Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kadriliisa · kadriliisa

Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.

hotrod · hotrod

Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care

JerryF · JerryF

can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...

Freetime · Freetime

The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...

Doingmybest · Doingmybest

i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday , June 3, speaks about being powerless over this disease. The author says we can be provoked or accused by alcoholics, who create diversions away from themselves. We are reminded not to react, or argue, or defend ourselves. Trying to create a defense against active alcohol...

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I started the day meeting AH at marriage therapy. Though things had been going okay (seemed to want to do better and some sobriety) he spiraled back to a point where hes out of the house for just over a week on a bender. Im grateful he respects my boundaries by staying away but still sucks alcoholism is out...

Lil99 · Lil99

Hi everyone, I've not posted for a while. I thought I was doing well, going to meetings, starting to recover and relearn behaviours. However, in the last month I've been dealing with all sorts of personal stuff and it's not been nice. I feel really low, as bad as I've ever felt since joining Al-Anon. S...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about moving away from chaos and into serenity. Like the writer, I didnt even acknowledge that I was living in chaos. When I came to alanon I began to notice when people said they were addicted to chaos. I remember many years ago, when I was still in the marria...

Elabella · Elabella

Hi everyone. Was at my weekly meeting yesterday and something interesting happened that sort of left me wondering. At some point someone had mentioned something about wining and dining at an Al Anon event, and quickly corrected themselves with the wining part. Well this left me wondering, what is A...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Today is going to be a tough day .. I have worked with a woman who is like me not perfect .. LOL. She's retiring today, and the past month has been difficult because I think we both struggle with saying "Goodbye". I have spent more time with her than I have my family working here over the past 3 years. It ma...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading compares our Al-Anon journey to legends where a hero must face great challenges before gaining treasure at journey's end. We are the heroes in our own spiritual journey of self-discovery. We explore hidden motives, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. We use program too...

Iamhere · Iamhere

As we've had rain for the last 2 days and I've had more time on my hands to meditate/read, I thought I'd start a group joy journal, and it just so happens we are beginning a new month tomorrow - so why not? I am all about trying different and new things to enhance my human experience, and have been thinking a l...

hotrod · hotrod

https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65586913/alanon-step-6-6-1-2019/Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.

tootie · tootie

I have attended one Al-Anon meeting at church and will be attending more regularly as finances allow! My brother is a "recovering alcoholic" but still drinks fairly regularly! I am reading ODAT; my wonderful friend gifted me a copy and it's been helpful! We have a history of alcoholism on my patern...

JerryF · JerryF

On it's promise to support, care and stand with me. I am assured that I continue to be abided by even as and when life seems foggy and shaky and question conditions and outcomes. I am in the atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love where I have learned and experienced is the best of all places...

tootie · tootie

I just tried to get onto the chat room without success! hELP!

Iamhere · Iamhere

Early plans tomorrow, so posting a bit early. The reading discusses how Al-Anon suggests and teaches us how to be gentle with ourselves. For many who are living or have lived in a household where alcohol is abused, this is a foreign concept. Most of us instead worked for perfection and then hated ou...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope. The author discusses decisions, and how decisions we have made and have not made have led is to where we are in life. Rather than blaming others for where we are, the author suggests that we recognize the actions we chose to take or chose not to take as the r...

hotrod · hotrod

T The ODAT reading for today May 28th speaks about the danger of holding resentments. it points out that although we may find it enjoyable to dwell on these thoughts and feel justified in evening the score and paying others back for what they've done to us-- we cannot logically punish someone for w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 5/27, discusses the challenge of letting ourselves believe that joy can exist in our lives. The author talks about the experience of having so many disappointments, that we dont want to be let down anymore. We can shut down our hearts and minds so that we no longer expect to be...

atheos · atheos

I have had a great sponsor, who understands a lot of what's going on in my life, and often has great insights. But over the past six months, she has been becoming less and less available - she has a lot of things going on in her life right now with her job and her family. It has now been more than a month since I h...

JerryF · JerryF

For Families and Friends of Alcoholics... in the monthly Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2019 in now in my home and it is free and could be found I guess in most meeting literature stacks. Though it is new-comer intended I love reading it for cause. God do I remember when I first got into recovery at the sugg...

El · El

So, today is day #3 my AH has not left his chair all day or night. Wait, I take that back.....he gets up to smoke or get a beer or go to the bathroom. No errands, no activity, nothing. Monday didn't bother me because we had a fairly busy weekend and I knew he would take the day to "unwind." Tuesday didn't bot...

Taraxacum1 · Taraxacum1

I haven't posted in a long time, but could use some support processing this I had a conversation with my mother yesterday and she told me I'm difficult to be around and complained that my son is not close to her and somehow that's my fault. Her biggest complaint was that I have set boundaries and do no...

MOF77 · MOF77

Hello everyone, Please forgive me and delete this if its not what/where I'm supposed to post. I looked for an introduction board or "where to start" instructions. This is my absolute first contact with forums or 12-step anything. I tried to read all the guidelines and information, but...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Todays reading is about tradition seven and the idea of being fully self-supporting. The page describes someone who learns to contribute to her own retirement. She develops ways to save money for herself and also spend on herself when she considered carefully the difference between wanting and...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This has been an insane week, I can't remember the last time I was so busy between work and personal life all good just kind of crazy. My youngest has made not only the Varsity Choir as a sophomore however he's made Jazz Choir as well .. yiippppeee ... this is sooo exciting because they only choose the top...

Toronto1 · Toronto1

Hi, My partner and I would like to go to couple counselling in Toronto but we would like to go to someone who has experience with families whose members were alcoholics (my mother). I don't have any addictions, and only drink on rare occasions, but I do know I am inclu the mental damage has been impacted...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

So I laugh, because my parents are like raising children which I equate to herding squirrels .. you get the group going in the same direction and look away and someone is hanging from a telephone wire 50ft in the air. What started with my dad and his inability to hear no has now morphed to my mother and her...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for today starts by quoting Socrates, "Life contains but two tragedies. One is not to get your heart's desire; the other is to get it." The problem with thinking only about our will is that either we get it and are not satisfied, always pushing for more, or that we don't get it and feel deprive...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is one I refer to often and one that I share about often...referencing the 10th Step. It suggests that at times, the healthiest thing we can do is to admit that we're not perfect - just human and that we do make mistakes. The reading suggests that it's not easy to admit this to others, esp...

Aloha · Aloha

I don't know the original source of this as it's apparently all over the internet and attributed to many recovery sites, but this really made me smile today. It makes me think in part about the Promises of Al-Anon. Enjoy! 12 Signs of a Spiritual AwakeningAn increased tendency to let things happen rat...

Lyne · Lyne

I think my A has alerted me to her drinking again by my realization that the anger, mean streak, weight gain, and going to bed as soon as she gets home, is the drinking person. There is a second personality who can be quite nice, helpful, and sincere. Lately, the nice person is seen maybe once a month, an...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! A little late today, but better late than not at all

Today's Reading in Courage to Change is about strengths and secret fears. The author shares that they were afraid in the past that if they ever took the time to really look at themselves, they would find that their secret fears were co...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change r reading for today, May 21 speaks about the seventh step- Humbly ask HP to remove our shortcomings".The reading points out that we only ask for help. We don't demand or attempt to impress. we Are simply accepting our place in our relationship my HP no more or less. we do not need t...

JerryF · JerryF

and remember that it is not about perfection and expectations are future problems". Those are a few of the realities of the program. Acceptance is the solution to all of my problems and like all tools of recovery I must work them 24/7 along side my HP. ..and MIP. ((((hugs))))

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... ... I tend to go to meetings for 5 or 6 times. I don't tend to need meetings all year round- these days. Having said this- I attend this meeting right here- regularly- every few days. The combined membership here is strong and fruitful. ... There was only one other member at the meeting- so...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning and Happy Mothers Day to all who are celebrating today:) Todays reading is about how the traditions serve as guidelines for us in Alanon and among our family and friends. To consider the welfare of the group, the power of unity in the group first, and how that helps support personal progre...

Lyne · Lyne

The topic for Monday, May 20, is obsessive thinking. The author suggests not letting it get started by making a choicerecognize the danger and drop the thought of it. Use all available alanon tools so that the topic does not get locked inside ones head. The author says that once obsessive thinking b...

Riley3 · Riley3

Why do I have to fix everything? I hate in desire to fix which just eats me up inside until I have solve the problem. I know its from being in a chaos environment but I really need to tone it down and be ok. Its like if I cant fix it then I feel terrible. It too much responsibility to behave this way. How do I go a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power in the slogan keep it simple. The writer describes worrying over whether or not she should contact a cousin whose mother is dying. She is paralyzed by the idea that she has always felt such shame in being the daughter of an alcoholic. She also...

JerryF · JerryF

My wife just got back from having lunch with my daughter-in-law at Subway Sandwich and while I got a copy of my most famous Chinese Chicken Sandwich I also got the news past, present and future. My HP is sitting with me at this keyboard doing it's very best at keeping myself spiritually level and calm. O...

Freetime · Freetime

The reading for May 17 is about living one day at a time. It reminds us of the saying, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." They laugh because the future is not predictable. We can make plans, but we cannot determine future results. Circumstances change, and we change too. We can also take hours,...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Now is the time to focus on me & my needs. I am embarking on a new adventure. Facing my mom again at the assisted care center. It has been over 6 mos.since I saw her last. I am very anxious about it. I guess I will be OK because her birthday is on Sunday & I am going to try to have a mini party for her if they...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

I love knowing that I can come here to all of your for support, encouragement and suggestions. So things have not gone will between me and AH. We are in counseling and so that is helping at least on issues that are not about when he's drinking. So the biggest things have been communication, and taking t...

Elabella · Elabella

I am in the program now to help with my current problems of learning to live with an AH. Heres the thing though, my problems all started in childhood. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family. My father was the alcoholic. When sober he was ok, when drunk horribly abusive. A monster really. Well the issues...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading discusses Tradition Eight and suggests we come together as a fellowship of equals, where no one is in charge and no one is an expert. Every member can contribute to the healing power of Al-Anon simply by sharing his/her personal story of experience, strength and hope. No special tr...

Elabella · Elabella

The other day at my meeting, the topic was detachment. I have to admit that as a newbie this whole concept is beyond me. When my AH does something, usually verbal abuse/rage, my reaction is always hurt first, and then extreme anger. I practice walking away, not getting sucked into the vortex, but I stil...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Posting a bit early because my tomorrow falls under the "crazy busy" category.

May 15th's reading is about affection and the author's response to the hugs they often see exchanged after meetings. The author shares that they used to avoid the hugs - leaving meetings right away. The au...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change readings for today May14 suggested that recovery in alanon requires a real discipline This discipline is reflected in our diligence,and patience. We can do this program by regular attendance at meetings, working the steps and embracing the basic principles each day so as to...

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	How to answer towards negstive feedbsck? (Preview) Just some moments ago someone sent their negative feedback from their unpleasant 1st time mtg in 1990s into locsl al anon email. Just trying trying to understand how to deal with it.	kadriliisa	6	5142	Jun 10, 2019 by kadriliisa
	Cruise (Preview) Good MORNING MIP Leaving for a cruise in a few minutes be back in one week take care	hotrod	8	5299	Jun 10, 2019 by Lyne
	Woke up angry and (Preview) can't figure out what it was all about. I am still thrown off by it and not trying to make up something that isn't factual about it...know what I mean? We got lots of life changing stuff going on and maybe that has something to do about it yet I haven't had this condition happen for soooo long I didn't fig...	JerryF	8	5719	Jun 10, 2019 by 2HP
	Turning points- in a life... Step 10... (Preview) Hi y'all... doing a step 10 on old stuff. I am an old man now- [or getting there fast! ]... I would love to make up for the nightmarish existence my life was. I do belong to another 12 step programme- and this has taken the place of the clinical help I sort of expected. Having access to the internet...	DavidG	14	3349	Jun 9, 2019 by DavidG
	AlAnon/Chat Room......looks completely different (Preview) I thought there might be a meeting right now, so I clicked on Chat Room Entrance, but it looks totally foreign. Am I doing something incorrectly?	lgnutah	2	613	Jun 8, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hi everyone I’m back (Preview) Hi Im back after 4 years , my A started drinking again last week after 3 1/2 years sober , I had a stroke 2 years ago my health has not been good all the stuff I use to do can not do anymore I cant help but feel responsible for him to start drinking again . I need strength Im afraid his drinking will get out of contr...	Wisdom67	4	474	Jun 8, 2019 by JerryF
	Forward .. and back .. lol (Preview) I have to laugh my HP has a truly wicked sense of humor. I am grateful for that because I am able to be in one spot and be reminded with a gentle knock things are not really different with the kids bio dad. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt .. however he continues to remind me why I don't. So I'm havin...	SerenityRUS	4	472	Jun 8, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT - June 7 (Preview) The June 7 page in ODAT says there is a difference between politeness and courtesy. Courtesy is an expression of love and concern for another's well-being, comfort, and peace of mind. We sometimes overlook courtesy in daily contacts with those we love. Reminder: "The warmth and kindness of courte...	Freetime	6	2210	Jun 7, 2019 by Iamhere
	Update(life goes on...) (Preview) Real quick: I feel better! My ah can't really see progress. Talk about no support at times. Ha asked me why I have been crying? And it is a sign of instability. He thinks I am unhappy. Truth is I am recovery is slow. I am not crying as much. I am not what he thinks. He is living in the past. I have support. Life wi...	Hoot Nanny	3	4155	Jun 7, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	Courage to Change 6/6 (Preview) Hey MIP Family....Posting the daily for tomorrow early as I'm heading out for softball shortly and golfing bright/early in the AM. Tomorrow's reading is about Step 4 - where we take a fearless and moral inventory of ourselves. For many of us, it was easy to justify our own unacceptable behavior. W...	Iamhere	4	2346	Jun 6, 2019 by 2HP
	Today's Hope June 5 (Preview) Hello mip! Today's reading is posted on today's hope. The topic is rest. The author reflects on the need for rest, and how our bodies sometimes use irritability to tell us that we need a rest. Sometimes, especially when we are busy, we feel that we cannot take the time to rest. But when we do take time for...	Skorpi	4	2001	Jun 6, 2019 by hotrod
	C2C Reading 6-4 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 6-4 speaks about the Second Step. it [points out that in this step we are asked to open our minds to the possibility of change and obtaining help . The reading suggests that we do not actually have to believe that there is as source of help that is available to us in the form of of...	hotrod	4	2411	Jun 5, 2019 by DavidG
	two weeks later... (Preview) I haven't been on here in quite awhile. At least for me. I am actually having a hard time writing this. I am in a recovery place that I have not been to in years. I am recovering from a near breakdown. I was totally worried & almost went to the hospital for my condition but it has been over to weeks since I f...	Hoot Nanny	3	2558	Jun 5, 2019 by Temple
	Update after a very long absence (Preview) i came to AlAnon several years ago truly struggling with who I am and how to live in complete insanity. Life has changed so much that I almost dont remember how crazy I was. I took a minute to look back at old posts and I was one seriously sick lady! Of course we are all works in progress, but I can honestl...	Doingmybest	7	2224	Jun 4, 2019 by Doingmybest
	C2C, 6/3 (Preview) The reading for Monday , June 3, speaks about being powerless over this disease. The author says we can be provoked or accused by alcoholics, who create diversions away from themselves. We are reminded not to react, or argue, or defend ourselves. Trying to create a defense against active alcohol...	Lyne	4	3702	Jun 3, 2019 by Iamhere
	Let myself get hooked (Preview) I started the day meeting AH at marriage therapy. Though things had been going okay (seemed to want to do better and some sobriety) he spiraled back to a point where hes out of the house for just over a week on a bender. Im grateful he respects my boundaries by staying away but still sucks alcoholism is out...	sunmustshine	12	6096	Jun 3, 2019 by KT2015
	Dealing with setbacks (Preview) Hi everyone, I've not posted for a while. I thought I was doing well, going to meetings, starting to recover and relearn behaviours. However, in the last month I've been dealing with all sorts of personal stuff and it's not been nice. I feel really low, as bad as I've ever felt since joining Al-Anon. S...	Lil99	11	3926	Jun 3, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Hope for Today June 2 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about moving away from chaos and into serenity. Like the writer, I didnt even acknowledge that I was living in chaos. When I came to alanon I began to notice when people said they were addicted to chaos. I remember many years ago, when I was still in the marria...	yanksfan51	3	2816	Jun 2, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Questions...so many questions... (Preview) Hi everyone. Was at my weekly meeting yesterday and something interesting happened that sort of left me wondering. At some point someone had mentioned something about wining and dining at an Al Anon event, and quickly corrected themselves with the wining part. Well this left me wondering, what is A...	Elabella	11	5254	Jun 1, 2019 by Elabella
	Saying Goodbye - (Preview) Today is going to be a tough day .. I have worked with a woman who is like me not perfect .. LOL. She's retiring today, and the past month has been difficult because I think we both struggle with saying "Goodbye". I have spent more time with her than I have my family working here over the past 3 years. It ma...	SerenityRUS	13	3964	Jun 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change, May 31 (Preview) Today's reading compares our Al-Anon journey to legends where a hero must face great challenges before gaining treasure at journey's end. We are the heroes in our own spiritual journey of self-discovery. We explore hidden motives, buried memories, and unrecognized talents. We use program too...	Freetime	4	4666	May 31, 2019 by El
	Idea for May - Joy Journal ( 1 2 3 ) (Preview) As we've had rain for the last 2 days and I've had more time on my hands to meditate/read, I thought I'd start a group joy journal, and it just so happens we are beginning a new month tomorrow - so why not? I am all about trying different and new things to enhance my human experience, and have been thinking a l...	Iamhere	114	8512	May 31, 2019 by El
	Step 6 (Preview) https://stepwork.activeboard.com/t65586913/alanon-step-6-6-1-2019/Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.	hotrod	1	4456	May 31, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Looking for an online sponsor! (Preview) I have attended one Al-Anon meeting at church and will be attending more regularly as finances allow! My brother is a "recovering alcoholic" but still drinks fairly regularly! I am reading ODAT; my wonderful friend gifted me a copy and it's been helpful! We have a history of alcoholism on my patern...	tootie	2	5647	May 31, 2019 by Aloha
	Higher Power not falling back (Preview) On it's promise to support, care and stand with me. I am assured that I continue to be abided by even as and when life seems foggy and shaky and question conditions and outcomes. I am in the atmosphere of acceptance and unconditional love where I have learned and experienced is the best of all places...	JerryF	6	6133	May 30, 2019 by sunmustshine
	Trouble with online chat (Preview) I just tried to get onto the chat room without success! hELP!	tootie	1	2729	May 30, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 5/30/19 (Preview) Early plans tomorrow, so posting a bit early. The reading discusses how Al-Anon suggests and teaches us how to be gentle with ourselves. For many who are living or have lived in a household where alcohol is abused, this is a foreign concept. Most of us instead worked for perfection and then hated ou...	Iamhere	4	4231	May 30, 2019 by canadianguy
	Today's Hope May 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's share is from Today's Hope. The author discusses decisions, and how decisions we have made and have not made have led is to where we are in life. Rather than blaming others for where we are, the author suggests that we recognize the actions we chose to take or chose not to take as the r...	Skorpi	5	2048	May 30, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	ODAT Reading Tuesday 5-28 (Preview) T The ODAT reading for today May 28th speaks about the danger of holding resentments. it points out that although we may find it enjoyable to dwell on these thoughts and feel justified in evening the score and paying others back for what they've done to us-- we cannot logically punish someone for w...	hotrod	7	5461	May 28, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C, 5/27 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 5/27, discusses the challenge of letting ourselves believe that joy can exist in our lives. The author talks about the experience of having so many disappointments, that we dont want to be let down anymore. We can shut down our hearts and minds so that we no longer expect to be...	Lyne	4	978	May 28, 2019 by Aloha
	Need advice or ESH on changing sponsors (Preview) I have had a great sponsor, who understands a lot of what's going on in my life, and often has great insights. But over the past six months, she has been becoming less and less available - she has a lot of things going on in her life right now with her job and her family. It has now been more than a month since I h...	atheos	10	1165	May 28, 2019 by Aloha
	Help and Hope (Preview) For Families and Friends of Alcoholics... in the monthly Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism 2019 in now in my home and it is free and could be found I guess in most meeting literature stacks. Though it is new-comer intended I love reading it for cause. God do I remember when I first got into recovery at the sugg...	JerryF	7	2263	May 27, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Trying, trying trying (Preview) So, today is day #3 my AH has not left his chair all day or night. Wait, I take that back.....he gets up to smoke or get a beer or go to the bathroom. No errands, no activity, nothing. Monday didn't bother me because we had a fairly busy weekend and I knew he would take the day to "unwind." Tuesday didn't bot...	El	21	4580	May 27, 2019 by tiredtonite
	Processing a difficult conversation - your insight welcome (Preview) I haven't posted in a long time, but could use some support processing this I had a conversation with my mother yesterday and she told me I'm difficult to be around and complained that my son is not close to her and somehow that's my fault. Her biggest complaint was that I have set boundaries and do no...	Taraxacum1	19	4905	May 27, 2019 by Maresie889
	New here-help (Preview) Hello everyone, Please forgive me and delete this if its not what/where I'm supposed to post. I looked for an introduction board or "where to start" instructions. This is my absolute first contact with forums or 12-step anything. I tried to read all the guidelines and information, but...	MOF77	22	4742	May 26, 2019 by Maresie889
	Hope for Today May 26 (Preview) Todays reading is about tradition seven and the idea of being fully self-supporting. The page describes someone who learns to contribute to her own retirement. She develops ways to save money for herself and also spend on herself when she considered carefully the difference between wanting and...	yanksfan51	4	631	May 26, 2019 by DavidG
	Funny Friday (Preview) This has been an insane week, I can't remember the last time I was so busy between work and personal life all good just kind of crazy. My youngest has made not only the Varsity Choir as a sophomore however he's made Jazz Choir as well .. yiippppeee ... this is sooo exciting because they only choose the top...	SerenityRUS	4	452	May 26, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Couple counselling in Toronto (Preview) Hi, My partner and I would like to go to couple counselling in Toronto but we would like to go to someone who has experience with families whose members were alcoholics (my mother). I don't have any addictions, and only drink on rare occasions, but I do know I am inclu the mental damage has been impacted...	Toronto1	2	462	May 24, 2019 by Iamhere
	Update *When is enough .. enough? (Preview) So I laugh, because my parents are like raising children which I equate to herding squirrels .. you get the group going in the same direction and look away and someone is hanging from a telephone wire 50ft in the air. What started with my dad and his inability to hear no has now morphed to my mother and her...	SerenityRUS	19	5060	May 24, 2019 by JerryF
	Courage to Change, May 24 (Preview) The reading for today starts by quoting Socrates, "Life contains but two tragedies. One is not to get your heart's desire; the other is to get it." The problem with thinking only about our will is that either we get it and are not satisfied, always pushing for more, or that we don't get it and feel deprive...	Freetime	5	651	May 24, 2019 by El
	Courage to Change 5/23/19 (Preview) Today's reading is one I refer to often and one that I share about often...referencing the 10th Step. It suggests that at times, the healthiest thing we can do is to admit that we're not perfect - just human and that we do make mistakes. The reading suggests that it's not easy to admit this to others, esp...	Iamhere	2	2393	May 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	12 Signs of a Spiritual Awakening (Preview) I don't know the original source of this as it's apparently all over the internet and attributed to many recovery sites, but this really made me smile today. It makes me think in part about the Promises of Al-Anon. Enjoy! 12 Signs of a Spiritual AwakeningAn increased tendency to let things happen rat...	Aloha	5	3507	May 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	Two personalities (Preview) I think my A has alerted me to her drinking again by my realization that the anger, mean streak, weight gain, and going to bed as soon as she gets home, is the drinking person. There is a second personality who can be quite nice, helpful, and sincere. Lately, the nice person is seen maybe once a month, an...	Lyne	10	2277	May 23, 2019 by Lyne
	Courage to Change May 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! A little late today, but better late than not at all Today's Reading in Courage to Change is about strengths and secret fears. The author shares that they were afraid in the past that if they ever took the time to really look at themselves, they would find that their secret fears were co...	Skorpi	4	720	May 22, 2019 by Iamhere
	C2C Reading 5-21 (Preview) The Courage to Change r reading for today, May 21 speaks about the seventh step- Humbly ask HP to remove our shortcomings".The reading points out that we only ask for help. We don't demand or attempt to impress. we Are simply accepting our place in our relationship my HP no more or less. we do not need t...	hotrod	3	1857	May 21, 2019 by El
	"I know that it works if I work it (Preview) and remember that it is not about perfection and expectations are future problems". Those are a few of the realities of the program. Acceptance is the solution to all of my problems and like all tools of recovery I must work them 24/7 along side my HP. ..and MIP. ((((hugs))))	JerryF	8	2185	May 21, 2019 by JerryF
	Went to a f2f meeting... (Preview) Hi y'all... ... I tend to go to meetings for 5 or 6 times. I don't tend to need meetings all year round- these days. Having said this- I attend this meeting right here- regularly- every few days. The combined membership here is strong and fruitful. ... There was only one other member at the meeting- so...	DavidG	9	2012	May 21, 2019 by jitsuka
	Hope for Today May 12 (Preview) Good morning and Happy Mothers Day to all who are celebrating today:) Todays reading is about how the traditions serve as guidelines for us in Alanon and among our family and friends. To consider the welfare of the group, the power of unity in the group first, and how that helps support personal progre...	yanksfan51	4	4255	May 20, 2019 by DavidG
	C2C, May 20 (Preview) The topic for Monday, May 20, is obsessive thinking. The author suggests not letting it get started by making a choicerecognize the danger and drop the thought of it. Use all available alanon tools so that the topic does not get locked inside ones head. The author says that once obsessive thinking b...	Lyne	6	2571	May 20, 2019 by El
	Trying to get rid of this desire to fix (Preview) Why do I have to fix everything? I hate in desire to fix which just eats me up inside until I have solve the problem. I know its from being in a chaos environment but I really need to tone it down and be ok. Its like if I cant fix it then I feel terrible. It too much responsibility to behave this way. How do I go a...	Riley3	6	1256	May 20, 2019 by Aloha
	Hope for Today May 19 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power in the slogan keep it simple. The writer describes worrying over whether or not she should contact a cousin whose mother is dying. She is paralyzed by the idea that she has always felt such shame in being the daughter of an alcoholic. She also...	yanksfan51	4	4752	May 19, 2019 by El
	Needing to go back over my journey and the trails (Preview) My wife just got back from having lunch with my daughter-in-law at Subway Sandwich and while I got a copy of my most famous Chinese Chicken Sandwich I also got the news past, present and future. My HP is sitting with me at this keyboard doing it's very best at keeping myself spiritually level and calm. O...	JerryF	12	3994	May 18, 2019 by hotrod
	Courage to Change, May 17 (Preview) The reading for May 17 is about living one day at a time. It reminds us of the saying, "When we talk of tomorrow, the gods laugh." They laugh because the future is not predictable. We can make plans, but we cannot determine future results. Circumstances change, and we change too. We can also take hours,...	Freetime	7	701	May 18, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	there is no time like the present! (Preview) Now is the time to focus on me & my needs. I am embarking on a new adventure. Facing my mom again at the assisted care center. It has been over 6 mos.since I saw her last. I am very anxious about it. I guess I will be OK because her birthday is on Sunday & I am going to try to have a mini party for her if they...	Hoot Nanny	5	2025	May 18, 2019 by Hoot Nanny
	need feedback and suggestions (Preview) I love knowing that I can come here to all of your for support, encouragement and suggestions. So things have not gone will between me and AH. We are in counseling and so that is helping at least on issues that are not about when he's drinking. So the biggest things have been communication, and taking t...	Dancer66	4	3886	May 17, 2019 by Bo
	Not sure if AlAnon can help with all of my issues? (Preview) I am in the program now to help with my current problems of learning to live with an AH. Heres the thing though, my problems all started in childhood. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family. My father was the alcoholic. When sober he was ok, when drunk horribly abusive. A monster really. Well the issues...	Elabella	15	5251	May 17, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Courage to Change 5/16/19 (Preview) Today's reading discusses Tradition Eight and suggests we come together as a fellowship of equals, where no one is in charge and no one is an expert. Every member can contribute to the healing power of Al-Anon simply by sharing his/her personal story of experience, strength and hope. No special tr...	Iamhere	2	377	May 16, 2019 by El
	Why is detaching with love so hard to do? (Preview) The other day at my meeting, the topic was detachment. I have to admit that as a newbie this whole concept is beyond me. When my AH does something, usually verbal abuse/rage, my reaction is always hurt first, and then extreme anger. I practice walking away, not getting sucked into the vortex, but I stil...	Elabella	23	6226	May 16, 2019 by Riley3
	Courage to Change May 15 (Preview) Hello MIP! Posting a bit early because my tomorrow falls under the "crazy busy" category. May 15th's reading is about affection and the author's response to the hugs they often see exchanged after meetings. The author shares that they used to avoid the hugs - leaving meetings right away. The au...	Skorpi	6	578	May 15, 2019 by El
	C2C Reading 5-14 (Preview) The Courage to Change readings for today May14 suggested that recovery in alanon requires a real discipline This discipline is reflected in our diligence,and patience. We can do this program by regular attendance at meetings, working the steps and embracing the basic principles each day so as to...	hotrod	5	472	May 14, 2019 by El
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