Thank you ((((((((cdb)))))))) that was such a nice post!  You know, I believe we learn something from just about everyone we meet.  Either we are learning by something they might say, or we are learning by examining our own reaction to them and figuring out why we react that way.  Thank goodness we all are so different in our ways, for if we were all exactly the same, how well would we be able to learn then?  I enjoy our diversity here.  Listening to someone who could be very different from myself helps me to widen my own thinking and gain a broader understanding of how people can be.  Helps me to look at myself and how I am with others.  I used to be prone to "judging" others.  Being here has really helped me in that regard.  I see where I was when I first came to Alanon, how I made my own mistakes in judgment, how I had to learn at my own pace, how I STILL am learning...LOL.  It's a wonderfully humbling experience being here.  And it is also truly wonderful watching newcomers come in and start working the program and seeing the changes they make along the way, the "new" person they begin to become.  Of course that is the same for those who have been here a while too.  There are times when I do like you did with me, I pm another member who has been here longer than I to vent or ask for help in trying to look at a situation differently.  I guess it just doesn't matter how long we've been in program...we all keep learning from each other.  It's a lifetime thing.  And I like that!! 

Luv, Kis