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Oct. 28, ODAT - Poor Me!

Today's reading reminds us that when we are feeling overwhelmed, sometimes giving in to a poor me attitude, and try to change our thinking about it all, we may not have the success expected. We should concentrate solely on the day in front of us.

TODAY'S REMINDER: This day is mine. It is unique. The choice of how to fill it and with what is mine alone.

"Today is my special gift from God. How will I use it? The less I let others affect it, the more serene and satisfying it will be for me."


I admit to feelings of poor me quite often. When I am overwhelmed by circumstances/people outside my control, I forget to take back each day as it comes.

This is a good reminder that every day should start by claiming it for ME!

Someone reminded me recently that I actually have a right to personal peace. The only caveat is that it is up to me to make sure my rights are a priority. If I am mired in poor me, I cannot stand up for my right to peace, or joy, or hope.


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Bbrave, thanks for your service and share. I am guilty of having many pity parties for myself. Program is helping me learn to turn things around. I learned that the way I feel at this moment is not necessarily how I have to feel the entire day. One very important thing I learned on this board was maybe 7-8 years ago. A person shared that she had resigned from the Doormat Club. I took that right in and became a member. I alone have to/want to step up to give myself boundaries and a good day. Yes it's a lot of work, but worth it.



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Thanks bbrave for your service and share. I've grown to be grateful for every day I'm given and value my serenity. The Alanon program gives me so many tools at my fingertips to use if I feel my gratitude for the day I've been given slipping. I can use the Serenity Prayer to regain emotional balance, call sponsor or another in the program, read some Alanon literature. I can begin my day over with use of these and other recovery actions. Of course I can become overwhelmed and fall into "poor me" mow and again but l can unstick myself by applying the program. I know my loving hp is along with me guiding me like a special helper as I go through each day. That provides a sense of peace that has opened my mind and my eyes to let go and celebrate the positives rather than being hyperfocused on the negative. Making the most of the day I've been given is an expression of gratitude to my higher power. TT


Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.

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Thank you as well Bbrave for your service, today's reading and to you, Lyne and TT for all your ESH.

Today's reading is definitely a good reminder to stop that "poor me" mindset indeed!

For me it is such a negative way to view my life and is/should be an immediate cue that I am not

looking at my life in a grateful manner.


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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Thank you Bbrave for your service, and to all those wonderful members who shared their stories about this reading!

I lived for so long in "poor me" country. I just couldn't understand why someone who tried their best to do everything correctly and "perfectly" could have such a messed up marriage! I didn't deserve that!

Al-Anon taught me 1) you are right, you don't deserve that 2) You can't control how others behave... especially adults 3) This WOL and thinking was pretty ego-centric!!!

Once I became more aware of just how addiction works in the brain. that is when I began to see the futility of control. That is when I began to understand that no matter how "good" of a spouse I was, it would never be enough. Some eye-opening stuff for sure! Then I began to really live true to myself. My needs, my wants, my desires. I became aware that they didn't nicely coalesce with my significant others values/needs/wants.

After the decision to split and then divorce, I spent some time wallowing in the "poor me's." Because ultimately, that was my decision but it wasn't my choice (if that even makes sense). It was this board, and the readings that helped me find Gratitude for what I had that day!! So simple, yet so profound!! Now I make darn sure to include a quick, verbal Gratitude List each day on my drive to work... thanking my HP for all the good in my life!

I must say, I especially love this: "Making the most of the day I've been given is an expression of gratitude to my higher power."
Thank you, TT. I will "steal" this saying and use it daily!

Happy Thursday!


"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend

"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness."  Mary Oliver



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