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John & all who are my friends
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Just now between 10:25 pm and 10:40 pm central time in the room, I felt ganged up on! All anyone has to do is read the transcripts. I know there are a couple people that do not talk to me and tonite they went over the edge! One saying to someone else not me,,,take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mou...
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no sponser, who can i do step 4/5 with
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Hi,
I'm 3 weeks plus into program. I have read "how al anon works.." I am reading "Paths to recovery". I also have the book One day at a time, and just got the "Courage to change" book. I read & reread. I also go to meetings in face, and online. I am atte...
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Suggestion Needed
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My husband is an active drinker and I have a real big problem ignoring him when he comes home drinking or hungover. He says real mean things to me, like my weight and how I should starve myself. He also tells me to leave his house and go find someone else to support me. I have no job and I have fibromyalgia and...
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Letting Go of Confusion
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"Sometimes, the way is not clear. Our minds get clouded, confused. We aren't certain what our next step should be, what it will look like, what direction we are headed.
That is the time to stop, ask for guidance, and rest. That is the time to let go of fear. Wai...
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The 12 Steps
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The 12 Steps
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol, - that our lives
had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to
sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as
we understood Him.
4...
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John
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Here's My Story
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I am 18 years old. My mom drank when I was a little kid, but I didn't know. Then she got help and quit. When I was about 8 years old she got in a relationship with a drinker and started drinking again. She has not stopped. She is still with the guy she got into a relationship with when I was 8. I love him(I conside...
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More about being new to this
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I am totally new to this. I don't understand what the different 12 steps are. I would like to know what they are. I was also wondering if religion was a big part of this. I'm not very religious. I hope someone will help me understand all this.
Lanchas
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Why Me?
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My AH came home tonight and asked... Do you ever ask yourself "why me"? Almost before he finished I answered yes all the time. He had this supprised look on his face like what for?? He never said another word when I could tell he wanted to talk about how hard things are for him and he wanted me to feel sory for...
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need help with mess. board
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I have an iBook, every time now when I click on someones post my internet explorer quits. )c:
I hate this, any ideas? I depend on this bb so much! love,debilyn
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How do i let go?
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Hello,
I am very new to all of this and am hoping to get some insight and help.
My daughter 22yr old hs been clean and sober for 6mths- she was living in sober living and doing very well.
Recently she got her own apartment(she works and has a great job)
we have been very proud of her. Now i find...
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Communication
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For some reason I just cannot seem to communicate with my A (husband). He has to constantly ask me a question several times before I actually answer it. I am not sure if I am just being defensive of his questions or as I told him earlier this morning that I decide that his question is not worth...
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Update on dad/son/etc.
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Hello friends,
I talked to my dad today and he sounds good. He is surviving the visit with his brother and his wife,,,,the uncle/aunt of mine that screwed over my son and dad by selling the business out from under my son recently. Thanks for the prayers for my dad's health.
My son is not a happy camper...
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Today I Pray...
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...."May I turn myself inside out, air out the depression which has been closeted inside me, replace it with the comfortable feeling that I am cared about by real friends, then pass along that comfort to others, caught in the same despair."
Today I Will Remember: "The onlry real despair is lo...
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Choosing life this go
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We are all ready to recognize that our "A" is sick and actively seek their rehabilitation; it doesn't come so easy to see that I may need to change my mindset as well. While I have acknowledged that the "A" in my life has a disease, that doesn’t take rocket science, I am gratified that I was right about “the...
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Mark S
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when do you give and who do you give up to
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Good morning guys ,
I am in a dilema and I dont where to turn.I have been in alanon 2 years now.I am single mom
of 2 teens , one is 18 works pt time and goes to college and the other in hs.My ex a is not in our life.I lost my job in octand how we have gotten by I would have to write a book of all the ways God ha...
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A mother's pain
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I come here daily and read posts but rarely post myself. Today, I am in need of experience, strength, and hope from those of you who may have been through these things in the past.
My 26 y/o daughter is one of the addicts/mental illness in my life. I got a call from...
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New To This
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Hi. I'm new to this. I have alcoholic parents but my mom is the reason I'm here. I'm a little shy right now since I am new to this. I don't know what else to say right now so I'm done with this message.
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Poem - Steps
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Hi everyone!
A friend in the chatroom wanted me to post this poem so she could read it.
I wrote this poem for my two step sons before I got into the program. I was listening to someone talking about working the steps the other evening in the chat room and remembered the title of the poem.&...
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In the middle of AA HELL
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This place has been a comfort for me. My S/O is now in a wonderful treatment program. It focuses on her. Sure there is a group for us both to attend- "family night". It's great if your A partner doesn't cop out with fear and tears. They are here for her, not me. Angr...
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husband drinks and wants to quit
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Hi,
I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa.
-- Edited by onerugrat at 16:55, 2005-03-10
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Little Progress not Perfection thing I noted today
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Ran into a Dale Carnegie graduate that was in a class that I was Grad assisting last fall and while we were talking he mentioned something negative about a mutual acquaintance (another grad) and then stopped and said oops guess I’m not doing very well as I already forgot the 3 C’s (for Carnegie its criti...
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Mark S
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Job Stress
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First, thank you all for your kind words and words of wisdom in my first post. My A wife quit her job today with my support. She felt like a ton of weight was lifted off her shoulders. She was a High School Study Hall aid, all alone with 60 some kids who liked to cause trouble and the admin...
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VERY new to Al-Anon....
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Hello.... My name is Renee and I've been in AA for 10 years, however, I am just starting out in Al-Anon. I work as a Chemical Dependency Counselor and have many family members who are alcoholics and/or addicts.
I suppose "my bottom" as far as enabling is concerned, occurr...
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ReneeD
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"Let Go" a poem to share with ya
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"Let Go"
"As children bring their broken toys-with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to Him because He was my friend. But then, instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last I snatched them back and cried, "H...
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gratitude
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Today i am greatful for my loving children Today I am greatful for alanon Today I am greatful that my husband came home so I could go to my f2f meeting Today I am greatful that my husband realized that alanon is good for me Today I am greatful that I have many supportive friends that help me when I am feeling b...
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Advice Needed
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Hello
I am a recovery alcholic, I have a spouse who is not an alcholic. Is it unreasonable for me to ask that spouse to not drink anymore? Or not to come home if they had been drinking ie.stay at a friends house? I am confused as to what I am supposed to expect from my spou...
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GENERAL WARRANTIES, FOR THOSE INTERESTED
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In all proceedings the World Service Confernece of Alanon shall observe the spirit of the traditions:
1: that only sufficient operating funds, including an ample reserve, be its prudent financial principle.
2: that no conference member shall be place in unqualified authority over other mem...
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gardengal
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Apology
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I am so sorry for disappearing tonite...My baby needed me right in the middle of the meeting. It may happen more than I like but as most of you know that have kids...well they come first.
I will try again tomorrow night.
Thank you so much for being understanding.
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Mamaklop
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hugs and stuff
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First let me say- What a great business meeting! Thanks so much Shimo and Cindy and everyone else! There ended up being a lengthy discussion about hugging someone during their share. It was great to hear all of the different perspectives being shared. I think that the fact that we share openly with eac...
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Alanon Retreats/Spring Flings
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Hi...At various alanon meetings, there are flyers given out for Alanon picnics, retreats, spring flings, dances (usually AA combined), rallies, conventions, potlucks. [This year there is a Spring Fling in Galesburg, IL for both Alanon and AA. I can post this in...
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Love
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I remember Love feeling like a great, big, comfy Soft Easy Chair...Ah Hah...Where I could be myself! :)
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Quote for Today - (4th step!)
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"Face your deficiencies and acknowledge them; but do not let them master you. Let them teach you patience, sweetness, insight. --Heller Keller
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Trust, I used to give so freely
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Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...
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Mark S
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Rambling
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Hi,
I was reading a post Richard had written and he said "Love does not hurt."
It got me thinking, no love shouldn't hurt. Love is pure and good. If we are hurt when someone we loves lets us down, it is not love that is hurting us, but our own expectations.
When we hurt becoss of the loss of a loved one, t...
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Meeting? time?
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Ok what time is the meeting? I am in Oregon.
love, debilyn who for some reason cannot keep her eyes open today...zzzzz
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debilyn
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Need to get it off my chest
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Hi Everyone,
I needed to just sit here and type. In a way I hate message boards because I can't get an immediate answer. I want it and I want it now. Guess that goes with the whole problems I suffer from huh, lol. Anyway I am so confused.&nbs...
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Looking for a sponsor
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Hello Everyone,
Let me tell you about myself, I have been in Al-anon for almost a year, I have made great strides and great slides in this program. I have been married to my a for almost 10 years and new him much more than that. I previously had a online sponsor b...
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holly123
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Newbie
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I am a newbie, I went with my wife to her first AA meeting Sunday night. She has been drinking, self-medicating for six months, she is 36 yrs old and suffering depression for 3-4 years. She drinks about a fifth a day abuses prescription drugs when they are available&n...
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Beskem
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VOTING tonite at meeting
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Hello everyone,
I still haven't got an answer if there will be a vote tonite on whether we can give hugs, smiles, nods or agrees during a meeting. There are people that don't use this board and don't even know about the meeting as someone stated at open chat late last night. I am new here and I have voiced...
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cdb
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A thought... thanks cdb... all...
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At times, I say, “I wish I could get younger as I get older.” I say, I wish I could go back to younger years, only take with me what I know today. Only thing is though… if I took back what I know now… I would not do many, most of what I have done. However, if I did not do those things, done other things… I would not...
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richard
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Is our Webpage down? Anyone??
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Hey guys, is the page down tonight, Tuesday, March 8th?
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Maria123
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Am Making Amends so you all...
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Hello Everyone,
Part of my journey though alanon is to make amends. WEll, I need to explain about what I found to be a problem for me lately. I have chronic pain and at nite I take a pain pill called methadone which is very strong and also latey a sleeping pill called ambien. I know that my pa...
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cdb
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"Live" and Let Live
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I picked up my blue book "How Alanon Works for Family and Friends" and began to read about the slogans. Was pretty interesting how we study this slogan and really study the "Let Live" part very thoroughly, but we forget the "LIVE" part. The "LIVE" part is for US, and we have a right to a good l...
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Defensiveness/Retaliation
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Gosh, went to an alanon retreat. Some of it is still sinking in. A friend of mine tried to remind me when dealing with my A, "No defense, (defensiveness) No retaliation."
I guess I think of it as take no offense, no need to retaliate.
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wallsal55
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almost slipped into old habbits
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Lastnight all was going just fine and for once in such a long time I was headded to bed early, had a shower and getting ready for bed. When I got out of the shower I heard my daughter crying and since AH was home and not intoxicated I figured he would tend to daughters needs but no she continued to cry. So I quic...
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jj
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A share RE Resentment from the AA board
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Deal with Resentment Now!!!
Remember the HALT formula - when you are Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired, you are more likely to act out. When you are hungry, you can eat. When you are lonely you can seek company or make a phone call. When you are tired you can give yourself some rest. But what can you do when...
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Phil
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Illiteracy and Recovery
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I was just over reading the AA board and came upon a post that made me stop and think. To be honest, what this post mentioned had never crossed my mind.
We refer people to books and pamphlets, the written word. Now here in chat or message board I think it is pretty safe to assume the person ca...
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My children
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Hi,
In another thread some one had asked me how Conner was, and how old he is now.
Conner is now 15 months old, he is not walking, but he crawls and climbs faster than I can catch him. He is a little joy, laughing and smiling all of the time.
He is so content, okay a little spoiled but Mom and Big Brothers...
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Jeannie
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Did a lot of work on a reply... repeat here...
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This detachment thing… hating the disease… loving the person inside… all beings of God deserves to be loved and are loved by God… God is in all and is all. A chronic drunk driver deserves to be loved… she or he deserves to be in prison for the protection of society and the drunk. A mate addicted to drugs lik...
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richard
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Had to buy a lock today :(
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Hello friends,
My 20 year old alcoholic/drug addict daughter is still in the inpatient treatment center and probably will be some time still. It has been a month Wednesday that she was admited. We now owe $1,000 out of pocket which is good for most insurance companies but not good for my husband and m...
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Thinking (more)
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Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are. --Jose Ortegay Gasset
Where the mind is, there will be the heart; we become what we think about. If that idea doesn't halt you in your tracks, it should. Why? Our sense of self is totally reflective of our habitual thi...
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wallsal55
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Quote for Today
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"I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound by the light that I have. I must stand by anybody that stands right, stand with him while he is right, and part with him when he goes wrong." --Abraham Lincoln
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wallsal55
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Just a shell
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Hi everyone. I haven't posted here very often but I do come and read to gain some insight with everyone's experiences. First off I just want to say thank you to everyone for sharing and for willing to listen to my vents.
It's weird - there must be different stages with dealing with an A.&n...
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dogscribe
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BUS MTG AGENDA
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 GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING March 9, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST in the Al-Anon Chatroom   &n...
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shimo
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step 3&4 explained
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Step Three Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. There is a saying in the AlaTeen Twelve Step Program that says, “God Can’t do his work if you’re standing in His way.” Several years ago a popular song said, “If it don’t fit---don’t force it-...
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jj
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A work in progress
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In 2002 when I went to my first Ala-non meeting I hadn't worked in 5 years. I stayed home and managed everything, managed to enable my AH with all the freedom in the world. After 6 months in program I got a job that I love and found mmyself again. I take classes, work out and feel great. Yea, he quit drinking t...
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whitie
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Emotionally Unavailable
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I've worked the steps and discovered that I am emotionally immature and needy. I also discovered that I married a really decent man who is emotionally unavailable. (I'll pass on the hardware store theory have heard it plenty of times). What I need to know, is now what? I especially want to hear from any...
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fineline
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jumping in with both feet
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I have a phone sponsor, but I would really like to be able to IM via yahoo or MSN someone.
I have chronic health problems and need to work the steps for that as much as my families alcohol problem.
anybody willing, I have p[lenty of friends to chat with so I wouldn't be bugging you all the time, I j...
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jrtjosey
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Thanks for the prayers for my family.....
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Thank you all for your recent prayers. I finally talked to my dad about that situation with my son about the business he was buying and so far dad is doing okay. He is hurt as we all are that my uncle did not at least give my son and dad the courtesy of talking to ...
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cdb
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No more Merri-go-round
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Hi everyone,
I hope this post finds everyone well. :)
When my husband relapsed I had no choice but to stick to my word. I had told him that under no circumstances would the kids and I live with active drinking. We where aware that there could be slip ups, and we would keep quiet about that, but when he be...
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Jeannie
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