses all are part of the "natural law" and it happends to EVERYONE!!!!! the only thing we can do is "swim with the tide, not against it" , and ask HP to comfort/guide us along
spiritual law is yet another thing.....obey it ( give love/ honesty/ do what is right??be in alignment with our HP) and reap the rewards.........DISobey it ( give hate/pain/ hurt others for personal gain, live on self will etc) , and suffer loss and sadness........
"uncle kelly" sounds to me was very intune with the spiritual laws of love/ giving/ openess/ caring/ and being good to "little ones".......he is enjoying the rewards of his actions....
what goes around DOES come around.....he lives in your heart....in your memories.....becuz he left behind love/smiles/laughter/joy....he reaps this in heaven........everytime you think/speak of him, he is ALIVE!!!!!!
thank you for this nice share..........it was touching...R
So sorry for your loss. Thank you for reminding me to be grateful for the Uncle Kelly's in my life (I have a couple). I will be glad for the individual gifts they bring in my life. God bless you & comfort you in your time of grieving.
Thanks so much for responding to this post, it means a lot to know that I have friends here who I can share these things with and thanks for sharing your memories of loved ones with me!
