Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

megan · megan

I am what I consider to be a very private person. I was raised in a home where you were TOLD not to discuss family business with outsiders. That is still very dominant in my thinking. But overtaking this is my pain. So I became sick and tired last July of the pain from living with an alcoholi...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

After 3 weeks in psych ward, my wife was home Friday. We didn't talk much and I had to leave for the weekend for other commitments. She stayed home alone. I tried to call her yesterday, both at home and on her cell, but could not reach her and received no call back. It isa struggle to let go...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Yesterday I went to my local library nad checked out some books that I thought would help me. Here are the titles and authors: Hope for children of Alcoholics Alateen(no author known) the Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery(by Wayne Kritsberg) Alcoholi...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi everyone sorry i haven't posted in awhile. My husband has been sober for 46 days today. For me I have gotten a sponsor who is making me do the steps, I am still on step one but I am taking my time. I have to now write a gratitude list everyday until thur, I will problary always have to do it, but right now I k...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Here I am again - the ray of sunshine whose situation seems to get worse each day..! The saga continues with my husband since being out of treatment for one week. He is still sleeping at his mothers. He told me he doesn't know what he wants, he feels as if he has no purpose in li...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I was wondering if whoever holds or "leads" meetings could post meeting notes including the topics of the meetings, please? Lanchas

cah · cah

of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to. ...

Mark S · Mark S

Was prompted by a posting from another to download a few of the Speaker Tapes (look up) and was glad I did. Have listened to Ajit and Babs (lol initally thought our Babs) so far and found they we were well worth the download time. Ajit was pretty entertaining, but he hit on some things I see in myself. give t...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello again, I feel like I never have good news to report when I come here and feel as though I should since my husband has finally come out of treatment. No, not gonna happen. He has started all the same stuff he was doing before he left, only I truly believe without the help of booze.&nb...

jna · jna

Ok. I've posted a couple messages before and now I need some help because I just don't know what to do. The short version of my problem is this: I'm getting married in 7 months in the caribbean and my boyfriend and I are paying for our families to join us. There is a group of 12 going...

babs · babs

Hey there, After 2+ years of my hub drinking, I finally broke down & ended up here. I must admit at the time I came here, I was very distraught, lost, depressed. Coming here was a trigger for my husband. Somehow me going for help triggered him to stop drinking. It should...

logansrun13 · logansrun13

Dancing With God When I meditated on the word "GUIDANCE", I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word. I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and...

Mark S · Mark S

Picked wife up from rehab yesterday. Myself and the kids were happy to have her home. She seems in good spirits and doing well. I wish I could say same for me, hum I felt agitated yesterday for some reason. I don’t really know what was up with me because I could not put a finger on it, so I kept fairly silent la...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

....The help I CAN give is to offer the thought that no one NEEDS to feel trapped--that we do have choices in every situation. Todays Reminder I do not know what course of action is right for anyone else. I can offer only comfort and compassion, and the good...

Phil · Phil

I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying an...

mastiff · mastiff

This post is not alanon lit at all, sorry. Greta, I thought this might help you with your recent loss. Lots of love, Trina aka Mastiff The Rainbow Bridge Poem When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hi...

fineline · fineline

I get that the difference between detaching with love and just plain old not caring...and I think about it like the difference between a demand and a request. I been checking myself to be sure my boundaries are more "no thank you" than kiss off

. But here is my question....I have learned to res...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

D on't E ven T hink A bout C hanging Him [or Her] ! I have to keep remembering this one ! ROFL!

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Thinking: ; 1. To See 2. To Hear 3. To Touch 4. To Taste 5. &...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Well, we got through the first weekend back together as a family. It has been alot harder than I expected I must say. I am so happy that my husband is home and I realize that he has to continue to work his program and think about himself. I am just wondering when the hell an...

fineline · fineline

I have been to some terrific workshops...now our group is planning a one day. They want to have a panel...but I remember some terrific work groups. Where do those ideas and supplies come from? Does world service have resources? Anything on the net? The things I am looking for divided people into group...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

Tonight I pick up my wife from the hospital where she has been ungoing psych treatment for bipolar and suicide attempts. She is to go back to alcohol treatment facility this weekend for more treatment. I believe it's a 2 or 3 week stint at the facility, back for a week, then back for another...

victoria · victoria

I am very new to everything. I have been reading around on the postings, so I hope I have some idea of what's going on here. I have never been to a meeting or on the net for meetings so I'll need some guidance at times. I have been with an a for 17 years and the insanity just keeps on rolli...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Even with my husband living with his parents, the stress is starting to get to me. His parents no longer are rude and nasty to me, they say they finally realize that he has a problem, and they want to fix it. Now they stop by to check on things, bring things for the house, Tpaper, paper towels etc....

Hi First Time User (I am broken) · ben

Well I never thought I would ever be on one of "these sites" I am sad and angry. A little background on me. I am 26 year sold, I am married to a beautiful woman and we are expecting our first child, a little baby girl Abby. My biological Father was mean and abused my Mother when I was young. I don'...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. --William Morrow ............Things to Think About Other people can't make me feel responsible for their lives. I can turn off what I hear, look past what I se...

babs · babs

Hi, I never had a sponser, so this is new to me. I'm not sure if this even can be done. I really don't want to leave email, since my family can read my email. I don't have long distance on the phone either. I however can type fairly quick for IM. Or I'm not sure of this priva...

alaskamatt · alaskamatt

HI everybody. I live in Alaska and have been in the program almost a year. I really need to get a sponsor. I go to meetings regularly but am having a challenge finding any guys who be interested in sponsoring; it was suggested I try online. I am really grateful for the al-anon program but need some help w...

jj · jj

Yes I know better!!! I have no idea why I fell for it but I did. He drank today I guess me believing in him or his word was to much. He asked what was wrong when he woke me up from my nap to go get him and his friend some beer. I mostly avaided it and just told him that I am not going to enable his drinking. I did...

Orchid · Orchid

D hasn't really committed to stopping and we are separated now... I told him that I needed a week to myself to clear my head and get my balance back. I asked him not to call and when I was ready I would call him. He got mad and has been making threats to see other people and stuff like that. I...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello friends, It was suggested to me that I post here to get some feedback. My husband was just discharged from a 28 day treatment program called Homewood. He told me that he was getting out today (Thursday a.m.)but in fact got out on Wed. evening. It was suggested to me that this is comm...

jj · jj

So hubby stayed true to his word and came home.....I am truely happy that he kept his word. YA

Thought I would let you all know

haximon · haximon

This is the place for those who want sponsors and those who want to be sponsored. Those who wish to be sponsored, please post basic information about yourself and what you want in a sponsor here. Somebody will respond. This goes for service sponsors and sponsees too!! Haximon

girlofgod13 · girlofgod13

I was introduced to this site through a friend of mine who says it has helped her deal with her problems. So i decided to give it a shot. I am the daughter of a long time alcoholic. My dad married my mom with a drinking problem she did not comprehend until after their vows were said. When my moth...

richard · richard

If I do not keep from using drugs like alcohol, etc. what good will I be to my recovering son or me or anyone? Thus, I beseech you to allow me to share with you what is a little more A.A. than Al-anon. Besides in the beginning the whole family got together in folks home to have their meetings, you know. Then of...

jj · jj

OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...

jj · jj

So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...

WilliamH · WilliamH

I posted this questions on another forum in this website and it was suggested I post the same here... My wife drinks a bottle of wine a night (25 ounces). Sometimes she drinks a little more. She does this EVERY night. We have heated discussions regarding her consumption, but she continues to consume...

estrelladehope · estrelladehope

I am pretty frustrated - if I am working on myself and have no control over the alcoholic then why shouldn't the spouses just leave the alcoholic especially if they do not have children? If I just left than I could work on myself without having the alcoholic to distract me and also knowing that if h...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

....when past mistakes come to mind I tend to react with guilt, exaggerating the significance of my errors and thinking very badly of myself. In Alanon, I'm learning to see myself more realistically. ....... ......But I'm not evil. It's time I stop treat...

Karen KB · Karen KB

just trying it out, have to go to work, will be back at a time when i can write my stuff, Love to all--------------

John · John

1. What is alcoholism? We often refer to it as a threefold family disease affecting the body, the mind and the spirit. For the drinker, one of the symptoms is an uncontrollable desire for alcohol. 2. How can I help an alcoholic? Ultimately an alcoholic must want help, and often help is res...

nmike · nmike

I just read the posts on staying or leaving. I am on the other end of the leaving and it is tough. My recovering A has said he wants a divorce. He said this relationship takes to much time and he is not going to change. He has taken a job in another state and by summer says he is "outta of here" and he wants nothin...

Susanroo · Susanroo

Hi everyone I'm still fairly new here and still learning so much from all of you. You all are such wonderful special people and I'm so grateful for all of you I am really trying hard to understand how the posting works. I've tried clicking on different things but I'm still confuse...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

I don't know if it's just me and my Middle Age brain-- I have adjusted to this message board as best I can, but am finding it hard to keep up with it. How do you feel? [I am making lifestyle changes--and now my computer is the library's! on M, W, F, and Sat.] Not sure how many...

Beskem · Beskem

As some of you know, my A wife has been in Detox twice, has had Mental Evals twice at the Police and Sheriff's stations all in the last month and a half. She's only been drinking habitually for six months and says it is only stress related. Last week after releasing herself early from a rehab...

jessi · jessi

Hi all, Big, huge, heavy dilemma here. Help! I have had my ex-As cat for a year since we broke up. I agreed to this, knowing she would take him at the end of this month. However, she just got a new job and is commuting. She'll move June 1. And now she has asked me in an indirect way to keep the cat until s...

AlbertaCowboy · AlbertaCowboy

hi, this is my first post so a little history about my situation might help. I live commonlaw with a bipolar, alcoholic spouse. Each of us has 2 children from previous marriages, although none of them live fulltime with us. Due to her illnesses, we have suffered through 9 suicide attem...

hockeydal · hockeydal

Hello friends Well the experts were right. He stayed away for the one night and was with his fellow "a" friend. At his home in his home town. He is home and for now all is well. Thanks for all the prayers

-- Edited by hockeydal at 21:51, 2005-03-17

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and consider myself an adult but I odn't know if i should be in Al-Anon. It seems like its for older adults. Any advice anyone? Lanchas

babs · babs

First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle

Mark S · Mark S

Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)

Lindy · Lindy

Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...

angel123 · angel123

1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel

Christy · Christy

I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...

jj · jj

Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ

babs · babs

In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!

kathykelly · kathykelly

Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...

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	isolation (Preview) I am what I consider to be a very private person. I was raised in a home where you were TOLD not to discuss family business with outsiders. That is still very dominant in my thinking. But overtaking this is my pain. So I became sick and tired last July of the pain from living with an alcoholi...	megan	7	1250	Mar 25, 2005 by Ava
	hard to let go (Preview) After 3 weeks in psych ward, my wife was home Friday. We didn't talk much and I had to leave for the weekend for other commitments. She stayed home alone. I tried to call her yesterday, both at home and on her cell, but could not reach her and received no call back. It isa struggle to let go...	AlbertaCowboy	6	1195	Mar 24, 2005 by joeygirl
	Literature (Preview) Yesterday I went to my local library nad checked out some books that I thought would help me. Here are the titles and authors: Hope for children of Alcoholics Alateen(no author known) the Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery(by Wayne Kritsberg) Alcoholi...	Lanchas	3	943	Mar 24, 2005 by bob6502
	DOING GOOD (Preview) Hi everyone sorry i haven't posted in awhile. My husband has been sober for 46 days today. For me I have gotten a sponsor who is making me do the steps, I am still on step one but I am taking my time. I have to now write a gratitude list everyday until thur, I will problary always have to do it, but right now I k...	nycbt	4	1069	Mar 24, 2005 by bob6502
	One Day at a Time (Preview) Here I am again - the ray of sunshine whose situation seems to get worse each day..! The saga continues with my husband since being out of treatment for one week. He is still sleeping at his mothers. He told me he doesn't know what he wants, he feels as if he has no purpose in li...	hockeydal	4	1001	Mar 24, 2005 by Christy
	Meeting Notes (Preview) I was wondering if whoever holds or "leads" meetings could post meeting notes including the topics of the meetings, please? Lanchas	Lanchas	2	895	Mar 24, 2005 by Lanchas
	does anyone know (Preview) of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to. ...	cah	7	1184	Mar 24, 2005 by Jam
	Speaker tapes (Preview) Was prompted by a posting from another to download a few of the Speaker Tapes (look up) and was glad I did. Have listened to Ajit and Babs (lol initally thought our Babs) so far and found they we were well worth the download time. Ajit was pretty entertaining, but he hit on some things I see in myself. give t...	Mark S	1	957	Mar 24, 2005 by cdb
	So this is what dry drunk is... (Preview) Hello again, I feel like I never have good news to report when I come here and feel as though I should since my husband has finally come out of treatment. No, not gonna happen. He has started all the same stuff he was doing before he left, only I truly believe without the help of booze.&nb...	hockeydal	5	1124	Mar 23, 2005 by babs
	how to bring it up?? (Preview) Ok. I've posted a couple messages before and now I need some help because I just don't know what to do. The short version of my problem is this: I'm getting married in 7 months in the caribbean and my boyfriend and I are paying for our families to join us. There is a group of 12 going...	jna	5	1185	Mar 23, 2005 by joeygirl
	confrontation vs silence? (Preview) Hey there, After 2+ years of my hub drinking, I finally broke down & ended up here. I must admit at the time I came here, I was very distraught, lost, depressed. Coming here was a trigger for my husband. Somehow me going for help triggered him to stop drinking. It should...	babs	8	1093	Mar 23, 2005 by debilyn
	Dancing with God (Preview) Dancing With God When I meditated on the word "GUIDANCE", I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word. I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and...	logansrun13	3	1075	Mar 23, 2005 by kb
	Wife home glad to have her back (Preview) Picked wife up from rehab yesterday. Myself and the kids were happy to have her home. She seems in good spirits and doing well. I wish I could say same for me, hum I felt agitated yesterday for some reason. I don’t really know what was up with me because I could not put a finger on it, so I kept fairly silent la...	Mark S	10	1345	Mar 23, 2005 by Mark S
	Sharing Experience, Strenghth and Hope (Preview) ....The help I CAN give is to offer the thought that no one NEEDS to feel trapped--that we do have choices in every situation. Todays Reminder I do not know what course of action is right for anyone else. I can offer only comfort and compassion, and the good...	wallsal55	1	1033	Mar 23, 2005 by megan
	Dropping in to say hi and sharing the following (Preview) I am responsible for... from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying an...	Phil	1	937	Mar 22, 2005 by cdb
	Greta, this is for you (Preview) This post is not alanon lit at all, sorry. Greta, I thought this might help you with your recent loss. Lots of love, Trina aka Mastiff The Rainbow Bridge Poem When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hi...	mastiff	1	1077	Mar 22, 2005 by greta
	Detach, Detach, Detach (Preview) I get that the difference between detaching with love and just plain old not caring...and I think about it like the difference between a demand and a request. I been checking myself to be sure my boundaries are more "no thank you" than kiss off . But here is my question....I have learned to res...	fineline	5	1432	Mar 22, 2005 by debilyn
	D.E.T.A.C.H. (Preview) D on't E ven T hink A bout C hanging Him [or Her] ! I have to keep remembering this one ! ROFL!	wallsal55	4	1089	Mar 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	The Seven Wonders of The World (Preview) Thinking: ; 1. To See 2. To Hear 3. To Touch 4. To Taste 5. &...	wallsal55	1	881	Mar 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	Harder than I thought (Preview) Well, we got through the first weekend back together as a family. It has been alot harder than I expected I must say. I am so happy that my husband is home and I realize that he has to continue to work his program and think about himself. I am just wondering when the hell an...	hockeydal	5	1019	Mar 22, 2005 by debilyn
	Workshop Ideas/kits/samples (Preview) I have been to some terrific workshops...now our group is planning a one day. They want to have a panel...but I remember some terrific work groups. Where do those ideas and supplies come from? Does world service have resources? Anything on the net? The things I am looking for divided people into group...	fineline	1	6933	Mar 22, 2005 by wallsal55
	picking wife up from hospital (Preview) Tonight I pick up my wife from the hospital where she has been ungoing psych treatment for bipolar and suicide attempts. She is to go back to alcohol treatment facility this weekend for more treatment. I believe it's a 2 or 3 week stint at the facility, back for a week, then back for another...	AlbertaCowboy	8	1240	Mar 22, 2005 by AlbertaCowboy
	tooo new (Preview) I am very new to everything. I have been reading around on the postings, so I hope I have some idea of what's going on here. I have never been to a meeting or on the net for meetings so I'll need some guidance at times. I have been with an a for 17 years and the insanity just keeps on rolli...	victoria	5	1097	Mar 21, 2005 by bcanuck
	stress (Preview) Hi, Even with my husband living with his parents, the stress is starting to get to me. His parents no longer are rude and nasty to me, they say they finally realize that he has a problem, and they want to fix it. Now they stop by to check on things, bring things for the house, Tpaper, paper towels etc....	Jeannie	5	1183	Mar 21, 2005 by abbyal
	Hi First Time User (I am broken) (Preview) Well I never thought I would ever be on one of "these sites" I am sad and angry. A little background on me. I am 26 year sold, I am married to a beautiful woman and we are expecting our first child, a little baby girl Abby. My biological Father was mean and abused my Mother when I was young. I don'...	ben	7	1180	Mar 21, 2005 by Jeannie
	Quotes for Today (Preview) What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. --William Morrow ............Things to Think About Other people can't make me feel responsible for their lives. I can turn off what I hear, look past what I se...	wallsal55	0	938	Mar 21, 2005 by wallsal55
	I'm looking for online sponser... (Preview) Hi, I never had a sponser, so this is new to me. I'm not sure if this even can be done. I really don't want to leave email, since my family can read my email. I don't have long distance on the phone either. I however can type fairly quick for IM. Or I'm not sure of this priva...	babs	1	961	Mar 21, 2005 by jo4
	I need a sponsor (Preview) HI everybody. I live in Alaska and have been in the program almost a year. I really need to get a sponsor. I go to meetings regularly but am having a challenge finding any guys who be interested in sponsoring; it was suggested I try online. I am really grateful for the al-anon program but need some help w...	alaskamatt	3	1098	Mar 21, 2005 by John
	Set Myself Up for Disapointment (Preview) Yes I know better!!! I have no idea why I fell for it but I did. He drank today I guess me believing in him or his word was to much. He asked what was wrong when he woke me up from my nap to go get him and his friend some beer. I mostly avaided it and just told him that I am not going to enable his drinking. I did...	jj	5	1043	Mar 21, 2005 by jj
	thanks for the replies... any for this. (Preview) D hasn't really committed to stopping and we are separated now... I told him that I needed a week to myself to clear my head and get my balance back. I asked him not to call and when I was ready I would call him. He got mad and has been making threats to see other people and stuff like that. I...	Orchid	4	1080	Mar 20, 2005 by debilyn
	Hubby home from treatment (Preview) Hello friends, It was suggested to me that I post here to get some feedback. My husband was just discharged from a 28 day treatment program called Homewood. He told me that he was getting out today (Thursday a.m.)but in fact got out on Wed. evening. It was suggested to me that this is comm...	hockeydal	5	1108	Mar 20, 2005 by jo4
	omg he came home on a friday!! (Preview) So hubby stayed true to his word and came home.....I am truely happy that he kept his word. YA Thought I would let you all know	jj	4	995	Mar 20, 2005 by cdb
	Sponsorship Corner II (Preview) This is the place for those who want sponsors and those who want to be sponsored. Those who wish to be sponsored, please post basic information about yourself and what you want in a sponsor here. Somebody will respond. This goes for service sponsors and sponsees too!! Haximon	haximon	4	1258	Mar 20, 2005 by alaskamatt
	Should I let it go? (Preview) I was introduced to this site through a friend of mine who says it has helped her deal with her problems. So i decided to give it a shot. I am the daughter of a long time alcoholic. My dad married my mom with a drinking problem she did not comprehend until after their vows were said. When my moth...	girlofgod13	5	1182	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	A little duality here (long)... (Preview) If I do not keep from using drugs like alcohol, etc. what good will I be to my recovering son or me or anyone? Thus, I beseech you to allow me to share with you what is a little more A.A. than Al-anon. Besides in the beginning the whole family got together in folks home to have their meetings, you know. Then of...	richard	4	1183	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	bursting at seams (Preview) OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...	jj	9	1243	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	thinking alot (Preview) So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...	jj	9	1430	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Should I be concerned? (Preview) I posted this questions on another forum in this website and it was suggested I post the same here... My wife drinks a bottle of wine a night (25 ounces). Sometimes she drinks a little more. She does this EVERY night. We have heated discussions regarding her consumption, but she continues to consume...	WilliamH	8	1255	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	love vs. leaving (Preview) I am pretty frustrated - if I am working on myself and have no control over the alcoholic then why shouldn't the spouses just leave the alcoholic especially if they do not have children? If I just left than I could work on myself without having the alcoholic to distract me and also knowing that if h...	estrelladehope	13	1653	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Guilt (Preview) ....when past mistakes come to mind I tend to react with guilt, exaggerating the significance of my errors and thinking very badly of myself. In Alanon, I'm learning to see myself more realistically. ....... ......But I'm not evil. It's time I stop treat...	wallsal55	1	972	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	First time on MB (Preview) just trying it out, have to go to work, will be back at a time when i can write my stuff, Love to all--------------	Karen KB	4	953	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Questions Often Asked About Al-Anon (Preview) 1. What is alcoholism? We often refer to it as a threefold family disease affecting the body, the mind and the spirit. For the drinker, one of the symptoms is an uncontrollable desire for alcohol. 2. How can I help an alcoholic? Ultimately an alcoholic must want help, and often help is res...	John	5	1228	Mar 20, 2005 by Ava
	Love Must Be Tough (Preview) I just read the posts on staying or leaving. I am on the other end of the leaving and it is tough. My recovering A has said he wants a divorce. He said this relationship takes to much time and he is not going to change. He has taken a job in another state and by summer says he is "outta of here" and he wants nothin...	nmike	4	1212	Mar 19, 2005 by richard
	Please explain how to look at postings (Preview) Hi everyone I'm still fairly new here and still learning so much from all of you. You all are such wonderful special people and I'm so grateful for all of you I am really trying hard to understand how the posting works. I've tried clicking on different things but I'm still confuse...	Susanroo	1	982	Mar 19, 2005 by megan
	Suggestion for Mess. Board Users/Posters (Preview) I don't know if it's just me and my Middle Age brain-- I have adjusted to this message board as best I can, but am finding it hard to keep up with it. How do you feel? [I am making lifestyle changes--and now my computer is the library's! on M, W, F, and Sat.] Not sure how many...	wallsal55	5	1163	Mar 19, 2005 by wallsal55
	Denial (Preview) As some of you know, my A wife has been in Detox twice, has had Mental Evals twice at the Police and Sheriff's stations all in the last month and a half. She's only been drinking habitually for six months and says it is only stress related. Last week after releasing herself early from a rehab...	Beskem	8	1180	Mar 19, 2005 by Lanchas
	when is enough? (Preview) Hi all, Big, huge, heavy dilemma here. Help! I have had my ex-As cat for a year since we broke up. I agreed to this, knowing she would take him at the end of this month. However, she just got a new job and is commuting. She'll move June 1. And now she has asked me in an indirect way to keep the cat until s...	jessi	8	1286	Mar 18, 2005 by debilyn
	bipolar alcoholic (Preview) hi, this is my first post so a little history about my situation might help. I live commonlaw with a bipolar, alcoholic spouse. Each of us has 2 children from previous marriages, although none of them live fulltime with us. Due to her illnesses, we have suffered through 9 suicide attem...	AlbertaCowboy	7	1367	Mar 18, 2005 by sanddie
	Hubby HOME from treatment (Preview) Hello friends Well the experts were right. He stayed away for the one night and was with his fellow "a" friend. At his home in his home town. He is home and for now all is well. Thanks for all the prayers -- Edited by hockeydal at 21:51, 2005-03-17	hockeydal	5	968	Mar 18, 2005 by doozee
	Unsure (Preview) I'm 18 and consider myself an adult but I odn't know if i should be in Al-Anon. It seems like its for older adults. Any advice anyone? Lanchas	Lanchas	8	1212	Mar 18, 2005 by Lanchas
	working towards peace..... (Preview) First, to all who have read my post on "I'm perfect, you're not".... Thanks for the replies. It was just how I felt. We all don't have the same thoughts, or feelings. I know what works for some, won't for others. That's what makes us unique. ...	babs	4	1172	Mar 18, 2005 by nmike
	Quote for Today (Preview) "Excellence is an art won by training and habituaion. We do not act rightly because of virtue or excellence, but rather we have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is not an act, but a habit." --Aristotle	wallsal55	2	1021	Mar 18, 2005 by Mark S
	Trust, I used to give so freely (Preview) Had family program at the rehab center Monday and Tuesday. It was intense, and I initially left with some good feelings, better than the first time a couple years ago. My wife to my surprise did actually verbally accept responsibility for her actions and admitted her dishonesty as well as her assignm...	Mark S	12	1378	Mar 18, 2005 by scared
	Read below post>>says cdb (Preview) Hello everyone, I replied to the post below titled cdb about how my daughter is doing and about the family meeting we had. So for those that are interested, you need to go to that post for the update. TY your friend in recovery,,cdb :)	cdb	1	911	Mar 18, 2005 by jj
	Think I just married ANOTHER alcoholic (Preview) Hi, after another bad weekend, I thought I would find a site where I could tell my story. I seem to be a magnet for alcoholics! I apologize for this long message ahead of time. Anyway, here it is: I was married for about nine years to a "weekend alcoholic" and the last few years were hell. My ex-husband woul...	Lindy	11	1204	Mar 17, 2005 by sanddie
	Forum 1987 (Preview) 1.)If you can give but one gift,make it the gift of good example 2.)Love is like gratitude,much better when show it. 3.)The door to a human heart can be opened only from the inside. (((Group Hugs))))God Bless Angel	angel123	1	821	Mar 17, 2005 by doozee
	The Speaker Tapes (Preview) I listened to one of the speaker tapes offered on this site while I was doing my day to day chores. ajit-s-alltexas200332.mp3 It was not only inspiring, but she is really, really funny and a great speaker. Just thought I'd share in case ya'll haven't checked them out...	Christy	1	1161	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	cdb... (Preview) Hey cdb I was just thinking about you and hopping that the family meeting went well. I haven't seen you on here and it made me think of you more. Well I hope that all is well with everyone and you are in my prayers. Love your friend in recovery JJ	jj	2	826	Mar 17, 2005 by cdb
	thanks TLC (Preview) In case you didn't read my reply to you. I really like the idea of using "My A" for my anonomous whoever, instead of My A meaning my alcoholic!!!!!! It means so much more to me. Thank you for that thought. Hope you have a nice day!	babs	2	906	Mar 17, 2005 by TLC2
	Thanks to all! (Preview) Thank you all for your great responses to my post about helping my daughter. They were, once again, very insightful and helpful. I am so fortunate to get all of your experience to help me with this adventure. I am going to help with the car, but being a mother, I took the opportunity t...	kathykelly	1	742	Mar 17, 2005 by Beskem
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