Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Kokopelli · Kokopelli

Hello, My divorce will be finalized next week. I am keeping the house. My question is how did others deal with the packing up and moving out process? We have still been living in the same household, which has made this whole situation even harder. My soon to be ex has not been taking care of himself and ju...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading starts with the example of taming a horse. The important thing is not to break the horse's spirit -- and the same with any creature that is full of joy in being alive. When living with alcoholism had broken the author's spirit, the Al-Anon fellowship allowed that spirit to heal. One th...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Happy Thursday MIP. The reading for today discusses our goal in Al-Anon - an overall sense of wellness - mental, spiritual and emotional. The writer suggests lamenting for years over the absence of a label that would help identify the soul sickness that brought them to Al-Anon. She found many of t...

a4l · a4l

There's magic in this program and it's tips tools and suggestions alright. Keep showing up and do the next right thing. Betty taught me that. She was a really special lady. I'm so glad she was there to walk me through doing the next right thing so that I could experience a new way of life really. I put it in...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on the second step (Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.) To the author, a return to sanity is about more than being able to function in a responsible and realistic way. Living in a sane way also includes play, taking a br...

sad_dog_mommy · sad_dog_mommy

One night at an FTF al-anon meeting someone said a 'warning sign' of doing too much for others was the feeling of resentment. I sort of stored that thought into the back of my brain until recently when I began to feel overwhelming resentment. I live with my BF in a house that I bought before I met him. I h...

Lyne · Lyne

The writing for Monday, 11/16, asks the question, how does one actually detach? The writer admits it isnt easy when we are embroiled in all kinds of trouble day after day. They remind us to find a moment in the day to express a few words and think of their meaning: Let go and let God, Live and let live, or...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading considers the importance of hearing "Keep Coming Back" both early and well along in our recovery. A tendency to want to want to apply a 'fix' along with an impatience for 'just' sitting down at a meeting may feed a feeling that we can do go it alone. Challenges in recovery don't cease aft...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

I appreciate that AA came up with various slogans and I have had to learn to interpret them. Everyday the bv wisdom of those slogans is a comfort to me. There is being paralyzed by fear which is obviously very clearly possible in.a pandemic. Then there is a healthy fear I work at night. Due to day light...

Salome · Salome

Hello Alanon family, I have been a member of the MIP family since 2001 when I first stumbled upon the group before I really knew what Alanon was. I think my last posts were in 2010/2011. I am not sure when or why I stopped posting. I was just reading some of my old posts from my previous profile. I was thinki...

DavidG · DavidG

...what is left after years of Alanon? My f2f Alanon assembly is next week. I have been expecting it... I had some issues with Alanon in our district. I hav been sharing with this group now for 8 years- and have learned a thing or two. I have seen where I missed the boat a time for two ago. I cannot re-litigat...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is focused on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes confusion about this phrase as to what we should be letting go of and what we are allowing God to do! Looking at specific situations, the writer was able to let go of trying to control other people and t...

Cooper · Cooper

To the best of my knowledge my son has been clean for six years, since he suffered an overdose at the age of 21. After the OD he moved to another state, has worked at the same job continuously, has a stable living environment, and has had a couple of nice girlfriends. He has been weight lifting and hiking...

Freetime · Freetime

"First Things First" is the topic of today's reading. The author discovered that things which are urgent are rarely important, and things which are important are rarely urgent. By getting bogged down in trivial matters, they may forget to make time for what is important. The author's top priority...

texas yankee · texas yankee

Sometimes I feel like my Al Anon journey is like driving down a bumpy, twisting and turning road, with many of the directional signs point the wrong direction, and me trying to "remember" what the map looked like. Maybe my latest "Ah ha!" moment can help someone else preserve their sanity. My younger...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am posting Friday night so that all the people on the east coast may see this in the early a.m. Sat! Step 6 talks about becoming entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character. As the author continues explaining, they say that this readiness rarely appears in a sudden blinding flash of en...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

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SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

I'm embarrassed to admit it, that I purposely started an argument. I did though, I didn't realize it at the time but in hindsight that's precisely what I did. A couple of days ago I was feeling so much tension around AH and it gave me bad anxiety. I couldn't stand the way I was feeling and I felt like someth...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. Today's reading discusses the many tools of our program. The author suggests a lack of handiness when it comes to using hand/power tools. Another teaches how to oil a saw so it works more smoothly - and gives cause for pause. In our program, learning how to oil a saw is a littl...

DavidG · DavidG

... a lot of things about me were damaged and wounded. In my growing years- sometimes- my reality was too much to bear. I treasure and celebrate little changes, moment on moment, day by day, dia por dia, month by month and year by year. I attend a meeting on Wednesdays in Kent- Great Britain. It is a smal...

a4l · a4l

I'm in a depression. I will go see a doctor this coming week. I know the signs: constant feeling of sadness, not eating, lack of concentration and for me, I just go into shutdown mode where I function to the bare minimum required and basically stay in bed or on the couch reading garbage that serves me no pu...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP!!! In today's share, the author reflects on the definition of insanity - doing something over and over the same way and expecting different results. The author tried to control people, thinking that they knew best that their way was the right way. Step 3, turning our will and our lives over...

Albion · Albion

Hi Guys a bit of advice please. I have been in Al-Anon for just over 2 years and I honestly cant think it enough. I honestly felt I was losing my mind before I got to meetings. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for 24 years. When I met my wife she barely drank at all but over the last 6 years or so it p...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

What can I do right here, right now? From today's page in C2C, this is the question we can ask ourselves to help rightsize our (sometimes exaggerated) sense of responsibility. Often the anxiety we feel is based upon something we fear in the future (minutes, hours, days, weeks) or something already co...

Lyne · Lyne

Manipulation is the focus for the reading on Monday, 11/9. The author reflects upon the use of manipulating others as a creative solution to get what we want. Especially in an alcoholic environment, it may feel like manipulation is necessary for survival. It is suggested that program can teach us...

DavidG · DavidG

Hi y'all... Day dawning here in the South Pacific... ...mine was a hopeless case- tired- exhausted. Angry and worse- rage. Sadness and grief beyond measure- you name it. I was in a room with other frightened people. And I stayed in this room- and other rooms for years. And it has paid off. Tomorrow we...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on why we are attracted to alcoholics. How is it that alcoholism becomes part of our lives? For a lot of us, there is a familiarity with the disease, and even with an issue that can affect our lives so negatively, we are drawn to what we know. It took me a lon...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our own power in another w...

SunnyFrogs · SunnyFrogs

Sometimes I feel like focusing on myself is doing something "wrong". Speaking up for myself .setting boundaries and sticking to them sometimes feels wrong. I know it's not wrong but it feels like it is at times. I can be doing pretty good and then something happens with/to somebody else and I start...

Freetime · Freetime

The exact nature of our wrongs -- that is what we admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being in Step Five. Today's reading asks what IS the exact nature of our wrongs? Is it the angry words we used, or the times we were dishonest? For the author, the exact nature of their wrongs is the self-de...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Welp - between retirement, pandemic, nice weather and this darn election - Just now realized it's Thursday - which means my day for the daily. My apologies to all - better late than never. Our reading for today starts with the thought - Sometimes what I do is less important than why I do it. An example i...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading points out an interesting result of going to meetings. The writer describes how we might have difficulty hearing our closest people- family and friends who are telling us their feelings but we may be too emotionally entrenched to hear what is being said to us. T...

Lyne · Lyne

The author of the passage on Monday, 11/2, asks about our behavior with various people. They hint at the idea that in alanon meetings, people are often cheerful, willing to accept program, and hopeful it will work for them. But what do we present to the alcoholic and our children? Do we scowl, scold...

Freetime · Freetime

The idea of being grateful to be involved with an alcoholic -- that seemed crazy to the author of today's page. It was unbelievable that people in Al-Anon seemed to be happy despite their problems -- the same problems the author had. Now, the author is a grateful member of Al-Anon. They had to hit bott...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I am starting off today backwards... Today's Reminder - "Al-Anon is a program in which we find spiritual solutions to the things we are powerless to change. Today, instead of seeking relief from fear by trying to do battle with it, I will turn to my Higher Power.' Quote: "That the birds of worry and car...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Greetings MIP family. Today's reading talks about how we (and others) can justify our own unkindness or interfering where we had no business - and how easy it is to do so, and/or be offended. The author shares about unkind words from another she cares about - weight related. When she expressed how i...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author shares a strategy they use when faced with unpleasant realities. Rather than avoiding disappointments, sometimes the only way to achieve serenity is to be willing to accept things that we cannot change. The author's sponsor suggested that back-up plans are a good st...

a4l · a4l

I think my HP has been very very gentle and patient with me allowing me to acknowledge that truth to myself. I don't like pain, I'm scared of it and it hurts. I bought myself a $35 bottle of Marlborough Savigngon a few days ago, knowing full well it was an attempt to deny what I was doing. (A fuctioning succ...

anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

The other day I Facebook messaged (bad idea to begin with, lol!) a very old friend to tell her I was really enjoying seeing pictures she posts of her new kitten. I told her I was thinking of getting one myself, because I have been. She never responded. I looked the next day and she had read my message. I a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's Courage to Change page notes the value of coming to AlAnon and being heard after perhaps feeling trapped, desperate, and isolated. A healthy balance eventually emerges when our shares do not dominate meeting time or dive into deeply personal matters. The Traditions suggest that the wellb...

a4l · a4l

I feel overwhelming fear. It's choking me. Traditionally in relationships, the fear gets me and I run back to what hurts MD because it's familiar. But now today I can't do it even if I want to because I literally can't. I don't know why but it's like every part of my being goes, dead end ahead, dead end ahea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Compared to more important things I have realized things are not as important as sometimes they seem. The fact that I am alive & fairly healthy is far more important than petty things like which way the toilet paper should go or where something has to go. Mind you I believe that everything has a plac...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am struggling this morning. Sleep is minimal. I have been here before. It feels uncomfortable but I do have choices. My Mom dying has greatly effected me if course but now it comes down to me & working the program. I will trust in my Higher Power to help me through this but I have to do the footwork. I k...

DavidG · DavidG

We have a new member here... in my first group- if we had a new members, or members, we would do a Step One meeting. Basically where everyone could share their ESH- as it was on that day... ...I use social media a lot. I embraced facebook. Our community had doubled in size over the last four years. A...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading, the author reflects on how their attitude toward others tends to return to them. If the author is impatient with others, they find they are even less patient with themselves and the world. If they are unkind to someone, defensiveness follows as the author expects others to be unki...

mamalioness · mamalioness

She was four years sober and attended our recovery groups at the church for quite some time...Live at the recovery center here in town and b4 Covid hit she had JUST gotten her new flat and was so excited to not have to live with mom anymore... yesterday, she OD'd and left behind 4 babies, all under 6 years o...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page from One Day at a Time in AlAnon draws inspiration from the slogan Easy Does It: We can not, nor should not, try to work on too many recovery concepts at once lest we become overwhelmed and discouraged.We are encouraged to take a single AlAnon recovery concept we read or hear, meditate on it...

Maresie888 · Maresie888

In the preamble to AA the sentence is #many of us tried to find an easier softer way# Most certainly many of my relationships with alcoholics were about trying to find an easier softer way. I pursued the whole notion of this vision of an easier softer way even when the relationship with the alcoholic w...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday, 10/26, reflects upon others criticism and unkind words which would cripple them for days. It did not occur to the writer that this was abuse and could even be untrue. They felt shame and suffered low self-esteem. And at times, the writer would respond in kind, hurting other...

anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone; Todays reading begins with the reaction we have when something surprises us: Wow! The writer describes this as a response to the beauty of a brand new day. What strikes the writer is the understanding that the blue sky, fall foliage and beauty of the day was not because of any...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

"The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...

MrsS · MrsS

Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...

DavidG · DavidG

I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...

Freetime · Freetime

The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...

DavidG · DavidG

I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...

DavidG · DavidG

We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...

Skorpi · Skorpi

The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...

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	Moving out (Preview) Hello, My divorce will be finalized next week. I am keeping the house. My question is how did others deal with the packing up and moving out process? We have still been living in the same household, which has made this whole situation even harder. My soon to be ex has not been taking care of himself and ju...	Kokopelli	14	1077	Nov 21, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change - November 20 (Preview) Today's reading starts with the example of taming a horse. The important thing is not to break the horse's spirit -- and the same with any creature that is full of joy in being alive. When living with alcoholism had broken the author's spirit, the Al-Anon fellowship allowed that spirit to heal. One th...	Freetime	4	499	Nov 20, 2020 by Iamhere
	Courage to Change 11/19 (Preview) Happy Thursday MIP. The reading for today discusses our goal in Al-Anon - an overall sense of wellness - mental, spiritual and emotional. The writer suggests lamenting for years over the absence of a label that would help identify the soul sickness that brought them to Al-Anon. She found many of t...	Iamhere	4	320	Nov 19, 2020 by WendyP
	When you do your part. (Preview) There's magic in this program and it's tips tools and suggestions alright. Keep showing up and do the next right thing. Betty taught me that. She was a really special lady. I'm so glad she was there to walk me through doing the next right thing so that I could experience a new way of life really. I put it in...	a4l	7	332	Nov 19, 2020 by a4l
	Courage to Change November 18 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on the second step (Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.) To the author, a return to sanity is about more than being able to function in a responsible and realistic way. Living in a sane way also includes play, taking a br...	Skorpi	4	238	Nov 19, 2020 by Iamhere
	codependency & resentment (Preview) One night at an FTF al-anon meeting someone said a 'warning sign' of doing too much for others was the feeling of resentment. I sort of stored that thought into the back of my brain until recently when I began to feel overwhelming resentment. I live with my BF in a house that I bought before I met him. I h...	sad_dog_mommy	4	1831	Nov 18, 2020 by Skorpi
	ODAT in alanon, 11/16 (Preview) The writing for Monday, 11/16, asks the question, how does one actually detach? The writer admits it isnt easy when we are embroiled in all kinds of trouble day after day. They remind us to find a moment in the day to express a few words and think of their meaning: Let go and let God, Live and let live, or...	Lyne	6	286	Nov 17, 2020 by Freetime
	11/17/20 C2C No Situation Too Difficult... (Preview) Today's reading considers the importance of hearing "Keep Coming Back" both early and well along in our recovery. A tendency to want to want to apply a 'fix' along with an impatience for 'just' sitting down at a meeting may feed a feeling that we can do go it alone. Challenges in recovery don't cease aft...	Enigmatic	5	861	Nov 17, 2020 by Freetime
	Gratitude (Preview) I appreciate that AA came up with various slogans and I have had to learn to interpret them. Everyday the bv wisdom of those slogans is a comfort to me. There is being paralyzed by fear which is obviously very clearly possible in.a pandemic. Then there is a healthy fear I work at night. Due to day light...	Maresie888	4	339	Nov 17, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Saying hello (Preview) Hello Alanon family, I have been a member of the MIP family since 2001 when I first stumbled upon the group before I really knew what Alanon was. I think my last posts were in 2010/2011. I am not sure when or why I stopped posting. I was just reading some of my old posts from my previous profile. I was thinki...	Salome	6	2192	Nov 16, 2020 by JerryF
	J.A.D.E. AND jaded... (Preview) ...what is left after years of Alanon? My f2f Alanon assembly is next week. I have been expecting it... I had some issues with Alanon in our district. I hav been sharing with this group now for 8 years- and have learned a thing or two. I have seen where I missed the boat a time for two ago. I cannot re-litigat...	DavidG	3	1719	Nov 16, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 15 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is focused on our slogan Let Go and Let God. The writer describes confusion about this phrase as to what we should be letting go of and what we are allowing God to do! Looking at specific situations, the writer was able to let go of trying to control other people and t...	yanksfan51	3	272	Nov 16, 2020 by Iamhere
	Son may be using again...not sure what to do (Preview) To the best of my knowledge my son has been clean for six years, since he suffered an overdose at the age of 21. After the OD he moved to another state, has worked at the same job continuously, has a stable living environment, and has had a couple of nice girlfriends. He has been weight lifting and hiking...	Cooper	9	2414	Nov 16, 2020 by Salome
	Courage to Change, November 13 (Preview) "First Things First" is the topic of today's reading. The author discovered that things which are urgent are rarely important, and things which are important are rarely urgent. By getting bogged down in trivial matters, they may forget to make time for what is important. The author's top priority...	Freetime	4	1966	Nov 15, 2020 by Lyne
	Another "Ah ha!" moment about my son (Preview) Sometimes I feel like my Al Anon journey is like driving down a bumpy, twisting and turning road, with many of the directional signs point the wrong direction, and me trying to "remember" what the map looked like. Maybe my latest "Ah ha!" moment can help someone else preserve their sanity. My younger...	texas yankee	3	401	Nov 14, 2020 by Iamhere
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 11/14/20 (Preview) I am posting Friday night so that all the people on the east coast may see this in the early a.m. Sat! Step 6 talks about becoming entirely ready to have God remove all my defects of character. As the author continues explaining, they say that this readiness rarely appears in a sudden blinding flash of en...	PosiesandPuppies	4	953	Nov 14, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Another day of remembrance... (Preview) We	Hoot Nanny	6	1520	Nov 13, 2020 by DavidG
	I Purposely Started An Argument (Preview) I'm embarrassed to admit it, that I purposely started an argument. I did though, I didn't realize it at the time but in hindsight that's precisely what I did. A couple of days ago I was feeling so much tension around AH and it gave me bad anxiety. I couldn't stand the way I was feeling and I felt like someth...	SunnyFrogs	5	318	Nov 13, 2020 by newnoz
	C2C - 11/12 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. Today's reading discusses the many tools of our program. The author suggests a lack of handiness when it comes to using hand/power tools. Another teaches how to oil a saw so it works more smoothly - and gives cause for pause. In our program, learning how to oil a saw is a littl...	Iamhere	3	242	Nov 13, 2020 by Lyne
	A lunchtime share... (Preview) ... a lot of things about me were damaged and wounded. In my growing years- sometimes- my reality was too much to bear. I treasure and celebrate little changes, moment on moment, day by day, dia por dia, month by month and year by year. I attend a meeting on Wednesdays in Kent- Great Britain. It is a smal...	DavidG	5	884	Nov 12, 2020 by SunnyFrogs
	Just a ramble. (Preview) I'm in a depression. I will go see a doctor this coming week. I know the signs: constant feeling of sadness, not eating, lack of concentration and for me, I just go into shutdown mode where I function to the bare minimum required and basically stay in bed or on the couch reading garbage that serves me no pu...	a4l	10	303	Nov 12, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change November 11 (Preview) Hello MIP!!! In today's share, the author reflects on the definition of insanity - doing something over and over the same way and expecting different results. The author tried to control people, thinking that they knew best that their way was the right way. Step 3, turning our will and our lives over...	Skorpi	4	322	Nov 12, 2020 by a4l
	Sponsorship (Preview) Hi Guys a bit of advice please. I have been in Al-Anon for just over 2 years and I honestly cant think it enough. I honestly felt I was losing my mind before I got to meetings. I'm a recovering alcoholic and have been sober for 24 years. When I met my wife she barely drank at all but over the last 6 years or so it p...	Albion	18	3025	Nov 11, 2020 by Albion
	11/10/20 C2C Right Here, Right Now (Preview) What can I do right here, right now? From today's page in C2C, this is the question we can ask ourselves to help rightsize our (sometimes exaggerated) sense of responsibility. Often the anxiety we feel is based upon something we fear in the future (minutes, hours, days, weeks) or something already co...	Enigmatic	8	285	Nov 11, 2020 by sunmustshine
	C2C, 11/9 (Preview) Manipulation is the focus for the reading on Monday, 11/9. The author reflects upon the use of manipulating others as a creative solution to get what we want. Especially in an alcoholic environment, it may feel like manipulation is necessary for survival. It is suggested that program can teach us...	Lyne	4	236	Nov 9, 2020 by Iamhere
	Saturday Share Step 12... (Preview) Hi y'all... Day dawning here in the South Pacific... ...mine was a hopeless case- tired- exhausted. Angry and worse- rage. Sadness and grief beyond measure- you name it. I was in a room with other frightened people. And I stayed in this room- and other rooms for years. And it has paid off. Tomorrow we...	DavidG	4	288	Nov 9, 2020 by Maresie888
	Hope for Today Nov 8 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading focuses on why we are attracted to alcoholics. How is it that alcoholism becomes part of our lives? For a lot of us, there is a familiarity with the disease, and even with an issue that can affect our lives so negatively, we are drawn to what we know. It took me a lon...	yanksfan51	8	298	Nov 8, 2020 by yanksfan51
	THE DAILY - Sat 11/7/20 (Preview) Today's reading is from The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. "There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way. Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self-esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our own power in another w...	PosiesandPuppies	5	237	Nov 8, 2020 by a4l
	I'm Not Doing Anything Wrong (Preview) Sometimes I feel like focusing on myself is doing something "wrong". Speaking up for myself .setting boundaries and sticking to them sometimes feels wrong. I know it's not wrong but it feels like it is at times. I can be doing pretty good and then something happens with/to somebody else and I start...	SunnyFrogs	8	2299	Nov 6, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change - November 6 (Preview) The exact nature of our wrongs -- that is what we admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being in Step Five. Today's reading asks what IS the exact nature of our wrongs? Is it the angry words we used, or the times we were dishonest? For the author, the exact nature of their wrongs is the self-de...	Freetime	5	1630	Nov 6, 2020 by Iamhere
	C2C - 11/5 (Preview) Welp - between retirement, pandemic, nice weather and this darn election - Just now realized it's Thursday - which means my day for the daily. My apologies to all - better late than never. Our reading for today starts with the thought - Sometimes what I do is less important than why I do it. An example i...	Iamhere	5	2960	Nov 6, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Nov 1 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading points out an interesting result of going to meetings. The writer describes how we might have difficulty hearing our closest people- family and friends who are telling us their feelings but we may be too emotionally entrenched to hear what is being said to us. T...	yanksfan51	8	2842	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C, 11/2 (Preview) The author of the passage on Monday, 11/2, asks about our behavior with various people. They hint at the idea that in alanon meetings, people are often cheerful, willing to accept program, and hopeful it will work for them. But what do we present to the alcoholic and our children? Do we scowl, scold...	Lyne	4	2620	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change, 10/30 (Preview) The idea of being grateful to be involved with an alcoholic -- that seemed crazy to the author of today's page. It was unbelievable that people in Al-Anon seemed to be happy despite their problems -- the same problems the author had. Now, the author is a grateful member of Al-Anon. They had to hit bott...	Freetime	8	2695	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	COURAGE TO CHANGE SATURDAY 10/31 (Preview) I am starting off today backwards... Today's Reminder - "Al-Anon is a program in which we find spiritual solutions to the things we are powerless to change. Today, instead of seeking relief from fear by trying to do battle with it, I will turn to my Higher Power.' Quote: "That the birds of worry and car...	PosiesandPuppies	4	298	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	C2C - 10/29 (Preview) Greetings MIP family. Today's reading talks about how we (and others) can justify our own unkindness or interfering where we had no business - and how easy it is to do so, and/or be offended. The author shares about unkind words from another she cares about - weight related. When she expressed how i...	Iamhere	3	2390	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change November 4 (Preview) In today's reading, the author shares a strategy they use when faced with unpleasant realities. Rather than avoiding disappointments, sometimes the only way to achieve serenity is to be willing to accept things that we cannot change. The author's sponsor suggested that back-up plans are a good st...	Skorpi	4	625	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	I don't like pain. (Preview) I think my HP has been very very gentle and patient with me allowing me to acknowledge that truth to myself. I don't like pain, I'm scared of it and it hurts. I bought myself a $35 bottle of Marlborough Savigngon a few days ago, knowing full well it was an attempt to deny what I was doing. (A fuctioning succ...	a4l	15	2236	Nov 5, 2020 by Maresie888
	it feels so good when I'm honest. (Preview) The other day I Facebook messaged (bad idea to begin with, lol!) a very old friend to tell her I was really enjoying seeing pictures she posts of her new kitten. I told her I was thinking of getting one myself, because I have been. She never responded. I looked the next day and she had read my message. I a...	anewdayeveryday	3	868	Nov 4, 2020 by Maresie888
	11/3/20 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's Courage to Change page notes the value of coming to AlAnon and being heard after perhaps feeling trapped, desperate, and isolated. A healthy balance eventually emerges when our shares do not dominate meeting time or dive into deeply personal matters. The Traditions suggest that the wellb...	Enigmatic	4	274	Nov 3, 2020 by Iamhere
	Feeling Terrified (Preview) I feel overwhelming fear. It's choking me. Traditionally in relationships, the fear gets me and I run back to what hurts MD because it's familiar. But now today I can't do it even if I want to because I literally can't. I don't know why but it's like every part of my being goes, dead end ahead, dead end ahea...	a4l	16	1402	Nov 2, 2020 by Maresie888
	How important is it? (Preview) Compared to more important things I have realized things are not as important as sometimes they seem. The fact that I am alive & fairly healthy is far more important than petty things like which way the toilet paper should go or where something has to go. Mind you I believe that everything has a plac...	Hoot Nanny	4	291	Nov 2, 2020 by Lyne
	My recovery process (Preview) I am struggling this morning. Sleep is minimal. I have been here before. It feels uncomfortable but I do have choices. My Mom dying has greatly effected me if course but now it comes down to me & working the program. I will trust in my Higher Power to help me through this but I have to do the footwork. I k...	Hoot Nanny	3	1189	Nov 1, 2020 by Maresie888
	Saturday Share.... (Preview) We have a new member here... in my first group- if we had a new members, or members, we would do a Step One meeting. Basically where everyone could share their ESH- as it was on that day... ...I use social media a lot. I embraced facebook. Our community had doubled in size over the last four years. A...	DavidG	6	1316	Oct 30, 2020 by Maresie888
	Courage to Change October 28 (Preview) In today's reading, the author reflects on how their attitude toward others tends to return to them. If the author is impatient with others, they find they are even less patient with themselves and the world. If they are unkind to someone, defensiveness follows as the author expects others to be unki...	Skorpi	5	541	Oct 29, 2020 by PosiesandPuppies
	One of my recovery girls OD'd yesterday (Preview) She was four years sober and attended our recovery groups at the church for quite some time...Live at the recovery center here in town and b4 Covid hit she had JUST gotten her new flat and was so excited to not have to live with mom anymore... yesterday, she OD'd and left behind 4 babies, all under 6 years o...	mamalioness	9	1702	Oct 28, 2020 by mikeco
	10/27/20 ODAT Rome Was Not Built in a Day (Preview) Today's page from One Day at a Time in AlAnon draws inspiration from the slogan Easy Does It: We can not, nor should not, try to work on too many recovery concepts at once lest we become overwhelmed and discouraged.We are encouraged to take a single AlAnon recovery concept we read or hear, meditate on it...	Enigmatic	4	886	Oct 28, 2020 by Enigmatic
	Easier softer way (Preview) In the preamble to AA the sentence is #many of us tried to find an easier softer way# Most certainly many of my relationships with alcoholics were about trying to find an easier softer way. I pursued the whole notion of this vision of an easier softer way even when the relationship with the alcoholic w...	Maresie888	2	874	Oct 27, 2020 by JerryF
	C2C, 10/26 (Preview) The reading for Monday, 10/26, reflects upon others criticism and unkind words which would cripple them for days. It did not occur to the writer that this was abuse and could even be untrue. They felt shame and suffered low self-esteem. And at times, the writer would respond in kind, hurting other...	Lyne	2	886	Oct 27, 2020 by Iamhere
	Grief/Letting up painful feelings (Preview) Hi family. I'm new here. Have been carrying around 55 lbs of inflammation on my body for over year. It started in my stomach (gut). I believe I am very sensitive to what some call "narcissistic" abuse. I get inflamed when I've been exposed to too much of it. I looked up the word "inflamed" and it said "an...	anewdayeveryday	17	1851	Oct 25, 2020 by DavidG
	Hope for Today Oct 25 (Preview) Good morning Everyone; Todays reading begins with the reaction we have when something surprises us: Wow! The writer describes this as a response to the beauty of a brand new day. What strikes the writer is the understanding that the blue sky, fall foliage and beauty of the day was not because of any...	yanksfan51	2	1056	Oct 25, 2020 by Iamhere
	COURAGE TO CHANGE 10/24 (Preview) "The process of recovery in Al-Anon has been likened to peeling an onion. We peel away a layer at a time, often shedding a few tears as we do. But recovery always makes me think of the bark of a birch tree. The birch's bark is necessary for protection, yet as the tree grows, the bark peels away gradually on...	PosiesandPuppies	4	278	Oct 24, 2020 by Iamhere
	worse week so far... (Preview) This is the worst week so far since my mom's passing & a week after the memorial service. As some of you know that I am grieving in all kinds of ways. There is no way exactly to grieve as I am told. Now I feel like an orphan. I feel lost & lonely w/o my parents but I have been OK. A few bouts w/long periods...	Hoot Nanny	5	816	Oct 24, 2020 by JerryF
	Newbie (Preview) Hello Everyone Thank you for this forum. I am new here, new to Al Anon and newly married and new to Some devastating new things I discovered about my husband recently. I've no one to talk to, and it's probably wiser. I'm not sure how this forum works or if my registration details are anonymous but I thou...	MrsS	13	2682	Oct 24, 2020 by Maresie888
	Each one of us is precious. (Preview) I think that this is a part of my Step 12. I wrote this this morning as a part of a facebook forum: Growing up in New Zealand. The producer of the short movie below- is clearly an adult child in his work. This year he actually picked up an Oscar in America!. You really don't grow up- in a situation like th...	DavidG	1	1386	Oct 24, 2020 by Lyne
	Hope for Today, October 23 (Preview) The October 23 reading in Hope for Today is about "God as we understood Him." The author started out with a restrictive, one-true-religion and a judging God that was all about punishment. Coming to Al-Anon showed a whole new vision. People with differing beliefs were friendly to one another and di...	Freetime	5	1294	Oct 23, 2020 by Iamhere
	C2C - 10/21 (Preview) Posting early as I am headed to golf in the morning. The reminder: In an alcoholic environment, I had good reasons to hide my feelings, making light of serious situations, overworking, overplaying, managing to focus on everything but myself. Today I have other options. I can begin to listen to...	Iamhere	5	1320	Oct 22, 2020 by Maresie888
	Another Alanon share... (Preview) I am looking forward to f2f meetings towards the end of the year. My nearest group is 30 mins away. I have never really been a regular member- but go to 6 or 8 meetings a year. I think it is the goody-two-shoes in me still- knowing that flitting in and out of a group does not create trust. We had some grea...	DavidG	4	2932	Oct 22, 2020 by DavidG
	The trade secret of John F. founder of the MIP groups... (Preview) We kiwis came from a far flung nook of the world. So, hey, we had to be fairly self-reliant away over there. There is a myth that we can make almost anything out of a piece of No. 8 wire... ...having been a farmer, of sorts, ah kin attest to that. I am still the owner of two wiltshire ewes- in a paddock ...	DavidG	5	836	Oct 21, 2020 by DavidG
	Courage to Change October 21 (Preview) The author of today's reading reflects on what to do when in doubt. When in doubt, wise Al-Anon members have suggested that the author ask their higher power for clarity and help, and to trust that the request will be granted when the time is right. Today's Reminder: After years of asking only for a par...	Skorpi	8	1270	Oct 21, 2020 by Maresie888
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