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Good morning and Happy Mothers Day to all who are celebrating today:)
Todays reading is about how the traditions serve as guidelines for us in Alanon and among our family and friends. To consider the welfare of the group, the power of unity in the group first, and how that helps support personal progress is integral in the healthiness of the group. We learn in tradition two about the importance of saying what we need to one time, but that repetition of an opinion hints at attempting to influence or control others. The traditions help us appreciate the power of the group and our part as a participant within the group.
As a teacher I am reminded of a beginning of year activity when a class decides and agrees upon classroom rules, all together. The strength of the team is impressed upon everyone who is a part of the group. I am going to work on remembering this in my classroom, my family and all groups that I am part of!
Good Morning Mary i love the Traditions, as the principles that they have provided me with are lovely guidelines which enable me to interact at meetings and in the world with courage and dignity.
Thank you for your service.
Thank you Mary for your service and the daily. Thank you also for the shares and ESH above. I too love the traditions and find value in them for all aspects of my life. I believe embracing what's designed in Al-Anon not only gives me a healthy blueprint for relationships, it gives me a solid plan for peaceful exchanges. No matter who, what, when, where, why - I am free to think and voice what I value and then let it all go.
Happy mother's day to one and all! Make it a great day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Mary, for your service today! The Traditions indeed make a group meeting/situation healthier. I like that they are there so that the group can focus on providing what is needed to the newcomer and veteran alike.
I happen to LOVE Tradition 2, b/c I spent most of my adult life making "suggestions" and repeating myself until I was blue in the face! LOL! The thought that repetition of opinion "hints at attempting to influence or control others," was a foreign concept at first... I mean, let them live their own lives as they see fit? WHAT??? Are you crazy???? What about all the things that could happen???? Not to mention the fact that I always know what's "best!"
Oh man, I look back at it now and just shake my head. LOL!
The Traditions -specifically Tradition 2- have helped me to become a better Mother. I am now learning how to GUIDE... not control or manipulate.
Today, I am grateful that I have found my own "Guide" so that I can move into this next stage of motherhood with grace and dignity... and not do too much damage to my kid!! LOL!!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Hi Mary... and y'all... ... at last nights meeting they talked about Concept 5. Sometimes I just say the first thing that come into my head.
I said- the if and when we have group issues- we have already shared. So decisions and understandings come from a place of trust and respect.
Group conflict, or perceived group conflict sometimes came from my history of family discord. I had to be guarded- to some extent- but at the same time
be prepared to participate, regardless. Because this was a chance for me to learn.
Looking at the middle steps- and lots of us going through those steps- the only way through was through.
I can look back now and laugh. But it was no laughing matter- at the time! Things often seemed dire, and impossible. ...
I can say "was" now, mostly. I see that now, as a part of the journey. .
and y'all... 
... at last nights meeting they talked about Concept 5. Sometimes I just say the first thing that come into my head.
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