Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wallsal55 · wallsal55

A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails--Source Unknown. Hmmm....I always think of Detachment as that sort of friend...Thank God for that little pamphlet at Alanon meetings! www.coping.org/control/detach.htm :flowerpot...

wille · wille

Hi all, I so love the story of going out to have a day with the ma nice I did decide to put the a on the curb with the recycles. I know it is not healty to go toe to toe with him, as the disease says to do. The "in my face" stuff. I warned him twice to chill his stuff - maybe 27 times except it had to st...

Annie · Annie

Just a warm hello to everyone. No need to reply to this. I haven't been posting for awhile because I have had a crazy sinus infection and my ears have been blocked for several weeks now. I guess I can hear about 80% now. Dragging myself to work was a real chore. My A...

cdb · cdb

I will wait for you for a half hour or more,,cdb

lilleah · lilleah

My A called at 2:00 and wanted to stay and play cards with friends. i said no, but he did anyway. He Promised he would call if he'd be later than 3:30, but it is after 3:30, and nothing! I tried to call, but no answer. I don't know whether to be mad, or scared, or think he is with another girl. I am just sitting he...

babs · babs

Hi, I just want to check with the interpretations of steps 1,2,3. Step 1: to realize I have lost control, can't manage anymore Step 2: to realize I need a help from a higher power in order to heal (family, friends, Al anon, God, etc.) Step 3: to realize I can only do my best & noth...

debalina36 · debalina36

Hello - last night was pretty bad. I reacted to him. I fell back into my old habits and screamed back at him. I was actually trying to reason with my A, knowing full well my words were falling on deaf ears. I might as well talk to the wall. I knew that when he gets his unemployment check, he will drink and drink...

Ava · Ava

What a relief to find people who understand and who can offer hope and support. The last 18 months for me has been like riding a small boat in stormy seas. Over the last 18 months my A has had 3 jobs, 3 breakdowns, fallen out with all of his friends, been unemployed 3 times, bee...

babs · babs

Hello again, I'm new to this. I understand detachment, enabling, the 1st step, help yourself, can't fix the A. I've been online 3-4 times. Been to 1 meeting f2f. Reading the lit. It does seem to help. I'll keep going. Each day lately I do something for my self...

babs · babs

Hello, Thanks for reading. I'm new to this & was interested in the forum magazine. Any thoughts on this. I'm not much of a long reader, more of a short term reader. Also I like more facts, and suggestions, not so much as comparing stories for reading. Any advice...

shimo · shimo

Just a note to let you know I am the scheduled chair for the Tuesday morning Al-Anon meetings. However, for March 1 (next Tuesday), I am unable to keep my commitment as I have a Dr.'s appointment that morning. Hope one of the OP's can cover that meeting for me and if not, perhap...

jj · jj

So this week has been very good for me! I turned a very important corner this week by attending my first f2f. I would like to thank all of you for advising me to go I REALLY did need it! I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Doing more things for me and explaining to my A the way that I am feeling and wh...

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

This is my first time to write something on this board but right now I am at a pretty low point in my life. I was married about 4 months ago to a man whom I only knew for about 4 months bf we got married - (got engaged 1 1/2 mo after seeing each other and then married 2 1/2 mo later). He had told me he wa...

marissa · marissa

well, i have a lot of unexpected time at home today, and i'm trying to keep busy. i am reading, painting,... i have not seen my ex "A" in 6 months, nor have we talked for one month. i have resisted calling, e-mailing, driving by,...(trying to think of these as esteemable acts). ...

page · page

I need help. I have made a life with someone who has turned into an alcoholic. This person goes to AA, but continues to drink- has a sponser- but it makes no difference. I am so depressed, lonely, frustrated, and tired I can't stand myself. We own a nice house together,...

jj · jj

I am happy tonight i got to go to my first f2f meeting and I felt great after. My Sister in law went together and at first we were the only ones there... worried then another girl joined. It wasn't what i thought but it was good, great. My A came home and i just told him that i was going out, did'nt tell him where...

cdb · cdb

Am I the only one who cannot get the chatroom to load? All, I get is a grey page. I am having withdrawals here....Yikes...cdb

shimo · shimo

The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!! Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)

lalarainbow · lalarainbow

Hi, I am new on this board... My 21 year old son is really messed up..He lost his job ---had to move back home with my husband and I... We have had to pay over $800. for electricity water, phone,that he owed when living in town...He has no income! The last straw was a $450 f...

AlaMom · AlaMom

This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...

debalina36 · debalina36

My husband obtained a gun from a girl that was stolen and now she is in jail and the gun has to go back to the police, which takes it out of my home and out of my A husband's hands! God listens to my prayers! And he will listen to yours! Plus I wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate your support and prayers...

richard · richard

Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. Well, sometimes something happens to brighten your day and remind you that people really are basically good. Tonight I was in the drive thru lane at McDonald's and when I got up to the window to pay for the food, the guy told me that the lady in front of me had paid for my order!&n...

Jill · Jill

I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...

jenn011 · jenn011

Hi everyone. My name is Jenn. This is the first time i've done anything like this. Please bear with me. Well it doesn't seem that my story is all that different from many of you out there. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost seven yrs now. During the last...

richard · richard

My son is struggling with doing life. He has a woman friend now. I think she has a good heart. They are getting close and that scares my son. The only thing my son knows of being close is abuse. My son is struggling getting and keeping gainful employment. I am weaning my son from being monetary dependent of...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Do you need me? I am there. You cannot see me, yet I am the light you see by. You cannot hear me, yet I speak through your voice. You cannot feel me, yet I am the power at work in your hands. I am at work, though you do not understand my ways. I am at work, though you do not understand my works. I am not strange visio...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I am having the hardest time doing the right things in my life these days. The pressure I am feeling about my husband is weighing on me like a brick. Somewhere down deep I believe that we are over - yet I continue with the relationship. Part of me feels disloyal to him because he...

autumnangel · autumnangel

Hi everyone. Today I was reminded all over again that I'm powerless over other people, and that is still a really hard lesson for me to learn. I had a long talk with my husband and we got some things out about our marriage and how we both were feeling, which was good. But then when I noti...

gardengal · gardengal

This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression. We could all use a sacred pla...

nmike · nmike

Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"The finish line isn't a given; it is earned" --from the back of a T-shirt at a sporting event.

fittrip · fittrip

My A is my husband. My a's most recent rage was at my 7 year old son about a week ago. I tried to remain calm but he continued to berate my son and was looking for a fight, and I caved and gave it to him. Big Mistake, because I actually gave my control over...

debalina36 · debalina36

My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...

Diva · Diva

We finally got moved and settled back in lovely San Antonio. I hope that all of you have been well, and I'll catch up on the posts. Keeping each of you in my positive thoughts and prayers with great caring, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

jj · jj

Kerry, So sory for you. This must have been an awful day beyond what we can even immagine for you. My heart does really go out to you. Your last post sounded like you were not going to come back here and it gave me tears in my eyes. I hope that you can come back and keep comming back and i hope that you do find some...

bubz · bubz

Hello everyone, I have been searching for books on "dry drunks" with no luck. If anyone out there has some good leads on anything, it would be gladly accepted. I've been in alanon for about 6months now, and cannot imagine my life without it anymore :) THANK GOD FOR ALANON!

cdb · cdb

OH how I wish I could be where you are in your serenity with life Richard. I so admire it and I do have faith that it will come to me or I will come to it. For some reason it just isn't within my reach yet. I still don't feel life is fun and I don't feel a sense of peace with death either. I am like this scared l...

ImplicitIsobel · ImplicitIsobel

i'm sorry if anyone thinks this in an inapropriate topic. after reading through some of your entries and getting a feel for the real crisies that are happening in your lives, i am once again humbled, and realize once again how very silly the crisies i create in my head really are. but i still make them int...

gardengal · gardengal

Even when codependents recognize the problem for what it is,,, they often make the mistake of trying to control their partners consumption----- the amount the alcoholic drinks or uses--while fighting desperately to keep the bottom from falling out from under the family. They may count drinks,...

tink · tink

A friend sent this to me and I thought I would share it ............. I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. I've learned....That we should be glad God answers all prayers - however misguided they are Remember - NO is an answer.......

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...

cdb · cdb

Hello All! Thanks to all of you who said prayers! One more thing for me to not be worried about now. The only thing is, the doctors' still don't know what happened to him, grrr. Only that he had two Life Crisis. That's easy for them to say. Oh well. He has already used his 9 lives up anyway. All I can do is tak...

megan · megan

My A went to his bike repair class last night. It was the last night of the class. he missed 2 of the classes (out of 6) due to excessive drinking He seemed down after the class. He said that he tried to exchange phone numbers with some of the others and one ignored him as he said goodbye and anothe...

kathykelly · kathykelly

Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...

Doreanmsloan · Doreanmsloan

Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...

kerry5 · kerry5

I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...

NANUKE · NANUKE

Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan

mandyhol · mandyhol

Hi I am in London, England and have difficulty getting to face to face meetings. I have never had a sponsor and I think it would really help me. Please could you contact me if you have been in alanon a while and if you have the time to spare to help me Many thanks[email]hollidaymandy@hotmail.com...

debilyn · debilyn

Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn

kathykelly · kathykelly

Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...

ImplicitIsobel · ImplicitIsobel

hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...

debilyn · debilyn

http://community.webshots.com/user/gypsygma If you want to see who keeps me company, look at the newest members of Potter's Eden. the feb. 10 new are the newest ones. I have not had contact with my husband A still. I put all you guys told me together and realized i was just following the...

luv123 · luv123

hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...

John · John

MIP Game Arcade You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.

jj · jj

A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...

nicuRN71 · nicuRN71

I am new to the group thing. I have had to deal with substance abuse for most my life. My brother brought AA into my families life but he never really believed or followed through with it. I went once with him to an AA meeting and it seemingly was a bragging s...

richard · richard

My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...

cabecka · cabecka

I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone...... "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" ~Maya Angelou The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...

cdb · cdb

Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...

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	Quote for Today/detachment (Preview) A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails--Source Unknown. Hmmm....I always think of Detachment as that sort of friend...Thank God for that little pamphlet at Alanon meetings! www.coping.org/control/detach.htm :flowerpot...	wallsal55	4	1198	Feb 27, 2005 by Ava
	the a (Preview) Hi all, I so love the story of going out to have a day with the ma nice I did decide to put the a on the curb with the recycles. I know it is not healty to go toe to toe with him, as the disease says to do. The "in my face" stuff. I warned him twice to chill his stuff - maybe 27 times except it had to st...	wille	7	1012	Mar 2, 2005 by TLC2
	Update (Preview) Just a warm hello to everyone. No need to reply to this. I haven't been posting for awhile because I have had a crazy sinus infection and my ears have been blocked for several weeks now. I guess I can hear about 80% now. Dragging myself to work was a real chore. My A...	Annie	4	989	Feb 27, 2005 by Ava
	lilleah,,,,,come to chatroom,,, (Preview) I will wait for you for a half hour or more,,cdb	cdb	1	1232	Feb 26, 2005 by wille
	is anyone here? I need help (Preview) My A called at 2:00 and wanted to stay and play cards with friends. i said no, but he did anyway. He Promised he would call if he'd be later than 3:30, but it is after 3:30, and nothing! I tried to call, but no answer. I don't know whether to be mad, or scared, or think he is with another girl. I am just sitting he...	lilleah	10	1258	Mar 2, 2005 by Jeannie
	getting step 1,2,3 right? (Preview) Hi, I just want to check with the interpretations of steps 1,2,3. Step 1: to realize I have lost control, can't manage anymore Step 2: to realize I need a help from a higher power in order to heal (family, friends, Al anon, God, etc.) Step 3: to realize I can only do my best & noth...	babs	12	1545	Feb 26, 2005 by ginetteqofe
	Last night (Preview) Hello - last night was pretty bad. I reacted to him. I fell back into my old habits and screamed back at him. I was actually trying to reason with my A, knowing full well my words were falling on deaf ears. I might as well talk to the wall. I knew that when he gets his unemployment check, he will drink and drink...	debalina36	9	1255	Feb 27, 2005 by Doreanmsloan
	Stormy Seas (Preview) What a relief to find people who understand and who can offer hope and support. The last 18 months for me has been like riding a small boat in stormy seas. Over the last 18 months my A has had 3 jobs, 3 breakdowns, fallen out with all of his friends, been unemployed 3 times, bee...	Ava	7	873	Feb 27, 2005 by Ava
	how honest with the children? (Preview) Hello again, I'm new to this. I understand detachment, enabling, the 1st step, help yourself, can't fix the A. I've been online 3-4 times. Been to 1 meeting f2f. Reading the lit. It does seem to help. I'll keep going. Each day lately I do something for my self...	babs	8	1194	Mar 2, 2005 by lildee
	which reading material? (Preview) Hello, Thanks for reading. I'm new to this & was interested in the forum magazine. Any thoughts on this. I'm not much of a long reader, more of a short term reader. Also I like more facts, and suggestions, not so much as comparing stories for reading. Any advice...	babs	5	2754	Feb 26, 2005 by babs
	Tuesday a.m. March 1,2005 (Preview) Just a note to let you know I am the scheduled chair for the Tuesday morning Al-Anon meetings. However, for March 1 (next Tuesday), I am unable to keep my commitment as I have a Dr.'s appointment that morning. Hope one of the OP's can cover that meeting for me and if not, perhap...	shimo	2	856	Feb 26, 2005 by Faith73
	Taking the steps to take me back (Preview) So this week has been very good for me! I turned a very important corner this week by attending my first f2f. I would like to thank all of you for advising me to go I REALLY did need it! I feel like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. Doing more things for me and explaining to my A the way that I am feeling and wh...	jj	3	795	Feb 26, 2005 by Annie
	divorce vs. living with an A (Preview) This is my first time to write something on this board but right now I am at a pretty low point in my life. I was married about 4 months ago to a man whom I only knew for about 4 months bf we got married - (got engaged 1 1/2 mo after seeing each other and then married 2 1/2 mo later). He had told me he wa...	estrelladehope	10	1420	Feb 26, 2005 by sanddie
	snow day (Preview) well, i have a lot of unexpected time at home today, and i'm trying to keep busy. i am reading, painting,... i have not seen my ex "A" in 6 months, nor have we talked for one month. i have resisted calling, e-mailing, driving by,...(trying to think of these as esteemable acts). ...	marissa	5	1215	Feb 28, 2005 by InnerChild
	help (Preview) I need help. I have made a life with someone who has turned into an alcoholic. This person goes to AA, but continues to drink- has a sponser- but it makes no difference. I am so depressed, lonely, frustrated, and tired I can't stand myself. We own a nice house together,...	page	10	1072	Mar 5, 2005 by page
	Finally... My first f2f meeting (Preview) I am happy tonight i got to go to my first f2f meeting and I felt great after. My Sister in law went together and at first we were the only ones there... worried then another girl joined. It wasn't what i thought but it was good, great. My A came home and i just told him that i was going out, did'nt tell him where...	jj	4	1028	Feb 27, 2005 by jj
	Chatroom won't load :( help (Preview) Am I the only one who cannot get the chatroom to load? All, I get is a grey page. I am having withdrawals here....Yikes...cdb	cdb	1	816	Feb 23, 2005 by cdb
	MARCH BUS MTG (Preview) The March Business Meeting has been rescheduled to Wednesday, March 9, 7:00 p.m. EST. All members are invited to attend the meetings!! Hope to see you all there!! Love in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	0	902	Feb 23, 2005 by shimo
	son's addiction (Preview) Hi, I am new on this board... My 21 year old son is really messed up..He lost his job ---had to move back home with my husband and I... We have had to pay over $800. for electricity water, phone,that he owed when living in town...He has no income! The last straw was a $450 f...	lalarainbow	6	1262	Feb 24, 2005 by lalarainbow
	The Power of Program (Preview) This program and HP are so wonderful. As many know I have been struggling. I was complaining because I thought I lost the confidence I had several months ago regarding making decisions in my life. But what I realized tonight through a newcomer, I havent lost it - it has just taken a d...	AlaMom	1	1013	Feb 22, 2005 by Maria123
	God listens (Preview) My husband obtained a gun from a girl that was stolen and now she is in jail and the gun has to go back to the police, which takes it out of my home and out of my A husband's hands! God listens to my prayers! And he will listen to yours! Plus I wanted to tell you all how much I appreciate your support and prayers...	debalina36	6	1219	Feb 25, 2005 by Ava
	Debilyn... & anyone or all... (Preview) Yup, I listened to my then therapist and put the title of the car in my son’s name. See… you are as smart as a therapist. I upped the quality of coffee I drink now that I can afford it. I drink “Melitta” brand coffee. I can only find it by phone or Internet… my last drug in life: I ain't going to be perfect about n...	richard	4	1114	Feb 23, 2005 by wallsal55
	Grateful (Preview) Hi everyone. Well, sometimes something happens to brighten your day and remind you that people really are basically good. Tonight I was in the drive thru lane at McDonald's and when I got up to the window to pay for the food, the guy told me that the lady in front of me had paid for my order!&n...	autumnangel	5	1013	Feb 25, 2005 by Ava
	I can't control it (Preview) I kept my mouth shut while he had a meltdown the other day. I bit my tongue. The phone rang and it was his father. He rebuked his own father for some imagined behavior. I don't know of any circumstance when it would be justified to talk to his dad the way he did. My father in law is completely admirable. I know...	Jill	3	1077	Feb 22, 2005 by TLC2
	new to this (Preview) Hi everyone. My name is Jenn. This is the first time i've done anything like this. Please bear with me. Well it doesn't seem that my story is all that different from many of you out there. My husband is an alcoholic. We have been married for almost seven yrs now. During the last...	jenn011	7	1123	Feb 26, 2005 by alystylz
	My son... letting go... (Preview) My son is struggling with doing life. He has a woman friend now. I think she has a good heart. They are getting close and that scares my son. The only thing my son knows of being close is abuse. My son is struggling getting and keeping gainful employment. I am weaning my son from being monetary dependent of...	richard	5	1141	Feb 26, 2005 by alystylz
	Great Quote from HP (Preview) Do you need me? I am there. You cannot see me, yet I am the light you see by. You cannot hear me, yet I speak through your voice. You cannot feel me, yet I am the power at work in your hands. I am at work, though you do not understand my ways. I am at work, though you do not understand my works. I am not strange visio...	autumnangel	2	852	Feb 21, 2005 by TLC2
	Doing the Right Thing (Preview) I am having the hardest time doing the right things in my life these days. The pressure I am feeling about my husband is weighing on me like a brick. Somewhere down deep I believe that we are over - yet I continue with the relationship. Part of me feels disloyal to him because he...	AlaMom	6	904	Feb 27, 2005 by sanddie
	Powerlessness (Preview) Hi everyone. Today I was reminded all over again that I'm powerless over other people, and that is still a really hard lesson for me to learn. I had a long talk with my husband and we got some things out about our marriage and how we both were feeling, which was good. But then when I noti...	autumnangel	5	1182	Feb 21, 2005 by gardengal
	FINDING "OUR "SACRED PLACE (Preview) This increasingly chaotic world is making us sick,,,add an alcoholic or an addict to our lives and it is increased 10 fold or even 100.Our hurried and hassle-filled lifestyles are increasing our risk for strokes, heart attacks and mental illnesses such as depression. We could all use a sacred pla...	gardengal	6	1170	Feb 22, 2005 by richard
	Can't Keep My Mouth Shut (Preview) Can anyone help? My husband has accepted a job in another town. He says that he wants a divorce. That the purpose of life is happiness and he will be happy without me. He walks around obsessing about his diet, his dissertation, his new job, the price of a membership on the golf course. I ask to talk about ou...	nmike	6	1222	Feb 21, 2005 by wallsal55
	Quote for Today (Preview) "The finish line isn't a given; it is earned" --from the back of a T-shirt at a sporting event.	wallsal55	0	849	Feb 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Help with Step 1 (Preview) My A is my husband. My a's most recent rage was at my 7 year old son about a week ago. I tried to remain calm but he continued to berate my son and was looking for a fight, and I caved and gave it to him. Big Mistake, because I actually gave my control over...	fittrip	2	1316	Feb 20, 2005 by cdb
	New to Al-Anon HELP (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic and my father is a recovering one. I attended my first meeting and it planted a seed. But it is hard. My husband is drunk tonight and the one thing that hit me hard is that I cannot control what he does. I cannot control what he drinks. I can only control how I react and what I say. My s...	debalina36	7	1267	Feb 21, 2005 by debalina36
	Hello everyone. (Preview) We finally got moved and settled back in lovely San Antonio. I hope that all of you have been well, and I'll catch up on the posts. Keeping each of you in my positive thoughts and prayers with great caring, ..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ ..·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ...·´ Diva-:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*	Diva	2	939	Feb 19, 2005 by jj
	Kerry5 (Preview) Kerry, So sory for you. This must have been an awful day beyond what we can even immagine for you. My heart does really go out to you. Your last post sounded like you were not going to come back here and it gave me tears in my eyes. I hope that you can come back and keep comming back and i hope that you do find some...	jj	3	1015	Feb 21, 2005 by Anew123
	Dry drunks (Preview) Hello everyone, I have been searching for books on "dry drunks" with no luck. If anyone out there has some good leads on anything, it would be gladly accepted. I've been in alanon for about 6months now, and cannot imagine my life without it anymore :) THANK GOD FOR ALANON!	bubz	4	1835	Feb 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Richard and all..... (Preview) OH how I wish I could be where you are in your serenity with life Richard. I so admire it and I do have faith that it will come to me or I will come to it. For some reason it just isn't within my reach yet. I still don't feel life is fun and I don't feel a sense of peace with death either. I am like this scared l...	cdb	2	1055	Feb 18, 2005 by gardengal
	anyone else funny about food? (Preview) i'm sorry if anyone thinks this in an inapropriate topic. after reading through some of your entries and getting a feel for the real crisies that are happening in your lives, i am once again humbled, and realize once again how very silly the crisies i create in my head really are. but i still make them int...	ImplicitIsobel	2	1221	Feb 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	CRAZY LOVE (Preview) Even when codependents recognize the problem for what it is,,, they often make the mistake of trying to control their partners consumption----- the amount the alcoholic drinks or uses--while fighting desperately to keep the bottom from falling out from under the family. They may count drinks,...	gardengal	3	1079	Feb 18, 2005 by richard
	Things I've learned (Preview) A friend sent this to me and I thought I would share it ............. I've learned....That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. I've learned....That we should be glad God answers all prayers - however misguided they are Remember - NO is an answer.......	tink	3	1095	Feb 18, 2005 by jna
	2/17 P.M. Meeting - Review of Steps (Preview) Tonight's Step/Tradition meeting is a review of all 12 Steps. I have to take my mother to a couple of doctor appointments today, and might be late getting back. Hopefully not, but just in case, wanted to post what step we were on tonight - the review of all 12 - and I'm sure if I'm not here on ti...	kismetstrand	0	867	Feb 17, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Dad out of hospital (Preview) Hello All! Thanks to all of you who said prayers! One more thing for me to not be worried about now. The only thing is, the doctors' still don't know what happened to him, grrr. Only that he had two Life Crisis. That's easy for them to say. Oh well. He has already used his 9 lives up anyway. All I can do is tak...	cdb	4	1105	Feb 18, 2005 by kerry5
	social skills (Preview) My A went to his bike repair class last night. It was the last night of the class. he missed 2 of the classes (out of 6) due to excessive drinking He seemed down after the class. He said that he tried to exchange phone numbers with some of the others and one ignored him as he said goodbye and anothe...	megan	8	1052	Feb 18, 2005 by cdb
	Need Support (Preview) Just talked with my daughter and she asked if we were going to pay for her impact weekend that was ordered by the court. She has to complete that as well as get her GED in order to get off from probation. She is scheduled to get off probation in March. We have helped her with many of her co...	kathykelly	3	1138	Feb 16, 2005 by cdb
	learning not to react (Preview) Sometimes I find it so difficult not to say things that I know deep in my heart will hurt my a, (when he is sober) it is just beyond me not to let him know just how boring it is to hear the same old story that he tells anyone who will listen , such as our sons not me because I have learned not to listen to the bottle I...	Doreanmsloan	5	1826	Feb 18, 2005 by ImplicitIsobel
	Loosing All Hope (Preview) I am really freaking out here. My mother hurt her leg at xmas and i have been begging her to go ever since. But she was walking (with a limp) getting around babysitting my kids like always for a couple of weeks, so i thought was a pulled muscle i kept telling her to go and she wouldnt. She finally had no choice...	kerry5	9	1441	Feb 22, 2005 by bob6502
	Need Coverage 2/16 Wednesday Morning (Preview) Need someone to chair for me on Wednesday morning. Appreciate it and thanks to whomever can cover, L&P in Recovery, Nan	NANUKE	0	893	Feb 15, 2005 by NANUKE
	Sponsor me please! (Preview) Hi I am in London, England and have difficulty getting to face to face meetings. I have never had a sponsor and I think it would really help me. Please could you contact me if you have been in alanon a while and if you have the time to spare to help me Many thanks[email]hollidaymandy@hotmail.com...	mandyhol	2	941	Feb 24, 2005 by java
	?picture page? (Preview) Is there a picture page for this group. Love,debilyn	debilyn	1	929	Feb 15, 2005 by gardengal
	Ice Day (Preview) Well, the little ice storm has given me an extra day off. I'm a teacher and school was cancelled everywhere around here. I love these days now just as much as I did when I was a kid in school. Thought I'd take the time to update. My daughter has a new probation officer and she was f...	kathykelly	2	1137	Feb 15, 2005 by jj
	she's self sufficient, folks (Preview) hello all you friendly al-anon people. my name is claire, and i'm an american living in japan. i picked up al-anon as a way of life during my last year at college, but then jeted out here, and so have been without meetings for about 7 months. in general i'm doing a good job of keeping it together- daily read...	ImplicitIsobel	5	1120	Feb 16, 2005 by ImplicitIsobel
	A bit of Eden (Preview) http://community.webshots.com/user/gypsygma If you want to see who keeps me company, look at the newest members of Potter's Eden. the feb. 10 new are the newest ones. I have not had contact with my husband A still. I put all you guys told me together and realized i was just following the...	debilyn	6	620	Apr 21, 2005 by Anew123
	my teen-detaching responsibly (Preview) hi everyone--just thought i'd share thots from today's meeting--i am struggling with a 17 year old who i can try and dtach from as best i can but am still legally responsibly 4 so it gets tricky at this age At the meeting tonight I related most to the topic of standing up 4 self or what is right today—I a...	luv123	3	1535	Feb 14, 2005 by richard
	Game Arcade (Preview) MIP Game Arcade You can go to this Game Arcade, and then when done playing, click Message Boards and select the Al-Anon message board to return here.	John	0	899	Feb 13, 2005 by John
	Anger towards theos with"normal life" (Preview) A guest on the chat the other night has been in my head for the past few days and i hope this post will help me let go of all they had to say. This person was very angry with god and what seemed to be the whole world and thoes with a so called Normal Life. What is normal really??? I don't think there is a norm for lif...	jj	4	1289	Feb 14, 2005 by richard
	Anger and Frustration (Preview) I am new to the group thing. I have had to deal with substance abuse for most my life. My brother brought AA into my families life but he never really believed or followed through with it. I went once with him to an AA meeting and it seemingly was a bragging s...	nicuRN71	5	1057	Feb 14, 2005 by jessi
	want to see a few pics of a bit problematic son... (Preview) My son seems to take two steps forward, then three backwards, then four forward. I can deal with that. I recently brought a super loaded newer used car: a 2002 Ford Focus. I sold (via loan payments) my super nice older 98’ Plymouth Neon to my son. My Neon was my little four cylinder hot rod; it has high perf...	richard	7	1824	Feb 15, 2005 by cdb
	A Poem for you.... (Preview) I read this poem again recently, and it reminded me of the hurdles we all face in our programs and our lives with alcoholism. Just wanted to share with everyone...... "I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings" ~Maya Angelou The free bird leaps on the back of the wind and floats downstream till the...	cabecka	3	893	Feb 14, 2005 by socalmom
	Dad still in danger..... (Preview) Thank you all for your prayers and concern for my dad. The doctors still are not sure what is wrong and are trying to do many tests to figure it out. His heart and blood pressure still are doing whatever they want yet at times he is stable. A lung speialist was called in since his chest muscles...	cdb	3	1132	Feb 12, 2005 by jj
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