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lgnutah


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We all have to decide what is enabling, what is helping, what matters most to us and how to restore our serenity.

I put an Uber app with my credit card # on my qualifiers phone.  I pay the bill, no questions asked.

I might be saving my qualifiers life, the life of some innocent person, but bottom line it gives me peace.



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hotrod


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I have done similar things just because it brought me peace -I agree

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Iamhere


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I also agree and am so grateful that recovery allows us to make boundaries and decisions based on our situation. I learned 'shades of gray' thinking in recovery and it sure makes life easier than my black/white & right/wrong ways of before.

(((Hugs)))

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If that gives you peace and serenity, then it sounds like the right choice for you. The main thing is making sure you don't question things like you said, don't argue over it and keep yourself aware so that resentment doesn't set in towards your spouse for your choice.

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