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Phil · Phil

I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying an...

mastiff · mastiff

This post is not alanon lit at all, sorry. Greta, I thought this might help you with your recent loss. Lots of love, Trina aka Mastiff The Rainbow Bridge Poem When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hi...

fineline · fineline

I get that the difference between detaching with love and just plain old not caring...and I think about it like the difference between a demand and a request. I been checking myself to be sure my boundaries are more "no thank you" than kiss off

. But here is my question....I have learned to res...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

D on't E ven T hink A bout C hanging Him [or Her] ! I have to keep remembering this one ! ROFL!

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Thinking: ; 1. To See 2. To Hear 3. To Touch 4. To Taste 5. &...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Well, we got through the first weekend back together as a family. It has been alot harder than I expected I must say. I am so happy that my husband is home and I realize that he has to continue to work his program and think about himself. I am just wondering when the hell an...

fineline · fineline

I have been to some terrific workshops...now our group is planning a one day. They want to have a panel...but I remember some terrific work groups. Where do those ideas and supplies come from? Does world service have resources? Anything on the net? The things I am looking for divided people into group...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

Tonight I pick up my wife from the hospital where she has been ungoing psych treatment for bipolar and suicide attempts. She is to go back to alcohol treatment facility this weekend for more treatment. I believe it's a 2 or 3 week stint at the facility, back for a week, then back for another...

victoria · victoria

I am very new to everything. I have been reading around on the postings, so I hope I have some idea of what's going on here. I have never been to a meeting or on the net for meetings so I'll need some guidance at times. I have been with an a for 17 years and the insanity just keeps on rolli...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Even with my husband living with his parents, the stress is starting to get to me. His parents no longer are rude and nasty to me, they say they finally realize that he has a problem, and they want to fix it. Now they stop by to check on things, bring things for the house, Tpaper, paper towels etc....

Hi First Time User (I am broken) · ben

Well I never thought I would ever be on one of "these sites" I am sad and angry. A little background on me. I am 26 year sold, I am married to a beautiful woman and we are expecting our first child, a little baby girl Abby. My biological Father was mean and abused my Mother when I was young. I don'...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. --William Morrow ............Things to Think About Other people can't make me feel responsible for their lives. I can turn off what I hear, look past what I se...

babs · babs

Hi, I never had a sponser, so this is new to me. I'm not sure if this even can be done. I really don't want to leave email, since my family can read my email. I don't have long distance on the phone either. I however can type fairly quick for IM. Or I'm not sure of this priva...

alaskamatt · alaskamatt

HI everybody. I live in Alaska and have been in the program almost a year. I really need to get a sponsor. I go to meetings regularly but am having a challenge finding any guys who be interested in sponsoring; it was suggested I try online. I am really grateful for the al-anon program but need some help w...

jj · jj

Yes I know better!!! I have no idea why I fell for it but I did. He drank today I guess me believing in him or his word was to much. He asked what was wrong when he woke me up from my nap to go get him and his friend some beer. I mostly avaided it and just told him that I am not going to enable his drinking. I did...

Orchid · Orchid

D hasn't really committed to stopping and we are separated now... I told him that I needed a week to myself to clear my head and get my balance back. I asked him not to call and when I was ready I would call him. He got mad and has been making threats to see other people and stuff like that. I...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello friends, It was suggested to me that I post here to get some feedback. My husband was just discharged from a 28 day treatment program called Homewood. He told me that he was getting out today (Thursday a.m.)but in fact got out on Wed. evening. It was suggested to me that this is comm...

jj · jj

So hubby stayed true to his word and came home.....I am truely happy that he kept his word. YA

Thought I would let you all know

haximon · haximon

This is the place for those who want sponsors and those who want to be sponsored. Those who wish to be sponsored, please post basic information about yourself and what you want in a sponsor here. Somebody will respond. This goes for service sponsors and sponsees too!! Haximon

girlofgod13 · girlofgod13

I was introduced to this site through a friend of mine who says it has helped her deal with her problems. So i decided to give it a shot. I am the daughter of a long time alcoholic. My dad married my mom with a drinking problem she did not comprehend until after their vows were said. When my moth...

richard · richard

If I do not keep from using drugs like alcohol, etc. what good will I be to my recovering son or me or anyone? Thus, I beseech you to allow me to share with you what is a little more A.A. than Al-anon. Besides in the beginning the whole family got together in folks home to have their meetings, you know. Then of...

jj · jj

OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...

jj · jj

So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...

WilliamH · WilliamH

I posted this questions on another forum in this website and it was suggested I post the same here... My wife drinks a bottle of wine a night (25 ounces). Sometimes she drinks a little more. She does this EVERY night. We have heated discussions regarding her consumption, but she continues to consume...

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

I am pretty frustrated - if I am working on myself and have no control over the alcoholic then why shouldn't the spouses just leave the alcoholic especially if they do not have children? If I just left than I could work on myself without having the alcoholic to distract me and also knowing that if h...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

....when past mistakes come to mind I tend to react with guilt, exaggerating the significance of my errors and thinking very badly of myself. In Alanon, I'm learning to see myself more realistically. ....... ......But I'm not evil. It's time I stop treat...

Karen KB · Karen KB

just trying it out, have to go to work, will be back at a time when i can write my stuff, Love to all--------------

John · John

1. What is alcoholism? We often refer to it as a threefold family disease affecting the body, the mind and the spirit. For the drinker, one of the symptoms is an uncontrollable desire for alcohol. 2. How can I help an alcoholic? Ultimately an alcoholic must want help, and often help is res...

nmike · nmike

I just read the posts on staying or leaving. I am on the other end of the leaving and it is tough. My recovering A has said he wants a divorce. He said this relationship takes to much time and he is not going to change. He has taken a job in another state and by summer says he is "outta of here" and he wants nothin...

Susanroo · Susanroo

Hi everyone I'm still fairly new here and still learning so much from all of you. You all are such wonderful special people and I'm so grateful for all of you I am really trying hard to understand how the posting works. I've tried clicking on different things but I'm still confuse...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I don't know if it's just me and my Middle Age brain-- I have adjusted to this message board as best I can, but am finding it hard to keep up with it. How do you feel? [I am making lifestyle changes--and now my computer is the library's! on M, W, F, and Sat.] Not sure how many...

Beskem · Beskem

As some of you know, my A wife has been in Detox twice, has had Mental Evals twice at the Police and Sheriff's stations all in the last month and a half. She's only been drinking habitually for six months and says it is only stress related. Last week after releasing herself early from a rehab...

jessi · jessi

Hi all, Big, huge, heavy dilemma here. Help! I have had my ex-As cat for a year since we broke up. I agreed to this, knowing she would take him at the end of this month. However, she just got a new job and is commuting. She'll move June 1. And now she has asked me in an indirect way to keep the cat until s...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

hi, this is my first post so a little history about my situation might help. I live commonlaw with a bipolar, alcoholic spouse. Each of us has 2 children from previous marriages, although none of them live fulltime with us. Due to her illnesses, we have suffered through 9 suicide attem...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello friends Well the experts were right. He stayed away for the one night and was with his fellow "a" friend. At his home in his home town. He is home and for now all is well. Thanks for all the prayers

-- Edited by hockeydal at 21:51, 2005-03-17

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and consider myself an adult but I odn't know if i should be in Al-Anon. It seems like its for older adults. Any advice anyone? Lanchas

babs · babs

First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle

Mark S · Mark S

Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)

Lindy · Lindy

Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...

angel123 · angel123

1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel

Christy · Christy

I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...

jj · jj

Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ

babs · babs

In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!

kathykelly · kathykelly

Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...

jj · jj

Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...

cdb · cdb

Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...

gardengal · gardengal

Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas

wallsal55 · wallsal55

What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...

babs · babs

When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...

babs · babs

Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs

Orchid · Orchid

I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...

pepodwyer · pepodwyer

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Dropping in to say hi and sharing the following (Preview) I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying an...	Phil	1	1225	Mar 22, 2005 by cdb
	Greta, this is for you (Preview) This post is not alanon lit at all, sorry. Greta, I thought this might help you with your recent loss. Lots of love, Trina aka Mastiff The Rainbow Bridge Poem When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hi...	mastiff	1	1387	Mar 22, 2005 by greta
	Detach, Detach, Detach (Preview) I get that the difference between detaching with love and just plain old not caring...and I think about it like the difference between a demand and a request. I been checking myself to be sure my boundaries are more "no thank you" than kiss off . But here is my question....I have learned to res...	fineline	5	1899	Mar 22, 2005 by debilyn
	D.E.T.A.C.H. (Preview) D on't E ven T hink A bout C hanging Him [or Her] ! I have to keep remembering this one ! ROFL!	wallsal55	4	1448	Mar 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	The Seven Wonders of The World (Preview) Thinking: ; 1. To See 2. To Hear 3. To Touch 4. To Taste 5. &...	wallsal55	1	1195	Mar 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	Harder than I thought (Preview) Well, we got through the first weekend back together as a family. It has been alot harder than I expected I must say. I am so happy that my husband is home and I realize that he has to continue to work his program and think about himself. I am just wondering when the hell an...	hockeydal	5	1350	Mar 22, 2005 by debilyn
	Workshop Ideas/kits/samples (Preview) I have been to some terrific workshops...now our group is planning a one day. They want to have a panel...but I remember some terrific work groups. Where do those ideas and supplies come from? Does world service have resources? Anything on the net? The things I am looking for divided people into group...	fineline	1	7935	Mar 22, 2005 by wallsal55
	picking wife up from hospital (Preview) Tonight I pick up my wife from the hospital where she has been ungoing psych treatment for bipolar and suicide attempts. She is to go back to alcohol treatment facility this weekend for more treatment. I believe it's a 2 or 3 week stint at the facility, back for a week, then back for another...	AlbertaCowboy	8	1603	Mar 22, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	tooo new (Preview) I am very new to everything. I have been reading around on the postings, so I hope I have some idea of what's going on here. I have never been to a meeting or on the net for meetings so I'll need some guidance at times. I have been with an a for 17 years and the insanity just keeps on rolli...	victoria	5	1463	Mar 21, 2005 by bcanuck
	stress (Preview) Hi, Even with my husband living with his parents, the stress is starting to get to me. His parents no longer are rude and nasty to me, they say they finally realize that he has a problem, and they want to fix it. Now they stop by to check on things, bring things for the house, Tpaper, paper towels etc....	Jeannie	5	1587	Mar 21, 2005 by abbyal
	Hi First Time User (I am broken) (Preview) Well I never thought I would ever be on one of "these sites" I am sad and angry. A little background on me. I am 26 year sold, I am married to a beautiful woman and we are expecting our first child, a little baby girl Abby. My biological Father was mean and abused my Mother when I was young. I don'...	ben	7	1508	Mar 21, 2005 by Jeannie
	Quotes for Today (Preview) What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. --William Morrow ............Things to Think About Other people can't make me feel responsible for their lives. I can turn off what I hear, look past what I se...	wallsal55	0	1255	Mar 21, 2005 by wallsal55
	I'm looking for online sponser... (Preview) Hi, I never had a sponser, so this is new to me. I'm not sure if this even can be done. I really don't want to leave email, since my family can read my email. I don't have long distance on the phone either. I however can type fairly quick for IM. Or I'm not sure of this priva...	babs	1	1249	Mar 21, 2005 by jo4
	I need a sponsor (Preview) HI everybody. I live in Alaska and have been in the program almost a year. I really need to get a sponsor. I go to meetings regularly but am having a challenge finding any guys who be interested in sponsoring; it was suggested I try online. I am really grateful for the al-anon program but need some help w...	alaskamatt	3	1434	Mar 21, 2005 by John
	Set Myself Up for Disapointment (Preview) Yes I know better!!! I have no idea why I fell for it but I did. He drank today I guess me believing in him or his word was to much. He asked what was wrong when he woke me up from my nap to go get him and his friend some beer. I mostly avaided it and just told him that I am not going to enable his drinking. I did...	jj	5	1369	Mar 21, 2005 by jj
	thanks for the replies... any for this. (Preview) D hasn't really committed to stopping and we are separated now... I told him that I needed a week to myself to clear my head and get my balance back. I asked him not to call and when I was ready I would call him. He got mad and has been making threats to see other people and stuff like that. I...	Orchid	4	1362	Mar 20, 2005 by debilyn
	Hubby home from treatment (Preview) Hello friends, It was suggested to me that I post here to get some feedback. My husband was just discharged from a 28 day treatment program called Homewood. He told me that he was getting out today (Thursday a.m.)but in fact got out on Wed. evening. It was suggested to me that this is comm...	hockeydal	5	1418	Mar 20, 2005 by jo4
	omg he came home on a friday!! (Preview) So hubby stayed true to his word and came home.....I am truely happy that he kept his word. YA Thought I would let you all know	jj	4	1308	Mar 20, 2005 by cdb
	Sponsorship Corner II (Preview) This is the place for those who want sponsors and those who want to be sponsored. Those who wish to be sponsored, please post basic information about yourself and what you want in a sponsor here. Somebody will respond. This goes for service sponsors and sponsees too!! Haximon	haximon	4	1568	Mar 20, 2005 by alaskamatt
	Should I let it go? (Preview) I was introduced to this site through a friend of mine who says it has helped her deal with her problems. So i decided to give it a shot. I am the daughter of a long time alcoholic. My dad married my mom with a drinking problem she did not comprehend until after their vows were said. When my moth...	girlofgod13	5	1546	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	A little duality here (long)... (Preview) If I do not keep from using drugs like alcohol, etc. what good will I be to my recovering son or me or anyone? Thus, I beseech you to allow me to share with you what is a little more A.A. than Al-anon. Besides in the beginning the whole family got together in folks home to have their meetings, you know. Then of...	richard	4	1484	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	bursting at seams (Preview) OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...	jj	9	1658	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	thinking alot (Preview) So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...	jj	9	1808	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Should I be concerned? (Preview) I posted this questions on another forum in this website and it was suggested I post the same here... My wife drinks a bottle of wine a night (25 ounces). Sometimes she drinks a little more. She does this EVERY night. We have heated discussions regarding her consumption, but she continues to consume...	WilliamH	8	1610	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	love vs. leaving (Preview) I am pretty frustrated - if I am working on myself and have no control over the alcoholic then why shouldn't the spouses just leave the alcoholic especially if they do not have children? If I just left than I could work on myself without having the alcoholic to distract me and also knowing that if h...	estrelladehope	13	2129	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Guilt (Preview) ....when past mistakes come to mind I tend to react with guilt, exaggerating the significance of my errors and thinking very badly of myself. In Alanon, I'm learning to see myself more realistically. ....... ......But I'm not evil. It's time I stop treat...	wallsal55	1	1359	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	First time on MB (Preview) just trying it out, have to go to work, will be back at a time when i can write my stuff, Love to all--------------	Karen KB	4	1272	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Questions Often Asked About Al-Anon (Preview) 1. What is alcoholism? We often refer to it as a threefold family disease affecting the body, the mind and the spirit. For the drinker, one of the symptoms is an uncontrollable desire for alcohol. 2. How can I help an alcoholic? Ultimately an alcoholic must want help, and often help is res...	John	5	1542	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Love Must Be Tough (Preview) I just read the posts on staying or leaving. I am on the other end of the leaving and it is tough. My recovering A has said he wants a divorce. He said this relationship takes to much time and he is not going to change. He has taken a job in another state and by summer says he is "outta of here" and he wants nothin...	nmike	4	1531	Mar 19, 2005 by richard
	Please explain how to look at postings (Preview) Hi everyone I'm still fairly new here and still learning so much from all of you. You all are such wonderful special people and I'm so grateful for all of you I am really trying hard to understand how the posting works. I've tried clicking on different things but I'm still confuse...	Susanroo	1	1297	Mar 19, 2005 by megan
	Suggestion for Mess. Board Users/Posters (Preview) I don't know if it's just me and my Middle Age brain-- I have adjusted to this message board as best I can, but am finding it hard to keep up with it. How do you feel? [I am making lifestyle changes--and now my computer is the library's! on M, W, F, and Sat.] Not sure how many...	wallsal55	5	1444	Mar 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Denial (Preview) As some of you know, my A wife has been in Detox twice, has had Mental Evals twice at the Police and Sheriff's stations all in the last month and a half. She's only been drinking habitually for six months and says it is only stress related. Last week after releasing herself early from a rehab...	Beskem	8	1569	Mar 19, 2005 by Lanchas
	when is enough? (Preview) Hi all, Big, huge, heavy dilemma here. Help! I have had my ex-As cat for a year since we broke up. I agreed to this, knowing she would take him at the end of this month. However, she just got a new job and is commuting. She'll move June 1. And now she has asked me in an indirect way to keep the cat until s...	jessi	8	1636	Mar 18, 2005 by debilyn
	bipolar alcoholic (Preview) hi, this is my first post so a little history about my situation might help. I live commonlaw with a bipolar, alcoholic spouse. Each of us has 2 children from previous marriages, although none of them live fulltime with us. Due to her illnesses, we have suffered through 9 suicide attem...	AlbertaCowboy	7	1689	Mar 18, 2005 by sanddie
	Hubby HOME from treatment (Preview) Hello friends Well the experts were right. He stayed away for the one night and was with his fellow "a" friend. At his home in his home town. He is home and for now all is well. Thanks for all the prayers -- Edited by hockeydal at 21:51, 2005-03-17	hockeydal	5	1286	Mar 18, 2005 by doozee
	Unsure (Preview) I'm 18 and consider myself an adult but I odn't know if i should be in Al-Anon. It seems like its for older adults. Any advice anyone? Lanchas	Lanchas	8	1647	Mar 18, 2005 by Lanchas
	working towards peace..... (Preview) First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...	babs	4	1490	Mar 18, 2005 by nmike
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle	wallsal55	2	1347	Mar 18, 2005 by Mark S
	Trust, I used to give so freely (Preview) Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...	Mark S	12	1707	Mar 18, 2005 by scared
	Read below post>>says cdb (Preview) Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)	cdb	1	1175	Mar 18, 2005 by jj
	Think I just married ANOTHER alcoholic (Preview) Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...	Lindy	11	1539	Mar 17, 2005 by sanddie
	Forum 1987 (Preview) 1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel	angel123	1	1113	Mar 17, 2005 by doozee
	The Speaker Tapes (Preview) I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...	Christy	1	1517	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	cdb... (Preview) Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ	jj	2	1221	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	thanks TLC (Preview) In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!	babs	2	1220	Mar 17, 2005 by TLC2
	Thanks to all! (Preview) Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...	kathykelly	1	1052	Mar 17, 2005 by Beskem
	Congratulations - To All (Preview) Applause, Applause for You, yes You, the posters of This Board	wallsal55	2	1204	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Love? (Preview) I guess this post is just for me to vent right now. Alot of the time I feel like my husband does not really love. How could he, he is an addict/alcoholic - he still drinks a few times a week and smokes pot - I can deal with this. What I have a hard time dealing with is the way he shows me he love...	estrelladehope	6	1601	Mar 16, 2005 by estrelladehope
	amazing chain of events (Preview) Today I was feeling unsure about the way face to face was going. As many of you know I go to meetings with my sister in law and I have been feeling that she was uncomfortable with the alanon meetings and knew she was leaning towards naranon and we have been supportive of each other searching for a meeting th...	jj	7	1370	Mar 16, 2005 by jj
	John & all who are my friends (Preview) Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...	cdb	11	1523	Mar 16, 2005 by doozee
	SEEKING SOLUTIONS FOR OURSELVES (Preview) Clearly, a loved ones sobriety does not solve our problems, nor does physical separation or even death. Even those of us who have not been involved with any alcoholics for many years find that we continue to be affected by the family disease. In short, the effects alcoholism----obsession, anxiety,...	gardengal	4	1395	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thank You! And continue to "THINK" (Preview) Applause, Applause to You, yes You posters on this message board. Why? When I am able to POP in, I notice so many responses are: --------------------- T houghtful H elpful I ntelligent N ecessary ind &nbs...	wallsal55	0	1090	Mar 16, 2005 by wallsal55
	I'm Here (Preview) Well my A found out I was on here and was fine with it. I was . I have been searching for literature but haven't bought any yet. I don't have much I want to say yet. I would like feed back on what I do say though but I'm not getting much feed back. That's all I have to say for now. Lanchas	Lanchas	13	1800	Mar 16, 2005 by Lanchas
	Quotes for Today/ depression (Preview) What you can do, or think you can, begin it.---Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Sept. 6th "During acute depresion,....avoid trying to set your whole life in order at once. If you take on assignments so heavy that you are sure to fail in them at the moment, then you are allowing yourself to be trick...	wallsal55	2	1131	Mar 16, 2005 by TLC2
	Car Repairs (Preview) Need to vent. My daughter has had a lot of help from me over the past year, well actually since she turned 16 and dropped out of school. Well, that's ok, I have been trying to help her get on her feet. Anyway, after she got her DUI almost a year ago, I have had to help her even more. I...	kathykelly	4	1616	Mar 16, 2005 by Beskem
	I'm perfect, you're not! so we think.. (Preview) When I realized I was powerless, I wanted to leave him, why stay? It’s not my problem, I can’t fix it, so leave. Then in S4, I looked and saw clearly that I had faults, many faults. I was not, & never would be perfect. Would I want someone to leave me because of my faults?! Without even trying to stand by m...	babs	10	1793	Mar 16, 2005 by Christy
	Daughter getting out of treatment (Preview) Hello friends, It sounds like my daughter may be getting out of the inpatient treatment center this week. We do have a family meeting with her on Tuesday too. She had a home visit today and it went well. She got to see her brother and his girlfriend too since they were here for the weekend. She is activel...	cdb	8	1484	Mar 15, 2005 by worriedmom
	where can I find braille, tapes, etc (Preview) Hi, I've met in my f2f meeting a two people who's blind. They were requesting the following in braille, or tape, or cd. Can anyone offer suggestions? I've looked, but couldn't find. I would like to help them. Babs	babs	2	1565	Mar 15, 2005 by babs
	pot smoking husband. Any help? (Preview) I told my husband that he had to quit smoking pot or I would file for a divorce? He hasn't taken my hint yet; should I try something else? I don't know what to do...	Orchid	4	1550	Mar 15, 2005 by Diva
	Worried about brother (Preview)	pepodwyer	3	1599	Mar 14, 2005 by pepodwyer
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