Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...

kitty · kitty

Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...

ae`` · ae``

i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...

chris52 · chris52

I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...

Barbara · Barbara

Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...

elizabeth · elizabeth

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....

Barbara · Barbara

If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.

Kimbrali · Kimbrali

Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...

elizabeth · elizabeth

12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...

tea2 · tea2

(((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...

Lea · Lea

Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...

bobump · bobump

I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...

free2bme · free2bme

I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...

chris52 · chris52

Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??

nycbt · nycbt

The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...

nycbt · nycbt

WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...

elizabeth · elizabeth

When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...

bobump · bobump

I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...

pixel04 · pixel04

i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...

nycbt · nycbt

I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...

Emafer · Emafer

I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...

Emafer · Emafer

I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...

Kim · Kim

Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...

elizabeth · elizabeth

THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...

sas · sas

Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...

flumpy · flumpy

Hi all, Just though I would drop a line to let you all know that I will no longer be comming here. It has become apparent to me that this place is one of the contributing factors of my depression, hearing all of you talk about your 'A's' with - in some cases compleate disgust, hatered and lothing. I am...

confused · confused

Today I am feeling my mind racing again and I do not seem to be able to stop it. My A is still staying at his dad's house. We speak daily and I see him frequently, he even went to some of the boy's basketball games this past weekend. He is attending his meetings, going to his after care etc. I am trying to stay af...

tea2 · tea2

Happy Birthday to our dear al-anon friend Bobump

Lots and Lots of Well Wishes

mollyann · mollyann

I am struggling with the idea of believing in a HP. I read posts where people turn things over to HP, HP speaks to them, etc. I have been working on finding a spiritual path. I pray, but it mostly feels like I am talking to myself. I use a lot of affirmations, and that makes sense to me.&nbs...

gardengal · gardengal

Rather than responding to a situation, I caught myself "reacting " to it--------just as I had before I came to alanon. My first thought was I had taken a gaint step backwards. Then I stopped I laughed when I realized what I was doing. My next thought was I had taken a giant leap forward ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i don't care if i get esh or not!! i am making my new year resolution to PRACTICE what i have learned!! and if i WRITE it enough, and SAY it enough, it will be implanted in my brain......PRACTICING all the GOOD stuff i have learned these past two...

Therese · Therese

Hi Everyone, I missed my alanon meeting due tonight so I am posting this and going to call someone tomorrow from my group. Last week the presentation was on the seventh step and the presenter said that she found that the primary character defect she became willing to let go was the fact that she...

Christy · Christy

I just gotta say I think this Board rocks!!!!! It seems that negativity seems to get so much attention, when in reality I rarely see negativity here. When it does come up, more times then not it is coming from a negative place in someone's heart and thier perception of a situation. Mostly I...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this question, or if I should post on the N/A forums....but for those of you who have some knowledge, I'll start with here. As told in other posts, my a daughter just got married and I have invited her new husband to stay with us until they get their own pl...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i went to my third f2f last night and enjoyed it. there were more people then last time when there was only three of us. i shared and i was so nervous i actually shook lol. but what made me share was the fact that what i had to say could help someone else. i also bought a book called how alanon works and i can...

Joycie · Joycie

ok well one of my friend'd mother is a drug addict, and she had just recently (like a week ago) got out of rehab she graduated and everything, and the DAY she got out, she went and did drugs and got arrested, and is now either looking at 5 years in prison or one year in jail and one year on probation... I know wh...

nycbt · nycbt

Finally my husband wanted to have sex it has been along time. I wanted to do it as well. But when it came down to it I couldn't get in to it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't discourage him. (sorry about the content.) It has been a long time since we did it. I am the one that wants to do it all the time, but he doesn't. So t...

ednaxray · ednaxray

where oh where has the step work board gone? oh where oh where can it be?

ragingchild · ragingchild

I saw my mom yesterday. It was really good. I had some pics of my wedding and a few others remade and a few copies made of them. I gave her some copies and she was really happy. She's so small and frail though, needs some weight on her bones, but other than that she's okay. I...

Barbara · Barbara

But I really want to know why chat moves soooooo slow? I mean its hard to keep going with it being that slow! I waited till the person speaking finished before I asked my question. I know I didnt put my "hand" up but wanted to know before I left. I cant hang around for that -- Edited by Barbara at 12:47, 2006...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today was such a mess. the pms monster has shown up again lol. im lacking sleep and had to move two units today. they switched spots. thats right...every patient and everything in their rooms up two floors and vice versa. everyone was a nutcase. all day i said to myself just for today i can put up with this...

Joycie · Joycie

Wasted by: Carrie Underwood This song is by Carrie Underwood, and it is on her cd "Some Hearts" I have that Cd I heard this song, and I loved it, it reminded me of my A. Another song on that Cd was "Jesus take the wheel" which about her finding her higher power, to me those to songs clicked together, so I j...

BettyJane · BettyJane

This is my first time here. Both of my parents are alcoholics. Mom, dad, brother and sister #1 live near Phoenix; sister #2 and I live near Chicago. Mom is 80, dad is 83 and very, very ill. Any time I try to talk to my 2 older sisters (I am the ...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

I listen to my heart I listen to the wind howling Blowing away my hair I know it is you Telling me that you care I feel your touch I hear your voice When all I have to do is make that one choice Just to listen to my heart I am throwing the dart...

Jule_cat21 · Jule_cat21

In my attempt to remain focused on my own issues, I’ve been thinking about feelings that have crept up on me since his alcoholism has reared its ugly head again. I understand that I’m worrisome about things I cannot control and I’m insecure. I think these things have led to poor choic...

GSDGIRL36 · GSDGIRL36

As you know my husband is in rehab. He's been ok, but today we talked about what would've happened EVENTUALLY, if he hadn't of gotten help. He acted surprised that I would've left him, although we had many many arguments prior to that and he packed up a couple of times. Now he's depressed and can't get pas...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	i guess i am ok (Preview) Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...	nycbt	4	468	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Is there hope for us? (Preview) It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...	sdisnie	5	532	Jan 14, 2006 by doxie
	Responses & Posts (loving myself) (Preview) Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...	kitty	5	703	Jan 14, 2006 by notsonew1111
	James Frey- Larry King tonight-encore show... (Preview) i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...	ae``	0	431	Jan 14, 2006 by ae``
	Learning how to pray (Preview) I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...	chris52	3	429	Jan 14, 2006 by Flora123
	Bobump says "It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids" (Preview) Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...	UncleLou	19	947	Jan 14, 2006 by Jeannie
	how do you start the subject of AlAnon with your A? (Preview) Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...	Barbara	9	474	Jan 14, 2006 by Feather
	meeting God..... (Preview) A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...	elizabeth	3	424	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Cant do it anymore....... (Preview) hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....	Rebecca	4	483	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	has anyone reserved a room for Cape convention? (Preview) If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.	Barbara	3	396	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	My problem or his? (Preview) Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...	Kimbrali	7	482	Jan 14, 2006 by debilyn
	HAPPY AND SAD AT THE SAME TIME (Preview) Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...	Lauren ashley	3	487	Jan 14, 2006 by toto12
	12 step prayers..... (Preview) 12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...	elizabeth	0	7762	Jan 14, 2006 by elizabeth
	Welcome Cruise_06 (Preview) (((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...	tea2	4	558	Jan 14, 2006 by Rebecca
	advice needed (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...	Lea	4	484	Jan 14, 2006 by bobump
	is the chatroom down? (Preview) I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob	bobump	9	409	Jan 14, 2006 by John_R
	Lost my focus and my head this morning (Preview) Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...	twinmom2	7	505	Jan 14, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny about James Frey (Preview) Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...	Jennifer	4	573	Jan 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	New Here, looking for support (Preview) I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...	free2bme	7	528	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	How to deal with him? (Preview) Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...	phoebemoonpie	7	650	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	I thought chatroom had been fixed? (Preview) Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??	chris52	0	370	Jan 13, 2006 by chris52
	some saying (Preview) The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...	nycbt	0	424	Jan 13, 2006 by nycbt
	WHERE IS EVERYONE (Preview) WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????	nycbt	1	441	Jan 13, 2006 by tea2
	i did a get job (Preview) Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...	nycbt	8	490	Jan 13, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Does anyone know? (Preview) Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...	Dolphin123	4	520	Jan 13, 2006 by Diva
	A bunch of stink think clogging my brain (Preview) Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...	Jennifer	5	507	Jan 13, 2006 by Jennifer
	Helpful Books (Preview) I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...	Lanchas	2	443	Jan 13, 2006 by doxie
	"A Million Little Pieces" - fact or fiction?? (Preview) I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...	canadianguy	8	1366	Jan 12, 2006 by Jeannie
	I will know peace when...........I learn to let go. (Preview) When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...	elizabeth	4	533	Jan 12, 2006 by sandy
	Keep it Shut Stupid ! (Preview) I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...	bobump	11	573	Jan 12, 2006 by maresie
	getting ahead of myself (Preview) i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...	pixel04	4	458	Jan 12, 2006 by mebjk
	i'll be around...just not so much (Preview) hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...	rosie light shines	13	678	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	then and now (Preview) I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...	nycbt	3	438	Jan 12, 2006 by Feather
	Restlessness (Preview) I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...	Emafer	6	501	Jan 12, 2006 by Emafer
	How Al-Anon Works (Preview) I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.	Emafer	3	475	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Trying no to give advice... (Preview) Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...	twinmom2	3	586	Jan 12, 2006 by rosie light shines
	a new update (Preview) Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...	Kim	7	521	Jan 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	The man in the glass...... (Preview) THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...	elizabeth	4	468	Jan 12, 2006 by twinmom2
	beyond codependency (Preview) Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...	sas	8	531	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Being me without you.(no offence) (Preview) Hi all, Just though I would drop a line to let you all know that I will no longer be comming here. It has become apparent to me that this place is one of the contributing factors of my depression, hearing all of you talk about your 'A's' with - in some cases compleate disgust, hatered and lothing. I am...	flumpy	11	607	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Fear - needing some ESH (Preview) Today I am feeling my mind racing again and I do not seem to be able to stop it. My A is still staying at his dad's house. We speak daily and I see him frequently, he even went to some of the boy's basketball games this past weekend. He is attending his meetings, going to his after care etc. I am trying to stay af...	confused	4	555	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	A Freinds B'day (Preview) Happy Birthday to our dear al-anon friend Bobump Lots and Lots of Well Wishes	tea2	10	571	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	believing in HP (Preview) I am struggling with the idea of believing in a HP. I read posts where people turn things over to HP, HP speaks to them, etc. I have been working on finding a spiritual path. I pray, but it mostly feels like I am talking to myself. I use a lot of affirmations, and that makes sense to me.&nbs...	mollyann	6	509	Jan 12, 2006 by toto12
	A GIANT LEAP FORWARD (Preview) Rather than responding to a situation, I caught myself "reacting " to it--------just as I had before I came to alanon. My first thought was I had taken a gaint step backwards. Then I stopped I laughed when I realized what I was doing. My next thought was I had taken a giant leap forward ...	gardengal	3	498	Jan 12, 2006 by bobump
	whatever i have 2 do to recover..i am gonna DO it!!! (Preview) i don't care if i get esh or not!! i am making my new year resolution to PRACTICE what i have learned!! and if i WRITE it enough, and SAY it enough, it will be implanted in my brain......PRACTICING all the GOOD stuff i have learned these past two...	rosie light shines	1	466	Jan 12, 2006 by just me
	step work (Preview) Hi Everyone, I missed my alanon meeting due tonight so I am posting this and going to call someone tomorrow from my group. Last week the presentation was on the seventh step and the presenter said that she found that the primary character defect she became willing to let go was the fact that she...	Therese	1	504	Jan 12, 2006 by just me
	Board Negativity? (Preview) I just gotta say I think this Board rocks!!!!! It seems that negativity seems to get so much attention, when in reality I rarely see negativity here. When it does come up, more times then not it is coming from a negative place in someone's heart and thier perception of a situation. Mostly I...	Christy	7	593	Jan 12, 2006 by gardengal
	How serious is this? (Preview) I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this question, or if I should post on the N/A forums....but for those of you who have some knowledge, I'll start with here. As told in other posts, my a daughter just got married and I have invited her new husband to stay with us until they get their own pl...	WakingUp	5	502	Jan 11, 2006 by WakingUp
	third f2f (Preview) well i went to my third f2f last night and enjoyed it. there were more people then last time when there was only three of us. i shared and i was so nervous i actually shook lol. but what made me share was the fact that what i had to say could help someone else. i also bought a book called how alanon works and i can...	notsonew1111	6	451	Jan 11, 2006 by maresie
	what do I say (Preview) ok well one of my friend'd mother is a drug addict, and she had just recently (like a week ago) got out of rehab she graduated and everything, and the DAY she got out, she went and did drugs and got arrested, and is now either looking at 5 years in prison or one year in jail and one year on probation... I know wh...	Joycie	3	578	Jan 11, 2006 by ajt62
	Hard (Preview) Finally my husband wanted to have sex it has been along time. I wanted to do it as well. But when it came down to it I couldn't get in to it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't discourage him. (sorry about the content.) It has been a long time since we did it. I am the one that wants to do it all the time, but he doesn't. So t...	nycbt	7	508	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	step work board? (Preview) where oh where has the step work board gone? oh where oh where can it be?	ednaxray	2	481	Jan 11, 2006 by angelinme908
	I saw my mom (Preview) I saw my mom yesterday. It was really good. I had some pics of my wedding and a few others remade and a few copies made of them. I gave her some copies and she was really happy. She's so small and frail though, needs some weight on her bones, but other than that she's okay. I...	ragingchild	3	454	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	ok i was in chat (Preview) But I really want to know why chat moves soooooo slow? I mean its hard to keep going with it being that slow! I waited till the person speaking finished before I asked my question. I know I didnt put my "hand" up but wanted to know before I left. I cant hang around for that -- Edited by Barbara at 12:47, 2006...	Barbara	15	1039	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	just for today (Preview) today was such a mess. the pms monster has shown up again lol. im lacking sleep and had to move two units today. they switched spots. thats right...every patient and everything in their rooms up two floors and vice versa. everyone was a nutcase. all day i said to myself just for today i can put up with this...	notsonew1111	1	467	Jan 11, 2006 by marmare
	Wasted (Preview) Wasted by: Carrie Underwood This song is by Carrie Underwood, and it is on her cd "Some Hearts" I have that Cd I heard this song, and I loved it, it reminded me of my A. Another song on that Cd was "Jesus take the wheel" which about her finding her higher power, to me those to songs clicked together, so I j...	Joycie	1	541	Jan 11, 2006 by marmare
	Newbie Needs Assistance (Preview) This is my first time here. Both of my parents are alcoholics. Mom, dad, brother and sister #1 live near Phoenix; sister #2 and I live near Chicago. Mom is 80, dad is 83 and very, very ill. Any time I try to talk to my 2 older sisters (I am the ...	BettyJane	6	591	Jan 11, 2006 by Flora123
	My most recent poem I wrote:I listen to my heart (Preview) I listen to my heart I listen to the wind howling Blowing away my hair I know it is you Telling me that you care I feel your touch I hear your voice When all I have to do is make that one choice Just to listen to my heart I am throwing the dart...	Lauren ashley	4	436	Jan 11, 2006 by Flora123
	Getting in touch with my insecurities (Preview) In my attempt to remain focused on my own issues, I’ve been thinking about feelings that have crept up on me since his alcoholism has reared its ugly head again. I understand that I’m worrisome about things I cannot control and I’m insecure. I think these things have led to poor choic...	Jule_cat21	3	474	Jan 11, 2006 by maresie
	The "Pity Pot" (Preview) As you know my husband is in rehab. He's been ok, but today we talked about what would've happened EVENTUALLY, if he hadn't of gotten help. He acted surprised that I would've left him, although we had many many arguments prior to that and he packed up a couple of times. Now he's depressed and can't get pas...	GSDGIRL36	3	4367	Jan 11, 2006 by hudsond
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