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Suggestions Wanted
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 I would like some suggestions about talking to an alcoholic and whether it's wrong to tell him how you feel about things he's done and what you are tired of. Does saying things mean that there's something wrong with you, like you're nuts or psycho? I get told that when I say anything to him after he d...
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Happy Easter!
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Just wanted to take this opportunity to wish all of you, my family of choice, a joyous Easter day.
Let us all take time to day to be grateful for the gifts we have been given, and spend some time visiting with our HP's today.
Love and Peace to you all.
David
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A new day.....a new end
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Step Board
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Hi All - I read lots of good ESH on this board. Please feel free to join us on the Step Board and share how the Steps work in your lives.
We need your support, your love and your shares.
Ya'll come.
Love and hugs - Dot
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HOPE/FAITH
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I think coming into alanon for the first time, that I was looking for something that I didn't know I needed. I knew I needed the support of others who have been in my situation, and the comfort of people who understand the effects of alcoholism. But deep down I also needed hope. Hope that my life wou...
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Kick him out?
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My wife and I have a 31 year old son who is the A in our lives. He's a wonderful man and we love him dearly. We've been guilty of helping way too much going back to his high school days (and probably earlier). He's been through detox 4 times now. He's good at it and kind of likes the process.
Two months ago we s...
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Cute easter card
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I hope this is okay to post this. I thought it might get a smile from everyone.
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need hope
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I am new to the program and feel very alone my qualifier is my husband who has been in and out of sobriety about 1 year ago he went into treatment for 28 days when he came home things were still shaky and he relapsed . My husband also suffers from depression through this all i have tried to remain supportive t...
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Eden?
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on 3/25/05 12:50 AM, Potter's Eden at debilynseden@centurytel.net wrote:
> oh man, We have hail here like crazy and ya know what hail turns into when it
> melts on to the ground and mixes with dirt... the M word. OMG
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> Yesterday I got approved for a car loan, my modification money is being saved
...> >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
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hugs and stuff
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First let me say- What a great business meeting! Thanks so much Shimo and Cindy and everyone else! There ended up being a lengthy discussion about hugging someone during their share. It was great to hear all of the different perspectives being shared. I think that the fact that we share openly with eac...
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Quote for Today--For Women(?) Only
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[I think the word alanoner could be substitued here].
"There is in every true woman's heart a heavenly fire which, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity." ---Washington Irving
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Stay out or Jump in?
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This is the question that is in my head. 32 years with my daughter and now she has a 7 year old sons. She wants to come home again and this is about the 5th time. She lives in Oregon, so moving back and forth is days of planning, I live in AZ, money, problem solving and yelling and screamin...
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Kismet, amends and HugeThanks.
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Hello Kismet and All,
Recently, I talked to you Kis in PM, private message and vented. While venting to you I tried to be honest, yet my honesty probably came out side ways at you too. I would like to apologize and make amends to you knowing that you understand and probably don't th...
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detaching with love
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I've read a few responses on the board lately that talk about detaching with love. How exactly do you do that. Anyone have any comments on it. I keep trying to detach but I get the I just don't care phrase in my head but the fact is that I do care - that's why I get anxious and worrie...
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Sober talk???
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My husband and I had a bit of a conversation if you could call it that. We were discussing what his reastion would be if I flat out told him that he needed to get sober and needed help. Well.. that did not go over well he flat out said then see ya! Totally not what someone in my situation wants to here. So I never...
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The value of honesty
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I learned a great lesson yesterday. I learned how much I value honesty. I had a situation that turned very ugly despite my attempts to avoid it. It all stemed from the fact that people had not been honest with me or with other people. I have become a very open and honest person through the program and didn'...
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Just thinking
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I wrote a post a little while ago, and on reading it back, I realize that I was venting, and getting aggravated and letting everything get to me.
I did some thinking, and some crying and some more feeling sorry for myself, and things seem a lot clearer. I have been accused by my in-laws of being selfish a...
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Jeannie
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Quit messing with me:name changes
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Hello,
These individuals know who I am talking about. I have your isp numbers and I am aware that you are using different names at different times and that yesterday when the OP computer was off, you were messing with me using others names! This needs to stop. I am a hurting person who cam...
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Experience, Strength, and Hope
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When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober. Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me. Did I need help? Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right??? Wrong!!! I was married...
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ASAP!
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Ever wonder about the abbreviation A.S.A.P.? Generally we think of it in terms of even more hurry and stress in our lives. Maybe if we think of this abbreviation in a different manner, we will begin to find a new way to deal with those rough days along the way. ************* There's work to do, deadlines...
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Bad Mood
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I am in a horible mood. Its my Birthday tomorrow and it is always so upsetting for me and of course it began tonight. My husbands friend called me (his birthday too) and told me that my husband has crashed on his couch as he had celebrated the friends birthday pretty hard. So I wont even get a goodmorning bd...
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Disappointed again
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This is just getting so old. Wednesday morning my A boyfriend actually wanted to discuss why I'm so "detached" and/or depresed. So I told him all the ugly things he does and calls me when he's drunk. He apologizes and says he doesn't mean it, won't do it again, etc. etc etc.&n...
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Debilyn
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I just read a reply that you made to a post and you talked about your farm and your animals and your remodeling and it just totally lifted my spirit.
I would slow down to look at your pot bellied pig too!
You are always so positive!!!!
Thank you!!!!!!!
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isolation
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I am what I consider to be a very private person. I was raised in a home where you were TOLD not to discuss family business with outsiders.
That is still very dominant in my thinking.
But overtaking this is my pain. So I became sick and tired last July of the pain from living with an alcoholi...
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hard to let go
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After 3 weeks in psych ward, my wife was home Friday. We didn't talk much and I had to leave for the weekend for other commitments. She stayed home alone.
I tried to call her yesterday, both at home and on her cell, but could not reach her and received no call back.
It isa struggle to let go...
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Literature
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Yesterday I went to my local library nad checked out some books that I thought would help me. Here are the titles and authors:
Hope for children of Alcoholics Alateen(no author known)
the Adult Children of Alcoholics Syndrome: From Discovery to Recovery(by Wayne Kritsberg)
Alcoholi...
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DOING GOOD
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Hi everyone
sorry i haven't posted in awhile. My husband has been sober for 46 days today. For me I have gotten a sponsor who is making me do the steps, I am still on step one but I am taking my time. I have to now write a gratitude list everyday until thur, I will problary always have to do it, but right now I k...
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One Day at a Time
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Here I am again - the ray of sunshine whose situation seems to get worse each day..! The saga continues with my husband since being out of treatment for one week.
He is still sleeping at his mothers. He told me he doesn't know what he wants, he feels as if he has no purpose in li...
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Meeting Notes
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I was wondering if whoever holds or "leads" meetings could post meeting notes including the topics of the meetings, please?
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does anyone know
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of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to.
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Speaker tapes
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Was prompted by a posting from another to download a few of the Speaker Tapes (look up) and was glad I did. Have listened to Ajit and Babs (lol initally thought our Babs) so far and found they we were well worth the download time. Ajit was pretty entertaining, but he hit on some things I see in myself. give t...
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So this is what dry drunk is...
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Hello again,
I feel like I never have good news to report when I come here and feel as though I should since my husband has finally come out of treatment.
No, not gonna happen. He has started all the same stuff he was doing before he left, only I truly believe without the help of booze.&nb...
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how to bring it up??
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Ok. I've posted a couple messages before and now I need some help because I just don't know what to do.
The short version of my problem is this:
I'm getting married in 7 months in the caribbean and my boyfriend and I are paying for our families to join us. There is a group of 12 going...
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confrontation vs silence?
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Hey there,
After 2+ years of my hub drinking, I finally broke down & ended up here. I must admit at the time I came here, I was very distraught, lost, depressed. Coming here was a trigger for my husband. Somehow me going for help triggered him to stop drinking. It should...
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Dancing with God
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Dancing With God
When I meditated on the word "GUIDANCE", I kept seeing "dance" at the end of the word. I remember reading that doing God's will is a lot like dancing. When two people try to lead, nothing feels right. The movement doesn't flow with the music, and everything is quite uncomfortable and...
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Wife home glad to have her back
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Picked wife up from rehab yesterday. Myself and the kids were happy to have her home. She seems in good spirits and doing well. I wish I could say same for me, hum I felt agitated yesterday for some reason. I don’t really know what was up with me because I could not put a finger on it, so I kept fairly silent la...
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Sharing Experience, Strenghth and Hope
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....The help I CAN give is to offer the thought that no one NEEDS to feel trapped--that we do have choices in every situation.
Todays Reminder
I do not know what course of action is right for anyone else. I can offer only comfort and compassion, and the good...
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Dropping in to say hi and sharing the following
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I am responsible for...
from "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie
I am responsible for myself.
I am responsible for leading or not living my life.
I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being.
I am responsible for identifying an...
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Greta, this is for you
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This post is not alanon lit at all, sorry. Greta, I thought this might help you with your recent loss.
Lots of love, Trina aka Mastiff
The Rainbow Bridge Poem
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hi...
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Detach, Detach, Detach
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I get that the difference between detaching with love and just plain old not caring...and I think about it like the difference between a demand and a request. I been checking myself to be sure my boundaries are more "no thank you" than kiss off  . But here is my question....I have learned to res...
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D.E.T.A.C.H.
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D on't E ven T hink A bout C hanging Him [or Her] !
I have to keep remembering this one !  ROFL!
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wallsal55
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The Seven Wonders of The World
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Thinking: ;
1. To See
2. To Hear
3. To Touch
4. To Taste
5. &...
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Harder than I thought
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Well, we got through the first weekend back together as a family. It has been alot harder than I expected I must say. I am so happy that my husband is home and I realize that he has to continue to work his program and think about himself. I am just wondering when the hell an...
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Workshop Ideas/kits/samples
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I have been to some terrific workshops...now our group is planning a one day. They want to have a panel...but I remember some terrific work groups. Where do those ideas and supplies come from? Does world service have resources? Anything on the net? The things I am looking for divided people into group...
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picking wife up from hospital
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Tonight I pick up my wife from the hospital where she has been ungoing psych treatment for bipolar and suicide attempts. She is to go back to alcohol treatment facility this weekend for more treatment. I believe it's a 2 or 3 week stint at the facility, back for a week, then back for another...
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tooo new
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I am very new to everything. I have been reading around on the postings, so I hope I have some idea of what's going on here. I have never been to a meeting or on the net for meetings so I'll need some guidance at times.
I have been with an a for 17 years and the insanity just keeps on rolli...
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stress
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Hi,
Even with my husband living with his parents, the stress is starting to get to me.
His parents no longer are rude and nasty to me, they say they finally realize that he has a problem, and they want to fix it.
Now they stop by to check on things, bring things for the house, Tpaper, paper towels etc....
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Jeannie
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Hi First Time User (I am broken)
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Well I never thought I would ever be on one of "these sites" I am sad and angry.
A little background on me.
I am 26 year sold, I am married to a beautiful woman and we are expecting our first child, a little baby girl Abby.
My biological Father was mean and abused my Mother when I was young. I don'...
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Quotes for Today
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What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. --William Morrow
............Things to Think About
Other people can't make me feel responsible for their lives. I can turn off what I hear, look past what I se...
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I'm looking for online sponser...
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Hi,
I never had a sponser, so this is new to me. I'm not sure if this even can be done. I really don't want to leave email, since my family can read my email. I don't have long distance on the phone either. I however can type fairly quick for IM. Or I'm not sure of this priva...
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I need a sponsor
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HI everybody.
I live in Alaska and have been in the program almost a year. I really need to get a sponsor. I go to meetings regularly but am having a challenge finding any guys who be interested in sponsoring; it was suggested I try online. I am really grateful for the al-anon program but need some help w...
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Set Myself Up for Disapointment
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Yes I know better!!! I have no idea why I fell for it but I did. He drank today I guess me believing in him or his word was to much. He asked what was wrong when he woke me up from my nap to go get him and his friend some beer. I mostly avaided it and just told him that I am not going to enable his drinking. I did...
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thanks for the replies... any for this.
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D hasn't really committed to stopping and we are separated now... I told him that I needed a week to myself to clear my head and get my balance back. I asked him not to call and when I was ready I would call him. He got mad and has been making threats to see other people and stuff like that. I...
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Hubby home from treatment
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Hello friends,
It was suggested to me that I post here to get some feedback. My husband was just discharged from a 28 day treatment program called Homewood. He told me that he was getting out today (Thursday a.m.)but in fact got out on Wed. evening. It was suggested to me that this is comm...
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omg he came home on a friday!!
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So hubby stayed true to his word and came home.....I am truely happy that he kept his word.
YA
Thought I would let you all know
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Sponsorship Corner II
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This is the place for those who want sponsors and those who want to be sponsored.
Those who wish to be sponsored, please post basic information about yourself and what you want in a sponsor here. Somebody will respond.
This goes for service sponsors and sponsees too!!
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Should I let it go?
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I was introduced to this site through a friend of mine who says it has helped her deal with her problems. So i decided to give it a shot. I am the daughter of a long time alcoholic. My dad married my mom with a drinking problem she did not comprehend until after their vows were said. When my moth...
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A little duality here (long)...
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If I do not keep from using drugs like alcohol, etc. what good will I be to my recovering son or me or anyone? Thus, I beseech you to allow me to share with you what is a little more A.A. than Al-anon. Besides in the beginning the whole family got together in folks home to have their meetings, you know. Then of...
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bursting at seams
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OH WOW my Ah came home tonight (drunk) and I am reading on of my books and he says "you reading about me?" I told him no... This is about me.. he was kind of like this is about me isn't it? So I told him no that it is about me and helps me learn about living with an alcoholic and about how I am taking back what this di...
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thinking alot
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So I am working on step 4, putting the focus on me and taking a moral inventory of myself. Right now I am feeling angry. First of all I am not angry at my A I am angry at myself for letting me loose myself. I was so independant and strong willed before this. I was out going and in time I began to stay at home and do l...
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