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Leading with love
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Today, my Sunday School class was led by a man who is 89 years old. I love to listen to the knowledge and experience that older people bring to me Our lesson was about Jesus going to the Pharisee's house, and the prostitute to followed Him there. This was where she cried tears of repentance, and washed his...
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Question about alcoholics sharing @ Al-anon meetings
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Hi everybody! I´m all new to this forum (though not to Al-anon), I hope to explore it more but right now I have a burning question I hope someone here might be able to answer. Please do excuse any misspellings etc, english is not my language (I´m Swedish) Recently, a situation occured in my home group. W...
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So hard not to pick up the rope
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Okay, it's been 4 days. I haven't responded to the text about the stupid sleeping bag... and I know that the only thing he set out to accomplish was to have me react...which I didn't. However, I still find myself agonizing over a way to respond, which I know is a completely futile exercise...no outco...
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Again, not related to alcoholism, but I need to get this off my chest. And you guys are so nice.
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I have a daughter. I gave her up for adoption at birth. I had an agreement with her new parents that I would get pictures. But, I'm getting ahead of myself. My ex-husband left me for another woman and abandoned me in California when I was 6 months pregnant. After I was trying to make our marriage work f...
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WhiskeyLullabye
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My serenity
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as most here knows Ive got my ASIs and abf living here with me in my home ,ASIs has been constantly warning me to open my eyes to what abf is doing outside my home I allow him to use my shed for a place to put tools and just for him a place to go to,abf seems to me to be very straight up with me and respectful toward m...
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Pity Party
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Today I found myself in a pity party. The realization that my dry AH has been having an affair with a former co-worker for a long time. This affair probably started in the 90s. I remember hearing her name all the time but never did I think it was an affair. I moved out over a year and half ago because I found...
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I AM shaking it!
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I am starting to shake whatever it is that is bothering me. I am not my thoughts. Sometimes I feel disconnected. But I am doing the action steps to make the most of what I have. What I have a freedom that I found in Al anon. It is about time I let the Program work. It works if you work it. I guess I should follow my...
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Hoot Nanny
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Sad
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My AF alcoholism has made it much more painful for me to be around him (we don't live in the same town), but I'm visiting this weekend. He told me today that a few weeks ago he went into a store, bought a bottle of vodka, and was drinking in his car. Thankfully, a security guard saw this and called the police....
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Mikhail
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Courage To Change 11/4
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Todays courage to change talks about continuing to come back to al-anon whether we are living with active alcoholism or not. It discusses using al-anon as our "light in the darkness" and a way to keep structure in our lives and maintain a rational perspective.The reading points out that no matter how...
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missmeliss
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Failure
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Todays message in church today was about failure. How we are going to fail, its ok to fail, learn from our failures, and use them to do good for others. How our loved ones are going to fail and it makes us hurt angry and feel guilty at times especially if we tried to warn them and they didn't heed our warn...
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SEX
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as some of you know from my post last night he had been binge beer drinking and was passing out at about 6:30 PM. I went into another room and did my steps, I didn't try to wake him up or argue. his son was in his own room playing on his phone. I read I watched some TV and eventually fell asleep . sometime around m...
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Courage to Change 4-10-2016
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The C2C reading for April 10 speaks about the simple fact that as the result of having lived with the disease of alcoholism, many of us view ourselves as victims of other people's abuse. It is shocking when we enter Al-Anon and are asked to look at ourselves ,examine our motives and to see how we have ha...
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page 100 ODAAT in Al-Anon Daily Reader
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Never ceases to bring back the thought force which was the tap root for me understanding that "I could be wrong when I was judging and taking a know it all attitude against the alcoholic/addict wife" I judge her/them quite harshly until I got to that page and the help of the old timers. "Thank you Go...
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Jerry F
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Wondering if this is common
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I've observed that when I am super nice to my son and we've been getting along great for a few days he will out of nowhere get mouthy or try to pick an argument. His now deceased dad who was on again off again in recovery used to do the same thing. I don't think it's a learned behaviour my son picked up from his d...
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Doves
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Ugh
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I may go out and get a bottle of whiskey. Cuz I'm in pain and crying. Years ago, a dentist in California did a feeling and screwed it up. Had it fixed by a dentist in Missouri, but he said the damage was pretty bad and I would have trouble with it again eventually. Eventually is here. I don't have dental i...
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WhiskeyLullabye
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why can't I shake it?
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Some things are hard to get rid of. I just hope that today I can make the most of what I have to work w/. You all have been on my mind. I haven't forgotten how much you have helped me through difficult times. I just feel like sometimes I am on my own. I don't have internet at home. I decided a long time ago that I wo...
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Hoot Nanny
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Courage to Change (C2C) 4/8/16
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Good morning MIP family and TGIF!!! Today's reading discusses the value in looking at our past. We are able to gain insight into the present as well as clues for things that might need to be changed for a better future. Many of us denied, distorted or lost touch with painful memories. Facing the real...
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Iamhere
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HALT
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Not my best day. Started off with me being asked to help a co worker out and drive 21 miles to an area not familiar with, but I rely on Google maps. Got close to the airport and my phone literally fries in my hand! Its currently a cold glob of molten plastic and Verizon is making me use my insurance because t...
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Fooled
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C2C 4-9-2016
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The C2C reading for April 9 talks about how we after living with the disease of alcoholism we develp many negative coping tools to survive the insanity . Many have developed the ability to deny our feelings in the mistaken idea that not feeling is better than processing our feelings and learning f...
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hotrod
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Checking In
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It's been awhile, but I do come back when I can and read your posts. It was five years ago today that I left my AH. I cried back then when I got the keys to my little apartment. I could not imagine that there was any hope on that dark day. But my HP had other plans for me. Today, I'm feeling very blessed. A bigger a...
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Green Eyes
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So angry
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Last night almost 18 year old son called home that he bought a car. Yes most parents would be proud that he worked for it to buy it himself and yes that part I am proud of, BUT he is not fully licensed yet , only has G1 and doesn't go for G2 for another 2 weeks and hasn't passed it yet so don't know if he will be full...
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Doves
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Lost my sanity
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ABF has been on a bender for 4 days non stop. Yesterday, I finally blew a gasket on him. I totally lost my sanity. I just had enough of the booze and him being drunk and I said some nasty things to him. Today, I am still mad and fed up. He is sleeping again, the usual, drink and sleep...that has become his life a...
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Please help?
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Can someone give me a little insight? My boyfriend has been sober for nearly 7 1/2 years. He recently bought (January) a beautiful engagement ring for me and planned to propose but some recent deaths in my family and a squabble with my mom has left me depressed and lashing out in anger. (He's 30. I'm 35.)...
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So here I am.. sitting in another room
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Came home and he is all buzzed. Mumbling nonsense, mumbling he doesnt deserve me or his son, and now half asleep (it is only 6:30) I have not accused him of drinking again (which is so hard for me because its so obvious) I am hanging out in another room and responding to his "oh I lovvveee youuuu baby" with o...
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Aerin
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Day Four - Feeling even more encouraged
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Good Friday morning. It snowed here overnight. Ugh! My AH and I had a very good talk last night. He spoke from his heart. He was humble, remorseful, and compassionate towards me. He told me that he had spoken with an AA mentor each day, since Monday night, and he has learned a lot about himself. He said he r...
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sweetness34
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working the program - still sad
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My ex-ABF decided to reach out after 3 weeks of non-communication. The last thing he said to me was that I needed to let him handle his s&^t. So, I did. I haven't reached out, and I've been going to meetings, reading, and learning that there is nothing I can do over this situation. He's 9 years sob...
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marniep222
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Going in Reverse today... Need Forward Motion... :/
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Welp... I Haven't Spilled any Stain/Gloss So Far today so I Guess I'm Grateful for that ;) 4th Coat On and Complete :) Its been a Tough Morning/afternoon... Strange how Fast things can Turn around in about an hour Span of a Day... I Friend I Went to School With Showed up at my Shop today, We Talk on Social M...
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Jozie
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It Continues
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I'm still not smoking. I've had a headache all day - I'm blaming nicotine withdrawals - but I've gone 3 days without smoking. I'm not gonna throw that time away. Bf still hasn't had a drink. We spent the evening together again. It's really nice and peaceful, but I hate him having to leave. I want him...
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WhiskeyLullabye
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Mad and sad
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I am new to this as well as new to Alnon. My fiancé is an alcoholic and he seems to be heading down an awful path right now. He is drinking and driving, he picks up our children half in the bag from school, he is lying about money and where is is during the day along with the mental abuse while drunk. I am so mad at...
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Stressed . . .
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Sorry, this doesn't relate to my bf's drinking problem, but I'm feeling pretty stressed. I'm about to pay my electric bill online which will leave me with $4 for the rest of the week. I've been trying to work extra hours, but it looks like that's not gonna work out. I work at a call center conducting su...
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WhiskeyLullabye
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Florida Bound Next Week - Clearwater Area
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Hello MIP Family - I am headed to the Clearwater Florida area next week - Thursday night thru Sunday noonish.... I am going for a wedding on Saturday and will be spending time with FOO!! Yippee, Yahoo and all that jazz for me... If anybody is in the area and can point me to a preferred meeting, I'd be grate...
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Iamhere
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my inner mean and angry voice
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I'm working on this running dialogue in my head where my AH is so dumb and anything he does is wrong. It is mean and nasty stuff, and based on the assumption he is some how the cause of everything bad in my life and generally a bumbling idiot -- neither of which are true of course. And it's constant - he does so...
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Courage to Change (C2C) 4/7/16
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Good morning MIP family! Today's reading shares the perception that God may have a sense of humor! The writer discusses an invitation to speak at an Al-Anon meeting she had never attended before. He/she had preconceived ideas of what the group would be like, what he/she would say and how it would g...
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Iamhere
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Breakdown
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I'm in complete shock. My partner is in month 3 of treatment he's in a secondary facility this is the 3rd time we have been through this. Yesterday I told him I wanted to break contact I'm so confused and now he is too I was supporting him but just lately I'm full of anxiety and I just don't know how to go on. We...
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It starts today, and I am hopeful.
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My husband of 9 years (second marriage for both) might have seen the light today. On Monday evening, he left a bar at 5:30 and wasn't home by 6:30. The bar is just five minutes from home. I tried calling him because I was concerned about him. My son had asked him earlier, if he wanted a ride home because he di...
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sweetness34
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Oh, Hi there HP :-)
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So this morning I was sitting in my room, at my desk, thinking about how I wish I had some spare money to purchase a second desk to put in the lounge room, because its turning cold here and that's the only room with heating, plus I am a bit nomadic and like to change it up from time to time. ANYWAY. While I was si...
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missmeliss
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Free Fall
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I was invited to a family therapy phone call by my AH in rehab. I was excited for the opportunity to understand recovery better and become closer through participating. The session went in a direction I didn't expect. My AH started in a great way saying he wanted us to be nicer to each other. He then went o...
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sunmustshine
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Another Day in the Life... Up? Or Down?
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So I have been Working On "Why" I think/do the things I Do.. and Trying to be aware of my "Now" Thoughts.. And what maybe some of My "Triggers" are... WOW I think I Hit them ALL just Today... So I am Slow in my Office, and had some things to Stain in our Shop, so thought Why Not... Its Chilly out but I Can Bundle u...
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Jozie
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Update
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Had a meltdown last night or rather 2am. I was cleaning yesterday and since i couldnt sleep,decided to check out some envies i found. One was chock full of old boyfriends ' poems and letters i had wrote. it also contained a cauntionary note i had written to my self eight months into the relationship with...
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YARNCRAZY
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My first On line Support Meeting... Court Mandated But Looking Forward To learn ...
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Ok so to keep custody of my children I must Attend Al Anon but with a crazy new work schedule and 3 kids at home its soooo hard... I really want to take part in a actual group but for now lunch online classes is what I can do. Im reading all topics on here and I can relate in many. My question is when do you know t...
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RubiRivera
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less stress today
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My daughter moved out and its been a relief. I had been so obsessed over her and her well being. She is doing fine in her own place now. I am now at home with the ABF and I am not worried. I see he is a full blown alcoholic and can not stay sober beyond 3 days. Not my issue, not my problem. I see the same merry go roun...
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joker
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Goodbye Cigarettes!!!
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I'm back to quitting smoking. I had my last cigarette last night. I WILL NOT have another one. Bf is still sober. He's gonna spend the evening with me and he said he's bringing chocolate to help me ignore the nicotine cravings. That is one addiction I will never give up - chocolate. I would ask you a...
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WhiskeyLullabye
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Courage to change 4/4
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Today's c2c speaks of how we can become so overwhelmed with worry and responsibility that we forget to enjoy the simple things. As a example, the reading describes how in their earlier life they had loved the stillness of mornings but that living with an alcohlic had tranformed their mornings into ju...
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missmeliss
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Groundhog day?
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Is it normal at some point in your own recovery for it to be a struggle? Every day in and out having to be focusing on getting rid of the crazies? Is this is how the alcoholic feels? Its like a perpetual diet. No wonder there are relapses. Some days you want the hot fudge sundae I am hoping that someon...
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Fooled
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Powerless might be my new favorite word
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Things have been hard here lately (well, for the past few years) and haven't gotten better. Last night I couldn't sleep, I was so mad and upset and scared that the marriage is over, that I'll never get well enough to leave my room, that my oldest kid will not make it through her medical issues, lots of thin...
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FHP
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Limbo, Stress, Complaining
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It's been a couple months since I have gone to a meeting. I had two years though, which felt good. Perhaps I have issues with some of the meetings. While I find some constructive, others are not so. Being that my time is much limited and most meetings require a somewhat lengthy drive, I've found myself le...
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timepress
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Using HALT
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I've been doing really well with not counting AHs drinks. So we'll that I didn't even realize how intoxicated he was yesterday until I found myself smack in the middle of him trying to pick a fight. The last few days I can tell he's frustrated with me about something to do with things I haven't comple...
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KT2015
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AH is the FUN dad..
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So after admitting he has a problem last night, my husband apparently kept my daughter home from school (3rd grade) again to go hiking. This is typical behavior on his end. He will do something to let us down as a family: Not pick up a kid after school because he was out hiking longer than he thought he woul...
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LeahLEOWife
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The one-sided house I live in ... and my new resolution
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Hello everyone. I went to my first therapy/counseling session a week ago and that was a good thing. I have not made it to a F2F meeting yet but it's on my calendar now. I have been reading al-anon stuff voraciously. I went to the gym for the first time in .... oh well, we won't even say. I made myself a tiny goa...
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Fedora
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At least there was no fighting
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Not sure, not even going to guess, but if I were to place a bet I would have to say that tomorrow the sobriety clock starts at again. At first I wasn't sure, so I just kept my mouth shut and watched during dinner. He asked me the same question 3 times!! He tried to keep a physical distance from me so I wouldn...
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Fooled
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feed back on this subject would be helpful.
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I havent posted on here for a while but could do with some advice or feedback if possible. I have worked up to step 8 in my workbook and with the help of meetings and my friend and guide the vicar, I am now in a better place having taken time out for myself to heal from my estranged husband. He broke up with me a...
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annie5079
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Courage to Change 6/4
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Today's C2C is highly topical for me, as I am in the midst of developing a cold right now!! It begins by likening the symptoms of a cold to the symptoms of alcoholism- such as blackouts and mood changes. The reading suggests that we too display similar symptoms to the alcoholic with our obsession, anxi...
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missmeliss
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Disrespectful
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Hi All, It's been a few weeks since I've been active on here - been busy at different doctors and just lots of resting (to my dismay). No new news re the physical illness, but a few updates re ex-A fiancé. The guy I remember made a bit of an appearance (not in person). He called several times and when I didn...
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Jaclyn
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Getting Even..?
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So I am new here. Kinda pissed I have to be here, but at the same time I am glad there is somewhere I can go to get a sanity check. Why didn't I come here years ago? My husband and I have been going to marriage counseling after he had an affair. It was very hard for me to deal with - the affair. For years, he has been...
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LeahLEOWife
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Another one lost to addiction......
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I'm so very sad. The very first person who welcomed me into program has lost her son to addiction. My heart breaks for her and the family. I don't usually cry when others lose their kids in program but I know this woman. She was the first person I asked to be my sponsor and I always wanted to see her at my e...
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andromeda
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The "Family Disease"
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I'm the alcoholic in the family. I haven't had a drink in 20 years (April 1, 1996), but stopped going to meetings years ago. I've been a dry drunk for the last 15 years. I've recently started going back to meetings, getting a new sponsor, working the steps, and feeling better and better about myself....
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Michael72
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Ships in the night.
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Oh sigh. So the guy next door (nice, super friendly, kind of crazy and obvious drug habit) hasn't been around for over a week and I've been concerned because no-one has moved any stuff out, he took his dogs, didn't ask me to keep an eye on the place etc and hasn't replied to texts..all out of character. Wel...
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missmeliss
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Very weird morning but coping
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Today is my day off work for the first day in 6 days. On these days I normally get up when my dog tells me she needs to go out to urinate about 7 AM so I get another hour sleep from my normal 6 AM wake up time for work. This morning at 4:30 AM my dog started barking and growling at the window looking out toward the fr...
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Doves
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Very Sad ****warning - Suicide Mentioned ****
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Hi everyone, I know I don't post often anymore, but I still read your posts at least daily (and sometimes twice daily). My life has been amazingly better and my AH has been in recovery for almost a year now. His sobriety date is the 11th, so we are almost there. When he was in the worst place imaginable f...
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Doingmybest
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A mad house, but the good kind :-)
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Well, this morning I was meant to have an annoying appointment, which I was grumpy about, and then it was cancelled at the last minute, yay!! Daughter was having some kind of mental breakdown because we haven't been to the gym for a week and today she had friends coming over to stay tonight which was goin...
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