Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

gardengal · gardengal

Sooner or later the alcoholic's behaviour makes other people angry. As we realize that the alcoholic is telling lies, using us, and not taking care of responisibilities, we may begin to feel that the alcoholic doesnt love us, We often want to strike back, punish, and make the alcoholic pay for the hur...

kitty · kitty

Well, I was involved in a car acident lst night, got banged up pretty badly... spent the night in ER. Nothing broken, thank God... I swerved & hit the right hand side curb, busting my tired, the air bag deployed & cut me up quite a bit. I'm all sore & bruised & very tired bu...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

I'm soooo frustrated with dealing with my A. He is insane. I look at him and think, YOU ARE INSANE. Is it no wonder that I'm crazy??? We are suppose to be separating (legally). We've been physicially living apart for a year and a half. We see each other 3 time a wee...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i shared this poem on the board about a year or so ago, and a friend was asking me about a little while back. Thought i'd post it here for her and the newer members that maybe might like it to. LET GO As children bring thier broken toys- with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dream...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

Ok I need some help with clarifying the role of a victim. I'm confused as usual. As victims we are intent on proving our rightness. Therefore we blame others and or circumstances that suit OUR NEEDS to justify our behavior in a given situation. Which makes us a victim of others or unlucky circumstanc...

bd · bd

I live with a wonderful man now (hahah they all have their bad points). My father is an A and so is my ex-husband. The ex is now long out of the picture and doesn't affect me in any way. However, because my mother still lives with my father he does affect me. My current partner rea...

sweetums · sweetums

Well I was on the phone with my A last night. I have spent the last five weeks or so working through the depression of being alone again, trying to find some zest for life again. I started to feel stronger this week, as per my latest posts, but now I realize something! I am angry! The only reaso...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

After I told my boys what my online meetings were all about, Alanon. They said Mom, " You sure have changed a lot.Your a better Mom." I know we are going to be OK! At least I hope things don't change in their attititudes when it is only a female in the house. Thank you all for you...

sallyb · sallyb

I have come to a point with myself where I feel numb. I moved out of the house over two months ago and I feel like a zombie just going about my typical day. Every day. I miss my fiance. He has only had one drink in 66 days and I am so amazingly proud of him. We talk on the phone severa...

Powerless · Powerless

Today has been a very sad day for me. I gave in to my husband this morning and called off work for him. We ran some errands...got the staples out of the mastiff's belly, paid bills. My husband talked as we were flitting from one place to another. I was upset because a great aunt l...

myst n rayne · myst n rayne

Another newbie here! I have been looking through posts for the last 2 days and I was shocked to read "my story" from complete strangers. What a relief to know I am not alone. I often wonder why I just can't seem to let go of my A. We started out as high school sweethearts and wit...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Thank you all who responded with knowledge on their experiences with the legal system. I offered my "a" supervised visits at his parents house with the kids. He reluctantly took it, but then called the next day to say how I'm treating him like a criminal. I was able to write up a Visi...

rtexas · rtexas

My wife is an active A and we have been in total turmoil for months now. So much so I scrambled around and found this wonderful place (and wonderful people). We had a civil conversation last night where she let me know she just couldn't live with me going to these 'meetings'. She doesn't l...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hub has been gone for 2 weeks. Came Sunday and spent a very chaste night. Was here Monday when I got home from work. Was not drinking. Wants to know where we are headed. He can come home anytime he wants to, but has resentment towards me. I love him, but have handed him over to HP. Am working hard to sta...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Thank you all!!! Tonight my A wasn't any different. But I was

I had said earlier today that I felt like I was fighting being in a paper bag. That if I would just quit fighting that I'd figure how to get out. Only it just felt impossible to gi...

penny · penny

Were off again... My A started helping a friend out in the evenings at a new take away shop. As it is normally around 12 when he gets back, I go to bed as I am up at 6 for work. This morning I woke to find him asleep on the sofa with empty cans of beer half hidden. I...

Powerless · Powerless

I started my morning this morning on a positive note. I have a lot of questions about my HP and sometimes have a lot of trouble handing things over to Him, but I know for a fact that He has Blessed my life in so many ways. I have a wonderful home. It's a double wide mobile home, but it's four bed...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor asked me this question because she feels it is a real issue in ending the cycle of choosing dysfunctional partners. I know for me the urge to depend, be included and be part of is enormous because I come from a family where I was absolutely excluded and ostracized and banned and punished.&nbs...

Hopefloats · Hopefloats

''So I guess what I am saying is take this time for you. Focus on yourself, commit to your own recovery. Let his be his, it will all play out in time. When I realized that my husbands behavior did not change whether he was drinking or not, without a program in AA, I also realized th...

annah · annah

Since I have been in contact with alanon I have learned that expectations were not necessarily good (leads to resentments). But surely I should be able to expect some degree of communication and cooperation from my a husband? Am I right to think I need to learn more about setting boundaries? If so, whe...

Powerless · Powerless

I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all bu...

Tammy · Tammy

Living with an alcoholic is sooooo confusing. I know we all know that it is just some days it is more clear than others... I am having a very bad day and thought i would seek a shoulder from my friends here ... My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married a very long time and he has been a...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Surrender Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. --Step Three of Al Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible.Doors op...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Things are starting to get ugly. My "a" has demanded overnights with the boys and I'm so not comfortable about it. He says he'll take me to court if he has to. I know this girl has been pressuring him to fight for his rights to see them, but I can't trust him. He's lied about the af...

rtexas · rtexas

I am the only guy in the f2f meetings I have gone to. That doesn't bother me as right now I am just a sponge for information and help. They could be big red and green martians for all I care. My question is: Is my being there inhibiting anyone? I know you are not there, but in your...

Christy · Christy

I'm unable to chair Thursday morning's meeting. If anyone would like to step up, I'd sure appreciate it. Love Christy

bobump · bobump

Dyfs and FPS (family preservation services) is coming at 1pm. I expect it to be a good visit and that the ball will begin really rolling on the help we need. Would just like some prayers that I reach out and do and receive HP's will. :) Thanks all ! Bob

moto · moto

I have been going to face to face meetings for about three years. I live in a small town and very few men attend alanon. I have even went to AA looking for a sponsor but just have not been able find someone. I was wondering if there were other males that might be interested in keeping in touch by email and poss...

bobump · bobump

We are looking at setting up a room where we could have men's meetings. Not all the logistics have been worked out yet but there is an area on the server ready. JohnOP is OK with it as well. If your interested. Send me a PM or send me an email (off the board) so I can keep you posted. Also, your timezone mig...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Okay, here's my new situation. I just love my soap opera life! My childhood friend, had been talking to my AH for me while I wasn't talking to him (while he was in Arizona this past month and a half) She also has been the one who kept telling him to get his ass home and d...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is an AA prayer. I edited 2 sentences from it, to fit my alanon program. Good Morning, God!   Thank you for this day! As I consider my plans for this day, Le...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

MONDAY , MARCH 06, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. This Mouse must give up one of the Mouse ways of seeing things in order that he may grow. --Hyemeyohsts Storm There is an American Indian tale of a mouse who heard a roaring...

Powerless · Powerless

I have a serious question. How do you detach from your loved one and their addiction and still maintain your love for them. I find that everytime I try to detach lovingly, i feel myself becoming numb and distant from him. He notices this and asks me why I am cold and distant. I d...

Jayda · Jayda

Well, we sent my bro away two weeks ago so he could get clean and get some help. He's decided to come back to town again and feels he doesn't need treatment. I'm so disappointed. I get really tired of getting my hopes up and then having them shattered over and over. It was a relief for the last two weeks not to...

kitty · kitty

okay.... -- Edited by kitty at 00:46, 2006-03-08

Jayda · Jayda

"Life isn't fair...get used to it." This is a saying that I tell myself quite often when I'm feeling down about things and find myself thinking, "Why do bad things seem to happen to me?" I guess there's no rhyme or reason to life. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Accepting that we don't alway...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting this morning. I woke up ill and need to make a visit to my Doctor. Sorry for the short notice; it is unavoidable. Shimo (Jeri)

Jeannie · Jeannie

Last night I lost it. My huband pushed me too far, and I said the most cruel things I can imagine. I was lying in bed again, still not feeling well, the cold went to my chest, so I have been barking. He walked in at 6PM, drunk and nasty. He looked at me and screamed COOK, NOW! I got out of bed and walked into t...

hudsond · hudsond

Well that's how I feel my life is--just a bunch of lemons. I am very sad, but I think I'm also becoming numb, which scares me yet also comforts me (does that make ANY sense?). My a has stopped going to meetings again, but this time I'm seeing a bigger change. This time he doesn't even seem to...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((Extended family)))))))))))))), Just wanted to let you know, that my hubby is back home with me. Due to his emotions coming to the surface after being masked by alcohol for years, he got into a rather heated argument with the director of the place he was living at. I came home last...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Just as "out of the blue" he made the decision to stay in another state, he "out of the blue" made the decision to come back and face his fears. He drove 17 hours on a motorcycle from Arizona to Colorado and went to my parents to make amends with them, they were much more forgiving than I thought ...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtf...

Sondee · Sondee

I would like to not be all twisted up inside. I need to find clarity once and for all. I do believe in a HP. I just have a hard time believing the HP believes in me. I don't want this to be a sob story, but it is one inside my heart. I just keep thinking that maybe if I just put it "out there" once and for all, then may...

flintfeet · flintfeet

i spoke with my aunt (who lives way far away) last night and i got upset. i have not had ANY contact with my dad in months (but he has not made any effort to contact me, either). i feel good about my decision not to have contact with him. but she tried to convince me to change my mind. she asked me..."who is hi...

kitty · kitty

It amazes even me, I can be so smooth, together even almost balanced & a monkey wrench is thrown into the works & I'm fully lost in desolation land. I think of what my therapist said, 'forgiveness is a muscle, it takes practise, patience, work effort a little more each day.' How...

rtexas · rtexas

I asked the questions of myself ... Why do I feel this way, why is my life in such chaos, why do the A's/Addicts in my life do what they do? Why do I react the way I do to them? I haven't let my HP have much room in my life in a long time. I have a real problem with the difference between believing in...

cdb · cdb

It is sure hard keeping my heart open and my mouth shut but I am doing the best I can. I know my daughter's hormones are out of wack but there has always been a worry that she may have another mental disease going on besides depression. Any continued prayers are appreciated. If I didn't know people were pra...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

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rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey guys, i KNOW this is an AA "thing" but boy does it apply!!!! how many times i give a problem over---just to take it back!!! A.A. Thought for the Day There are two important things we have to do if we want to get sober and stay sober. First, hav...

ditto · ditto

I'm not sure how to organize this thought. The light suddenly dawned last night and that new understanding has me both horrified and amazed. It is the type of understanding that is so aweful that even though you know it is the truth you still try to deny and rationalize it... but it c...

tk47834 · tk47834

I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of a support group similar to AA that deals with the death of a loved one. A dear friend of ours passed away last June and his widow is trying to find a support group where she can go. We are in Brazil, In. and can't seem to find anything here. A...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

MARCH 8 One of the wonderful benefits I receive by going to Al-Anon meetings is that I find new ways to work my program. The chairperson at one of my favorite meetings passed around a basket full of Al-Anon slogans and suggested that we each take one and try to apply it to t...

gardengal · gardengal

I felt my life was on hold. I wanted change. I expected it: I even tried to make it happen. But it was not within my power to make any of the changes I wanted. I was frusterated. I am an actiontaker, so I feel better when I am busy and industrious. There is a time to act. But in alanon I learned that there is also a...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

It is just awful around here waiting, really hard on the boys. I had another compliment on what good kids they are today, this is killing me. Failiing at a second marriage. I came here one year ago today. My boys skipped school to help me pack this in the camper, our uhaul.&nbs...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I was feeling really low all day. All you wonderful people made me feel so much better about forgiving myself, not for saying what I mean, but saying it meanly. Thank You. For anyone that has followed my posts, you know my house is a revolving door of kids. My bigger kids, (my own three, and our Joey, the...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I haven't posted in awhile. Things seemed to be going well until last night. My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. I began to spend weekends with him in January. We were getting along so well. We began talking about getting back together last month but a gu...

mastiff · mastiff

I've always liked those slogans, but always found them a bit harder for me to work. I think it's so easy for me being an alanoner to look at other's actions and see how bad they are, and in turn, make myself the victim. Like my brother for example, he's an alcoholic, i am not. H...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

In this past week I have given a great deal of time to grieving for the loss of my "a". So much has happened in such a short period of time. The mess that he left behind is mine alone to clean up. I believe I'm in the right direction for recovery. All week long I was holding out hope f...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello Everyone, I am feeling alone and down today. I had a crappy weekend with the guy I have been seeing. He got wasted on Saturday at this benefit, danced with this married woman and I got jealous and felt ignored. He did only dance once with her, and use to work wit...

nycbt · nycbt

I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start ab...

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	Feelings of anger, denial, guilt (Preview) Sooner or later the alcoholic's behaviour makes other people angry. As we realize that the alcoholic is telling lies, using us, and not taking care of responisibilities, we may begin to feel that the alcoholic doesnt love us, We often want to strike back, punish, and make the alcoholic pay for the hur...	gardengal	4	555	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	car accident (Preview) Well, I was involved in a car acident lst night, got banged up pretty badly... spent the night in ER. Nothing broken, thank God... I swerved & hit the right hand side curb, busting my tired, the air bag deployed & cut me up quite a bit. I'm all sore & bruised & very tired bu...	kitty	14	346	Mar 9, 2006 by twinmom2
	He's insane (Preview) I'm soooo frustrated with dealing with my A. He is insane. I look at him and think, YOU ARE INSANE. Is it no wonder that I'm crazy??? We are suppose to be separating (legally). We've been physicially living apart for a year and a half. We see each other 3 time a wee...	Lunamoth	9	572	Mar 9, 2006 by kitty
	Letting Go - an awesome poem (Preview) hi all, i shared this poem on the board about a year or so ago, and a friend was asking me about a little while back. Thought i'd post it here for her and the newer members that maybe might like it to. LET GO As children bring thier broken toys- with tears- for us to mend, I brought my broken dream...	mastiff	2	556	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Playing the victim, blaming (Preview) Ok I need some help with clarifying the role of a victim. I'm confused as usual. As victims we are intent on proving our rightness. Therefore we blame others and or circumstances that suit OUR NEEDS to justify our behavior in a given situation. Which makes us a victim of others or unlucky circumstanc...	Hopefloats	8	1072	Mar 9, 2006 by Hopefloats
	how do you explain (Preview) I live with a wonderful man now (hahah they all have their bad points). My father is an A and so is my ex-husband. The ex is now long out of the picture and doesn't affect me in any way. However, because my mother still lives with my father he does affect me. My current partner rea...	bd	4	327	Mar 9, 2006 by rtexas
	and the cycle continues..... (Preview) Well I was on the phone with my A last night. I have spent the last five weeks or so working through the depression of being alone again, trying to find some zest for life again. I started to feel stronger this week, as per my latest posts, but now I realize something! I am angry! The only reaso...	sweetums	1	279	Mar 9, 2006 by mebjk
	23 days (Preview) After I told my boys what my online meetings were all about, Alanon. They said Mom, " You sure have changed a lot.Your a better Mom." I know we are going to be OK! At least I hope things don't change in their attititudes when it is only a female in the house. Thank you all for you...	jrtjosey	9	292	Mar 9, 2006 by twinmom2
	Numb (Preview) I have come to a point with myself where I feel numb. I moved out of the house over two months ago and I feel like a zombie just going about my typical day. Every day. I miss my fiance. He has only had one drink in 66 days and I am so amazingly proud of him. We talk on the phone severa...	sallyb	4	307	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	It's a sad day (Preview) Today has been a very sad day for me. I gave in to my husband this morning and called off work for him. We ran some errands...got the staples out of the mastiff's belly, paid bills. My husband talked as we were flitting from one place to another. I was upset because a great aunt l...	Powerless	4	459	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	Finding out I am not alone! (Preview) Another newbie here! I have been looking through posts for the last 2 days and I was shocked to read "my story" from complete strangers. What a relief to know I am not alone. I often wonder why I just can't seem to let go of my A. We started out as high school sweethearts and wit...	myst n rayne	5	278	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	I'm fighting hard for recovery and safety (Preview) Thank you all who responded with knowledge on their experiences with the legal system. I offered my "a" supervised visits at his parents house with the kids. He reluctantly took it, but then called the next day to say how I'm treating him like a criminal. I was able to write up a Visi...	twinmom2	6	404	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	Al-Anon, the 'latest' reason it's over... (Preview) My wife is an active A and we have been in total turmoil for months now. So much so I scrambled around and found this wonderful place (and wonderful people). We had a civil conversation last night where she let me know she just couldn't live with me going to these 'meetings'. She doesn't l...	rtexas	9	359	Mar 9, 2006 by twinmom2
	Working on me (Preview) Hub has been gone for 2 weeks. Came Sunday and spent a very chaste night. Was here Monday when I got home from work. Was not drinking. Wants to know where we are headed. He can come home anytime he wants to, but has resentment towards me. I love him, but have handed him over to HP. Am working hard to sta...	Becky1	5	256	Mar 9, 2006 by leo
	Thank you :-) (Preview) Thank you all!!! Tonight my A wasn't any different. But I was I had said earlier today that I felt like I was fighting being in a paper bag. That if I would just quit fighting that I'd figure how to get out. Only it just felt impossible to gi...	Lunamoth	1	249	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Off Again (Preview) Were off again... My A started helping a friend out in the evenings at a new take away shop. As it is normally around 12 when he gets back, I go to bed as I am up at 6 for work. This morning I woke to find him asleep on the sofa with empty cans of beer half hidden. I...	penny	3	256	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	So many Blessings (Preview) I started my morning this morning on a positive note. I have a lot of questions about my HP and sometimes have a lot of trouble handing things over to Him, but I know for a fact that He has Blessed my life in so many ways. I have a wonderful home. It's a double wide mobile home, but it's four bed...	Powerless	1	248	Mar 9, 2006 by jrtjosey
	why did I choose the A (Preview) My sponsor asked me this question because she feels it is a real issue in ending the cycle of choosing dysfunctional partners. I know for me the urge to depend, be included and be part of is enormous because I come from a family where I was absolutely excluded and ostracized and banned and punished.&nbs...	maresie	3	548	Mar 9, 2006 by Sondee
	Breaking the behavior the negative pattern (Preview) ''So I guess what I am saying is take this time for you. Focus on yourself, commit to your own recovery. Let his be his, it will all play out in time. When I realized that my husbands behavior did not change whether he was drinking or not, without a program in AA, I also realized th...	Hopefloats	9	456	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	Expectations vs boundaries (Preview) Since I have been in contact with alanon I have learned that expectations were not necessarily good (leads to resentments). But surely I should be able to expect some degree of communication and cooperation from my a husband? Am I right to think I need to learn more about setting boundaries? If so, whe...	annah	6	718	Mar 9, 2006 by emma
	Feeling better (Preview) I am feeling better than I was a few hours ago. My husband received his tax refund today. We weren't expecting it because we thought he owed money. He was by himself when he got the call and he called me right away to tell me how much the check was. He cashed it and brought me all bu...	Powerless	3	244	Mar 9, 2006 by aunitedway
	Confused (Preview) Living with an alcoholic is sooooo confusing. I know we all know that it is just some days it is more clear than others... I am having a very bad day and thought i would seek a shoulder from my friends here ... My husband is an alcoholic, we have been married a very long time and he has been a...	Tammy	9	328	Mar 8, 2006 by marmare
	yes, the SWEETNESS of surrender (Preview) Surrender Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God, as we understood Him. --Step Three of Al Anon Surrendering to a Power greater than ourselves is how we become empowered.We become empowered in a new, better, more effective way than we believed possible.Doors op...	rosie light shines	3	396	Mar 8, 2006 by kitty
	It's time to fight for my boundaries (Preview) Things are starting to get ugly. My "a" has demanded overnights with the boys and I'm so not comfortable about it. He says he'll take me to court if he has to. I know this girl has been pressuring him to fight for his rights to see them, but I can't trust him. He's lied about the af...	twinmom2	9	359	Mar 8, 2006 by emma
	guys in your f2f meetings... (Preview) I am the only guy in the f2f meetings I have gone to. That doesn't bother me as right now I am just a sponge for information and help. They could be big red and green martians for all I care. My question is: Is my being there inhibiting anyone? I know you are not there, but in your...	rtexas	12	416	Mar 8, 2006 by iona54
	Thursday A.M. Chairperson needed (Preview) I'm unable to chair Thursday morning's meeting. If anyone would like to step up, I'd sure appreciate it. Love Christy	Christy	2	326	Mar 8, 2006 by iona54
	A little late but... appreciate some quick prayers. :) (Preview) Dyfs and FPS (family preservation services) is coming at 1pm. I expect it to be a good visit and that the ball will begin really rolling on the help we need. Would just like some prayers that I reach out and do and receive HP's will. :) Thanks all ! Bob	bobump	14	377	Mar 8, 2006 by bubbles1990
	Looking for a male sponsor (Preview) I have been going to face to face meetings for about three years. I live in a small town and very few men attend alanon. I have even went to AA looking for a sponsor but just have not been able find someone. I was wondering if there were other males that might be interested in keeping in touch by email and poss...	moto	0	258	Mar 8, 2006 by moto
	ATTN GUYS - MIP Men's Meetings (Preview) We are looking at setting up a room where we could have men's meetings. Not all the logistics have been worked out yet but there is an area on the server ready. JohnOP is OK with it as well. If your interested. Send me a PM or send me an email (off the board) so I can keep you posted. Also, your timezone mig...	bobump	8	480	Mar 8, 2006 by moto
	My new soap opera situation (Preview) Okay, here's my new situation. I just love my soap opera life! My childhood friend, had been talking to my AH for me while I wasn't talking to him (while he was in Arizona this past month and a half) She also has been the one who kept telling him to get his ass home and d...	sdisnie	6	400	Mar 8, 2006 by hudsond
	Good Morning, God! HP! (Preview) This is an AA prayer. I edited 2 sentences from it, to fit my alanon program. Good Morning, God!   Thank you for this day! As I consider my plans for this day, Le...	wallsal55	0	218	Mar 8, 2006 by wallsal55
	i had to change my eyes (Preview) MONDAY , MARCH 06, 2006 You are reading from the book Today's Gift </OA_HTML/ibeCCtpItmDspRte.jsp?item=2121>. *This Mouse must give up one of the Mouse ways of seeing things in order that he may grow. --Hyemeyohsts Storm* There is an American Indian tale of a mouse who heard a roaring...	rosie light shines	4	294	Mar 8, 2006 by alystylz
	Having a problem with detaching (Preview) I have a serious question. How do you detach from your loved one and their addiction and still maintain your love for them. I find that everytime I try to detach lovingly, i feel myself becoming numb and distant from him. He notices this and asks me why I am cold and distant. I d...	Powerless	6	368	Mar 8, 2006 by rtexas
	Discouraged Again (Preview) Well, we sent my bro away two weeks ago so he could get clean and get some help. He's decided to come back to town again and feels he doesn't need treatment. I'm so disappointed. I get really tired of getting my hopes up and then having them shattered over and over. It was a relief for the last two weeks not to...	Jayda	3	321	Mar 8, 2006 by TLC2
	hmm (Preview) okay.... -- Edited by kitty at 00:46, 2006-03-08	kitty	1	299	Mar 8, 2006 by rtexas
	Life isn't fair... (Preview) "Life isn't fair...get used to it." This is a saying that I tell myself quite often when I'm feeling down about things and find myself thinking, "Why do bad things seem to happen to me?" I guess there's no rhyme or reason to life. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Accepting that we don't alway...	Jayda	1	334	Mar 8, 2006 by Christy
	MONDAY A.M. ALANON MTG (Preview) I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting this morning. I woke up ill and need to make a visit to my Doctor. Sorry for the short notice; it is unavoidable. Shimo (Jeri)	shimo	2	278	Mar 8, 2006 by leo
	I'm not a nice person (Preview) Last night I lost it. My huband pushed me too far, and I said the most cruel things I can imagine. I was lying in bed again, still not feeling well, the cold went to my chest, so I have been barking. He walked in at 6PM, drunk and nasty. He looked at me and screamed COOK, NOW! I got out of bed and walked into t...	Jeannie	13	510	Mar 8, 2006 by leo
	when life gives you lemons (Preview) Well that's how I feel my life is--just a bunch of lemons. I am very sad, but I think I'm also becoming numb, which scares me yet also comforts me (does that make ANY sense?). My a has stopped going to meetings again, but this time I'm seeing a bigger change. This time he doesn't even seem to...	hudsond	10	405	Mar 8, 2006 by hudsond
	A is back home (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Extended family)))))))))))))), Just wanted to let you know, that my hubby is back home with me. Due to his emotions coming to the surface after being masked by alcohol for years, he got into a rather heated argument with the director of the place he was living at. I came home last...	Karilynn	7	315	Mar 8, 2006 by tea2
	AH came back after 3 months (Preview) Just as "out of the blue" he made the decision to stay in another state, he "out of the blue" made the decision to come back and face his fears. He drove 17 hours on a motorcycle from Arizona to Colorado and went to my parents to make amends with them, they were much more forgiving than I thought ...	sdisnie	6	355	Mar 8, 2006 by nmike
	Feeling calm after the loss (Preview) Hello friends, Once again, thank you all for your unconditional friendship and for your thoughts and prayers the past 30 hours during the death of my grandbaby. I came to this site almost 3 years ago now and have gained so much from it. I also have recently found other resources to use due to some hurtf...	cdb	24	601	Mar 8, 2006 by Jayda
	Twisting emotions (Preview) I would like to not be all twisted up inside. I need to find clarity once and for all. I do believe in a HP. I just have a hard time believing the HP believes in me. I don't want this to be a sob story, but it is one inside my heart. I just keep thinking that maybe if I just put it "out there" once and for all, then may...	Sondee	4	437	Mar 7, 2006 by Sondee
	who does it hurt? (Preview) i spoke with my aunt (who lives way far away) last night and i got upset. i have not had ANY contact with my dad in months (but he has not made any effort to contact me, either). i feel good about my decision not to have contact with him. but she tried to convince me to change my mind. she asked me..."who is hi...	flintfeet	3	345	Mar 7, 2006 by maresie
	rocky times (Preview) It amazes even me, I can be so smooth, together even almost balanced & a monkey wrench is thrown into the works & I'm fully lost in desolation land. I think of what my therapist said, 'forgiveness is a muscle, it takes practise, patience, work effort a little more each day.' How...	kitty	4	304	Mar 7, 2006 by maresie
	I guess I asked for it... (Preview) I asked the questions of myself ... Why do I feel this way, why is my life in such chaos, why do the A's/Addicts in my life do what they do? Why do I react the way I do to them? I haven't let my HP have much room in my life in a long time. I have a real problem with the difference between believing in...	rtexas	3	325	Mar 7, 2006 by just me
	Daughter acting manic :( (Preview) It is sure hard keeping my heart open and my mouth shut but I am doing the best I can. I know my daughter's hormones are out of wack but there has always been a worry that she may have another mental disease going on besides depression. Any continued prayers are appreciated. If I didn't know people were pra...	cdb	10	461	Mar 7, 2006 by cdb
	Inspirational Page...turn it over (Preview) www.wandascountryhomeinspirational.com/butterflyfree/ Type in if link doesn't work.	wallsal55	2	294	Mar 7, 2006 by myst n rayne
	give the problem over and let it STAY there (Preview) hey guys, i KNOW this is an AA "thing" but boy does it apply!!!! how many times i give a problem over---just to take it back!!! A.A. Thought for the Day There are two important things we have to do if we want to get sober and stay sober. First, hav...	rosie light shines	1	328	Mar 7, 2006 by KathyS
	A sad understanding (Preview) I'm not sure how to organize this thought. The light suddenly dawned last night and that new understanding has me both horrified and amazed. It is the type of understanding that is so aweful that even though you know it is the truth you still try to deny and rationalize it... but it c...	ditto	3	374	Mar 7, 2006 by chris52
	support group (Preview) I'm trying to find out if anyone knows of a support group similar to AA that deals with the death of a loved one. A dear friend of ours passed away last June and his widow is trying to find a support group where she can go. We are in Brazil, In. and can't seem to find anything here. A...	tk47834	5	331	Mar 7, 2006 by tk47834
	Courage To Change March 8th and 9th (Preview) MARCH 8 One of the wonderful benefits I receive by going to Al-Anon meetings is that I find new ways to work my program. The chairperson at one of my favorite meetings passed around a basket full of Al-Anon slogans and suggested that we each take one and try to apply it to t...	Debbie Lee	0	808	Mar 7, 2006 by Debbie Lee
	WAITING & IMPATIENCE (Preview) I felt my life was on hold. I wanted change. I expected it: I even tried to make it happen. But it was not within my power to make any of the changes I wanted. I was frusterated. I am an actiontaker, so I feel better when I am busy and industrious. There is a time to act. But in alanon I learned that there is also a...	gardengal	1	461	Mar 7, 2006 by nmike
	25 days (Preview) It is just awful around here waiting, really hard on the boys. I had another compliment on what good kids they are today, this is killing me. Failiing at a second marriage. I came here one year ago today. My boys skipped school to help me pack this in the camper, our uhaul.&nbs...	jrtjosey	12	632	Mar 7, 2006 by Jeannie
	My teen angels (Preview) I was feeling really low all day. All you wonderful people made me feel so much better about forgiving myself, not for saying what I mean, but saying it meanly. Thank You. For anyone that has followed my posts, you know my house is a revolving door of kids. My bigger kids, (my own three, and our Joey, the...	Jeannie	7	429	Mar 7, 2006 by Jeannie
	I can't believe I let it happen again (Preview) I haven't posted in awhile. Things seemed to be going well until last night. My husband and I have been seperated for 4 months. I began to spend weekends with him in January. We were getting along so well. We began talking about getting back together last month but a gu...	JulieLynn	7	431	Mar 6, 2006 by RamzDear
	keeping the focus and Letting it begin with me (Preview) I've always liked those slogans, but always found them a bit harder for me to work. I think it's so easy for me being an alanoner to look at other's actions and see how bad they are, and in turn, make myself the victim. Like my brother for example, he's an alcoholic, i am not. H...	mastiff	5	341	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	I think I'm finally done (Preview) In this past week I have given a great deal of time to grieving for the loss of my "a". So much has happened in such a short period of time. The mess that he left behind is mine alone to clean up. I believe I'm in the right direction for recovery. All week long I was holding out hope f...	twinmom2	5	644	Mar 6, 2006 by RamzDear
	Feeling alone (Preview) Hello Everyone, I am feeling alone and down today. I had a crappy weekend with the guy I have been seeing. He got wasted on Saturday at this benefit, danced with this married woman and I got jealous and felt ignored. He did only dance once with her, and use to work wit...	Diane43	5	276	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
	My Awsome time (Preview) I had told my husband that I was going away to my best friends house to go sking.On Wednesday my husband came to me to ask to use the car and I said no and that was the end of it nothing was made of it. On Thursday I got home from work early dure to snow. I did alot of sleeping. He came in around 9pm to start ab...	nycbt	7	299	Mar 6, 2006 by maresie
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