Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

poenacanalis · poenacanalis

I was just browsing the web and I found this website. I'm 20 years old and live with my parents while going to school full-time. I moved out for awhile because I couldn't stand being in the same room with my mother. She drinks every single night and acts completely unaware of what has...

nycbt · nycbt

On Saturday the wedding. We went in after the cermony and it was champane and strawberrys, I said to my self here we go with the alchol right away. Well I said to my self there is nothing I can do to stop him from drinking. But I was very tense over it. I had to trust him or the wedding would become a problem. I kn...

hudsond · hudsond

This is the first thing I have done towards AL-Anon. I'm not sure where to begin. I have been married for 2 1/2 years to an alcoholic/addict. He went to rehab in April. Got out saying how it was going to be hard, but he had changed. He did really good for 3 and 1/2 months.&n...

Jersey · Jersey

I'm so tired of the same games and it makes me angry that I get sucked into it. In a nut shell: He gets drunk, I get emotional (sad, angry, ect.), he passes out, I'm up half the night with anxiety, mulling over the events, our future, ect., in my mind. The next morning he might have a hang over...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi All Hope everyone is doing ok. Just wanted to share some good things that I have been doing for myself and children. After my A took out more than 600 dollars last month for drugs, I was upset to say the least. So I went and opened up savings accounts for me and my children, in cas...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Need to vent some other stuff again. See my last post for some background. Went out to dinner/movie/coffee with my AA sponsor and some others last night. My son calls me several times during the movie so I finally pick up my phone. Says he’s at a friend’s house and wants to know if I can come pick him up wi...

whitie · whitie

I just want to thank you all for sharing your E,S,&H. I decided to journal today. It's been about a year, I know my bad as my son would say! Anyway it's a great way for me to see my progress just when I'm starting to feel stuck, like I haven't grown at all. This program and you people have given me my life ba...

mastiff · mastiff

With all those who lost their lives on this day with the terriorist attack in mind, i was praying for their familys. Today must be a hard day for them. And all the thinking of today got me thinking of tomarrow. I wonder if they would have known there won't be a tomarrow if...

dadrrb1 · dadrrb1

Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy,sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment,...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SEPTEMBER 10 >Self-Approval > > >Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get >approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly >of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they >disapprove of our actions. We may look for approval from >peop...

Kim · Kim

Well, he's topped himself. He calls to leave me a message that he's stopped payment on the insurance check and that he checked with the police already and that since we are married there's nothing I can do b/c it's considered marital property. So there you have it...he has become truly evil.&nb...

sunny1 · sunny1

Well hello, this is my first time to your site. have been feeling overwhelmed the past week and to top it off I have missplaced or maybe have even lost my Courage to change book. I missed my meeting this week and it was the first one since I started the program back in May. I fell upon thi...

englishgirl86 · englishgirl86

hi, i'm new. i'm from england as the name suggests. i was just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation to me and could offer any advice. my dad has been drinking heavily for a few years now. he refuses to seek professional help as says he can deal with it on his own; he can't. almost a year has past since...

gottago · gottago

I have been with my husband for 17 years, I have three children, 20, 17 and 15. My older two children are from my first marriage and my 15 year son is from my current marriage. I currently support the entire family as my husband has not had a steady job in two years. My job is very demanding an...

Powerless · Powerless

It is official! I have lost what little was left of my mind. I have gone crazy, completely around the bend. I fell into his crazy-making rollercoaster ride again. He says he can't live with my ten year old son anymore...I actually suggested that my son live with his father for a whil...

Shan · Shan

This is my first time here. I have read some posts and feel I can get some good advice. My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago. One month after being together he told me that he was a cocaine user. He knew that I felt very strongly against it and knew he had to quit if he wanted to be with me.&n...

kimmie · kimmie

Well things are going well, I guess. My "A" seems real happy when he wakes up and all day, and he's been joking around with me and laughing. Which is all great, but he wont talk about recovery. I tried to bring it up again and he gets snappy and doesnt want to talk about it. This wo...

jj · jj

I have been doing alot of thinking lately and some times I think that it is unhealthy to think to much, what I would rather be doing is just living one day at a time and enjoying all the things I have to be greatful for. I do try but sometimes it is hard... I think that all of this thinking is becau...

marmare · marmare

I have been hating Fridays! This is the day that my A designates as go to the bar night. I started thinking yesterday, I have not been good to myself. Since preparing for the boys to go back to school, teaching the 18 yr old to drive, etc. etc. in the past 2 weeks I have neglecte...

Siverhusk · Siverhusk

This is going to be pretty hard to type, I really don't know any of you guys but I just wanted to share my story. The last time I posted was 3 weeks ago today, I had a question about making a phone call and turning my husband in (he was ordered to attend outpatient treatment and to not drink at all, they w...

Kim · Kim

Hello roomies..... Ironically enough last night as I started posting about a totally different subjectmy A called to say that he f**** up and got high the night before. I could hear in his voice that he was still drunk and he admitted to it. He was crying (of course) and saying he needed a friend...

confused · confused

Hi all - I seem to be watching myself slip right back to where I was before my a went into rehab in July. He has been home almost 4 weeks. The first two i was home also, however, I am a techer and school started last week so I am back at work. My A quit his job when he came out of rehab. His boss had been selling h...

Powerless · Powerless

I am not sure where to start. A fter my husband got outof detox a couple of months ago, he has not worked a program, but certainly has been acting as a normal husband should. We had been getting along really well. Yesterday, he called me at work as he had gotten off early. He so...

kerry5 · kerry5

I have so much trouble understanding HP. Sometimes i feel like things happen in punishement for the bad things i think or say or do. I have an anger problem but i am not violent. I dont understand why things that are happening, are happening know what i mean? This year has been, i guess hell, and so very fas...

ditto · ditto

I am very dissappointed. This attorney was recommended to me and I also checked out her ratings in Matindale Hubble. So, I was expecting something more than an attorney with pat responses and self-serving advice -- especially since I was paying a very high hourly rate in excess of $250....

UncleLou · UncleLou

Just need to vent some stuff. I’m feeling like a real chump right now. I’m sober 2 years. 2 weeks after the divorce is final, my ex comes home from a vacation with our kids and her boyfriend and his kids and hits me with tears saying she’s not sure if she made a mistake, she’s sorry for the way she treated me...

megan · megan

Could someone please chair the Sunday 7pm meeting for me? I am on vacation in lake louise canada and the internet connection is somewhat unreliable. thank-you Megan

Weez · Weez

I have fallen off the Alanon wagon because things were going good here with my "A", 7 months without a problem, 7 months without a binge, 7 months without a hurtful argument about his drinking to excess and my inability to cope with it. Tonight it happened. It's 4 am, I have to work in 2 hours...

haximon · haximon

Now i've been here 30 days/and now i'm learning Portland ways/message given loud and clear/we don't want you new ones here! I took a major social lick/from a local coffee clique/message given loud and clear/we don't want your friendship here! I'm out on a social limb/didn'...

kimmie · kimmie

OK well my Pastor had something different in mind than the Alanon way. He said that just letting him drink and not saying anything was not helping him, and that I should not alow him to do so in our house and around our child, soon to be children. He gave me a lot of options to tell my "A". ...

nycbt · nycbt

Feeling good about myself. I read the books on step one starting to read on Step two. I feel the energy coming through. I am excited about the way my life is going at this moment. I talked to my husband and he said he mess up and he is mad about that. I know I can’t force him to go to aa but I am hearing that he is goi...

melissajill · melissajill

I am struggling today.I don't know if what I want to do is right. For those of you that have read my other posts, my A has been struggling at work. His co-worker that he has spent the last 2 weekends with has been harrassing him non-stop. I am not saying that he is not at fault but he is the one with the di...

debi · debi

Hi Everyone, I am new to this group and so thankful to have found it! I have a question that that hopefully someone can help me with. My fiancee had 6 years of sobriety when we met. He went to AA faithfully every week and some nights I would go with him at an open meetin...

cdb · cdb

Monday I got a call from my alzheimer mom. She drove my dad from canada back to USA 3 hours. He was very ill but he wouldn't let her call an ambulance. She called me and my husband drove me asap to their house 2 hours away. I assessed the situation and called 911. He ened up having E-Coli. The nurse that...

nycbt · nycbt

I have now realize that I have let my program go. I haven't been going to meeting all the time like I used to. I have cut down. I haven't even open up the books at all to read them. I haven't been bring the book even to the meeting. That has all changed. I have now started to pamper myself because this is a hard...

gknee · gknee

Hi Everyone- at the risk of exhausting all who read here, I have a tale to share as well. I have been sporadically coming to this board, online meetings and F2F meetings for about 2 yrs. My husband of 15 yrs has been a 30+ yr abuser of marijuana. He has added some binge drinking on top of it, to...

nycbt · nycbt

I have known my husband for 6 years and married for 1 yr. We just to have very voilet fights, we would be physical with one another. He was at the time drinking and doing drugs. He used to tourtement me and I felt so alone. I would call me mom and cry my eyes at and feel as though I had no one to help me. I would cut m...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I really hate to ask...I need $100 via priority mail within two days so I can pay insurance and gasoline. Without that my car can be impounded (new rules). I've accomplished a lot these last couple days: The new license plates are on and paid for:) I signed up for Vocational Rehab...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))), This has been a short week at work, but it has been a long week at the same time. On Tuesday I found out that a co-worker of mine slept with another co-worker's biyrfriend. Last night the girl who was cheated on tried to kill herself. I found out that this is the third...

debilyn · debilyn

lol, I know many people won't read this becuz I have answered it so many times!! Thank you for asking cuz it reminds me how come too! For one thing I believe marriage is a gift from my hp. Becuz of staying married i have learned thru so much hell the kind of person i am. I have seen my stamina...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Just when you think that your alcoholic is as bad as they can get, they get worse. My "A" has gone up to Alaska twice to crab and was planning on leaving in a few weeks to go again. We made huge plans for the money he was going to be bringing home. We were going to...

marmare · marmare

On different days there are different tasks at work for me.(I work as a secretary at an out-patient treatment center)..funny how when just when I need it, a counselor will bring me something they need re-typed or prepared for group sessions....two months I received this. Hope it will help som...

jessi · jessi

Well, I think I may be on the verge of major spiritual growth in my program and as a person... As many of you recall, I hit my bottom about 1.5 years ago when I left my A because she had a longterm affair. Since then, I have had a very high level of willingness to work this program not only to get over he...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

my toxic brother wrote this HORRIBLE letter......ok, some history!!! he is executor of my dead child offender father's estate!!!! he KNOWS the freak incested me, and WHY i changed my name to a clean name and i sent him the court papers which showed on t...

Jersey · Jersey

I'm feeling really stupid tonight. I've had a wonderful week since I began talking to Alanon's. Things at home are better because I'm not always on my A's case, he has been more open with me and I have felt more joyful and free than in six months. He went two nights without drinking an...

JillCT · JillCT

Here is my story. My husband is an alcoholic, and so is his mother and his grandfather (who is deceased). Anyhow, we married in 2002 and alcohol never seemed to be a problem for my husband. We were 30 when we got married, and went out occasionally and got drunk, but nothing out of the ordinary, and c...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

I was reading something and I saw this: Gasoline prices have gotten so high that women who want to run over their cheating husbands have started car pooling. Hope you get a giggle. Much Love,

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I posted here several weeks ago about leaving my a husband and how he of course has turned this all around on me. According to him everything going wrong with our marriage is my fault. Well I have been gone for 5 weeks now and I miss him terribly and I have been second guessing my decision to le...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who pas...

nikkilou · nikkilou

HI all, I'm sitting here just mad at my A. He has mood swings from hell. Then I walk aroumd on egg shells. I ask is every thing O.k. Just to get some wise remark. I know getting sober is hard but I just don't like this. I use to walk on eggshells when he was drinking now agai...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I thought the holiday weekend was going to be dull...wrong! I needed to get a Clackamas County library card, which is the last of the four available around here. They only give 30 minutes net time, but it's better than nothing. The nearest branch is an hour away by transit. As I have no...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this is a LONG story of my mother's and my * sorta step 8/9 * together....sorry it is so long.. Hope for Today - September 8 After coming to Al-Anon, I have finally found peace. My father's alcoholism and my mother's reactions to it caused much pain in my childhood.&...

ditto · ditto

Labor Day weekend was pretty bad. We worked on Saturday and when we came home he retired to our darkened bedroom, lay down on the bed and gave in to depression. He accused me of not treating him kindly. He refused to go out with our friends that night unless I promised to treat him better. Sin...

FormalWare · FormalWare

I'm FormalWare, but you can call me Bud. I'm part-time enabler/caretaker/doormat, part-time rageaholic control freak. Alcoholism ran rampant over my childhood. I'm happy to say a 12-Step program (akin to ACOA, but with some John Bradshaw philosophy added) was instrumen...

camra · camra

Just expressing frustration Words, they cut like a knifeCut into my lifeI don't want to hear your wordsThey always attackPlease take them all backIf they're yours I don't want anymore You think you're so smartYou try to manipulate meYou try to humiliate with your wordsYou think you're s...

nycbt · nycbt

Thank you Megan for helping me through this.

furball · furball

Nevermind. -- Edited by furball at 00:34, 2005-09-07

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The Good in Step Ten Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is right in our life. It says we continue to take a personal inventory and keep a focus on ourselves. #####ROSIE.....yes, and funny i hav...

melissajill · melissajill

Hello, my A has returned this morning very drunk. He had been staying with a co-worker who spent 4 days providing him with alcohol, weed and new clothes and shoes. I feel really bad for her because I warned her when he stayed a couple of days last weekend that he was using her and that he had come home and cal...

Maypole · Maypole

Hello. I am newcomer to alanon and this board. I have a question about my newly sober boyfriend. I do not know how to broach it with him. What is anyone experience with sex and a newly sober partner? My boyfriend seems totally uninterested which is a big change. I am try...

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	new here (Preview) I was just browsing the web and I found this website. I'm 20 years old and live with my parents while going to school full-time. I moved out for awhile because I couldn't stand being in the same room with my mother. She drinks every single night and acts completely unaware of what has...	poenacanalis	6	754	Sep 12, 2005 by bcanuck
	i LEARNED (Preview) On Saturday the wedding. We went in after the cermony and it was champane and strawberrys, I said to my self here we go with the alchol right away. Well I said to my self there is nothing I can do to stop him from drinking. But I was very tense over it. I had to trust him or the wedding would become a problem. I kn...	nycbt	1	849	Sep 12, 2005 by gknee
	new to this (Preview) This is the first thing I have done towards AL-Anon. I'm not sure where to begin. I have been married for 2 1/2 years to an alcoholic/addict. He went to rehab in April. Got out saying how it was going to be hard, but he had changed. He did really good for 3 and 1/2 months.&n...	hudsond	8	882	Sep 12, 2005 by hudsond
	sucked in (Preview) I'm so tired of the same games and it makes me angry that I get sucked into it. In a nut shell: He gets drunk, I get emotional (sad, angry, ect.), he passes out, I'm up half the night with anxiety, mulling over the events, our future, ect., in my mind. The next morning he might have a hang over...	Jersey	5	860	Sep 12, 2005 by Jersey
	What do you do? (Preview) Hi All Hope everyone is doing ok. Just wanted to share some good things that I have been doing for myself and children. After my A took out more than 600 dollars last month for drugs, I was upset to say the least. So I went and opened up savings accounts for me and my children, in cas...	browneyes	4	811	Sep 11, 2005 by lin0606
	Does she WANT me to relapse? (Preview) Need to vent some other stuff again. See my last post for some background. Went out to dinner/movie/coffee with my AA sponsor and some others last night. My son calls me several times during the movie so I finally pick up my phone. Says he’s at a friend’s house and wants to know if I can come pick him up wi...	UncleLou	14	1108	Sep 11, 2005 by lin0606
	Thank you (Preview) I just want to thank you all for sharing your E,S,&H. I decided to journal today. It's been about a year, I know my bad as my son would say! Anyway it's a great way for me to see my progress just when I'm starting to feel stuck, like I haven't grown at all. This program and you people have given me my life ba...	whitie	0	582	Sep 11, 2005 by whitie
	in remembrance (Preview) With all those who lost their lives on this day with the terriorist attack in mind, i was praying for their familys. Today must be a hard day for them. And all the thinking of today got me thinking of tomarrow. I wonder if they would have known there won't be a tomarrow if...	mastiff	1	634	Sep 11, 2005 by Karilynn
	Wisdom for the week (Preview) Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy,sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment,...	dadrrb1	4	828	Sep 11, 2005 by englishgirl86
	self approval and blind faith in the process (Preview) SEPTEMBER 10 >Self-Approval > > >Since childhood, some of us have been trying to get >approval, trying to get people to like us and think highly >of us. We may be afraid people will leave us if they >disapprove of our actions. We may look for approval from >peop...	rosie light shines	1	745	Sep 11, 2005 by Powerless
	it only gets worse and he gets nastier (Preview) Well, he's topped himself. He calls to leave me a message that he's stopped payment on the insurance check and that he checked with the police already and that since we are married there's nothing I can do b/c it's considered marital property. So there you have it...he has become truly evil.&nb...	Kim	5	915	Sep 11, 2005 by Diva
	words of courage pls (Preview) Well hello, this is my first time to your site. have been feeling overwhelmed the past week and to top it off I have missplaced or maybe have even lost my Courage to change book. I missed my meeting this week and it was the first one since I started the program back in May. I fell upon thi...	sunny1	5	968	Sep 11, 2005 by lin0606
	anyone got any advice? (Preview) hi, i'm new. i'm from england as the name suggests. i was just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation to me and could offer any advice. my dad has been drinking heavily for a few years now. he refuses to seek professional help as says he can deal with it on his own; he can't. almost a year has past since...	englishgirl86	5	926	Sep 11, 2005 by Karilynn
	I need help (Preview) I have been with my husband for 17 years, I have three children, 20, 17 and 15. My older two children are from my first marriage and my 15 year son is from my current marriage. I currently support the entire family as my husband has not had a steady job in two years. My job is very demanding an...	gottago	4	913	Sep 11, 2005 by Annie
	God save me from my own insanity (Preview) It is official! I have lost what little was left of my mind. I have gone crazy, completely around the bend. I fell into his crazy-making rollercoaster ride again. He says he can't live with my ten year old son anymore...I actually suggested that my son live with his father for a whil...	Powerless	3	946	Sep 11, 2005 by Karilynn
	help me to understand (Preview) This is my first time here. I have read some posts and feel I can get some good advice. My boyfriend and I met 2 years ago. One month after being together he told me that he was a cocaine user. He knew that I felt very strongly against it and knew he had to quit if he wanted to be with me.&n...	Shan	6	967	Sep 10, 2005 by Christy
	Update on husbands recovery... (Preview) Well things are going well, I guess. My "A" seems real happy when he wakes up and all day, and he's been joking around with me and laughing. Which is all great, but he wont talk about recovery. I tried to bring it up again and he gets snappy and doesnt want to talk about it. This wo...	kimmie	2	966	Sep 10, 2005 by canadianguy
	Long... sharing whats on mind (Preview) I have been doing alot of thinking lately and some times I think that it is unhealthy to think to much, what I would rather be doing is just living one day at a time and enjoying all the things I have to be greatful for. I do try but sometimes it is hard... I think that all of this thinking is becau...	jj	2	708	Sep 10, 2005 by Annie
	Fridays (Preview) I have been hating Fridays! This is the day that my A designates as go to the bar night. I started thinking yesterday, I have not been good to myself. Since preparing for the boys to go back to school, teaching the 18 yr old to drive, etc. etc. in the past 2 weeks I have neglecte...	marmare	6	669	Sep 10, 2005 by Heather1
	My A passed away (Preview) This is going to be pretty hard to type, I really don't know any of you guys but I just wanted to share my story. The last time I posted was 3 weeks ago today, I had a question about making a phone call and turning my husband in (he was ordered to attend outpatient treatment and to not drink at all, they w...	Siverhusk	25	1047	Sep 10, 2005 by Jeannie
	I'm losing ground (Preview) Hello roomies..... Ironically enough last night as I started posting about a totally different subjectmy A called to say that he f**** up and got high the night before. I could hear in his voice that he was still drunk and he admitted to it. He was crying (of course) and saying he needed a friend...	Kim	4	684	Sep 10, 2005 by lin0606
	do iwant to know, does it matter? (Preview) Hi all - I seem to be watching myself slip right back to where I was before my a went into rehab in July. He has been home almost 4 weeks. The first two i was home also, however, I am a techer and school started last week so I am back at work. My A quit his job when he came out of rehab. His boss had been selling h...	confused	7	923	Sep 10, 2005 by Diva
	Feeling so incredulous (Preview) I am not sure where to start. A fter my husband got outof detox a couple of months ago, he has not worked a program, but certainly has been acting as a normal husband should. We had been getting along really well. Yesterday, he called me at work as he had gotten off early. He so...	Powerless	2	816	Sep 10, 2005 by Diva
	hard long share (Preview) I have so much trouble understanding HP. Sometimes i feel like things happen in punishement for the bad things i think or say or do. I have an anger problem but i am not violent. I dont understand why things that are happening, are happening know what i mean? This year has been, i guess hell, and so very fas...	kerry5	5	996	Sep 10, 2005 by gardengal
	The attorney (Preview) I am very dissappointed. This attorney was recommended to me and I also checked out her ratings in Matindale Hubble. So, I was expecting something more than an attorney with pat responses and self-serving advice -- especially since I was paying a very high hourly rate in excess of $250....	ditto	3	896	Sep 10, 2005 by mom to 2
	Feel like a chump (Preview) Just need to vent some stuff. I’m feeling like a real chump right now. I’m sober 2 years. 2 weeks after the divorce is final, my ex comes home from a vacation with our kids and her boyfriend and his kids and hits me with tears saying she’s not sure if she made a mistake, she’s sorry for the way she treated me...	UncleLou	8	947	Sep 10, 2005 by lin0606
	chair needed Sunday night (Preview) Could someone please chair the Sunday 7pm meeting for me? I am on vacation in lake louise canada and the internet connection is somewhat unreliable. thank-you Megan	megan	0	550	Sep 10, 2005 by megan
	I need some heartfelt advice...or support (Preview) I have fallen off the Alanon wagon because things were going good here with my "A", 7 months without a problem, 7 months without a binge, 7 months without a hurtful argument about his drinking to excess and my inability to cope with it. Tonight it happened. It's 4 am, I have to work in 2 hours...	Weez	4	795	Sep 10, 2005 by Tammy
	Haxi's Portland rant (Preview) Now i've been here 30 days/and now i'm learning Portland ways/message given loud and clear/we don't want you new ones here! I took a major social lick/from a local coffee clique/message given loud and clear/we don't want your friendship here! I'm out on a social limb/didn'...	haximon	6	1106	Sep 10, 2005 by whitie
	My pastors advice... (Preview) OK well my Pastor had something different in mind than the Alanon way. He said that just letting him drink and not saying anything was not helping him, and that I should not alow him to do so in our house and around our child, soon to be children. He gave me a lot of options to tell my "A". ...	kimmie	5	1012	Sep 9, 2005 by Diva
	feeling good (Preview) Feeling good about myself. I read the books on step one starting to read on Step two. I feel the energy coming through. I am excited about the way my life is going at this moment. I talked to my husband and he said he mess up and he is mad about that. I know I can’t force him to go to aa but I am hearing that he is goi...	nycbt	1	963	Sep 9, 2005 by Christy
	I am very angry (Preview) I am struggling today.I don't know if what I want to do is right. For those of you that have read my other posts, my A has been struggling at work. His co-worker that he has spent the last 2 weekends with has been harrassing him non-stop. I am not saying that he is not at fault but he is the one with the di...	melissajill	5	864	Sep 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	alcoholic substitutes (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new to this group and so thankful to have found it! I have a question that that hopefully someone can help me with. My fiancee had 6 years of sobriety when we met. He went to AA faithfully every week and some nights I would go with him at an open meetin...	debi	8	859	Sep 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	In need of prayers (Preview) Monday I got a call from my alzheimer mom. She drove my dad from canada back to USA 3 hours. He was very ill but he wouldn't let her call an ambulance. She called me and my husband drove me asap to their house 2 hours away. I assessed the situation and called 911. He ened up having E-Coli. The nurse that...	cdb	15	784	Sep 9, 2005 by rosie light shines
	NEW BEGIN (Preview) I have now realize that I have let my program go. I haven't been going to meeting all the time like I used to. I have cut down. I haven't even open up the books at all to read them. I haven't been bring the book even to the meeting. That has all changed. I have now started to pamper myself because this is a hard...	nycbt	1	733	Sep 9, 2005 by marmare
	Its long story day on message board (Preview) Hi Everyone- at the risk of exhausting all who read here, I have a tale to share as well. I have been sporadically coming to this board, online meetings and F2F meetings for about 2 yrs. My husband of 15 yrs has been a 30+ yr abuser of marijuana. He has added some binge drinking on top of it, to...	gknee	3	940	Sep 9, 2005 by RN52
	I AM GLAD (Preview) I have known my husband for 6 years and married for 1 yr. We just to have very voilet fights, we would be physical with one another. He was at the time drinking and doing drugs. He used to tourtement me and I felt so alone. I would call me mom and cry my eyes at and feel as though I had no one to help me. I would cut m...	nycbt	5	786	Sep 9, 2005 by nycbt
	haxigonian XIX (Preview) [[ room ]] *I really hate to ask...I need $100 via priority mail within two days so I can pay insurance and gasoline. Without that my car can be impounded (new rules).* I've accomplished a lot these last couple days: The new license plates are on and paid for:) I signed up for Vocational Rehab...	haximon	4	714	Sep 9, 2005 by gardengal
	Codependnecy and reality (Preview) ((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))), This has been a short week at work, but it has been a long week at the same time. On Tuesday I found out that a co-worker of mine slept with another co-worker's biyrfriend. Last night the girl who was cheated on tried to kill herself. I found out that this is the third...	Dolphin123	5	1013	Sep 9, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Jersey (Preview) lol, I know many people won't read this becuz I have answered it so many times!! Thank you for asking cuz it reminds me how come too! For one thing I believe marriage is a gift from my hp. Becuz of staying married i have learned thru so much hell the kind of person i am. I have seen my stamina...	debilyn	3	903	Sep 9, 2005 by Jersey
	Think out loud (Preview) Hello Roomies, Just when you think that your alcoholic is as bad as they can get, they get worse. My "A" has gone up to Alaska twice to crab and was planning on leaving in a few weeks to go again. We made huge plans for the money he was going to be bringing home. We were going to...	Dolphin123	3	637	Sep 8, 2005 by Karilynn
	From Work (Preview) On different days there are different tasks at work for me.(I work as a secretary at an out-patient treatment center)..funny how when just when I need it, a counselor will bring me something they need re-typed or prepared for group sessions....two months I received this. Hope it will help som...	marmare	3	625	Sep 8, 2005 by tea2
	Not filling the gaps (Preview) Well, I think I may be on the verge of major spiritual growth in my program and as a person... As many of you recall, I hit my bottom about 1.5 years ago when I left my A because she had a longterm affair. Since then, I have had a very high level of willingness to work this program not only to get over he...	jessi	2	823	Sep 8, 2005 by agatha
	NEED input--toxic brother attacks AGAIN (Preview) my toxic brother wrote this HORRIBLE letter......ok, some history!!! he is executor of my dead child offender father's estate!!!! he KNOWS the freak incested me, and WHY i changed my name to a clean name and i sent him the court papers which showed on t...	rosie light shines	1	764	Sep 8, 2005 by Maria123
	Nieve (Preview) I'm feeling really stupid tonight. I've had a wonderful week since I began talking to Alanon's. Things at home are better because I'm not always on my A's case, he has been more open with me and I have felt more joyful and free than in six months. He went two nights without drinking an...	Jersey	8	1040	Sep 8, 2005 by TLC2
	My story. (Preview) Here is my story. My husband is an alcoholic, and so is his mother and his grandfather (who is deceased). Anyhow, we married in 2002 and alcohol never seemed to be a problem for my husband. We were 30 when we got married, and went out occasionally and got drunk, but nothing out of the ordinary, and c...	JillCT	8	809	Sep 8, 2005 by canadianguy
	Another Funny to share (Preview) I was reading something and I saw this: Gasoline prices have gotten so high that women who want to run over their cheating husbands have started car pooling. Hope you get a giggle. Much Love,	Dolphin123	2	835	Sep 8, 2005 by marmare
	I feel like such a fool (Preview) I posted here several weeks ago about leaving my a husband and how he of course has turned this all around on me. According to him everything going wrong with our marriage is my fault. Well I have been gone for 5 weeks now and I miss him terribly and I have been second guessing my decision to le...	JulieLynn	7	822	Sep 8, 2005 by Maypole
	The Time is Now (Preview) Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven't thought about it, don't have it on their schedule, didn't know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine. I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who pas...	Peggy7	4	646	Sep 8, 2005 by marmare
	I'm Mad (Preview) HI all, I'm sitting here just mad at my A. He has mood swings from hell. Then I walk aroumd on egg shells. I ask is every thing O.k. Just to get some wise remark. I know getting sober is hard but I just don't like this. I use to walk on eggshells when he was drinking now agai...	nikkilou	5	747	Sep 8, 2005 by canadianguy
	haxigonian XVIII (Preview) [[ room ]] I thought the holiday weekend was going to be dull...wrong! I needed to get a Clackamas County library card, which is the last of the four available around here. They only give 30 minutes net time, but it's better than nothing. The nearest branch is an hour away by transit. As I have no...	haximon	5	698	Sep 8, 2005 by haximon
	VERY long story about my mom and me (Preview) this is a LONG story of my mother's and my * sorta step 8/9 * together....sorry it is so long.. Hope for Today - September 8 After coming to Al-Anon, I have finally found peace. My father's alcoholism and my mother's reactions to it caused much pain in my childhood.&...	rosie light shines	0	1113	Sep 8, 2005 by rosie light shines
	A Promise (Preview) Labor Day weekend was pretty bad. We worked on Saturday and when we came home he retired to our darkened bedroom, lay down on the bed and gave in to depression. He accused me of not treating him kindly. He refused to go out with our friends that night unless I promised to treat him better. Sin...	ditto	2	643	Sep 8, 2005 by Tammy
	Hi (Preview) I'm FormalWare, but you can call me Bud. I'm part-time enabler/caretaker/doormat, part-time rageaholic control freak. Alcoholism ran rampant over my childhood. I'm happy to say a 12-Step program (akin to ACOA, but with some John Bradshaw philosophy added) was instrumen...	FormalWare	4	744	Sep 8, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Words (Preview) Just expressing frustration Words, they cut like a knifeCut into my lifeI don't want to hear your wordsThey always attackPlease take them all backIf they're yours I don't want anymore You think you're so smartYou try to manipulate meYou try to humiliate with your wordsYou think you're s...	camra	0	765	Sep 8, 2005 by camra
	thanks megan (Preview) Thank you Megan for helping me through this.	nycbt	1	609	Sep 7, 2005 by megan
	New (Preview) Nevermind. -- Edited by furball at 00:34, 2005-09-07	furball	4	660	Sep 7, 2005 by Jersey
	some step ten stuff i share (Preview) The Good in Step Ten Step Ten says: "Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it." It does not suggest that we ignore what is right in our life. It says we continue to take a personal inventory and keep a focus on ourselves. #####ROSIE.....yes, and funny i hav...	rosie light shines	1	666	Sep 7, 2005 by Jersey
	My A has returned home again (Preview) Hello, my A has returned this morning very drunk. He had been staying with a co-worker who spent 4 days providing him with alcohol, weed and new clothes and shoes. I feel really bad for her because I warned her when he stayed a couple of days last weekend that he was using her and that he had come home and cal...	melissajill	2	853	Sep 7, 2005 by agatha
	delicate topic (Preview) Hello. I am newcomer to alanon and this board. I have a question about my newly sober boyfriend. I do not know how to broach it with him. What is anyone experience with sex and a newly sober partner? My boyfriend seems totally uninterested which is a big change. I am try...	Maypole	4	710	Sep 7, 2005 by Maypole
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