Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wille · wille

Hi all, I hope this finds everyone well. Most recently a friend commits suicide, so I want to post this phone number here, if that will fly. 1.800.suicide It is a suicide prevention hotline. It is a twentyfour hour line. Y'all take care, eh? Oceans of love, \/\/ille

sandie123 · sandie123

I've never posted before but I just don't know where to go. I fairly new to alanon and have gone to a few f2f meetings and have spent quite a few hours at the chat room. I have talked to some great people who have made me feel a lot better. But these past few days have been tough. I'm not sure if it just my fru...

hurtinginindy · hurtinginindy

Started my new job last Monday...still in training and will be for another week. Is t is going well...just some overload with new information. I am having a hard time finding extra time on this board. When I do though, it is healing, comforting, calming. I am really struggling b...

Anniegran · Anniegran

My daughter, 40, single, lived for a while with a woman friend she adored. Drinking led to conflict and eventually ejection from this woman's home. I provided a roof over Caroline's head. She is sensitive with low self-esteem. Her drinking is pretty well constant, she drives me...

debilyn · debilyn

Wait a minute, will you send me that thing private. Becuz i loved it. I too think different than most. Learned just how much when I went to college in my late 40's I saw it as a person who is more mature in her own personal journey. I saw my A big time. I know he has changed since i have seen thru the ma...

sanddie · sanddie

For those of you dealing with adult alcoholics, whether it be your adult child, spouse, parents, grandparents.... any addict who is an adult in your life in which you struggle to allow them to deal with their consequences. I feel your pain, as I have a 17-year old daughter who...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hi!! i am rosie, codependent and ACOA...below are MY shares on the "hope for today" and "days of healing" daily messeges...look for me after my ######## Hope for Today - August 28 Before Al-Anon, I had a false sense of self.Because of their diseases, my alcoholic father and my mother weren't ableto he...

tea2 · tea2

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence NCADV Cosmetic & Reconstructive Support (CRS) Program PO Box 18749, Denver, CO 80218-0749 Phone 303-839-1852 ext 102/ Fax 303-831-9351 / Website www.ncadv.org The Cosm...

tea2 · tea2

Alcoholism, A Merry-Go-Round Named Denial Someone in the Chat Room Recommended an Al-Anon literature pamphlet. I did not know I was missing this -thought I already had all the reading materials that my face to face meetings offered. At last weeks meeting I requ...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello roomies, Perspective is a wonderful thing, but at times it can be any enemy, it all depends on how it is used. When ever I come across something that moves me, I am excited to share it with the group. I am so excited to pass along what I have been given. In my haste to share something I found in my "...

sg · sg

This past July my bankruptcy was discharged...an after effect of something I had to do when I left my ex. For 7 yrs I have been trying to rebuild my credit but it is hard. I have always had to rely on someone to cosign. I have done what I can to keep my finances in order...knocking down my 3 credit cards to...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

(((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))), I had a post here, but I guess it wasn't as beautiful as I thought it was. I don't want to post anything that makes anyone feel uneasy. I would not feel comfortable knowing that I posted somehing that is maybe harmful, and not good. In the future I will be mo...

ditto · ditto

Well, I don't know what to think or what to do. I have been married to him less than a year and I find out more and more things that upset me and scare me. He is secretive. I have found bills that are in his name that are not being paid. Generally we keep our finances seperately.&nb...

Diva · Diva

Thank you Wallsal for admitting to searching. I talk a with a big Al Anon voice on the subject of searching, but I haven't convinced myself I wouldn't do it again. And your "reasoning" is "reasonable" as it can be. I like to know what I am having to deal with at all times. The TRUTH, which I know I am not going...

megan · megan

My A has been after me to sign the lease on HIS apt where I lived until may So he tried to bribe me he gave me a nice coach handbag, to sign the lease Well after that was a check for $2000 to sign the lease. I took the pocketbook and the check and REFUSED to sign the lease. I said that the lease signin...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

www.inspiringthots.net  

marmare · marmare

So my A has a safety luncheon or something at work yesterday, told me it was at 1:30 but he may be running late after work. I was leaving work, called him to see if he would be the one home to order pizza for pizza night. Oh he answers and says he is leaving the "local" (where he hangs out on Friday...

debilyn · debilyn

Thanks you guys, loved your responses!!! Diva wow that is true huh? oops....never thought about the floor not holding her! I have an old wood cook stove I am putting in here. someone reminded me I wouls need to reinforce the floor! oops. David YES I saw that movie! they ended up together...

jen · jen

Hi everyone! This is my first post. I've been reading the boards for awhile and it has really helped to know I'm not alone. To read the details people talk about and to know that these are the same details I live with -- it is comforting to know I'm not alone and I'm not crazy. Forgive me if I don't have the l...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] The money crunch is temporarily over...thank you!! The postal service has been too slow getting it to me... In the meantime, i have been learning the town. I may have a place to park and sleep that i will check out tonight. If it pans out it will save a LOT of gasoline. A woman on the tra...

debilyn · debilyn

Well that is kinda a lie since there are eight dogs, a few cats and a pot bellied pig asleep in here... Day started "normal", here is my Eden post today: Ok I wake up and Sauveur, my huge Great Pyrenees,has me crammed into the wall with Sparky kitten sorta between us, lost in his fur. I feel somet...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Does anyone know who puts up and maintains the reading material advertised next to the where the chatroom goes up? There is a "questionable" book on there which clearly does not belong on a recovery site. Please remove it. Thank you.

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

(((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))), Wow what a night last night was!

My "A" calls me before he got home from work. He wanted $20. He wanted to call his connection and buy some pot. I so badly wanted to argue, fight, and once again be the wounded party. I said I will g...

hvnly1 · hvnly1

I have some sort of respiratory virus. Maybe it lies in wait perpetually for times when i am exhausted and can't handle it. Whatever my meds i guess are helping me still. Yet I still am wheezing a bit. But with how hard i have been coughing i guess it will take time for my throat t...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, i regrete to say that I wont be able to chair on friday am's anymore. The reason being is that my oldest son is back in school, so trying to get all 3 of the baby's breakfast and ready is hard enough; but the main reason is that my oldest son's bus schedule has...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

sorry this is long, but wow!!! this program REALLY REALLY works.... Willing to Make Amends > >The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing >change. > > ######ROSIE..yeah step eight was the REAL "clean up part" ...

wille · wille

Hi all, I hope this finds all well : ) Does anyone know what this means? Java(TM) Plug-in: Version 1.4.2 Using JRE version 1.4.2 Java HotSpot(TM) Client VM User home directory = C:\Documents and Settings\mr hankey Proxy Configuration: Browser Proxy Configuration --...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

To quote a song..."Oops! I did it again!" and I think I might be a bit mad at myself. Woke up to find my 15 year old had missed the bus, had not tried to wake me to take him to school, had not asked any of the other 3 "adult?" children here to drive him (they all have cars and were home), and doggone-...

Cobrien1976 · Cobrien1976

My A has been sober for 45 days now and in counseling and meetings everynight. After checking his cell phone one day(i wanted to see if he lied to me about calling a guy about some $ he was owed from a job he did). I came across womens names and numbers abd starteddoing a phone records search etc. Comes out he...

AlaMom · AlaMom

that my babies are growing up. In ten days I will bring my oldest child to college. A week after that my youngest will be starting kindergarten. As the days dwindle I ask myself what happened to the last 18 years. I remember all the things that my oldest has witnessed - the figh...

Flora123 · Flora123

Hi, sorry I can't remember you full nickname, but you know who you are LOL. The Angel with all the grandchildren, who makes wonderful "wedding cakes". Just to say, haven't caught up with you in chatroom for a little while, and wondered how you are getting on. Thinking of you, Please post b...

Kim · Kim

Hello all. It's been a while since I posted, and alot has gone on since. I left for vacation last Saturday knowing full well that my husband would get high while I was gone. I was anxiety ridden the entire week before I left, however, I went. I was going to console my best frie...

fineline · fineline

I have the acoa one.....but I want the one we read at meetings and a copy of the JUST FOR TODAY....if ya have it.... thanks.

Christy · Christy

I was browsing through an AA sites and found this writing, It is true for us too and thought I would share it with the board. THE AWAKENING -The Moment of Clarity- by Denise M. "Sonny" Carroll © A time comes in your life when you finally get it. . . when, in the midst of all your fears and insanit...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] a further update... I checked out Portland State University to see if I could do the professional student thing...no go for fall quarter as I made too much money in '04. It may be possible for winter; will have to see. Obtained Portland State public use internet acco...

browneyes · browneyes

I am freaking out. I just looked at our joint account and he took out more money, so in the past two weeks he has spent 620.00 on meth!!!!! What the heck, he could have paid his speeding ticket, and our son's daycare and, and, and and I am so pissed!!! I called him at work and he t...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

THE FINAL INSPECTION (dedicated to Mr.Blue's brother ) The soldier stood and faced God, Which must always come to pass. He hoped his shoes were shining, Just as brightly as his brass. "Step forward now, you soldier, How shall I deal with you? Have you always turned the othe...

TigerLilly · TigerLilly

the way that i deal with my emotions is through poetry. It seems to help me get theings in perspective as well as letting my feelings out. I was asked to post this Poem on here. It is one I wrote the night i decided i needed help. Last night... My Anger My anger Swells As I think of my Life Tim...

sg · sg

My A. comes home tomorrow night after working out of town. I'm not afraid of him drinking (if he does, he does)...here's what I am afraid of. It took so much courage inside of me to go thru what I have the past week. To put my foot down and take care of myself. One of the reasons I left this past weekend aft...

Cobrien1976 · Cobrien1976

sorry, my previous email was whether or not my A(husband) is cheating but i accidentally typed "She".

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello all, I received another funny at work today and wanted to share it with ya, it is cute! But not always true: Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they jus...

tired · tired

When i first met my husband 8 years ago I thought "wow he's a really fun guy". We partied together and had a really fun time. 2 years later we moved into a house together and within 6 months we were married. I got pregnant right away and that was when my eyes were opened. That was when i realized - he can't stop...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies-Hugs to all, OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY GOSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! My "A" is nuts!

I posted a yesterday that he did not come home the night before, same old story ran into someone who had some meth. (Duh! when your co-workers wife is a dope c...

marmare · marmare

Well, we went to the Seahawks game Monday night. All in all we had a great time. There are some things my A does that just irritate me but I have to tell myself to...to let go. We got home from the game, he arrived home about 15 minutes before me, I pulled up in the drive way and can hear him scre...

kathy570 · kathy570

Hello (((((All))))) Since I haven't posted for abit and there are many new members (((((Welcome, you're in a great place ))))), I thought that I should give a brief introduction of myself. I am a recovering Alcoholic since Oct. 15, 2001 and my husband is a very active Alcoholic, and I found...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

We took our kids to the doctor this morning, and my a stepped on one of the scales. He weighed 20lbs more at the doctor than he did at work. He got so depressed over it. I mean we're both over weight. I've been a symptomatic over eater since I was a child. We have not been act...

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

As I've been reading my realtionship books I have been thinking about what role trust plays in this whole deal. One of the books I've been reading is called "His Needs, Her Needs" and is about how men and women each have a set of basic needs that has to be met by their partner in order to have a satisfying, fu...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - August 25 I grew up in an alcoholic home where I felt no one was caring for me, so I decided I had to do so myself. Soon my vision became shortsighted. It took all my energy just to protect myself or figure out the bare necessities I needed to survive...

Strong4myboys · Strong4myboys

Wow, it's been a while since I posted. Some of you may remember my loooong post from a couple of months ago concerning leaving my husband who drank and smoked marijuana excessively. Well, I did it. I left with the boys and I've been gone now for almost 2 months. We have been through hell and back but luckil...

sg · sg

I love people. Always have, always will. Even though I do keep to myself at times, I am a people person. I selectively chose to have as close friends in my life and they mean the world to me. Now I realize just how important having selective people in my life means. Lately I have begun to realize just ho...

kimmie · kimmie

Lately, even talking to a drunk person is real annoying to me. Do they know how stupid they look and sound? And do they realize that when they are talking to someone, the person listening is probably so preoccupied with how drunk they are that they arent even listening. My dad calls...

debilyn · debilyn

i have learned something about my experience. When i learned to detach it took many' times for me to get it. same with really knowing it is a disease. It was one thing knowing but it took practice and really using the skills to get it into my heart and it becam part of me. now i am learning not to...

megan · megan

I went to visit my brother and his wife. I brought dinner (gourmet Italian from their favorite restaurant). I had also brought local corn from the farmer by my new place. I went to my sister-in laws mothers condo. My brother was there, upstairs with his MIL. She is dying, has...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

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Last night we made plane to go out after work. We were going to go out to eat, his choice, and just have a family night. He called me from the road and said 30 minutes, and told me he ahd to drop the work van off and then he had a ride home. I didn't like the sound of that, because the guy...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - August 24 Holding on to anger, resentment, and a "poor me" attitude is not an option for me today. Growing up with two alcoholic parents created many painful memories. However, until I was able to let go of my past by forgiving my parents, I was u...

nycbt · nycbt

A couple of Tuesday ago my husband told me he was going to the bank and he didn't come back until 6:00 am. I was so upset I was up all night. I called and text message him to come home. He didn't answer the phone. I was so upset. I had no idea where he was. When I saw him I was happy to see him but very angry as well. I w...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

FATAL FLAWS IN A MATE 1. Neglecting self, including poor hygiene, not getting haircuts, not going to the doctor or dentist, etc.. 2. Don't like or love themselves. 3. Control freaks (picks out your clothes and makeup, orders for you in a restaurant, tells yo...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

They teach me that many of my punishments are self-inflicted. In some way unfathomable to my human intelligence, my suffering could be the consequence of my own attitudes, actions or neglects. #######ROSIE....oh i totally agree with this...i am listening to casette tapes i made for myself...

lin0606 · lin0606

My husband is an alcoholic and crack addict, clean and sober for two years and 5 months. Lately he has been acting wierd - very quiet, distant, etc. He's away from home just now, taking a course for two weeks, and when he phones he just sounds so depressed and dead. I'm suspecting that he may be using aga...

marmare · marmare

Wanted to touch base here, still have not read the postings but will do that today or tomorrow. As I work my program I find that I have more time for me and what I want! The only regret I have is that I didn't find Alanon 15 years ago. LOL We had a pretty uneventful or not much of alcohol rel...

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	as one gets to their wits end... (Preview) Hi all, I hope this finds everyone well. Most recently a friend commits suicide, so I want to post this phone number here, if that will fly. 1.800.suicide It is a suicide prevention hotline. It is a twentyfour hour line. Y'all take care, eh? Oceans of love, \/\/ille	wille	1	634	Aug 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Sad, lonely and frustrated (Preview) I've never posted before but I just don't know where to go. I fairly new to alanon and have gone to a few f2f meetings and have spent quite a few hours at the chat room. I have talked to some great people who have made me feel a lot better. But these past few days have been tough. I'm not sure if it just my fru...	sandie123	10	922	Aug 28, 2005 by sandie123
	Love Him/Hate Disease (Preview) Started my new job last Monday...still in training and will be for another week. Is t is going well...just some overload with new information. I am having a hard time finding extra time on this board. When I do though, it is healing, comforting, calming. I am really struggling b...	hurtinginindy	4	727	Aug 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Rejection and Loss (Preview) My daughter, 40, single, lived for a while with a woman friend she adored. Drinking led to conflict and eventually ejection from this woman's home. I provided a roof over Caroline's head. She is sensitive with low self-esteem. Her drinking is pretty well constant, she drives me...	Anniegran	4	802	Aug 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	oh dolphin... (Preview) Wait a minute, will you send me that thing private. Becuz i loved it. I too think different than most. Learned just how much when I went to college in my late 40's I saw it as a person who is more mature in her own personal journey. I saw my A big time. I know he has changed since i have seen thru the ma...	debilyn	5	933	Aug 28, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Wanted to share with everyone.... (Preview) For those of you dealing with adult alcoholics, whether it be your adult child, spouse, parents, grandparents.... any addict who is an adult in your life in which you struggle to allow them to deal with their consequences. I feel your pain, as I have a 17-year old daughter who...	sanddie	1	693	Aug 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
	who the heck AM i???? (Preview) Hi!! i am rosie, codependent and ACOA...below are MY shares on the "hope for today" and "days of healing" daily messeges...look for me after my ######## Hope for Today - August 28 Before Al-Anon, I had a false sense of self.Because of their diseases, my alcoholic father and my mother weren't ableto he...	rosie light shines	2	750	Aug 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Abuse Survivors / Medical Aid (Preview) National Coalition Against Domestic Violence NCADV Cosmetic & Reconstructive Support (CRS) Program PO Box 18749, Denver, CO 80218-0749 Phone 303-839-1852 ext 102/ Fax 303-831-9351 / Website www.ncadv.org The Cosm...	tea2	2	736	Aug 28, 2005 by cdb
	Thank You (Preview) Alcoholism, A Merry-Go-Round Named Denial Someone in the Chat Room Recommended an Al-Anon literature pamphlet. I did not know I was missing this -thought I already had all the reading materials that my face to face meetings offered. At last weeks meeting I requ...	tea2	2	947	Aug 28, 2005 by cdb
	Wrong Perspective, sorry (Preview) Hello roomies, Perspective is a wonderful thing, but at times it can be any enemy, it all depends on how it is used. When ever I come across something that moves me, I am excited to share it with the group. I am so excited to pass along what I have been given. In my haste to share something I found in my "...	Dolphin123	4	944	Aug 27, 2005 by abbyal
	I HAVE to share this small feat w/you guys! :O) (Preview) This past July my bankruptcy was discharged...an after effect of something I had to do when I left my ex. For 7 yrs I have been trying to rebuild my credit but it is hard. I have always had to rely on someone to cosign. I have done what I can to keep my finances in order...knocking down my 3 credit cards to...	sg	5	914	Aug 27, 2005 by Tammy
	Please Hear what I am not saying (Preview) (((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))), I had a post here, but I guess it wasn't as beautiful as I thought it was. I don't want to post anything that makes anyone feel uneasy. I would not feel comfortable knowing that I posted somehing that is maybe harmful, and not good. In the future I will be mo...	Dolphin123	7	786	Aug 27, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Finances (Preview) Well, I don't know what to think or what to do. I have been married to him less than a year and I find out more and more things that upset me and scare me. He is secretive. I have found bills that are in his name that are not being paid. Generally we keep our finances seperately.&nb...	ditto	4	886	Aug 27, 2005 by mom to 2
	Wallsal (Preview) Thank you Wallsal for admitting to searching. I talk a with a big Al Anon voice on the subject of searching, but I haven't convinced myself I wouldn't do it again. And your "reasoning" is "reasonable" as it can be. I like to know what I am having to deal with at all times. The TRUTH, which I know I am not going...	Diva	0	724	Aug 27, 2005 by Diva
	enabling (Preview) My A has been after me to sign the lease on HIS apt where I lived until may So he tried to bribe me he gave me a nice coach handbag, to sign the lease Well after that was a check for $2000 to sign the lease. I took the pocketbook and the check and REFUSED to sign the lease. I said that the lease signin...	megan	8	895	Aug 27, 2005 by browneyes
	Helpful Sight to Meditate, (topic anger) (Preview) www.inspiringthots.net	wallsal55	2	704	Aug 27, 2005 by browneyes
	How confusing (Preview) So my A has a safety luncheon or something at work yesterday, told me it was at 1:30 but he may be running late after work. I was leaving work, called him to see if he would be the one home to order pizza for pizza night. Oh he answers and says he is leaving the "local" (where he hangs out on Friday...	marmare	7	992	Aug 27, 2005 by Tammy
	All who responded to my message (Preview) Thanks you guys, loved your responses!!! Diva wow that is true huh? oops....never thought about the floor not holding her! I have an old wood cook stove I am putting in here. someone reminded me I wouls need to reinforce the floor! oops. David YES I saw that movie! they ended up together...	debilyn	1	850	Aug 27, 2005 by megan
	I need your opinion (Preview) Hi everyone! This is my first post. I've been reading the boards for awhile and it has really helped to know I'm not alone. To read the details people talk about and to know that these are the same details I live with -- it is comforting to know I'm not alone and I'm not crazy. Forgive me if I don't have the l...	jen	7	974	Aug 26, 2005 by lin0606
	haxigonian XII (Preview) [[ room ]] The money crunch is temporarily over...thank you!! The postal service has been too slow getting it to me... In the meantime, i have been learning the town. I may have a place to park and sleep that i will check out tonight. If it pans out it will save a LOT of gasoline. A woman on the tra...	haximon	5	1074	Aug 26, 2005 by Anew123
	Sitting here alone..... well sorta (Preview) Well that is kinda a lie since there are eight dogs, a few cats and a pot bellied pig asleep in here... Day started "normal", here is my Eden post today: Ok I wake up and Sauveur, my huge Great Pyrenees,has me crammed into the wall with Sparky kitten sorta between us, lost in his fur. I feel somet...	debilyn	4	1129	Aug 26, 2005 by Anew123
	Who monitors the Reading material advertised? (Preview) Does anyone know who puts up and maintains the reading material advertised next to the where the chatroom goes up? There is a "questionable" book on there which clearly does not belong on a recovery site. Please remove it. Thank you.	DanaAngel	5	896	Aug 26, 2005 by DanaAngel
	I don't know what happened (Preview) (((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))), Wow what a night last night was! My "A" calls me before he got home from work. He wanted $20. He wanted to call his connection and buy some pot. I so badly wanted to argue, fight, and once again be the wounded party. I said I will g...	Dolphin123	7	1113	Aug 26, 2005 by debilyn
	Sick and tired (Preview) I have some sort of respiratory virus. Maybe it lies in wait perpetually for times when i am exhausted and can't handle it. Whatever my meds i guess are helping me still. Yet I still am wheezing a bit. But with how hard i have been coughing i guess it will take time for my throat t...	hvnly1	3	864	Aug 26, 2005 by Flora123
	We need a new Friday am meeting chairperson please (Preview) Hi all, i regrete to say that I wont be able to chair on friday am's anymore. The reason being is that my oldest son is back in school, so trying to get all 3 of the baby's breakfast and ready is hard enough; but the main reason is that my oldest son's bus schedule has...	mastiff	1	743	Aug 26, 2005 by Faith73
	i feel better and better about me (Preview) sorry this is long, but wow!!! this program REALLY REALLY works.... Willing to Make Amends > >The Eighth Step is talking about a change of heart, a healing >change. > > ######ROSIE..yeah step eight was the REAL "clean up part" ...	rosie light shines	0	732	Aug 26, 2005 by rosie light shines
	log in ?-s (Preview) Hi all, I hope this finds all well : ) Does anyone know what this means? Java(TM) Plug-in: Version 1.4.2 Using JRE version 1.4.2 Java HotSpot(TM) Client VM User home directory = C:\Documents and Settings\mr hankey Proxy Configuration: Browser Proxy Configuration --...	wille	4	1307	Aug 26, 2005 by wille
	Snapping (Preview) To quote a song..."Oops! I did it again!" and I think I might be a bit mad at myself. Woke up to find my 15 year old had missed the bus, had not tried to wake me to take him to school, had not asked any of the other 3 "adult?" children here to drive him (they all have cars and were home), and doggone-...	kismetstrand	6	882	Aug 26, 2005 by Christy
	I she cheating-weird relationships with other women (Preview) My A has been sober for 45 days now and in counseling and meetings everynight. After checking his cell phone one day(i wanted to see if he lied to me about calling a guy about some $ he was owed from a job he did). I came across womens names and numbers abd starteddoing a phone records search etc. Comes out he...	Cobrien1976	4	1084	Aug 26, 2005 by lin0606
	The time has come... (Preview) that my babies are growing up. In ten days I will bring my oldest child to college. A week after that my youngest will be starting kindergarten. As the days dwindle I ask myself what happened to the last 18 years. I remember all the things that my oldest has witnessed - the figh...	AlaMom	6	979	Aug 26, 2005 by AlaMom
	Message for Angel (Preview) Hi, sorry I can't remember you full nickname, but you know who you are LOL. The Angel with all the grandchildren, who makes wonderful "wedding cakes". Just to say, haven't caught up with you in chatroom for a little while, and wondered how you are getting on. Thinking of you, Please post b...	Flora123	0	572	Aug 26, 2005 by Flora123
	relapse again (Preview) Hello all. It's been a while since I posted, and alot has gone on since. I left for vacation last Saturday knowing full well that my husband would get high while I was gone. I was anxiety ridden the entire week before I left, however, I went. I was going to console my best frie...	Kim	10	1007	Aug 25, 2005 by Kim
	Anyone have a copy of Alanon's Personal Bill of Rights ? (Preview) I have the acoa one.....but I want the one we read at meetings and a copy of the JUST FOR TODAY....if ya have it.... thanks.	fineline	2	796	Aug 25, 2005 by fineline
	The awakening (Preview) I was browsing through an AA sites and found this writing, It is true for us too and thought I would share it with the board. THE AWAKENING -The Moment of Clarity- by Denise M. "Sonny" Carroll © A time comes in your life when you finally get it. . . when, in the midst of all your fears and insanit...	Christy	4	1071	Aug 25, 2005 by whitie
	haxigonian XIII (Preview) [[ room ]] a further update... I checked out Portland State University to see if I could do the professional student thing...no go for fall quarter as I made too much money in '04. It may be possible for winter; will have to see. Obtained Portland State public use internet acco...	haximon	1	648	Aug 25, 2005 by Faith73
	I want to scream!!!! (Preview) I am freaking out. I just looked at our joint account and he took out more money, so in the past two weeks he has spent 620.00 on meth!!!!! What the heck, he could have paid his speeding ticket, and our son's daycare and, and, and and I am so pissed!!! I called him at work and he t...	browneyes	9	1027	Aug 25, 2005 by browneyes
	The Final Inspection (Preview) THE FINAL INSPECTION (dedicated to Mr.Blue's brother ) The soldier stood and faced God, Which must always come to pass. He hoped his shoes were shining, Just as brightly as his brass. "Step forward now, you soldier, How shall I deal with you? Have you always turned the othe...	Peggy7	2	847	Aug 25, 2005 by Dolphin123
	healing by poetry (Preview) the way that i deal with my emotions is through poetry. It seems to help me get theings in perspective as well as letting my feelings out. I was asked to post this Poem on here. It is one I wrote the night i decided i needed help. Last night... *My Anger* My anger Swells As I think of my Life Tim...	TigerLilly	2	836	Aug 25, 2005 by Peggy7
	Fears for the weekend (Preview) My A. comes home tomorrow night after working out of town. I'm not afraid of him drinking (if he does, he does)...here's what I am afraid of. It took so much courage inside of me to go thru what I have the past week. To put my foot down and take care of myself. One of the reasons I left this past weekend aft...	sg	3	636	Aug 25, 2005 by marmare
	I meant-Is HE cheating, not Is She. (Preview) sorry, my previous email was whether or not my A(husband) is cheating but i accidentally typed "She".	Cobrien1976	0	705	Aug 25, 2005 by Cobrien1976
	Women are Like Apples (Preview) Hello all, I received another funny at work today and wanted to share it with ya, it is cute! But not always true: Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they jus...	Dolphin123	5	908	Aug 25, 2005 by tea2
	My story (Preview) When i first met my husband 8 years ago I thought "wow he's a really fun guy". We partied together and had a really fun time. 2 years later we moved into a house together and within 6 months we were married. I got pregnant right away and that was when my eyes were opened. That was when i realized - he can't stop...	tired	4	963	Aug 25, 2005 by browneyes
	My "A" is insane (Preview) Hello Roomies-Hugs to all, OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH MYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY GOSHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! My "A" is nuts! I posted a yesterday that he did not come home the night before, same old story ran into someone who had some meth. (Duh! when your co-workers wife is a dope c...	Dolphin123	3	1373	Aug 25, 2005 by browneyes
	Kids amaze me sometimes (Preview) Well, we went to the Seahawks game Monday night. All in all we had a great time. There are some things my A does that just irritate me but I have to tell myself to...to let go. We got home from the game, he arrived home about 15 minutes before me, I pulled up in the drive way and can hear him scre...	marmare	3	898	Aug 25, 2005 by browneyes
	" Both Sides of the Fence " Aug. 25 (Preview) Hello (((((All))))) Since I haven't posted for abit and there are many new members (((((Welcome, you're in a great place ))))), I thought that I should give a brief introduction of myself. I am a recovering Alcoholic since Oct. 15, 2001 and my husband is a very active Alcoholic, and I found...	kathy570	2	1188	Aug 25, 2005 by Dolphin123
	I must be an awful person.. (Preview) We took our kids to the doctor this morning, and my a stepped on one of the scales. He weighed 20lbs more at the doctor than he did at work. He got so depressed over it. I mean we're both over weight. I've been a symptomatic over eater since I was a child. We have not been act...	twinmom2	2	938	Aug 25, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Trust & relationships (Preview) As I've been reading my realtionship books I have been thinking about what role trust plays in this whole deal. One of the books I've been reading is called "His Needs, Her Needs" and is about how men and women each have a set of basic needs that has to be met by their partner in order to have a satisfying, fu...	Strong4myboys	5	1864	Aug 25, 2005 by Strong4myboys
	perspectives and step 8 (Preview) Hope for Today - August 25 I grew up in an alcoholic home where I felt no one was caring for me, so I decided I had to do so myself. Soon my vision became shortsighted. It took all my energy just to protect myself or figure out the bare necessities I needed to survive...	rosie light shines	0	800	Aug 25, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Going back? (Preview) Wow, it's been a while since I posted. Some of you may remember my loooong post from a couple of months ago concerning leaving my husband who drank and smoked marijuana excessively. Well, I did it. I left with the boys and I've been gone now for almost 2 months. We have been through hell and back but luckil...	Strong4myboys	6	1037	Aug 25, 2005 by Strong4myboys
	gratitude for friends (Preview) I love people. Always have, always will. Even though I do keep to myself at times, I am a people person. I selectively chose to have as close friends in my life and they mean the world to me. Now I realize just how important having selective people in my life means. Lately I have begun to realize just ho...	sg	2	932	Aug 25, 2005 by sg
	I am so annoyed... (Preview) Lately, even talking to a drunk person is real annoying to me. Do they know how stupid they look and sound? And do they realize that when they are talking to someone, the person listening is probably so preoccupied with how drunk they are that they arent even listening. My dad calls...	kimmie	5	1015	Aug 25, 2005 by sg
	venting out the pain (Preview) i have learned something about my experience. When i learned to detach it took many' times for me to get it. same with really knowing it is a disease. It was one thing knowing but it took practice and really using the skills to get it into my heart and it becam part of me. now i am learning not to...	debilyn	6	698	Aug 24, 2005 by she123
	Tough nite (Preview) I went to visit my brother and his wife. I brought dinner (gourmet Italian from their favorite restaurant). I had also brought local corn from the farmer by my new place. I went to my sister-in laws mothers condo. My brother was there, upstairs with his MIL. She is dying, has...	megan	10	982	Aug 24, 2005 by Tammy
	My "A" didn't come home last night (Preview) ----------- Last night we made plane to go out after work. We were going to go out to eat, his choice, and just have a family night. He called me from the road and said 30 minutes, and told me he ahd to drop the work van off and then he had a ride home. I didn't like the sound of that, because the guy...	Dolphin123	5	1148	Aug 24, 2005 by Tammy
	HEY..i wanted to share my breakthrough with you (Preview) Hope for Today - August 24 Holding on to anger, resentment, and a "poor me" attitude is not an option for me today. Growing up with two alcoholic parents created many painful memories. However, until I was able to let go of my past by forgiving my parents, I was u...	rosie light shines	2	844	Aug 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	where are you (Preview) A couple of Tuesday ago my husband told me he was going to the bank and he didn't come back until 6:00 am. I was so upset I was up all night. I called and text message him to come home. He didn't answer the phone. I was so upset. I had no idea where he was. When I saw him I was happy to see him but very angry as well. I w...	nycbt	1	878	Aug 24, 2005 by Dolphin123
	a check list for good/ bad in a mate (Preview) FATAL FLAWS IN A MATE 1. Neglecting self, including poor hygiene, not getting haircuts, not going to the doctor or dentist, etc.. 2. Don't like or love themselves. 3. Control freaks (picks out your clothes and makeup, orders for you in a restaurant, tells yo...	rosie light shines	6	1229	Aug 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	quit fighting it (Preview) They teach me that many of my punishments are self-inflicted. In some way unfathomable to my human intelligence, my suffering could be the consequence of my own attitudes, actions or neglects. #######ROSIE....oh i totally agree with this...i am listening to casette tapes i made for myself...	rosie light shines	0	819	Aug 24, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Need to stay focused (Preview) My husband is an alcoholic and crack addict, clean and sober for two years and 5 months. Lately he has been acting wierd - very quiet, distant, etc. He's away from home just now, taking a course for two weeks, and when he phones he just sounds so depressed and dead. I'm suspecting that he may be using aga...	lin0606	2	834	Aug 24, 2005 by sg
	Monday (Preview) Wanted to touch base here, still have not read the postings but will do that today or tomorrow. As I work my program I find that I have more time for me and what I want! The only regret I have is that I didn't find Alanon 15 years ago. LOL We had a pretty uneventful or not much of alcohol rel...	marmare	2	872	Aug 24, 2005 by sg
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