Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Doreanmsloan · Doreanmsloan

Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...

gardengal · gardengal

Codependents usually dont want their relationships to fall apart, even tho in moments of anger they may talk about divorce or threaten to leave. And the most common reason they give for staying with a drinking or using partner is the simplest reason of all : LOVE> And in the name of love, they hang...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...

ImplicitIsobel · ImplicitIsobel

hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...

tink · tink

Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guest room. Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement. As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a ho...

search41 · search41

boy, is this an attitude worth being reminded of: For The Good ============ Once on a journey, a Rabbi and his students were refused hospitality at a certain town. Instead of being upset, the Rabbi said: "Whatever God does is for the good!" However, the group had to spend the night in a f...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan

kathykelly · kathykelly

Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...

richard · richard

My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...

debilyn · debilyn

Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn

Doreanmsloan · Doreanmsloan

Hello everyone: I am just starting my road to recovery, and feeling much better about life. I plan my first face to face meeting this evening, and am a little uneasy, but willing to let go of my fears, besides, I don't think it can get any worse, only better. I was wondering if any...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" ...I didn't cause alcoholism, I can't control it. I can't cure it. I can continue to struggle and lose. Or I can accept that I am powerless over alcohol and alcoholism, and let Al-anon help me to redirect the energy I've spent on fighting this disease into recovering from i...

jj · jj

A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...

luv123 · luv123

hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...

Help, New member!! · RJ1978

Any suggestions !!!!This is my breif story.... Started about 10yrs ago found out son was an addict, he went into rehab only then to find out he had been molested. It hasn't ended he has been into rehabs, 3/4 and halfway houses and jail. Four years ago he married had two kids and bough...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Carving out times for ourselves is important. But sometimes I feel like I have to carve out a LOT of it for just me--it sometimes feels like there's not enough room for me and this disease in my life. I can get budged out so quickly! So, I always feel this pull.... Like sometimes I isol...

cabecka · cabecka

I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone...... "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" ~Maya Angelou The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Faith that the thing can be done is essential to any great achievement." --Thomas N. Carruther "For I know the Plans I Have for You," declares the Lord, "Plans to Prosper You and Not to Harm You, Plans to Give You Hop...

John · John

MIP Game Arcade You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.

wallsal55 · wallsal55

There is no sensual pleasure in the world comparable to the delight and satisfaction that a good man takes in doing good. --Tillotson

(Well, I always lived by this rule in my younger days before A'ism. Gee, now when I hear the word sensual and doing good, I think...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

...:coffee: My body just had a cup of coffee without my permission. : ) Anyway, that's how I feel, just be naughty. Play hooky. Hubby hasn't had meeting in week, and don't know what hit the fan last night, and hoping it won't hit again tonight. Lef...

cdb · cdb

Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...

Mark S · Mark S

You know I should be grateful that she wants to go back to rehab. It seems though she has to believe that I truly intend to divorce her before she decides she wants to go to rehab..(the way it happened last time) who is she doing it for? If she is doing it to pacify me I know it won't work this time either. I have...

sanddie · sanddie

I wanted to share this email I received from my mom today with everyone. I could relate it to all the feelings we deal with in our relationships. Rather than address work, I just put my relationships in there instead. :) Stress A lecturer, when explaining stress management...

megan · megan

Thanks Wallsal55 for posting these sites. These sites are very educational. www.songdov.com/jellinek.htm www.1016.org/Jellink.html and www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (Please note spellings). I have been reading them over th...

GRATEFULGAL94 · GRATEFULGAL94

I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. My name is Colleen. I am fairly new to ALANON. Looking forward to participating with this group.

nycbt · nycbt

Well yesterday my a didn't drink which was very good. I didn't do the baby test but my hormons are very high and very easly angered. I haven't lose my tempter and got voliet to him. But in the past I have cut my arm, well I just make marks with a knife and the blood comes out, well that is what I did yester...

meagain · meagain

I just feel so lost-nobody replied to me-is it some

thing I said-I need a little carings thoughts on this subject--anyone care to reply would be appreciated.

dogscribe · dogscribe

Where do I even being? A wrenched his neck at work and is having complications from that. Another excuse to drink. When he drinks, because of his neck he gets horrible headaches/migraines. Not so bad when he doesn’t drink. Why does he not see the connection? He went to the doctor yesterday again – a di...

meagain · meagain

I have not been on this site for quite awhile-I could not even remember my user name-so here I am again. My son - 30 in June-has been living back at home here for a year in march. I cannot take it anymore. I am so sick of it I cannot hardly look at him. IS that wrong??? He has worked some-when I got home from work t...

search41 · search41

i want to thank whoever took my daughter's pic off the pic site, and i want to sincerely apologize for the mix up. it really is nice to go there and see pics of the names. again...thanks! search41

cdb · cdb

Just when you think you can sit back from all the stress of the family disesase of alcoholism, something else crops up. Our 20 year old A daughter did sign herself inpatient at the place of her chosing. I pray to my HP and hers that this place is right for her since hubby and I are not impressed...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Love the arcade John, great addition to the MIP site. Thank You!

Buzzfree

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I know when I long for someone, it is a loneliness like no other, especially when I get nothing in return. ZIP! (It is then that I lose myr self-respect, and thus my self esteem.) Self Discipline + Self Respect = Self Esteem

vic825 · vic825

i need to find a sponser. can anyone help? vic

wallsal55 · wallsal55

A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. --Walter Bagehot

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. I saw this quote tonight and just wanted to share it! "I may not be where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be, I'm heading where I'm meant to be and God is watching over me. Terri McPherson" Hugs, Tracy

wallsal55 · wallsal55

In my younger days of married life, I would have said The Grass wasn't greener on the other side, one still has to MOW the grass. Now, having surpassed the 27th year, I would have to say it's more like this with the Fence Thing: Either side of the fence; there are Fields to Plow, Manure to Sp...

marissa · marissa

hello everyone. well, still trying to mend my broken heart. i have not been able to post in awhile, but i have been reading some posts, and they are all helpful. i am trying everything i can (seeing a counselor, going to meetings, got a sponsor, reading,...). i can't get my ex "a" out...

megan · megan

Friday was very very bad for me. I was up at 6:30am and my A was upstairs in his office. When I walked in to wish him a good morning he took the big vodka bottle and tried to hide it..duh... So I walked to work in the snow. That is okay, it is good for me to walk. I did not hear from him all day Friday and I did not...

jna · jna

I'm trying as best I can to change. I want a change for myself and need one bad. My biggest change is setting boundrys and keeping them. I go to Al-Anon meetings as often as I can, which is not always as much as I should, but I try to include it into my schedule once every wee...

cabecka · cabecka

First, to Dittie, well said. I always think about how nice it is to have an oasis here- one where we are not judged based on our bodies or appearance, our social standing or finances, a place where we can be ourselves and connect with others. It is nice to have a place where we can come and bask in the laughte...

gardengal · gardengal

Probably the main question in the minds of most codependent people who seek hlep is this: Will my husband/wife/lover. quit drinking or doping if I change? The only answer is a great big unequivicol maybe. There is no guarantee, and no exceptions to the rule. The fact is the addicts usually dont ch...

John · John

A young boy who was always being degraded, cussed, called names etc, by his mother and beaten by his father, was trying to rush to the convinence store as instructed by mom, to get a loaf of bread before dinner. He wanted so bad to be back in time, to make her happy and gain some approval from h...

gardengal · gardengal

Why should I be the one to change?an exasperated whife might groan. It is his problem! Sorry in case she hasnt noticed,its her problem too. By blaming partners for their own mixed- up emotions and refusing to deal with their own behaviour, partners of chemically dependent people become what addic...

Kevowen · Kevowen

My husband has been sober for 13 years so he has never drank around me since he was in "recovery " when we met. He was attending A.A. meetings when we met and he was obviously just three years sober. After we got married he slowly stopped going to meetings and doing the "work" of the program...

heartless39470 · heartless39470

I am in need of an on-line sponsor. And if anyone need to talk on the phone, please e-mail me and i will call you. Julie

elizabeth · elizabeth

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...

search41 · search41

JKC, i do not know who you are, but i was informed tonite that my pic was in the "mip album". i had no idea how that could have happened, since i have only sent pics to a couple individuals, and didnt know anything about this "mip album", and never authorized anyone to put my pic on it. ...

sanddie · sanddie

I thought I'd start a new topic for anyone who is knew to adding responses here. I am trying to get familiar with the message board. :)

Tchee · Tchee

I really needed to hear this today. Just on the off chance that someone else did, too, I'm posting it. Yours in recovery, Tchee "Lost is a place, too" By Ron Rolheiser In her book, "Survivor," Christina Crawford writes: "Lost is a place, too." That's more than a clever sound-b...

dittiebop · dittiebop

Many of you know me from the chat room because I spend a lot of time there. You may have noticed my mission of late is to try to remind others that we should be ever mindful that we have many aa members in our room as well as alanon. When we "bash" alcoholics in general we don't usually remember that w...

jj · jj

The other day i was deep in tought about my a and his capability to love and weather my expectations of him are accepteble or not. I understand that i expect to much from him and that is a large part of my recovery. What i don't understan is why i can not ecpect him to still love me. He says that he does love me an...

debilyn · debilyn

First thank you to all who responded to my last posting. Have not even spoken to my A since the middle of Dec. Not any contact at all. I wake up every morn and want to send him a letter. My A is or was a very nice person with a horrible disease. He has never and would never cheat on me, even when we have no...

Lani · Lani

Thought you might like to copy and save this list for personal use or share it. Love, Lani Positive Self-image Self-acceptance Self-respect Self-reliance Self-control Self-confidence Self-worth Self-discipline Self-help Self-improvement Self-love ...

cdb · cdb

I am not a regular church going person but I am a spiritual person who does not connect with my higher power very often. Last Sunday night my husband and I were called at 1am and asked directions to our house so two guys could bring our drunken/violent/suicidal 20 year old daughter to our house aft...

TLC2 · TLC2

Could someone tell me where to find the great slogans I have seen people refer to on here? I tried to get daily mailings coming to my email box, but none have ever come. Thanks, TLC

tcc · tcc

Hi my name is chris and I am an alcoholic. I have been putting my family thru hell. I am new back to AA, and really need make it work this time. I started a new business that has great potential to change my life around. I quickly found out that my new business,my family and my...

jessi · jessi

Okay... here is my question... can a person ever get back together with their A after a breakup of considerable length?

I'm not saying I want this but... I met with my ex-A for coffee today and we had a great time. We have been in contact pretty regularly since we broke up a year ago because she h...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	learning not to react (Preview) Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...	Doreanmsloan	5	1896	Feb 18, 2005 by ImplicitIsobel
	2/17 P.M. Meeting - Review of Steps (Preview) Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...	kismetstrand	0	911	Feb 17, 2005 by kismetstrand
	LOVE & RECOVERY (Preview) Codependents usually dont want their relationships to fall apart, even tho in moments of anger they may talk about divorce or threaten to leave. And the most common reason they give for staying with a drinking or using partner is the simplest reason of all : LOVE> And in the name of love, they hang...	gardengal	2	1222	Feb 17, 2005 by whitie
	Need Support (Preview) Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...	kathykelly	3	1189	Feb 16, 2005 by cdb
	she's self sufficient, folks (Preview) hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...	ImplicitIsobel	5	1166	Feb 16, 2005 by ImplicitIsobel
	something to think about - worth the read (Preview) Two traveling angels stopped to spend the night in the home of a wealthy family. The family was rude and refused to let the angels stay in the mansion's guest room. Instead the angels were given a small space in the cold basement. As they made their bed on the hard floor, the older angel saw a ho...	tink	3	1264	Feb 16, 2005 by search41
	perspective (Preview) boy, is this an attitude worth being reminded of: For The Good ============ Once on a journey, a Rabbi and his students were refused hospitality at a certain town. Instead of being upset, the Rabbi said: "Whatever God does is for the good!" However, the group had to spend the night in a f...	search41	5	1763	Feb 16, 2005 by search41
	Need Coverage 2/16 Wednesday Morning (Preview) Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan	NANUKE	0	947	Feb 15, 2005 by NANUKE
	Ice Day (Preview) Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...	kathykelly	2	1199	Feb 15, 2005 by jj
	want to see a few pics of a bit problematic son... (Preview) My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...	richard	7	1880	Feb 15, 2005 by cdb
	?picture page? (Preview) Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn	debilyn	1	968	Feb 15, 2005 by gardengal
	how to detach from a functioning A (Preview) Hello everyone: I am just starting my road to recovery, and feeling much better about life. I plan my first face to face meeting this evening, and am a little uneasy, but willing to let go of my fears, besides, I don't think it can get any worse, only better. I was wondering if any...	Doreanmsloan	4	1435	Feb 15, 2005 by Doreanmsloan
	Three C's (Preview) " ...I didn't cause alcoholism, I can't control it. I can't cure it. I can continue to struggle and lose. Or I can accept that I am powerless over alcohol and alcoholism, and let Al-anon help me to redirect the energy I've spent on fighting this disease into recovering from i...	wallsal55	4	3054	Feb 15, 2005 by TLC2
	Anger towards theos with"normal life" (Preview) A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...	jj	4	1336	Feb 14, 2005 by richard
	my teen-detaching responsibly (Preview) hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...	luv123	3	1570	Feb 14, 2005 by richard
	Help, New member!! (Preview) Any suggestions !!!!This is my breif story.... Started about 10yrs ago found out son was an addict, he went into rehab only then to find out he had been molested. It hasn't ended he has been into rehabs, 3/4 and halfway houses and jail. Four years ago he married had two kids and bough...	RJ1978	6	992	Feb 14, 2005 by RJ1978
	Selfish With Our Time? Good or Bad? (Preview) Carving out times for ourselves is important. But sometimes I feel like I have to carve out a LOT of it for just me--it sometimes feels like there's not enough room for me and this disease in my life. I can get budged out so quickly! So, I always feel this pull.... Like sometimes I isol...	wallsal55	6	1044	Feb 14, 2005 by wallsal55
	A Poem for you.... (Preview) I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone...... "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" ~Maya Angelou The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...	cabecka	3	929	Feb 14, 2005 by socalmom
	Quotes for Today (Preview) "Faith that the thing can be done is essential to any great achievement." --Thomas N. Carruther "For I know the Plans I Have for You," declares the Lord, "Plans to Prosper You and Not to Harm You, Plans to Give You Hop...	wallsal55	1	1055	Feb 13, 2005 by luv123
	Game Arcade (Preview) MIP Game Arcade You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.	John	0	933	Feb 13, 2005 by John
	Quote for Thought (Preview) There is no sensual pleasure in the world comparable to the delight and satisfaction that a good man takes in doing good. --Tillotson (Well, I always lived by this rule in my younger days before A'ism. Gee, now when I hear the word sensual and doing good, I think...	wallsal55	1	1050	Feb 13, 2005 by richard
	Being Naughty Today (Preview) ...:coffee: My body just had a cup of coffee without my permission. : ) Anyway, that's how I feel, just be naughty. Play hooky. Hubby hasn't had meeting in week, and don't know what hit the fan last night, and hoping it won't hit again tonight. Lef...	wallsal55	3	929	Feb 13, 2005 by Tuggboat
	Dad still in danger..... (Preview) Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...	cdb	3	1165	Feb 12, 2005 by jj
	She going back to rehab..humm (Preview) You know I should be grateful that she wants to go back to rehab. It seems though she has to believe that I truly intend to divorce her before she decides she wants to go to rehab..(the way it happened last time) who is she doing it for? If she is doing it to pacify me I know it won't work this time either. I have...	Mark S	3	1193	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	Stressed??? (Preview) I wanted to share this email I received from my mom today with everyone. I could relate it to all the feelings we deal with in our relationships. Rather than address work, I just put my relationships in there instead. :) Stress A lecturer, when explaining stress management...	sanddie	3	1048	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	"I read the literature you left" (Preview) Thanks Wallsal55 for posting these sites. These sites are very educational. www.songdov.com/jellinek.htm www.1016.org/Jellink.html and www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (Please note spellings). I have been reading them over th...	megan	3	1078	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	NEW (Preview) I just wanted to say hello and introduce myself. My name is Colleen. I am fairly new to ALANON. Looking forward to participating with this group.	GRATEFULGAL94	2	973	Feb 12, 2005 by cdb
	cutting (Preview) Well yesterday my a didn't drink which was very good. I didn't do the baby test but my hormons are very high and very easly angered. I haven't lose my tempter and got voliet to him. But in the past I have cut my arm, well I just make marks with a knife and the blood comes out, well that is what I did yester...	nycbt	7	1214	Feb 12, 2005 by Tuggboat
	RE: depressed~ (Preview) I just feel so lost-nobody replied to me-is it something I said-I need a little carings thoughts on this subject--anyone care to reply would be appreciated.	meagain	7	1322	Feb 12, 2005 by Tuggboat
	Lost (Preview) Where do I even being? A wrenched his neck at work and is having complications from that. Another excuse to drink. When he drinks, because of his neck he gets horrible headaches/migraines. Not so bad when he doesn’t drink. Why does he not see the connection? He went to the doctor yesterday again – a di...	dogscribe	5	1075	Feb 12, 2005 by ArwynEvenstar
	depressed (Preview) I have not been on this site for quite awhile-I could not even remember my user name-so here I am again. My son - 30 in June-has been living back at home here for a year in march. I cannot take it anymore. I am so sick of it I cannot hardly look at him. IS that wrong??? He has worked some-when I got home from work t...	meagain	3	1139	Feb 11, 2005 by sanddie
	thank you (Preview) i want to thank whoever took my daughter's pic off the pic site, and i want to sincerely apologize for the mix up. it really is nice to go there and see pics of the names. again...thanks! search41	search41	3	891	Feb 11, 2005 by wallsal55
	Daughter Inpatient/Dad in Hospital (Preview) Just when you think you can sit back from all the stress of the family disesase of alcoholism, something else crops up. Our 20 year old A daughter did sign herself inpatient at the place of her chosing. I pray to my HP and hers that this place is right for her since hubby and I are not impressed...	cdb	4	1118	Feb 11, 2005 by richard
	Arcade (Preview) Love the arcade John, great addition to the MIP site. Thank You! Buzzfree	buzzfree	3	1108	Feb 11, 2005 by Unsure
	Longing for Someone...Self Esteem (Preview) I know when I long for someone, it is a loneliness like no other, especially when I get nothing in return. ZIP! (It is then that I lose myr self-respect, and thus my self esteem.) Self Discipline + Self Respect = Self Esteem	wallsal55	4	1087	Feb 9, 2005 by wallsal55
	i need a sponser (Preview) i need to find a sponser. can anyone help? vic	vic825	2	981	Feb 9, 2005 by luv123
	Quote for Today (Preview) A great pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. --Walter Bagehot	wallsal55	1	850	Feb 9, 2005 by luv123
	Quote to Share (Preview) Hi everyone. I saw this quote tonight and just wanted to share it! "I may not be where I want to be, but I'm not where I used to be, I'm heading where I'm meant to be and God is watching over me. Terri McPherson" Hugs, Tracy	autumnangel	1	916	Feb 8, 2005 by tiredtonite
	Greener Grass? (Preview) In my younger days of married life, I would have said The Grass wasn't greener on the other side, one still has to MOW the grass. Now, having surpassed the 27th year, I would have to say it's more like this with the Fence Thing: Either side of the fence; there are Fields to Plow, Manure to Sp...	wallsal55	2	963	Feb 8, 2005 by TLC2
	codependency again (Preview) hello everyone. well, still trying to mend my broken heart. i have not been able to post in awhile, but i have been reading some posts, and they are all helpful. i am trying everything i can (seeing a counselor, going to meetings, got a sponsor, reading,...). i can't get my ex "a" out...	marissa	3	1061	Feb 8, 2005 by Tuggboat
	ENFORCING A BOUNDARY (Preview) Friday was very very bad for me. I was up at 6:30am and my A was upstairs in his office. When I walked in to wish him a good morning he took the big vodka bottle and tried to hide it..duh... So I walked to work in the snow. That is okay, it is good for me to walk. I did not hear from him all day Friday and I did not...	megan	5	1095	Feb 8, 2005 by megan
	I'm trying (Preview) I'm trying as best I can to change. I want a change for myself and need one bad. My biggest change is setting boundrys and keeping them. I go to Al-Anon meetings as often as I can, which is not always as much as I should, but I try to include it into my schedule once every wee...	jna	3	929	Feb 8, 2005 by jessi
	Soapboxes & Gratitude (Preview) First, to Dittie, well said. I always think about how nice it is to have an oasis here- one where we are not judged based on our bodies or appearance, our social standing or finances, a place where we can be ourselves and connect with others. It is nice to have a place where we can come and bask in the laughte...	cabecka	1	941	Feb 8, 2005 by jessi
	PARTENERS AND PARADOX (Preview) Probably the main question in the minds of most codependent people who seek hlep is this: Will my husband/wife/lover. quit drinking or doping if I change? The only answer is a great big unequivicol maybe. There is no guarantee, and no exceptions to the rule. The fact is the addicts usually dont ch...	gardengal	4	1143	Feb 8, 2005 by jessi
	You are NOT Alone (Preview) A young boy who was always being degraded, cussed, called names etc, by his mother and beaten by his father, was trying to rush to the convinence store as instructed by mom, to get a loaf of bread before dinner. He wanted so bad to be back in time, to make her happy and gain some approval from h...	John	6	1187	Feb 8, 2005 by John
	PARTNERS AND PAIN (Preview) Why should I be the one to change?an exasperated whife might groan. It is his problem! Sorry in case she hasnt noticed,its her problem too. By blaming partners for their own mixed- up emotions and refusing to deal with their own behaviour, partners of chemically dependent people become what addic...	gardengal	6	1181	Feb 7, 2005 by KathyS
	A day in the life of a codependent (Preview) My husband has been sober for 13 years so he has never drank around me since he was in "recovery " when we met. He was attending A.A. meetings when we met and he was obviously just three years sober. After we got married he slowly stopped going to meetings and doing the "work" of the program...	Kevowen	3	1211	Feb 7, 2005 by nmike
	Need on-line sponsor (Preview) I am in need of an on-line sponsor. And if anyone need to talk on the phone, please e-mail me and i will call you. Julie	heartless39470	3	935	Feb 7, 2005 by wille
	meeting God (Preview) A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...	elizabeth	2	742	Feb 7, 2005 by shimo
	JKC (Preview) JKC, i do not know who you are, but i was informed tonite that my pic was in the "mip album". i had no idea how that could have happened, since i have only sent pics to a couple individuals, and didnt know anything about this "mip album", and never authorized anyone to put my pic on it. ...	search41	8	1679	Feb 6, 2005 by search41
	First Time Here (Preview) I thought I'd start a new topic for anyone who is knew to adding responses here. I am trying to get familiar with the message board. :)	sanddie	4	781	Feb 6, 2005 by sanddie
	Lost is a place, too (Preview) I really needed to hear this today. Just on the off chance that someone else did, too, I'm posting it. Yours in recovery, Tchee "Lost is a place, too" By Ron Rolheiser In her book, "Survivor," Christina Crawford writes: "Lost is a place, too." That's more than a clever sound-b...	Tchee	4	997	Feb 6, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Dittie is On Her Soapbox (Preview) Many of you know me from the chat room because I spend a lot of time there. You may have noticed my mission of late is to try to remind others that we should be ever mindful that we have many aa members in our room as well as alanon. When we "bash" alcoholics in general we don't usually remember that w...	dittiebop	5	1091	Feb 6, 2005 by richard
	My HP reached out to me (Preview) The other day i was deep in tought about my a and his capability to love and weather my expectations of him are accepteble or not. I understand that i expect to much from him and that is a large part of my recovery. What i don't understan is why i can not ecpect him to still love me. He says that he does love me an...	jj	2	884	Feb 6, 2005 by richard
	would like your thoughts (Preview) First thank you to all who responded to my last posting. Have not even spoken to my A since the middle of Dec. Not any contact at all. I wake up every morn and want to send him a letter. My A is or was a very nice person with a horrible disease. He has never and would never cheat on me, even when we have no...	debilyn	7	1164	Feb 5, 2005 by sanddie
	SELF-IMAGES (Preview) Thought you might like to copy and save this list for personal use or share it. Love, Lani Positive Self-image Self-acceptance Self-respect Self-reliance Self-control Self-confidence Self-worth Self-discipline Self-help Self-improvement Self-love ...	Lani	1	761	Feb 5, 2005 by wallsal55
	My higher power spoke to me (Preview) I am not a regular church going person but I am a spiritual person who does not connect with my higher power very often. Last Sunday night my husband and I were called at 1am and asked directions to our house so two guys could bring our drunken/violent/suicidal 20 year old daughter to our house aft...	cdb	2	897	Feb 5, 2005 by wallsal55
	Slogans (Preview) Could someone tell me where to find the great slogans I have seen people refer to on here? I tried to get daily mailings coming to my email box, but none have ever come. Thanks, TLC	TLC2	0	737	Feb 5, 2005 by tiredtonite
	Apologies to my Wife (Preview) Hi my name is chris and I am an alcoholic. I have been putting my family thru hell. I am new back to AA, and really need make it work this time. I started a new business that has great potential to change my life around. I quickly found out that my new business,my family and my...	tcc	4	992	Feb 5, 2005 by jo4
	Can U get back together? (Preview) Okay... here is my question... can a person ever get back together with their A after a breakup of considerable length? I'm not saying I want this but... I met with my ex-A for coffee today and we had a great time. We have been in contact pretty regularly since we broke up a year ago because she h...	jessi	4	1055	Feb 5, 2005 by jo4
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