Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

DM2021 · DM2021

I do wish we did not have to continually change the clocks twice a year!! I still have to do my car, which takes a manual to do!!

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor once considered forgiveness as a visible sign of their moral superiority, to bestowed as a form of power rather than a true moving forward from an event. As they learned they have neither the right nor wisdom to judge the behavior of others, it became clear that forgiveness was mo...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that alcoholics drink because they are people that drink--it's not because of you or me. We cannot change this with guilt, shouting, begging, distracting, hiding money, bottles, or keys, lying, threatening, or reasoning. We didn't cause it, we cannot control it, and we sure as hec...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author learned in Al-Anon about self-care: how to take care of self physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They also added financial responsibility, and took to heart the 7th Tradition: self-supporting, living within their means. They learned to save for their future needs, witho...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how despite our best efforts, we may be repeating habits and behaviors instilled in us during childhood. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and learning to deal with life in unhealthy ways. Specifically the writer did not know how...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of fear, and of how where once fear might have prevented us from participating fully in our own lives, al-anon gives us tools to accept fear and work with it. Instead of being paralysed and imagining terrible outcomes we can take inventory to ensure we are putting our best selves for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares about the struggle to separate their will from their HP's will. Sometimes, a desperate urge to act can be an indication that it is the authors will, while a calm certainty indicates their HP's will. When there isn't a clear indication, the author can wait, seek th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page describes a place filled with discouragement, tormented and circular thoughts, apprehension and confusion. This is the place inside our head that some lived in before finding the miracle of AlAnon. Reminder: Every meeting we attend, page we read, and fellow member we share with take...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer realized that after living with alcoholism, a disease of attitudes, they had been left with a poor self-image and a negative outlook. But they realized that one can transform themself, by changing self-defeating attitudes. One can become a more beautiful human being by freely express...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power in all of us coming together to share experience, strength and hope. The writer describes each: Experience- when we share our individual stories with one another, we are also sharing that no one is alone in this. Living in alcoholism can be...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C speaks of maturity. The writer recognises that when they first began their journey, their behaviour was very immature. It suggests that in taking inventory and considering what maturity looks like for us an an individual, we can work out our goals and how we can use al-anon to achieve the...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to MIP, recently I have been reading the sharings on the board, also in Hope For Today, it was talking about a lot of issues, like learned behaviour, responsibility, care taking. So I decided to put them all together and share of how I feel about all of them. How did I become a Caretaker, being so respon...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer in Courage to Change was puzzled by the slogan THINK -- because it was their own thinking that had been causing their problems. Then they realized it was like the safety rule "Stop Look, and Listen." Instead of lashing out when someone is unkind to them, they can pause, THINK and then mak...

DM2021 · DM2021

Personal blessing for Betty (Hotrod) on the Anniversary of her passing. It was on February 29, 2020 that you left us and you are very missed Betty.

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon suggests that there can be no progress without humility. This brings forth resistance and puzzlement for some, but eventually we see that humility is not accepting poor behavior, but abandoning self-will and learning to yield to a higher power.From this perspective, we realize that it is o...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares that detachment from alcoholic problems, and disentanglement from difficulties, helps it becomes easier to stop impulsive decisions. We can work on this by pausing, thinking things through, and then forming a constructive action. With practice we will be able to build a seren...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the obstacle that fear can bring to our lives. The writer describes reactions to fear including procrastination, running away or withdrawal. The writer understands that these reactions not only do nothing to help with facing fears, they can actua...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer in Hope for Today learned that carrying the message, as stated in Step Twelve, does not mean they have to convert other people to Al-Anon. They can share their own experience, strength, and hope, but how that is received is out of their control. They can respond to direct questions ab...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's C2C likens taking our own inventory and finding deficits or defects to finding an empty shelf in a supermarket. In this way the reading invites us to consider finding our shelves "empty" as an opportunity to replenish our stock much as a shop-keeper might do. The reading goes on to say if we don...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that, since they had adult responsibilities even as a child, it wasn't a surprise that they grew up to be a care taker. It was automatic and comfortable to put whatever crisis and needs of another in front of their own needs. When the author realized tha...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Alanon helped today's writer move away from perfectionism when decision making and accept that we can only make decisions with what we know at the time and do our best with it. Input can come from as many different sources as we allow, and can include our higher power, friends, readings... The reality...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that we punish ourselves far more than life does. We have the power to change our lives if we are willing to use it. Suggestions are to root out doubt and fear from our qualifier's drinking. Suspicion may creep up even if sobriety is attained, for instance if they are late. We should a...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: The sentence that jumped out at me from todays page is from the middle of the text: Recovery is not a contest. Todays reading is about acknowledging that slips and falling back into pre alanon behavior/reactions is part of recovery. Our slogan progress, not perfection is men...

Iamhere · Iamhere

https://alanon.activeboard.com/t68134315/alanon-chatroom/?page=last#lastPostAnchor

Youknowme · Youknowme

I have a really awful neighbour. I'm sure some people remember; I used to complain about him here all the time. He never got any better, I have just learned to ignore him and go about my increasingly serene life. Anyway, he is always screaming at people, fighting with his girlfriend, smashing things, h...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer in Hope for Today learned that, when listing all persons they had harmed, to put their own name on the list for amends. Making amends would mean changing their harmful behaviors, and it couldn't be done all at once. It had to be done in small steps, and they could forgive themselves for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares how living with alcoholism is like living through a tornado. Not only do you have to watch out for the tornado, but also for what the tornado picks up and hurls at you! Alcoholism often brings with it other problems, like verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, illnes...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading speaks of limited thinking, and how we can become lost in our predicted outcomes, and feel hopeless. But we can't possibly imagine all possible outcomes, so when we feel trapped in our limited thinking, that's when it's time to turn it over to our HP. Often, this is when miracles happe...

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone. I did the disappearing act and got bit in the rear. Actually things have been ok till aging parents and not knowing boundaries that let the mind give it an leave it with HP Do y'all think I should be in alanon or acoa? I appreciate the input. Brass tacks is it's me that has to change but not s...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Comments of gratitude at Alanon meetings helped this member refocus by turning away from worry and the business of others to see beauty that is all around and feel the hope of obtaining Serenity. We cannot carry the burden of others; trying to only ensures a decrease in our emotional bandwidth. Remi...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi MIP members, on reading this sharing, it talks about 'working a program", and what we have to do is to practice what we are learning,,,,, and being around people who speak and understand the language to be able to use it, and apply it to our lives. For myself, I know that anyone can be my teacher, if I kee...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that confusion can be a gift from God. Often if we feel we need an immediate answer, it may not be the right time to take action. It's possible when we become really ready to act, the information will be presented. Knowing too much about options can drive us crazy. The writer suggests...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change reflects on the actions mentioned in Tradition Five. Practicing the Twelve Steps ourselves can give us the healing of compassionate self-love, perhaps through recognizing a loving higher power. Building on the strength of that self-love, we might be able to...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reflection starts at the end of the page with the Thought for the Day: I tried to get God to listen to me through my prayers. He did, once I stopped telling Him what to do. The writer describes evolution of prayer from: praying not to be punished by God, to praying for specif...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi to all on MIP, I hope this day is good and Serene to all. On reading in my Hope For Today on Feb, 3rd, it brought back memories to me as to how I was back then, and how I am today. I had many questions for myself, some good and some proving that I am a works in progress. The person talks about her Grand Fat...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading talks of creativity and of using creativity to express and come to know our true selves, as well as a means of replacing negative thinking with positive action. Further, it reminds us that creativity (whether it's building something, gardening, cooking, or finding new ways of doin...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is one for me

The author shares that before they came to Al-Anon, nothing was simple about their life. Work was stressful, time was short, and the author's attention was focused on the alcoholic. As the author shifted their focus from the alcoholic to the program, the...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

First impressions of Alanon from today's writer after seeing more smiles, happiness than 'should' be among those with past or current alcoholics: they must not have had it as bad as me.If we stick around Alanon long enough, we realize that is not often the case, and that does not even matter. What matt...

Lyne · Lyne

The member says that each day one can contribute to their sense of well-being by taking even a small action--you can strengthen a relationship, pursue a goal, or help yourself feel better about you. You cannot dramatically change your life, but you can have a goal to move in a positive direction. Ma...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of our relationship to the God of our understanding. The writer distinguishes between acknowledging the presence of God and actually finding a spiritual connection. Through prayer and meditation a more consistent relationship wit...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's author in Hope for Today has learned how to find serenity no matter what chaos is going on around them. Small choices can bring in serenity at any time. Examples are waking up early to quietly watch the sunrise, ducking out of a family gathering to go to another room for a few minutes and say the...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading talks of the writer's initial distaste of the concept of serenity, and how dull and useless serenity sounded compared to useful solutions such as curing the alcoholic, or paying the bills! But after spending some time working through the al-anon program, they came to realise that s...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

The role of intent in the in/action we take toward the alcoholic is considered in today's page. It is an attempt to control if we hope/expect to have an outcome on another's drinking, ensuring continued lack of serenity regardless of outcome. If we follow Alanon's suggestion that we attempt to make c...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings all. We appear to have lost our member who was providing a thread/topic/discussion on Saturdays. If anyone has a desire to be of service, Saturday is open! All that's suggested is that you pick a daily reader from our program literature and then post your thoughts/ESH on it for others to e...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, it is WendyP, awhile ago I was wanting to send a friend of mine a reading that helped me get through an issue that was causing me great pain, and I thought that it might help them also. I could not remember where I had seen it, and because I am a determined person, and wanted to find it for myself as well, I d...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses how hard we can work our program and still have lapses of self-pity and resentment. It is therefore important to include our Higher Power to overcome these lapses. Reminder: I want to be ready for shortcomings to be removed and I will do what I can to prepare. I can develop a no...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the ways we might practice choosing serenity in our lives. The writer describes how many of us who have lived with alcoholism become as obsessed with the alcoholic and his/her behavior as the alcoholic is consumed with alcohol. One of the strateg...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in Courage to Change says that newcomers may be surprised by the number of years that some members have been in Al-Anon. Some no longer have an active alcoholic or a living alcoholic in their life. And yet they keep coming back. The writer sometimes goes through times of doubt, rebel...

Youknowme · Youknowme

In today's C2C reading. the writer recalls being so angry about dishes piling up in the sink that they were ready to end a deeply valued relationship. But after sharing the problem with a friend, they realised that the dishes were symbolic of all of the problems within the relationship which felt over...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares some reflections on the 12th Step: Having had a Spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. The author shares that they found real promise and hope in...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today my baby girl turns 19. Last night she and I went to the movies- she drove us there and back- and today she has gone to get (another) tattoo (insert serenity prayer here). Yes, she is that grown up now, and I couldn't be more proud of her, nor grateful for the magical gift she seems to have for transmuti...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Interesting read today considering the subtle, but important difference between trying to use willpower to suppress and eliminate a fault, versus using the natural but unwanted fault tendency to point to the opposite, preferred quality or tendency.Spoiler alert: the latter is more successful...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says when they came to program, they thought the drinker could stop by sheer will power. As they learned that the alcoholic suffers from a disease, why did the writer still speak to the drinker as a "bad'' person? The writer knows the alcoholic is a good and sensitive human, but the writer h...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on gratitude. The writer describes gratitude as a gift received through being part of the alanon program. Before the program the writer thought of gratitude as happiness when life happened based on (the writers) wants and needs. Over time, throug...

NewGirl1717 · NewGirl1717

I tested positive for covid on Sunday. I feel awful physically. I am staying home for the next 5 days from work. It has been awful being at home. My bf has me locked away in our bedroom and doesn't let me out. He says he doesn't want to risk getting infected. I've been drinking water from the tap and I had a hal...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon explains that comparing myself, my lot in life, with others leads to self-pity or resentment. Relying on others to applaud or admire me makes me dependent on others for my own contentment. Real contentment comes from looking at myself and seeing that my...

Youknowme · Youknowme

Today's reading is about the importance of anonymity. It speaks of leaving behind labels and everything that comes with them. When I first came to al-anon, I wanted people to hear me and know who I was. I didn't really understand the concept of anonymity, because I was so anxious for people to hear me. I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author suggests that letting go of self-condemnation could help us to love ourselves more. It IS important to identify and recognize flaws, but focusing on the too much can be detrimental to progress. Every tiny step moves us closer to wholeness, health, and serenity. Takin...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Many come to Alanon with a desperate desire to help their qualifier, the alcoholic. Upon hearing Alnon's suggestion to keep the focus on ourselves, some conclude, prematurely, that such an approach can only be heartless.One such member waited long enough to consider another possibility: the nat...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer describes murderous weapons towards the alcoholic as: indignation in a strident voice, irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria, self-righteousness, etc. These weapons are a killer for the alcoholic to look for a better life, they kill love and respect, they cause unb...

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	On a lighter note!! (Preview) I do wish we did not have to continually change the clocks twice a year!! I still have to do my car, which takes a manual to do!! {{HUGS}}	DM2021	3	2464	Mar 16, 2022 by Daffodils
	3/15/22 C2C – Forgiveness: Ours to Give? (Preview) Today's contributor once considered forgiveness as a visible sign of their moral superiority, to bestowed as a form of power rather than a true moving forward from an event. As they learned they have neither the right nor wisdom to judge the behavior of others, it became clear that forgiveness was mo...	Enigmatic	3	2391	Mar 16, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/14, 3 C's (Preview) The writer says that alcoholics drink because they are people that drink--it's not because of you or me. We cannot change this with guilt, shouting, begging, distracting, hiding money, bottles, or keys, lying, threatening, or reasoning. We didn't cause it, we cannot control it, and we sure as hec...	Lyne	2	3092	Mar 14, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today - March 11 - Self Care (Preview) Today's author learned in Al-Anon about self-care: how to take care of self physically, emotionally, and spiritually. They also added financial responsibility, and took to heart the 7th Tradition: self-supporting, living within their means. They learned to save for their future needs, witho...	Freetime	2	3020	Mar 13, 2022 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Mar 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is a look at how despite our best efforts, we may be repeating habits and behaviors instilled in us during childhood. The writer describes growing up in an alcoholic home and learning to deal with life in unhealthy ways. Specifically the writer did not know how...	yanksfan51	1	2364	Mar 13, 2022 by DM2021
	c2c 10th March Fear (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of fear, and of how where once fear might have prevented us from participating fully in our own lives, al-anon gives us tools to accept fear and work with it. Instead of being paralysed and imagining terrible outcomes we can take inventory to ensure we are putting our best selves for...	Youknowme	4	2919	Mar 11, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change March 9 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares about the struggle to separate their will from their HP's will. Sometimes, a desperate urge to act can be an indication that it is the authors will, while a calm certainty indicates their HP's will. When there isn't a clear indication, the author can wait, seek th...	Skorpi	3	3543	Mar 10, 2022 by Daffodils
	3/8/22 ODAT – Breaking Free From Our Own Mind (Preview) Today's page describes a place filled with discouragement, tormented and circular thoughts, apprehension and confusion. This is the place inside our head that some lived in before finding the miracle of AlAnon. Reminder: Every meeting we attend, page we read, and fellow member we share with take...	Enigmatic	3	5601	Mar 8, 2022 by Daffodils
	C2C, Monday, 3/7, making changes (Preview) The writer realized that after living with alcoholism, a disease of attitudes, they had been left with a poor self-image and a negative outlook. But they realized that one can transform themself, by changing self-defeating attitudes. One can become a more beautiful human being by freely express...	Lyne	2	2962	Mar 8, 2022 by Youknowme
	Hope for Today Mar 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the power in all of us coming together to share experience, strength and hope. The writer describes each: Experience- when we share our individual stories with one another, we are also sharing that no one is alone in this. Living in alcoholism can be...	yanksfan51	3	2886	Mar 6, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	C2C march 3rd- maturity. (Preview) Today's C2C speaks of maturity. The writer recognises that when they first began their journey, their behaviour was very immature. It suggests that in taking inventory and considering what maturity looks like for us an an individual, we can work out our goals and how we can use al-anon to achieve the...	Youknowme	4	3195	Mar 6, 2022 by Lyne
	Learned Behaviour (Preview) Hi to MIP, recently I have been reading the sharings on the board, also in Hope For Today, it was talking about a lot of issues, like learned behaviour, responsibility, care taking. So I decided to put them all together and share of how I feel about all of them. How did I become a Caretaker, being so respon...	WendyP	2	2637	Mar 5, 2022 by Lyne
	March 4 - C2C - THINK (Preview) Today's writer in Courage to Change was puzzled by the slogan THINK -- because it was their own thinking that had been causing their problems. Then they realized it was like the safety rule "Stop Look, and Listen." Instead of lashing out when someone is unkind to them, they can pause, THINK and then mak...	Freetime	4	3475	Mar 4, 2022 by Daffodils
	Blessing For Betty (Preview) Personal blessing for Betty (Hotrod) on the Anniversary of her passing. It was on February 29, 2020 that you left us and you are very missed Betty.	DM2021	3	3000	Mar 4, 2022 by Youknowme
	3/1/22 ODAT – Humility: Doorway to Progress, Empowerment, Strength (Preview) Alanon suggests that there can be no progress without humility. This brings forth resistance and puzzlement for some, but eventually we see that humility is not accepting poor behavior, but abandoning self-will and learning to yield to a higher power.From this perspective, we realize that it is o...	Enigmatic	5	5144	Mar 2, 2022 by Iamhere
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 2/28, detachment and disentanglement (Preview) The writer shares that detachment from alcoholic problems, and disentanglement from difficulties, helps it becomes easier to stop impulsive decisions. We can work on this by pausing, thinking things through, and then forming a constructive action. With practice we will be able to build a seren...	Lyne	6	765	Mar 2, 2022 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 27 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the obstacle that fear can bring to our lives. The writer describes reactions to fear including procrastination, running away or withdrawal. The writer understands that these reactions not only do nothing to help with facing fears, they can actua...	yanksfan51	4	627	Feb 28, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	February 25 - Hope for Today - Let It Begin With Me (Preview) Today's writer in Hope for Today learned that carrying the message, as stated in Step Twelve, does not mean they have to convert other people to Al-Anon. They can share their own experience, strength, and hope, but how that is received is out of their control. They can respond to direct questions ab...	Freetime	5	1232	Feb 26, 2022 by Lyne
	C2C Feb 24th The benefits of taking inventory (Preview) Today's C2C likens taking our own inventory and finding deficits or defects to finding an empty shelf in a supermarket. In this way the reading invites us to consider finding our shelves "empty" as an opportunity to replenish our stock much as a shop-keeper might do. The reading goes on to say if we don...	Youknowme	4	1441	Feb 25, 2022 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change Feb. 23 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that, since they had adult responsibilities even as a child, it wasn't a surprise that they grew up to be a care taker. It was automatic and comfortable to put whatever crisis and needs of another in front of their own needs. When the author realized tha...	Skorpi	5	1327	Feb 25, 2022 by Lyne
	2/22/22 C2C - How Alanon Helps Us in Decision Making (Preview) Alanon helped today's writer move away from perfectionism when decision making and accept that we can only make decisions with what we know at the time and do our best with it. Input can come from as many different sources as we allow, and can include our higher power, friends, readings... The reality...	Enigmatic	5	1046	Feb 22, 2022 by Youknowme
	ODAT, Monday, 2/21, mental sobriety (Preview) The writer says that we punish ourselves far more than life does. We have the power to change our lives if we are willing to use it. Suggestions are to root out doubt and fear from our qualifier's drinking. Suspicion may creep up even if sobriety is attained, for instance if they are late. We should a...	Lyne	6	1191	Feb 22, 2022 by Daffodils
	Hope for Today Feb 20 (Preview) Good morning everyone: The sentence that jumped out at me from todays page is from the middle of the text: Recovery is not a contest. Todays reading is about acknowledging that slips and falling back into pre alanon behavior/reactions is part of recovery. Our slogan progress, not perfection is men...	yanksfan51	5	660	Feb 21, 2022 by Iamhere
	Motion Re: Meeting/Chat Room on Business Board (Preview) https://alanon.activeboard.com/t68134315/alanon-chatroom/?page=last#lastPostAnchor	Iamhere	2	3333	Feb 21, 2022 by Iamhere
	Dealing with conflict and unreasonable people. (Preview) I have a really awful neighbour. I'm sure some people remember; I used to complain about him here all the time. He never got any better, I have just learned to ignore him and go about my increasingly serene life. Anyway, he is always screaming at people, fighting with his girlfriend, smashing things, h...	Youknowme	8	3201	Feb 19, 2022 by Iamhere
	February 18 - Hope for Today - Amends (Preview) Today's writer in Hope for Today learned that, when listing all persons they had harmed, to put their own name on the list for amends. Making amends would mean changing their harmful behaviors, and it couldn't be done all at once. It had to be done in small steps, and they could forgive themselves for...	Freetime	6	1060	Feb 18, 2022 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change February 16 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares how living with alcoholism is like living through a tornado. Not only do you have to watch out for the tornado, but also for what the tornado picks up and hurls at you! Alcoholism often brings with it other problems, like verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, illnes...	Skorpi	6	667	Feb 18, 2022 by Youknowme
	C2C Feb 17th (Preview) Today's reading speaks of limited thinking, and how we can become lost in our predicted outcomes, and feel hopeless. But we can't possibly imagine all possible outcomes, so when we feel trapped in our limited thinking, that's when it's time to turn it over to our HP. Often, this is when miracles happe...	Youknowme	4	1664	Feb 17, 2022 by Iamhere
	Hi and lurking again. (Preview) Hi everyone. I did the disappearing act and got bit in the rear. Actually things have been ok till aging parents and not knowing boundaries that let the mind give it an leave it with HP Do y'all think I should be in alanon or acoa? I appreciate the input. Brass tacks is it's me that has to change but not s...	Tude	6	3169	Feb 17, 2022 by Iamhere
	2/15/22 Bonus page: ODAT – Gratitude: Dims the Glare of Our Difficulties (Preview) Comments of gratitude at Alanon meetings helped this member refocus by turning away from worry and the business of others to see beauty that is all around and feel the hope of obtaining Serenity. We cannot carry the burden of others; trying to only ensures a decrease in our emotional bandwidth. Remi...	Enigmatic	7	768	Feb 17, 2022 by Iamhere
	Courage To Change, Feb, 15th. (Preview) Hi MIP members, on reading this sharing, it talks about 'working a program", and what we have to do is to practice what we are learning,,,,, and being around people who speak and understand the language to be able to use it, and apply it to our lives. For myself, I know that anyone can be my teacher, if I kee...	WendyP	3	2099	Feb 15, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	C2C Monday, 2/14, confusion? (Preview) The writer says that confusion can be a gift from God. Often if we feel we need an immediate answer, it may not be the right time to take action. It's possible when we become really ready to act, the information will be presented. Knowing too much about options can drive us crazy. The writer suggests...	Lyne	4	628	Feb 14, 2022 by Iamhere
	February 11 - C2C - Love and Compassion (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change reflects on the actions mentioned in Tradition Five. Practicing the Twelve Steps ourselves can give us the healing of compassionate self-love, perhaps through recognizing a loving higher power. Building on the strength of that self-love, we might be able to...	Freetime	8	1686	Feb 13, 2022 by SunnyFrog
	Hope for Today Feb 13 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reflection starts at the end of the page with the Thought for the Day: I tried to get God to listen to me through my prayers. He did, once I stopped telling Him what to do. The writer describes evolution of prayer from: praying not to be punished by God, to praying for specif...	yanksfan51	4	579	Feb 13, 2022 by Iamhere
	Learning To Love Myself. (Preview) Hi to all on MIP, I hope this day is good and Serene to all. On reading in my Hope For Today on Feb, 3rd, it brought back memories to me as to how I was back then, and how I am today. I had many questions for myself, some good and some proving that I am a works in progress. The person talks about her Grand Fat...	WendyP	4	2392	Feb 12, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C Feb 10th The gifts of creativity and imagination. (Preview) Today's reading talks of creativity and of using creativity to express and come to know our true selves, as well as a means of replacing negative thinking with positive action. Further, it reminds us that creativity (whether it's building something, gardening, cooking, or finding new ways of doin...	Youknowme	4	636	Feb 12, 2022 by Lyne
	Courage to Change Feb. 9 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is one for me The author shares that before they came to Al-Anon, nothing was simple about their life. Work was stressful, time was short, and the author's attention was focused on the alcoholic. As the author shifted their focus from the alcoholic to the program, the...	Skorpi	5	2174	Feb 11, 2022 by Iamhere
	2/8/22 ODAT - We Are What We See (Preview) First impressions of Alanon from today's writer after seeing more smiles, happiness than 'should' be among those with past or current alcoholics: they must not have had it as bad as me.If we stick around Alanon long enough, we realize that is not often the case, and that does not even matter. What matt...	Enigmatic	4	1665	Feb 11, 2022 by Iamhere
	C2C, Monday, 2/7, contributing to my well-being (Preview) The member says that each day one can contribute to their sense of well-being by taking even a small action--you can strengthen a relationship, pursue a goal, or help yourself feel better about you. You cannot dramatically change your life, but you can have a goal to move in a positive direction. Ma...	Lyne	4	770	Feb 7, 2022 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Feb 6 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about the importance of our relationship to the God of our understanding. The writer distinguishes between acknowledging the presence of God and actually finding a spiritual connection. Through prayer and meditation a more consistent relationship wit...	yanksfan51	2	3945	Feb 6, 2022 by DM2021
	February 4 - Hope for Today - Serenity Moments (Preview) Today's author in Hope for Today has learned how to find serenity no matter what chaos is going on around them. Small choices can bring in serenity at any time. Examples are waking up early to quietly watch the sunrise, ducking out of a family gathering to go to another room for a few minutes and say the...	Freetime	6	699	Feb 4, 2022 by Iamhere
	C2C Thursday 3rd Feb- Serenity (Preview) Today's reading talks of the writer's initial distaste of the concept of serenity, and how dull and useless serenity sounded compared to useful solutions such as curing the alcoholic, or paying the bills! But after spending some time working through the al-anon program, they came to realise that s...	Youknowme	4	636	Feb 3, 2022 by Iamhere
	2/1/22 C2C Right Thing, Wrong Reason? (Preview) The role of intent in the in/action we take toward the alcoholic is considered in today's page. It is an attempt to control if we hope/expect to have an outcome on another's drinking, ensuring continued lack of serenity regardless of outcome. If we follow Alanon's suggestion that we attempt to make c...	Enigmatic	4	3219	Feb 3, 2022 by Youknowme
	Saturday Service - Literature Daily Volunteer (Preview) Greetings all. We appear to have lost our member who was providing a thread/topic/discussion on Saturdays. If anyone has a desire to be of service, Saturday is open! All that's suggested is that you pick a daily reader from our program literature and then post your thoughts/ESH on it for others to e...	Iamhere	0	3466	Feb 2, 2022 by Iamhere
	Wealth of Help and Information (Preview) Hi, it is WendyP, awhile ago I was wanting to send a friend of mine a reading that helped me get through an issue that was causing me great pain, and I thought that it might help them also. I could not remember where I had seen it, and because I am a determined person, and wanted to find it for myself as well, I d...	WendyP	4	4571	Feb 1, 2022 by Iamhere
	C2C, Monday, 1/31, still have defects of character (Preview) This reading discusses how hard we can work our program and still have lapses of self-pity and resentment. It is therefore important to include our Higher Power to overcome these lapses. Reminder: I want to be ready for shortcomings to be removed and I will do what I can to prepare. I can develop a no...	Lyne	3	3424	Feb 1, 2022 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Jan 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the ways we might practice choosing serenity in our lives. The writer describes how many of us who have lived with alcoholism become as obsessed with the alcoholic and his/her behavior as the alcoholic is consumed with alcohol. One of the strateg...	yanksfan51	2	2367	Jan 30, 2022 by DM2021
	January 28 - C2C - Keep Coming Back (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change says that newcomers may be surprised by the number of years that some members have been in Al-Anon. Some no longer have an active alcoholic or a living alcoholic in their life. And yet they keep coming back. The writer sometimes goes through times of doubt, rebel...	Freetime	4	601	Jan 28, 2022 by Iamhere
	C2C 27/1 (Preview) In today's C2C reading. the writer recalls being so angry about dishes piling up in the sink that they were ready to end a deeply valued relationship. But after sharing the problem with a friend, they realised that the dishes were symbolic of all of the problems within the relationship which felt over...	Youknowme	6	633	Jan 28, 2022 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change January 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares some reflections on the 12th Step: Having had a Spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. The author shares that they found real promise and hope in...	Skorpi	4	2249	Jan 28, 2022 by Iamhere
	Gratitude (Preview) Today my baby girl turns 19. Last night she and I went to the movies- she drove us there and back- and today she has gone to get (another) tattoo (insert serenity prayer here). Yes, she is that grown up now, and I couldn't be more proud of her, nor grateful for the magical gift she seems to have for transmuti...	Youknowme	4	1239	Jan 28, 2022 by Iamhere
	1/25/22 ODAT – Abracadabra vs Judo (Preview) Interesting read today considering the subtle, but important difference between trying to use willpower to suppress and eliminate a fault, versus using the natural but unwanted fault tendency to point to the opposite, preferred quality or tendency.Spoiler alert: the latter is more successful...	Enigmatic	3	627	Jan 25, 2022 by Iamhere
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 1/24, why can't you stop drinking? (Preview) The writer says when they came to program, they thought the drinker could stop by sheer will power. As they learned that the alcoholic suffers from a disease, why did the writer still speak to the drinker as a "bad'' person? The writer knows the alcoholic is a good and sensitive human, but the writer h...	Lyne	4	1174	Jan 24, 2022 by Youknowme
	Hope for Today Jan 23 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on gratitude. The writer describes gratitude as a gift received through being part of the alanon program. Before the program the writer thought of gratitude as happiness when life happened based on (the writers) wants and needs. Over time, throug...	yanksfan51	4	1531	Jan 23, 2022 by Iamhere
	Trying to care for myself (Preview) I tested positive for covid on Sunday. I feel awful physically. I am staying home for the next 5 days from work. It has been awful being at home. My bf has me locked away in our bedroom and doesn't let me out. He says he doesn't want to risk getting infected. I've been drinking water from the tap and I had a hal...	NewGirl1717	11	2473	Jan 22, 2022 by PosiesandPuppies
	January 21 - ODAT - Comparison (Preview) Today's reading in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon explains that comparing myself, my lot in life, with others leads to self-pity or resentment. Relying on others to applaud or admire me makes me dependent on others for my own contentment. Real contentment comes from looking at myself and seeing that my...	Freetime	3	1086	Jan 22, 2022 by Lyne
	c2c 20/1 (Preview) Today's reading is about the importance of anonymity. It speaks of leaving behind labels and everything that comes with them. When I first came to al-anon, I wanted people to hear me and know who I was. I didn't really understand the concept of anonymity, because I was so anxious for people to hear me. I...	Youknowme	5	2806	Jan 21, 2022 by serenity47
	Courage to Change January 19 (Preview) In today's reading, the author suggests that letting go of self-condemnation could help us to love ourselves more. It IS important to identify and recognize flaws, but focusing on the too much can be detrimental to progress. Every tiny step moves us closer to wholeness, health, and serenity. Takin...	Skorpi	3	2218	Jan 20, 2022 by Iamhere
	1/18/22 C2C Best Way to Help Qualifier: Focus on Self? (Preview) Many come to Alanon with a desperate desire to help their qualifier, the alcoholic. Upon hearing Alnon's suggestion to keep the focus on ourselves, some conclude, prematurely, that such an approach can only be heartless.One such member waited long enough to consider another possibility: the nat...	Enigmatic	5	633	Jan 18, 2022 by Iamhere
	ODAT in alanon, Monday 1/17, murderous weapons (Preview) The writer describes murderous weapons towards the alcoholic as: indignation in a strident voice, irresponsible accusations, nagging, tears, hysteria, self-righteousness, etc. These weapons are a killer for the alcoholic to look for a better life, they kill love and respect, they cause unb...	Lyne	2	3429	Jan 17, 2022 by Iamhere
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