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Post Info TOPIC: Cross talk and other rules


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RE: Cross talk and other rules


Thank you. I will write more tomorrow.

Walt



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cwya wrote:

I'm stumped by something that has come up in my new Al-Anon group. I have recently moved to a new city after spending many years in a place with no meetings and I had to rely only my alanon mojo and literature for survival. I tried for years to get a meeting up and running to no avail. Its one of the reasons I've moved. The only alanon meeting in town is nothing like I've seen before There seems to be a very strict format for the meeting as it centers on reading literature. I dont handle lots of rules all that well I admit but I'm stumped and want badly to make a go of this new meeting. I'm trying very hard to just listen and learn but I'm afraid I've hit a pothole I cant get out of. It was shared at the last meeting that cross talk means I cant share my own e,s & h on a topic someone else brought up in the meeting during my time to share. This was by no means about giving advice, interrupting someone or anything to do with another member, just me saying this is how I handled the situation in my own family. Has some new guideline come out I dont know about. How do I share my e,s, and h in a way helpful to others in like circumstances? When I came to alanon what helped me most was hearing how others had handled similar situations in their own lives.Also, the group has talked about how to tell the alcoholic's doctor about the drinking and it scared me to death. Someone said it doesnt violate the traditions because the alcoholic isnt in the program. Help! I feel like I'm in reverse alanon.


I never heard of this. My experience, in 23 years of going to meetings, and with some experience going to meetings around the US, is that this is exactly what is going on! This is what I hope to do, experience, hear, will be doing and so on. I want to hear everyone's personal perspective, feelings, etc. -- their experience, strength, and hope, on the respective topic.



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In my AFG, it is a book study Group Conscience decision. We read another's story from the book and share our ESH about how we Or better yet, I, handled that situation. To me that is NOT CROSSTALK.  But each group decides for itself.



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It sounds as if you use the book study instead of a Speaker. Glad that it works for you

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Bo


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Walt wrote:

In my AFG, it is a book study Group Conscience decision. We read another's story from the book and share our ESH about how we Or better yet, I, handled that situation. To me that is NOT CROSSTALK.  But each group decides for itself.


 

I agree. I have never heard that as being labeled as crosstalk. 



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Can someone direct me to the place in Alanon literature that deals with cross-talk? Thanks, TC



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Walt has posted several links here is another :
www.al-anon.alateen.on.ca/srlit/crosstalk.html

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