Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is about how we make choices and decisions. Forethought -- including kindness toward other people affected by the decision -- will result in decisions we can live with comfortably. If we are feeling angry or agitated, it is wise to wait until the feeling has subsided so that we can ca...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading focuses on Alanon's Step 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Alanon member in this reading goes for a walk with their sponsor before an Alanon meeting to discuss their understanding of this step. They tell their sponsor that they know...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us. TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a concern they had about the love of their Higher Power. They feared that there was not enough love and guidance to go around. One day at the beach, the author noticed that no mater how many people there were, there was enough sun for everyone to enjoy. Th...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi, on reading this reading, the person says that there was enough of God's love and guidance to go around to everyone, especially to the ones who seek it. They went on to say that theirs was tested one night when someone else in the Meeting spoke about their Higher Power with intensity, personal love th...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Step 1, admitting we are powerless is often thought of as the most challenging, but today's writer suggests Step 2's part-time sanity acknowledgement gets Honorable Mention.We can turn simple issues into 7-magnitude quakes and lose perspective completely, as if we would do better with more worr...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

I saw some leaves today that are more like the October foliage Im used to! Enjoy

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that alanon brings about changes in peoples lives because it has a secret: it is built on the fundamental ethical philosophy which has been around for ages. It is stated in widely different books including the Bible and fables of Aesop and it is about dealing gently with our fellowme...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about being sure that the nightmare would be over once the alcoholic they loved got sober. But without the tranquilising effect of alcohol, she became verbally abusive. She accused, attacked, insulted and the author always defended themself. It seemed crucial that the AP u...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading deals with the interpretation of some words and phrases from the program and how our understanding might evolve over the years. The writer describes hearing defects of character and shortcomings from steps 6 and 7; the writer heard these words as ways that he/...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today tells of the experience of a newcomer to Alanon who learns that in Alanon one's higher power need not be defined by past understanding of a higher power. In Alanon, members learn that they have choices. Each individual in the program can embrace a higher power of their choosing...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on precious moments. As a child, the author would spend lengthy amounts of time watching a caterpillar crawl, just in case it were to do something spectacular. The caterpillar never did, however the author didn't mind because simply watching the...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that as we work the Al-Anon program to improve our peace of mind, we make an effort to understand our own drives and motivations, and to correct those that are hampering us. If we have the courage to face the emotions and behaviors that are hampering us, and we can do it without lett...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading warns us not to take anyone's inventory but our own. Though we may feel our troubles are caused by the alcoholic and we want to justify our actions and deny fault, we should take a closer look at how we handle things. We may see that we could have reacted differently, and may, in fact, have...

WendyP · WendyP

Hi I am asking for some support, as I have recently found that Alcoholism has raised it's ugly head in one of my beloved Family members, and I am feeling the effects of it all. It doesn't matter how long I have been in Al-Anon and working my program, it still hurts, a lot, and I find because I have the knowle...

Fedora · Fedora

Recently some friends alerted me to social media post my ex had made; they were concerned that he was becoming unhinged and wanted to know if I knew that. Curiosity got the better of me so I went back to his FB page. He had made a number of long posts taking potshots at me and "everyone who had abandoned him f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

This is for PNP and anyone else who isnt able to see changing leaves in person. Not the greatest pic But a tree right outside of my classroom. Happy fall, Everyone! Mary

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...

WendyP · WendyP

Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...

Lyne · Lyne

(Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...

JerryF · JerryF

I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Happy Birthday Debb! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with things that give you happiness. Grateful you're a part of our MIP recovery family. (((hugs)) T T

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Well... I guess I have a job. I have had to go through a lot of hoops to secure this contract. I still don't have "official" word that I have the position. But this afternoon FedEx brought two boxes of computer equipment to my door so I'm going to take that as official word. The job is through an outside recr...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's reader talks about the importance of service and how it brings them into contact with newcomers. The author shares that they can get caught up in the trivial problems of everyday life and lose perspective, but talking with newcomers brings them back to reality. When they set out literature,...

Bbrave · Bbrave

Today we are given a story; one we have heard many times. A man marries a woman who is an alcoholic and his life descends into misery because he cannot change her. When he discovers Al-Anon, he realizes that the only way forward is to change himself. For whatever reason, perhaps because the wife no longe...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's writer shares that when they have racing thoughts and feel they are in chaos, sometimes serenity is just a phone call away. Having someone else acknowledge what is happening, immediately diminishes its effect. The mind becomes more orderly, and the writer is able to decide to set their tro...

WebHelper · WebHelper

Greetings MIP family. I am looking for a co-helper to assist with the Webhelper position. Self nominations and a vote will take place on the business board. Hopefully we will get some volunteers. If you are interested, the link is available below. Please check the business board here: https://mi...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading speaks about physical violence. Some alcoholics become abusive, especially when they drink. The author shares that Al-Anon gives no advice regarding relationships. It is up to each Al-Anon member to decide for themselves when to continue a relationship and when to en...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Just enough, says today's author; we learn that alcoholism: * Is devastating to health, spirituality, and happiness· * Has no cure, but can be arrested when the alcoholic is ready· * Is associated with, but is not the cause of, our own irrational behavior and decline. * And fina...

Lyne · Lyne

For Monday, 9/27, the writer reflects upon if only they could know whats to come, have infinite wisdom, and the knowledge of how to spend each moment.But in meetings they are reminded we can only work with what we have today. And perhaps it is better off not knowing, because our focus would be trying to o...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about an Alanon member who is obsessing about a visit from their parents. They are concerned about their parents judgement of their live, their way of living. They recall an obsessive battle to perfect their life, home and yard and that this struggle caused them to feel distanced f...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning everyone: Todays reading is especially helpful to those of us who are adult children of alcoholics. The writer describes her attempts to create a perfect family when she got married at age 20. Her parents had divorced, and she was determined to have a marriage that thrived. As problems c...

texas yankee · texas yankee

My up and down and sometimes sideways situation with my adult son (alcohol, drugs, and mental health issues) about which I've received a lot of very helpful ESH from you wonderful folks, is going OK - for today - tomorrow will be here soon enough, but for today, things seem to be going OK - LOL, I was relax...

Bettertomorrow · Bettertomorrow

Today's author talks about taking Step Three over and over again. They reflect that they often wait until a problem becomes overwhelming before finally giving in and turning it over to their Higher Power. However they also reflect that the awareness they have gained in Al-Anon lets them know that...

Freetime · Freetime

Today's reading is by someone who viewed their experiences with alcoholism as a technicolor extravaganza on a big screen, with their name in lights. It seemed like a big, splashy story. They told it again and again, until they realized it had become smaller, like a home movie. Now, instead of being...

Bbrave · Bbrave

We suffer from delusions that we "run the show." Despite lots of evidence that this is not so, we keep trying to run things. We must detach and look inward. TODAY'S REMINDER: I will try not to outmaneuver anyone else, but will proceed quietly to live my life so I will have less reason for self-reproach. I...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...

JerryF · JerryF

Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...

JerryF · JerryF

Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...

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	October 29 - ODAT - Pause (Preview) Today's reading is about how we make choices and decisions. Forethought -- including kindness toward other people affected by the decision -- will result in decisions we can live with comfortably. If we are feeling angry or agitated, it is wise to wait until the feeling has subsided so that we can ca...	Freetime	3	1066	Oct 31, 2021 by Enigmatic
	OCTOBER 30TH HOPE FOR TODAY - TRUST (Preview) Today's reading focuses on Alanon's Step 2 - Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. The Alanon member in this reading goes for a walk with their sponsor before an Alanon meeting to discuss their understanding of this step. They tell their sponsor that they know...	tiredtonite	2	2341	Oct 30, 2021 by Freetime
	Oct. 28, ODAT - Poor Me! (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us. TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choi...	Bbrave	3	2126	Oct 28, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Courage to Change October 27 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares a concern they had about the love of their Higher Power. They feared that there was not enough love and guidance to go around. One day at the beach, the author noticed that no mater how many people there were, there was enough sun for everyone to enjoy. Th...	Skorpi	3	2610	Oct 27, 2021 by Daffodils
	Courage To Change Oct, 27th. (Preview) Hi, on reading this reading, the person says that there was enough of God's love and guidance to go around to everyone, especially to the ones who seek it. They went on to say that theirs was tested one night when someone else in the Meeting spoke about their Higher Power with intensity, personal love th...	WendyP	2	2153	Oct 27, 2021 by DM2021
	10/26/21 ODAT The Insanity of our Magic Problem Magnifier (Preview) Step 1, admitting we are powerless is often thought of as the most challenging, but today's writer suggests Step 2's part-time sanity acknowledgement gets Honorable Mention.We can turn simple issues into 7-magnitude quakes and lose perspective completely, as if we would do better with more worr...	Enigmatic	3	1916	Oct 26, 2021 by Daffodils
	Today’s fall colors (Preview) I saw some leaves today that are more like the October foliage Im used to! Enjoy	yanksfan51	4	2521	Oct 25, 2021 by WendyP
	ODAT in alanon, 10/25, alanon’s secret (Preview) The writer says that alanon brings about changes in peoples lives because it has a secret: it is built on the fundamental ethical philosophy which has been around for ages. It is stated in widely different books including the Bible and fables of Aesop and it is about dealing gently with our fellowme...	Lyne	3	1355	Oct 25, 2021 by JerryF
	23rd Oct C2C (Preview) Today's author talks about being sure that the nightmare would be over once the alcoholic they loved got sober. But without the tranquilising effect of alcohol, she became verbally abusive. She accused, attacked, insulted and the author always defended themself. It seemed crucial that the AP u...	Bettertomorrow	4	799	Oct 25, 2021 by JerryF
	Oct 24 Hope for Today (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading deals with the interpretation of some words and phrases from the program and how our understanding might evolve over the years. The writer describes hearing defects of character and shortcomings from steps 6 and 7; the writer heard these words as ways that he/...	yanksfan51	3	1132	Oct 24, 2021 by DM2021
	October 23 Hope for Today - Higher Power (Preview) Today's Hope for Today tells of the experience of a newcomer to Alanon who learns that in Alanon one's higher power need not be defined by past understanding of a higher power. In Alanon, members learn that they have choices. Each individual in the program can embrace a higher power of their choosing...	tiredtonite	2	2726	Oct 23, 2021 by Freetime
	Courage to Change October 20 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author reflects on precious moments. As a child, the author would spend lengthy amounts of time watching a caterpillar crawl, just in case it were to do something spectacular. The caterpillar never did, however the author didn't mind because simply watching the...	Skorpi	2	2587	Oct 23, 2021 by Lyne
	October 22 - ODAT - Self-Understanding (Preview) Today's writer shares that as we work the Al-Anon program to improve our peace of mind, we make an effort to understand our own drives and motivations, and to correct those that are hampering us. If we have the courage to face the emotions and behaviors that are hampering us, and we can do it without lett...	Freetime	3	1050	Oct 22, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct. 21, ODAT - MY inventory (Preview) Today's reading warns us not to take anyone's inventory but our own. Though we may feel our troubles are caused by the alcoholic and we want to justify our actions and deny fault, we should take a closer look at how we handle things. We may see that we could have reacted differently, and may, in fact, have...	Bbrave	3	1106	Oct 21, 2021 by Freetime
	I need so support (Preview) Hi I am asking for some support, as I have recently found that Alcoholism has raised it's ugly head in one of my beloved Family members, and I am feeling the effects of it all. It doesn't matter how long I have been in Al-Anon and working my program, it still hurts, a lot, and I find because I have the knowle...	WendyP	6	2752	Oct 21, 2021 by WendyP
	distance bringing more clarity ... recognizing insanity was so hard in the moment but easier now (Preview) Recently some friends alerted me to social media post my ex had made; they were concerned that he was becoming unhinged and wanted to know if I knew that. Curiosity got the better of me so I went back to his FB page. He had made a number of long posts taking potshots at me and "everyone who had abandoned him f...	Fedora	6	771	Oct 20, 2021 by JerryF
	New England foliage (Preview) This is for PNP and anyone else who isnt able to see changing leaves in person. Not the greatest pic But a tree right outside of my classroom. Happy fall, Everyone! Mary	yanksfan51	4	610	Oct 19, 2021 by Daffodils
	10/19 ODAT Don’t Fight the Windmills (Preview) Today's contributor points to the classic Don Quixote tale of errantly directed effort. Self proclaiming as a hero, he mistakes windmills for threatening giants and exhausts himself in the futile attempt to slay them.We, too, can pick fights with imaginary, or undefeatable targets.Reminder - D...	Enigmatic	1	760	Oct 19, 2021 by DM2021
	Grieving for what is lost (Preview) Dear fellow MIP friends, I am struggling emotionally. My AH and I separated two months ago and I am now living on my own with my four wonderful children. The challenge is that I know 'logically' we are in the right place and I have made the right decision, but I am not feeling it. I still feel profoundly s...	Bettertomorrow	6	1131	Oct 18, 2021 by bud
	C2C, Monday, 10/18, have I forgotten what I learned? (Preview) The writer brings up the idea that sometimes it feels as though they have forgotten what they learned in program. For example if they havent practiced detachment for quite a while, it can feel as though they forgot what they knew. Its not that they have forgotten. The situation may be the same, but w...	Lyne	3	3490	Oct 18, 2021 by bud
	October 15 - ODAT - Judgment and Control (Preview) Today's reading points out that newcomers to Al-Anon are often distraught, overwhelmed, and doing all the things we in the program have learned not to do -- manipulating, complaining, trying to outwit the alcoholic, etc. But we need to remember not to judge the newcomers or try to force decisions on...	Freetime	2	3646	Oct 18, 2021 by DM2021
	October 16 Hope for Today (Preview) Today's reading tells a story of a couple of ducks who are separated from others by a patch of ice on a frozen lake and their struggle to join others. The larger group of ducks had busily swam and reached a large open area of water. One of the two isolated ducks tried to scramble over the patch of ice that sep...	tiredtonite	3	676	Oct 18, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 17 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about the ability to separate the alcoholism from the person in our lives. In my case, I should say for so much of the time- the inability to separate the alcoholism from the person. The writer describes a perception she had of her alcoholic father that reduce...	yanksfan51	3	3029	Oct 17, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	C2C - self care 16th October (posted by mistake in the forum) (Preview) Sorry - I posted this by accident in the forum - so am reposting here.Today's reading talks about the importance of self care. The author talks about facing a stressful situation or tackling a tough problem and once they have done everything they can for the moment, they instead do something that wil...	Bettertomorrow	2	2914	Oct 17, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct. 14, ODAT - Getting what we want (Preview) Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run. TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more gene...	Bbrave	2	3682	Oct 14, 2021 by DM2021
	Thursdays - ODAT (Preview) Hi Everyone, My schedule has suddenly got crazy busy. Is anyone willing to take over Thursdays One Day At a Time posts?	Bbrave	0	2465	Oct 13, 2021 by Bbrave
	Courage to Change October 13 (Preview) Hello MIP! In today's reading, the author shares that Al-Anon meeting opened their eyes to something they had not considered before: shouting and slamming doors might not be the best way to handle an already difficult situation. Loud and angry actions demonstrated the author's frustration and p...	Skorpi	2	2382	Oct 13, 2021 by Daffodils
	October 9 Hope for Today - Facing the Past (Preview) Today's Hope for Today falls under the topic "Facing the Past," in our reader. The reading speaks about fear of confrontation. It talks about the before recovery experiences of an Alanon member who was raised in a home with alcoholism. It then tells of the positive changes the member made as a result f...	tiredtonite	2	3549	Oct 13, 2021 by Lyne
	10/12/21 C2C Wear Sunscreen so I Don’t Get Sunburned (Preview) Today's contributor discussed the negative impact of 'needing' a partner to change in order to find contentment. This and other concepts became part of the unlearning that is a valuable part of Alanon recovery.Willingness and ability to adapt to what is while sourcing our contentment from an inne...	Enigmatic	4	3139	Oct 13, 2021 by Enigmatic
	ODAT in alanon, 10/11, managing others (Preview) The reading for Monday speaks to the times when we wish to manage others: directing, admonishing, dont wear that, time for church, dont take the car, and on and on. This kind of attitude deprives others from their freedom of choice and dignity. Under the guise of doing good, we can act like a mother t...	Lyne	2	2403	Oct 11, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Hope for Today Oct 10 (Preview) Good morning everyone- Todays reading is about step one; its about recognizing and accepting powerlessness and about recognizing when life has become unmanageable. The writer describes step one by acknowledging that sometimes it is helpful to try and see the unmanageable part before acceptin...	yanksfan51	4	2936	Oct 11, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Oct 9th C2C - Powerlessness and letting go (Preview) Today's author talks about originally viewing God as their adversary and engaging in a battle of wills, which rapidly led them to an emotional rock bottom. They came to Al-Anon but were reluctant to admit they were powerless. Eventually, with Al-Anon's help they learned how to surrender and final...	Bettertomorrow	3	3095	Oct 10, 2021 by JerryF
	It has been a year(september 30th) (Preview) It has been a whole year since my mom died. I am feeling the after effects of visiting my mom's grave twice in one week. I am not particularly sad at the moment. I am just tired. I guess that is par for the course after dealing so much w/ grief. I am so glad that I can honor her once a year. Our service for my siste...	Hoot Nanny	3	2630	Oct 9, 2021 by DM2021
	October 8 - C2C - Miracles (Preview) Today's writer shares that they are aware of miracles happening in their life -- and it is gratitude that makes it possible to see those miracles. Being guided to Al-Anon when they felt hopeless was a miracle, and they found healing among people who had been in the same situation. Anything from havin...	Freetime	2	2427	Oct 9, 2021 by DM2021
	Visiting the Power Of the Serenity Prayer again. (Preview) Thank You Paul for your sharing, I always look at God's Timing, and it is once again "spot on" for me. As I was only thinking to myself the other day, after I was talking to my God, with my Prayer List,[ which is becoming longer and longer], especially the my Family members, and the other people who I care ab...	WendyP	1	3278	Oct 8, 2021 by WendyP
	Oct. 7, ODAT - Let there be light (Preview) Before Al-Anon, life was like stumbling around in a dark room. Al-Anon gave me the power to turn the light on and to see clearly the difficulties and the good. ------------ Today's reading was short, though not as short as I have suggested above. I am currently in the grips of a family crisis and I cannot...	Bbrave	3	3621	Oct 7, 2021 by JerryF
	October 2nd Hope for Today From Fear of Failure to Courage (Preview) Today's Hope for Today reading tells the story of an Alanon member's growing up years with an alcoholic parent. The parent spoke directly to them through their alcoholism making what the alcoholic believed to be negative statements about the child and the child's future. The Alanon member wanted...	tiredtonite	3	2691	Oct 6, 2021 by Lyne
	10/5/21 ODAT – Power of the Serenity Prayer (Preview) Words can become familiar and routine to us rather than significant and meaningful, even the Serenity Prayer, one of the most powerful Alanon tools.This writer suggests giving attention and thought to the words as we say them to increase our understanding and ability recognize the difference and...	Enigmatic	4	4775	Oct 5, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C, Monday, 10/4, I am not alone (Preview) (Sorry for such an early posting for tomorrow.) The writer of this passage says we should try to concentrate on our similarities, not our differences. If we realize why we are all here, we need never feel alone. Many came to the rooms feeling we were set apart by our circumstances, leading to fear, sh...	Lyne	4	2482	Oct 5, 2021 by Freetime
	And then there is literature... (Preview) I am reminded this morning of the many tools I have from our program as my wife hands me the current FORUM monthly magazine. I am amazed and grateful for this tool when I sit down avoiding what might be distracting me and getting to the shares in this little monthly. I am not finished with this issue bec...	JerryF	2	3073	Oct 4, 2021 by DM2021
	Hope for Today Oct 3 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is about accepting that we cannot force solutions or make changes to anyone other than ourselves. The writer describes what it looks like when a young child is trying to do a puzzle; if the piece doesnt fit they try to force it anyway, pushing with all their might...	yanksfan51	3	2302	Oct 3, 2021 by PosiesandPuppies
	Happy Birthday DM (Preview) Happy Birthday Debb! Wishing you a beautiful day filled with things that give you happiness. Grateful you're a part of our MIP recovery family. (((hugs)) T T	tiredtonite	8	2472	Oct 3, 2021 by DM2021
	Sharing Good News (Preview) Well... I guess I have a job. I have had to go through a lot of hoops to secure this contract. I still don't have "official" word that I have the position. But this afternoon FedEx brought two boxes of computer equipment to my door so I'm going to take that as official word. The job is through an outside recr...	tiredtonite	5	924	Oct 2, 2021 by Iamhere
	2nd Oct 2021, C2C - the importance of service (Preview) Today's reader talks about the importance of service and how it brings them into contact with newcomers. The author shares that they can get caught up in the trivial problems of everyday life and lose perspective, but talking with newcomers brings them back to reality. When they set out literature,...	Bettertomorrow	3	2259	Oct 2, 2021 by DM2021
	Sept. 30, ODAT - Story Time (Preview) Today we are given a story; one we have heard many times. A man marries a woman who is an alcoholic and his life descends into misery because he cannot change her. When he discovers Al-Anon, he realizes that the only way forward is to change himself. For whatever reason, perhaps because the wife no longe...	Bbrave	3	995	Oct 1, 2021 by JerryF
	October 1 - C2C - Reaching Out (Preview) Today's writer shares that when they have racing thoughts and feel they are in chaos, sometimes serenity is just a phone call away. Having someone else acknowledge what is happening, immediately diminishes its effect. The mind becomes more orderly, and the writer is able to decide to set their tro...	Freetime	3	2300	Oct 1, 2021 by JerryF
	Call for service: Co-share the Webhelper role. (Preview) Greetings MIP family. I am looking for a co-helper to assist with the Webhelper position. Self nominations and a vote will take place on the business board. Hopefully we will get some volunteers. If you are interested, the link is available below. Please check the business board here: https://mi...	WebHelper	4	761	Sep 30, 2021 by DM2021
	Courage to Change Sept. 29 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading speaks about physical violence. Some alcoholics become abusive, especially when they drink. The author shares that Al-Anon gives no advice regarding relationships. It is up to each Al-Anon member to decide for themselves when to continue a relationship and when to en...	Skorpi	4	647	Sep 29, 2021 by JerryF
	9/28/21 ODAT – What Do We Learn About Alcoholism in AlAnon? (Preview) Just enough, says today's author; we learn that alcoholism: * Is devastating to health, spirituality, and happiness· * Has no cure, but can be arrested when the alcoholic is ready· * Is associated with, but is not the cause of, our own irrational behavior and decline. * And fina...	Enigmatic	5	1626	Sep 28, 2021 by JerryF
	C2C, 9/27, if only (Preview) For Monday, 9/27, the writer reflects upon if only they could know whats to come, have infinite wisdom, and the knowledge of how to spend each moment.But in meetings they are reminded we can only work with what we have today. And perhaps it is better off not knowing, because our focus would be trying to o...	Lyne	2	1003	Sep 27, 2021 by DM2021
	September 25th Hope for Today - Control (Preview) Today's reading is about an Alanon member who is obsessing about a visit from their parents. They are concerned about their parents judgement of their live, their way of living. They recall an obsessive battle to perfect their life, home and yard and that this struggle caused them to feel distanced f...	tiredtonite	1	2766	Sep 27, 2021 by Lyne
	Hope for Today Sept 26 (Preview) Good morning everyone: Todays reading is especially helpful to those of us who are adult children of alcoholics. The writer describes her attempts to create a perfect family when she got married at age 20. Her parents had divorced, and she was determined to have a marriage that thrived. As problems c...	yanksfan51	4	723	Sep 26, 2021 by Iamhere
	"asking for a friend" - really . . . (separating finances) (Preview) My up and down and sometimes sideways situation with my adult son (alcohol, drugs, and mental health issues) about which I've received a lot of very helpful ESH from you wonderful folks, is going OK - for today - tomorrow will be here soon enough, but for today, things seem to be going OK - LOL, I was relax...	texas yankee	4	2302	Sep 25, 2021 by texas yankee
	Sept 25th C2C Step 3 (Preview) Today's author talks about taking Step Three over and over again. They reflect that they often wait until a problem becomes overwhelming before finally giving in and turning it over to their Higher Power. However they also reflect that the awareness they have gained in Al-Anon lets them know that...	Bettertomorrow	1	1330	Sep 25, 2021 by DM2021
	September 24 - C2C - True Perspective (Preview) Today's reading is by someone who viewed their experiences with alcoholism as a technicolor extravaganza on a big screen, with their name in lights. It seemed like a big, splashy story. They told it again and again, until they realized it had become smaller, like a home movie. Now, instead of being...	Freetime	3	2407	Sep 24, 2021 by Daffodils
	Sept. 23, ODAT - Delusions (Preview) We suffer from delusions that we "run the show." Despite lots of evidence that this is not so, we keep trying to run things. We must detach and look inward. TODAY'S REMINDER: I will try not to outmaneuver anyone else, but will proceed quietly to live my life so I will have less reason for self-reproach. I...	Bbrave	4	1455	Sep 23, 2021 by Daffodils
	Courage to Change September 22 (Preview) Hello MIP! Today's reading is about the 5th step: admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. (I like to re-write this one: admitted to our Higher Power...") This sharing is very intimate, and many have found the experience of sharing to be freeing. For th...	Skorpi	1	2446	Sep 22, 2021 by Freetime
	If you keep an open mind.... (Preview) Practice, practice, practice. Just got back from viewing a mobile home that was gifted to us by my brother-in-law. Open mindedness?? When you turn and leave outcomes up to Higher Power and also remain ready to be generous and caring with and to others special things come to pass and for me it is not...	JerryF	4	1382	Sep 22, 2021 by DM2021
	9/21/21 ODAT - It Can't Be Me...Can It? (Preview) Today's page looks at an early tendency to think we are exceptions, that perhaps the steps don't apply to us. I'm not truly powerless, my life is not unmanageable, no need for me to return to sanity...right?As we begin to understand the meaning of the steps and are able to be more honest, however, we se...	Enigmatic	2	1234	Sep 21, 2021 by DM2021
	Being Human and needing a Higher Power (Preview) Yep I know "needing a Higher Power". I thought that I had some powerful stuff going for me based upon my past, my history. Early program was an incredible adventure for me and my life as I experience miracles and had a tight relationship with our program and Higher Power. I have had progressive mira...	JerryF	8	782	Sep 20, 2021 by JerryF
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