The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I called my A today to apologize about telling his daighter's mother about his spending her money. I felt I needed to as I was reflecting a lot on my acting out during his last relapse. I tried to ddo this to make me feel better, not to encourage him back into our house. Of course, to some degree I feel that he took it that way. I told him that when he was making comments such as " this separation was your decision and if you want it to be over your going to have to say it" I feel like he's still trying to manipulate me a little and was stern in replying that I still have not made a decision and that now that my anger has subsided and I can see clearly my own issues in this as well that now is when I really need to reflect. The conversation went well for the most part. Now comes the time that I need to make a REAL decision, based not upon anger but the reality of my feelings. Please say a prayer.
In the Getting Them Sober Action Guide (I think it is called that) she says it is ok to decide to stay for now or decide to leave. You can make that decision for as long as you want. And you can change your mind based on the circumstances.
