Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jamom · jamom

hi everyone, i'm new here but have been dealing with an AH for years now. We have 2 young kids who are in therapy and AH has just returned from his second treatment centre. we've been to 3 marriage counselors and he maintains that he owes me nothing in terms of building trust back or treating me with respe...

ling · ling

AH thinks it's not his fault it's a compulsion and he can't stop. Hes in bed drinking vodka as if there's not going to be a tomorrow. He's says hes not trying to hurt me or him. He doesn't says he cant stop its too difficult. He wont or cant stop? Which is it? A merry go round. He says he cant stop it's a compulsi...

BBDoll · BBDoll

Hello, I am a new member here at this message board. My name is BBDoll and my husband (Scott - not his real name) is an alcoholic. He is currently in rehab for the disease. Today is the 25th day and he is planned to be there for 90 days. I have yet to go to an Al-Anon meeting, but I do have plans to start on Tuesday...

sakina · sakina

It's hard not to take it personal. My AH said some things today that really hurt. The overall message was I'm the reason he uses, he would be clean except for me. I caused his relapse. He told his counselor and she agrees. And my program Al Anon/Nar Anon isn't working for me because AH doesn't see me changi...

andromeda · andromeda

Yesterday my bf caught me in a lie. I told him I was out shopping but I was really at a restaurant having a glass of wine, journaling, and eating a bowl of soup ALONE. I had been pulling away from the relationship all week because I was hurt by a condescending remark he made to me earlier in the week. I had l...

Lyne · Lyne

Changing self-destructive behavior: The writer discusses the way Alanon helps us to identify and change self-destructive behavior, by learning to pay attention to our thoughts and feelings. He recognized that procrastinating was a bad habit which caused him anxiety, and by doing things rig...

mamalioness · mamalioness

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- i apologize that I am without my Hope for Today book, so I am writing about the last paragraph from Just for Today: Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me. for...

lgnutah · lgnutah

Distressing situation.....like talking on the phone with your qualifier who is under the influence! Obviously, ending the call is an option. But what I am asking for is help when I do want to talk. I find I can do great when the conversation is in a text. I can stay calm and in control, I can pause before...

lgnutah · lgnutah

We all have to decide what is enabling, what is helping, what matters most to us and how to restore our serenity. I put an Uber app with my credit card # on my qualifiers phone. I pay the bill, no questions asked. I might be saving my qualifiers life, the life of some innocent person, but bottom line it give...

lookingup · lookingup

The C2C reading June 30 Speaks about spirituality and explains that prayer is for us, not for God as God knows what is going on with us The reading suggests that when we pray, we think" I'm going to be helped". The meaning behind our prayers comes from our hearts and not our words The reading points out t...

Lyne · Lyne

I'm really having a struggle and I guess I have slid back a bit. I'm holding onto anger and disappointment towards my A since Monday. I know better and have the tools, but I can't always cope as well as I can or should or could. In our therapy with an addiction counselor we discussed exactly what would h...

Overcome · Overcome

June 30, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM (starting late today)Topics: Compassion and being stuck in our program.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat clien...

RachelsMom · RachelsMom

Is Al-Anon something that would help me? My daughter is 28 and is homeless. I mean, no friends, no change of clothes, no money, begging for the necessities manipulating people homeless. It KILLS me but is nothing new as she has never had a job for long, jobs are not legit, has a criminal record in 3 states...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I haven't been on here for a long time. I guess it is because most everything is the same as it was the last time I posted.The one exception is that my marriage is improving. I guess we have both been mellowing out as my husband says. He is definitely an alcoholic so he is my qualifier. I know there are people...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The funny thing about natural consequences is I don't have to dictate how this will roll out. Boy is feeling the discomfort of his choices which pretty much sucks to be him at the moment. He burned his nose on the inside from all of the vomiting so he had that smell stay with him .. he also came to the real...

JerryF · JerryF

I had an opportunity to remember tools in my program which really helps still and for which I feel deep gratitude. The one I remembered and reused this afternoon was "What was your part in it"? The first time I was given that it ticked me off because it diffused the blame I was using and then brought it...

Freetime · Freetime

Working on Step 4, the writer was frustrated about being asked to recognize their own positive qualities. Positive qualities had not made their life unmanageable, so why bother with them? A sponsor helped the writer see that refusing to look at positive qualities is damaging to self-esteem; it all...

Iamhere · Iamhere

The reading for tomorrow in Courage to Change discusses how we learn in Al-Anon that our well-being cannot depend upon whether or not an alcoholic drinks or gets sober. The alcoholic's behavior is not a reflection of us, it's a reflection of their disease. What is a reflection of us is our own behavio...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hi everyone!!! Its been a while, with house cleaning, deep cleaning, painting, fixing up, vintage furniture finds to make my place look more like what I want.... AND its been hectic in the work place....I have been doing a LOT of steps 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 with my higher power...yes, I said Higher power...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Today's reading in Courage to Change is about sponsorship. The author shares that when they were first asked to sponsor someone, they were not sure they had anything to give. But then, they remembered that sponsoring isn't about saving anyone else, it is about being a helper, showing through action...

Sorcha · Sorcha

Hi everyone hope you are all keeping well, I haven't posted in a while. The question I want to ask is not about an alcoholic though I know now that I'm coming at it from someone who has been affected by the disease and actually so has the other person been more than likely. Also, as some of you will know the al...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 7 has been posted to the Step Work Board The link is below Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts . Here is link to the...

Connection · Connection

I would like to hear from others who are or were married to an alcoholic. What did you find the most challenging? What helped you decide to stay or go?

mamalioness · mamalioness

the 12 step prayer book goes into expectations often times I would have unrealistic expectations and end up disappointed and bitter now I ask me. Is this expectation realistic?? Doable under my capabilities?? If it is reasonable, my HP will give me the power and resources to do it the serenity pray...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for June 26 refers to the spiritual awakening which is discussed in step 12. This spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless. We have accepted and learned certain truths that we are now able to carry to others. The reading suggests that we keep ourselves o...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

UGH ... so I am going into work late today as my youngest is drunk as a skunk and stinks just as bad ... thankfully the puking is left at his friends house and not mine. His friend is more than welcome to come here ... we will be having a discussion with both boys about boundaries, drinking and drugs .. they a...

JerryF · JerryF

Been trying to get on the board for a week and so but have been told my time here has expired and I need to reregister but no allowed to reregister. Guess I will stand out in the hallway and just listen and pray. I've done that before also. I am not computer perfect...Bleah!!

joker · joker

After a lot of agonizing thinking I have decided to sell the house that my ex-alcoholic Bf and I own. He has moved 14 hours away to start a new life and I am here still at the house. I thought of everything and I am done with him and the house and I am ready to move forward with my life. I told him of my decision and...

WestMan · WestMan

I haven't posted on here for some time. For one thing just too busy with kids out of school new job, and trying to sell the house and moving. This seems to be a really low point among those points for me. I don't know if it's just been too much stress or what. But I find myself just being so thin-skinned and raw...

mamalioness · mamalioness

I thought if I separated myself from the alcoholics and drug addicts in my life, my "issues" would be in the past...I didn't realize that there was more to this disease then the yea, I dont' have to call in sick and make up excuses for a hung over ExAH, and no more cleaning up messy bathrooms because he dra...

Jayla · Jayla

If so, how do I send a private message to ask? I am on a mobile device but could get on a computer if that is required. P.S. Iâm not asking my local group bc the people currently running it have not done the steps and they ran off all of the experienced leaders with their gossip and backstabbing. So the local g...

JerryF · JerryF

I wondered if that would work....LOL

Lyne · Lyne

Character Defects: The writer speaks of becoming entirely ready for God to remove her defects of character, Step 6. She talks about the hours of wasted time focusing on self-pity. She could not grow or move forward stuck in this thinking. She says her HP removes her defects by helping her see them...

a4l · a4l

Today I am grateful for an able body and able mind. I am grateful for the coffee in my hand and the solid as a boulder coffee machine I insisted on bringing here lol. I am truly grateful for my sobriety. It's not always easy but I can say at the least I'm facing life honestly. Honesty might not count for m...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the part of tradition five that states: ...encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives. The writer and I reacted the same way when hearing this for the first time-why would I be spending my time trying to help an alcoholic? For me this r...

exiled · exiled

Like everyone, I have a long story, but I'll try to stick to what is immediately relevant. Separated from my husband 10 months ago, and came back a week ago for a "trial", a chance to practice and see if all that he has said over the last 10 months about changing is true. He is a very successful, functional...

hotrod · hotrod

he C2C reading June 23 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of learning to be honest with ourselves. The reading suggests that we do this to cultivate our spiritual growth . The reading also suggests that such honesty allows us to really look at ourselves, share these discoveries with other...

mamakat71 · mamakat71

I am learning that nothing changes if nothing changes the hard way. AH was sober for maybe a week... we went to our second marriage counseling today and he was definitely intoxicated. Of course I am hurt and disappointed. I tried to express my hurt in a calm way, but there is no calm way to communicate...

Freetime · Freetime

This page talks about blaming others for our feelings, and how the words we use are important. Talking about our feelings in a healthier way, we can express ourselves without blaming. When we can do this, we are no longer a victim. Quote: "We learn in time that it is not subjects which are controversial...

Jan2018 · Jan2018

Now I know what a trigger is. For me: an ambulance with sirens and lights flashing stopped 4-way traffic so it could make it through the intersection. And I wondered: who was inside? Whose life was hanging in the balance; who may be clinging to life; what mother (father) would be given a jolt to their...

kakr444 · kakr444

My husband has been "sober" for 12 weeks after an in-patient rehab stay. We have a vacation home that has open bottles of liquor and he was adamant about leaving it there for other people (his counselor said it was up to him). However, I have twice seen the alcohol level decreasing in the bottle and of cou...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's Courage to Change talks about meditation. Simply defined by the dictionary, it means "to think contemplatively". Contemplate is further defined as "to view thoughtfully". The writer suggests that each quiet moment found to calm the mind and think through a day is meditating. When we a...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I wanted to let you know that the investigation was closed. I chose to have another meeting with hr because more things have occurred with my boss. I'll spare you the drama. I worked my program and was true to myself in those situations. It was hard to go to hr and complain about my supervisor a second time...

lookingup · lookingup

as some of you remember some of my older posts here of my daughter and family living over seas in Okinawa Japan ,for the last 11 yrs ,are now arriving back into the states to live out the rest of sil air force , they will be living in Las Vegas,enrolling my g,son into college there,then the other 2 g,sons.wi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi mip! I'm traveling again, so today's topic is from today's hope. The author shares that the theme of letting go can apply to many aspects of life, and when we let go, we are able to enjoy the fullness that is life. When we let go of our cares and worries, we free our minds to enjoy the wonders around us. ...

joker · joker

I have not been on the board for a bit, but its now 6 months since the active alcoholic bf left the house, he insisted no one will take him out off. He was absolutely sure that none will remove him from this house he is attached to. The police removed him and he suddenly moved to another province. I am in Canad...

a4l · a4l

So, I've been stuck in a horrible dark place for a few months. It's something I have to watch out for, the old black dog, comes to visit me every so often. On Friday, without much thinking, I began to plan for a better week. So, today, being Monday where I am, I woke up at 5.30.No kids around, they rise at 6.45...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I just signed myself and my teenagers up for this conference! I am so excited, because we donât have Alateen here, so this will be their first exposure... with a bunch of other teens getting introuced the steps, traditions, sharing, speakers etc. It is only a couple hours from my home, and a friend has o...

lookingup · lookingup

ive just noticed I haven't been logging out of this room, my ? Is,,,should I be logging out every time ? with not logging out does it keep my lookingup screen name up....thank you in advance. ive got another day of planned events to do,I'm grateful to be having things to do everyday or every other day, thi...

Tude · Tude

I don't understand the chat lingo to get into the meeting. I keep getting errors and it won't allow me to sign on. I have a warning in my address bar saying the site isn't secure etc. When I add the exception to my antivirus program I still get the same message. I even tried IE and no luck. Any suggestions? Th...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for June 19 speaks about Working Step 4 . The reading suggests that this Step is a long-term undertaking because as long as we remain blind to the flaws that create so much chaos for us,we must continue to search out these defects by doing an inventory day after day trying to face our...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello Family... I Had An Al-Anon Friend Once make a Statement to me that Kinda Took me by Surprise, She Stated She Didn't know I was So "Sensitive" because I Personally had Never Seen myself this way, but over the last Couple of Years, working on my recovery, Sobriety & Spirituality... Welp She wa...

Tude · Tude

Hi everyone. We took a fishing trip and left my AF in charge. It's been over 6 months since her disappearing act while caring for our house, pets and flock..........while we were out of state. I was a good bit nervous but she got her 5 mo chip in AA and stays close to her sponsor, attends 5 meetings a week etc...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step five: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nture of our wrongs. The writer mentions how difficult this step was because of shame for the defects and shortcomings, and distrust that anyone else could accept a pers...

Lyne · Lyne

Envy: The writer discusses how we can feel resentful of people that have less troubled lives. But he discovered that he was special and actually had everything he needed. He learned to trust that HP knew what was good for him. He goes on to say that envy is a waste of time, and resentment puts wedges b...

Jerry F · Jerry F

At yesterday mornings meeting a woman issued lots of language on taking her 4th step after which I thanked her for mentioning mine. Her experiences were much like the ones I have had. We all had a bit of a laugh at how that works and then it stuck with me right up until I went to bed and to sleep. I starte...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family... I have been away for some time and Just wanted to Speak a Bit about How things have done a 180 in my Recovery World of Worlds, as Some here know I came from an Alcoholic home and Found MIP weeks after I lost my AFather to this Disease... I have 4 Siblings (All A's), and I Have many of A-Gene...

Jayla · Jayla

Hello all. Iâm hoping for your ESH once again. I recently had a situation with my bf (the one who treats me quite well but wonât tell me what his job is) that I am feeling turned around on. * My 4 year old recently said that my bf showed him a game to play with his body I found concerning. Now I know this child is n...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I feel no desire to give my STBXRAH a Father's Day card. I know from being a member, that I am under no obligation to give him one to validate him... or to validate I am a "good" person. So I just wanted to put my thoughts down in case it helps someone else. Early in our marriage, we always gave each other cards...

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	new here (Preview) hi everyone, i'm new here but have been dealing with an AH for years now. We have 2 young kids who are in therapy and AH has just returned from his second treatment centre. we've been to 3 marriage counselors and he maintains that he owes me nothing in terms of building trust back or treating me with respe...	jamom	9	469	Jul 3, 2018 by Iamhere
	he's just drunk a bottle of vodka in bed (Preview) AH thinks it's not his fault it's a compulsion and he can't stop. Hes in bed drinking vodka as if there's not going to be a tomorrow. He's says hes not trying to hurt me or him. He doesn't says he cant stop its too difficult. He wont or cant stop? Which is it? A merry go round. He says he cant stop it's a compulsi...	ling	11	583	Jul 3, 2018 by serenity47
	Loneliness While AH Is In Rehab (Preview) Hello, I am a new member here at this message board. My name is BBDoll and my husband (Scott - not his real name) is an alcoholic. He is currently in rehab for the disease. Today is the 25th day and he is planned to be there for 90 days. I have yet to go to an Al-Anon meeting, but I do have plans to start on Tuesday...	BBDoll	5	559	Jul 3, 2018 by canadianguy
	Not taking it personal (Preview) It's hard not to take it personal. My AH said some things today that really hurt. The overall message was I'm the reason he uses, he would be clean except for me. I caused his relapse. He told his counselor and she agrees. And my program Al Anon/Nar Anon isn't working for me because AH doesn't see me changi...	sakina	14	890	Jul 2, 2018 by Bo
	I lied. My relationship is in jeopardy (Preview) Yesterday my bf caught me in a lie. I told him I was out shopping but I was really at a restaurant having a glass of wine, journaling, and eating a bowl of soup ALONE. I had been pulling away from the relationship all week because I was hurt by a condescending remark he made to me earlier in the week. I had l...	andromeda	32	869	Jul 2, 2018 by Mattie
	C2C, 7/2 (Preview) Changing self-destructive behavior: The writer discusses the way Alanon helps us to identify and change self-destructive behavior, by learning to pay attention to our thoughts and feelings. He recognized that procrastinating was a bad habit which caused him anxiety, and by doing things rig...	Lyne	5	379	Jul 2, 2018 by Freetime
	A new look at the Serenity prayer---I've had to pray this (Preview)	mamalioness	6	491	Jul 1, 2018 by Bo
	Hope for Today July 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone- i apologize that I am without my Hope for Today book, so I am writing about the last paragraph from Just for Today: Just for today I will be unafraid. Especially I will not be afraid to enjoy what is beautiful, and to believe that as I give to the world, so the world will give to me. for...	yanksfan51	6	526	Jul 1, 2018 by Tude
	What tools do you use to help yourself keep calm in a distressing situation? (Preview) Distressing situation.....like talking on the phone with your qualifier who is under the influence! Obviously, ending the call is an option. But what I am asking for is help when I do want to talk. I find I can do great when the conversation is in a text. I can stay calm and in control, I can pause before...	lgnutah	7	522	Jul 1, 2018 by sakina
	Ways to help myself, my qualifier and maybe save someone else's life (Preview) We all have to decide what is enabling, what is helping, what matters most to us and how to restore our serenity. I put an Uber app with my credit card # on my qualifiers phone. I pay the bill, no questions asked. I might be saving my qualifiers life, the life of some innocent person, but bottom line it give...	lgnutah	3	2917	Jul 1, 2018 by Conflicted
	CTC June 30 (Preview) The C2C reading June 30 Speaks about spirituality and explains that prayer is for us, not for God as God knows what is going on with us The reading suggests that when we pray, we think" I'm going to be helped". The meaning behind our prayers comes from our hearts and not our words The reading points out t...	lookingup	5	405	Jun 30, 2018 by Pol
	Cant (or won't) let go (Preview) I'm really having a struggle and I guess I have slid back a bit. I'm holding onto anger and disappointment towards my A since Monday. I know better and have the tools, but I can't always cope as well as I can or should or could. In our therapy with an addiction counselor we discussed exactly what would h...	Lyne	11	638	Jun 30, 2018 by Bo
	Starting late this morning.... but we've got a meeting!! (Preview) June 30, 2018SATURDAY MORNING AL-ANON MEETING 10AM (starting late today)Topics: Compassion and being stuck in our program.The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat clien...	Overcome	0	367	Jun 30, 2018 by Overcome
	Problem child ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Is Al-Anon something that would help me? My daughter is 28 and is homeless. I mean, no friends, no change of clothes, no money, begging for the necessities manipulating people homeless. It KILLS me but is nothing new as she has never had a job for long, jobs are not legit, has a criminal record in 3 states...	RachelsMom	67	1673	Jun 30, 2018 by RachelsMom
	it has been awhile (Preview) I haven't been on here for a long time. I guess it is because most everything is the same as it was the last time I posted.The one exception is that my marriage is improving. I guess we have both been mellowing out as my husband says. He is definitely an alcoholic so he is my qualifier. I know there are people...	Hoot Nanny	8	1775	Jun 29, 2018 by wp
	Funny thing about natural consequences .. (Preview) The funny thing about natural consequences is I don't have to dictate how this will roll out. Boy is feeling the discomfort of his choices which pretty much sucks to be him at the moment. He burned his nose on the inside from all of the vomiting so he had that smell stay with him .. he also came to the real...	SerenityRUS	9	562	Jun 29, 2018 by Tude
	Tools (Preview) I had an opportunity to remember tools in my program which really helps still and for which I feel deep gratitude. The one I remembered and reused this afternoon was "What was your part in it"? The first time I was given that it ticked me off because it diffused the blame I was using and then brought it...	JerryF	11	546	Jun 29, 2018 by Jozie
	C2C - 6/29 (Preview) Working on Step 4, the writer was frustrated about being asked to recognize their own positive qualities. Positive qualities had not made their life unmanageable, so why bother with them? A sponsor helped the writer see that refusing to look at positive qualities is damaging to self-esteem; it all...	Freetime	3	412	Jun 29, 2018 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 6/28/18 (Preview) The reading for tomorrow in Courage to Change discusses how we learn in Al-Anon that our well-being cannot depend upon whether or not an alcoholic drinks or gets sober. The alcoholic's behavior is not a reflection of us, it's a reflection of their disease. What is a reflection of us is our own behavio...	Iamhere	6	516	Jun 28, 2018 by Iamhere
	can't do life w/out my HP so more changing within (Preview) Hi everyone!!! Its been a while, with house cleaning, deep cleaning, painting, fixing up, vintage furniture finds to make my place look more like what I want.... AND its been hectic in the work place....I have been doing a LOT of steps 1,2,3,4,5,6,7 with my higher power...yes, I said Higher power...	mamalioness	8	564	Jun 28, 2018 by mamalioness
	Courage to Change June 27 (Preview) Today's reading in Courage to Change is about sponsorship. The author shares that when they were first asked to sponsor someone, they were not sure they had anything to give. But then, they remembered that sponsoring isn't about saving anyone else, it is about being a helper, showing through action...	Skorpi	5	476	Jun 28, 2018 by mamalioness
	How to handle resentment towards a friend (Preview) Hi everyone hope you are all keeping well, I haven't posted in a while. The question I want to ask is not about an alcoholic though I know now that I'm coming at it from someone who has been affected by the disease and actually so has the other person been more than likely. Also, as some of you will know the al...	Sorcha	3	559	Jun 27, 2018 by sunmustshine
	Step 7 posted to the Step board (Preview) Step 7 has been posted to the Step Work Board The link is below Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Please join in and share your thoughts . Here is link to the...	hotrod	0	428	Jun 27, 2018 by hotrod
	Wanting to hear what it is like for you to be married to an alcoholic (Preview) I would like to hear from others who are or were married to an alcoholic. What did you find the most challenging? What helped you decide to stay or go?	Connection	19	3216	Jun 27, 2018 by JerryF
	The 12 step prayer book Jun 24 (Preview) the 12 step prayer book goes into expectations often times I would have unrealistic expectations and end up disappointed and bitter now I ask me. Is this expectation realistic?? Doable under my capabilities?? If it is reasonable, my HP will give me the power and resources to do it the serenity pray...	mamalioness	2	484	Jun 26, 2018 by mamalioness
	ODAT Reading 6-26-2018 (Preview) The ODAT reading for June 26 refers to the spiritual awakening which is discussed in step 12. This spiritual awakening is a realization that we are not alone and helpless. We have accepted and learned certain truths that we are now able to carry to others. The reading suggests that we keep ourselves o...	hotrod	6	448	Jun 26, 2018 by Freetime
	First teenage incident .. (Preview) UGH ... so I am going into work late today as my youngest is drunk as a skunk and stinks just as bad ... thankfully the puking is left at his friends house and not mine. His friend is more than welcome to come here ... we will be having a discussion with both boys about boundaries, drinking and drugs .. they a...	SerenityRUS	10	537	Jun 26, 2018 by Iamhere
	Need a program for the program (Preview) Been trying to get on the board for a week and so but have been told my time here has expired and I need to reregister but no allowed to reregister. Guess I will stand out in the hallway and just listen and pray. I've done that before also. I am not computer perfect...Bleah!!	JerryF	7	523	Jun 26, 2018 by JerryF
	Moving forward (Preview) After a lot of agonizing thinking I have decided to sell the house that my ex-alcoholic Bf and I own. He has moved 14 hours away to start a new life and I am here still at the house. I thought of everything and I am done with him and the house and I am ready to move forward with my life. I told him of my decision and...	joker	4	552	Jun 26, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Stuck in the mire (Preview) I haven't posted on here for some time. For one thing just too busy with kids out of school new job, and trying to sell the house and moving. This seems to be a really low point among those points for me. I don't know if it's just been too much stress or what. But I find myself just being so thin-skinned and raw...	WestMan	19	776	Jun 25, 2018 by WestMan
	It doesn't just magically go away (Preview) I thought if I separated myself from the alcoholics and drug addicts in my life, my "issues" would be in the past...I didn't realize that there was more to this disease then the yea, I dont' have to call in sick and make up excuses for a hung over ExAH, and no more cleaning up messy bathrooms because he dra...	mamalioness	2	470	Jun 25, 2018 by mamalioness
	I can ask for a sponsor from this group right? (Preview) If so, how do I send a private message to ask? I am on a mobile device but could get on a computer if that is required. P.S. Iâm not asking my local group bc the people currently running it have not done the steps and they ran off all of the experienced leaders with their gossip and backstabbing. So the local g...	Jayla	4	502	Jun 25, 2018 by DavidG
	Hah!! (Preview) I wondered if that would work....LOL	JerryF	0	433	Jun 25, 2018 by JerryF
	C2C, 6/25 (Preview) Character Defects: The writer speaks of becoming entirely ready for God to remove her defects of character, Step 6. She talks about the hours of wasted time focusing on self-pity. She could not grow or move forward stuck in this thinking. She says her HP removes her defects by helping her see them...	Lyne	7	472	Jun 25, 2018 by Tude
	Gratitude list. (Preview) Today I am grateful for an able body and able mind. I am grateful for the coffee in my hand and the solid as a boulder coffee machine I insisted on bringing here lol. I am truly grateful for my sobriety. It's not always easy but I can say at the least I'm facing life honestly. Honesty might not count for m...	a4l	10	601	Jun 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	Hope for Today June 24 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on the part of tradition five that states: ...encouraging and understanding our alcoholic relatives. The writer and I reacted the same way when hearing this for the first time-why would I be spending my time trying to help an alcoholic? For me this r...	yanksfan51	7	521	Jun 24, 2018 by Iamhere
	New to Al Anon-help me understand (Preview) Like everyone, I have a long story, but I'll try to stick to what is immediately relevant. Separated from my husband 10 months ago, and came back a week ago for a "trial", a chance to practice and see if all that he has said over the last 10 months about changing is true. He is a very successful, functional...	exiled	9	597	Jun 24, 2018 by Bo
	C2C reading 6-23 (Preview) he C2C reading June 23 speaks about the Al-Anon principle of learning to be honest with ourselves. The reading suggests that we do this to cultivate our spiritual growth . The reading also suggests that such honesty allows us to really look at ourselves, share these discoveries with other...	hotrod	6	535	Jun 23, 2018 by Iamhere
	just when you think you are getting it (Preview) I am learning that nothing changes if nothing changes the hard way. AH was sober for maybe a week... we went to our second marriage counseling today and he was definitely intoxicated. Of course I am hurt and disappointed. I tried to express my hurt in a calm way, but there is no calm way to communicate...	mamakat71	9	2652	Jun 23, 2018 by tiredtonite
	C2C - 6/22 (Preview) This page talks about blaming others for our feelings, and how the words we use are important. Talking about our feelings in a healthier way, we can express ourselves without blaming. When we can do this, we are no longer a victim. Quote: "We learn in time that it is not subjects which are controversial...	Freetime	4	550	Jun 22, 2018 by Iamhere
	Triggered- An ambulance through an intersection (Preview) Now I know what a trigger is. For me: an ambulance with sirens and lights flashing stopped 4-way traffic so it could make it through the intersection. And I wondered: who was inside? Whose life was hanging in the balance; who may be clinging to life; what mother (father) would be given a jolt to their...	Jan2018	3	2383	Jun 22, 2018 by Jan2018
	What to do if pretty sure "sober" husband is drinking (Preview) My husband has been "sober" for 12 weeks after an in-patient rehab stay. We have a vacation home that has open bottles of liquor and he was adamant about leaving it there for other people (his counselor said it was up to him). However, I have twice seen the alcohol level decreasing in the bottle and of cou...	kakr444	8	1053	Jun 21, 2018 by Mattie
	Courage to Change 6/21/18 (Preview) Today's Courage to Change talks about meditation. Simply defined by the dictionary, it means "to think contemplatively". Contemplate is further defined as "to view thoughtfully". The writer suggests that each quiet moment found to calm the mind and think through a day is meditating. When we a...	Iamhere	4	650	Jun 21, 2018 by Tude
	Latest Update in Work (Preview) I wanted to let you know that the investigation was closed. I chose to have another meeting with hr because more things have occurred with my boss. I'll spare you the drama. I worked my program and was true to myself in those situations. It was hard to go to hr and complain about my supervisor a second time...	tiredtonite	9	639	Jun 20, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Daughter in route (Preview) as some of you remember some of my older posts here of my daughter and family living over seas in Okinawa Japan ,for the last 11 yrs ,are now arriving back into the states to live out the rest of sil air force , they will be living in Las Vegas,enrolling my g,son into college there,then the other 2 g,sons.wi...	lookingup	9	2071	Jun 20, 2018 by tiredtonite
	Today's Hope June 20 (Preview) Hi mip! I'm traveling again, so today's topic is from today's hope. The author shares that the theme of letting go can apply to many aspects of life, and when we let go, we are able to enjoy the fullness that is life. When we let go of our cares and worries, we free our minds to enjoy the wonders around us. ...	Skorpi	7	2026	Jun 20, 2018 by Tude
	How time changes things (Preview) I have not been on the board for a bit, but its now 6 months since the active alcoholic bf left the house, he insisted no one will take him out off. He was absolutely sure that none will remove him from this house he is attached to. The police removed him and he suddenly moved to another province. I am in Canad...	joker	2	485	Jun 20, 2018 by sunmustshine
	One day at a time, climbing out of depression. (Preview) So, I've been stuck in a horrible dark place for a few months. It's something I have to watch out for, the old black dog, comes to visit me every so often. On Friday, without much thinking, I began to plan for a better week. So, today, being Monday where I am, I woke up at 5.30.No kids around, they rise at 6.45...	a4l	10	1839	Jun 20, 2018 by WestMan
	AA/Alanon/Alateen conference in Colorado (Preview) I just signed myself and my teenagers up for this conference! I am so excited, because we donât have Alateen here, so this will be their first exposure... with a bunch of other teens getting introuced the steps, traditions, sharing, speakers etc. It is only a couple hours from my home, and a friend has o...	oceanpine	2	2272	Jun 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	Logging out (Preview) ive just noticed I haven't been logging out of this room, my ? Is,,,should I be logging out every time ? with not logging out does it keep my lookingup screen name up....thank you in advance. ive got another day of planned events to do,I'm grateful to be having things to do everyday or every other day, thi...	lookingup	3	2205	Jun 19, 2018 by lookingup
	Chat room? (Preview) I don't understand the chat lingo to get into the meeting. I keep getting errors and it won't allow me to sign on. I have a warning in my address bar saying the site isn't secure etc. When I add the exception to my antivirus program I still get the same message. I even tried IE and no luck. Any suggestions? Th...	Tude	6	495	Jun 19, 2018 by courage101
	ODAT Reading 6-19 (Preview) The ODAT reading for June 19 speaks about Working Step 4 . The reading suggests that this Step is a long-term undertaking because as long as we remain blind to the flaws that create so much chaos for us,we must continue to search out these defects by doing an inventory day after day trying to face our...	hotrod	5	1548	Jun 19, 2018 by Iamhere
	When a Compliment Goes Bad...At First! (Preview) Hello Family... I Had An Al-Anon Friend Once make a Statement to me that Kinda Took me by Surprise, She Stated She Didn't know I was So "Sensitive" because I Personally had Never Seen myself this way, but over the last Couple of Years, working on my recovery, Sobriety & Spirituality... Welp She wa...	Jozie	6	2107	Jun 19, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
	Back from vacation and tools..... (Preview) Hi everyone. We took a fishing trip and left my AF in charge. It's been over 6 months since her disappearing act while caring for our house, pets and flock..........while we were out of state. I was a good bit nervous but she got her 5 mo chip in AA and stays close to her sponsor, attends 5 meetings a week etc...	Tude	5	1409	Jun 18, 2018 by Tude
	Hope for Today June 17 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone- Todays reading is a focus on step five: Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nture of our wrongs. The writer mentions how difficult this step was because of shame for the defects and shortcomings, and distrust that anyone else could accept a pers...	yanksfan51	5	483	Jun 18, 2018 by DavidG
	C2C, 6/18 (Preview) Envy: The writer discusses how we can feel resentful of people that have less troubled lives. But he discovered that he was special and actually had everything he needed. He learned to trust that HP knew what was good for him. He goes on to say that envy is a waste of time, and resentment puts wedges b...	Lyne	4	512	Jun 18, 2018 by mamakat71
	4th Stepped... (Preview) At yesterday mornings meeting a woman issued lots of language on taking her 4th step after which I thanked her for mentioning mine. Her experiences were much like the ones I have had. We all had a bit of a laugh at how that works and then it stuck with me right up until I went to bed and to sleep. I starte...	Jerry F	7	992	Jun 18, 2018 by Jozie
	It Works if We Work it... (Preview) Hello MIP Family... I have been away for some time and Just wanted to Speak a Bit about How things have done a 180 in my Recovery World of Worlds, as Some here know I came from an Alcoholic home and Found MIP weeks after I lost my AFather to this Disease... I have 4 Siblings (All A's), and I Have many of A-Gene...	Jozie	11	2179	Jun 18, 2018 by Tude
	Need ESH re: boundaries with children (Preview) Hello all. Iâm hoping for your ESH once again. I recently had a situation with my bf (the one who treats me quite well but wonât tell me what his job is) that I am feeling turned around on. * My 4 year old recently said that my bf showed him a game to play with his body I found concerning. Now I know this child is n...	Jayla	21	1386	Jun 18, 2018 by Tude
	Just my thoughts on Father's Day (Preview) I feel no desire to give my STBXRAH a Father's Day card. I know from being a member, that I am under no obligation to give him one to validate him... or to validate I am a "good" person. So I just wanted to put my thoughts down in case it helps someone else. Early in our marriage, we always gave each other cards...	PosiesandPuppies	12	681	Jun 17, 2018 by PosiesandPuppies
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