Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nmike · nmike

Hi all, This time last year I was such a mess and so discouraged. This year it has been the best holiday. No expectations and very low keyed. My two boys came home from college. I just told them that I didn't have much planned or purchased. They said fine. Since their dad moved to another state, I l...

kitty · kitty

I just had a thought ~ after this "cyber fight" I have been in with my mother this week - she had the nerve to tell me, when I just had majorly distrubing news - that she "hasn't been happy with my behaviour for quite some time" ~ well I hit the roof!!! For this passed month I have been her buffer with the "A" ~...

leo · leo

Hi just want to make sure you and your menagerie at Eden are okay and hope you have a great 2006. Luv Leo xx

Maria123 · Maria123

As the new year approaches, I no longer live in ignorant bliss that this day symbolizes great things will happen nor do I live in dread that this day will be a continuation of the drudgery of the past. I walk along side each of you who have touched my lives innumerably and for which I am so grat...

lilleah · lilleah

I have decided I want out of my relationship with my A. I have been thinking about it and going back and forth on it for quite some time now, but tonight my decision was clear. He said he was going out after work, and I asked him if he could wait until tomorrow, he said point blank "no" I was shocked. I do...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! Just want to share with you what I received in my e-mail from Hazelden this morning. Some good reminders to take even the New Year one day at a time! Best to all, ~seachange Today's thought is: Reflection for the Day In the old days, I saw everything in terms of for...

lilleah · lilleah

I don't get why my A says he is going out, and when I ask him not to, goes anyway, THEN calls me and wakes me up to tell me he is going to another bar. Why bother to call? He didn't care that I didn't want him to go in the first place, so why wake me to tell me where he is going? He says "I am just trying to be a nice guy"....

Diane43 · Diane43

Good morning everyone and Happy New Year! Hope you all had a wonderful New Year's Eve.

I spent the evening watching videos with my son and his g/f ..it was a quiet night, but a nice one..I was in bed around 11:30 and a great sleep...My A called me on Friday and we had a great visit for 4 hours. H...

GSDGIRL36 · GSDGIRL36

Hi everyone, my name is Kelly. I'm married to an addict (everything from compulsive gambling, most recently, to binge drinker, to compulsive EVERYTHING he does). Hitting the bottom of the barrel recently (me too) and he's agreed to go to another in-patient (last one 10 years ago, before we met). We h...

kitty · kitty

For anyone that it was in the chat room last night, I apologize, especially to you iabob. I have been hurt & upset all week, I went off like a roman candle but there is no excuse for my behaviour, I have no right to take it out on anyone. I is hard being abused & hurt, we become like dogs sometimes...

liza · liza

I wish to extend a blessed, peaceful, renewing New Year, to all my wonderful new friends I have made since finding this website, I am so happy to be here, not as often as I wish I could be here, but it has helped me tremendously. I just know in my heart, that 2006 is going to be a New Year, from all the life lesso...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Another way to get into chat is to go to www.mipchat.net (courtesy of another mip member - thank you!)

bluecrow · bluecrow

smile HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! BEST WISHES TO ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Thinking of you, Rosa

UncleLou · UncleLou

Just read Diva’s post and it prompted me to write something about my situation. Seems strange to be writing this, but congratulations Diva. You're in a unique situation, but if it works for you, great. I realize I have no right to judge other people and what’s good for them. I'm technically in the same s...

bluecrow · bluecrow

Dear God, Please, please, bring recovery to my son. See my tears, listen to my heart, I'm on knee's once again hear my cry (((((((((((I LOVE My SON)))))))))))) How long must I wait? Please listen to your servents prayers. I'm not asking for money, diamonds, or comforts for myself&n...

mollyann · mollyann

Is anyone familiar with the book "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody? I have been reading it, and there are parts that are true to my life. I definitely have been attracted to avoidance addicts. I have been in Al Anon for over six months, and am definitely becoming healthier. I am dating a...

maresie · maresie

I have not mentioned that I live next door to a drug dealer. On New Years Eve the family (which is a long layered collection of drug dealers, enablers, whatevers in generations...of them from small children to grand parents to sundry hangers on) usually have a huge party which is accompanied by firewo...

Sherry · Sherry

The last day of the year, here we are. Makes it easy to clean out our closets, huh? This is such a wonderful, safe place. I know that we all enter 2006 with common resolutions: health, peace, prosperity. I am i...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I've mentioned some of this in other posts, but I need (for ME) to do a detailed rundown of what is going on with me and my A daughter. To review: she's been living on my couch for 6 years. She went to three different schools and got neither certificates nor degrees. She is sick a...

confused · confused

I am trying really hard to put what I am learning into practice and I am faced with a situation. One thing I do know is that I am a fixer, I want to jump in and fix things for everyone. This has been true in my entire relationship with my A. When we were first married I pushed to fight for custody of my step daught...

Barbara · Barbara

Went to Curves and my weekly Sat morn meeting. Came home, got movies at Blockbuster and Chinese food for son and myself. Then off to an afternoon chick flick with a friend. Im now in for the night. A husband has 2 friends over drinking in the basement. They have chinese food, shrimp, stuffed mushrooms...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

wishing all of you a very happy new year if i dont see you later :)

NottaClu · NottaClu

My A didn't come home from work again. Out doing heaven knows what. I am sure he is at some person's house... freaking out right about now.. cause I am going to go psycho when he gets home... and the day will be wasted in fighting. I think I am going to try something different today... I don't think I am g...

kathykelly · kathykelly

In my last post I went over the most recent stuff about my daughter. Her long trip to Florida to try to live with her dad and when that didn't work, driving to Phoenix to live with her cousin (nice person.) Within a week, she was involved in an auto accident and in the hospital for 13 days.&nbs...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Over the last couple of months I have suspected that my husband has been actively drinking again. However, I do not look for the proof and I do not question him on it. The progression came to a crescendo last night. Early in the day I expressed some feelings I had to my husband - of whic...

gardengal · gardengal

I would dread "Just for today" and tell myself I only needed to make it through tath day. When I struggled I would call my sponsor. Thank goodness she was available. I called her many times. As I became stronger, I practiced other suggestions on the Just for Today card. I love that piece of liter...

athena12 · athena12

I can't put into words how much I miss my mother. She had great difficulty when I was a child being a mother because she was orphaned so young at 11. At that time she had to take on the role of mother to four younger brothers and sisters. She had 7 older brothers and sisters but all were out on the...

gardengal · gardengal

Thanks to all the moderators, and chair and co chair persons,,for making this wonderful , life saving, site available for all of us. ....Continued success for this site, as I have been to several and this one is the best!,,,,,Thanks so much for making this possible,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,...

bobump · bobump

For those that are having problems w/ the Java chat, there are a couple of options for you. Another Java option: http://mipchat.kows.org/ Or you try the mIRC client that is linked at the bottom of the chatroom page. http://www.mirc.com/ The server we are on is irc.webmaster.com,...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Early Wednesday morning my Father In Law passed away. He never regained consciouness since being taken to the hospital a week ago. This past week and especially these past few days I have run the gammit with emotions, starting with guilt. I have fought so much with this man over the years. He enables...

kitty · kitty

This entire year had been a long hard end to a 20 year cycle of depression, anxiety & suicidal ideations. I have done little with myself in 6 years, since I left my ex (addict, husband) ~ but the darkest of my emotional funk seems to have lifted. Maybe my trying to OD has had an effect on th...

toto12 · toto12

Hi. Can't get in again and time for the marathon. Others too? It's the 31st of December, Sat.,about 1:30 pm German time. Can you help? Will try again later. A frustrated toto again....sorry

Flora123 · Flora123

I suppose it serves me right, was feeling rather pleased with self - had no probs with Java - till tonight! When I had tried several times, to no avail, I decided to download mIRC - and, eventually, that is where I am at - I have downloaded and installed, now, I have no idea what to do with it! When I try to...

flumpy · flumpy

right i give up, my brain can't take this !, can i get in or not? twice today i have been in the room chatting and now i can't get in for love nore money (boo hoo). what on earth is going on? never had a problem before, and i know i'm not the only one..... BOO HOO HOO. I'M NOT A HAPPY BUNNY! :furi...

pixel04 · pixel04

You know that phrase in the closing that is read at f2f meetings, the part that says "sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly"? I found myself thinking about that during the last ten days visiting my family for the holidays. I had been dreading certain aspects of this visit, knowing how things usually...

debilyn · debilyn

Been offline for a bit now, I missed our home here more than anything. I needed you all so badly. The disease finally beat me up enough for me to not want to give it any thought anymore. My A is just that, an A. A full blown walking waste of a man. His disease threw me on the floor and I did not even see...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, I thank all of you who have offered me love, support, encouragement, hope, strength and giggles this past year. I couldn't have done this without you! As we leave this year behind, I hope we will be able to leave the past behind us too. This time last year my A had relapsed badly. I cam...

whitie · whitie

I went to my home ftf meeting tonight. and as usual I heard just what I needed to hear on many levels. The one thing that struck me the most was as one lady shared she said that she's never lonely anymore. But in her 30 year marriage she was always lonely! That is just what I had be thinking about today. I l...

Kim · Kim

My A has been in the detox for over a week. We have spoken everyday, it has gone quite well. He had decided that I was the only person that he wanted to talk to (as far as family was concerned) and that was OK with me. His bed date for the rehab is Jan 3rd. Yesterday i went into the city to spend some...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

When we are reduced to our last extreme, there is no further evasion. The choice is a terrible one. It is made in the heart of darkness ... when we who have been destroyed and seem to be in hell miraculously choose God! --Thomas Merton There are many ways we benefit from a life crisis. Perhaps none of u...

wille · wille

hello to all, feel free to substitute in if a man for if an a: Its from a classmate If a man was.. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save y...

confused · confused

The manipulations continue, but I am staying strong, at least on the outside. I went to the dr. yesterday, having chest pains and tightness. I had a viral infection about two months ago that caused me to get pericarditis. Well, I guess it is getting worse again, maybe stress, anxiety etc. Ya think? I ha...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I posted previously about being depressed about my A. He says he wants to be a big part of my life but I haven't heard from him since Monday. I think the depression comes partly from expectations. At first I thought that maybe my husband and I could be friends but I was only fool...

debilyn · debilyn

loved that. thank you for your wise support. All i give is from hp. talks thru our hearts uno? Well I tell ya it is what I WENT thru. Yep every day has been a bit better, pain is less in every way. Got one of those memory foam neck pillows and finally slept. Kept warm soggy things on my neck, no not...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

looking back over this past almost 2 years...i have made my peace with me and finally i can "file" my dead parents.....this next year???? will be focusing on me, of course, but PRACTICING what i have learned in this program.....if there is old anger, i shall discharge it and keep moving o...

debilyn · debilyn

You will wish I went away again.... I wanted to add something. IF I get the chance, I will be there for the A when he gets where he needs nursing care. IF it goes that way. I will help him with his dieing. If I get a call that he is gone I will take care of of it. No matter what he did not choose this, ne...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Okay this is something that is new to me, I have a few questions and I thought maybe someone might be able to enlighten me. Okay I understand that I am not supposed to worry about him, only me, and I am. I am doing whatever I can to take care of the kids and I. I am not obsessing about him, in fact today I w...

mish63 · mish63

Hello Folks, I am new to the forum. Not new to program. I have found Al-Anon to be the missing link to my spiritual quest and to my well being. I have lived with the disease as a wife for over 20 years. My husband has almost 5 years in recovery however we just separated a month ag...

nycbt · nycbt

Last Thursday I exchange presents with my best friend which was awsome got alot of nice gifts. Went to a candle meeting which was very good. It was my first candle meeting. Friday I didn't really didn't do much of anything. got a cd/dvd porble player so I was wathing something my friend gave me all day w...

bobump · bobump

Well I chaired my first f2f meeting ! One of our members had me off the topic hook for the first half of the meeting. :) They shared something which was great and took us to about the midway point. I had something ready which Cilla had shared in a previous post, called Leaving the City of Regret. ...

toto12 · toto12

Dear John/Oz It's doing it again. I know when I see the coffee cup, it's no go. Got the mysterious page "server messages" again. It's Friday, Dec 30 at ´2o:46, 8: 46 p.m. German time. Hope you get it fixed in time for marathon. grrrr anyway, all the best for new year toto...

confused · confused

Even my stupid computer is sick!!!!!!!! Cannot get into chatroom again so I guess that I will go turn on the tv and see if I can get some rest. I truly hope my first post is read I need some ESH>

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Java is not working. I was able to get on yesterday not and now I can't. It is now 1:35 pm aned I still can't get in. I have been trying since 10:00 am.

-- Edited by nycbt at 13:36, 2005-12-30

brenda44 · brenda44

I have been in chat room a few times. Tonight, I tried to join the room while a meeting was going on and could not. Is there something I need to do to enter chat room during a meeting?

jennesee · jennesee

I am hoping someone can help me figure this out, and perhaps help others in the process. I am new to this "codependent thinking" idea and am finding myself very confused over what is "good" to do and what is "codependent". Let me explain briefly. My Mother is very old and pretty ill. Her mind is goi...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Who Is Behind The Keyboard Do you remember sitting in a chat room, watching people chat, or even chatting yourself? Do you remember receiving so many forwards that your mailbox was ready to explode? How about receiving an e-mail from someone just searching for a friend. Did you wonde...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today im having a good day. i actually slept last night which was wonderful. went on a date with my a to the movies. really good since we havent been out in a while. so i actually got out of the house put on some makeup and dressed nice. it made me feel good. we saw a comedy that fun with dick and jane with jim car...

mollyann · mollyann

Several months ago, I read something (can't remember where) that suggested to keep track of personal life bank accounts. Just as we make deposits, withdrawals and balance our real bank accounts, keeping track of other areas of life can help to keep us in check. I started a running list that I keep op...

Michele · Michele

Hey everyone! Guess I'm looking to vent a little.... Thought I finally had figured things out. I decided I had enough and started planning to leave my husband..my A. I had reached the point where enough was enough after so many years of dealing with things. This past year has been especiall...

flumpy · flumpy

Hello all,

Only me again, Just wonderd if anyone here knew when the chatroom will be up and running again?

Bye for now, but hopefuly not for long! flumpy.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	The Gift of Alanon (Preview) Hi all, This time last year I was such a mess and so discouraged. This year it has been the best holiday. No expectations and very low keyed. My two boys came home from college. I just told them that I didn't have much planned or purchased. They said fine. Since their dad moved to another state, I l...	nmike	4	587	Jan 1, 2006 by pixel04
	Pearls Among Swine (Preview) I just had a thought ~ after this "cyber fight" I have been in with my mother this week - she had the nerve to tell me, when I just had majorly distrubing news - that she "hasn't been happy with my behaviour for quite some time" ~ well I hit the roof!!! For this passed month I have been her buffer with the "A" ~...	kitty	3	637	Jan 1, 2006 by bobump
	debilyn (Preview) Hi just want to make sure you and your menagerie at Eden are okay and hope you have a great 2006. Luv Leo xx	leo	1	465	Jan 1, 2006 by TLC2
	Thank You and Happy New Year (Preview) As the new year approaches, I no longer live in ignorant bliss that this day symbolizes great things will happen nor do I live in dread that this day will be a continuation of the drudgery of the past. I walk along side each of you who have touched my lives innumerably and for which I am so grat...	Maria123	8	557	Jan 1, 2006 by Lauren ashley
	Need some prayers (Preview) I have decided I want out of my relationship with my A. I have been thinking about it and going back and forth on it for quite some time now, but tonight my decision was clear. He said he was going out after work, and I asked him if he could wait until tomorrow, he said point blank "no" I was shocked. I do...	lilleah	12	594	Jan 1, 2006 by Diane43
	Happy New Day! (Preview) Hi Everyone! Just want to share with you what I received in my e-mail from Hazelden this morning. Some good reminders to take even the New Year one day at a time! Best to all, ~seachange Today's thought is: Reflection for the Day In the old days, I saw everything in terms of for...	seachange	1	583	Jan 1, 2006 by maresie
	I don't understand (Preview) I don't get why my A says he is going out, and when I ask him not to, goes anyway, THEN calls me and wakes me up to tell me he is going to another bar. Why bother to call? He didn't care that I didn't want him to go in the first place, so why wake me to tell me where he is going? He says "I am just trying to be a nice guy"....	lilleah	7	593	Jan 1, 2006 by maresie
	Happy New Year~2006 (Preview) Good morning everyone and Happy New Year! Hope you all had a wonderful New Year's Eve. I spent the evening watching videos with my son and his g/f ..it was a quiet night, but a nice one..I was in bed around 11:30 and a great sleep...My A called me on Friday and we had a great visit for 4 hours. H...	Diane43	1	474	Jan 1, 2006 by Maria123
	Newbie here! (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is Kelly. I'm married to an addict (everything from compulsive gambling, most recently, to binge drinker, to compulsive EVERYTHING he does). Hitting the bottom of the barrel recently (me too) and he's agreed to go to another in-patient (last one 10 years ago, before we met). We h...	GSDGIRL36	6	520	Jan 1, 2006 by maresie
	I apologize (Preview) For anyone that it was in the chat room last night, I apologize, especially to you iabob. I have been hurt & upset all week, I went off like a roman candle but there is no excuse for my behaviour, I have no right to take it out on anyone. I is hard being abused & hurt, we become like dogs sometimes...	kitty	4	598	Jan 1, 2006 by Christy
	Happy New Year! (Preview) I wish to extend a blessed, peaceful, renewing New Year, to all my wonderful new friends I have made since finding this website, I am so happy to be here, not as often as I wish I could be here, but it has helped me tremendously. I just know in my heart, that 2006 is going to be a New Year, from all the life lesso...	liza	3	479	Jan 1, 2006 by nycbt
	Trouble getting in chat? Try this... (Preview) Another way to get into chat is to go to www.mipchat.net (courtesy of another mip member - thank you!)	kismetstrand	3	587	Jan 1, 2006 by david62
	Happy New Year!!!!! (Preview) smile *HAPPY NEW YEAR !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!* *BEST WISHES TO ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!* *Thinking of you,* *Rosa*	bluecrow	2	571	Jan 1, 2006 by leo
	Living in Limbo, hopefully not for long (Preview) Just read Diva’s post and it prompted me to write something about my situation. Seems strange to be writing this, but congratulations Diva. You're in a unique situation, but if it works for you, great. I realize I have no right to judge other people and what’s good for them. I'm technically in the same s...	UncleLou	4	597	Jan 1, 2006 by ditto
	All I Want For Xmas (Preview) Dear God, Please, please, bring recovery to my son. See my tears, listen to my heart, I'm on knee's once again hear my cry (((((((((((I LOVE My SON)))))))))))) How long must I wait? Please listen to your servents prayers. I'm not asking for money, diamonds, or comforts for myself&n...	bluecrow	11	651	Jan 1, 2006 by Becky1
	love addiction (Preview) Is anyone familiar with the book "Facing Love Addiction" by Pia Mellody? I have been reading it, and there are parts that are true to my life. I definitely have been attracted to avoidance addicts. I have been in Al Anon for over six months, and am definitely becoming healthier. I am dating a...	mollyann	8	2189	Jan 1, 2006 by Becky1
	wanting to be selfish (Preview) I have not mentioned that I live next door to a drug dealer. On New Years Eve the family (which is a long layered collection of drug dealers, enablers, whatevers in generations...of them from small children to grand parents to sundry hangers on) usually have a huge party which is accompanied by firewo...	maresie	2	752	Jan 1, 2006 by maresie
	Cleaning out our closets (Preview) The last day of the year, here we are. Makes it easy to clean out our closets, huh? This is such a wonderful, safe place. I know that we all enter 2006 with common resolutions: health, peace, prosperity. I am i...	Sherry	1	577	Jan 1, 2006 by nmike
	I'm Not Doing So Good (Preview) I've mentioned some of this in other posts, but I need (for ME) to do a detailed rundown of what is going on with me and my A daughter. To review: she's been living on my couch for 6 years. She went to three different schools and got neither certificates nor degrees. She is sick a...	WakingUp	7	621	Dec 31, 2005 by WakingUp
	carrying the weight of the world (Preview) I am trying really hard to put what I am learning into practice and I am faced with a situation. One thing I do know is that I am a fixer, I want to jump in and fix things for everyone. This has been true in my entire relationship with my A. When we were first married I pushed to fight for custody of my step daught...	confused	4	628	Dec 31, 2005 by leo
	New Years Eve - so far Im doing ok (Preview) Went to Curves and my weekly Sat morn meeting. Came home, got movies at Blockbuster and Chinese food for son and myself. Then off to an afternoon chick flick with a friend. Im now in for the night. A husband has 2 friends over drinking in the basement. They have chinese food, shrimp, stuffed mushrooms...	Barbara	1	463	Dec 31, 2005 by megan
	happy new year (Preview) wishing all of you a very happy new year if i dont see you later :)	notsonew1111	1	439	Dec 31, 2005 by Feather
	I am trying...... (Preview) My A didn't come home from work again. Out doing heaven knows what. I am sure he is at some person's house... freaking out right about now.. cause I am going to go psycho when he gets home... and the day will be wasted in fighting. I think I am going to try something different today... I don't think I am g...	NottaClu	8	536	Dec 31, 2005 by NottaClu
	A Bed (Preview) In my last post I went over the most recent stuff about my daughter. Her long trip to Florida to try to live with her dad and when that didn't work, driving to Phoenix to live with her cousin (nice person.) Within a week, she was involved in an auto accident and in the hospital for 13 days.&nbs...	kathykelly	3	516	Dec 31, 2005 by WakingUp
	Progression is Scary-long (Preview) Over the last couple of months I have suspected that my husband has been actively drinking again. However, I do not look for the proof and I do not question him on it. The progression came to a crescendo last night. Early in the day I expressed some feelings I had to my husband - of whic...	AlaMom	5	534	Dec 31, 2005 by megan
	JUST FOR TODAY, EVEN FOR 5 MINUTES (Preview) I would dread "Just for today" and tell myself I only needed to make it through tath day. When I struggled I would call my sponsor. Thank goodness she was available. I called her many times. As I became stronger, I practiced other suggestions on the Just for Today card. I love that piece of liter...	gardengal	2	591	Dec 31, 2005 by WakingUp
	I miss my mother (Preview) I can't put into words how much I miss my mother. She had great difficulty when I was a child being a mother because she was orphaned so young at 11. At that time she had to take on the role of mother to four younger brothers and sisters. She had 7 older brothers and sisters but all were out on the...	athena12	9	645	Dec 31, 2005 by athena12
	Thanks for chairing (Preview) Thanks to all the moderators, and chair and co chair persons,,for making this wonderful , life saving, site available for all of us. ....Continued success for this site, as I have been to several and this one is the best!,,,,,Thanks so much for making this possible,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,...	gardengal	0	527	Dec 31, 2005 by gardengal
	for those having problems w/ chat, you might consider..... (Preview) For those that are having problems w/ the Java chat, there are a couple of options for you. Another Java option: http://mipchat.kows.org/ Or you try the mIRC client that is linked at the bottom of the chatroom page. http://www.mirc.com/ The server we are on is irc.webmaster.com,...	bobump	4	581	Dec 31, 2005 by Flora123
	He passed on (Preview) Early Wednesday morning my Father In Law passed away. He never regained consciouness since being taken to the hospital a week ago. This past week and especially these past few days I have run the gammit with emotions, starting with guilt. I have fought so much with this man over the years. He enables...	Jeannie	12	780	Dec 31, 2005 by TLC2
	~ New Year ~ Big Changes (Preview) This entire year had been a long hard end to a 20 year cycle of depression, anxiety & suicidal ideations. I have done little with myself in 6 years, since I left my ex (addict, husband) ~ but the darkest of my emotional funk seems to have lifted. Maybe my trying to OD has had an effect on th...	kitty	1	615	Dec 31, 2005 by bobump
	oh no john, server messages again! (Preview) Hi. Can't get in again and time for the marathon. Others too? It's the 31st of December, Sat.,about 1:30 pm German time. Can you help? Will try again later. A frustrated toto again....sorry	toto12	2	506	Dec 31, 2005 by chris52
	I Have Joined the Cant Get In Club (Preview) I suppose it serves me right, was feeling rather pleased with self - had no probs with Java - till tonight! When I had tried several times, to no avail, I decided to download mIRC - and, eventually, that is where I am at - I have downloaded and installed, now, I have no idea what to do with it! When I try to...	Flora123	2	517	Dec 31, 2005 by chris52
	i may blow!!! (Preview) right i give up, my brain can't take this !, can i get in or not? twice today i have been in the room chatting and now i can't get in for love nore money (boo hoo). what on earth is going on? never had a problem before, and i know i'm not the only one..... BOO HOO HOO. I'M NOT A HAPPY BUNNY! :furi...	flumpy	3	605	Dec 31, 2005 by chris52
	sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly (Preview) You know that phrase in the closing that is read at f2f meetings, the part that says "sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly"? I found myself thinking about that during the last ten days visiting my family for the holidays. I had been dreading certain aspects of this visit, knowing how things usually...	pixel04	2	481	Dec 31, 2005 by Maria123
	my journey (Preview) Been offline for a bit now, I missed our home here more than anything. I needed you all so badly. The disease finally beat me up enough for me to not want to give it any thought anymore. My A is just that, an A. A full blown walking waste of a man. His disease threw me on the floor and I did not even see...	debilyn	15	691	Dec 31, 2005 by jo4
	A New Year's Wish (Preview) Hi roomies, I thank all of you who have offered me love, support, encouragement, hope, strength and giggles this past year. I couldn't have done this without you! As we leave this year behind, I hope we will be able to leave the past behind us too. This time last year my A had relapsed badly. I cam...	Karilynn	2	545	Dec 31, 2005 by megan
	Lonely no more (Preview) I went to my home ftf meeting tonight. and as usual I heard just what I needed to hear on many levels. The one thing that struck me the most was as one lady shared she said that she's never lonely anymore. But in her 30 year marriage she was always lonely! That is just what I had be thinking about today. I l...	whitie	4	575	Dec 31, 2005 by megan
	need some help (Preview) My A has been in the detox for over a week. We have spoken everyday, it has gone quite well. He had decided that I was the only person that he wanted to talk to (as far as family was concerned) and that was OK with me. His bed date for the rehab is Jan 3rd. Yesterday i went into the city to spend some...	Kim	3	571	Dec 31, 2005 by Karilynn
	from the brink--- i find life (Preview) When we are reduced to our last extreme, there is no further evasion. The choice is a terrible one. It is made in the heart of darkness ... when we who have been destroyed and seem to be in hell miraculously choose God! --Thomas Merton There are many ways we benefit from a life crisis. Perhaps none of u...	rosie light shines	2	548	Dec 31, 2005 by rosie light shines
	A happy next years (Preview) hello to all, feel free to substitute in if a man for if an a: Its from a classmate If a man was.. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save y...	wille	0	447	Dec 31, 2005 by wille
	today's latest (Preview) The manipulations continue, but I am staying strong, at least on the outside. I went to the dr. yesterday, having chest pains and tightness. I had a viral infection about two months ago that caused me to get pericarditis. Well, I guess it is getting worse again, maybe stress, anxiety etc. Ya think? I ha...	confused	6	618	Dec 31, 2005 by abbyal
	Expectations (Preview) I posted previously about being depressed about my A. He says he wants to be a big part of my life but I haven't heard from him since Monday. I think the depression comes partly from expectations. At first I thought that maybe my husband and I could be friends but I was only fool...	JulieLynn	3	524	Dec 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	chicken? (c: (Preview) loved that. thank you for your wise support. All i give is from hp. talks thru our hearts uno? Well I tell ya it is what I WENT thru. Yep every day has been a bit better, pain is less in every way. Got one of those memory foam neck pillows and finally slept. Kept warm soggy things on my neck, no not...	debilyn	6	536	Dec 31, 2005 by leo
	after nearly TWO years i am here!!!! (Preview) looking back over this past almost 2 years...i have made my peace with me and finally i can "file" my dead parents.....this next year???? will be focusing on me, of course, but PRACTICING what i have learned in this program.....if there is old anger, i shall discharge it and keep moving o...	rosie light shines	2	607	Dec 30, 2005 by rosie light shines
	ps (Preview) You will wish I went away again.... I wanted to add something. IF I get the chance, I will be there for the A when he gets where he needs nursing care. IF it goes that way. I will help him with his dieing. If I get a call that he is gone I will take care of of it. No matter what he did not choose this, ne...	debilyn	3	577	Dec 30, 2005 by nmike
	What to expect? (Preview) Hi, Okay this is something that is new to me, I have a few questions and I thought maybe someone might be able to enlighten me. Okay I understand that I am not supposed to worry about him, only me, and I am. I am doing whatever I can to take care of the kids and I. I am not obsessing about him, in fact today I w...	Jeannie	7	648	Dec 30, 2005 by vallsb
	New to the Forum (Preview) Hello Folks, I am new to the forum. Not new to program. I have found Al-Anon to be the missing link to my spiritual quest and to my well being. I have lived with the disease as a wife for over 20 years. My husband has almost 5 years in recovery however we just separated a month ag...	mish63	6	580	Dec 30, 2005 by nmike
	Update for the week (Preview) Last Thursday I exchange presents with my best friend which was awsome got alot of nice gifts. Went to a candle meeting which was very good. It was my first candle meeting. Friday I didn't really didn't do much of anything. got a cd/dvd porble player so I was wathing something my friend gave me all day w...	nycbt	2	471	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Chaired my first F2F, Thanks Cilla ! (Preview) Well I chaired my first f2f meeting ! One of our members had me off the topic hook for the first half of the meeting. :) They shared something which was great and took us to about the midway point. I had something ready which Cilla had shared in a previous post, called Leaving the City of Regret. ...	bobump	4	522	Dec 30, 2005 by bobump
	again "server messages" and no chatroom, help oz (Preview) Dear John/Oz It's doing it again. I know when I see the coffee cup, it's no go. Got the mysterious page "server messages" again. It's Friday, Dec 30 at ´2o:46, 8: 46 p.m. German time. Hope you get it fixed in time for marathon. grrrr anyway, all the best for new year toto...	toto12	1	783	Dec 30, 2005 by DanaAngel
	AAHHHH!!! (Preview) Even my stupid computer is sick!!!!!!!! Cannot get into chatroom again so I guess that I will go turn on the tv and see if I can get some rest. I truly hope my first post is read I need some ESH>	confused	3	493	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	another problem chatroom (Preview) Hi Java is not working. I was able to get on yesterday not and now I can't. It is now 1:35 pm aned I still can't get in. I have been trying since 10:00 am. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:36, 2005-12-30	nycbt	0	411	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Help? How to join in meeting? (Preview) I have been in chat room a few times. Tonight, I tried to join the room while a meeting was going on and could not. Is there something I need to do to enter chat room during a meeting?	brenda44	3	554	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	codependent thinking and "fixing things" (Preview) I am hoping someone can help me figure this out, and perhaps help others in the process. I am new to this "codependent thinking" idea and am finding myself very confused over what is "good" to do and what is "codependent". Let me explain briefly. My Mother is very old and pretty ill. Her mind is goi...	jennesee	5	1175	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Who Is Behind The Keyboard (Preview) Who Is Behind The Keyboard Do you remember sitting in a chat room, watching people chat, or even chatting yourself? Do you remember receiving so many forwards that your mailbox was ready to explode? How about receiving an e-mail from someone just searching for a friend. Did you wonde...	kismetstrand	5	734	Dec 30, 2005 by Dolphin123
	feelin good (Preview) today im having a good day. i actually slept last night which was wonderful. went on a date with my a to the movies. really good since we havent been out in a while. so i actually got out of the house put on some makeup and dressed nice. it made me feel good. we saw a comedy that fun with dick and jane with jim car...	notsonew1111	4	459	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	life bank accounts (Preview) Several months ago, I read something (can't remember where) that suggested to keep track of personal life bank accounts. Just as we make deposits, withdrawals and balance our real bank accounts, keeping track of other areas of life can help to keep us in check. I started a running list that I keep op...	mollyann	3	547	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Confused (Preview) Hey everyone! Guess I'm looking to vent a little.... Thought I finally had figured things out. I decided I had enough and started planning to leave my husband..my A. I had reached the point where enough was enough after so many years of dealing with things. This past year has been especiall...	Michele	7	547	Dec 30, 2005 by confused
	chatroom...again (Preview) Hello all, Only me again, Just wonderd if anyone here knew when the chatroom will be up and running again? Bye for now, but hopefuly not for long! flumpy.	flumpy	5	457	Dec 30, 2005 by flumpy
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