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Post Info TOPIC: Oct. 14, ODAT - Getting what we want

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Oct. 14, ODAT - Getting what we want

Today's reading reminds us that we came to Al-Anon to get something for ourselves, but had no idea how that was intimately involved with giving. Our willingness to help others, our sharing and giving of ourselves benefits US in the long run.

TODAY'S REMINDER: The more I give of myself and the more generously I open my heart and my mind to others, the more growth I will experience as I deal with my problems.


Well friends, I am still very much in the getting mode! I went for a walk last week with a woman from my local Al-Anon group. And, sure, I shared with her, but I was so interested in who she was and what she had to tell me. Other friends in the program and many of you strike me the same way.

I get so much from others. It takes some courage to put my thoughts out there, and humility to listen intently for wisdom in living (you know, cause I think, What's so hard about that?) and grace, I guess to just yield the floor in some instances. But wow, I find myself on the receiving end way more often than not.

When I have been in the program longer, I hope I will be able to do the same for others. I hear long-time members gently helping others along, giving strength and hope, giving service and even in some cases, practical, physical help - I hope that's me one day.


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Thanks Bbrave for your service today. At times I do need a lot, but I'm always ready and willing to help others. After 36 yrs in the field of mental health, some of my giving is second nature. But I think I had this tendency early on. Helping/giving to someone else seems to strengthen me and gives me good self-esteem. That's not the reason I do it, but it's a wonderful fringe benefit. I try to choose behaviors that bring me self-respect and self-esteem. I try to treat others as I wish to be treated. There are still many lessons for me to learn from our program. I'm a work in progress. Grateful.



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Thanks so much for your service bbrave and to you and lyne for your wonderful shares. I'm grateful for everyone's experience, strength and hope of others in the program. I'm reminded that it's through others that higher power communicates to me through the sharings of others in the program the things for which I'm ready. I release myself of responsibility to personally carry the message to others and believe others have their own HP and I can only continue to be who I am with what I have when communicating. Of course my hope is that our mutual exchange can aid each of our recoveries if possible. There have been times when others in Alanon have later told me that something I said had really helped them. I have no clue how but of course HP puts me where I will be of best use. I can also say the same concerning how others have helped me by way of their es&h, being a good listener, giving a hug both in person and cyber, their loving support and encouragement. I'm very grateful for our fellowship. ((hugs))) TT


Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.

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I thank you as well Bbrave for your service, today's reading and to you, Lyne and TT for all your shared ESH.

There is no doubt, for me, that when I give of myself I get back so much more, because what I share only

re-enforces what Al-Anon stands for and teaches. Grateful member!! Happy Thursday {{MIP Family}}!!


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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