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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change 5/21


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Courage to Change 5/21


Good morning MIP.  Happy Thursday to one and all.  Today's reading talks about the Seventh Step (Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings).  Simply put, when we take this step, we are asking for help - not begging and not demanding.  We don't build ourselves up nor grovel and we are not trying to impress anyone!

We are just accepting our place in our relationship with our HP, no more and no less.  Humility is necessary to take our proper place and be comfortable trusting in a power greater than self.  Humility is defined in this reading as a perpetual quietness of heart.  It means we do our part and trust God to take care of the rest.  While we may not know how our help will come, we can remain serene and just ask our HP for healing.

Reminder:  Today, when I ask my Higher Power to remove my shortcomings, I will try to do so with a peaceful heart.

Quote from Alcoholism, The Family Disease:  "Humility will help us see ourselves in true perspective and keep our minds open to the truth."

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My experience is the simpler I keep things, the better my life goes.  This reading suggests my approach - we are just asking for help, humbly.  I am one who BR (Before Recovery) associated weakness with humility and had to rethink this.  The reading suggests 'True humility should never be humiliating' and I simply agree.  I adopted the definition of Be Open and Teachable for the word humility and it's served me well.  I believe every person I encounter and every event or situation I encounter offers me a chance to learn more about me, how I see the world and how I can continue to grow and change.

BR, I rarely was able to quiet my heart or my mind.  Through practice of our program and use of suggested tools, I have improved in this area.  I am grateful to take my place today in the relationship I'm building with the God of my understanding.  I am grateful for where I am and for the gift of humility, forever reminding me that I am and will always be a Work in Progress.

Love and Light all - continuing to quarantine @ home, as suggested - so, so ready to get outside and do something but will remain compliant!  (((hugs)))



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Thank you Iamhere for your service and the Daily!

I am so , so glad to hear that you continue to enjoy good health!

I have gotten into the practice of doing a "mini-7th Step" each day on my commute to work. As was suggested by Betty when I first arrived here, I list what I am grateful for, and then I ask for humility and patience in dealing with my day... the people, circumstances, and yes, even my own thoughts. I ask to be of open mind, and open heart.

It seems to work for me... I seem to always feel lighter in spirit when I get finished!

I really like the definition: 'Humility... a perpetual quietness of the heart.'

Just realized that I get a 3-day weekend! Whoo Hooooooooooo! Can't go anywhere, but I don't care... one more day to my weekend... one more day to relax, unplug & recharge!

Happy Thursday, MIP!

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Thanks IAH for your service and for both wonderful shares on this topic. Betty comes to my mind as well, as she taught me about humility and being humble, which I was very confused about BR. Sometimes being quiet in heart and mind comes naturally, and other times I have to work very hard to achieve it. Only human here! Progress not perfection. Much to learn and practice I'm willing because it's worth it, Lyne

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  aww Thanks Iam, P. and Lyne...

                                                  ...simply said, this is a pivotal step.

Humility, not humiliation, is something I often hear. This week I spent time with an old friend- who has been through it all.

In our lengthy conversations, I gave as much as i got. Pleased about this. Blotting paper does not wash too well! 

Not sure if the last line will mean too much to anyone else? But for me, it underlines the balance that sits well in Step 7.

Not being a doormat, or a dope. But having a level sense of pride and self-respect. smile ...

aww Thanks... 



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DeAr IAH

How did I miss this great post? I know I have been in a lot of pain but this post I really needed to see and I am glad that I got to see it tonight

The biggest growth for me this year has been a loving relationship with my higher power whom I call God and I used to think that humility meant humiliation because in my FOO thats what it was but here in the program it is such a necessary thing because if I cant handle myself to my higher power discussing my weaknesses and faults and wrongs that Ive done then I cant move forward into changing old bad behaviors. I am so glad now that I can confess my wrongs to my higher power and two other, safe people, preferably In recovery and also if I hurt someone outside of recovery, I find it so much easier now to accept my mistakes and to sort it out with the other and to make amends. It sure helps with the serenity, and like you, I find life is much better when I keep things nice and simple. My goals right now are to slow down, pay attention, be in the moment, and KISS

Thank you for this post and thank you for your service



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Thanks for the post.


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HAY, Bernie....cute pick of you....love the smile and nice teeth, LOL



-- Edited by mamalioness on Tuesday 26th of May 2020 01:54:20 PM

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Rose, a work in progress!!!

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