Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nycbt · nycbt

A couple of Tuesday ago my husband told me he was going to the bank and he didn't come back until 6:00 am. I was so upset I was up all night. I called and text message him to come home. He didn't answer the phone. I was so upset. I had no idea where he was. When I saw him I was happy to see him but very angry as well. I w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

FATAL FLAWS IN A MATE 1. Neglecting self, including poor hygiene, not getting haircuts, not going to the doctor or dentist, etc.. 2. Don't like or love themselves. 3. Control freaks (picks out your clothes and makeup, orders for you in a restaurant, tells yo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

They teach me that many of my punishments are self-inflicted. In some way unfathomable to my human intelligence, my suffering could be the consequence of my own attitudes, actions or neglects. #######ROSIE....oh i totally agree with this...i am listening to casette tapes i made for myself...

lin0606 · lin0606

My husband is an alcoholic and crack addict, clean and sober for two years and 5 months. Lately he has been acting wierd - very quiet, distant, etc. He's away from home just now, taking a course for two weeks, and when he phones he just sounds so depressed and dead. I'm suspecting that he may be using aga...

marmare · marmare

Wanted to touch base here, still have not read the postings but will do that today or tomorrow. As I work my program I find that I have more time for me and what I want! The only regret I have is that I didn't find Alanon 15 years ago. LOL We had a pretty uneventful or not much of alcohol rel...

jmot · jmot

I think I'm writing more to vent than anything. Perhaps some insight from the group would be helpful. I'm having a hard time getting past my in laws. My husband is the A. I go to Al Anon regularly and he is currently in a 12 week health care professionals rehab. program. He seems to be getting it and i feel li...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

FREQUENCY-----INTENSITY-------- DURATION---------AWARENESS how often to i go back in the mud??/ old crap??? old behaviours??? patterns?????? this is my barometer as to "how i am progressing" FREQUENCY....for me, i notice that i "sli...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

my take on this "getting it ALL out take" Getting It All Out Let yourself have a good gripe session. From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" -- Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D. Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay t...

sg · sg

I'm dealing w/a lot of anger the past few days-which has surpised me. I've worked the Program for so long, lived w/active alcoholism w/out anger. I have taken care, I thought, of myself the best way I could...and now that my A. wants to sober up I find myself angry. It is like this dam has been open and I am a...

imsailing · imsailing

Hi Everyone, I am new to this. So far I just get on here and read the posts and cry. I am realizing how bad I need to talk to others who really understand me. Some of my friends are so great, but they just don't get it. They don't understand what I am really facing ea...

tullemars · tullemars

EGO = (Edging God Out) Taking credit for something you haven't earned. Pride = Taking credit for something you have earned. I know pride can be a double edged sword. But, I am proud Today of the way I have reacted and not reacted to the Alcoholic behaviors. We need praise when we overcome the urg...

megan · megan

They want to know how their brother is. I am honest. For what that's worth. I say I had dinner with him Wednesday and he looks terrible. He is yellow and his eyes look bad. He drinks 24/7 and is in bad shape. And I let them know that I am seeking a divorce, legal protection from what he might...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi roomies, I just wanted to ask for some prayers for my baby boy. I woke up last night at 2am to find him having trouble breathing. Went to hosptial and he is going to be their a few days till they find out whats going on. Have to leave the older kids with my A. Lets hope he does th...

nikkilou · nikkilou

thanks everyone for all your prayers. This was one of the hardest day of my life. My baby is breathing fine at this time. no tubes. Just meds to keep his airways open. It came out of the blue. One minute we were at the pool having dinner going to bed than this. I have to tell...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] Very bad news today...had housing meeting...six months wait at minimum! Also, expected funds have not come soooo will have to find place to park and sleep. I don't really want to make Gee Creek rest area to Portland commute daily (costs too much in gas and time). I may have to s...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Anger is a normal emotion and all of us feel angry every now and then. If you use it well, anger can be the fuel that drives effective and useful action. But if you use it badly, it can result in needless pain, destruction and frustration. How you express your anger is especially important if y...

UncleLou · UncleLou

I’m heading to court today to get my divorce. When I got sober 2 years ago, I thought that the worst was over and of course my marriage would improve and it would never come to this. I really wanted to work things out with my wife, but always placed my sobriety first. I have so many mixed feelings when I r...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I realize that the Alanon program is about progress not perfection. Working the steps is a process that can take years. i don't have a sponser right now, I have not gained the courage to ask someone to sponser me, probably because I do not go to FF meetings regularly. Something alwa...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" Genious is eternal patience."--Michaelangelo [Well, for me, that Genious is my Higher Power , and I am not Him/Her!] ROFL

debilyn · debilyn

(c: Well as usual I did not make myself clear. Hax had posted his case worker had said he needed m.o.s to stores for gas etc. Well i have no idea where he needs to go. i did not want to put his name on the m.o. becuz if you do not have a bank account they are impossible to cash. if you do find someon...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, I know some of you already know but I got info on a prepaid credit card. At my bank, Key, I pay $3.95 and pay the amount at the bank I want to be credited on it. I could not figure out how to do a money order if I did not know where he shops etc. This is so cool and simple. Mike Rafe 111...

bob6502 · bob6502

I was thinking earlier today about the disease of alcoholism and the people that are affected by it. Not just the alcoholics themselves, but the family and the friends of the alcoholics. The alcoholic's transformation as they succumb to the disease reflects the transformatio...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I may be disappearing for a few days, my laptop is dieing as I type, so if you don't see me don't worry. I might breajk down and actually sit at the pc if I get disperate, or steal my kids laptops when they are not looking. - josey

confused · confused

Hi, I am new to this. and scared to start. I guess i realize that I have a tremendous amount of work in front of me and the task is overwhelming. I have been coming to this site a lot lately, reading the posts, listnening, chatting etc. It brings me a bit of peace in the midst of the chaos. I suppose up unti...

eileen · eileen

I'm thinking really hard about 'letting go and letting god' and detachment and surrender today. I've only been going to meetings for about a week--both CoDA and Al-anon (one or the other almost everyday). I hear that I just need to keep coming and these concepts will sink in to my c...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

my take on this "hope for today" message....how to learn life Hope for Today - August 22 When I came to Al-Anon, I was waiting for instruction on something I badly needed. I wanted to know how to become an adult with sound values, self-respect, and s...

eileen · eileen

My mother called today. We have a very crazy relationship. She's kinda bonkers and the original reason I was refered to alateen as a kid was becasue of her. I didn't go though cause she doesn't drink much in the way of alcohol so i didn't see how I qualified. What she drinks is crazy-ahol--as in she...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello All, We have all been sharing songs that mean something to us. This song is by Kenny Chesney, and I still remember the first time I heard this song, I had to pull over because I was bawling. I pray everyday that my "A" will remember what the good stuff really is! Well me and my la...

tullemars · tullemars

It is all about me. I have to be happy. If I am thinking about my A and her problem then I am not working on what I am suppose to be working on. Sometimes you just go backwards. I need to focus on me and the kids. I have let alcoholism stop my progress. I have control of what I do and how I react. I ow...

sg · sg

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Tammy · Tammy

I am new to Al anon and have only been part of this board for a few weeks.. I have a question that I keep asking myself.. What will it take for me to walk away from my husband an alcoholic. ?? I know, it is a question that only I can answer.. I have tried, believe me and I keep coming up empty handed. ...

sg · sg

Today my A. told me he is going to quit drinking. His plan is no booze and AA meetings out of town. He asked me outright..."do you believe I will stop" and my honest answer out of my mouth was "no". I've been down this road before. Few days here and there and no drinking only to have him start. He remi...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, A few years ago, ok more like 4, I met someone in chat and her nickname was "miamama". At that time my nick was "truley", lol yes like from "Chitty Chitty Bang Bang" lol. Anyway------------ I was hoping to find her, so I am hoping she&nb...

kimmie · kimmie

As all of you know because I have been so proud of myself, that things have been going great for me lately. Even though my "A" still drinks, I have been in a suprisingly great mood and working the steps. But today I just cant seem to help but be annoyed. I guess I woke up annoyed. L...

kerry5 · kerry5

Old Farmers Advice: Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong. Life ain't about how fast you run, or how high you climb, but how well you bounce. Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance. Life is simpler when you plow around the stump. A bumble bee is considerably faster tha...

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone! I was digging through my desk at work this week and came across something I had saved a few years back. It was a little one page writing done by Robert Fulgrum. As I read it again, after so many years and so many changes in my life, it had so much meaning to me now. And it jus...

gardengal · gardengal

Detachment is one of the most valuable techniques Alanon offers those of us who seek to reclaim ourselves. Simply put, detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people. If someone we love had the flu and cancelled plans with us, most of us would underst...

sanddie · sanddie

After sharing, posts with a few of you lately in which we talked about the importance of God in our lives, I wanted to give you the lyrics to a song that is truly amazing, inspiring and basically tells it like it is-- There's only ONE truth, once we are confident with knowing that trut...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

my esh on beattie's "relationship" daily reminder...from the "language of letting go" AUGUST 20 >Honesty in Relationships > >We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships >and about the parameters of a particular relationship....

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

SORRY THIS IS SO LONG.......i got kinda "carried away"...... Hope for Today - August 20 Steps One, Two, and Three opened doors to profound and meaningful changes. The effects of being raised in an alcoholic family seemed as fixed in me as my eye co...

sanddie · sanddie

This is in response to a post that I wanted to share with everyone here..... I completely understand your concept of patience with people who are struggling, but I would like to add perception as a child of God. Yes, we all should have compassion and love as Jesus did and ye...

Maria123 · Maria123

When You Come Back To Me Again by Garth Brooks There's a ship out On the ocean At the mercy of the sea It's been tossed about Lost and broken Wandering aimlessly And God somehow You know that ship is me 'Cause there's a lighthouse In the harbor Shining faithfully Pouring its light out Across the water Fo...

lildee · lildee

This is a pretty raw post but great reminders for us all:- Hello I am your Disease..... Just a little reminder so you won't forget. I Am Your Disease I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wi...

jj · jj

I went to an AA meeting tonight(not my first) well it was a good meeting and I felt as though I was meant to be there kind of like a home. Comfort!!! well I don't know about any of you but I have found it easier for me to talk to friends from AA more openly and I always feel more grounded after I call...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I just had my aid meeting. They gave me $100 in food stamps good until Sept. 9, leads on jobs and low-cost housing. My caseworker couldn't have been nicer about it :) After Sept. 9, food stamps go up to $149. Infinite gratitude to those who have helped whether with money orders or just s...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Heard something great at a meeting today When I look at a cobblestone, I can see either a stubling block or a stepping stone. The only difference is MY perception. And sometimes that makes all the difference in the world Uncle Lou

Cessie · Cessie

After a year of living together and what I thought was almost a year sober, my A is now in inpatient treatment. Turns out he relapsed around 3 months ago and had been hiding it and lying, all along being emotionally abusive and totally shutting me out. He started drinking the week my cousin (who was my bes...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Great thought provoking posts on here!! Just wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you for sharing!! Lots of love, Kis

UncleLou · UncleLou

I was at an AA meeting today and a woman was breaking down in tears as she read "How it works" at the start of the meeting. She later shared that she had recently picked up, and expressed how defeated she felt. The miserable thoughts that these feelings of hopelessness and uselessness would never go away...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I start college on August 27, 2005. Any comments or suggestions are welcome. Lanchas

marmare · marmare

I AM A GRANDMA!!!! Miss Miya entered the world at 10:59am on August 17th. She weighed 5lbs 3 oz and is 17inches long. Mom and baby are fine. The other two kids are pretty excited to have a sister, although Kayla thinks it's her mommy's sister, not hers.....won't she be surprised whe...

kerry5 · kerry5

This was read at the Popes Memorial Service, and the priest that spoke at my mother's service read it for her. I thought you may like it if you have or are dealing with a loss :) Letter From Heaven To my dearest family and friends, some things I'd like to say But first of all, to let you kn...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i put this post on the end of my "forgiveness" post and didn't mean to....i intended to start a new post......this is pretty cool... hey you all...know what my sponser suggested to me?????? i was telling her that i felt my anger was my frustration at all the old horrible messeges he progra...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

this is my take on another board about it being "ok to angry/pissed off/unable to forgive certain evil" this was my take i have been reading and praying and of COURSE working the program, asking the SOURCE for wisdom and here is my take on the forgiveness thing On Wednesday, Dennis Ra...

kerry5 · kerry5

I found this today thought some of you might like this one too i sure did. No worries my last post on this lol . We received your letter from heaven above, and we were sure it was written with all of your love. You asked us not to be unhappy because you're out of sight, well, yo...

malissa29 · malissa29

Hi my name is malissa. I am 29 years old i have been married to my A husband for 7 years. I really enjoy this site I've been to the chat room for Al-anon very nice people in there

. I hope I can find help here to. I know I will

. I would like to start working on my steps soon but when i went in to the 12 mes...

sg · sg

I have been talking to a lot of my friends in recovery and we were talking about how sometimes we second guess our HP working in our lives..."Is it really my HP's hands that I'm seeing or is it just coincidence?" ::raises hand:: That happens to me often. Something will come up and I will get this thoug...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I have a question for my step 6 work that I need help with. It is on step 6 and I have not heard a lot of discussion about step six. What have you heard about how others worked step six? Were entirerly ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Can some of you tell me how you di...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I feel so frustrated with myself.

I posted here about leaving my husband a couple of weeks ago. I had not heard from him and needed to contact him about the utility bills that had not been paid that were in my name. It took alot for me to work up the nerve to call because I wa...

jj · jj

This was sent to me and I want to share this with all of thoes who read it. Love in recovery JJ "A Good Recipie" Fold two hands together, And express a dash of sorrow Marinate it overnight, And work on it tomorrow. Chop one grudge in tiny pieces, Add several cups of love...

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	where are you (Preview) A couple of Tuesday ago my husband told me he was going to the bank and he didn't come back until 6:00 am. I was so upset I was up all night. I called and text message him to come home. He didn't answer the phone. I was so upset. I had no idea where he was. When I saw him I was happy to see him but very angry as well. I w...	nycbt	1	665	Aug 24, 2005 by Dolphin123
	a check list for good/ bad in a mate (Preview) FATAL FLAWS IN A MATE 1. Neglecting self, including poor hygiene, not getting haircuts, not going to the doctor or dentist, etc.. 2. Don't like or love themselves. 3. Control freaks (picks out your clothes and makeup, orders for you in a restaurant, tells yo...	rosie light shines	6	973	Aug 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	quit fighting it (Preview) They teach me that many of my punishments are self-inflicted. In some way unfathomable to my human intelligence, my suffering could be the consequence of my own attitudes, actions or neglects. #######ROSIE....oh i totally agree with this...i am listening to casette tapes i made for myself...	rosie light shines	0	627	Aug 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Need to stay focused (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic and crack addict, clean and sober for two years and 5 months. Lately he has been acting wierd - very quiet, distant, etc. He's away from home just now, taking a course for two weeks, and when he phones he just sounds so depressed and dead. I'm suspecting that he may be using aga...	lin0606	2	667	Aug 24, 2005 by sg
	Monday (Preview) Wanted to touch base here, still have not read the postings but will do that today or tomorrow. As I work my program I find that I have more time for me and what I want! The only regret I have is that I didn't find Alanon 15 years ago. LOL We had a pretty uneventful or not much of alcohol rel...	marmare	2	705	Aug 24, 2005 by sg
	his family doesn't get it (Preview) I think I'm writing more to vent than anything. Perhaps some insight from the group would be helpful. I'm having a hard time getting past my in laws. My husband is the A. I go to Al Anon regularly and he is currently in a 12 week health care professionals rehab. program. He seems to be getting it and i feel li...	jmot	2	838	Aug 23, 2005 by abbyal
	how do i know i am progressing (Preview) FREQUENCY-----INTENSITY-------- DURATION---------AWARENESS how often to i go back in the mud??/ old crap??? old behaviours??? patterns?????? this is my barometer as to "how i am progressing" FREQUENCY....for me, i notice that i "sli...	rosie light shines	3	680	Aug 23, 2005 by rosie light shines
	letting it ALL hang out (Preview) my take on this "getting it ALL out take" Getting It All Out *Let yourself have a good gripe session. From: " Woman, Sex, and Addiction" -- Charlotte Davis Kasl, Ph.D.* Get it out. Go ahead. Get it all out. Once we begin recovery, we may feel like it's not okay t...	rosie light shines	3	427	Aug 23, 2005 by jemco518
	Dealing w/anger (Preview) I'm dealing w/a lot of anger the past few days-which has surpised me. I've worked the Program for so long, lived w/active alcoholism w/out anger. I have taken care, I thought, of myself the best way I could...and now that my A. wants to sober up I find myself angry. It is like this dam has been open and I am a...	sg	3	632	Aug 23, 2005 by sg
	making life decisions with an A (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new to this. So far I just get on here and read the posts and cry. I am realizing how bad I need to talk to others who really understand me. Some of my friends are so great, but they just don't get it. They don't understand what I am really facing ea...	imsailing	9	764	Aug 23, 2005 by imsailing
	EGO and Pride (Preview) EGO = (Edging God Out) Taking credit for something you haven't earned. Pride = Taking credit for something you have earned. I know pride can be a double edged sword. But, I am proud Today of the way I have reacted and not reacted to the Alcoholic behaviors. We need praise when we overcome the urg...	tullemars	1	485	Aug 23, 2005 by Dolphin123
	His family called again... sigh (Preview) They want to know how their brother is. I am honest. For what that's worth. I say I had dinner with him Wednesday and he looks terrible. He is yellow and his eyes look bad. He drinks 24/7 and is in bad shape. And I let them know that I am seeking a divorce, legal protection from what he might...	megan	7	493	Aug 23, 2005 by megan
	my baby (Preview) Hi roomies, I just wanted to ask for some prayers for my baby boy. I woke up last night at 2am to find him having trouble breathing. Went to hosptial and he is going to be their a few days till they find out whats going on. Have to leave the older kids with my A. Lets hope he does th...	nikkilou	8	453	Aug 23, 2005 by sandie123
	update on baby (Preview) thanks everyone for all your prayers. This was one of the hardest day of my life. My baby is breathing fine at this time. no tubes. Just meds to keep his airways open. It came out of the blue. One minute we were at the pool having dinner going to bed than this. I have to tell...	nikkilou	2	476	Aug 23, 2005 by cdb
	haxigonian XI (Preview) [[ room ]] Very bad news today...had housing meeting...six months wait at minimum! Also, expected funds have not come soooo will have to find place to park and sleep. I don't really want to make Gee Creek rest area to Portland commute daily (costs too much in gas and time). I may have to s...	haximon	3	560	Aug 23, 2005 by cdb
	Handling Anger (Preview) Anger is a normal emotion and all of us feel angry every now and then. If you use it well, anger can be the fuel that drives effective and useful action. But if you use it badly, it can result in needless pain, destruction and frustration. How you express your anger is especially important if y...	Peggy7	3	711	Aug 22, 2005 by Maria123
	Need help dealing with jealosy (Preview) I’m heading to court today to get my divorce. When I got sober 2 years ago, I thought that the worst was over and of course my marriage would improve and it would never come to this. I really wanted to work things out with my wife, but always placed my sobriety first. I have so many mixed feelings when I r...	UncleLou	12	909	Aug 22, 2005 by Peggy7
	Lost in confusion... (Preview) I realize that the Alanon program is about progress not perfection. Working the steps is a process that can take years. i don't have a sponser right now, I have not gained the courage to ask someone to sponser me, probably because I do not go to FF meetings regularly. Something alwa...	twinmom2	5	756	Aug 22, 2005 by Jill
	Quote for Today (Preview) " Genious is eternal patience."--Michaelangelo [Well, for me, that Genious is my Higher Power , and I am not Him/Her!] ROFL	wallsal55	1	585	Aug 22, 2005 by Lanchas
	hi megan (Preview) (c: Well as usual I did not make myself clear. Hax had posted his case worker had said he needed m.o.s to stores for gas etc. Well i have no idea where he needs to go. i did not want to put his name on the m.o. becuz if you do not have a bank account they are impossible to cash. if you do find someon...	debilyn	1	664	Aug 22, 2005 by megan
	Helping others, hax address again (Preview) Hi, I know some of you already know but I got info on a prepaid credit card. At my bank, Key, I pay $3.95 and pay the amount at the bank I want to be credited on it. I could not figure out how to do a money order if I did not know where he shops etc. This is so cool and simple. Mike Rafe 111...	debilyn	2	657	Aug 22, 2005 by Christy
	The person versus the disease. (Preview) I was thinking earlier today about the disease of alcoholism and the people that are affected by it. Not just the alcoholics themselves, but the family and the friends of the alcoholics. The alcoholic's transformation as they succumb to the disease reflects the transformatio...	bob6502	3	499	Aug 22, 2005 by FoggyMac
	disappearing (Preview) I may be disappearing for a few days, my laptop is dieing as I type, so if you don't see me don't worry. I might breajk down and actually sit at the pc if I get disperate, or steal my kids laptops when they are not looking. - josey	jrtjosey	3	530	Aug 22, 2005 by megan
	scared to start (Preview) Hi, I am new to this. and scared to start. I guess i realize that I have a tremendous amount of work in front of me and the task is overwhelming. I have been coming to this site a lot lately, reading the posts, listnening, chatting etc. It brings me a bit of peace in the midst of the chaos. I suppose up unti...	confused	6	676	Aug 22, 2005 by Peggy7
	surrender (Preview) I'm thinking really hard about 'letting go and letting god' and detachment and surrender today. I've only been going to meetings for about a week--both CoDA and Al-anon (one or the other almost everyday). I hear that I just need to keep coming and these concepts will sink in to my c...	eileen	5	920	Aug 22, 2005 by rosie light shines
	the program--my "life 101" (Preview) my take on this "hope for today" message....how to learn life Hope for Today - August 22 When I came to Al-Anon, I was waiting for instruction on something I badly needed. I wanted to know how to become an adult with sound values, self-respect, and s...	rosie light shines	0	684	Aug 22, 2005 by rosie light shines
	A phone call from MOM (Preview) My mother called today. We have a very crazy relationship. She's kinda bonkers and the original reason I was refered to alateen as a kid was becasue of her. I didn't go though cause she doesn't drink much in the way of alcohol so i didn't see how I qualified. What she drinks is crazy-ahol--as in she...	eileen	4	809	Aug 22, 2005 by kerry5
	The Good Stuff (Preview) Hello All, We have all been sharing songs that mean something to us. This song is by Kenny Chesney, and I still remember the first time I heard this song, I had to pull over because I was bawling. I pray everyday that my "A" will remember what the good stuff really is! Well me and my la...	Dolphin123	3	685	Aug 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	WOW (Preview) It is all about me. I have to be happy. If I am thinking about my A and her problem then I am not working on what I am suppose to be working on. Sometimes you just go backwards. I need to focus on me and the kids. I have let alcoholism stop my progress. I have control of what I do and how I react. I ow...	tullemars	2	699	Aug 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Please help....I need you guys today (Preview) [url=http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&action=viewTopic&commentID=3564252&subForum...	sg	23	761	Aug 22, 2005 by Barb
	What does it take to WALK away from an A you LOVE ?? (Preview) I am new to Al anon and have only been part of this board for a few weeks.. I have a question that I keep asking myself.. What will it take for me to walk away from my husband an alcoholic. ?? I know, it is a question that only I can answer.. I have tried, believe me and I keep coming up empty handed. ...	Tammy	5	855	Aug 22, 2005 by sg
	How do we offer support when we just don't believe? (Preview) Today my A. told me he is going to quit drinking. His plan is no booze and AA meetings out of town. He asked me outright..."do you believe I will stop" and my honest answer out of my mouth was "no". I've been down this road before. Few days here and there and no drinking only to have him start. He remi...	sg	5	529	Aug 22, 2005 by sg
	Miamama (Preview) Hi all, A few years ago, ok more like 4, I met someone in chat and her nickname was "miamama". At that time my nick was "truley", lol yes like from "Chitty Chitty Bang Bang" lol. Anyway------------ I was hoping to find her, so I am hoping she&nb...	Dolphin123	0	521	Aug 22, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I was doing so well too..... (Preview) As all of you know because I have been so proud of myself, that things have been going great for me lately. Even though my "A" still drinks, I have been in a suprisingly great mood and working the steps. But today I just cant seem to help but be annoyed. I guess I woke up annoyed. L...	kimmie	3	739	Aug 21, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Old Farmers Advice (Preview) Old Farmers Advice: Your fences need to be horse-high, pig-tight and bull-strong. Life ain't about how fast you run, or how high you climb, but how well you bounce. Keep skunks and bankers and lawyers at a distance. Life is simpler when you plow around the stump. A bumble bee is considerably faster tha...	kerry5	3	473	Aug 21, 2005 by bob6502
	Learned in Kindergarten (Preview) Hi Everyone! I was digging through my desk at work this week and came across something I had saved a few years back. It was a little one page writing done by Robert Fulgrum. As I read it again, after so many years and so many changes in my life, it had so much meaning to me now. And it jus...	david62	8	812	Aug 21, 2005 by bob6502
	DETACHMENT (Preview) Detachment is one of the most valuable techniques Alanon offers those of us who seek to reclaim ourselves. Simply put, detachment means to separate ourselves emotionally and spiritually from other people. If someone we love had the flu and cancelled plans with us, most of us would underst...	gardengal	2	520	Aug 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	For those who are confused about choices that I've shared with lately.... (Preview) After sharing, posts with a few of you lately in which we talked about the importance of God in our lives, I wanted to give you the lyrics to a song that is truly amazing, inspiring and basically tells it like it is-- There's only ONE truth, once we are confident with knowing that trut...	sanddie	0	672	Aug 21, 2005 by sanddie
	relationships (Preview) my esh on beattie's "relationship" daily reminder...from the "language of letting go" AUGUST 20 >Honesty in Relationships > >We can be honest and direct about our boundaries in relationships >and about the parameters of a particular relationship....	rosie light shines	0	692	Aug 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	a real fist fight with SHAME (Preview) SORRY THIS IS SO LONG.......i got kinda "carried away"...... Hope for Today - August 20 Steps One, Two, and Three opened doors to profound and meaningful changes. The effects of being raised in an alcoholic family seemed as fixed in me as my eye co...	rosie light shines	3	492	Aug 21, 2005 by rosie light shines
	earth person or child of God analogy (Preview) This is in response to a post that I wanted to share with everyone here..... I completely understand your concept of patience with people who are struggling, but I would like to add perception as a child of God. Yes, we all should have compassion and love as Jesus did and ye...	sanddie	2	719	Aug 21, 2005 by sanddie
	Songs that speak to me (Preview) When You Come Back To Me Again by Garth Brooks There's a ship out On the ocean At the mercy of the sea It's been tossed about Lost and broken Wandering aimlessly And God somehow You know that ship is me 'Cause there's a lighthouse In the harbor Shining faithfully Pouring its light out Across the water Fo...	Maria123	5	574	Aug 21, 2005 by AlaMom
	Hello I am your disease.... (Preview) This is a pretty raw post but great reminders for us all:- Hello I am your Disease..... Just a little reminder so you won't forget. I Am Your Disease I Hate meetings...I Hate higher powers...I Hate anyone who has a program. To all who come in contact with me, I wish you death and I wi...	lildee	6	1124	Aug 21, 2005 by lildee
	AA for JJ?? (Preview) I went to an AA meeting tonight(not my first) well it was a good meeting and I felt as though I was meant to be there kind of like a home. Comfort!!! well I don't know about any of you but I have found it easier for me to talk to friends from AA more openly and I always feel more grounded after I call...	jj	2	733	Aug 20, 2005 by cdb
	haxigonian X (Preview) [[ room ]] I just had my aid meeting. They gave me $100 in food stamps good until Sept. 9, leads on jobs and low-cost housing. My caseworker couldn't have been nicer about it :) After Sept. 9, food stamps go up to $149. *Infinite gratitude to those who have helped whether with money orders or just s...*	haximon	11	540	Aug 20, 2005 by wille
	Perceptions can make a huge difference (Preview) Heard something great at a meeting today When I look at a cobblestone, I can see either a stubling block or a stepping stone. The only difference is MY perception. And sometimes that makes all the difference in the world Uncle Lou	UncleLou	1	612	Aug 20, 2005 by Dolphin123
	New and overwhelmed (Preview) After a year of living together and what I thought was almost a year sober, my A is now in inpatient treatment. Turns out he relapsed around 3 months ago and had been hiding it and lying, all along being emotionally abusive and totally shutting me out. He started drinking the week my cousin (who was my bes...	Cessie	6	503	Aug 20, 2005 by confused
	Thank You (Preview) Great thought provoking posts on here!! Just wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you for sharing!! Lots of love, Kis	kismetstrand	3	434	Aug 20, 2005 by tea2
	misconceptions by 'Earth People' (Preview) I was at an AA meeting today and a woman was breaking down in tears as she read "How it works" at the start of the meeting. She later shared that she had recently picked up, and expressed how defeated she felt. The miserable thoughts that these feelings of hopelessness and uselessness would never go away...	UncleLou	7	782	Aug 20, 2005 by sanddie
	update on me (Preview) I start college on August 27, 2005. Any comments or suggestions are welcome. Lanchas	Lanchas	4	722	Aug 20, 2005 by kismetstrand
	Baby Update (Preview) I AM A GRANDMA!!!! Miss Miya entered the world at 10:59am on August 17th. She weighed 5lbs 3 oz and is 17inches long. Mom and baby are fine. The other two kids are pretty excited to have a sister, although Kayla thinks it's her mommy's sister, not hers.....won't she be surprised whe...	marmare	4	433	Aug 20, 2005 by browneyes
	Letter From Heaven (Preview) This was read at the Popes Memorial Service, and the priest that spoke at my mother's service read it for her. I thought you may like it if you have or are dealing with a loss :) Letter From Heaven To my dearest family and friends, some things I'd like to say But first of all, to let you kn...	kerry5	12	669	Aug 20, 2005 by Christy
	teaching myself how to love ME (Preview) i put this post on the end of my "forgiveness" post and didn't mean to....i intended to start a new post......this is pretty cool... hey you all...know what my sponser suggested to me?????? i was telling her that i felt my anger was my frustration at all the old horrible messeges he progra...	rosie light shines	0	633	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	sometimes its OK not to be able to forgive (Preview) this is my take on another board about it being "ok to angry/pissed off/unable to forgive certain evil" this was my take i have been reading and praying and of COURSE working the program, asking the SOURCE for wisdom and here is my take on the forgiveness thing On Wednesday, Dennis Ra...	rosie light shines	10	833	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Response to Letter from Heaven (Preview) I found this today thought some of you might like this one too i sure did. No worries my last post on this lol . We received your letter from heaven above, and we were sure it was written with all of your love. You asked us not to be unhappy because you're out of sight, well, yo...	kerry5	1	777	Aug 19, 2005 by tea2
	I am new to this (Preview) Hi my name is malissa. I am 29 years old i have been married to my A husband for 7 years. I really enjoy this site I've been to the chat room for Al-anon very nice people in there . I hope I can find help here to. I know I will . I would like to start working on my steps soon but when i went in to the 12 mes...	malissa29	6	590	Aug 19, 2005 by shimo
	Ever second guess if it really is your HP? (Preview) I have been talking to a lot of my friends in recovery and we were talking about how sometimes we second guess our HP working in our lives..."Is it really my HP's hands that I'm seeing or is it just coincidence?" ::raises hand:: That happens to me often. Something will come up and I will get this thoug...	sg	6	609	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Need help with step work (Preview) I have a question for my step 6 work that I need help with. It is on step 6 and I have not heard a lot of discussion about step six. What have you heard about how others worked step six? Were entirerly ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Can some of you tell me how you di...	jrtjosey	8	665	Aug 19, 2005 by jrtjosey
	I'm so frustrated with myself (Preview) I feel so frustrated with myself. I posted here about leaving my husband a couple of weeks ago. I had not heard from him and needed to contact him about the utility bills that had not been paid that were in my name. It took alot for me to work up the nerve to call because I wa...	JulieLynn	4	559	Aug 19, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Want to share this with all of you (Preview) This was sent to me and I want to share this with all of thoes who read it. Love in recovery JJ "A Good Recipie" Fold two hands together, And express a dash of sorrow Marinate it overnight, And work on it tomorrow. Chop one grudge in tiny pieces, Add several cups of love...	jj	3	549	Aug 19, 2005 by shimo
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