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canadianguy · canadianguy

Reading posts recently about whether or not our actions are enabling - reminded me of an old post of mine, with some awesome reminders from one of the leaders in the field - Toby Rice Drews (author of the Getting Them Sober series of books). She has an awesome, gentle, supportive way of saying so much - I...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi Y'all, I borrowed the title off of another member... My own take was a little boat sailing out into the surf. What I didn't say was that my sister and two brothers were on the boat with crowbars- ramming holes in the bottom. Or that is how it feels like to me. Not only am I affected, but I am surrounded with...

a4l · a4l

It's been a painful year. Painful in the ego sense I guess and my little people have had to endure a really tired mother. I feel at times really close to giving up, usually when I am confronted with huge mountains of washing, a bar of laundry soap and my two hands. I get a case of the "poor me's" and the "wh...

Carla61 · Carla61

I love my husband, don't get me wrong, I'm just done with the lies . I can support him when he is sober, but when he drinks, I just want to ignore him. Am I wrong? Please help me.

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about compassion. The author shares that at first, they did not know what compassion was, but they could identify what it was not. Compassion was not seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, throwing things, etc. So the author began to try...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting for tomorrow - I've got golf plans... The reading in courage talks about how we suggest concentrating on our similarities instead of our differences. When we remember why we are all here, we need never feel alone. We do have differences and there is no reason they should not be acknowledged...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I have been thinking about something for about a week. Using my tools, etc. The latest I have settled on is, "When in doubt don't." The crazy thing is, I am having doubts about that! LOL! Today is my Ex's birthday. Last week his mother invited myself and Kid to a birthday get-together at her house this Su...

serenity47 · serenity47

I am feeling sad and frustrated today. My grown children whom have always been very close growing up are having a major falling out. We had attended the funeral of my sons young friend yesterday (age 18). My grown AD came to support her brother but that support was rejected by him. I know he is hurti...

hotrod · hotrod

Yhe ODAT reading for Oct 2 speaks about. Al-Anon being a fellowship of equals.The reading points out the danger of having a "managing controlling person directing the meetings. The discussion goes on to explain that if we were not a fellowship of equals no one would be free enough to think or a...

Lyne · Lyne

Chaos: The writer discusses the warning signs that their life has become unmanageable --racing thoughts going through their mind at an alarming speed--memories, broken promises, future fears, failed expectations, etc. Yet serenity is easily attainable with a phone call, acknowledgement o...

Bo · Bo

Some recent threads started me thinking -- when denial breaks, recovery and getting better, and gratitude -- made me think about all of these things. This Sunday is the anniversary of the death of a very good friend. While I met him "in the rooms" and some people here may not appreciate or relate to that...

A nother · A nother

So, I had a migraine this week. A worse than normal one for me. The day after the pain went I told him that I understood that he couldn't stop drinking. This was part of a bigger conversation about how I don't want to have to talk to him about his drinking or our relationship when he has been drinking (on Tues...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... I run towards the roar means I face things head on, right? My picture is much more gentle and sedate. I picture a wooden rowing boat heading out through the surf to open water. I have to keep alert and have a good hold on both oars. I just keep the prow of the boat facing into the waves. I ke...

hotrod · hotrod

ODAT reading for 9-29 reviews the slogan "Listen and learn": It reminds us that "Listen and learn is a sound doctrine, if we use it well. We do not make significant progress in our thinking if we're only listening to ourselves talk.and one of its quotes:"I pray that I may learn from listening whet...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about forgiveness, expectations, acceptance. The writer describes approaching his/her father to describe the hurt associated with growing up in an alcoholic home. The writer imagined airing out these hurts and hearing an apology (this was an expectat...

ling · ling

Hi AH has been with friends living away for a couple of weeks to rehab. He has no money should I send him some or is ithat enabling?

MellyBobelly · MellyBobelly

Hey guys. Thought I'd check in and say hi. How is everyone? I'm good, a little stressed at the mo as tomorrow I have to drive to the middle of nowhere and do camping The kid wanted to go to this particular music festival and of course I don't have the $$ to buy tickets so I volunteered us almost a year ago to d...

Freetime · Freetime

In Courage to Change, September 28, the writer proposed an idea to a home group business meeting. The group conscience did not vote in favor of the idea, but did vote to support another person's proposal. The writer let go of the feelings of wounded pride by remembering to Place Principles above Pers...

Temple · Temple

I am printing the entire thread on When Denial Breaks. What a lovely group of people are here. I am constantly amazed at the wisdom and compassion and generosity you all possess. . I think that whatever problem one might have, reading the entire thread will give direction, clues, answers. And I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is another reminder for us to focus on just one day at a time - this very day. I really like the quote from Just For Today --- "Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once." The reminder -- An old maxim says, "It'll shine when it shines."...

MellyBobelly · MellyBobelly

Hello MIP! It's been a long time since I visited here. I hope everyone is well! I don't spend much time online these days as it seems to take me to a bad place when I do, I tend to hide in my computer instead of dealing with things. It was probably fairly obvious that I had a lot of work to do on myself and I wasn't...

bud · bud

I'm really struggling this month... ... as one enormous thing resolves, another enormous brick wall crops up as if on cue. A work colleague called me today and let me know that he doesn't agree with my approach and had already let our mutual clients know. It wasn't a conversation he wasn't interested i...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi Family :) I Remember when I Landed here 10 yrs ago, I was coming to save my Baby brother from this disease, after just losing my Afather to it... I am the Older sister, so in my Family I was more of a Mother to him then his Sister, (I'm 6 yrs older) and as Children in our alcoholic home, My Mom worked anywhere...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about feelings and emotions. The author shares that when they first came to Al-Anon, they thought of anger, resentment, fear, etc. as negative emotions. Through work in the program, the author realized that emotions and feelings are not good or ba...

lookingup · lookingup

im been having troubles with getting my mirc server up n running, i got mirc downloaded,just don't know where to go from there to get my mip scripts etc.. can anybody help me or direct me to the right source to help. thanks in advance. Patricia(Lookingup)))))

bbyturtle · bbyturtle

Hi, I am new to al-anon and rehab and anything drug related actually. For the past four years I had been in a relationship with a heroin addict however, we broke up about a year and a half ago but have stayed connected and felt we were meant for each other. I ended things because of the drug addiction and sai...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am a little unsettled but I realize that I have purpose. This is short. I have little time & lots of anxiety. I get through these uncertain times because I know it is not going to be this way forever. It may not get better but it will get different.

canadianguy · canadianguy

My Picker may well be broken, or maybe it is exactly where it is supposed to be.... I have been single for some time, and struggling to find the right relationship for me - dating a fair amount, but difficult to find the right chemistry.... A month or so ago, I met this really upbeat lady (S) - fun, intelli...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for Sept 25 speaks about. Al-Anon being the road to" personal freedom". The discussion goes on to explain that there are many difficult family situations in which we are involved so we must realize that the most important word in the above statement is"personal".. This per...

mamalioness · mamalioness

One should not give up, neglect, or forget for a moment his inner life,but he must learn to work in it, with it, and out of it, so that the unityof his soul may break out in all his activities.--Meister EckhartAll people, have goodness in their hearts and greatness in their souls.--ShelleyThe more I let...

hellohellohello · hellohellohello

I'm really new to Al-anon and I could use some experience strength and hope. My husband is an addict and has been going to a program for almost three years and hasn't been sober a single day. I've been in a lot of denial about how bad his problem really is, and also about how bad our financial situation is. I...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading tor today speaks about the importance of the 5th Step . It notes that this is an extremely important, personal step That requires that we share our private thoughts and experiences with another person.. The reading suggests that this step offers personal freedom to the person...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I wont be on the computer tomorrow, going to hang out with some friends and talk with younger daughter and make it a fun day. Anybody who was born near me, happy birthday, the greatest gift I ever got was getting into recovery and meeting up with the loving people on this Alanon site and also next-door. I...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everybody: Todays Hope for Today is a focus of our slogan How Important Is It? The writer describes a childhood in which he/she felt the need to be perfect in reaction to growing up with the chaos of an alcoholic mother. The result was constant self beratement that nothing was ever good...

Lyne · Lyne

Home movies: The writer for today says you can view your life situation with major importance, like a technicolor movie , with your name up in lights. Or you can see yourself in your home movies, like many others, which makes your movie important, but not an extravaganza. The writer remarks they re...

hotrod · hotrod

Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery togethe ...

JerryF · JerryF

My lovely funny wife presented me with the annual birthday gift bag; some casual clothes to wear around the house and some treats and she knows how to treat me. This year it's a bag of Li Hing Mui (locals form of Holy Communion) and a Mango flavored version...hmmmmm love it!! Oh and alcohol free too!...

Freetime · Freetime

One Day At a Time in Al-Anon, September 21, talks about our resistance to accepting that the Twelve Steps apply to us. Often we don't want to believe we are powerless over alcohol, that we have allowed our lives to become unmanageable, and that we need to be restored to sanity. When we look at our situat...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Yes .. apparently adulting didn't get any easier since the last go around and I am really not impressed with my kiddo. PNP's post about her kiddo and boundaries hits home in so many other ways at the moment. I am frustrated, hormonal, and just over all displeased with some of the antics going on. We k...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow is our day - the day we came to exist in human form - and I am humbled, honored and blessed to share this day with my brother/friend Jerry. I am typically a low key gal as I have 3 A(s) as family and they are doing good to remember the day AND to send a text. I've come to accept it's just who they are - it...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's Courage to Change is about Step 8: Making a list of those we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. The author suggests returning to our step 4 inventory to help refresh our memories. Asking ourselves which situations we have been in where our character defects m...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Those who created yesterday's pain do not control tomorrow'spotential.--unknownThe devil brings devastation; God offers restoration.--unknown"I do service in Alcoholics Anonymous because it reminds me of whereI came from . . . it keeps me green. And green things grow!"--unknownMost people...

serenity47 · serenity47

I love this slogan and find it helpful in my recovery. I am able to recognize that I have changed and still have a lot of changing to do. My daughter is in a relapse. Yes I am scared, worried, feel stressed, angry and sad all at the same time. What has changed is what I am doing during this time. Before, I...

a4l · a4l

As the subject line states, I am a bit triggered by this at the moment. I suppose I am just dropping in a line to reassure myself of some reality. I have to ask myself what I am doing here at this moment. It is slightly culturally complicated but in and around that are the things which cross all classes of bei...

sweeetr · sweeetr

VENT ! My 13 yr old son ..... is going back to his bad habits ! His dad, my exH, got out of prison about 4 months ago. And the poo hits the fan on a regular basis again now. I'm all about letting my exH live his life and staying out of his. I am fortunate to have supervised visitation and even tho he says and do...

DavidG · DavidG

The sun is streaming in here- Wednesday. My little peach tree- on the front lawn is in full bloom. Ah kin pinch myself- ah, yes ah is still alive- still above ground right now. Long ago i would have retired to the back of the yard- and left Alanon behind. Today's reading in HFT was a about sexual abuse. I d...

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning All I m going camping today for a week so am posting early.. The ODAT Reading for Tuesday 9-18 speaks about our reasons for first entering the rooms of alanon. It suggests that most come to find out how to get someone to stop drinking and then discover that alanon is much more than that. ...

A nother · A nother

I know I shouldn't be surprised. I know this isn't about me. I know this is a disease. But I wanted a different outcome. The easier outcome for me. It's been quite nice not having to deal with his drinking, once I got through the anger at his last binge behaviour. I've found it easier to focus on me. I've bee...

ling · ling

Can't get rid of this irritable feeling. AH away with friends on rehab. He wants to come back home having stopped drinking but no life change.I. e contine working on his own will be lonely and his work will not help his painful back. His choice but with no change he will inevitably drink again. He also wan...

wp · wp

Asking for prayers for my family and me for health, healing, faith, serenity. Been through a tough week and a half with hub's medical issues, been getting kids to fly down to help us. I just need support , whatever you can offer. Thank you , my peeps. wp

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

This issue is not about my RAXH. This is about my 18 year-old son who lives with me. In July I came home early from work to find a vape pen on the couch. Confronted kid. It was weed. His reasoning was that it helped him with social anxiety (actual) and sleep issues (not sure about those). Marijuana is legal i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how Alanon has brought consistency and structure to those of us who have lived in the chaos of an alcoholic family. The writer mentions that although there were rules in the house that he/she grew up in, due to the nature of alcoholism and all the chaos it...

Lyne · Lyne

People pleasing: The writer discusses our instinctive need to fit in, which is not harmful unless we lose our sense of balance. This becomes destructive when we ignore our own needs and sacrifice our well-being for others. Alanon suggests a compromise where we can belong, be aware of our feeling...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all, Last night I chaired a meeting in a neighbouring town. I am doing my 12th Step and was asked to take my turn at sharing... it worked out well. I have a group culture which came from my home town here. Our group is in recess. Our culture was that we had a difference chair every week. If the chai...

ginnyc · ginnyc

I read a earlier post from someone regarding triggers and I have to say I have had a major trigger this week. My older brother is passing away and it will probably this week. He has been sick for awhile so it was not a surprise. I haven't been able to do anything for a few days, haven't read my alanon literatu...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Its been quite a roller coaster of late, this past , while, anyway...deaths, changes (not wanted ones) , work loss, ME and ME and did I say ME??? Its like I "hit a wall" with this self saboteur..this wounded part of me running amok...compulsive mind racing, translating to my hands and I do stuff with n...

Fedora · Fedora

So last night my AH called me from a county jail, an hour from our house. DWI, had to come get him. Of course I was annoyed. Strangely, at that moment, I wasn't even angry. I've actually been waiting for some police officer to call me to tell me he's been in an accident and is wrapped around a tree (this is (s...

Iamhere · Iamhere

As I do each Sunday, I watch and embrace messages from Joel O! Today's reading spoke to me - it's about negative vs. positive recordings in our minds....I need all the daily reminders I can get that I am worthy and loved!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XA7VWVM4FdU

mamalioness · mamalioness

"When your life is filled with the desire to see the holinessin everyday life, something magical happens: ordinary lifebecomes extraordinary, and the very process of life begins tonourish your soul!"--Rabbi Harold Kushner"He who laughs, lasts."--Mary Pettibone PooleIf there is any kindness...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for Sept 11 ( a difficult day for me as I worked at the WTC), speaks of being fully aware of what we do and say in our interactions with the alcoholic The reading also suggests that we tone down our use of sarcasm , lower our voice and remember that we hurt ourselves more with our anger tha...

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	Labels of enabler or codependent..... (Preview) Reading posts recently about whether or not our actions are enabling - reminded me of an old post of mine, with some awesome reminders from one of the leaders in the field - Toby Rice Drews (author of the Getting Them Sober series of books). She has an awesome, gentle, supportive way of saying so much - I...	canadianguy	7	724	Oct 5, 2018 by Pol
	"I run towards the roar..." ... II (Preview) Hi Y'all, I borrowed the title off of another member... My own take was a little boat sailing out into the surf. What I didn't say was that my sister and two brothers were on the boat with crowbars- ramming holes in the bottom. Or that is how it feels like to me. Not only am I affected, but I am surrounded with...	DavidG	9	907	Oct 5, 2018 by Bo
	Needing to start again. Again! lol (Preview) It's been a painful year. Painful in the ego sense I guess and my little people have had to endure a really tired mother. I feel at times really close to giving up, usually when I am confronted with huge mountains of washing, a bar of laundry soap and my two hands. I get a case of the "poor me's" and the "wh...	a4l	8	593	Oct 5, 2018 by hotrod
	The lies (Preview) I love my husband, don't get me wrong, I'm just done with the lies . I can support him when he is sober, but when he drinks, I just want to ignore him. Am I wrong? Please help me.	Carla61	13	668	Oct 4, 2018 by Jen61
	Courage to Change October 3 2018 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about compassion. The author shares that at first, they did not know what compassion was, but they could identify what it was not. Compassion was not seeking revenge, holding a grudge, calling names, throwing things, etc. So the author began to try...	Skorpi	7	499	Oct 4, 2018 by serenity47
	Courage to Change 10/4/18 (Preview) Posting for tomorrow - I've got golf plans... The reading in courage talks about how we suggest concentrating on our similarities instead of our differences. When we remember why we are all here, we need never feel alone. We do have differences and there is no reason they should not be acknowledged...	Iamhere	3	715	Oct 4, 2018 by Skorpi
	I think I need help with the way I feel (Preview) I have been thinking about something for about a week. Using my tools, etc. The latest I have settled on is, "When in doubt don't." The crazy thing is, I am having doubts about that! LOL! Today is my Ex's birthday. Last week his mother invited myself and Kid to a birthday get-together at her house this Su...	PosiesandPuppies	17	681	Oct 3, 2018 by Iamhere
	Stress and grief shines a light on the fractures in the family (Preview) I am feeling sad and frustrated today. My grown children whom have always been very close growing up are having a major falling out. We had attended the funeral of my sons young friend yesterday (age 18). My grown AD came to support her brother but that support was rejected by him. I know he is hurti...	serenity47	9	735	Oct 2, 2018 by Iamhere
	ODAT Reading 10-2 (Preview) Yhe ODAT reading for Oct 2 speaks about. Al-Anon being a fellowship of equals.The reading points out the danger of having a "managing controlling person directing the meetings. The discussion goes on to explain that if we were not a fellowship of equals no one would be free enough to think or a...	hotrod	3	476	Oct 2, 2018 by Iamhere
	C2C, 10/1 (Preview) Chaos: The writer discusses the warning signs that their life has become unmanageable --racing thoughts going through their mind at an alarming speed--memories, broken promises, future fears, failed expectations, etc. Yet serenity is easily attainable with a phone call, acknowledgement o...	Lyne	11	580	Oct 1, 2018 by Iamhere
	Denial? Recovery? Gratitude? (Preview) Some recent threads started me thinking -- when denial breaks, recovery and getting better, and gratitude -- made me think about all of these things. This Sunday is the anniversary of the death of a very good friend. While I met him "in the rooms" and some people here may not appreciate or relate to that...	Bo	15	673	Oct 1, 2018 by Bo
	Did I enable him? (Preview) So, I had a migraine this week. A worse than normal one for me. The day after the pain went I told him that I understood that he couldn't stop drinking. This was part of a bigger conversation about how I don't want to have to talk to him about his drinking or our relationship when he has been drinking (on Tues...	A nother	14	763	Oct 1, 2018 by Bo
	"I run towards the roar..." ... (Preview) Hi y'all... I run towards the roar means I face things head on, right? My picture is much more gentle and sedate. I picture a wooden rowing boat heading out through the surf to open water. I have to keep alert and have a good hold on both oars. I just keep the prow of the boat facing into the waves. I ke...	DavidG	20	1631	Oct 1, 2018 by bud
	ODAT 9-29 (Preview) ODAT reading for 9-29 reviews the slogan "Listen and learn": It reminds us that "Listen and learn is a sound doctrine, if we use it well. We do not make significant progress in our thinking if we're only listening to ourselves talk.and one of its quotes:"I pray that I may learn from listening whet...	hotrod	5	530	Sep 30, 2018 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Sept 30 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about forgiveness, expectations, acceptance. The writer describes approaching his/her father to describe the hurt associated with growing up in an alcoholic home. The writer imagined airing out these hurts and hearing an apology (this was an expectat...	yanksfan51	5	481	Sep 30, 2018 by mamalioness
	money money money (Preview) Hi AH has been with friends living away for a couple of weeks to rehab. He has no money should I send him some or is ithat enabling?	ling	6	663	Sep 30, 2018 by Bo
	Hey Hey kids, it's Mel. (Preview) Hey guys. Thought I'd check in and say hi. How is everyone? I'm good, a little stressed at the mo as tomorrow I have to drive to the middle of nowhere and do camping The kid wanted to go to this particular music festival and of course I don't have the $$ to buy tickets so I volunteered us almost a year ago to d...	MellyBobelly	28	1337	Sep 30, 2018 by lookingup
	C2C 9/28/18 -- Letting Go (Preview) In Courage to Change, September 28, the writer proposed an idea to a home group business meeting. The group conscience did not vote in favor of the idea, but did vote to support another person's proposal. The writer let go of the feelings of wounded pride by remembering to Place Principles above Pers...	Freetime	5	590	Sep 28, 2018 by Bo
	Gratitude (Preview) I am printing the entire thread on When Denial Breaks. What a lovely group of people are here. I am constantly amazed at the wisdom and compassion and generosity you all possess. . I think that whatever problem one might have, reading the entire thread will give direction, clues, answers. And I...	Temple	6	585	Sep 27, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 9/27/18 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is another reminder for us to focus on just one day at a time - this very day. I really like the quote from Just For Today --- "Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once." The reminder -- An old maxim says, "It'll shine when it shines."...	Iamhere	6	580	Sep 27, 2018 by hotrod
	Hellooo (Preview) Hello MIP! It's been a long time since I visited here. I hope everyone is well! I don't spend much time online these days as it seems to take me to a bad place when I do, I tend to hide in my computer instead of dealing with things. It was probably fairly obvious that I had a lot of work to do on myself and I wasn't...	MellyBobelly	13	626	Sep 27, 2018 by Temple
	Abusive coworker - ESH needed for next right step please (Preview) I'm really struggling this month... ... as one enormous thing resolves, another enormous brick wall crops up as if on cue. A work colleague called me today and let me know that he doesn't agree with my approach and had already let our mutual clients know. It wasn't a conversation he wasn't interested i...	bud	14	645	Sep 27, 2018 by Jen61
	The Moment I Felt the Shift... (Preview) Hi Family :) I Remember when I Landed here 10 yrs ago, I was coming to save my Baby brother from this disease, after just losing my Afather to it... I am the Older sister, so in my Family I was more of a Mother to him then his Sister, (I'm 6 yrs older) and as Children in our alcoholic home, My Mom worked anywhere...	Jozie	7	612	Sep 27, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change September 26 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about feelings and emotions. The author shares that when they first came to Al-Anon, they thought of anger, resentment, fear, etc. as negative emotions. Through work in the program, the author realized that emotions and feelings are not good or ba...	Skorpi	4	536	Sep 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	mIRC (Preview) im been having troubles with getting my mirc server up n running, i got mirc downloaded,just don't know where to go from there to get my mip scripts etc.. can anybody help me or direct me to the right source to help. thanks in advance. Patricia(Lookingup)))))	lookingup	6	561	Sep 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	Not Sure what to do about the Heroin addict in my life (Preview) Hi, I am new to al-anon and rehab and anything drug related actually. For the past four years I had been in a relationship with a heroin addict however, we broke up about a year and a half ago but have stayed connected and felt we were meant for each other. I ended things because of the drug addiction and sai...	bbyturtle	4	595	Sep 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	where do I go from here (Preview) I am a little unsettled but I realize that I have purpose. This is short. I have little time & lots of anxiety. I get through these uncertain times because I know it is not going to be this way forever. It may not get better but it will get different.	Hoot Nanny	1	571	Sep 26, 2018 by hotrod
	My Picker may be broken?? (Preview) My Picker may well be broken, or maybe it is exactly where it is supposed to be.... I have been single for some time, and struggling to find the right relationship for me - dating a fair amount, but difficult to find the right chemistry.... A month or so ago, I met this really upbeat lady (S) - fun, intelli...	canadianguy	17	791	Sep 26, 2018 by Jozie
	ODAT Reading 9-25 (Preview) The ODAT reading for Sept 25 speaks about. Al-Anon being the road to" personal freedom". The discussion goes on to explain that there are many difficult family situations in which we are involved so we must realize that the most important word in the above statement is"personal".. This per...	hotrod	6	1618	Sep 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	Tid bits of wisdom_25 Sept (Preview) One should not give up, neglect, or forget for a moment his inner life,but he must learn to work in it, with it, and out of it, so that the unityof his soul may break out in all his activities.--Meister EckhartAll people, have goodness in their hearts and greatness in their souls.--ShelleyThe more I let...	mamalioness	6	2352	Sep 25, 2018 by Bo
	What do you do when denial breaks and you realize your life is a lie (Preview) I'm really new to Al-anon and I could use some experience strength and hope. My husband is an addict and has been going to a program for almost three years and hasn't been sober a single day. I've been in a lot of denial about how bad his problem really is, and also about how bad our financial situation is. I...	hellohellohello	18	842	Sep 25, 2018 by hellohellohello
	C2C Reading 9-22 (Preview) The C2C reading tor today speaks about the importance of the 5th Step . It notes that this is an extremely important, personal step That requires that we share our private thoughts and experiences with another person.. The reading suggests that this step offers personal freedom to the person...	hotrod	8	476	Sep 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	22 Sept. Happy birthday to me and anyone near my day (Preview) I wont be on the computer tomorrow, going to hang out with some friends and talk with younger daughter and make it a fun day. Anybody who was born near me, happy birthday, the greatest gift I ever got was getting into recovery and meeting up with the loving people on this Alanon site and also next-door. I...	mamalioness	13	525	Sep 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	Hope for Today Sept 23 (Preview) Good morning Everybody: Todays Hope for Today is a focus of our slogan How Important Is It? The writer describes a childhood in which he/she felt the need to be perfect in reaction to growing up with the chaos of an alcoholic mother. The result was constant self beratement that nothing was ever good...	yanksfan51	7	518	Sep 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 9/24 (Preview) Home movies: The writer for today says you can view your life situation with major importance, like a technicolor movie , with your name up in lights. Or you can see yourself in your home movies, like many others, which makes your movie important, but not an extravaganza. The writer remarks they re...	Lyne	6	462	Sep 24, 2018 by mamalioness
	Step 10 posted to the Step Board (Preview) Step Work BoardWhere we discuss each of the Twelve StepsIn the order they are written, one step at a time, every two weeks.Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery togethe ...	hotrod	0	404	Sep 24, 2018 by hotrod
	Much needed Humor in my life... (Preview) My lovely funny wife presented me with the annual birthday gift bag; some casual clothes to wear around the house and some treats and she knows how to treat me. This year it's a bag of Li Hing Mui (locals form of Holy Communion) and a Mango flavored version...hmmmmm love it!! Oh and alcohol free too!...	JerryF	11	652	Sep 21, 2018 by a4l
	ODAT 9/21/18 (Preview) One Day At a Time in Al-Anon, September 21, talks about our resistance to accepting that the Twelve Steps apply to us. Often we don't want to believe we are powerless over alcohol, that we have allowed our lives to become unmanageable, and that we need to be restored to sanity. When we look at our situat...	Freetime	3	447	Sep 21, 2018 by mamalioness
	Adulting is hard part II (Preview) Yes .. apparently adulting didn't get any easier since the last go around and I am really not impressed with my kiddo. PNP's post about her kiddo and boundaries hits home in so many other ways at the moment. I am frustrated, hormonal, and just over all displeased with some of the antics going on. We k...	SerenityRUS	5	526	Sep 21, 2018 by SerenityRUS
	Happy Birthday to Jerry and ME! (Preview) Tomorrow is our day - the day we came to exist in human form - and I am humbled, honored and blessed to share this day with my brother/friend Jerry. I am typically a low key gal as I have 3 A(s) as family and they are doing good to remember the day AND to send a text. I've come to accept it's just who they are - it...	Iamhere	17	565	Sep 20, 2018 by JerryF
	Courage to Change September 19 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's Courage to Change is about Step 8: Making a list of those we have harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. The author suggests returning to our step 4 inventory to help refresh our memories. Asking ourselves which situations we have been in where our character defects m...	Skorpi	5	532	Sep 20, 2018 by mamalioness
	Tid bits of wisdom_20 Sep (Preview) Those who created yesterday's pain do not control tomorrow'spotential.--unknownThe devil brings devastation; God offers restoration.--unknown"I do service in Alcoholics Anonymous because it reminds me of whereI came from . . . it keeps me green. And green things grow!"--unknownMost people...	mamalioness	3	448	Sep 20, 2018 by mamalioness
	NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES (Preview) I love this slogan and find it helpful in my recovery. I am able to recognize that I have changed and still have a lot of changing to do. My daughter is in a relapse. Yes I am scared, worried, feel stressed, angry and sad all at the same time. What has changed is what I am doing during this time. Before, I...	serenity47	13	1256	Sep 19, 2018 by Bo
	FOO denial. (Preview) As the subject line states, I am a bit triggered by this at the moment. I suppose I am just dropping in a line to reassure myself of some reality. I have to ask myself what I am doing here at this moment. It is slightly culturally complicated but in and around that are the things which cross all classes of bei...	a4l	5	674	Sep 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	consequences with kids (Preview) VENT ! My 13 yr old son ..... is going back to his bad habits ! His dad, my exH, got out of prison about 4 months ago. And the poo hits the fan on a regular basis again now. I'm all about letting my exH live his life and staying out of his. I am fortunate to have supervised visitation and even tho he says and do...	sweeetr	9	693	Sep 19, 2018 by el-cee
	One day at a time... (Preview) The sun is streaming in here- Wednesday. My little peach tree- on the front lawn is in full bloom. Ah kin pinch myself- ah, yes ah is still alive- still above ground right now. Long ago i would have retired to the back of the yard- and left Alanon behind. Today's reading in HFT was a about sexual abuse. I d...	DavidG	3	557	Sep 19, 2018 by lookingup
	ODAT Reading 9-18 (Preview) Good Morning All I m going camping today for a week so am posting early.. The ODAT Reading for Tuesday 9-18 speaks about our reasons for first entering the rooms of alanon. It suggests that most come to find out how to get someone to stop drinking and then discover that alanon is much more than that. ...	hotrod	7	490	Sep 18, 2018 by bud
	Serenity gone. AH lasted 2 weeks without a drink. (Preview) I know I shouldn't be surprised. I know this isn't about me. I know this is a disease. But I wanted a different outcome. The easier outcome for me. It's been quite nice not having to deal with his drinking, once I got through the anger at his last binge behaviour. I've found it easier to focus on me. I've bee...	A nother	7	580	Sep 18, 2018 by tiredtonite
	feeling irritable... (Preview) Can't get rid of this irritable feeling. AH away with friends on rehab. He wants to come back home having stopped drinking but no life change.I. e contine working on his own will be lonely and his work will not help his painful back. His choice but with no change he will inevitably drink again. He also wan...	ling	7	510	Sep 18, 2018 by Iamhere
	Healing (Preview) Asking for prayers for my family and me for health, healing, faith, serenity. Been through a tough week and a half with hub's medical issues, been getting kids to fly down to help us. I just need support , whatever you can offer. Thank you , my peeps. wp	wp	9	570	Sep 18, 2018 by Jill
	CLINGING TO MY RECOVERY (Preview) This issue is not about my RAXH. This is about my 18 year-old son who lives with me. In July I came home early from work to find a vape pen on the couch. Confronted kid. It was weed. His reasoning was that it helped him with social anxiety (actual) and sleep issues (not sure about those). Marijuana is legal i...	PosiesandPuppies	17	724	Sep 18, 2018 by Bo
	Hope for Today Sept 16 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about how Alanon has brought consistency and structure to those of us who have lived in the chaos of an alcoholic family. The writer mentions that although there were rules in the house that he/she grew up in, due to the nature of alcoholism and all the chaos it...	yanksfan51	6	857	Sep 17, 2018 by mamalioness
	C2C, 9/17 (Preview) People pleasing: The writer discusses our instinctive need to fit in, which is not harmful unless we lose our sense of balance. This becomes destructive when we ignore our own needs and sacrifice our well-being for others. Alanon suggests a compromise where we can belong, be aware of our feeling...	Lyne	5	544	Sep 17, 2018 by mamalioness
	Some good stuff- and some aha moments... (Preview) Hi y'all, Last night I chaired a meeting in a neighbouring town. I am doing my 12th Step and was asked to take my turn at sharing... it worked out well. I have a group culture which came from my home town here. Our group is in recess. Our culture was that we had a difference chair every week. If the chai...	DavidG	7	637	Sep 17, 2018 by tiredtonite
	good memories (Preview) I read a earlier post from someone regarding triggers and I have to say I have had a major trigger this week. My older brother is passing away and it will probably this week. He has been sick for awhile so it was not a surprise. I haven't been able to do anything for a few days, haven't read my alanon literatu...	ginnyc	3	516	Sep 17, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Friday, I came THIS close to just giving up (Preview) Its been quite a roller coaster of late, this past , while, anyway...deaths, changes (not wanted ones) , work loss, ME and ME and did I say ME??? Its like I "hit a wall" with this self saboteur..this wounded part of me running amok...compulsive mind racing, translating to my hands and I do stuff with n...	mamalioness	12	612	Sep 17, 2018 by tiredtonite
	frustration at DWI ... just have to leave it be (Preview) So last night my AH called me from a county jail, an hour from our house. DWI, had to come get him. Of course I was annoyed. Strangely, at that moment, I wasn't even angry. I've actually been waiting for some police officer to call me to tell me he's been in an accident and is wrapped around a tree (this is (s...	Fedora	5	637	Sep 16, 2018 by Bo
	Off-Topic - Joel Osteen - The Right Recording (Preview) As I do each Sunday, I watch and embrace messages from Joel O! Today's reading spoke to me - it's about negative vs. positive recordings in our minds....I need all the daily reminders I can get that I am worthy and loved!! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XA7VWVM4FdU	Iamhere	4	561	Sep 16, 2018 by LinSC
	Tidbits of wisdom_15 Sept (Preview) "When your life is filled with the desire to see the holinessin everyday life, something magical happens: ordinary lifebecomes extraordinary, and the very process of life begins tonourish your soul!"--Rabbi Harold Kushner"He who laughs, lasts."--Mary Pettibone PooleIf there is any kindness...	mamalioness	2	547	Sep 16, 2018 by hotrod
	ODAT Reading 9-11 (Preview) The ODAT reading for Sept 11 ( a difficult day for me as I worked at the WTC), speaks of being fully aware of what we do and say in our interactions with the alcoholic The reading also suggests that we tone down our use of sarcasm , lower our voice and remember that we hurt ourselves more with our anger tha...	hotrod	6	600	Sep 15, 2018 by mamalioness
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