Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hello everyone!!! Its been a while, but I've just been a mess lately (not al-anon stuff so been talking with my sponsor/friends, etc) my biggest client on Friday mornings, where i've worked for over 10 years now and who pays me as much as my SS check is in a month is floundering we are only weeks away from...

Elabella · Elabella

Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...

JerryF · JerryF

We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...

Freetime · Freetime

Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...

IamLynn · IamLynn

I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...

andromeda · andromeda

Hi everyone! So, I decided to take the plunge into home ownership and I'm scared to death! I have never owned a home as a single; I've always been married. I went through the prequalification with a lender last week and he called me a few days ago to say, 'You can qualify for a bigger home if you want but al...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 5, and how revealing our character defects to God, ourselves and others can help us move forward in recovery. The writer describes getting a bit stuck on step 5, with a list that was completely negative. With the help of another, the writer sta...

wp · wp

In the mip night meeting room some years ago we heard a story of a screw, yes that's right, a screw. It was a symbol of a lesson someone in the group learned, and I cannot for the life of me remember how it went. I find myself in a place these days of needing that kind of visual focus, and would love to hear fro...

Freetime · Freetime

Step 12 says that we tried to carry the message to others. The author of today's page was a very enthusiastic messenger, dragging their friends and relatives to meetings and preaching to everyone in earshot. This did not work, and they felt like a fool. Then they re-read the step and noticed the part...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I don't feel as isolated & terrified of the outside world. For so many years I have gotten to the place where I felt isolated & alone. But not today. I am certain that I need to be among the living. I was told that you have to share your recovery. I am not supposed to be alone all the time. I have to be av...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is about Step 11 - where we seek to improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How this happens is individual - maybe we look for signs from people around us or in events and unexplained coincidences. Perhaps we seek this power through our feelings, in...

a4l · a4l

Ok I've been back in my island of origin for a year and a half. Alone with my kids. The distance has been good. I started my degree last year, got a full scholarship this year, the kids are well settled, have picked up a second language, some foo relationships have been restructured and thus restored and I...

AnneS · AnneS

I dont even know what to say. I have an AH and both of us are struggling right now. He was sober for a long time and recently has struggled to remain sober. I take care of my mom with Alzheimers so I cant get to meetings. She is in stage 7 but I have no help.

Luna3104 · Luna3104

Hello everyone, I don't know if I am in the right chat room, however, I figured someone would be able to point me in the right direction. I am living with a functional drug addict and alcoholic. Meaning no use during the week, but always on weekends. This man keeps a job and pays bills. Every once in a while...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about step ten (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author shares that, since step 10 is a part of their daily routine, they like to think of it as a gentle, warm, and loving way to take care of themselves. By continuing t...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

So my AH who is a type 1 diabetic and would drink a lot around sports but now that many major games are done has decreased drinking. So eHR he started drinking the other night I asked if there was a game on and he said no he was drinking because his blood sugar was low and beer was sugar so why not. Omg. Seriousl...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses Step 9...the author asks the question, "How do I know whether or not to take action?" for that portion of the step that suggests we need not make direct amends to those injured if, in doing so, we might cause further injury. The reading g...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Hey. Apologies for not being here as much as I could, but it is what it is. We've been attending a face to face meeting regularly now for a few months. I haven't made it my home group yet, but I probably will. Attending a face to face meeting is important and belonging to a group is important. I know that. We g...

Nadinemel · Nadinemel

I live in MN and have been looking for a 4th step workshop that uses Blueprint For Progress as a guide. In 2 years, I have not seen one and I have been looking. I would like to put on a workshop specifically using Al-Anon materials. If necessary I will travel out of state to attend and see if others are wi...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Hi! Where i could find old purple bookmark on detschment or detschment with love?

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, June 10, discusses the 8th Step: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. This step was difficult for the author as they felt they absolutely could not make amends to some people. As the author forged ahead, making amends became eas...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty some of us have had in speaking up directly- about anything and everything! The writer described being too quiet, unable to speak up. That can be true for me as well, but in my case I know that in my family, most of the time things that we wan...

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.

hotrod · hotrod

Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care

JerryF · JerryF

can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...

Freetime · Freetime

The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday , June 3, speaks about being powerless over this disease. The author says we can be provoked or accused by alcoholics, who create diversions away from themselves. We are reminded not to react, or argue, or defend ourselves. Trying to create a defense against active alcohol...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I started the day meeting AH at marriage therapy. Though things had been going okay (seemed to want to do better and some sobriety) he spiraled back to a point where hes out of the house for just over a week on a bender. Im grateful he respects my boundaries by staying away but still sucks alcoholism is out...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hi everyone, I've not posted for a while. I thought I was doing well, going to meetings, starting to recover and relearn behaviours. However, in the last month I've been dealing with all sorts of personal stuff and it's not been nice. I feel really low, as bad as I've ever felt since joining Al-Anon. S...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about moving away from chaos and into serenity. Like the writer, I didnt even acknowledge that I was living in chaos. When I came to alanon I began to notice when people said they were addicted to chaos. I remember many years ago, when I was still in the marria...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi everyone. Was at my weekly meeting yesterday and something interesting happened that sort of left me wondering. At some point someone had mentioned something about wining and dining at an Al Anon event, and quickly corrected themselves with the wining part. Well this left me wondering, what is A...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Today is going to be a tough day .. I have worked with a woman who is like me not perfect .. LOL. She's retiring today, and the past month has been difficult because I think we both struggle with saying "Goodbye". I have spent more time with her than I have my family working here over the past 3 years. It ma...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading compares our Al-Anon journey to legends where a hero must face great challenges before gaining treasure at journey's end. We are the heroes in our own spiritual journey of self-discovery. We explore hidden motives, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. We use program too...

Iamhere · Iamhere

As we've had rain for the last 2 days and I've had more time on my hands to meditate/read, I thought I'd start a group joy journal, and it just so happens we are beginning a new month tomorrow - so why not? I am all about trying different and new things to enhance my human experience, and have been thinking a l...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65586913/alanon-step-6-6-1-2019/Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.

tootie · tootie

I have attended one Al-Anon meeting at church and will be attending more regularly as finances allow! My brother is a "recovering alcoholic" but still drinks fairly regularly! I am reading ODAT; my wonderful friend gifted me a copy and it's been helpful! We have a history of alcoholism on my patern...

JerryF · JerryF

On it's promise to support, care and stand with me. I am assured that I continue to be abided by even as and when life seems foggy and shaky and question conditions and outcomes. I am in the atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love where I have learned and experienced is the best of all places...

tootie · tootie

I just tried to get onto the chat room without success! hELP!

Iamhere · Iamhere

Early plans tomorrow, so posting a bit early. The reading discusses how Al-Anon suggests and teaches us how to be gentle with ourselves. For many who are living or have lived in a household where alcohol is abused, this is a foreign concept. Most of us instead worked for perfection and then hated ou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope. The author discusses decisions, and how decisions we have made and have not made have led is to where we are in life. Rather than blaming others for where we are, the author suggests that we recognize the actions we chose to take or chose not to take as the r...

hotrod · hotrod

T The ODAT reading for today May 28th speaks about the danger of holding resentments. it points out that although we may find it enjoyable to dwell on these thoughts and feel justified in evening the score and paying others back for what they've done to us-- we cannot logically punish someone for w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/27, discusses the challenge of letting ourselves believe that joy can exist in our lives. The author talks about the experience of having so many disappointments, that we dont want to be let down anymore. We can shut down our hearts and minds so that we no longer expect to be...

atheos · atheos

I have had a great sponsor, who understands a lot of what's going on in my life, and often has great insights. But over the past six months, she has been becoming less and less available - she has a lot of things going on in her life right now with her job and her family. It has now been more than a month since I h...

JerryF · JerryF

For Families and Friends of Alcoholics... in the monthly Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2019 in now in my home and it is free and could be found I guess in most meeting literature stacks. Though it is new-comer intended I love reading it for cause. God do I remember when I first got into recovery at the sugg...

El · El

So, today is day #3 my AH has not left his chair all day or night. Wait, I take that back.....he gets up to smoke or get a beer or go to the bathroom. No errands, no activity, nothing. Monday didn't bother me because we had a fairly busy weekend and I knew he would take the day to "unwind." Tuesday didn't bot...

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	Just stopping by to say "Hello"!!! (Preview) Hello everyone!!! Its been a while, but I've just been a mess lately (not al-anon stuff so been talking with my sponsor/friends, etc) my biggest client on Friday mornings, where i've worked for over 10 years now and who pays me as much as my SS check is in a month is floundering we are only weeks away from...	mamalioness	8	10745	Jun 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	How to forgive and move on? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Im having a bad couple of days. Ive been ruminating over past infidelity that my AH was involved in last year. I cant get over it. Im trying to move forward- trying to reason that he was deep in his disease and was acting out of his mind on so many different occasions. Im a reasonable woman. Ive been with thi...	Elabella	49	5468	Jun 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	We are moving and practicing Letting Go and Letting God. (Preview) We have lived in this house for over 25 years and HP suggested clearly that I sell it and just right after the suggestion a neighbor woman walked up my driveway and said...."I want to buy your house". My Higher Power does not forward it's plans ahead of time yet wants me open to receive and act upon whate...	JerryF	13	6823	Jun 21, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change, June 21 (Preview) Sometimes we believe that our loved ones cannot take care of themselves and will not survive unless we do things for them. When crises happen, we have put our needs last. In Al-Anon we learn another option: Let go and let God. Letting go of another person affirms their right to live their own life and...	Freetime	8	4365	Jun 21, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 6/20 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow as I've got early plans! The reading is about Fear and how Al-Anon gives us tools to respond differently when fear crops up. The writer shares that fear was a daily part of her experience with alcoholism and some of her coping mechanisms were not healthy for her. She found her be...	Iamhere	3	1628	Jun 20, 2019 by Lyne
	Can I pat myself on the back? (Preview) I have an adult child Alcoholic who I and my husband have (rescued?) off and on for many years. He is married now which brings more people into the circle of addiction and co-addiction and codependency complicated by his spouses family addiction problems and codependency. This last crisis time for m...	IamLynn	15	4227	Jun 19, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change June 19 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reminds us that we don't have to take everything personally and we don't have to see ourselves as the victim of everything that happens unless we chose to do so. When we are troubled by another's behavior, a complicated situation, or a disappointing turn of events, we ca...	Skorpi	6	4507	Jun 19, 2019 by El
	C2C Reading 6-18 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 6-18 speaks about the resentments that many feel when they look at others whose life that SEEMS better===== The reading suggests that envying others is simply a waste of our time as everyone has a different pathIf we open our minds to the possibility of change and understa...	hotrod	7	886	Jun 18, 2019 by El
	C2C, 6/17 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 6/17, talks about surviving crises. With alanon we learn that we can live and even grow through very difficult times. Some of us worry about the future return of crises, and will our tools get us through again? It is recommended to make the most of the day we have, trust recove...	Lyne	2	2714	Jun 17, 2019 by El
	The courage to change the things we can- a 12 step inventory [long]. (Preview) Hi y'all... Saturday morning here, now... just a few quiet moments until the grand-daughters get up. Lovely kids... ... I would expect to discuss medical issues with my sponsor- if I needed clarification- but these issues go beyond this. I believe strongly in seeking medical interventio...	DavidG	4	929	Jun 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Going to be buying a home!!! (Preview) Hi everyone! So, I decided to take the plunge into home ownership and I'm scared to death! I have never owned a home as a single; I've always been married. I went through the prequalification with a lender last week and he called me a few days ago to say, 'You can qualify for a bigger home if you want but al...	andromeda	20	4833	Jun 17, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a focus of step 5, and how revealing our character defects to God, ourselves and others can help us move forward in recovery. The writer describes getting a bit stuck on step 5, with a list that was completely negative. With the help of another, the writer sta...	yanksfan51	3	572	Jun 16, 2019 by JerryF
	The al anon mip story of the screw (Preview) In the mip night meeting room some years ago we heard a story of a screw, yes that's right, a screw. It was a symbol of a lesson someone in the group learned, and I cannot for the life of me remember how it went. I find myself in a place these days of needing that kind of visual focus, and would love to hear fro...	wp	4	5853	Jun 15, 2019 by IamLynn
	Courage to Change, June 14 (Preview) Step 12 says that we tried to carry the message to others. The author of today's page was a very enthusiastic messenger, dragging their friends and relatives to meetings and preaching to everyone in earshot. This did not work, and they felt like a fool. Then they re-read the step and noticed the part...	Freetime	4	719	Jun 14, 2019 by Iamhere
	I am not on an island! (Preview) I don't feel as isolated & terrified of the outside world. For so many years I have gotten to the place where I felt isolated & alone. But not today. I am certain that I need to be among the living. I was told that you have to share your recovery. I am not supposed to be alone all the time. I have to be av...	Hoot Nanny	4	2309	Jun 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 6/13/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is about Step 11 - where we seek to improve our conscious contact with God through prayer and meditation. How this happens is individual - maybe we look for signs from people around us or in events and unexplained coincidences. Perhaps we seek this power through our feelings, in...	Iamhere	3	2392	Jun 13, 2019 by El
	Juggling act I'm tired. (Preview) Ok I've been back in my island of origin for a year and a half. Alone with my kids. The distance has been good. I started my degree last year, got a full scholarship this year, the kids are well settled, have picked up a second language, some foo relationships have been restructured and thus restored and I...	a4l	6	790	Jun 13, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	New here (Preview) I dont even know what to say. I have an AH and both of us are struggling right now. He was sober for a long time and recently has struggled to remain sober. I take care of my mom with Alzheimers so I cant get to meetings. She is in stage 7 but I have no help.	AnneS	9	4835	Jun 13, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	how to react (Preview) Hello everyone, I don't know if I am in the right chat room, however, I figured someone would be able to point me in the right direction. I am living with a functional drug addict and alcoholic. Meaning no use during the week, but always on weekends. This man keeps a job and pays bills. Every once in a while...	Luna3104	10	4177	Jun 12, 2019 by Bo
	Courage to Change June 12 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about step ten (Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.) The author shares that, since step 10 is a part of their daily routine, they like to think of it as a gentle, warm, and loving way to take care of themselves. By continuing t...	Skorpi	3	689	Jun 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Lamest excuse ever (Preview) So my AH who is a type 1 diabetic and would drink a lot around sports but now that many major games are done has decreased drinking. So eHR he started drinking the other night I asked if there was a game on and he said no he was drinking because his blood sugar was low and beer was sugar so why not. Omg. Seriousl...	Dancer66	13	5107	Jun 12, 2019 by Aloha
	Courage to Change 6/11 (Preview) Good morning MIP. Today's reading in Courage to Change discusses Step 9...the author asks the question, "How do I know whether or not to take action?" for that portion of the step that suggests we need not make direct amends to those injured if, in doing so, we might cause further injury. The reading g...	Iamhere	2	2589	Jun 12, 2019 by JerryF
	The Important Stuff (Preview) Hey. Apologies for not being here as much as I could, but it is what it is. We've been attending a face to face meeting regularly now for a few months. I haven't made it my home group yet, but I probably will. Attending a face to face meeting is important and belonging to a group is important. I know that. We g...	Wolfie55	6	5099	Jun 11, 2019 by Wolfie55
	Al-Anon 4th Step workshop (Preview) I live in MN and have been looking for a 4th step workshop that uses Blueprint For Progress as a guide. In 2 years, I have not seen one and I have been looking. I would like to put on a workshop specifically using Al-Anon materials. If necessary I will travel out of state to attend and see if others are wi...	Nadinemel	0	567	Jun 11, 2019 by Nadinemel
	Detachment & detschment with love (Preview) Hi! Where i could find old purple bookmark on detschment or detschment with love?	kadriliisa	3	4750	Jun 10, 2019 by kadriliisa
	C2C, 6/10 (Preview) The reading for Monday, June 10, discusses the 8th Step: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. This step was difficult for the author as they felt they absolutely could not make amends to some people. As the author forged ahead, making amends became eas...	Lyne	3	4197	Jun 10, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 9 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the difficulty some of us have had in speaking up directly- about anything and everything! The writer described being too quiet, unable to speak up. That can be true for me as well, but in my case I know that in my family, most of the time things that we wan...	yanksfan51	4	4725	Jun 10, 2019 by DavidG
	How to answer towards negstive feedbsck? (Preview) Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.	kadriliisa	6	5847	Jun 10, 2019 by kadriliisa
	Cruise (Preview) Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care	hotrod	8	6075	Jun 10, 2019 by Lyne
	Woke up angry and (Preview) can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...	JerryF	8	6560	Jun 10, 2019 by 2HP
	Turning points- in a life... Step 10... (Preview) Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...	DavidG	14	3987	Jun 9, 2019 by DavidG
	AlAnon/Chat Room......looks completely different (Preview) I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?	lgnutah	2	718	Jun 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hi everyone I’m back (Preview) Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...	Wisdom67	4	586	Jun 8, 2019 by JerryF
	Forward .. and back .. lol (Preview) I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...	SerenityRUS	4	598	Jun 8, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT - June 7 (Preview) The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...	Freetime	6	2537	Jun 7, 2019 by Iamhere
	Update(life goes on...) (Preview) Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...	Hoot Nanny	3	4854	Jun 7, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	Courage to Change 6/6 (Preview) Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...	Iamhere	4	2733	Jun 6, 2019 by 2HP
	Today's Hope June 5 (Preview) Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...	Skorpi	4	2345	Jun 6, 2019 by hotrod
	C2C Reading 6-4 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...	hotrod	4	2753	Jun 5, 2019 by DavidG
	two weeks later... (Preview) I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...	Hoot Nanny	3	2954	Jun 5, 2019 by Temple
	Update after a very long absence (Preview) i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...	Doingmybest	7	2341	Jun 4, 2019 by Doingmybest
	C2C, 6/3 (Preview) The reading for Monday , June 3, speaks about being powerless over this disease. The author says we can be provoked or accused by alcoholics, who create diversions away from themselves. We are reminded not to react, or argue, or defend ourselves. Trying to create a defense against active alcohol...	Lyne	4	4233	Jun 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Let myself get hooked (Preview) I started the day meeting AH at marriage therapy. Though things had been going okay (seemed to want to do better and some sobriety) he spiraled back to a point where hes out of the house for just over a week on a bender. Im grateful he respects my boundaries by staying away but still sucks alcoholism is out...	sunmustshine	12	6790	Jun 3, 2019 by KT2015
	Dealing with setbacks (Preview) Hi everyone, I've not posted for a while. I thought I was doing well, going to meetings, starting to recover and relearn behaviours. However, in the last month I've been dealing with all sorts of personal stuff and it's not been nice. I feel really low, as bad as I've ever felt since joining Al-Anon. S...	Lil99	11	4591	Jun 3, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Hope for Today June 2 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about moving away from chaos and into serenity. Like the writer, I didnt even acknowledge that I was living in chaos. When I came to alanon I began to notice when people said they were addicted to chaos. I remember many years ago, when I was still in the marria...	yanksfan51	3	3280	Jun 2, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Questions...so many questions... (Preview) Hi everyone. Was at my weekly meeting yesterday and something interesting happened that sort of left me wondering. At some point someone had mentioned something about wining and dining at an Al Anon event, and quickly corrected themselves with the wining part. Well this left me wondering, what is A...	Elabella	11	6005	Jun 1, 2019 by Elabella
	Saying Goodbye - (Preview) Today is going to be a tough day .. I have worked with a woman who is like me not perfect .. LOL. She's retiring today, and the past month has been difficult because I think we both struggle with saying "Goodbye". I have spent more time with her than I have my family working here over the past 3 years. It ma...	SerenityRUS	13	4488	Jun 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, May 31 (Preview) Today's reading compares our Al-Anon journey to legends where a hero must face great challenges before gaining treasure at journey's end. We are the heroes in our own spiritual journey of self-discovery. We explore hidden motives, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. We use program too...	Freetime	4	5251	May 31, 2019 by El
	Idea for May - Joy Journal ( 1 2 3 ) (Preview) As we've had rain for the last 2 days and I've had more time on my hands to meditate/read, I thought I'd start a group joy journal, and it just so happens we are beginning a new month tomorrow - so why not? I am all about trying different and new things to enhance my human experience, and have been thinking a l...	Iamhere	114	9662	May 31, 2019 by El
	Step 6 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65586913/alanon-step-6-6-1-2019/Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.	hotrod	1	5068	May 31, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Looking for an online sponsor! (Preview) I have attended one Al-Anon meeting at church and will be attending more regularly as finances allow! My brother is a "recovering alcoholic" but still drinks fairly regularly! I am reading ODAT; my wonderful friend gifted me a copy and it's been helpful! We have a history of alcoholism on my patern...	tootie	2	6352	May 31, 2019 by Aloha
	Higher Power not falling back (Preview) On it's promise to support, care and stand with me. I am assured that I continue to be abided by even as and when life seems foggy and shaky and question conditions and outcomes. I am in the atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love where I have learned and experienced is the best of all places...	JerryF	6	7034	May 30, 2019 by sunmustshine
	Trouble with online chat (Preview) I just tried to get onto the chat room without success! hELP!	tootie	1	3019	May 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 5/30/19 (Preview) Early plans tomorrow, so posting a bit early. The reading discusses how Al-Anon suggests and teaches us how to be gentle with ourselves. For many who are living or have lived in a household where alcohol is abused, this is a foreign concept. Most of us instead worked for perfection and then hated ou...	Iamhere	4	4809	May 30, 2019 by canadianguy
	Today's Hope May 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope. The author discusses decisions, and how decisions we have made and have not made have led is to where we are in life. Rather than blaming others for where we are, the author suggests that we recognize the actions we chose to take or chose not to take as the r...	Skorpi	5	2338	May 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading Tuesday 5-28 (Preview) T The ODAT reading for today May 28th speaks about the danger of holding resentments. it points out that although we may find it enjoyable to dwell on these thoughts and feel justified in evening the score and paying others back for what they've done to us-- we cannot logically punish someone for w...	hotrod	7	6252	May 28, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 5/27 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/27, discusses the challenge of letting ourselves believe that joy can exist in our lives. The author talks about the experience of having so many disappointments, that we dont want to be let down anymore. We can shut down our hearts and minds so that we no longer expect to be...	Lyne	4	1095	May 28, 2019 by Aloha
	Need advice or ESH on changing sponsors (Preview) I have had a great sponsor, who understands a lot of what's going on in my life, and often has great insights. But over the past six months, she has been becoming less and less available - she has a lot of things going on in her life right now with her job and her family. It has now been more than a month since I h...	atheos	10	1278	May 28, 2019 by Aloha
	Help and Hope (Preview) For Families and Friends of Alcoholics... in the monthly Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2019 in now in my home and it is free and could be found I guess in most meeting literature stacks. Though it is new-comer intended I love reading it for cause. God do I remember when I first got into recovery at the sugg...	JerryF	7	2652	May 27, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Trying, trying trying (Preview) So, today is day #3 my AH has not left his chair all day or night. Wait, I take that back.....he gets up to smoke or get a beer or go to the bathroom. No errands, no activity, nothing. Monday didn't bother me because we had a fairly busy weekend and I knew he would take the day to "unwind." Tuesday didn't bot...	El	21	5290	May 27, 2019 by tiredtonite
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