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My dad signed himself into a rehab this weekend. It is the 4th attempt at this. I spent some time with my mom because I didn't want her to get lonely. My mom is a strong person. She is going to have to go to a program which maybe she will then end up going into alanon as well. I can only hope. But I am happy for him. The program called my mom and told her that he might be home on Friday that the insurance will not pay for 14 days. The program has changed it is now a 14 day program instead of a 28 day program. I don't think 5 days are even going to lift the alchol from his system. After the program he is supposed to go to a out patient program. Then he is supposed to go to AA in the mean time. Well when I heard that I was like I don't even think it is going to work if he is only there 5 days. I am hoping that they keep him there for at least 14 days.
UPDATE:
My father has refused the 14 day program and is now coming home on Friday. The place is trying to set up an out patient program.
-- Edited by nycbt at 10:49, 2005-10-19
-- Edited by nycbt at 15:47, 2005-10-19
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Remember, We have no control over anyone's life but our own.
We have no idea what our HP has in store. There is a reason that your dad is being presented with this challenge. Take it as a challenge, and hit it with courage, optimism, and thought.
Back out of the sitation so that your HP has room to do his magic.
His will, not mine.... say that over and over.
Your mom is gonna need a pillar to serenity through this, as you are as well. Be strong, and TRUST your HP.
(((nycbt))) sometimes recovery takes a lot of starts and stops, for everyone involved. It has been the same way with my dad over the years. It's hard sometimes, but we don't have any control over insurance or recovery programs either. Your dad will do what he needs to do, and if he really wants recovery he will find a way. I trust that about my dad, too. He is far from perfect and he has gotten better over the years, but he is still sick. The same goes for me, in my own way, I know. A little at a time :) Hang in there.
Personally, I think A's will get sober when they get sober - the length of time that the rehab or treatment center is somewhat irrelevant.... If your Dad is choosing sobriety, for good, then what he is going to could well be the stepping stone to his sobriety...
Even the 28-day timeframe that many treatment centers use are hardly scientific or based on 'what works'.... This timeframe was a result of how long companies were willing to cover sick benefits for employees - nothing to do with how long it took people to get sober....
All that being said - here's hoping that your Dad does choose sobriety this time around, and that would be a wonderful blessing for you and your entire family
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
All these detox, recovery programs - such a mix, some work for some people, sigh.
What I do know is this, when my daughter stopped drinking, we did not understand about how the liver will keep producing chemicals to fight the toxins..... she could have died, thankfully, she recovered, and is still in recovery thanks to AA.
You dad may find his recovery from here - or not - how it works out, it is not up to you, you did not cause this, can not cure it and can not control it.
he is in a safe place for now, hope he can find the help he needs, all you can do, is work on you..... sorry if it sounds cliched or same old, same old, sigh, way it is, dear friend, keep taking care of you.
