Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

velvetpaw · velvetpaw

I went to my first al anon meeting recently. I have some very mixed feelings on whether or not I belong. I didn't grow up wiht an active drinker. I'm dating someone who is in Recovery (4 years), but wasn't involved with him while he was using. However, both my parents are children of alcoholics. My fa...

jaja · jaja

...that is, the my ' Are ultimatums wrong?' But I love you all for the response! I'm not really giving him an ultimatum - he just thinks or wants to believe that's what it is. When he's here at the house quietly watching TV, I look over at him and think 'how in the world does someone who looks so...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, I have not had a chance to post in a few days. As some of you know my "a" and I are back in therapy. One of my questions about doing this counseling was what do I do if he is still using and we are trying to learn these new skills. He has refused to refrain from drinking or smok...

missylost · missylost

Hi all, pardon me while I vent, but I do welcome any and all feedback. As most of you are aware, my A and I are evacuee's from Katrina recently relocated to Virginia. Well he had to go "home" for a week and that's fine, it's giving me time to think and re-evaluate and spend time with my HP. However, he h...

Cyn · Cyn

I've been feeling so good lately and today I just dont feel so happy. I started thinking heavily about my ex. I have been questioning everything - especially why he hasnt come apologizing to me about ruining what we had with his drug use. I am starting to doubt that he really was happ...

angel123 · angel123

TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME It's true that sometimes life is full of trying circumstances, And sometimes we must struggle For just minimal advances. Despite events that slow us down And magnify our worries, We must learn that progress is A word that seldom hurries. To try to grasp the total pict...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi All, Got this in an email, thought I'd share it. Be Thankful Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult...

Cyn · Cyn

I am on my 3rd night not taking Ambien after taking it for over a week (I hate being dependant on any kind of drug so I dont want to be taking sleeping pills for longer than necessary). I fell asleep on my own at around 11:30 - woke up at 12:30 to go to the bathroom (WAY too much cranberry juice tod...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im gonna keep posting for every new feeling or everytime i cry cause when im done typing i feeel relieved. im eating a pizza pop its so gross but i have to eat something. my a called and he is taking me to pick up my gerbils remains as she got cremated today (i know sounds sick) but i have to get the ashes. i dont...

Rinny · Rinny

I found this site a few days ago and thought it would be good to become a member. My name is Erin, I am 28. I have been married to an alcoholic for nearly 7 years. We have 2 children, boys aged 5 and 2. In between our boys we had a little girl who was stillborn at full t...

confused · confused

I guess it certainly was a duck. LOL My A is in a hospital, having threatened suicide and trying to break out of the psych unit he was taken to under protective custody. Me, well, I am here, trying to figure it all out and i cannot even figure out what to make for dinner, let alone the rest of the mess I call my l...

Picowitch · Picowitch

A Christmas Story 'Twas the night before Christmas--Old Santa was p..sed. He cussed out the elves and threw down his list. Miserable little brats, ungrateful little jerks. I have a good mind to scrap the whole works! I've busted my ass for damn near a year, Instead of "Thanks Santa"--what do I hear? Th...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a's mom never came here to talk to me but my a showed up while i was sleeping. he gave me his keys and apologized. i said whatever. he left. so im up now even though i havent slept well last night and im hungry with nothing in my house to eat. this makes me sad. my a is the cook around here i wreck everythin...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

im mailing the xmas card from canada, how many stamps do i need to put on the envelope?

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well my a's one month sobriety went down the drain last night. i knew it would. im not suprised. but he didnt go to work didnt even call his boss and will probably lose his job. i told him to leave me alone and now he's talking about suicide. one of his friends killed himself about a month ago and since then wh...

captcodee · captcodee

I can't read anybodies posts.

jaja · jaja

I am at this moment ticked off about something and my brain is stuck somewhere. I have told my A (who still "stays" at a motel) that this relationship cannot work unless he first gets support through AA or whatever. Then maybe we can start talking about our marriage stuff. I've been...

tea2 · tea2

“Letting Go” My sponsor informed me I need to focus more on letting go. I recently have been running in circles -where my focus should be. While here I was thinking I had a relapse in my recovery, due to some “stinking thinking” It’s back to the first topic that brought me to al-anon that I need...

Christy · Christy

God's Boxes I have in my hands two boxes, Which God gave me to hold. He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box, And all your joys in the gold." I heeded His words, and in the two boxes, both my joys and sorrows I stored.. But though the gold became heavier each day, The black w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

OK, if i don't get responses on my shorter shares, i totally understand if you don't want to give esh on this one....this is just MY feelings sharing in the hope that "giving this away" helps someone Hope for Today - December 16 I had a job in my alcoholic family,...

Barbara · Barbara

mine are to keep doing what Ive been doing since mid Oct when I realized I needed help: 1) AlAnon meeting on Sat morn (thanks Megan for keeping me at it). They will be starting the steps and I'm planning on doing them w/them. 2) Keep attending weekly Mass 3) Keep doing at least 30mins of physical exe...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Today's thought is: It is impossible to overemphasize the immense need humans have to be really listened to, to be taken seriously, to be understood. --Dr. Paul Tournier, M.D. We need assurance that our presence has value to the lives of those around us at home, work, and play. Our self worth...

cedarpines · cedarpines

HI Group, Serenity's gone - Has anyone seen it? ...so the s*** hit the fan in the new apt. I've been so angry, frustrated, & irritable. This feels nothing like a home. I called & left a message for the apt. manager - who knows if she'll actually get it. Then - to my g...

DaddysLilGirl · DaddysLilGirl

Good afternoon everyone. My first visit here was a couple of days ago and I have been looking forward to returning......and here I am. My father is still in the hospital, but I have spoken with him over the past couple of days and visited him today to drop off some of his personal belongings...

megan · megan

Chair needed for Sunday 7pm meeting I am unable to chair the Sunday 12/18 7pm meeting. My brother and his family are in from the Netherlands and my sister is hosting a family party that evening. I appreciate the person who is able to cover for me Thanks in advance Megan

bobump · bobump

Got this in an email. I liked a few of these.... Holiday Eating Tips 1. Avoid carrot sticks. Anyone who puts celery on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit. In fact, if you see celery, leave immediately. Go next door, where they're serving rum balls. If your vega...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Good morning roomies, I often say to the newbies here that you must not loose yourself in your A's disease. I was thinking how much I did that last year before I found this board. Last Holiday season I didn't do the things that were always a tradition for me and my family, or just for me. Last y...

Powerless · Powerless

By now, ya'll know I have not been having such a hot day (literally). We finally got a fire going in the fire place. I haven't tended a fire since I was a girl scout. I actuallu tore up my daughter's dresser for wood. (Promised to buy her a new one before she comes home). I g...

Evilynn · Evilynn

I am a bit overwhelmed. I am to go to Al-anon meetings, therapy and bipolar support groups. I feel like I am doing too much and not sure which part of me and my problems to focus on. Arrrggghhhhh!!! Anybody else going through this?

Lanchas · Lanchas

http://www.hsc.wvu.edu/som/cmed/alcohol/alcoholism/beh-role-ch.htm

Cyn · Cyn

I am glad that I have been able to laugh at it all - cause I really could be bottoming out on my floor right now. I have spent the last two months ignoring my own life and now picking up the pieces and doing something about it. The one thing I was SERIOUSLY STILL neglecting for the last month has b...

Tammy · Tammy

I feel like I am going in circles..Here I am, December 2005 and feeling the same way I did 2 years ago. My life is out of control, I moved out in September then moved back 30 days later to promises of a better tomorrow. Then, well.... You all know what happens after a few short weeks of...

jeannie024 · jeannie024

hi everyone my server is down at the moment using sons comp tonight came on to wish you all a merry christmas hope you have a wonderfull time have a wondefull and happy new year hugs and kisses your friend from scotland take care xxx

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

my a is so selfesh, insensitive and igornoant. the list goes on and on. today one of our gerbils died. i called him at work and told him and he was sad and like what do we do with the body. i have had tons of gerbils before and disposed of them in manners that just made me feel horrible. so today i brought her to a...

angel123 · angel123

1. Hope instead of desperation. 2. Faith instead of despair. 3. Courage instead of fear. 4.Peace Of Mind instead of confusion. 5.self-Respect instead of contempt. 6.Self-confidence instead of helplessness. 7.Respect Others instead of pity and contempt. 8.A Clean Conscience i...

cdb · cdb

This past week a friend of mine passed away from cancer. :( I am having company come tomorrow to stay with us from out of town. I am putting off decorating the house and getting things done for xmas. I decided that if I only have a small amount of decorations out before xmas that is fine. If the house is not as...

megan · megan

Yesterday the answer to my divorce complaint came. My husband denies everyone of my complaints. Even though they are true He has submitted a list of complaints about me. My lawyer enclosed a letter stating that we deny all of my husbands complaints (before I even got a copy of the c...

Jane Avril · Jane Avril

Over the Thanksgiving Holiday my mailbox was broken into and was not fixed until last Wednesday, Dec. 7. Meanwhile, while it was broken my parents sent me my Christmas card with $200 in cash enclosed. I never got the card. It is interesting that the reaction I typically get when I s...

Evilynn · Evilynn

I am trying to concentrate on my Bipolar since I went to my doctor's last week, it's hard to juggle the alcoholic and the bipolar at the same time. He put me on Depakote, but I won't take it because of the weight gain and hair loss. I am staying away from my A since he has been doing nothing but drinking, he eve...

Powerless · Powerless

My HP has a sense of humor. I have to believe that because the only other option is he is out to get me. I thought things couldn't get any worse today. I started the day very down. I tried to read my husband's NA book and then threw the book across the room. I was angry that I r...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I hope everyone is well. My parents are coming to visit this weekend. The kids and I have really been looking forward to it. I have been feeling like I need a dose of Mom and Dad love. Last night I ran into a problem. My Mom called to confirm the trip and she started telling me to make sure my husband wa...

pixel04 · pixel04

My father called me yesterday. He had a question about earthquakes. There have been a lot of those lately, he reminds me. Perhaps I should consider moving out of the earthquake prone zone I live in. Obviously, the earth is in some unstable state, and if it can happen somewhere else, it can happen to me...

marmare · marmare

My day yesterday was so frustrating I was in tears a couple of times, I hate my job and know I don't need this job but I do need a job. Then I tried to tell my self how selfish I was being ......questioning why am I being so ungrateful? Then my 18 yr old son called, he recently has started driving,...

sonya · sonya

I am new to this web site and have already found it very helpful. I have been to a few al-anon meetings and have decided to start working the steps. My husband is an ACoA. His brother is also currently an active addict. The big question is, is he (hubby) an alcoholic? &nb...

bobump · bobump

Yesterday in the parent meeting for my daughters therapist, my wife basically blames me for all our ills. I do my share of blaming too, but I do step up to the plate and take responsibility for at least some of it. The therapist was saying that we basically either have to work it out or get a divorc...

Cyn · Cyn

I am feeling pretty decent lately so I wanted to (while I felt good) appreciate the things I am grateful for: That I grew up with a nice roof over my head, never wanted for much of anything, went to good private schools, have my college education, have parents that will support me (however not in the way...

browneyes · browneyes

Hello Haven't heard from you guys in a while-Just wanted to say "hi" and "how's it going?" And hope all is well. Love Julie D.

lacey007 · lacey007

I am new to this site but I feel that I need some new strategies in my life to keep my sanity and I was wondering if anyone on here had any ideas. I have been in an abusive relationship which has been getting worse for the past couple of years. My husband has just been sentenced to a two month jail...

Powerless · Powerless

I am hurting, angry, resentful and depressed. We still have not bought a single gift for the kids for Christmas. They are not going to get any this year. This is so not fair to them. They are only 2, 8 and 10. My 8 year old isn't home yet, but I still wanted to get her gifts...

missylost · missylost

Hey Everyone, it's missy in Va. I just wanted to take a few minutes and thank you all for the support and help you have been giving me over the last week since I started coming to the online chats. My A is currently gone tho still driving me insane via the telephone til I finally turned it off. I hope...

browneyes · browneyes

I realized today that I really do love my husband but I cut my feelings off so completely when he is using that I don't "know" that I love him. Is that sick? It is so sad for me when he starts using that I just fall apart and then to pick myself up again I "hate" him again. This is very damagi...

confused · confused

I posted last week and said I had let go of my own program in some decieved notion that my disease was in remission...NOT Someone told me that if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it must be a duck. That there was no need to keep looking for evidence, this disease of addiction always shows it...

Cilla · Cilla

Morning ((((((((Group))))))) Was sitting down and getting ready to work on putting together a meeting plan for a December 30th meeting that I will be chairing and thought about the topics of guilt and shame... and the tools to help us shed them. I came across this "story" by Larry Harp that I j...

mon123 · mon123

I have been given a download of Jamie Olivers New cookbook, which I would like to share with everyone. I'm not good with computers however so I hope the download has worked. Mon -- Edited by mon123 at 17:12, 2005-12-14

Cyn · Cyn

15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time: Mission Impossible" theme. 12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels. ALSO _ wear bras as hats! 13 Hide in a clothing...

gardengal · gardengal

One obstacle over which many of us stumble as we attempt to battle this disease of attitudes is our "own" expectations, There is no better way to make ourselves feel victimized and helpless than by harbouring unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others, or by confusing expectations wi...

captcodee · captcodee

My dear friends in recovery; Here are some basic facts about me. 1. I have chosen to remain with the alcoholic because I beleive I have received guidance from my HP. When I do what I truly feel inside is right, things go very well for me. Even tho he is active, and I have done a few th...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey guys Hope everyone is well Now that my husband got out of jail on Monday, he has been sober(no meth)for over a week I guess. I was happy at first but he is driving me CRAZY!!!!! It is STILL ALL ABOUT HIM-He paces, he runs his mouth all day long, he wants constant attention, he is SOOO...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

this week the guilt is hitting me. i have been totally unreasonable and difficult to live with due to pms. i just cant hold anything in. im getting angry over the stupidest things and just yell. i feel horrible for my recovering a having to deal with this. he is doing well by just letting it go an...

nycbt · nycbt

My husband has been bugging me for a while now to co-sign a loan for a car and I haven't wanted to do it. I had slip an told him in 90 days when going to aa , which he forgot that part, I will co-sign, well yesterday he went out like some of you have read earier post an didn't call him. This morning when I got up he ha...

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	Do I belong? (Preview) I went to my first al anon meeting recently. I have some very mixed feelings on whether or not I belong. I didn't grow up wiht an active drinker. I'm dating someone who is in Recovery (4 years), but wasn't involved with him while he was using. However, both my parents are children of alcoholics. My fa...	velvetpaw	9	1804	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	I think I kinda phrased it wrong.... (Preview) ...that is, the my ' Are ultimatums wrong?' But I love you all for the response! I'm not really giving him an ultimatum - he just thinks or wants to believe that's what it is. When he's here at the house quietly watching TV, I look over at him and think 'how in the world does someone who looks so...	jaja	3	504	Dec 17, 2005 by abbyal
	What do i do with this? (Preview) Hello Group, I have not had a chance to post in a few days. As some of you know my "a" and I are back in therapy. One of my questions about doing this counseling was what do I do if he is still using and we are trying to learn these new skills. He has refused to refrain from drinking or smok...	twinmom2	4	520	Dec 17, 2005 by sonya
	It's My Time (Preview) Hi all, pardon me while I vent, but I do welcome any and all feedback. As most of you are aware, my A and I are evacuee's from Katrina recently relocated to Virginia. Well he had to go "home" for a week and that's fine, it's giving me time to think and re-evaluate and spend time with my HP. However, he h...	missylost	8	741	Dec 17, 2005 by sonya
	Every up must have a down (Preview) I've been feeling so good lately and today I just dont feel so happy. I started thinking heavily about my ex. I have been questioning everything - especially why he hasnt come apologizing to me about ruining what we had with his drug use. I am starting to doubt that he really was happ...	Cyn	4	661	Dec 17, 2005 by nmike
	Take it one step at a time (Preview) TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME It's true that sometimes life is full of trying circumstances, And sometimes we must struggle For just minimal advances. Despite events that slow us down And magnify our worries, We must learn that progress is A word that seldom hurries. To try to grasp the total pict...	angel123	1	706	Dec 17, 2005 by Maria123
	Be Thankfull (Preview) Hi All, Got this in an email, thought I'd share it. Be Thankful Be thankful that you don't already have everything you desire, If you did, what would there be to look forward to? Be thankful when you don't know something For it gives you the opportunity to learn. Be thankful for the difficult...	jonibaloni21	1	473	Dec 17, 2005 by toto12
	Bad dreams (Preview) I am on my 3rd night not taking Ambien after taking it for over a week (I hate being dependant on any kind of drug so I dont want to be taking sleeping pills for longer than necessary). I fell asleep on my own at around 11:30 - woke up at 12:30 to go to the bathroom (WAY too much cranberry juice tod...	Cyn	2	574	Dec 17, 2005 by megan
	gonna keep posting (Preview) im gonna keep posting for every new feeling or everytime i cry cause when im done typing i feeel relieved. im eating a pizza pop its so gross but i have to eat something. my a called and he is taking me to pick up my gerbils remains as she got cremated today (i know sounds sick) but i have to get the ashes. i dont...	notsonew1111	4	598	Dec 17, 2005 by notsonew1111
	Just Joined (Preview) I found this site a few days ago and thought it would be good to become a member. My name is Erin, I am 28. I have been married to an alcoholic for nearly 7 years. We have 2 children, boys aged 5 and 2. In between our boys we had a little girl who was stillborn at full t...	Rinny	5	575	Dec 17, 2005 by Rinny
	sooooo sad!!!! (Preview) I guess it certainly was a duck. LOL My A is in a hospital, having threatened suicide and trying to break out of the psych unit he was taken to under protective custody. Me, well, I am here, trying to figure it all out and i cannot even figure out what to make for dinner, let alone the rest of the mess I call my l...	confused	5	446	Dec 17, 2005 by Rinny
	Santa's Not coming! (Preview) A Christmas Story 'Twas the night before Christmas--Old Santa was p..sed. He cussed out the elves and threw down his list. Miserable little brats, ungrateful little jerks. I have a good mind to scrap the whole works! I've busted my ass for damn near a year, Instead of "Thanks Santa"--what do I hear? Th...	Picowitch	8	535	Dec 16, 2005 by Picowitch
	im sad (Preview) well my a's mom never came here to talk to me but my a showed up while i was sleeping. he gave me his keys and apologized. i said whatever. he left. so im up now even though i havent slept well last night and im hungry with nothing in my house to eat. this makes me sad. my a is the cook around here i wreck everythin...	notsonew1111	4	482	Dec 16, 2005 by jaja
	re: christmas request from john (Preview) im mailing the xmas card from canada, how many stamps do i need to put on the envelope?	notsonew1111	1	550	Dec 16, 2005 by shimo
	the latest (Preview) well my a's one month sobriety went down the drain last night. i knew it would. im not suprised. but he didnt go to work didnt even call his boss and will probably lose his job. i told him to leave me alone and now he's talking about suicide. one of his friends killed himself about a month ago and since then wh...	notsonew1111	1	447	Dec 16, 2005 by megan
	I can't see posts Dec 16 (Preview) I can't read anybodies posts.	captcodee	2	480	Dec 16, 2005 by captcodee
	Are ultimatums(sic?) wrong? (Preview) I am at this moment ticked off about something and my brain is stuck somewhere. I have told my A (who still "stays" at a motel) that this relationship cannot work unless he first gets support through AA or whatever. Then maybe we can start talking about our marriage stuff. I've been...	jaja	9	1175	Dec 16, 2005 by DaddysLilGirl
	Letting Go- Curious (Preview) “Letting Go” My sponsor informed me I need to focus more on letting go. I recently have been running in circles -where my focus should be. While here I was thinking I had a relapse in my recovery, due to some “stinking thinking” It’s back to the first topic that brought me to al-anon that I need...	tea2	10	706	Dec 16, 2005 by Maria123
	God Box (Preview) God's Boxes I have in my hands two boxes, Which God gave me to hold. He said, "Put all your sorrows in the black box, And all your joys in the gold." I heeded His words, and in the two boxes, both my joys and sorrows I stored.. But though the gold became heavier each day, The black w...	Christy	6	767	Dec 16, 2005 by jrtjosey
	recovery has been hell but it is worth it (Preview) OK, if i don't get responses on my shorter shares, i totally understand if you don't want to give esh on this one....this is just MY feelings sharing in the hope that "giving this away" helps someone Hope for Today - December 16 I had a job in my alcoholic family,...	rosie light shines	2	682	Dec 16, 2005 by notsonew1111
	New Years Resolutions - whats yours? (Preview) mine are to keep doing what Ive been doing since mid Oct when I realized I needed help: 1) AlAnon meeting on Sat morn (thanks Megan for keeping me at it). They will be starting the steps and I'm planning on doing them w/them. 2) Keep attending weekly Mass 3) Keep doing at least 30mins of physical exe...	Barbara	8	791	Dec 16, 2005 by Flora123
	i need to SLOW down (Preview) Today's thought is: It is impossible to overemphasize the immense need humans have to be really listened to, to be taken seriously, to be understood. --Dr. Paul Tournier, M.D. We need assurance that our presence has value to the lives of those around us at home, work, and play. Our self worth...	rosie light shines	1	691	Dec 16, 2005 by dogscribe
	Anyone Seen My Serenity? (Preview) HI Group, Serenity's gone - Has anyone seen it? ...so the s*** hit the fan in the new apt. I've been so angry, frustrated, & irritable. This feels nothing like a home. I called & left a message for the apt. manager - who knows if she'll actually get it. Then - to my g...	cedarpines	5	700	Dec 16, 2005 by cedarpines
	Already helping (Preview) Good afternoon everyone. My first visit here was a couple of days ago and I have been looking forward to returning......and here I am. My father is still in the hospital, but I have spoken with him over the past couple of days and visited him today to drop off some of his personal belongings...	DaddysLilGirl	1	473	Dec 16, 2005 by Flora123
	Chair needed for Sunday 7pm meeting (Preview) Chair needed for Sunday 7pm meeting I am unable to chair the Sunday 12/18 7pm meeting. My brother and his family are in from the Netherlands and my sister is hosting a family party that evening. I appreciate the person who is able to cover for me Thanks in advance Megan	megan	0	510	Dec 16, 2005 by megan
	Holiday tips (Preview) Got this in an email. I liked a few of these.... Holiday Eating Tips 1. Avoid carrot sticks. Anyone who puts celery on a holiday buffet table knows nothing of the Christmas spirit. In fact, if you see celery, leave immediately. Go next door, where they're serving rum balls. If your vega...	bobump	6	478	Dec 16, 2005 by tea2
	This Year (Preview) Good morning roomies, I often say to the newbies here that you must not loose yourself in your A's disease. I was thinking how much I did that last year before I found this board. Last Holiday season I didn't do the things that were always a tradition for me and my family, or just for me. Last y...	Karilynn	4	479	Dec 16, 2005 by BlueCloud
	You will never believe this!!! (Preview) By now, ya'll know I have not been having such a hot day (literally). We finally got a fire going in the fire place. I haven't tended a fire since I was a girl scout. I actuallu tore up my daughter's dresser for wood. (Promised to buy her a new one before she comes home). I g...	Powerless	6	522	Dec 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Over-analyzing (Preview) I am a bit overwhelmed. I am to go to Al-anon meetings, therapy and bipolar support groups. I feel like I am doing too much and not sure which part of me and my problems to focus on. Arrrggghhhhh!!! Anybody else going through this?	Evilynn	3	483	Dec 16, 2005 by KathyS
	Sites to check out (Preview) http://www.hsc.wvu.edu/som/cmed/alcohol/alcoholism/beh-role-ch.htm	Lanchas	1	455	Dec 16, 2005 by bobump
	God DOES have a sense of humor (Preview) I am glad that I have been able to laugh at it all - cause I really could be bottoming out on my floor right now. I have spent the last two months ignoring my own life and now picking up the pieces and doing something about it. The one thing I was SERIOUSLY STILL neglecting for the last month has b...	Cyn	4	503	Dec 16, 2005 by lin0606
	How do you know ???? (Preview) I feel like I am going in circles..Here I am, December 2005 and feeling the same way I did 2 years ago. My life is out of control, I moved out in September then moved back 30 days later to promises of a better tomorrow. Then, well.... You all know what happens after a few short weeks of...	Tammy	7	508	Dec 16, 2005 by sandie123
	hi (Preview) hi everyone my server is down at the moment using sons comp tonight came on to wish you all a merry christmas hope you have a wonderfull time have a wondefull and happy new year hugs and kisses your friend from scotland take care xxx	jeannie024	2	445	Dec 16, 2005 by cdb
	he is so ignorant (Preview) my a is so selfesh, insensitive and igornoant. the list goes on and on. today one of our gerbils died. i called him at work and told him and he was sad and like what do we do with the body. i have had tons of gerbils before and disposed of them in manners that just made me feel horrible. so today i brought her to a...	notsonew1111	6	475	Dec 16, 2005 by cdb
	Twelve rewards to the Twelve Steps (Preview) 1. Hope instead of desperation. 2. Faith instead of despair. 3. Courage instead of fear. 4.Peace Of Mind instead of confusion. 5.self-Respect instead of contempt. 6.Self-confidence instead of helplessness. 7.Respect Others instead of pity and contempt. 8.A Clean Conscience i...	angel123	3	573	Dec 16, 2005 by cdb
	For me people make my holidays :) (Preview) This past week a friend of mine passed away from cancer. :( I am having company come tomorrow to stay with us from out of town. I am putting off decorating the house and getting things done for xmas. I decided that if I only have a small amount of decorations out before xmas that is fine. If the house is not as...	cdb	9	633	Dec 16, 2005 by cedarpines
	My part in things (Preview) Yesterday the answer to my divorce complaint came. My husband denies everyone of my complaints. Even though they are true He has submitted a list of complaints about me. My lawyer enclosed a letter stating that we deny all of my husbands complaints (before I even got a copy of the c...	megan	7	494	Dec 15, 2005 by cedarpines
	My BIG Cosmic Reward (Preview) Over the Thanksgiving Holiday my mailbox was broken into and was not fixed until last Wednesday, Dec. 7. Meanwhile, while it was broken my parents sent me my Christmas card with $200 in cash enclosed. I never got the card. It is interesting that the reaction I typically get when I s...	Jane Avril	0	456	Dec 15, 2005 by Jane Avril
	I haven't been keeping up (Preview) I am trying to concentrate on my Bipolar since I went to my doctor's last week, it's hard to juggle the alcoholic and the bipolar at the same time. He put me on Depakote, but I won't take it because of the weight gain and hair loss. I am staying away from my A since he has been doing nothing but drinking, he eve...	Evilynn	5	483	Dec 15, 2005 by membee
	My HP has a sense of humor (Preview) My HP has a sense of humor. I have to believe that because the only other option is he is out to get me. I thought things couldn't get any worse today. I started the day very down. I tried to read my husband's NA book and then threw the book across the room. I was angry that I r...	Powerless	6	479	Dec 15, 2005 by jaja
	A Lazy Drunk? (Preview) Hi, I hope everyone is well. My parents are coming to visit this weekend. The kids and I have really been looking forward to it. I have been feeling like I need a dose of Mom and Dad love. Last night I ran into a problem. My Mom called to confirm the trip and she started telling me to make sure my husband wa...	Jeannie	5	674	Dec 15, 2005 by tea2
	worry by association (Preview) My father called me yesterday. He had a question about earthquakes. There have been a lot of those lately, he reminds me. Perhaps I should consider moving out of the earthquake prone zone I live in. Obviously, the earth is in some unstable state, and if it can happen somewhere else, it can happen to me...	pixel04	3	556	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	hmmmmm? (Preview) My day yesterday was so frustrating I was in tears a couple of times, I hate my job and know I don't need this job but I do need a job. Then I tried to tell my self how selfish I was being ......questioning why am I being so ungrateful? Then my 18 yr old son called, he recently has started driving,...	marmare	3	463	Dec 15, 2005 by leo
	Progressive Disease (Preview) I am new to this web site and have already found it very helpful. I have been to a few al-anon meetings and have decided to start working the steps. My husband is an ACoA. His brother is also currently an active addict. The big question is, is he (hubby) an alcoholic? &nb...	sonya	5	524	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	I'm kind of surprised at how I felt. (Preview) Yesterday in the parent meeting for my daughters therapist, my wife basically blames me for all our ills. I do my share of blaming too, but I do step up to the plate and take responsibility for at least some of it. The therapist was saying that we basically either have to work it out or get a divorc...	bobump	5	507	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Gratitude List (Preview) I am feeling pretty decent lately so I wanted to (while I felt good) appreciate the things I am grateful for: That I grew up with a nice roof over my head, never wanted for much of anything, went to good private schools, have my college education, have parents that will support me (however not in the way...	Cyn	3	458	Dec 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Dolphin(Mandy), Karilynn, And Kim (Preview) Hello Haven't heard from you guys in a while-Just wanted to say "hi" and "how's it going?" And hope all is well. Love Julie D.	browneyes	1	528	Dec 15, 2005 by Kim
	I feel lost - can anyone help? (Preview) I am new to this site but I feel that I need some new strategies in my life to keep my sanity and I was wondering if anyone on here had any ideas. I have been in an abusive relationship which has been getting worse for the past couple of years. My husband has just been sentenced to a two month jail...	lacey007	5	498	Dec 15, 2005 by lacey007
	I am really hurting today (Preview) I am hurting, angry, resentful and depressed. We still have not bought a single gift for the kids for Christmas. They are not going to get any this year. This is so not fair to them. They are only 2, 8 and 10. My 8 year old isn't home yet, but I still wanted to get her gifts...	Powerless	9	474	Dec 15, 2005 by Cyn
	A NEWBIES THANKS (Preview) Hey Everyone, it's missy in Va. I just wanted to take a few minutes and thank you all for the support and help you have been giving me over the last week since I started coming to the online chats. My A is currently gone tho still driving me insane via the telephone til I finally turned it off. I hope...	missylost	2	488	Dec 15, 2005 by Cyn
	Thinking too much (Preview) I realized today that I really do love my husband but I cut my feelings off so completely when he is using that I don't "know" that I love him. Is that sick? It is so sad for me when he starts using that I just fall apart and then to pick myself up again I "hate" him again. This is very damagi...	browneyes	3	510	Dec 15, 2005 by sonya
	If it walks like a duck... (Preview) I posted last week and said I had let go of my own program in some decieved notion that my disease was in remission...NOT Someone told me that if it walks like a duck and talks like a duck then it must be a duck. That there was no need to keep looking for evidence, this disease of addiction always shows it...	confused	7	555	Dec 15, 2005 by jaja
	Leaving the City of Regret (Preview) Morning ((((((((Group))))))) Was sitting down and getting ready to work on putting together a meeting plan for a December 30th meeting that I will be chairing and thought about the topics of guilt and shame... and the tools to help us shed them. I came across this "story" by Larry Harp that I j...	Cilla	3	712	Dec 15, 2005 by Cilla
	Merry Christmas (Preview) I have been given a download of Jamie Olivers New cookbook, which I would like to share with everyone. I'm not good with computers however so I hope the download has worked. Mon -- Edited by mon123 at 17:12, 2005-12-14	mon123	2	473	Dec 15, 2005 by bobump
	Trying to post this again... (Preview) 15 Things to do at Wal-Mart while your spouse/partner is taking their sweet time: Mission Impossible" theme. *12 In the auto department, practice your "Madonna look" using different size funnels.* ALSO _ wear bras as hats! 13 Hide in a clothing...	Cyn	2	452	Dec 15, 2005 by nycbt
	EXPECTATIONS & HOLIDAYS (Preview) One obstacle over which many of us stumble as we attempt to battle this disease of attitudes is our "own" expectations, There is no better way to make ourselves feel victimized and helpless than by harbouring unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others, or by confusing expectations wi...	gardengal	4	671	Dec 15, 2005 by Barbara
	Why I remain with an active alcoholic/addict (Preview) My dear friends in recovery; Here are some basic facts about me. 1. I have chosen to remain with the alcoholic because I beleive I have received guidance from my HP. When I do what I truly feel inside is right, things go very well for me. Even tho he is active, and I have done a few th...	captcodee	4	589	Dec 15, 2005 by Barbara
	What is he doing??? (Preview) Hey guys Hope everyone is well Now that my husband got out of jail on Monday, he has been sober(no meth)for over a week I guess. I was happy at first but he is driving me CRAZY!!!!! It is STILL ALL ABOUT HIM-He paces, he runs his mouth all day long, he wants constant attention, he is SOOO...	browneyes	3	535	Dec 15, 2005 by abbyal
	unreasonable-women's issues (Preview) this week the guilt is hitting me. i have been totally unreasonable and difficult to live with due to pms. i just cant hold anything in. im getting angry over the stupidest things and just yell. i feel horrible for my recovering a having to deal with this. he is doing well by just letting it go an...	notsonew1111	8	590	Dec 15, 2005 by leo
	got caught (Preview) My husband has been bugging me for a while now to co-sign a loan for a car and I haven't wanted to do it. I had slip an told him in 90 days when going to aa , which he forgot that part, I will co-sign, well yesterday he went out like some of you have read earier post an didn't call him. This morning when I got up he ha...	nycbt	9	673	Dec 15, 2005 by leo
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