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mamalioness · mamalioness

I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...

workinprogress · workinprogress

I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...

lookingup · lookingup

im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C reading for today 3-19 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e disease and a compulsions. The drinker and those interacting with himI have each been affected by the same disease "alcoholism" We believe we know how everyone should behave and try to force our way The reading p...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to get my head back on after at least a week of cloudiness. I am off chocolate for a week. I did it for personal reasons. I might try giving another don't need food abstinence. I realize that this may not have anything to do w/ Program. I am noticing how giving up things have to be filled w/ somethi...

Wndrwmn · Wndrwmn

I started attending AlAnon in 2006 and went to meetings twice a week up until 2014. I moved to a new town far from home for work. I was divorced for a few years and started dating. I could tell it was not a good relationship so I broke it off. I stayed single for a year I found a group it was close to my apt. But I f...

lookingup · lookingup

has anybody here had any problems getting into meeting room,its not letting me in for some reason.....thanks in advance...lu

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares about the fourth step topic of self-worth. The author, while working through Blueprint for Progress, noticed that they had always judged themselves on the basis of their accomplishments or on what other people said about them...

El · El

Hello MIP family! I wish I could remember and give credit to the member here who stated that rather than really focusing on herself(?) she was really just distracting herself from her A. I apologize if I am not stating this correctly. However.....it's had me thinking.... I have found different t...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...

Mikael · Mikael

My home groups topic next week is healing. Any thoughts, ideas or pages from COL? Thanks

VickiR · VickiR

Hi MIP, writing to check in with some thoughts I am always struggling with. I have a hard time accepting that I feel relief in the face of my XAH following his standard patterns of being an addict. It actually gives me a sense of calm when he acts in a way that is predictable to me. He has some short lived peri...

Buckeye Girl · Buckeye Girl

I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...

CTKen · CTKen

Hi all, Im new to the group and havent posted before. I dont have a whole lot of people I can talk to about this and felt the need to get it off my chest. I thought this might be an appropriate place to do it.When my wife and I met, we were both heavy drinkers. Wed go out together to the bars just about every night...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/18, talks about ESH. The author says that as alanon members, our own experience, strength, and hope is all we need to help one another recover from the devastating impact of alcoholism. It suggests that the 8th tradition encourages us to help those who really want help, ins...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the magnified sense of responsibility many of us developed who grew up with alcoholism. For us, we became convinced that we were meant to manage it all, fix everything around us, and be focused on everyone around us, rather than our own selves. The writ...

JerryF · JerryF

Keep watch over David G as I just saw the news of an active shooter/ing In New Zealand. David is favorite and blessed MIP Brother and I cannot imagine any harms coming to him and his family. ((((()))))

MellyBobelly · MellyBobelly

Hello people! I didn't intend to post here today so i don't really have a relevant topic to discuss. I popped on to check my messages, and one particularly wonderful MIP member that I chat to asked to see pictures of my new kittens. I don't know how to do that via chat so I shall post them here, because who do...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page realizes that forgiveness is not the power to judge, condemn, and then bestow forgiveness on someone. It is accepting that we are on an equal footing with every fellow human being. We all have assets and defects. Being self-righteous only separates us from others and mak...

Overcome · Overcome

Come one come all!! Newcomer meeting starting now in meeting room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol; that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholism, the family disease and Open topic as it relates to alanon and alc...

mamalioness · mamalioness

this isn't recovery, but its a precious pet I found this horrid wound/scratch on my big dog's left flank and the swelling is huge...I check my pets..dunno HOW or when this happened, but the swelling is so bad I can't take her to vet till Tuesday, and she isn't in pain, just terribly swollen like 6" back fr...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi again, I don't want to be greedy with all your kind guidance... but I have one very crazy-making issue going on, and I would love some feedback. Basically, I cannot stay calm while waiting for a response to a text message from basically anyone at this point. It doesn't matter who it is, or how low-stak...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading is one I love, love, love! It's about a man who sits under a tree on a beautiful day, not realizing it was full of pigeons. In a short while, the pigeons do what pigeons do, and he shouted at them and stormed away resenting the pigeons as well as their 'business'. He then realized tha...

mamalioness · mamalioness

THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...

luv123 · luv123

so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...

inhealinghands · inhealinghands

Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...

a4l · a4l

It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...

Fedora · Fedora

My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....

a4l · a4l

I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?

Bo · Bo

While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan live and let live. The writer describes having some difficulty with this slogan until hearing a speaker at a meeting compare the concept to tending an acre of land. While it is important to tend the land it is equally important not to go be...

joker · joker

I have been feeling drained by others lately. Maybe its because I have been around a dry drunk friend and he sees all things in a negative way. I feel this person is very needy and its draining me. Yes he has medical issues but what am I to do about it? I can fix the medical pain. I can not take it away. I am not a d...

Naomippb · Naomippb

I am lost on what I should be doing. My husband was discharged a week ago from rehab. I went to several meetings while he was there about relapse prevention and felt like I had a general idea on what my part was. Now I am not sure. My husband tells me what he is thinking and then when I give him my thoughts, then...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/11, speaks of the ability to laugh and forgive ourselves, because some of our defects of character are very hard to shake. The author can recall when at an earlier time they hid in shame from their flaws, and beat themself up. The author wants to try to accept more, and let go o...

WebHelper · WebHelper

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el-cee · el-cee

I thought I would share that miracles just keep happening. Ive been praying and letting go and truly letting God maybe for the first time and after the last crisis it seems that God has answered my prayers. My son has reached out for help and his gf has been reading the books and had some peaceful days. I kn...

Freetime · Freetime

The writer of today's page in Courage to Change likes finding out about new ways to work the program. At a meeting, a basket of slogans was passed around, with the idea that each person would take a slogan and try to apply it to their day. The writer got the slogan "Easy Does It." The next day, the writer w...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about making positive changes in recovery. The author suggests that watching her son's silkworms helped her to see how transformations can be made from perceived negatives to positives. Silkworms are fat and greedy creatures, yet out of their own substanc...

joker · joker

I am in a grateful place finally. Its been an incredible painful journey but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter who has serious mental health issues and in hospital currently, is making progress. She had been charged a few years back with assault on a police officer and t...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today 3-5 speaks about the basic alanon tools of the Steps and the Serenity prayer.. The reading points out that these simple tools can be used to face any problem even those not caused b the disease of alcoholism . It is suggested that when we are living by the alanon princi...

JerryF · JerryF

Good Morning MIP Family I got triggered by HP to bring this story to the board because it fits so well within the dialogue HP has with me. You will find the story in the January 2017 "The FORUM" on page 3. The FORUM is our monthly magazine and a real winner for me. I came across this offering by Buddy H., of...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that Al-Anon helped them to realize that no one can know what is in their heart or what their needs are unless they share them with others. In addition, the author shares that they cannot expect any one person to meet ALL of their ne...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?~W. B. YeatsThroughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to ca...

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone, I've been silent for a while and away from this board. Still going to meetings and working with my sponsor, but I'm finding that I've managed to jump off a cliff recently so wanted to come in and absorb and also reason things out. I was relating to Pinkchip in his post about needing to find the...

andromeda · andromeda

Hello everyone, So, my ex boyfriends ex wife called me today to tell me that he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend, whom he has only been dating for 5-6 months. A part of me was in shock since he claimed he'd never get married and wasn't interested in it EVER again. But, a part of me was grateful that...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 3/4, discusses the slogan think. The author says at first it was puzzling. But they heard a childs safety rule that said, stop, look, and listen. The author was able to see the similarity in the slogan and the safety rule: before you get into trouble, or say the wrong thing, b...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between feeling the need to be responsible (for everyone and everything) and the ability to respond appropriately given a situation. Like the writer, when first coming to meetings in the program I didnt feel that I could share anyth...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Hi Everyone, I have been mostly reading here recently and trying to gain clarity and wisdom concerning a job opportunity. I am now at the end of a very long process for a position in rehab. At first I felt very invested in securing this job but now I don't know how I feel. I love our program and living recove...

hotrod · hotrod

3Rd step has been poated to the sep boar Please share you conaiderable ESH Thanks

Freetime · Freetime

As we start the month of March, this daily reading addresses the pitfalls of seeking knowledge, waiting for insight as a way to avoid action, and trying to analyze alcoholism. Analyzing and insisting on answers could prevent us from accepting the reality of our situation and facing the fact that we m...

Heather S · Heather S

I've been trying to navigate co-parenting of one young child (7 years old), with her father (we're technically still married but separated 6 years ago), who, until last week, was actively drinking. I'm very adept at detachment with him, but as he has her almost 1/2 the time with no supervision, and sh...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Well, all is fairly well guys considering the big picture. The problem is, I often don't consider the big picture when I forget to work a program. That being said, I'm married now for over 4 years, with my husband for 8 years. We have a great life with 7 pets and this year I celebrated 10 years sober also...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for today, February 26 speaks about the fact that at first many who reach out to alanon meetings are in impossible situations. We, in alanon refrain from giving advise as many are not able to take corrective action. The reading suggest that we make a simple statement that no on...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Tomorrow's reading talks about Step 3 - turning our will and life to the care of a Higher Power, and how it's an ongoing process. For many of us, we are willing to surrender the big issues - felt we had no other choice. Our best efforts had let us down and we clearly were powerless. As the writer progres...

Twinkies · Twinkies

Im struggling with maintaining my boundaries tonight. AH is drinking and as is my usual response these days, I chose to walk away and do my own thing. I was in bed watching tv when he came in and wanted to cuddle. I just couldnt do it. I didnt want to be close to him in that moment. So I started to get up to leave...

Jen · Jen

I feel at the end of my rope. My son is suffering our end of this disease, enmeshed with a friend who has an eating disorder. He is 18, not drivers license, won't do school work, won't help around the house, and spends all day either chatting with his friend, or watching YouTube. I'm about at the end of my pa...

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	WHEN she was my MOM (Preview) I wasn't going to share here because it is maybe SOME alanon, lots of ACA, but thought I would share because it is a release for me...a breakthrough for me...You all have read my posts enough to know that my mother from my birth acted as if she didn't want me...I never got hugs..baby pics had my sister and n...	mamalioness	11	812	Mar 23, 2019 by luv123
	Sponsorship Questions (Preview) I have a sponsor but as I move through the steps I am becoming unsure my sponsor is right for me. I want to keep growing. I want to keep moving forward, I don't want a sponsor to pander me but I do want to be heard. I want an open conversation, not a one sided one. I am still learning to speak up for myself and ex...	workinprogress	9	4128	Mar 23, 2019 by Iamhere
	GA (Preview) im grateful to be where im at today in life moving forward, im content with myself,i been managing things pretty well, I plan on enjoying the outside nature again today because I know I can, this desease is insidious, I get a knock on my door every morning from bro,ive been answering ,this am I chose not...	lookingup	7	3930	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
	C2C Reading 3-19 (Preview) The C2C reading for today 3-19 speaks about the basic fact that alcoholism is e disease and a compulsions. The drinker and those interacting with himI have each been affected by the same disease "alcoholism" We believe we know how everyone should behave and try to force our way The reading p...	hotrod	6	1959	Mar 22, 2019 by mamalioness
	why am I here? for recovery of course. (Preview) I am trying to get my head back on after at least a week of cloudiness. I am off chocolate for a week. I did it for personal reasons. I might try giving another don't need food abstinence. I realize that this may not have anything to do w/ Program. I am noticing how giving up things have to be filled w/ somethi...	Hoot Nanny	4	733	Mar 22, 2019 by Bo
	Coming back to Alanon (Preview) I started attending AlAnon in 2006 and went to meetings twice a week up until 2014. I moved to a new town far from home for work. I was divorced for a few years and started dating. I could tell it was not a good relationship so I broke it off. I stayed single for a year I found a group it was close to my apt. But I f...	Wndrwmn	12	2519	Mar 21, 2019 by Iamhere
	meeting room (Preview) has anybody here had any problems getting into meeting room,its not letting me in for some reason.....thanks in advance...lu	lookingup	4	641	Mar 21, 2019 by lookingup
	Courage to Change March 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading in Courage to Change, the author shares about the fourth step topic of self-worth. The author, while working through Blueprint for Progress, noticed that they had always judged themselves on the basis of their accomplishments or on what other people said about them...	Skorpi	5	540	Mar 20, 2019 by Iamhere
	Distracting Myself (Preview) Hello MIP family! I wish I could remember and give credit to the member here who stated that rather than really focusing on herself(?) she was really just distracting herself from her A. I apologize if I am not stating this correctly. However.....it's had me thinking.... I have found different t...	El	6	597	Mar 20, 2019 by El
	Sleeping problems (Preview) I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...	Buckeye Girl	6	548	Mar 19, 2019 by Bo
	Healing (Preview) My home groups topic next week is healing. Any thoughts, ideas or pages from COL? Thanks	Mikael	8	2212	Mar 18, 2019 by JerryF
	More thoughts and questions (Preview) Hi MIP, writing to check in with some thoughts I am always struggling with. I have a hard time accepting that I feel relief in the face of my XAH following his standard patterns of being an addict. It actually gives me a sense of calm when he acts in a way that is predictable to me. He has some short lived peri...	VickiR	12	2049	Mar 18, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Sleeping issues (Preview) I wanted to put this problem out to the group. My daughter has been an alcoholic since she was a teenager, going to multiple rehabs, and having periods of recovery usually lasting about a year or two. She has always had sleeping problems, even as a child, only sleeping 4 or 5 hours a night, and being restl...	Buckeye Girl	4	559	Mar 18, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hoping for the best... (Preview) Hi all, Im new to the group and havent posted before. I dont have a whole lot of people I can talk to about this and felt the need to get it off my chest. I thought this might be an appropriate place to do it.When my wife and I met, we were both heavy drinkers. Wed go out together to the bars just about every night...	CTKen	7	3482	Mar 18, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 3/18 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/18, talks about ESH. The author says that as alanon members, our own experience, strength, and hope is all we need to help one another recover from the devastating impact of alcoholism. It suggests that the 8th tradition encourages us to help those who really want help, ins...	Lyne	4	373	Mar 18, 2019 by El
	Hope for Today Mar 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the magnified sense of responsibility many of us developed who grew up with alcoholism. For us, we became convinced that we were meant to manage it all, fix everything around us, and be focused on everyone around us, rather than our own selves. The writ...	yanksfan51	4	1161	Mar 18, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Asking my HP to (Preview) Keep watch over David G as I just saw the news of an active shooter/ing In New Zealand. David is favorite and blessed MIP Brother and I cannot imagine any harms coming to him and his family. ((((()))))	JerryF	10	2120	Mar 15, 2019 by Jill
	Hi folks :-) and also, KITTENS! (Preview) Hello people! I didn't intend to post here today so i don't really have a relevant topic to discuss. I popped on to check my messages, and one particularly wonderful MIP member that I chat to asked to see pictures of my new kittens. I don't know how to do that via chat so I shall post them here, because who do...	MellyBobelly	13	841	Mar 15, 2019 by inhealinghands
	Courage to Change, March 15 (Preview) The writer of today's page realizes that forgiveness is not the power to judge, condemn, and then bestow forgiveness on someone. It is accepting that we are on an equal footing with every fellow human being. We all have assets and defects. Being self-righteous only separates us from others and mak...	Freetime	5	2217	Mar 15, 2019 by Iamhere
	Newcomer meeting starting now! (Preview) Come one come all!! Newcomer meeting starting now in meeting room: http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html Topics: Step One: We admitted we were powerless over alcohol; that our lives had become unmanageable. Alcoholism, the family disease and Open topic as it relates to alanon and alc...	Overcome	2	1169	Mar 15, 2019 by Bo
	SOS_PRAYER needed (Preview) this isn't recovery, but its a precious pet I found this horrid wound/scratch on my big dog's left flank and the swelling is huge...I check my pets..dunno HOW or when this happened, but the swelling is so bad I can't take her to vet till Tuesday, and she isn't in pain, just terribly swollen like 6" back fr...	mamalioness	20	5887	Mar 15, 2019 by mamalioness
	Slogans/ideas for waiting quietly? (Preview) Hi again, I don't want to be greedy with all your kind guidance... but I have one very crazy-making issue going on, and I would love some feedback. Basically, I cannot stay calm while waiting for a response to a text message from basically anyone at this point. It doesn't matter who it is, or how low-stak...	inhealinghands	8	3618	Mar 15, 2019 by milkwood
	Courage to Change 3/14/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading is one I love, love, love! It's about a man who sits under a tree on a beautiful day, not realizing it was full of pigeons. In a short while, the pigeons do what pigeons do, and he shouted at them and stormed away resenting the pigeons as well as their 'business'. He then realized tha...	Iamhere	8	432	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	WILLINGNESS (Preview) THE KEY IS WILLINGNESSOnce we have placed the key of willingness in the lockand have the door ever so slightly open, we find thatwe can always open it some more.TWELVE STEPS AND TWELVE TRADITIONS, p. 35The willingness to give up my pride and self-will to aPower greater than myself has proved to be the o...	mamalioness	16	4126	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	INTIMACY (Preview) Intimacy"What many have described as love or intimacy before reaching Program was actually codependence or rigid control." Before we came to program, we thought intimacy was that secret word that pertained to sex and making love. We thought it was about taking care of the other person, doing for...	mamalioness	7	5202	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change March 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author suggests that step 7 (Humbly asked HP to remove our shortcomings) is a step that we might take with joy and humor. The author shares that, while they have had the experience of working step seven tearfully and on their knees, that is not the only approach to thi...	Skorpi	6	525	Mar 14, 2019 by mamalioness
	Letter to self on emotions (Preview) so i thought I would write myself a program letter for next time the emotional flashbacks come up.... next time i volunteer at the local food bank. It took me a while to realize what it was that was so hard about it. I was berating myself for just being too tired afterward and for being negative rather tha...	luv123	9	2103	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	Pretty new and could use guidance of any kind (Preview) Hi there all, thank you for being here as a resource. I'm a returning member of about 3 weeks, though I went to a few meetings about 8 years ago when I was with my A partner. Apparently I wasn't in the place to really understand Alanon back then. Now we have been separated for 2 years, and I see that I am not get...	inhealinghands	13	2018	Mar 14, 2019 by JerryF
	choosing interpretation of life's challenges (Preview) It has been a good long while; some of it due to a lack of internet connection. It was probably a good thing, as I find limiting net time difficult. Like the subject line, I'm facing one of those times when everything is going very well so there has to be one obstacle, in the form of another human being. I...	a4l	13	4063	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 9/20/18 (Preview) Today's reading is about gratitude lists and an attitude of gratitude. The writer tells of seeking things to put onto a list in the beginning, and how they did not really feel very grateful when finished at the start of the journey. Their mind was still weighted down with the negative thinking that h...	Iamhere	9	537	Mar 13, 2019 by Iamhere
	Shoring up my own foundation (Preview) Before alcohol got its grips into my family, my AH and I had managed to build a strong, healthy emotional foundation for ourselves and our children. We were partners in every sense of the word and I never worried about having to hold it all together by myself. Seeing that foundation begin to slowly crum...	Twinkies	6	639	Mar 13, 2019 by KT2015
	so tired of trying (Preview) My spirit is so tired of trying hard. Of trying hard not to be angry, trying hard to let go and let consequences fall as they will, trying to pretend to the world that everything is So Great. Yesterday was so hard. I dragged myself into work and fantasized about telling everyone the truth, "I have an AH....	Fedora	10	2751	Mar 12, 2019 by luv123
	anyone iin australia know of any phone in meetings? (Preview) I think I saw one of our members mention phone in meetings a few times. I have a voip plan with unlinmited calls to Australia and really need a meeting. PM me please if you can help?	a4l	4	3619	Mar 12, 2019 by Iamhere
	Change... (Preview) While many people don't believe it, and do not embrace it...alanon is a program of change. We learn to change our -- thinking, mindset, actions, reactions, behavior, and so much more. However, I constantly here...change is not easy. I've learned from a great deal of advanced adult education, learn...	Bo	4	3701	Mar 12, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Mar 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a focus on the slogan live and let live. The writer describes having some difficulty with this slogan until hearing a speaker at a meeting compare the concept to tending an acre of land. While it is important to tend the land it is equally important not to go be...	yanksfan51	5	760	Mar 11, 2019 by DavidG
	Drained (Preview) I have been feeling drained by others lately. Maybe its because I have been around a dry drunk friend and he sees all things in a negative way. I feel this person is very needy and its draining me. Yes he has medical issues but what am I to do about it? I can fix the medical pain. I can not take it away. I am not a d...	joker	6	3681	Mar 11, 2019 by Bo
	My part in the recovery process (Preview) I am lost on what I should be doing. My husband was discharged a week ago from rehab. I went to several meetings while he was there about relapse prevention and felt like I had a general idea on what my part was. Now I am not sure. My husband tells me what he is thinking and then when I give him my thoughts, then...	Naomippb	7	3445	Mar 11, 2019 by Bo
	C2C, 3/11 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/11, speaks of the ability to laugh and forgive ourselves, because some of our defects of character are very hard to shake. The author can recall when at an earlier time they hid in shame from their flaws, and beat themself up. The author wants to try to accept more, and let go o...	Lyne	3	2347	Mar 11, 2019 by El
	Group Conscience Request: Navigation Menu and Web Page Design (Preview) Please visit the MIP Al-Anon business forum to participate in a group conscience about the MIP Al-Anon site navigation menu and page design.-- Hidden/Freetime-- Your WebHelper Team	WebHelper	0	3342	Mar 11, 2019 by WebHelper
	Hope and miracles (Preview) I thought I would share that miracles just keep happening. Ive been praying and letting go and truly letting God maybe for the first time and after the last crisis it seems that God has answered my prayers. My son has reached out for help and his gf has been reading the books and had some peaceful days. I kn...	el-cee	12	2968	Mar 11, 2019 by el-cee
	Courage to Change, March 8 (Preview) The writer of today's page in Courage to Change likes finding out about new ways to work the program. At a meeting, a basket of slogans was passed around, with the idea that each person would take a slogan and try to apply it to their day. The writer got the slogan "Easy Does It." The next day, the writer w...	Freetime	6	727	Mar 9, 2019 by DavidG
	Courage to Change 3/7/19 (Preview) Good morning MIP! Today's reading is about making positive changes in recovery. The author suggests that watching her son's silkworms helped her to see how transformations can be made from perceived negatives to positives. Silkworms are fat and greedy creatures, yet out of their own substanc...	Iamhere	3	4108	Mar 7, 2019 by El
	Seeing positive changes (Preview) I am in a grateful place finally. Its been an incredible painful journey but I am finally seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter who has serious mental health issues and in hospital currently, is making progress. She had been charged a few years back with assault on a police officer and t...	joker	4	2022	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	ODAT REading 3-5 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today 3-5 speaks about the basic alanon tools of the Steps and the Serenity prayer.. The reading points out that these simple tools can be used to face any problem even those not caused b the disease of alcoholism . It is suggested that when we are living by the alanon princi...	hotrod	8	1938	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	Sometimes a dirty windshield will do... (Preview) Good Morning MIP Family I got triggered by HP to bring this story to the board because it fits so well within the dialogue HP has with me. You will find the story in the January 2017 "The FORUM" on page 3. The FORUM is our monthly magazine and a real winner for me. I came across this offering by Buddy H., of...	JerryF	7	4535	Mar 6, 2019 by luv123
	Courage to Change March 6 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading from Courage to Change, the author shares that Al-Anon helped them to realize that no one can know what is in their heart or what their needs are unless they share them with others. In addition, the author shares that they cannot expect any one person to meet ALL of their ne...	Skorpi	7	840	Mar 6, 2019 by DavidG
	ATTACHMENTS (Preview) Man is in love, and loves what vanishes; what more is there to say?~W. B. YeatsThroughout our lives we repeatedly make attachments and lose them. We are taken with the rich color of leaves in the fall, but we know that this beauty will soon be replaced with stark, empty branches. We give ourselves to ca...	mamalioness	5	1627	Mar 6, 2019 by mamalioness
	Circling back around (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been silent for a while and away from this board. Still going to meetings and working with my sponsor, but I'm finding that I've managed to jump off a cliff recently so wanted to come in and absorb and also reason things out. I was relating to Pinkchip in his post about needing to find the...	Aloha	13	2682	Mar 6, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	The places our minds take us (Preview) Hello everyone, So, my ex boyfriends ex wife called me today to tell me that he is getting engaged to his new girlfriend, whom he has only been dating for 5-6 months. A part of me was in shock since he claimed he'd never get married and wasn't interested in it EVER again. But, a part of me was grateful that...	andromeda	12	1116	Mar 5, 2019 by tiredtonite
	C2C, 3/4 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 3/4, discusses the slogan think. The author says at first it was puzzling. But they heard a childs safety rule that said, stop, look, and listen. The author was able to see the similarity in the slogan and the safety rule: before you get into trouble, or say the wrong thing, b...	Lyne	2	1378	Mar 4, 2019 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today Mar 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is a look at the difference between feeling the need to be responsible (for everyone and everything) and the ability to respond appropriately given a situation. Like the writer, when first coming to meetings in the program I didnt feel that I could share anyth...	yanksfan51	4	4164	Mar 3, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Program, Work, Expectations, Confusion (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been mostly reading here recently and trying to gain clarity and wisdom concerning a job opportunity. I am now at the end of a very long process for a position in rehab. At first I felt very invested in securing this job but now I don't know how I feel. I love our program and living recove...	tiredtonite	7	2176	Mar 2, 2019 by tiredtonite
	3RD Step (Preview) 3Rd step has been poated to the sep boar Please share you conaiderable ESH Thanks	hotrod	1	1440	Mar 1, 2019 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change, March 1 (Preview) As we start the month of March, this daily reading addresses the pitfalls of seeking knowledge, waiting for insight as a way to avoid action, and trying to analyze alcoholism. Analyzing and insisting on answers could prevent us from accepting the reality of our situation and facing the fact that we m...	Freetime	3	3145	Mar 1, 2019 by PosiesandPuppies
	Navigating Co-Parenting with the Alcoholic co-parenting (Preview) I've been trying to navigate co-parenting of one young child (7 years old), with her father (we're technically still married but separated 6 years ago), who, until last week, was actively drinking. I'm very adept at detachment with him, but as he has her almost 1/2 the time with no supervision, and sh...	Heather S	2	646	Mar 1, 2019 by SerenityRUS
	Checking in with gratitude and neuroses (Preview) Well, all is fairly well guys considering the big picture. The problem is, I often don't consider the big picture when I forget to work a program. That being said, I'm married now for over 4 years, with my husband for 8 years. We have a great life with 7 pets and this year I celebrated 10 years sober also...	pinkchip	15	3262	Mar 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	ODAT 2-26 (Preview) The ODAT reading for today, February 26 speaks about the fact that at first many who reach out to alanon meetings are in impossible situations. We, in alanon refrain from giving advise as many are not able to take corrective action. The reading suggest that we make a simple statement that no on...	hotrod	8	2673	Mar 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change 2/28/19 (Preview) Tomorrow's reading talks about Step 3 - turning our will and life to the care of a Higher Power, and how it's an ongoing process. For many of us, we are willing to surrender the big issues - felt we had no other choice. Our best efforts had let us down and we clearly were powerless. As the writer progres...	Iamhere	7	1389	Mar 1, 2019 by mamalioness
	How do you maintain boundaries (Preview) Im struggling with maintaining my boundaries tonight. AH is drinking and as is my usual response these days, I chose to walk away and do my own thing. I was in bed watching tv when he came in and wanted to cuddle. I just couldnt do it. I didnt want to be close to him in that moment. So I started to get up to leave...	Twinkies	8	488	Feb 28, 2019 by JerryF
	I'm so tired. What do I do next? (Preview) I feel at the end of my rope. My son is suffering our end of this disease, enmeshed with a friend who has an eating disorder. He is 18, not drivers license, won't do school work, won't help around the house, and spends all day either chatting with his friend, or watching YouTube. I'm about at the end of my pa...	Jen	9	2259	Feb 27, 2019 by SerenityRUS
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