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Jeannie · Jeannie

Early Wednesday morning my Father In Law passed away. He never regained consciouness since being taken to the hospital a week ago. This past week and especially these past few days I have run the gammit with emotions, starting with guilt. I have fought so much with this man over the years. He enables...

kitty · kitty

This entire year had been a long hard end to a 20 year cycle of depression, anxiety & suicidal ideations. I have done little with myself in 6 years, since I left my ex (addict, husband) ~ but the darkest of my emotional funk seems to have lifted. Maybe my trying to OD has had an effect on th...

toto12 · toto12

Hi. Can't get in again and time for the marathon. Others too? It's the 31st of December, Sat.,about 1:30 pm German time. Can you help? Will try again later. A frustrated toto again....sorry

Flora123 · Flora123

I suppose it serves me right, was feeling rather pleased with self - had no probs with Java - till tonight! When I had tried several times, to no avail, I decided to download mIRC - and, eventually, that is where I am at - I have downloaded and installed, now, I have no idea what to do with it! When I try to...

flumpy · flumpy

right i give up, my brain can't take this !, can i get in or not? twice today i have been in the room chatting and now i can't get in for love nore money (boo hoo). what on earth is going on? never had a problem before, and i know i'm not the only one..... BOO HOO HOO. I'M NOT A HAPPY BUNNY! :furi...

pixel04 · pixel04

You know that phrase in the closing that is read at f2f meetings, the part that says "sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly"? I found myself thinking about that during the last ten days visiting my family for the holidays. I had been dreading certain aspects of this visit, knowing how things usually...

debilyn · debilyn

Been offline for a bit now, I missed our home here more than anything. I needed you all so badly. The disease finally beat me up enough for me to not want to give it any thought anymore. My A is just that, an A. A full blown walking waste of a man. His disease threw me on the floor and I did not even see...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, I thank all of you who have offered me love, support, encouragement, hope, strength and giggles this past year. I couldn't have done this without you! As we leave this year behind, I hope we will be able to leave the past behind us too. This time last year my A had relapsed badly. I cam...

whitie · whitie

I went to my home ftf meeting tonight. and as usual I heard just what I needed to hear on many levels. The one thing that struck me the most was as one lady shared she said that she's never lonely anymore. But in her 30 year marriage she was always lonely! That is just what I had be thinking about today. I l...

Kim · Kim

My A has been in the detox for over a week. We have spoken everyday, it has gone quite well. He had decided that I was the only person that he wanted to talk to (as far as family was concerned) and that was OK with me. His bed date for the rehab is Jan 3rd. Yesterday i went into the city to spend some...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

When we are reduced to our last extreme, there is no further evasion. The choice is a terrible one. It is made in the heart of darkness ... when we who have been destroyed and seem to be in hell miraculously choose God! --Thomas Merton There are many ways we benefit from a life crisis. Perhaps none of u...

wille · wille

hello to all, feel free to substitute in if a man for if an a: Its from a classmate If a man was.. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save y...

confused · confused

The manipulations continue, but I am staying strong, at least on the outside. I went to the dr. yesterday, having chest pains and tightness. I had a viral infection about two months ago that caused me to get pericarditis. Well, I guess it is getting worse again, maybe stress, anxiety etc. Ya think? I ha...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I posted previously about being depressed about my A. He says he wants to be a big part of my life but I haven't heard from him since Monday. I think the depression comes partly from expectations. At first I thought that maybe my husband and I could be friends but I was only fool...

debilyn · debilyn

loved that. thank you for your wise support. All i give is from hp. talks thru our hearts uno? Well I tell ya it is what I WENT thru. Yep every day has been a bit better, pain is less in every way. Got one of those memory foam neck pillows and finally slept. Kept warm soggy things on my neck, no not...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

looking back over this past almost 2 years...i have made my peace with me and finally i can "file" my dead parents.....this next year???? will be focusing on me, of course, but PRACTICING what i have learned in this program.....if there is old anger, i shall discharge it and keep moving o...

debilyn · debilyn

You will wish I went away again.... I wanted to add something. IF I get the chance, I will be there for the A when he gets where he needs nursing care. IF it goes that way. I will help him with his dieing. If I get a call that he is gone I will take care of of it. No matter what he did not choose this, ne...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Okay this is something that is new to me, I have a few questions and I thought maybe someone might be able to enlighten me. Okay I understand that I am not supposed to worry about him, only me, and I am. I am doing whatever I can to take care of the kids and I. I am not obsessing about him, in fact today I w...

mish63 · mish63

Hello Folks, I am new to the forum. Not new to program. I have found Al-Anon to be the missing link to my spiritual quest and to my well being. I have lived with the disease as a wife for over 20 years. My husband has almost 5 years in recovery however we just separated a month ag...

nycbt · nycbt

Last Thursday I exchange presents with my best friend which was awsome got alot of nice gifts. Went to a candle meeting which was very good. It was my first candle meeting. Friday I didn't really didn't do much of anything. got a cd/dvd porble player so I was wathing something my friend gave me all day w...

bobump · bobump

Well I chaired my first f2f meeting ! One of our members had me off the topic hook for the first half of the meeting. :) They shared something which was great and took us to about the midway point. I had something ready which Cilla had shared in a previous post, called Leaving the City of Regret. ...

toto12 · toto12

Dear John/Oz It's doing it again. I know when I see the coffee cup, it's no go. Got the mysterious page "server messages" again. It's Friday, Dec 30 at ´2o:46, 8: 46 p.m. German time. Hope you get it fixed in time for marathon. grrrr anyway, all the best for new year toto...

confused · confused

Even my stupid computer is sick!!!!!!!! Cannot get into chatroom again so I guess that I will go turn on the tv and see if I can get some rest. I truly hope my first post is read I need some ESH>

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Java is not working. I was able to get on yesterday not and now I can't. It is now 1:35 pm aned I still can't get in. I have been trying since 10:00 am.

-- Edited by nycbt at 13:36, 2005-12-30

brenda44 · brenda44

I have been in chat room a few times. Tonight, I tried to join the room while a meeting was going on and could not. Is there something I need to do to enter chat room during a meeting?

jennesee · jennesee

I am hoping someone can help me figure this out, and perhaps help others in the process. I am new to this "codependent thinking" idea and am finding myself very confused over what is "good" to do and what is "codependent". Let me explain briefly. My Mother is very old and pretty ill. Her mind is goi...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Who Is Behind The Keyboard Do you remember sitting in a chat room, watching people chat, or even chatting yourself? Do you remember receiving so many forwards that your mailbox was ready to explode? How about receiving an e-mail from someone just searching for a friend. Did you wonde...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today im having a good day. i actually slept last night which was wonderful. went on a date with my a to the movies. really good since we havent been out in a while. so i actually got out of the house put on some makeup and dressed nice. it made me feel good. we saw a comedy that fun with dick and jane with jim car...

mollyann · mollyann

Several months ago, I read something (can't remember where) that suggested to keep track of personal life bank accounts. Just as we make deposits, withdrawals and balance our real bank accounts, keeping track of other areas of life can help to keep us in check. I started a running list that I keep op...

Michele · Michele

Hey everyone! Guess I'm looking to vent a little.... Thought I finally had figured things out. I decided I had enough and started planning to leave my husband..my A. I had reached the point where enough was enough after so many years of dealing with things. This past year has been especiall...

flumpy · flumpy

Hello all,

Only me again, Just wonderd if anyone here knew when the chatroom will be up and running again?

Bye for now, but hopefuly not for long! flumpy.

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Hello family of choice! Just a note to let y'all know tonights meeting will be on the topics of "Spirituality, Religion and Tolerance" as to how they apply in our Al-Anon program and life. There are some excellent readings in our daily readers (One Day At A Time, Courage to Change, Hope fo...

Cyn · Cyn

I am hitting the going on 2 month mark after breaking up with my ex and am starting to think about all the good things, the last month of out of nowhere craziness, the fact that he was pushing me away the last month - and I am starting to doubt. I am starting to think it wasnt the drugs - it was he just deci...

maresie · maresie

You know I have finally got it that what my boyfriend wants to do on the holidays involves being fed (preferably by someone else) smoking dope, watching movies and lolling around. That's it. It does not include spending time with me, doing chores, planning for new years, reading, sight seeing...

ditto · ditto

By way of explanation, I was raised by a family -- neuclear and extended-- of monsters. They are warped and toxic. And, I have assiduousely avoided all contact with them for years. It is always the best strategy to avoid toxic people. Every year at Christmas time I get a card or telephone call f...

lmt123 · lmt123

I have been trying to get into chat now for the past couple of days, and I am not able to!!!

AAAAARRRGGGGHHHHH!!!

I did update the Java, like John suggested. I had success immediately after tha...

Powerless · Powerless

Hello all. Checking in from the library. This has to be brief because we are on the way to son's doctor's appointment. Holidays are going swimmingly. Thank you for all fo the help. Hope to have computer back soon so I will fill you in more. Will check in on Friday...

nycbt · nycbt

i AM ON A NEW LAPTOP AND I STILL CAN'T NOT GET INTO THE CHAT ROOM.

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Hello to everyone. I truly hope that many of you have been having wonderful holiday celebrations. I haven't had a chance to read this forum for a couple of weeks, but I have noticed many posts from people who, like me, have not been able to enjoy the season. It is a very sad and difficult ti...

Cilla · Cilla

Hi Roomies! How amazing that we are approaching the end of another year, or rather the beginning of a new year.... I'm thinking about what happened to some of the plans and goals that I set for myself during this past year that did not come to be. But find myself standing in even more amazement at...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Drowning in the Water Turning round and round…this is how my life is day after day with not one sound No happiness long enough to last… and left with nothing to do or say I can’t turn back the clock, and can’t make my monsters go away I am drowning in my w...

Rebecca · Rebecca

I just wanted to say thank you. thank you to all the people who have leant me support, constant love and understanding in this website...even when you dont know me pesonally. i am still going thou an emotional turmoiland feel depressed.... i do need a counsellor to talk to. i wrote a big long e-ma...

chris52 · chris52

I know from other postings that others are having problems too. I have tried all the suggestions,rebooting,java updates etc,etc but nothing is working. I haven't managed to get to a meeting in over a week and only got into chat once in the last 9 days. I don't get Alanon meetings here in Turkey,nor do I h...

alanon_2002 · alanon_2002

Hi, I really dislike the holidays. Even though I have someone, we are visiting his realtives far away. I see what a real family is like. I never had this. So I am blessed to be in this kind of family and to be accepted. I thought that when we get back home we can have time for us alone. I did stess this. Bu...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I have sooo many mixed feelings about everything.My life,my mom,my dad,my granparents,my aunts. I just sit and think of all of them,and I get overwhelmed.I cannot determine when I will think of them,it is just random. I have trouble with people telling me what to do.I am not saying I am a stuck up bra...

confused · confused

I got a little sleep but was restless, obviously. Got up and read the replies to my post. Thank you so much to those of you who replied, it gives a bit of clarity. So this is what I am wondering, can I call the hospital that just discharged him and speak to the Dr. I spoke to him while he was there, they started t...

toto12 · toto12

Hello John, Hmmm Seems to be a hit and miss deal. Only pattern i see is that I can get into chatroom for morning meeting, then mysterious page, "server messages " appears and no chatroom. new: sometimes a big coffee cup appears first with java on it, then i know I will get mysterious pag...

gardengal · gardengal

Now that the year is at its end, I'll take a few minutes to comtemplate the progress I have made and to thank my HP for my growth. What did I do to contribute to my success this year? Perhaps it was as simple and as profound as daring to come to my first meeting or to keep coming even when it was difficult. How...

confused · confused

I am drowning here. My husband stopped by to talk, even though I told him that I was exhausted. He told me that he just does not think he can do it without the boys and I. I have not asked that, just that he not be in the house. He said that when he went through his first divorce he contemplated suicide, knew how...

seachange · seachange

Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I last posted here because I made a home for myself over on the ACOA board! It takes time to get to know people on these boards, and now I feel I do know several people there because of the sharing over these past few months. It feels strange for me...

ae`` · ae``

not many things in this world that i know like what fortunes await me or what the future may hold, but was told it is alright because it's the present i only need in which to succeed i don't need to see all my tomorrows i can only take one step at a time even if i run this pace will be just fine all i nee...

jj · jj

Hi everyone!! I hope that everyones hollidays were good!! I see alot of new names here on the board and want to say hello to all of the newcommers and welcome. It has been quite some time since I have posted or even looked at the board and yes I have reverted into old patterns. I would...

Magpie · Magpie

Hi everyone, My A has been home from rehab for exactly one week. He went in a week after he physically attacked me and wouldn't give me our 7 month old when I was getting the heck out of there, so I called the police. Although I didn't ask to arrest him or press charges, he was a drunken...

ab23 · ab23

I have just recently discovered that my husband is an alcoholic. It is something that I have always worried about because it runs rampant in his family. Over the years there have been little clues. He's never been able to admit when he's had too much to drink, even in situati...

meowzmusic · meowzmusic

My husband has been out of the home for a month now due to violent behavior which resulted in a protective order. I have had a difficult time with this. I know I can't live with the drinking rages, but why am I struggling so? I feel peace, but sadness and lonliness too. It seems l...

Barbara · Barbara

Not looking forward to New Years Eve/Day. A husband will be having his A friend come spend the night. For the most part they'll be in the basement. They're both so excited that its New Years Eve - what are we having for dinner/snacks/drinks? I just want to spend that night here on the computer and early...

horselover58 · horselover58

This was a topic @ a meeting earlier this week. It was said that this message board was a good place to go to find a sponsor. I have a sponsor @ my f2f meetings, she is great, but I feel I need someone more similar to me. Her A is deceased. Mine is still alive. Living with an active alcoholic in den...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I posted last week about my husband wanting to remain a big part of my life even though we are seperated and at first I thought this might work. When my husband first proposed this to me we were talking about divorce and he even said that if I wanted to find myself a boyfriend that it would be ok...

chrissy · chrissy

hi everyone hope you had a wonderful christmas. amanda always goes to her dad on christmas eve & i am always shopping to stay busy wraping gifts she usally comes home late christmas eve, but i was letting her sleep over so she could be there when her brother opened his presents. but i wanted her to com...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - December 28 One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harm...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	He passed on (Preview) Early Wednesday morning my Father In Law passed away. He never regained consciouness since being taken to the hospital a week ago. This past week and especially these past few days I have run the gammit with emotions, starting with guilt. I have fought so much with this man over the years. He enables...	Jeannie	12	663	Dec 31, 2005 by TLC2
	~ New Year ~ Big Changes (Preview) This entire year had been a long hard end to a 20 year cycle of depression, anxiety & suicidal ideations. I have done little with myself in 6 years, since I left my ex (addict, husband) ~ but the darkest of my emotional funk seems to have lifted. Maybe my trying to OD has had an effect on th...	kitty	1	453	Dec 31, 2005 by bobump
	oh no john, server messages again! (Preview) Hi. Can't get in again and time for the marathon. Others too? It's the 31st of December, Sat.,about 1:30 pm German time. Can you help? Will try again later. A frustrated toto again....sorry	toto12	2	380	Dec 31, 2005 by chris52
	I Have Joined the Cant Get In Club (Preview) I suppose it serves me right, was feeling rather pleased with self - had no probs with Java - till tonight! When I had tried several times, to no avail, I decided to download mIRC - and, eventually, that is where I am at - I have downloaded and installed, now, I have no idea what to do with it! When I try to...	Flora123	2	400	Dec 31, 2005 by chris52
	i may blow!!! (Preview) right i give up, my brain can't take this !, can i get in or not? twice today i have been in the room chatting and now i can't get in for love nore money (boo hoo). what on earth is going on? never had a problem before, and i know i'm not the only one..... BOO HOO HOO. I'M NOT A HAPPY BUNNY! :furi...	flumpy	3	489	Dec 31, 2005 by chris52
	sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly (Preview) You know that phrase in the closing that is read at f2f meetings, the part that says "sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly"? I found myself thinking about that during the last ten days visiting my family for the holidays. I had been dreading certain aspects of this visit, knowing how things usually...	pixel04	2	378	Dec 31, 2005 by Maria123
	my journey (Preview) Been offline for a bit now, I missed our home here more than anything. I needed you all so badly. The disease finally beat me up enough for me to not want to give it any thought anymore. My A is just that, an A. A full blown walking waste of a man. His disease threw me on the floor and I did not even see...	debilyn	15	578	Dec 31, 2005 by jo4
	A New Year's Wish (Preview) Hi roomies, I thank all of you who have offered me love, support, encouragement, hope, strength and giggles this past year. I couldn't have done this without you! As we leave this year behind, I hope we will be able to leave the past behind us too. This time last year my A had relapsed badly. I cam...	Karilynn	2	430	Dec 31, 2005 by megan
	Lonely no more (Preview) I went to my home ftf meeting tonight. and as usual I heard just what I needed to hear on many levels. The one thing that struck me the most was as one lady shared she said that she's never lonely anymore. But in her 30 year marriage she was always lonely! That is just what I had be thinking about today. I l...	whitie	4	458	Dec 31, 2005 by megan
	need some help (Preview) My A has been in the detox for over a week. We have spoken everyday, it has gone quite well. He had decided that I was the only person that he wanted to talk to (as far as family was concerned) and that was OK with me. His bed date for the rehab is Jan 3rd. Yesterday i went into the city to spend some...	Kim	3	451	Dec 31, 2005 by Karilynn
	from the brink--- i find life (Preview) When we are reduced to our last extreme, there is no further evasion. The choice is a terrible one. It is made in the heart of darkness ... when we who have been destroyed and seem to be in hell miraculously choose God! --Thomas Merton There are many ways we benefit from a life crisis. Perhaps none of u...	rosie light shines	2	432	Dec 31, 2005 by rosie light shines
	A happy next years (Preview) hello to all, feel free to substitute in if a man for if an a: Its from a classmate If a man was.. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save y...	wille	0	329	Dec 31, 2005 by wille
	today's latest (Preview) The manipulations continue, but I am staying strong, at least on the outside. I went to the dr. yesterday, having chest pains and tightness. I had a viral infection about two months ago that caused me to get pericarditis. Well, I guess it is getting worse again, maybe stress, anxiety etc. Ya think? I ha...	confused	6	497	Dec 31, 2005 by abbyal
	Expectations (Preview) I posted previously about being depressed about my A. He says he wants to be a big part of my life but I haven't heard from him since Monday. I think the depression comes partly from expectations. At first I thought that maybe my husband and I could be friends but I was only fool...	JulieLynn	3	408	Dec 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	chicken? (c: (Preview) loved that. thank you for your wise support. All i give is from hp. talks thru our hearts uno? Well I tell ya it is what I WENT thru. Yep every day has been a bit better, pain is less in every way. Got one of those memory foam neck pillows and finally slept. Kept warm soggy things on my neck, no not...	debilyn	6	422	Dec 31, 2005 by leo
	after nearly TWO years i am here!!!! (Preview) looking back over this past almost 2 years...i have made my peace with me and finally i can "file" my dead parents.....this next year???? will be focusing on me, of course, but PRACTICING what i have learned in this program.....if there is old anger, i shall discharge it and keep moving o...	rosie light shines	2	489	Dec 30, 2005 by rosie light shines
	ps (Preview) You will wish I went away again.... I wanted to add something. IF I get the chance, I will be there for the A when he gets where he needs nursing care. IF it goes that way. I will help him with his dieing. If I get a call that he is gone I will take care of of it. No matter what he did not choose this, ne...	debilyn	3	463	Dec 30, 2005 by nmike
	What to expect? (Preview) Hi, Okay this is something that is new to me, I have a few questions and I thought maybe someone might be able to enlighten me. Okay I understand that I am not supposed to worry about him, only me, and I am. I am doing whatever I can to take care of the kids and I. I am not obsessing about him, in fact today I w...	Jeannie	7	536	Dec 30, 2005 by vallsb
	New to the Forum (Preview) Hello Folks, I am new to the forum. Not new to program. I have found Al-Anon to be the missing link to my spiritual quest and to my well being. I have lived with the disease as a wife for over 20 years. My husband has almost 5 years in recovery however we just separated a month ag...	mish63	6	471	Dec 30, 2005 by nmike
	Update for the week (Preview) Last Thursday I exchange presents with my best friend which was awsome got alot of nice gifts. Went to a candle meeting which was very good. It was my first candle meeting. Friday I didn't really didn't do much of anything. got a cd/dvd porble player so I was wathing something my friend gave me all day w...	nycbt	2	364	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Chaired my first F2F, Thanks Cilla ! (Preview) Well I chaired my first f2f meeting ! One of our members had me off the topic hook for the first half of the meeting. :) They shared something which was great and took us to about the midway point. I had something ready which Cilla had shared in a previous post, called Leaving the City of Regret. ...	bobump	4	413	Dec 30, 2005 by bobump
	again "server messages" and no chatroom, help oz (Preview) Dear John/Oz It's doing it again. I know when I see the coffee cup, it's no go. Got the mysterious page "server messages" again. It's Friday, Dec 30 at ´2o:46, 8: 46 p.m. German time. Hope you get it fixed in time for marathon. grrrr anyway, all the best for new year toto...	toto12	1	610	Dec 30, 2005 by DanaAngel
	AAHHHH!!! (Preview) Even my stupid computer is sick!!!!!!!! Cannot get into chatroom again so I guess that I will go turn on the tv and see if I can get some rest. I truly hope my first post is read I need some ESH>	confused	3	392	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	another problem chatroom (Preview) Hi Java is not working. I was able to get on yesterday not and now I can't. It is now 1:35 pm aned I still can't get in. I have been trying since 10:00 am. -- Edited by nycbt at 13:36, 2005-12-30	nycbt	0	308	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Help? How to join in meeting? (Preview) I have been in chat room a few times. Tonight, I tried to join the room while a meeting was going on and could not. Is there something I need to do to enter chat room during a meeting?	brenda44	3	427	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	codependent thinking and "fixing things" (Preview) I am hoping someone can help me figure this out, and perhaps help others in the process. I am new to this "codependent thinking" idea and am finding myself very confused over what is "good" to do and what is "codependent". Let me explain briefly. My Mother is very old and pretty ill. Her mind is goi...	jennesee	5	963	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Who Is Behind The Keyboard (Preview) Who Is Behind The Keyboard Do you remember sitting in a chat room, watching people chat, or even chatting yourself? Do you remember receiving so many forwards that your mailbox was ready to explode? How about receiving an e-mail from someone just searching for a friend. Did you wonde...	kismetstrand	5	609	Dec 30, 2005 by Dolphin123
	feelin good (Preview) today im having a good day. i actually slept last night which was wonderful. went on a date with my a to the movies. really good since we havent been out in a while. so i actually got out of the house put on some makeup and dressed nice. it made me feel good. we saw a comedy that fun with dick and jane with jim car...	notsonew1111	4	347	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	life bank accounts (Preview) Several months ago, I read something (can't remember where) that suggested to keep track of personal life bank accounts. Just as we make deposits, withdrawals and balance our real bank accounts, keeping track of other areas of life can help to keep us in check. I started a running list that I keep op...	mollyann	3	431	Dec 30, 2005 by nycbt
	Confused (Preview) Hey everyone! Guess I'm looking to vent a little.... Thought I finally had figured things out. I decided I had enough and started planning to leave my husband..my A. I had reached the point where enough was enough after so many years of dealing with things. This past year has been especiall...	Michele	7	434	Dec 30, 2005 by confused
	chatroom...again (Preview) Hello all, Only me again, Just wonderd if anyone here knew when the chatroom will be up and running again? Bye for now, but hopefuly not for long! flumpy.	flumpy	5	351	Dec 30, 2005 by flumpy
	Thursday Night Meeting Topics (Preview) Hello family of choice! Just a note to let y'all know tonights meeting will be on the topics of "Spirituality, Religion and Tolerance" as to how they apply in our Al-Anon program and life. There are some excellent readings in our daily readers (One Day At A Time, Courage to Change, Hope fo...	kismetstrand	4	469	Dec 30, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Is this normal? (Preview) I am hitting the going on 2 month mark after breaking up with my ex and am starting to think about all the good things, the last month of out of nowhere craziness, the fact that he was pushing me away the last month - and I am starting to doubt. I am starting to think it wasnt the drugs - it was he just deci...	Cyn	2	392	Dec 29, 2005 by debilyn
	taking it personally (Preview) You know I have finally got it that what my boyfriend wants to do on the holidays involves being fed (preferably by someone else) smoking dope, watching movies and lolling around. That's it. It does not include spending time with me, doing chores, planning for new years, reading, sight seeing...	maresie	9	488	Dec 29, 2005 by maresie
	Cold World (Preview) By way of explanation, I was raised by a family -- neuclear and extended-- of monsters. They are warped and toxic. And, I have assiduousely avoided all contact with them for years. It is always the best strategy to avoid toxic people. Every year at Christmas time I get a card or telephone call f...	ditto	5	409	Dec 29, 2005 by ditto
	CAN'T GET INTO CHAT!!! (Preview) I have been trying to get into chat now for the past couple of days, and I am not able to!!! AAAAARRRGGGGHHHHH!!! I did update the Java, like John suggested. I had success immediately after tha...	lmt123	1	364	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	Checking in (Preview) Hello all. Checking in from the library. This has to be brief because we are on the way to son's doctor's appointment. Holidays are going swimmingly. Thank you for all fo the help. Hope to have computer back soon so I will fill you in more. Will check in on Friday...	Powerless	4	340	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	AGAIN NOT GETTING WITH A NEW LAPTOP (Preview) i AM ON A NEW LAPTOP AND I STILL CAN'T NOT GET INTO THE CHAT ROOM.	nycbt	2	350	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	Sad changes (Preview) Hello to everyone. I truly hope that many of you have been having wonderful holiday celebrations. I haven't had a chance to read this forum for a couple of weeks, but I have noticed many posts from people who, like me, have not been able to enjoy the season. It is a very sad and difficult ti...	phoebemoonpie	4	477	Dec 29, 2005 by mamasan
	Ending the Year 2005 (Preview) Hi Roomies! How amazing that we are approaching the end of another year, or rather the beginning of a new year.... I'm thinking about what happened to some of the plans and goals that I set for myself during this past year that did not come to be. But find myself standing in even more amazement at...	Cilla	0	338	Dec 29, 2005 by Cilla
	My most recent poem I wrote: Drowing in the Water (Preview) Drowning in the Water Turning round and round…this is how my life is day after day with not one sound No happiness long enough to last… and left with nothing to do or say I can’t turn back the clock, and can’t make my monsters go away I am drowning in my w...	Lauren ashley	4	393	Dec 29, 2005 by Flora123
	Thank YOU...you are my family (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you. thank you to all the people who have leant me support, constant love and understanding in this website...even when you dont know me pesonally. i am still going thou an emotional turmoiland feel depressed.... i do need a counsellor to talk to. i wrote a big long e-ma...	Rebecca	4	417	Dec 29, 2005 by kismetstrand
	I can't get to meetings/chatroom (Preview) I know from other postings that others are having problems too. I have tried all the suggestions,rebooting,java updates etc,etc but nothing is working. I haven't managed to get to a meeting in over a week and only got into chat once in the last 9 days. I don't get Alanon meetings here in Turkey,nor do I h...	chris52	2	304	Dec 29, 2005 by danz123
	Holidays are painful (Preview) Hi, I really dislike the holidays. Even though I have someone, we are visiting his realtives far away. I see what a real family is like. I never had this. So I am blessed to be in this kind of family and to be accepted. I thought that when we get back home we can have time for us alone. I did stess this. Bu...	alanon_2002	5	517	Dec 29, 2005 by megan
	Screwed,and fed up...I am done with trying.I give up (Preview) I have sooo many mixed feelings about everything.My life,my mom,my dad,my granparents,my aunts. I just sit and think of all of them,and I get overwhelmed.I cannot determine when I will think of them,it is just random. I have trouble with people telling me what to do.I am not saying I am a stuck up bra...	Lauren ashley	16	628	Dec 29, 2005 by angelinme908
	can't sleep now, more ESH please (Preview) I got a little sleep but was restless, obviously. Got up and read the replies to my post. Thank you so much to those of you who replied, it gives a bit of clarity. So this is what I am wondering, can I call the hospital that just discharged him and speak to the Dr. I spoke to him while he was there, they started t...	confused	5	645	Dec 29, 2005 by notsonew1111
	chatroom again blocked "server messages??"for John (Preview) Hello John, Hmmm Seems to be a hit and miss deal. Only pattern i see is that I can get into chatroom for morning meeting, then mysterious page, "server messages " appears and no chatroom. new: sometimes a big coffee cup appears first with java on it, then i know I will get mysterious pag...	toto12	1	401	Dec 29, 2005 by leo
	December 31st (Preview) Now that the year is at its end, I'll take a few minutes to comtemplate the progress I have made and to thank my HP for my growth. What did I do to contribute to my success this year? Perhaps it was as simple and as profound as daring to come to my first meeting or to keep coming even when it was difficult. How...	gardengal	2	412	Dec 29, 2005 by Robinks
	ESH needed ASAP (Preview) I am drowning here. My husband stopped by to talk, even though I told him that I was exhausted. He told me that he just does not think he can do it without the boys and I. I have not asked that, just that he not be in the house. He said that when he went through his first divorce he contemplated suicide, knew how...	confused	9	718	Dec 29, 2005 by maresie
	Letting go of the old (Preview) Hi Everyone! It's been a long time since I last posted here because I made a home for myself over on the ACOA board! It takes time to get to know people on these boards, and now I feel I do know several people there because of the sharing over these past few months. It feels strange for me...	seachange	4	438	Dec 29, 2005 by seachange
	~* One Step ~a poem~ (Preview) not many things in this world that i know like what fortunes await me or what the future may hold, but was told it is alright because it's the present i only need in which to succeed i don't need to see all my tomorrows i can only take one step at a time even if i run this pace will be just fine all i nee...	ae``	2	371	Dec 29, 2005 by seachange
	checking in (Preview) Hi everyone!! I hope that everyones hollidays were good!! I see alot of new names here on the board and want to say hello to all of the newcommers and welcome. It has been quite some time since I have posted or even looked at the board and yes I have reverted into old patterns. I would...	jj	4	408	Dec 29, 2005 by Mark S
	Need some ESH and to vent (Preview) Hi everyone, My A has been home from rehab for exactly one week. He went in a week after he physically attacked me and wouldn't give me our 7 month old when I was getting the heck out of there, so I called the police. Although I didn't ask to arrest him or press charges, he was a drunken...	Magpie	4	547	Dec 29, 2005 by Robinks
	new, scared and desperately needing advice (Preview) I have just recently discovered that my husband is an alcoholic. It is something that I have always worried about because it runs rampant in his family. Over the years there have been little clues. He's never been able to admit when he's had too much to drink, even in situati...	ab23	8	532	Dec 29, 2005 by Angie
	Going Through A Lot (Preview) My husband has been out of the home for a month now due to violent behavior which resulted in a protective order. I have had a difficult time with this. I know I can't live with the drinking rages, but why am I struggling so? I feel peace, but sadness and lonliness too. It seems l...	meowzmusic	3	440	Dec 29, 2005 by leo
	how will you be on New Years Eve/Day? (Preview) Not looking forward to New Years Eve/Day. A husband will be having his A friend come spend the night. For the most part they'll be in the basement. They're both so excited that its New Years Eve - what are we having for dinner/snacks/drinks? I just want to spend that night here on the computer and early...	Barbara	6	393	Dec 28, 2005 by angelinme908
	Sponsorship (Preview) This was a topic @ a meeting earlier this week. It was said that this message board was a good place to go to find a sponsor. I have a sponsor @ my f2f meetings, she is great, but I feel I need someone more similar to me. Her A is deceased. Mine is still alive. Living with an active alcoholic in den...	horselover58	2	365	Dec 28, 2005 by horselover58
	Left feeling sad and depressed (Preview) I posted last week about my husband wanting to remain a big part of my life even though we are seperated and at first I thought this might work. When my husband first proposed this to me we were talking about divorce and he even said that if I wanted to find myself a boyfriend that it would be ok...	JulieLynn	3	465	Dec 28, 2005 by Jennifer
	my christmas (Preview) hi everyone hope you had a wonderful christmas. amanda always goes to her dad on christmas eve & i am always shopping to stay busy wraping gifts she usally comes home late christmas eve, but i was letting her sleep over so she could be there when her brother opened his presents. but i wanted her to com...	chrissy	7	409	Dec 28, 2005 by chrissy
	being true to me (Preview) Hope for Today - December 28 One of the most beneficial things I have learned from my Al-Anon experience is to be consistent in my thoughts, words, and actions. In my alcoholic home, I learned to mask uncomfortable situations with words and actions I thought would promote harm...	rosie light shines	4	476	Dec 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
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