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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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Making amends to my spouse seemed an inpossible task.I couldn't find the humility or the courage.This artice helped me to change my thinking:
I love a man,he is a different kind of man than most,He is a special man.
Most people do not understand,because he is one of many that are the so called
weakling of the world.He is sometimes loving and gentle,other times hateful and violent,
But so am I, He is sometimes generous and thoughtful,other times selfish and thoughtless,
But so am I. He is sometimes intelligent and wise,other times oblivion,But so am I.He is sometimes strong and healthy,other times weak and shaky,But so am I. AM I so perfect? Yet he loves me.I love this man for all his assets and liabilities.I love this man for what he is,not for what I would like him to be.Some of his own kind say he will never stop drinking and that I should leave him.But I have much invested that I am willing to gamble.I have faith in this man and his higher power.If God loves him eough to allow him to suffer longer.Then who am I not to love him?God has seen to it that there is a way out when he is ready,so why shouldn't I be patient a little longer?My life can be what I make it.In the meantime,with all the help of my higher power,it can be a reasonably happy and manageable one.(((Fellow Alanon))))Al-Announcer
This really hit home today. I have been very angry and feeling hateful toward my husband lately. I have been blaming him for everything. I have been trying to separate him for his addiction and remind myself that it is his addiction that i hate. I have been feeling quite superior, faults and all. I actually thought that I could behave any way I like and treat him however I wish and I would still be a better person than he is. the part that hit me the hardest was that God still loves him. Who am I to do any less? Who am I to judge him? "Judge not lest ye be judged"
(((((angel)))))) that's about the best way I've ever hear that put. Seen the same idea, read the same thoughts but how eloquent. Hope you don't mind but I shared it with my mother (totally annon as to its source of course!).
What a wonderful way to express your struggle with something that is so hard for ALL of us.
(((angel123))) Thank you for posting and sharing -this is very touching. I have never heard it explained quite like this. In my case I fear amends with my A will never be a possibility Many well wishes, tea2
(totally annon as to its source of course!).
