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elizabeth · elizabeth

We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. --Beyond Codependency It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy...

tea2 · tea2

This is the ongoing / reoccurring theme for me at this time, whether it be my father calling me after four months and being “sick” or my ex husband being “sick” regarding our son. I had posted a thread on the message board asking what “letting go” meant to you – I felt there was more to it, th...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...

debilyn · debilyn

HOw are ya? Yes we have pretty music going and food around. We talk about the past and tease each other. Grama is always saying something funny. Her son told her to be good, she said well I don't have much choice! lol She cannot heare or see well so we keep telling her who we are. I tell her I am Mort...

doxie · doxie

I have had it, I am through. I have been married to long to want to start over. No desire to do that. BUT, I will not give my emotions to him any longer. Only to be trampled on again and again. Gotta protect me. He needs to go through this, ok. I have no desire to be the doormat anymore. I am focusing on m...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...

kitty · kitty

Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...

ae`` · ae``

i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...

chris52 · chris52

I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...

Barbara · Barbara

Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...

elizabeth · elizabeth

A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....

Barbara · Barbara

If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.

Kimbrali · Kimbrali

Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...

elizabeth · elizabeth

12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...

tea2 · tea2

(((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...

Lea · Lea

Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...

bobump · bobump

I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...

free2bme · free2bme

I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...

phoebemoonpie · phoebemoonpie

Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...

chris52 · chris52

Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??

nycbt · nycbt

The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...

nycbt · nycbt

WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...

elizabeth · elizabeth

When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...

bobump · bobump

I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...

pixel04 · pixel04

i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...

nycbt · nycbt

I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...

Emafer · Emafer

I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...

Emafer · Emafer

I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...

Kim · Kim

Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...

elizabeth · elizabeth

THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...

sas · sas

Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...

flumpy · flumpy

Hi all, Just though I would drop a line to let you all know that I will no longer be comming here. It has become apparent to me that this place is one of the contributing factors of my depression, hearing all of you talk about your 'A's' with - in some cases compleate disgust, hatered and lothing. I am...

confused · confused

Today I am feeling my mind racing again and I do not seem to be able to stop it. My A is still staying at his dad's house. We speak daily and I see him frequently, he even went to some of the boy's basketball games this past weekend. He is attending his meetings, going to his after care etc. I am trying to stay af...

tea2 · tea2

Happy Birthday to our dear al-anon friend Bobump

Lots and Lots of Well Wishes

mollyann · mollyann

I am struggling with the idea of believing in a HP. I read posts where people turn things over to HP, HP speaks to them, etc. I have been working on finding a spiritual path. I pray, but it mostly feels like I am talking to myself. I use a lot of affirmations, and that makes sense to me.&nbs...

gardengal · gardengal

Rather than responding to a situation, I caught myself "reacting " to it--------just as I had before I came to alanon. My first thought was I had taken a gaint step backwards. Then I stopped I laughed when I realized what I was doing. My next thought was I had taken a giant leap forward ...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i don't care if i get esh or not!! i am making my new year resolution to PRACTICE what i have learned!! and if i WRITE it enough, and SAY it enough, it will be implanted in my brain......PRACTICING all the GOOD stuff i have learned these past two...

Therese · Therese

Hi Everyone, I missed my alanon meeting due tonight so I am posting this and going to call someone tomorrow from my group. Last week the presentation was on the seventh step and the presenter said that she found that the primary character defect she became willing to let go was the fact that she...

Christy · Christy

I just gotta say I think this Board rocks!!!!! It seems that negativity seems to get so much attention, when in reality I rarely see negativity here. When it does come up, more times then not it is coming from a negative place in someone's heart and thier perception of a situation. Mostly I...

WakingUp · WakingUp

I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this question, or if I should post on the N/A forums....but for those of you who have some knowledge, I'll start with here. As told in other posts, my a daughter just got married and I have invited her new husband to stay with us until they get their own pl...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

well i went to my third f2f last night and enjoyed it. there were more people then last time when there was only three of us. i shared and i was so nervous i actually shook lol. but what made me share was the fact that what i had to say could help someone else. i also bought a book called how alanon works and i can...

Joycie · Joycie

ok well one of my friend'd mother is a drug addict, and she had just recently (like a week ago) got out of rehab she graduated and everything, and the DAY she got out, she went and did drugs and got arrested, and is now either looking at 5 years in prison or one year in jail and one year on probation... I know wh...

nycbt · nycbt

Finally my husband wanted to have sex it has been along time. I wanted to do it as well. But when it came down to it I couldn't get in to it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't discourage him. (sorry about the content.) It has been a long time since we did it. I am the one that wants to do it all the time, but he doesn't. So t...

ednaxray · ednaxray

where oh where has the step work board gone? oh where oh where can it be?

ragingchild · ragingchild

I saw my mom yesterday. It was really good. I had some pics of my wedding and a few others remade and a few copies made of them. I gave her some copies and she was really happy. She's so small and frail though, needs some weight on her bones, but other than that she's okay. I...

Barbara · Barbara

But I really want to know why chat moves soooooo slow? I mean its hard to keep going with it being that slow! I waited till the person speaking finished before I asked my question. I know I didnt put my "hand" up but wanted to know before I left. I cant hang around for that -- Edited by Barbara at 12:47, 2006...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

today was such a mess. the pms monster has shown up again lol. im lacking sleep and had to move two units today. they switched spots. thats right...every patient and everything in their rooms up two floors and vice versa. everyone was a nutcase. all day i said to myself just for today i can put up with this...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	from Language of Letting Go..... (Preview) We learn some behaviors have self-defeating consequences, while others have beneficial consequences. We learn we have choices. --Beyond Codependency It is so easy to come to the defense of others. How clear it is when others are being used, controlled, manipulated, or abused. It is so easy...	elizabeth	0	581	Jan 15, 2006 by elizabeth
	Letting Go (Preview) This is the ongoing / reoccurring theme for me at this time, whether it be my father calling me after four months and being “sick” or my ex husband being “sick” regarding our son. I had posted a thread on the message board asking what “letting go” meant to you – I felt there was more to it, th...	tea2	13	859	Jan 15, 2006 by Jerry F
	things that make you go hmmmm...... (Preview) Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...	elizabeth	2	580	Jan 15, 2006 by whitie
	Whitie (Preview) HOw are ya? Yes we have pretty music going and food around. We talk about the past and tease each other. Grama is always saying something funny. Her son told her to be good, she said well I don't have much choice! lol She cannot heare or see well so we keep telling her who we are. I tell her I am Mort...	debilyn	1	526	Jan 15, 2006 by whitie
	HAD IT (Preview) I have had it, I am through. I have been married to long to want to start over. No desire to do that. BUT, I will not give my emotions to him any longer. Only to be trampled on again and again. Gotta protect me. He needs to go through this, ok. I have no desire to be the doormat anymore. I am focusing on m...	doxie	6	510	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	i guess i am ok (Preview) Yesterday my husband ask me to get chinese and I said no so he ask if he could use the car and I said no. So he keep going outside and then coming back in. Then he said he friend just stop by. His friend never leaves his house. Well any way he wanted to go with his friend some where. He end up going to the rac...	nycbt	4	550	Jan 15, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Is there hope for us? (Preview) It's so amazing when all of a sudden a whole bunch of things come together and just begin to click. Things you knew deep down but ignored, and things you would never have known if you wouldn't have discovered it in yourself because you sought it out. I've learned so much about the disease of alcoholism in...	sdisnie	5	603	Jan 14, 2006 by doxie
	Responses & Posts (loving myself) (Preview) Days go by & I sometimes don't read any posts... am I lazy or entitled to some rest? Sometimes the pain is too much to look at it, sometimes I respond with a total non-sequitor & go off in space... new to loving myself & what that means... ups & downs. &nbs...	kitty	5	805	Jan 14, 2006 by notsonew1111
	James Frey- Larry King tonight-encore show... (Preview) i just thought for anyone that might be interested...since this still seems to be a hot topic...and i know that i for one missed the interview the other night (i dont know how any other night i would have watched Larry King-maybe even twice!) they are going to reshow the intervi...	ae``	0	489	Jan 14, 2006 by ae``
	Learning how to pray (Preview) I tried to reply to a posting on the board a few days ago from Mollyann about how to pray.Typed a reply and lost the connection so it didn't send. Tried again and same thing happened. Grrrrrr.Between bad internet connections here in Turkey and being blacklisted so I cant get into chat I haven't been havi...	chris52	3	496	Jan 14, 2006 by Flora123
	Bobump says "It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids" (Preview) Something Bobump wrote in a reply really caught my eye :“It would be a whole lot easier to detach w/o the kids. With or without love.” This is something I’m really really struggling with and there seems to be no obvious answers. As some of you know I’m sober over two years and divorced against my wishes...	UncleLou	19	1061	Jan 14, 2006 by Jeannie
	how do you start the subject of AlAnon with your A? (Preview) Leave the booklets laying around? I think its time to let A know where I go on Sat mornings. I just dont want to hear "Im not an alcoholic. Why do you think you need that?" But before I take off for a weekend convention I think he should know where Im going. Years ago (12+) I attended an AA convention and he w...	Barbara	9	543	Jan 14, 2006 by Feather
	meeting God..... (Preview) A little boy wanted to meet God. He knew it was a long trip to where God lived, so he packed his suitcase with a bag of potato chips and a six-pack of root beer and started his journey. When he had gone about three blocks, he met an old woman. She was sitting in the park, just starin...	elizabeth	3	493	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Cant do it anymore....... (Preview) hi guys for the past 2 weeks... my "A" (ex-boyf.) has been in the strangest behaviour. when he got kicked out of home... barring order...and was in the homeless hostel..he asked me for help. i wouldnt let him come to my home...not anymore...so i found him a rented house just outside city centre....	Rebecca	4	547	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	has anyone reserved a room for Cape convention? (Preview) If so those who cant stay at the Sheraton, where are you staying? I know the Radisson (1.5miles away) has the same rate.	Barbara	3	467	Jan 14, 2006 by Maria123
	My problem or his? (Preview) Im so confused, and Im really looking for help here. My husband, who I adore, drinks anywhere from 9-12 beers a night, and then moves on to 1 or 2 whiskeys on ice. Its because Im not a house cleaner, and Im not an organized person, Im always running in circles. He works hard all day, to p...	Kimbrali	7	550	Jan 14, 2006 by debilyn
	HAPPY AND SAD AT THE SAME TIME (Preview) Well... Here I am on this board again...Geez I keep typing that I finally can type without looking at the keyboard. I am kinda happy but sad at the same time.I am happy because I went on a wonderful retreat this weekend...and it just so happened that it was based o the serenity prayer.I felt soo touch...	Lauren ashley	3	551	Jan 14, 2006 by toto12
	12 step prayers..... (Preview) 12 step prayers 1-Dear Lord: I admit that I am powerless over alcohol. I admit that my life is unmanageable when I try to control it. Help me this day to understand the true meaning of powerlessness. Remove from me all denial of my addiction. 2-Heavenly Father: I know in my heart that only you...	elizabeth	0	8172	Jan 14, 2006 by elizabeth
	Welcome Cruise_06 (Preview) (((Patty))) <-- these are hugs.. Welcome to MIP, al-anon, so glad you found us. Now that you are a member you can post your own topics, questions, replies etc. We don't give advice, rather we see through others what does and doesn't work for us to heal, we are all individuals. Here we sh...	tea2	4	615	Jan 14, 2006 by Rebecca
	advice needed (Preview) Hello everyone. I am new to this board and just read over some of the postings. You all seem like a pleasant and knowlegable group so I am hoping you will give me some much needed advice. My problem is quite different from the ones I am reading here. It regards a friend, not a family member. My friend is in...	Lea	4	548	Jan 14, 2006 by bobump
	is the chatroom down? (Preview) I got booted over an hour ago and then couldn't even get to the board. The step board was slow too. This is back but I still can't get into chat. Bob	bobump	9	480	Jan 14, 2006 by John_R
	Lost my focus and my head this morning (Preview) Hi Group, I feel so ashamed and mad at myself today. Last night I offerred to take my "a" down to the DMV to get a print out of what he needs to get his license back. I offerred because I'm tired of waiting for him to get it together and get this back. It has been 7 years since he has had&nb...	twinmom2	7	568	Jan 14, 2006 by Jerry F
	Funny about James Frey (Preview) Hey all, I read James Frey's book when it first came out so it's been a couple years, and I do not remember as much as I would like to in it. I do remember that I enjoyed his style of writing and the story was good, true or not. I even gave it as a gift to a friend who was going through treatment at the time...	Jennifer	4	636	Jan 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	New Here, looking for support (Preview) I've been married to an alcoholic for 20 years now. I left him the 5th year of our marriage with the understanding the only way I would come back was if he stopped drinking (9+ beers ever single night without exception), shortly before the divorce papers were filed he quit & I came back. ...	free2bme	7	584	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	How to deal with him? (Preview) Wow, do I need some serious training on how to "detatch with love." I have NO idea. My divorce might be final very soon. My husband often calls me and our daughter, too, while high. He claims he is clean. I don't want to "call him" on it anymore, and I do...	phoebemoonpie	7	718	Jan 13, 2006 by lin0606
	I thought chatroom had been fixed? (Preview) Well it's 23.40 and I haven't been able to get into the chatroom all day.....God knows I have tried!!!! Is it just that it's Friday the 13th???? or is there some other reason when i try to log in I get a message saying I have been blacklisted??? HELP JOHN................Please??	chris52	0	431	Jan 13, 2006 by chris52
	some saying (Preview) The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. By May Maloo, writier It began in mystery, and it will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful county lies in between. By Diane Ackerman, writier The greates thing to learn about life is, not to do wh...	nycbt	0	486	Jan 13, 2006 by nycbt
	WHERE IS EVERYONE (Preview) WHERE IS EVERYONE. I HAVE BEEN IN THE CHATROOM FOR OVER A HOUR AND NO ONE BEEN ON????????????????????????	nycbt	1	508	Jan 13, 2006 by tea2
	i did a get job (Preview) Yesterday my husband gives me a last minute notice that he is going to a late xmas party. I felt bummed in the begin because I couldn't go. Instead of staying upset I set up some stuff for me to do. I went to dinner and then got my nails done. After that I went to the librany and then when the librany closed i wen...	nycbt	8	557	Jan 13, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Does anyone know? (Preview) Hi all, I just got back from a f2f meeting and after the meeting was over they started talking about Dr. Phil which led to Orpah which led to James Frey and that book A Million Little Pieces. Well apparently he lied in the book. I have never read it before, but I remember someone posting about if her cou...	Dolphin123	4	590	Jan 13, 2006 by Diva
	A bunch of stink think clogging my brain (Preview) Hello everyone, Sorry to dump this all here ... fact is if I dump it here some good may come of it anywhere else will make a mess. Stinky #1 Made the appointment to put my dog to sleep on Sat, it is best for him and me. I trust HP to take care of everything. I am sad and it is draining my energy. Stinky #2 Dre...	Jennifer	5	579	Jan 13, 2006 by Jennifer
	Helpful Books (Preview) I'm 18 and both of my parents are As. Here are books that I recommend to read that I have found helpful(I haven't read all of them but I have read 3 of them front to back; I have read only a little bit of 9 of them which includes the 3 I read front to back; and 1 I haven't read at a...	Lanchas	2	524	Jan 13, 2006 by doxie
	"A Million Little Pieces" - fact or fiction?? (Preview) I'm sure I don't have the expertise to answer the above question, but I did a google search on this today, after it was the source of a post and many responses today.... Some VERY interesting things are being thrown about - the author is coming under scrutiny for embellishing certain things for '...	canadianguy	8	1486	Jan 12, 2006 by Jeannie
	I will know peace when...........I learn to let go. (Preview) When a thing has served its purpose, it will go away. Sometimes it will break. At other times, it will simply die off. Then there are those times when for no reason, it will simply fall apart. There will be tiny pieces that are missing, making it impossible to put the thing back together. When a thing no lo...	elizabeth	4	601	Jan 12, 2006 by sandy
	Keep it Shut Stupid ! (Preview) I gotta keep doing this. And I gotta remember what I think Tom said, imagine 'sick, sick, sick' acrossed her forehead. Last night my son asked her to go to his basketball game at 6:15. Her answer is, I'm tired on the weekdays, I'll try to go on the weekends. I saw the look of disappointment. He left I cl...	bobump	11	648	Jan 12, 2006 by maresie
	getting ahead of myself (Preview) i was on the phone the other night with a good friend of mine. i have had the itch to try teaching as a career, and we were talking about it. i have this itch about three or four times a year, but i have yet to act on it. as usual, i dismissed it. i actually said, out loud, to her: "i couldn't do that. my marriage is...	pixel04	4	513	Jan 12, 2006 by mebjk
	i'll be around...just not so much (Preview) hi all i feel like i am invisablel!!! i post my pain, my progress and being alone, sometimes this is the ONLY place i can "steal some hugs/comfort" i know my posts are based on the literature and may be kinda boring, but they are medicinal for me.....i have come to the real...	rosie light shines	13	745	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	then and now (Preview) I am very angry because today I found that my husband was drinnking the little bottles. My every thought is on him. I don't change his mind about going to aa because of the mood I am in. Run away from the situation. My a bring up little matters and making a big deal about it, an me getting defensive. Struggli...	nycbt	3	499	Jan 12, 2006 by Feather
	Restlessness (Preview) I'm feeling incredibly restless lately. Especially during the day. I feel like there is so much I want to do and I just can't get myself focused to do it. And then I'm beating myself up for not being more productive. And I woke up feeling so tired. I feel like I've been so tired all the time. Yet, the the thou...	Emafer	6	566	Jan 12, 2006 by Emafer
	How Al-Anon Works (Preview) I just wanted to share how much I LOVE this book. If you guys haven't read or worked with this, I just want to HIGHLY reccomend it. I've started going to a lit. meeting on this book and hearing the testemonies has been incredibly helpful to me lately.	Emafer	3	549	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Trying no to give advice... (Preview) Good Afternoon Group, A friend came to me this morning and opened up that she was having trouble in her life, with her emotions, her job, and disappointments that she has encountered in her immediate past. I really tried to just listen and not give advice because I always seem to do that with pe...	twinmom2	3	658	Jan 12, 2006 by rosie light shines
	a new update (Preview) Well, my Dad went to the doctor affiliated with Sloan-Kettering today. A more realistic outlook of this cancer is that due to the recurrence it is not curable. It can be treated with hormone therapy for a while, several years even, however, eventually the cancer will become resistant and grow. Basic...	Kim	7	585	Jan 12, 2006 by Dolphin123
	The man in the glass...... (Preview) THE MAN IN THE GLASS When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and the world makes you king for a day, just go to the mirror and look at yourself and see what That Man has to say. For it isn’t your father or mother or wife whose judgment upon you must pass. The fellow wh...	elizabeth	4	545	Jan 12, 2006 by twinmom2
	beyond codependency (Preview) Hello all! I recently read a post about the negativity dominating this board. I am new to the board and have been reading everyday and sometimes responding to posts. I have to agree with the earlier posting in that there does seem to be a lot of sadness on the board.&...	sas	8	596	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Being me without you.(no offence) (Preview) Hi all, Just though I would drop a line to let you all know that I will no longer be comming here. It has become apparent to me that this place is one of the contributing factors of my depression, hearing all of you talk about your 'A's' with - in some cases compleate disgust, hatered and lothing. I am...	flumpy	11	675	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	Fear - needing some ESH (Preview) Today I am feeling my mind racing again and I do not seem to be able to stop it. My A is still staying at his dad's house. We speak daily and I see him frequently, he even went to some of the boy's basketball games this past weekend. He is attending his meetings, going to his after care etc. I am trying to stay af...	confused	4	618	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	A Freinds B'day (Preview) Happy Birthday to our dear al-anon friend Bobump Lots and Lots of Well Wishes	tea2	10	638	Jan 12, 2006 by notsonew1111
	believing in HP (Preview) I am struggling with the idea of believing in a HP. I read posts where people turn things over to HP, HP speaks to them, etc. I have been working on finding a spiritual path. I pray, but it mostly feels like I am talking to myself. I use a lot of affirmations, and that makes sense to me.&nbs...	mollyann	6	577	Jan 12, 2006 by toto12
	A GIANT LEAP FORWARD (Preview) Rather than responding to a situation, I caught myself "reacting " to it--------just as I had before I came to alanon. My first thought was I had taken a gaint step backwards. Then I stopped I laughed when I realized what I was doing. My next thought was I had taken a giant leap forward ...	gardengal	3	571	Jan 12, 2006 by bobump
	whatever i have 2 do to recover..i am gonna DO it!!! (Preview) i don't care if i get esh or not!! i am making my new year resolution to PRACTICE what i have learned!! and if i WRITE it enough, and SAY it enough, it will be implanted in my brain......PRACTICING all the GOOD stuff i have learned these past two...	rosie light shines	1	534	Jan 12, 2006 by just me
	step work (Preview) Hi Everyone, I missed my alanon meeting due tonight so I am posting this and going to call someone tomorrow from my group. Last week the presentation was on the seventh step and the presenter said that she found that the primary character defect she became willing to let go was the fact that she...	Therese	1	575	Jan 12, 2006 by just me
	Board Negativity? (Preview) I just gotta say I think this Board rocks!!!!! It seems that negativity seems to get so much attention, when in reality I rarely see negativity here. When it does come up, more times then not it is coming from a negative place in someone's heart and thier perception of a situation. Mostly I...	Christy	7	669	Jan 12, 2006 by gardengal
	How serious is this? (Preview) I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this question, or if I should post on the N/A forums....but for those of you who have some knowledge, I'll start with here. As told in other posts, my a daughter just got married and I have invited her new husband to stay with us until they get their own pl...	WakingUp	5	575	Jan 11, 2006 by WakingUp
	third f2f (Preview) well i went to my third f2f last night and enjoyed it. there were more people then last time when there was only three of us. i shared and i was so nervous i actually shook lol. but what made me share was the fact that what i had to say could help someone else. i also bought a book called how alanon works and i can...	notsonew1111	6	517	Jan 11, 2006 by maresie
	what do I say (Preview) ok well one of my friend'd mother is a drug addict, and she had just recently (like a week ago) got out of rehab she graduated and everything, and the DAY she got out, she went and did drugs and got arrested, and is now either looking at 5 years in prison or one year in jail and one year on probation... I know wh...	Joycie	3	659	Jan 11, 2006 by ajt62
	Hard (Preview) Finally my husband wanted to have sex it has been along time. I wanted to do it as well. But when it came down to it I couldn't get in to it. I felt bad. I hope I didn't discourage him. (sorry about the content.) It has been a long time since we did it. I am the one that wants to do it all the time, but he doesn't. So t...	nycbt	7	578	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	step work board? (Preview) where oh where has the step work board gone? oh where oh where can it be?	ednaxray	2	560	Jan 11, 2006 by angelinme908
	I saw my mom (Preview) I saw my mom yesterday. It was really good. I had some pics of my wedding and a few others remade and a few copies made of them. I gave her some copies and she was really happy. She's so small and frail though, needs some weight on her bones, but other than that she's okay. I...	ragingchild	3	523	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	ok i was in chat (Preview) But I really want to know why chat moves soooooo slow? I mean its hard to keep going with it being that slow! I waited till the person speaking finished before I asked my question. I know I didnt put my "hand" up but wanted to know before I left. I cant hang around for that -- Edited by Barbara at 12:47, 2006...	Barbara	15	1148	Jan 11, 2006 by notsonew1111
	just for today (Preview) today was such a mess. the pms monster has shown up again lol. im lacking sleep and had to move two units today. they switched spots. thats right...every patient and everything in their rooms up two floors and vice versa. everyone was a nutcase. all day i said to myself just for today i can put up with this...	notsonew1111	1	531	Jan 11, 2006 by marmare
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