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Looking for advice
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So, I'm at a loss here. I'm trying to work the program one day at a time. I'm new to this, so I know that I have a long way to go. My biggest struggle is the children. No, I take that back, it's me. You see, I'm afraid. I'm afraid to tell my A that if he's using, he's not al...
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Struggling with Truth
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I am struggling with how to have conversations with my A. If we say that all the mean, selfish and hurtful things an A does is beyond their control, how can you sort out the truth from the BS.
My A wants to seperate she 'says'. We seperated once before, and she was thrilled. Of course...
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Was told that I'm messed up!
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I know I'm not perfect and that I have my faults. Another thing I know is that my head is not constantly clouded by alcohol and the things I say, whether good or bad, comes directly from me and not the "alcohol talking", if you know what I mean. Anyway, I am starting to look closely at myself and wonder if I pu...
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manipulative auntie
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So I read my own post, the torture of my mom, she is so selfish & this disease is taking her down... she isn't even the same person anymore. I just miss her & hurt for her so much to come back to life. I am helpless, I surrender her & her A everyday & say prayers for them.&...
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kitty
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Doctor Day/ hubby update
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Whatta day...
Hubby just wasn't right today. It started yesterday with a fall. Didn't hit his head or anything, just not real "with it". Had some confusion going on today. Didn't know if he took his meds or not, even tho the "Friday" pill section in his plastic thingy was full. Asked me what day it was s...
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Christy
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fear
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my husband just relapsed monday after a year of sobriety. he is a crack addict and has bi polar disorder. so we've done this before. alot. but this time i took the car and the kids and rented a house. i just can't do this anymore. i prayed and prayed for an answer and i got it and i'm doing the best i can for now b...
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vent
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hi all. well the dreaded day is coming, it will be here sunday........my birthday. i honestly hate my birthday because everything and anything always goes wrong. the past weeks i have had nothing but phone calls asking what i want to do? and friends saying lets go party. which i definatly dont want to d...
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update
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Hi everyone..just a quick update cause I haven`t posted in a while.I`ve been busy working more hours to pay bills since my A who has been gone for almost 3 months wont give me any money to support our 4 kids. I got approved for food assistance which helps out alot.Emotionally I`m doing better..I don`t cr...
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allison
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Mini light-bulb moment - Acceptance
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I experienced a light-bulb moment the other day. I was reading Courage to Change, looking up readings about acceptance and came across the 3-A's which I had never heard. Awareness, Acceptance, and Action.
I always thought that I was good at blocking out what was happening aro...
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Tough love is really Tough!!!!
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We asked our 19 year old son to leave the house a week ago. Since then we feel like yo-yos. He's been back, then gone, back then gone. Finally Sunday, we said you have to leave.....he got angry and he did leave. And of course he left with an unsafe friend. He only pa...
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Group Inventory
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For those of you who are not familiar with this process, a group inventory is like a 4th step inventory for the group as a whole. We answer questions based on our membership in the group and as a group as a whole. Please be honest with your answers. I am the only person that will be compiling the results and t...
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still here :)
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hi guys,
I just wanted to give you an update.
Amanda is doing great, she is behaving better we are getting along so good and she is happy that chuck is home. we have fun together. everything is still going great chuck has been clean & sober since rehab. he still goes...
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chrissy
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can't get into chatroom
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I keep trying to get in the chatroom but it keeps saying "cannot joint channel (+b)", hmmm, I'm lost. Help!
Thanks,
RC
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ragingchild
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Am I expecting too much?
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My A and I have have been married for almost 6 years. We started out as best friends. We always got along and never fought until after we got married. Then, a few things happened to other family members and he started dealing with stress by drinking and hiding it and lying about it.
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marcie301
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short update
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I've been asked for an update so I'll do a short one, will know more tomorrow after A's Dr appt.
Things are kind of weird right now. A is still very sick. His back problem is worse. He can barely make it to the bathroom. I feel really bad for him. He's so weak and thin, recovering from detox, pneumonia an...
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Christy
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I wish you all were here
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This has to be the longest day of my life! My mom's appt. is at 3:15 today, I wish that you all could be here to hold my hand through this. I am at work but not really getting a thing done. Thank you for all your support and caring hearts.
Hugs Mary
From March 1 reading "Courage to Chan...
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pamphlets snailed for u 6 ppl
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Just wanted to say to those of you I promised to snail mail pamphlets they are officially en route as of today, expect it in 2 days - dunno why two day is cheaper - loads of goodies coming your way!
You know who you are!
all of my love, -Kitty of Light
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kitty
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Moody this morning
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Haven't talk to him in a couple of days now. Wish I could stop counting how long it's been. I guage how often to call, and conjecture on when I should. 'Timing' contact so that I don't look like I want him to come back, or that I miss him too much, yet not wanting to let him go. I can't stop asking him if he has dra...
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sweetums
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horrible scare---NEED protection prayers
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Anxiety Attack?
"[The] Power that brought us to this program is still with us and will continue to guide us if we allow it."Basic Text, p. 26Ever had a panic attack? Everywhere we turn, life's demands overwhelm us. We're paralyzed, and we don't know what to do about it. How do we break an anxiety att...
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rosie light shines
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to call or not to call? well I CALLED
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well, the end of another day. finally whew
I did end up calling him, but waited to do it on my 15 min break at work so i would not get too involved in it, just say hi and ask how he is and move along.
it went well. he asked after a bit if i miss him, and i just said i don't want to talk about that and he changed th...
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sweetums
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grateful update
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Hi everyone,
I haven't posted for awhile. I have been keeping up with other's posts, reading, replying etc. Just thought I would take a moment for a quick update. My A and I are still separated. I have been finding that I am very lonely lately, but still plugging away.&nbs...
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confused
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a very sincere prayer
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Dear Lord, So far today,I am doing alright. I have not gossipped,lost my temper,been greedy,nasty,selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined,complained,cursed,or eaten any cakes or chocolate. I have charged absolutely nothing to my credit/debit card. But....I will be getting out of bed in a...
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chris52
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Happy Birthday month
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Kitty, I wish for you and everyone who has a birthday this month peace, serenity and joy.
You all deserve it.
Have a good day!
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rtexas
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a setback can be a step forward???
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Success
"Any form of success was frightening and unfamiliar."
Basic Text, p. 14
Before coming to NA, few of us had much experience with success. Every attempt to stop using on our own had ended in failure. We had begun to give up hope of finding any relief from active addiction. We had grown acc...
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Uncle Lou where are you?
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((((((((((((Lou)))))))))))))))))))),
Just wondering how you're doing? Has anyone seen him? Let us know. We miss you. Hope all is well with you and the family.
Live strong,
Karilynn
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Karilynn
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I got my answer..
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I had made a topic titled"Should I talk to him or not." NUMBER one...each and every one of you helped me keep my confused mind on a bit of a higher ground. Thank you so much. Interestingly enough I got my answer tonight.
My A (as high functioning as he is) brought homes stacks of supplies from a wholesale...
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torture of Mom not ending
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As most of you know, my mother has been abusing me & taking jobs away from me after working for the family for 5 years. She called early today at 830, saying to finish the account's receivable 1 more month, as it will be a Quarter & makes more sense. Okay.
What really bugged m...
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kitty
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plan my actions, not the outcome
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My sponsor frequently reminds me to focus on planning my actions - what I can do about a situation - instead of trying to plan the outcome. I think I do a better job of this now than I used to, but it is still a pattern I have the tendency to fall into.
My husband and I have been living with his father fo...
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pixel04
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Today Show topic this week: "Strange Addictions"
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I thought some people on this board perhaps would be interested in knowing the Today Show this week is discussing "Strange Addictions"- today they started with probably the most troublesome addiction in society today in my opinion- Pornagraphy and sex addiction. Porn on the Internet has gr...
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DanaAngel
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Disturbing conversation
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I am needing to talk this out, get it out of my head, invite opinion and maybe vent a little!
One of the topics at this mornings meeting here got me thinking about this conversation again .....Al-Anon friends.
A lot of my frustrations and questions were taken care of during the shares...
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doxie
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Prayer Request
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Well with a million things happening all at once in my life please say a little prayer for me and my family.
My mom's breast cancer has recured. She has a mass on the left side under her rib cage, after a cat scan they have found 3 spots (we think as her story gets minimized with each of us kids she tel...
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marmare
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mobil crisis unit visit....and visiting the A
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Well all I got to put the new service that a fellow alanoner at f2f suggest where they will come out w/ a mobile response within an hour.
Well we get home from the visit. I ask my daughter if she did Monday's homework. Nope. She didn't do it when i asked Monday, she stayed home sick tod...
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bobump
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God's will to be done
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Hmmmm as I have been reading some of the other posts here and doing my own work on the steps it has made me stop and think why I have so often been fearful of allowing nmyself to be willing for God's will in my life.
Lord knows after 56 years of me doing my own thinking and planning things are a real mess!&nbs...
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irish54
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Salvation Army for 6 months
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Ok what can anyone tell me about someone being sent to the Salvation Army for 6months? What type of treatment is avail through them? Guess that is what the judge has recommended for my brother. The court does not want my mother to see my brother or vs. How can we get clothes up to him? Can they be left at the d...
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Barbara
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wife out of Critical Care
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Hi all,
Not alot of action today.
Picked up a list of Rx from the pharmacy so that the Hospital can see what she was on. I noticed that she got a new doctor to begin prescribing her oxycodone. Well, I agreed not to call her doctors but all bets are off after you try to commit suicide.
I spoke to he...
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bobump
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Should I talk to him or not??
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My A is under the impression that if he’s on a motivational kick he needs to be drunk.Trouble is that everyone around just sees it as him being drunk. I could tell he was pretty lost on the phone before he came home last night;it was verified when he go home,even with the sad ‘cover-up’that they do with try...
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RamzDear
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Surrender
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I got this e-mail on surrendering. I have been struggling with surrendering. Thought this might nelp others too..
Today I will surrender to that which I cannot control. Surrender does not mean giving up when I need to be persistent; it means letting go of that which I can't change. Surren...
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sandie123
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Finally talked to Husband
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I finally talked to my AH after almost 5 weeks. It was really weird. I remained calm talking to him. We talked for about an hour, but it just went in circles. I just have questions and I kept asking them, I can't help myself. I want to know WHY he left me and the kids, why he h...
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sdisnie
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Annoying drunks
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Things have been okay for awhile now, but the first signs of the cycle changing are starting to show. Last night, my husband was somewhat drunk. He was in his annoying stage last night. It's pathetic, but I know every one of his drunken stages. I know when he's been at the bar and been drinking stronger be...
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Lindy
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Thrown back into the s*&^
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Hello group,
I haven't posted in a while, I was busy all last week. I had been doing really well with setting boundaries with my "a" and he kept asking to come home last week. He said he thought he wanted the separation but then realized exactly what that meant. We talked with our fa...
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twinmom2
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Well...
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She wants to leave. Says that she hates me. I had told her last week that of course I am agrivated at the chaos in our home, but that I was trying to do something to help me get better. She knows my Father was an A and I focused on that, when talking about how I am obsessed with acceptance an...
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rtexas
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es&h
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Well I got the kids out to school, got the house clean, only took a half hour. either I am real fast or it wasn't really dirty. Frig. Got some errands to do this morning before work.
I'm trying hard to think about me and what I gotta do, but it is all just distracting myself from the telephone and the hole...
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sweetums
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Courage to change Daily Readings March 1st +
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I am told that the automatic pilot in an airplane does not work by locking onto a course and sticking to it.
Instead, it steers back and forth over the path of an assigned course and makes the necessary
corrections when it senses that it has strayed. In reality, the auto p...
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Debbie Lee
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yuck, it gets so much worse.
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Hi all, Grateful, so grateful to be able to come here where others will understand
the depth of pain all this causes.
My A to me, is just skin over an evil demon. When ever I do see him, he does
not smell good or look good at all anymore. I am very humbled by what Jesus
did for us. When I hear the A use J...
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debilyn
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Trying to learn to let go of the past
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I am the daughter of an alcoholic father , but I never saw him take a drink. His actions were very abusive both to my mother and also to me. You see, we were a very "religious" family. I knew my parents fought often and occasionally I would hear my mom accuse him of drinking, but as I said...
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irish54
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my poor mother is a wreck! had to testify today!
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Just spoke with my mother. My brother accepted no help while in Bridgewater. Court appearance was delayed until after lunch - she was there since before 10am. My mother had to speak and testify. My brother didnt talk. The court will either put my brother in Tewksbury hospital or a halfway house. The co...
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Barbara
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wife in hospital - update
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Hi all,
Wife is out of the ER unit and in a Critical Care unit for now. We are looking at 24 - 48 hours in there before we decide where we go next. Next step is probably the physchiatric inpatient but that is not definate, I'm not 'expecting' anything.
She wakes up, asks for ice chips and ro...
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bobump
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son said
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Today, while driving back from baseball practice (indoors) son shared a story his father had told him, a song had him recall a memory. There was some silence, he turned the radio back up. I said you know you can talk about dad anytime. He said -No mom, I really don't want to. That just came to mind is all......
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meditation
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Just wanted to post that I had started meditating again. I learned it in high school, and I remembered how much calmer it made me. Things that used to get to me didn't bother me anymore. I saw more beauty in the world and was generally a more relaxed and happier person. I know of...
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paintthinnr
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HOW WE SAY, WHAT WE SAY...
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But not all our communication is determined by what we do or do not say. It also depends how we say it. Not only our choice of words, but also our attitudes, facial expressions, and tone of voice can either open a channel or slam a door, reguadless of the subject being discussed. All people, from the cashi...
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gardengal
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HOW do they do that ???
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Alcoholism is such a terrible disease effecting everyone who loves the alcoholic. I have been reading posts today for the first time in a few months. I fell away from the board as I felt that I too could deal with this disease alone. I found out, i cant. Just like the alcoholic we are as addicted to them a...
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Tammy
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Looking For Teddybearpoet
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Sorry I wrote down Your email address wrong and did not get to email you correctly! Please email thankyou Deb!
FEBRUARY 28
Turning over my will and my life to the care of my Higher Power (the Third Step) is an ongoing process. At first I surrendered only the big problems....
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Debbie Lee
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LIFE CHANGES....
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HI GUYS....
its been a while since i posted sorry!!!
i was up the walls with work etc... I had some limited meetings with my ex in the last few weeks. he is back drinking again. thats why we are not in a relationship. i cant cope with the lies and deceit.
apparently he found a new lady friend who is "abi...
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Rebecca
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detach with talks of seperation?
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She tells me last night that we are just too different and she thinks a seperation is in order.
The timing of this couldn't be worse. She doesn't know I am attending Al-Anon meetings or participating on this board. I have told her I am trying to get myself squared away. I h...
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rtexas
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new to al-anon
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hello there, I'm new....
finally went to an al-anon meeting last monday, which i'm very glad about as everyone is so lovely, but its midnight here (UK) and I can't ring anyone for a cry, and just want to get some feelings out.
he is passed out on the floor upstairs, having fallen off of t...
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chubbyelf
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New and heartbroken
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I’ve had my own personal issues with alcohol to deal with. I’ve had an a mother and every mate has been an a. I finally met a man who seemed to treat me the best out of anyone I had ever met. Unfortunately he is an a as well.
What has prevented me from seeking any kind of support is the fact that I have felt extr...
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RamzDear
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General Business Group Conscience Meeting
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March 1, 2006
Chair: SenorarBob
Agenda Items
General Opening of Meeting followed by:
Old Business
1. Approval of Minutes from February Meeting
2. Meeting Schedule and Request for Volunteers - SenoraBob
3. Financial Report - Kismetstrand/Mastiff
4. Swearing in the Chat...
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bob6502
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wife in ER
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Hi all,
Wife is in the ER, appears to be an attempted suicide attempt. We got done playing a game of Life last night and 2 of the kids were begging to sleep at their Aunts. We got up early and headed home. I'm kind of kicking myself because in the past when she was suicidal I'd never let...
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bobump
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grief observed
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Last night because of shares in here and work I have been doing in counselling I cried away most of the night. The A of course has his normal cryptic comments when ever he sees me sad. He will say stuff like oh are you talking to people about suicide? I have worked hard not to be reactive to him b...
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maresie
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Think I'm pregnant
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Things have been stable for my A and me; we're actually getting along pretty good and he hasn't been drunk in the last few weeks. Of course, he's still drinking, but he thinks he can handle it. My guard is down and that's when things fall apart usually. My A can't handle any stress without running to the ba...
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Lindy
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