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KERRY starts cancer meds TODAY
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I am SO happy to say that Kerry is FINALLY starting her cancer killing pills TODAY!!!! they will monitor her during this process and so today I'll find out more details on how many and whatnot she is taking, but TODAY she begins her road to recovery.....Ohhhh I can't wait for her to begin to feel better...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY
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Lovely day, and roommate was out all day, seeking her new home.... I feel a sense of sadness for her that she cannot seem to find sustainable living arrangements and yet relief and peace that for me it will soon be over....yea, I needed the $$$ but HP is providing for me just fine I will be ok..... today was...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY
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Well, today, i stood to the original eviction notice and she, of course, pleaded and promised change and I just gently said, "no, I am sorry, but I am not doing this merry go round anymore...I wish you the best, honestly I do, but you must leave by Jun 3rd as per original eviction notice given to you 2 week...
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Courage to Change, May 13
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In today's reading, the author shares about how much easier they find it to make decisions with the AlAnon program. Prior to program, the author struggled to make decisions because of obsessive thinking about "suffering the consequences". Now, the author instead considers "enjoying the consequ...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY
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Well, this am, roommate decides to do DISHES at 2am , and of COURSE it is on a worknight, wakes me up so i had a bad nights sleep and go to work tired again...Seems that every "night b4 work" she pulls something so today, to take care of me, I told her that this is not working...and I am considering cutting off...
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And even MORE Progress, in VERY small steps, and small victories . . . .
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Happy Mother's Day to all the Moms ! I wanted to share a bit of the continuing saga of my journey - not as a "pat on the back" for myself, and not as any kind of "I've finally figured it all out" milestone, and MOST CERTAINLY NOT because I have any long-term confidence that I'll be on a different, better pat...
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C2C, 5/11, befriending ourself
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The author for Monday, 5/11, suggests making the relationship with ourself the best it can be. You spend more time with yourself than anyone else, you can value your own company, and be a worthwhile companion! The writer says people affected by alcoholism believe only someone else can fulfill the...
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Lyne
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Hope for Today May 10
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Sorry all! I thought I had posted this at 7am! Good morning everyone and Happy Mother?s Day to all who are celebrating! Today?s reading is about how a willingness to change our perspective about a situation may make all the difference in how it feels to us. The writer describes moving to a new place a...
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Reflections on being a mom
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As today is Mothers Day, and I have a grown son, I am thinking of the challenge it was raising him. I was married to an A and had my son when I was 21. I had NO recovery whatsoever, and as you can imagine, many mistakes were made. There are two blessings however. The first is that a wonderful therapist in r...
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Lyne
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Recovering Ex...
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My ex, whom I have a 4 month old baby with, is starting to recover from being an alcoholic (this is the second time). The first time I had to leave is when I was pregnant, and I went back too soon, because right after our son was born, he started drinking again. Well, I have left for the second time, and now he i...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY
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Beautiful crisp, sunny day, but I chose to work out on my cardio machine that gives me a total body workout...every muscle gets a good workout....so thats what I did delivered some canned kitty food to my GF up the street as my kitty prefers dry, thank goodness, because that canned stuff smells horribl...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_SUNDAY
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Well my daughter dissed me again and THIS year, it was OK...It didn't matter to me, I , with love, detached from her finally ..... I had a wonderful day!!! sunny, bright, played with my pets, then went up to my elderly friend's house of the street who has adopted me as her little sister....I got her a cho...
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HAPPY MOTHERS' DAY AL-ANON MOTHERS OF MIP
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It was the ladies of Al-Anon that gave my Mom the son she always wanted. Though my life with my Mom wasn't the best I could hope for and because of that I grew resentments larger than life, finding and getting into Al-Anon by the love of my Higher Power and the energies of the addicted women I use to try t...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY
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well today will be short... I did NOTHING but rest and eat.....absolutely ZERO activity, save for feeding myself and my pets, resting and watching some good movies and docus and you know what??? I felt zero guilt....I am OK being a human being and not a human "have to be doing" all the time.........its...
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The Daily 05/09/20
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Sorry for the late start. Today's reading is taken from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie - a Hazelden Meditation Series book. "Sometimes we'll take a few steps backward. That's OK too. Sometimes it is necessary. Sometimes it is part of going forward." - Codependent No More The reading goe...
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5/7 C2C Do I See Alcohol as a Disease?
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Thoughts and prayers with IAH as she is still away tending to family; here are a few thoughts about today's Courage to Change...Today's page challenges my acceptance of alcoholism as a disease over which the alcoholic, nor I, have control. Would I blame a cancer or tuberculosis patient for their sy...
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I don't think alanon is the answer for me
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Maybe there is no answer.But there must be.It's not meetings or readings or steps.It's not faith or the Bible or church.Tried all of those.It was bad before the pandemic.Now it's really bad.I do not have murderous or suicidal urges.I do not want to hurt anyone.I just want ,,,,,,something.And yet it...
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Rediscovering Relationships H.O.W. Honesty, Openness, Willingness
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First let me say that I'm not a person who uses social media to connect with others. During this time when many are under stay at home restrictions, I've been receiving texts, emails and calls from people who I haven't been in touch with for some time including some estranged family members. Expectati...
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Metaphors
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Just left the Boob Tube which I was watching with my spouse for a while and after doing the daily readings of our literature. We were watching one of our favorites which is the National Geographic series about the Artic, people; singles, doubles, family living a strict frontier like life in the cold...
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even the horses are VIRAL
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PfYksIALj80
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mamalioness
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY
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Lovely day today, but chilly...finished up this awful tax return, but its DONE....and I know I did a good job roommate now that she has her car goes out a lot...LOVE my peace and quiet, tho she is not noisy, there are times, (usually the nite b4 I have to work or get up early for another reason) she starts dr...
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Hope for Today - May 8 - the Present Moment
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The author of today's page in Hope for Today describes how they have changed from trying to plan their whole life, to focusing on one day at a time. Instead of dreaming about tomorrow, or a lifetime of accomplishments, they shape it with the choices they make today. Slogans like One Day At a Time, Keep I...
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Freetime
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY
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After i did the yard I went "bike hunting" and didn't find anything that beats my little cruiser.....so I may just stay where i am at mowed the yard, then had FUN for the REST of the day, hanging out with my friends up the street roommate goes into one of her "issues" and I just politely and nicely told her I w...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY
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Sinus infection coming on...so not working today... I am taking care of me....Yea, I was sorry to delay his books another week, but stuff happens and all this crazy weather and breathing in pollins while doing yard work got me good.....so I am resting today If he is going to get mad at me for needing to t...
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One day at a time...
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Poco a poco, paso a paso, día por día... Looking forwards. I was stuck, badly stuck, in a dark space. Lost. Not anger- rage! Not fear- terrified. And I had every reason to be. Our AF got to pass away in his own home 20 years ago. I had paid all the bills. He paid his own power bill, but that was all. He got sober...
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DavidG
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Exercise in taking stock of my words before I say them and mulling over the alcoholics world view.
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Recently I've had some rough times with AH in that I lost my "center" and engaged in useless fights with him. I know better, and I've been contemplating how not to keep going back to zero in my own evolutionary process. Today I was able to go to my office for most of the day and have a good day there. I also go...
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Fedora
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Today's Hope May 6
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Today's reflection speaks about making peace with losses. It begins with a quote from Justin Langley: "There is an end to grief if we have the courage to accept our personal goodness and our ongoing right to happiness." The author suggests that time and trust are needed to make peace with our losses....
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_MONDAY
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well, today was a good day till I found one of my beautiful collectible "love" mugs outside where roommate just left it out there for the dogs to maybe bump into and break I am getting tired of trying to "train" this girl to treat my things with respect, so I told her she cannot use my mugs and cups again.......
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No Good Topic Title Comes to Mind
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My mom has been admitted into the hospital with pneumonia, and presumptive Covid. My father took her, and had to leave her at the door. She's got heart issues, kidney issues and a few other minor issues... Only God knows if she will survive this, yet I am asking you all for prayers. For both of them. T...
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I got an "owie"
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I've been biting my dry, tearing fingernails and I have no nails...well, today i pulled a part off my middle finger on left hand so can't type really well... I am in pain, rubbing lotion on it to help it start to grow back and no pain when I type I am here checking in....just can't type so well...when my I...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_TUESDAY
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today I went to work and thankfully the QB online crashed (yes, I am guilty of being glad) I was sooo tired from last nights drama, I hung out and taught the office mgr. who is a sweetheart some things and then left...went home and took a NAP...roommate was picking up her car and I just napped..........we...
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TID BITS OF WISDOM_TUESDAY
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************************************************** *********"'I always remember the friendliness and kindness and closeness we allfelt. Later, I could go anyplace in the whole United States and find afriend in A.A.'"--Henrietta D."Gratitude is the heart's memory."--French ProverbFo...
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mamalioness
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Relapse- gulp!
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Not a bad one- just half an hour slip- was enough. I know a "cure" is not likely. But I am making progress, slowly. yesterday I decided that what was broken with me was going to be mended. I have a good chance of achieving this as a goal. I am grateful that I am not a drinker or doper. But I used to be a bing...
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DavidG
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The next stage in recovery
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I think I have finally achieved compassion for my AH - after months of anger (in the beginning), frustration and then sadness, which morphed into indifference and now finally, compassion. It feels so fragile, but I am grateful to know that I can feel it, even if it might not be permanent just yet. What...
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Bettertomorrow
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The day after quarantine
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mamalioness
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just a short note; enduring a short moment
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My AH interrupted a business meeting between me and a coworker. I could not continue the mtg bc AH would not go away. I got off the meeting and AH proceeded to accuse me of thinking of leaving AH for coworker. This is about as rooted in reality as me having an affair with a giraffe. It took absurd amounts of e...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_SUNDAY
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Another brilliant day and I did NOT work....I did a food run for the church, puttered about the house, and went for a stroll on my bike..... Told roommate that she must step up and share in the housekeeping/cleaning in the common areas...She said "ok" and did some cleaning in the kitchen...I can say wha...
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C2C, 5/4–Who am I?
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The reading for Monday, 5/4, begins with the author stating, Who am I? They thought they knew that answer but actually they didnt. They had been more involved with the alcoholics and everyone else, and lost track of themself. The Steps, and especially 4 & 5, were found to be extremely helpful i...
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Lyne
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TID BITS OF WISDOM_SUNDAY
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It's easy to feel grateful when we receive a raise, meet the love of our lifeor watch our children succeed, but spiritual gratitude is notcircumstantial. It arises from a true knowing that God is our Source.We can feel thankful for every day, even in the middle of life'schallenges.--Mary Manin Morr...
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A homeless lady brings a gift!!!!!
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Roommate and I are just done shopping for food for the church and now we are at krogers, b/c we BOTH had a hankering for a steak... we are in the parking lot, eating our chocolate candies, finishing them up and there is this lady that roommate knew at the Christian center and she (roommate) hollars, "hey...
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Which to Do?
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Boundaries are in tact. Feeling peaceful as heck on this gorgeous day. AH tried to come home from rehab a week ago, skipping sober living. I told him I didnt feel comfortable because of how busy I am, working from home, having my daughter at home doing school, and quite frankly I didnt have the bandwidth...
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Hope For Today 5/2/20
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Today's reflection is taken from Today's Hope. Today is full of endless possibilities and dreams. In many cases, we are limited only by our fear and lack of hope, in others and ourselves. Each new day we are given a clean page to live in our book of life.What freedom we find when we choose to practice the a...
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PosiesandPuppies
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Hope for Today May 3
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Good morning everyone- Todays page is about step two and its reference to sanity. The writer describes trying to acknowledge how insanity would be defined for him/her. The idea that he/she was working a recovery program but still engaging in attitudes like resentment, arrogance, and revenge- no...
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C2C 4/30/20 Takin' Care of Business
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Thoughts and prayers with IAH as she is away caring for family... While AlAnon teaches many great lessons on the value of patience and 'Live and Let Live', todays reading emphasizes the importance of addressing issues that won't take care of themselves or could lead to extensive damage if unaddress...
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Enigmatic
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY----You are NOT gonna believe this one!!!!!!!
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I felt terrible giving roommate notice over the A/C thingy and her being combatative over MY need to keep the A/C at 79-80 and use FANS....I'm older, I get cold easier now...but 79 is about my limit...she wanted it colder and we had gotten "into it" over it and when she checked the thermostat and saw that...
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Dreams and Schemes...
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Must be 8 years since we were in the USA. Travelling from New Jersey to New York An.'s mum died in NZ. We were in an okay place since her sister and nieces were in South Dakota- and we were on our way there, after a sojourn in the big apple. Was able to attend Betty's Alanon meeting for a bit of grounding. Als...
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Missing Betty
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Everytime I open my iPad to MIP, I see Hot Rod all over the place. I sorely miss her and as painful as it is, Im glad to still her name on MIP. Lyne
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_FRIDAY
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Another great day, sunny, perfect for bike riding also went to goodwill and just had FUN__Got some really cute designer overrall shorts...plus 4 other pairs....and some fun body sprays and just a few goodies....it felt good, but I NEED to conserve as I don't know how long this virus is going to last,...
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It's Unnerving
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Maybe I need to get out more. Maybe I need to stay in. I had to get something in the mail today that couldn't be submitted online. I wore a mask for the first time. It's not a very good one and was very annoying. It caused me to inhale my own breath and although it was fresh leaving the house, that was absolutel...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_SATURDAY
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I go into the kitchen this am and their are dishes in the dish rack, not dried and put away which is what I want....Rack , I use for if I am washing multiple dishes, yea, stick them in the rack, THEN dry and put away.....blender was dirty, AGAIN, so I removed it and cleaned it...I'll bring it back when roo...
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7th Tradition for Forum Hosting
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It's time for voluntary contributions to support our MIP forums. We are currently paid up through May 2020, and need $215.76 to extend that through the next 12 months. The donation link is below. Please note that the form says Al-Anon Family Groups, but donations will support all the forums on MIP...
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BFF in hospital....NOT good
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My BFF with cancer, they can't even treat her cancer till they knock out these infections in her body....Urinary tract and kidneys....Her hubs had to call 911 and they took her to hosp. Thurs night I sensed something wrong as I hadn't heard from her on Friday , But by the time I got done with all my "stuff"...
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New to this, looking for advice
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Hi! I probably should have visited Al-Anon long ago, but Im not really a social person, or a meetings person, but now Im looking for advice. My husband is an alcoholic who is sober, has been for 19 years (since before I met him) and hasnt relapsed at all. However, our neighboring state made recreational...
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Gracious what Evening and now what a Morning
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Aloha Family and I am Happy that those of us that are feeling good and great are feeling good and great and those who are not quite there are confident of being on the way. Yes I am of the first group and it has taken two days of working it with my literature and my HP. We have done a great job and this morning...
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Hope for Today - May 1
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Good morning on the first of May, MIP friends! Have you ever read a page in the literature that describes your life so exactly that it's almost scary? Today's page in Hope for Today tells a lot of my story. I came late to this daily reader because I thought it wouldn't relate to me... but this page surel...
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Frustrated
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Its been 4 weeks of sobriety for AH. 7 years of us together. I came from a verbally abusive 1st marriage with a bipolar narcissist diagnosed man. When I met my 2nd husband, red flags were flying. I thought, thanks to my ex, I was a bad person & deserved what I was getting. No. I didnt & I dont. I didnt...
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Crmans
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It's just a good thing I don't own a weapon.
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AH is driving me INSANE. All the progress I thought I had made working my program turns out to be progress that I made only bc he was passed out. When he is awake, he is a burden. All bottles of alcohol should be relabeled to say this "excessive consumption of this beverage will turn you in to a Loser. At bes...
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Fedora
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_THURSDAY
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another brilliant day I am doing stuff around the house, that has been neglected and doing it in PIECES...NOT going to do the whole thing in a couple of days and wear me out..... roommate asked me if I was gonna work today and I said "yea, i'll fire up the lawnmower WHEN i've had my bike ride AND chatted u...
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Taken out Intervention Order, need advice on next step
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HI I am from Australia. Have been married for 22 years to a former AA member who has gone badly off track. He started drinking again 3 years into marriage and it got out of control very quickly, though he still to this day does not admit he has a problem. He has verbally and emotional abused by myself and...
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SELF CARE INVENTORY_WEDNESDAY
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Another brilliant day, but it did not start good...I had to do a lot of detaching as my roommate collapsed a 2nd bed..yea, I got angry, but I was very careful NOT to call her any names, I just said basically I was tired of my stuff being broken, she had to provide her own bed....I was able to fix mine, tha...
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