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bd · bd

I was wondering if anyone else even though your not daily involved with an Active A still suffers from nightmares and images that pop into your head as memories of events. I know it is often referred to as post traumatic disorder. Sometimes I'm just sitting watching tv or driving home and...

Barbara · Barbara

Im starting to recognize a few of the same names on posts, etc.

marmare · marmare

Hi Everyone!!!! I have read some posts but am still behind, the ones I have read seems everyone is working hard at taking care of themselves!!!!

This last week has been interesting. My A came home on the 16th with certain conditions. I feel comfortable with the decisi...

Barbara · Barbara

as I know its not helping DS Everytime DH begins drinking I say to DS "well your father is at it again" His response "Yes, Mom I know" I know I need to act like the adult here. DS knows whats going on without me making it blatent.

Barbara · Barbara

Recently joined Curves - didnt tell A till the next day. Recently joined another Church - again didnt tell A till the next day Went to an Al-Anon meeting but told A I went shopping. Well I cant keep "shopping" every week for 3hours! How do I tell him Im going to Al-Anon? (and why are those meetings alwa...

tea2 · tea2

Hello -I am asking if someone would fill in for me for this Friday's am meeting (10/28) I have a doctors appointment at this exact time and will be unable to do it. Thank you to whoever will be able to fill in. Apologize for this inconvenience, I only found out now. Tea2

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Problems have only the size and the power that you give them. --S. H. We will not be free from all difficulties today, or during any period of our lives. But we have the personal power to eliminate the threat, the sting of any challenge. But it's our vision of circumstances that gives them their inte...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I have been struggling this week because I have plans this weekend that don't include my family. All weekend. I am attending an alanon function on Saturday. Sunday I am going to a frineds house because she is having some sort of party were you get to try lotions and perfumes and stuff like th...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies! For any of you who have not been to: www.hazeldon.org it's worth a look. Sign up for the daily gift. Some of them are quite remarkable. This was today's. Hope you like it. "Life Make each day count! Give yourself to everydawn of renewed hope. Look for love, forgiveness, and right...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Subject: Meditation: A Resting Place Daily Reflections, page 137 After writing down my character defects, I was unwilling to talk about them, and decided it was time to stop carrying this burden alone. I needed to confess those defects to someone else... Step Five provided m...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday I came home and my husband didn't seem right. He was acting funny. He was talking funny well any way, after a while his adult son and I had enough of this behavior. He didn't know where he was and stuff like that. I end up calling my online sponsor. In the mean time I was like baby sitting him, it rea...

Barbara · Barbara

every week Im pouring 16 oz (from 1/2gal bottle) of vodka down the sink and replacing his bottle with water. Been doing this for lets say about 10yrs now. He's never questioned me - how can he not know? We have a now 13yr at home. When he was little I wouldnt want him home w/Dad drinking. At least this way I wo...

Cathy · Cathy

And that is to try and take care of me. So I'm learning. I'm taking baby steps. My A is very important to me. My A is difficult. My A is my source of income. My A USED to be my life. I'm so confused now. Society thinks life is so easy. "Oh just move out and leave." Well it's not. I don't know. Can someone enlighten...

jeannie024 · jeannie024

hi thank you for your support, its really appriated, i feel a bit better tonight. many thanks jean take care

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Abstaining from Harmful Relationships Habit sometimes locks us into relationships, which are not in our best interest. It is easy to mistake dependency for love. When we stop overeating compulsively, we can evaluate our attachments to other people with greater clarity and perception than w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Emotional Sobriety "If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then b...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Whoever is happy will make others happy, too. --Anne Frank Anne Frank had good reason to be unhappy, full of fear, and deeply discouraged. Years of her life were spent in a small apartment hiding from the Nazis who wanted to destroy her and her family. Yet even in this little hiding place she had hap...

nycbt · nycbt

I WOULD LIKE TO THANK TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE HERE ONLINE LUCY AND MEGAN FOR ALL THERE HELP.

Barbara · Barbara

for about 6wks during Advent. Once Christmas arrived I stopped going to Church. Now that I joined a different Catholic Church Im going for the AA aspect too, not just the Christmas season. I believe the pastor is a recovering alcoholic. He works at a rehab also. His sermons speak sometimes of alcoho...

Mars · Mars

i am a great believer in a bit of planning. my partner has done so well 54 days sober . but the christmas season of party`s will be with us soon. we have been out a few times .he has been tempted but has resisted so far but alcohol is a cunning seducer that calls. And we have a few social/ work party`s to go too. i...

Jeannie · Jeannie

my Mom sent this in an email today, thought you might all enjoy it. Love Jeannie Ride the Train Some folks ride the train of life Looking out the rear, Watching miles of life roll by, And marking every year. They sit in sad remembrance, Of wasted days gone by, And curse their life for w...

sandie123 · sandie123

Lately it seems like no matter what kind of mood I am in when I go to a face to face meeting I come out feeling really crappy. I am no longer able to talk in the meetings and by the end I am sooo ready to high tail it out of there. After the meetings I am usually light headed and woozy. This week I started shaking, I...

sandie123 · sandie123

How do you detach with love from an active alcoholic who and living in your house? I don't get it.

Any ESH would be appreciated! Thanks~ Linda

nycbt · nycbt

I did good thing yesterday. I drove to my parents house and his adult son called me to tell me that he was drunk. I had not talk to my husband since 3 pm, after I found out he called his father. His son called me around 6pm. I went to the doctor and didn't call him until 9pm. So that was 7 HRS. When I wanted t...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I just read tanderboo’s post about the family afterwards, and sandie’s rely prompted me to ask for some feedback. Quick background, I’m 2 years sober and my marriage didn’t survive sobriety. I couldn’t give my wife what she wanted quickly enough in recovery. We were divorced in August and still...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

people keep asking me public and private, "what are the steps??? really what are they about???" so i kind of did this light hearted *short take* step 1....i have discovered that my life is unmanageable do to............... i am powerle...

sanddie · sanddie

Does anyone know where I can get that analogy of how we cross a bridge sometimes and need to leave people behind......

Barbara · Barbara

Just wanted to introduce myself before I headed to bed. I live with an alcoholic husband. He recently had a kidney removed due to cancer. Seems to be that should have been enough for him to turn his life around and cut down on his drinking. But no! When he was out of work recuperating he actually drank more...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Hi, my name is Lauren I am 17 years old, and from the ages of 3 -11. I was sexually molested by my father. I still have nightmares thinking it is still happening. The most frightening thing of all is that he wasnt the only person, when I was 3 years old I was first sexually molested by my neighbor, who was als...

sandy · sandy

Hi, I haven't posted for a couple of weeks now but have been reading the board just about every day. Again my daughter had another bout with trouble. As I said in earlier post she lost her kids due to her drinking and carelessness. They are with the families who agreed to keep the...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Corrupted I am I sit here in sweet surrender Shivering cold and lonely… hypothermia suddenly kicks in I look blue and so thin I am corrupted; I’m not the person you thought I was set out to be I cannot run Sitting here and wondering why makes me think of different ways I want to die ...

sanddie · sanddie

I just wanted to share with everyone who has read my posts over the past couple of weeks in which I have been faced with much hardship in abusive situations with my employer, my daughter, my ex husband..... As some of you know, my doctor has even kept me off work until this coming Monday so th...

Cathy · Cathy

to those of you who responded to my posts the other day. Today is a good day. I'm scrubbing floors and cleaning just to stay busy because I'm off work. Anyway, I'm still reading through alot of the posts and trying to learn. Plus the A hasn't drank in two days. I know you all say to take care of me when you live...

cdb · cdb

I have learned so much in this program and what tools i have used got thrown out the door today. I got engaged in an argument with my spouse and I took it very personally. I guess he knows when to get me when I am at my lowest. I don't know why I pray to God for a happy/better marriage and then this happens. The&n...

pixel04 · pixel04

I have two nephews, my husband's brother's kids (two boys, ages 5 and 7). Last year my brother in law and his wife separated. The boys live with their mother. Their father seems to be pretty torn up by their relationship, isn't taking care of himself, and doesn't have anything to do with his kids, let alo...

captcodee · captcodee

Hello all. My 61 yr old grandmother unexpectedly passed away on Saturday, and her funeral is tomorrow. Now you might think that I need the prayers for the funeral, but I beleive in my HP, so don't think that dying is such a terrible thing. I do, however, think that being in the same room as the mot...

FreeOfTheBottle · FreeOfTheBottle

Hi ya'll, I'm new to these boards, this site was suggested to me by someone in a f2f al-anon group. I'm so glad she directed me here, I'm seeing more of myself as I go through all the posts. Reading through the posts, I keep seeing "esh" mentioned. I've been struggling to figure out just...

fitone · fitone

Hello everyone this is camra some of you know me from the chat room, I had a very bad day today and needed to just rant but have on one to talk to so here I go. Can anyone tell me why the strong pick on the weak? Can anyone tell me why disabled people get discriminated agaisnt?&nb...

Marylin · Marylin

My husband of 4 years is in Recovery.. For 3 of the 4 years of our Marriage he had been using Drugs (Crack) and Alcohol. He has been in a Treatment Center 3 times and has "played" at starting AA more times then I can count.. We left him a few weeks ago, I had enough finally.. He tried to cut his wrist, then b...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I've been meaning to start a journal about what I am going through in regards to living with an alcoholic. I'm just kind of "stuck" at how to do it. I'd really like to put down my feelings but I also need to put down what happened or what was said.... do those of you that keep a journal write all t...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello everybody Hope you are all peaceful today. I told you guys I would let you know what me and my husband worked out for chore duty since I will begin working soon. Well that night he came home high and was totally off base about what we had discussed earlier and was in no condition to talk a...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I saw this on another board and thought it would be appropriate here as well. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, g...

cdb · cdb

If possible could you please let us know how the funeral went. I will be thinking of you all day today. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as well as so many from this chatsite. So many here were affected by the love and support that Dadrrb gave us and I know that grieving is hard for online friend...

pixel04 · pixel04

I have historically been a perfectionist. Even things that go perfectly well in and of themselves, I've felt compelled to tweak them because if I did they could be "better." My sponsor talked with me for a long time about the my tendency to stare at the spot on the wall, instead of appreciating the r...

Kim · Kim

Hi all: I think I've been losing ground lately in the sense that I am not having patience with myself or my A. I feel that an online sponsor would be helpful. I have been seeing a lot of my A lately, and I don't know where the relationship is going. We still do not have any physical real...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

yea i need an online sponsor because i need someone to talk to and help me through this pain and loneliness

txmom · txmom

As most of you know, my husband (dadrrb) passed away yesterday. The wonderful words of sympathy and encouragement touched me so much that I shared them with our 14 year old daughter. She's asked me questions about the conversations going one in our room. Did Daddy talk abo...

buzzfree · buzzfree

For those who have not heard, dadrrb1 passed away, 10-23-05. I dont know any specifics right now, will post more when I do... In the time he was here, he touched so many of our lives, with his sense of humor, and his kindness. He will be greatly missed. My prayers go out to you Robert, as you journey int...

April · April

I've only had my sponsor for 2 weeks and i don't think it's working out. I want to ask someone else to sponsor me but I'm not sure what to say to my current sponsor. This is one of my defects for sure, not facing my troubles. I know it needs to be done I just know exactly how to say it, or to at...

bcraindrop70 · bcraindrop70

I do not have a f2f sponsor. How do you go about getting an online sponsor?

Therese · Therese

Hello I am so glad I found this site I need to vent...after I do so it seems I can be more grateful and pay attention to things in my life that need it. I have been struggling with my own character defects which have supported my husbands use. They have been dishonesty (I deny what he is doi...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, Well if you read my last post, you know that life is crazy. As always

Anyway- When I got home from work last night I was expexting to be treated coldly by my "A". Well, once again he failed to meet my expectations

He had my some clothes la...

mastiff · mastiff

Hello all, I come to you with very sad news that many of you will feel on a personally level. Daddrrb died this morning. What a horrible disease this is. With Txmom's permission I am posting here asking you all to offer ES&H to her. I know others in here have been where she i...

gardengal · gardengal

If the alcoholic in your life is still actively drinking, learning what not to do is an important part of the program. *Dont treat the alcoholic like a child: you wouldnt if he or she were suffering from some other disease. *Dont check up to see how much the A is drinking. *Dont search for hidden li...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

The wild geese do not intend to cast their reflection; the water has no mind to receive their image. --Zenrin poem There are moments which simply happen through no conscious intention or will on anyone's part. The image of an old woman with a peaceful face, the smell of smoke rising from a chimney o...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband was talking to his father a couple of hours ago. He sounded upset but he wouldn't stay on the phone with me. I hung up and called him 2 hours later and either he was sleeping or he is drunk. Now I have to decide what the next move will be. I can either stay at my parents house an not have all my meds, or g...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Acceptance "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is s...

Cathy · Cathy

Yes, it IS their problem. I know that. But me..........as a sort of speak sideline sees what goes on. It's so easy for society to judge. Yes.....maybe most of you in here judge me. I will say this once. My A is trying. I know what you're all thinking..."run as fast as you can" "get out" Anyway. the A is reall...

bd · bd

I went to see my parents this weekend. my dad is the A. When i talked to my mom on thurs and let her know I was coming up she said " i'll worn you know he's on a bender". I drove 2 and half hours expecting the usual. I had told my mom that me and the b/f are in the process of splitting up an...

chris52 · chris52

I am new to Al Anon and this is my first posting. I am so grateful to you all for the helpful advice and love shown to me in the chat room.I have felt very isolated since I am English but living in Turkey and there are no resources here to help me. I give thanks to God that at last I have found you as for the last 2 an...

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	Do you believe in Post Traumatic (Preview) I was wondering if anyone else even though your not daily involved with an Active A still suffers from nightmares and images that pop into your head as memories of events. I know it is often referred to as post traumatic disorder. Sometimes I'm just sitting watching tv or driving home and...	bd	8	588	Oct 27, 2005 by SashaBear
	who are the most experienced names on this message board? (Preview) Im starting to recognize a few of the same names on posts, etc.	Barbara	6	554	Oct 27, 2005 by canadianguy
	update (Preview) Hi Everyone!!!! I have read some posts but am still behind, the ones I have read seems everyone is working hard at taking care of themselves!!!! This last week has been interesting. My A came home on the 16th with certain conditions. I feel comfortable with the decisi...	marmare	5	514	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	pls help me stop complaining about DH to DS (Preview) as I know its not helping DS Everytime DH begins drinking I say to DS "well your father is at it again" His response "Yes, Mom I know" I know I need to act like the adult here. DS knows whats going on without me making it blatent.	Barbara	5	722	Oct 27, 2005 by lin0606
	how do you let your A know youre going to Al-Anon? (Preview) Recently joined Curves - didnt tell A till the next day. Recently joined another Church - again didnt tell A till the next day Went to an Al-Anon meeting but told A I went shopping. Well I cant keep "shopping" every week for 3hours! How do I tell him Im going to Al-Anon? (and why are those meetings alwa...	Barbara	6	611	Oct 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	Online chair needed for Friday AM (10/28) (Preview) Hello -I am asking if someone would fill in for me for this Friday's am meeting (10/28) I have a doctors appointment at this exact time and will be unable to do it. Thank you to whoever will be able to fill in. Apologize for this inconvenience, I only found out now. Tea2	tea2	2	616	Oct 27, 2005 by tea2
	mountains or mole hills? (Preview) *Problems have only the size and the power that you give them. --S. H.* We will not be free from all difficulties today, or during any period of our lives. But we have the personal power to eliminate the threat, the sting of any challenge. But it's our vision of circumstances that gives them their inte...	rosie light shines	1	637	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	Feeling good (Preview) Hello all, I have been struggling this week because I have plans this weekend that don't include my family. All weekend. I am attending an alanon function on Saturday. Sunday I am going to a frineds house because she is having some sort of party were you get to try lotions and perfumes and stuff like th...	Dolphin123	3	644	Oct 27, 2005 by browneyes
	Life (Preview) Hi roomies! For any of you who have not been to: www.hazeldon.org it's worth a look. Sign up for the daily gift. Some of them are quite remarkable. This was today's. Hope you like it. "Life Make each day count! Give yourself to everydawn of renewed hope. Look for love, forgiveness, and right...	Karilynn	4	713	Oct 27, 2005 by browneyes
	i am sad today...another grief cycle (Preview) Subject: Meditation: A Resting Place Daily Reflections, page 137 After writing down my character defects, I was unwilling to talk about them, and decided it was time to stop carrying this burden alone. I needed to confess those defects to someone else... Step Five provided m...	rosie light shines	2	816	Oct 27, 2005 by browneyes
	GOT HELP (Preview) Yesterday I came home and my husband didn't seem right. He was acting funny. He was talking funny well any way, after a while his adult son and I had enough of this behavior. He didn't know where he was and stuff like that. I end up calling my online sponsor. In the mean time I was like baby sitting him, it rea...	nycbt	3	651	Oct 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I pour his booze down the sink (Preview) every week Im pouring 16 oz (from 1/2gal bottle) of vodka down the sink and replacing his bottle with water. Been doing this for lets say about 10yrs now. He's never questioned me - how can he not know? We have a now 13yr at home. When he was little I wouldnt want him home w/Dad drinking. At least this way I wo...	Barbara	8	1341	Oct 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I think I've learned One thing (Preview) And that is to try and take care of me. So I'm learning. I'm taking baby steps. My A is very important to me. My A is difficult. My A is my source of income. My A USED to be my life. I'm so confused now. Society thinks life is so easy. "Oh just move out and leave." Well it's not. I don't know. Can someone enlighten...	Cathy	8	656	Oct 27, 2005 by Princess
	thank you everyone (Preview) hi thank you for your support, its really appriated, i feel a bit better tonight. many thanks jean take care	jeannie024	1	557	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	abstaining from bad relationships (Preview) Abstaining from Harmful Relationships Habit sometimes locks us into relationships, which are not in our best interest. It is easy to mistake dependency for love. When we stop overeating compulsively, we can evaluate our attachments to other people with greater clarity and perception than w...	rosie light shines	2	694	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	emotional subriety (Preview) Emotional Sobriety "If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small, we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help, continually surrender these hobbling liabilities. Then we can be set free to live and love; we may then b...	rosie light shines	1	495	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	Anne Frank and my gratitude (Preview) *Whoever is happy will make others happy, too. --Anne Frank* Anne Frank had good reason to be unhappy, full of fear, and deeply discouraged. Years of her life were spent in a small apartment hiding from the Nazis who wanted to destroy her and her family. Yet even in this little hiding place she had hap...	rosie light shines	1	672	Oct 27, 2005 by nycbt
	like to thank MEGAN AND LUCY (Preview) I WOULD LIKE TO THANK TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE HERE ONLINE LUCY AND MEGAN FOR ALL THERE HELP.	nycbt	1	598	Oct 27, 2005 by megan
	I went back to Church last Christmas season (Preview) for about 6wks during Advent. Once Christmas arrived I stopped going to Church. Now that I joined a different Catholic Church Im going for the AA aspect too, not just the Christmas season. I believe the pastor is a recovering alcoholic. He works at a rehab also. His sermons speak sometimes of alcoho...	Barbara	0	423	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	party`s (Preview) i am a great believer in a bit of planning. my partner has done so well 54 days sober . but the christmas season of party`s will be with us soon. we have been out a few times .he has been tempted but has resisted so far but alcohol is a cunning seducer that calls. And we have a few social/ work party`s to go too. i...	Mars	6	562	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	Ride the train (Preview) my Mom sent this in an email today, thought you might all enjoy it. Love Jeannie *Ride the Train* Some folks ride the train of life Looking out the rear, Watching miles of life roll by, And marking every year. They sit in sad remembrance, Of wasted days gone by, And curse their life for w...	Jeannie	3	561	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	I’ve got the Face to Face blues….. Need help! (Preview) Lately it seems like no matter what kind of mood I am in when I go to a face to face meeting I come out feeling really crappy. I am no longer able to talk in the meetings and by the end I am sooo ready to high tail it out of there. After the meetings I am usually light headed and woozy. This week I started shaking, I...	sandie123	5	567	Oct 27, 2005 by WakingUp
	Detaching with love (Preview) How do you detach with love from an active alcoholic who and living in your house? I don't get it. Any ESH would be appreciated! Thanks~ Linda	sandie123	7	618	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	I DID GOOD (Preview) I did good thing yesterday. I drove to my parents house and his adult son called me to tell me that he was drunk. I had not talk to my husband since 3 pm, after I found out he called his father. His son called me around 6pm. I went to the doctor and didn't call him until 9pm. So that was 7 HRS. When I wanted t...	nycbt	5	494	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	Totally confused, frustrated and hurt (Preview) I just read tanderboo’s post about the family afterwards, and sandie’s rely prompted me to ask for some feedback. Quick background, I’m 2 years sober and my marriage didn’t survive sobriety. I couldn’t give my wife what she wanted quickly enough in recovery. We were divorced in August and still...	UncleLou	8	586	Oct 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	for NEWbees a lighthearted look at 12 steps (Preview) people keep asking me public and private, "what are the steps??? really what are they about???" so i kind of did this light hearted short take step 1....i have discovered that my life is unmanageable do to............... i am powerle...	rosie light shines	5	535	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	Anybody know where I can get The Bridge? (Preview) Does anyone know where I can get that analogy of how we cross a bridge sometimes and need to leave people behind......	sanddie	3	550	Oct 27, 2005 by Barbara
	new here (Preview) Just wanted to introduce myself before I headed to bed. I live with an alcoholic husband. He recently had a kidney removed due to cancer. Seems to be that should have been enough for him to turn his life around and cut down on his drinking. But no! When he was out of work recuperating he actually drank more...	Barbara	3	532	Oct 27, 2005 by canadianguy
	this is my story can u help me?? (Preview) Hi, my name is Lauren I am 17 years old, and from the ages of 3 -11. I was sexually molested by my father. I still have nightmares thinking it is still happening. The most frightening thing of all is that he wasnt the only person, when I was 3 years old I was first sexually molested by my neighbor, who was als...	Lauren ashley	10	731	Oct 26, 2005 by Lanchas
	I don't understand why! (Preview) Hi, I haven't posted for a couple of weeks now but have been reading the board just about every day. Again my daughter had another bout with trouble. As I said in earlier post she lost her kids due to her drinking and carelessness. They are with the families who agreed to keep the...	sandy	8	605	Oct 26, 2005 by KathyS
	Why can't my pain go away??? (Preview) Corrupted I am I sit here in sweet surrender Shivering cold and lonely… hypothermia suddenly kicks in I look blue and so thin I am corrupted; I’m not the person you thought I was set out to be I cannot run Sitting here and wondering why makes me think of different ways I want to die ...	Lauren ashley	5	572	Oct 26, 2005 by KathyS
	It's Time.... (Preview) I just wanted to share with everyone who has read my posts over the past couple of weeks in which I have been faced with much hardship in abusive situations with my employer, my daughter, my ex husband..... As some of you know, my doctor has even kept me off work until this coming Monday so th...	sanddie	2	446	Oct 26, 2005 by KathyS
	Thank You.... (Preview) to those of you who responded to my posts the other day. Today is a good day. I'm scrubbing floors and cleaning just to stay busy because I'm off work. Anyway, I'm still reading through alot of the posts and trying to learn. Plus the A hasn't drank in two days. I know you all say to take care of me when you live...	Cathy	2	457	Oct 26, 2005 by tea2
	I am dying inside and torn apart,,,, (Preview) I have learned so much in this program and what tools i have used got thrown out the door today. I got engaged in an argument with my spouse and I took it very personally. I guess he knows when to get me when I am at my lowest. I don't know why I pray to God for a happy/better marriage and then this happens. The&n...	cdb	34	1109	Oct 26, 2005 by Mars
	my nephews, one day at a time (Preview) I have two nephews, my husband's brother's kids (two boys, ages 5 and 7). Last year my brother in law and his wife separated. The boys live with their mother. Their father seems to be pretty torn up by their relationship, isn't taking care of himself, and doesn't have anything to do with his kids, let alo...	pixel04	0	386	Oct 26, 2005 by pixel04
	Trying times need your prayers (Preview) Hello all. My 61 yr old grandmother unexpectedly passed away on Saturday, and her funeral is tomorrow. Now you might think that I need the prayers for the funeral, but I beleive in my HP, so don't think that dying is such a terrible thing. I do, however, think that being in the same room as the mot...	captcodee	8	563	Oct 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	Question and intro (Preview) Hi ya'll, I'm new to these boards, this site was suggested to me by someone in a f2f al-anon group. I'm so glad she directed me here, I'm seeing more of myself as I go through all the posts. Reading through the posts, I keep seeing "esh" mentioned. I've been struggling to figure out just...	FreeOfTheBottle	4	521	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	rant (Preview) Hello everyone this is camra some of you know me from the chat room, I had a very bad day today and needed to just rant but have on one to talk to so here I go. Can anyone tell me why the strong pick on the weak? Can anyone tell me why disabled people get discriminated agaisnt?&nb...	fitone	2	472	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Scared.. but wants to Trust (Preview) My husband of 4 years is in Recovery.. For 3 of the 4 years of our Marriage he had been using Drugs (Crack) and Alcohol. He has been in a Treatment Center 3 times and has "played" at starting AA more times then I can count.. We left him a few weeks ago, I had enough finally.. He tried to cut his wrist, then b...	Marylin	9	626	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Journaling questions (Preview) I've been meaning to start a journal about what I am going through in regards to living with an alcoholic. I'm just kind of "stuck" at how to do it. I'd really like to put down my feelings but I also need to put down what happened or what was said.... do those of you that keep a journal write all t...	dogscribe	4	1807	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Why bother? (Preview) Hello everybody Hope you are all peaceful today. I told you guys I would let you know what me and my husband worked out for chore duty since I will begin working soon. Well that night he came home high and was totally off base about what we had discussed earlier and was in no condition to talk a...	browneyes	7	762	Oct 26, 2005 by nycbt
	Two Wolves (Preview) I saw this on another board and thought it would be appropriate here as well. One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, g...	dogscribe	3	552	Oct 26, 2005 by cidboy
	txmom/daughter (Preview) If possible could you please let us know how the funeral went. I will be thinking of you all day today. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you as well as so many from this chatsite. So many here were affected by the love and support that Dadrrb gave us and I know that grieving is hard for online friend...	cdb	0	459	Oct 26, 2005 by cdb
	grateful today (Preview) I have historically been a perfectionist. Even things that go perfectly well in and of themselves, I've felt compelled to tweak them because if I did they could be "better." My sponsor talked with me for a long time about the my tendency to stare at the spot on the wall, instead of appreciating the r...	pixel04	4	449	Oct 26, 2005 by cdb
	need an online sponsor (Preview) Hi all: I think I've been losing ground lately in the sense that I am not having patience with myself or my A. I feel that an online sponsor would be helpful. I have been seeing a lot of my A lately, and I don't know where the relationship is going. We still do not have any physical real...	Kim	1	529	Oct 26, 2005 by cdb
	i need an online sponsor (Preview) yea i need an online sponsor because i need someone to talk to and help me through this pain and loneliness	Lauren ashley	1	435	Oct 26, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Hi to All from My Daughter (Preview) As most of you know, my husband (dadrrb) passed away yesterday. The wonderful words of sympathy and encouragement touched me so much that I shared them with our 14 year old daughter. She's asked me questions about the conversations going one in our room. Did Daddy talk abo...	txmom	10	685	Oct 25, 2005 by swolves
	dadrrb1....farewell my friend (Preview) For those who have not heard, dadrrb1 passed away, 10-23-05. I dont know any specifics right now, will post more when I do... In the time he was here, he touched so many of our lives, with his sense of humor, and his kindness. He will be greatly missed. My prayers go out to you Robert, as you journey int...	buzzfree	2	531	Oct 25, 2005 by cdb
	Sponsors (Preview) I've only had my sponsor for 2 weeks and i don't think it's working out. I want to ask someone else to sponsor me but I'm not sure what to say to my current sponsor. This is one of my defects for sure, not facing my troubles. I know it needs to be done I just know exactly how to say it, or to at...	April	6	519	Oct 25, 2005 by April
	How do you get an online sponsor? (Preview) I do not have a f2f sponsor. How do you go about getting an online sponsor?	bcraindrop70	2	453	Oct 25, 2005 by KathyS
	gratitude where are you? (Preview) Hello I am so glad I found this site I need to vent...after I do so it seems I can be more grateful and pay attention to things in my life that need it. I have been struggling with my own character defects which have supported my husbands use. They have been dishonesty (I deny what he is doi...	Therese	6	544	Oct 25, 2005 by Therese
	Calming Down (Preview) Hello All, Well if you read my last post, you know that life is crazy. As always Anyway- When I got home from work last night I was expexting to be treated coldly by my "A". Well, once again he failed to meet my expectations He had my some clothes la...	Dolphin123	2	488	Oct 25, 2005 by pixel04
	One of our A's died NEED ES&H NOW PLEASE (Preview) Hello all, I come to you with very sad news that many of you will feel on a personally level. Daddrrb died this morning. What a horrible disease this is. With Txmom's permission I am posting here asking you all to offer ES&H to her. I know others in here have been where she i...	mastiff	38	1975	Oct 25, 2005 by bubbles1990
	SOME IMPORTANT "DON'TS" (Preview) If the alcoholic in your life is still actively drinking, learning what not to do is an important part of the program. Dont treat the alcoholic like a child: you wouldnt if he or she were suffering from some other disease. Dont check up to see how much the A is drinking. *Dont search for hidden li...	gardengal	7	683	Oct 25, 2005 by bd
	noticing the good now (Preview) *The wild geese do not intend to cast their reflection; the water has no mind to receive their image. --Zenrin poem* There are moments which simply happen through no conscious intention or will on anyone's part. The image of an old woman with a peaceful face, the smell of smoke rising from a chimney o...	rosie light shines	2	525	Oct 25, 2005 by rosie light shines
	NOT AGAIN (Preview) My husband was talking to his father a couple of hours ago. He sounded upset but he wouldn't stay on the phone with me. I hung up and called him 2 hours later and either he was sleeping or he is drunk. Now I have to decide what the next move will be. I can either stay at my parents house an not have all my meds, or g...	nycbt	1	513	Oct 25, 2005 by megan
	ACCEPTANCE....from the AA big book (Preview) Acceptance "And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, situation -- some fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is s...	rosie light shines	2	622	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	To Diva (Preview) Yes, it IS their problem. I know that. But me..........as a sort of speak sideline sees what goes on. It's so easy for society to judge. Yes.....maybe most of you in here judge me. I will say this once. My A is trying. I know what you're all thinking..."run as fast as you can" "get out" Anyway. the A is reall...	Cathy	4	484	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	The strangest Thing happenned (Preview) I went to see my parents this weekend. my dad is the A. When i talked to my mom on thurs and let her know I was coming up she said " i'll worn you know he's on a bender". I drove 2 and half hours expecting the usual. I had told my mom that me and the b/f are in the process of splitting up an...	bd	7	613	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
	Letting Go (Preview) I am new to Al Anon and this is my first posting. I am so grateful to you all for the helpful advice and love shown to me in the chat room.I have felt very isolated since I am English but living in Turkey and there are no resources here to help me. I give thanks to God that at last I have found you as for the last 2 an...	chris52	7	593	Oct 25, 2005 by nycbt
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