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lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

I keep asking my self that. Husband keeps saying that he wants/ needs help with his drinking, but hasn't took that step to do so. Meanwhile I'm here still dealing with his drinking. My anger is building and my sadness when I look at him I'm finding more difficult to control. I can't help but feel like I nee...

Newbee · Newbee

I was shocked when I told my A sister that I went to Alanon and she was so mad at me! She has admitted to being an A and has gone to 2 AA meetings and was sober for about 2 weeks, but then went back to it and had a bad drunk in front of her kids and friends, etc and is now very upset, ashamed, etc....

Phil · Phil

We often use the expression "good self-esteem, "poor" self-esteem or "no" self-esteem. How does one "esteem" the self and what is the self anyway? Esteem involves loving respect and dignified caring. What of the self? We come into the world with it; it follows us through life like a shadow. If we lose...

nal · nal

Hi, Today I'm feeling a little sad, and I have that familiar knot in my stomach. My dad is my A (alcohol and pills), he has been attending AA daily for about eighteen months and as far as I know has been sober. My mother is a codependent without a program. Last night she was tel...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." --Helen Keller

Samena · Samena

Hi everyone, I left my marriage of 10 years to an A last year and I am finding it very difficult to trust another person. I am always questioning their motives and their whereabouts, that it is just driving me insane. So much so, that I am having nightmares of being betrayed again!&n...

AngelBearPoet · AngelBearPoet

I am sorry to say I will not be able to chair the meeting.. The place where I meet for my F2F will be painting the room we meet in.. I am on the paint commity for this.. We will be meeting up there early and painting all morning till the 2pm F2F meeting starts.. Them meeting in another room for that and then pain...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Phil posted this on the AA board and I found it very interesting. I hope he doesn't mind but I copied it here. THE RELATIONSHIP DUET The Dance of Intimacy By Darlene Lancer, M.A., MFT The relationship duet the dance of intimacy that all couples do. If one partner moves in, the other...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I find myself reciting the closing prayer like I use to say the pledge of allegence when i was a kid in school. It becomes a ritual and I loose the meaning of the words, and just say the words. I have found that a new twist on the same words can help me to bring that meaning back to them and r...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Everyone I haven't been on this message board in a long time. I have been going to face to face. I have been talking to my new friends from Alanon. I have learn alot of things. My husband has gotten his license and in the begin I was very upset about the change. I have learn to deal with it better. I have be...

richard · richard

…and my God gently laughed. I have not been here for awhile. I have not been here for two reasons or so I thought. Now it seems there is there has been only one. I have been enjoying the heck out of myself by going to a beautiful State park and riding my trail bike eight very hilly miles around the big beautifu...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Been reading your posts and I want to thank you for sharing. Yes, my spouse is now back in AA, 4 month sobriety, saw him start to teeter, and wondered if he would stop meetings. He did go to an "open" AA dinner last night, and he then went to a meeting last night. Someone in...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, I am feeling sad today, because yesterday I spoke to my oldest son, and he started speaking against my younger son. I told him that we don't throw stones, when we live in a glass house. He was talking against my youngest son, telling me that he was drinking yesterday, that...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

" A racehorse has to run, A bird has to fly, An artist has to paint, A teacher has to teach. There is something in you that you have to do. All that is left to do, do it." --(in closing) from Self Matters, by Dr. Phil McGraw ...

debilyn · debilyn

hi, first Phil, we learn best when we really feel the pain. I am not sorry I went over there. I had wanted to all day. It was very ok. I just am very easily hurt, but you know I was given a gift. I found out what kind of person I am. Hp helped me. I did not do any revenge if she would have come out and yelled or tri...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi, I would like to share my experience about how change does become possible when I stay in my own reality, and work on myself. My son has been going from one relationship to another, he had found someone with whom he felt was the right person for him. He felt good about her, since he knew that&...

wille · wille

Hi all, Josh fell out of a tram on his way to a game. Soccer in the UK I believe it is. Now he is TBI (traumatic brain injury) Thank you for your thoughts n dreams n prayers to his life cycle. \/\/ille

gardengal · gardengal

There are many times when I doubt the existance of anything that cares what goes on in this world, let alone in my life. Being agnostic, doubt comes easily to me, belief is difficult. But when I think of how someone guided me to Alanon, when my life was at its darkest, I reflect on times when the words and...

holly123 · holly123

Hi All, Yesterday I got a chance, before my a took off for the day with someone else and got drunk, to talk to him and tell him that I didn't believe he was a bad father but that he needed to realize that we really need him around and not to be drunk and annoying. I got to tel...

kimmie · kimmie

well this morning we (my husband and I) meet my parents at a really nice hotel on the water to have brunch. we have our 2 yr old son with us and i am pregnant with the next. there is bottomless champaign served with brunch and my husband has a couple glasses. i figured we were in th...

debalina36 · debalina36

It has been quite a while since I have posted last and a lot has happened. These past 2 weeks have been the worst. My husbands job had a fire in the area where he worked resulting in a lay off for a few days which turned into a drinking binge for him. I am now working nights until the new guy is trained and that...

debilyn · debilyn

A called me. He had hocked his telecaster. A very expensive antique like guitar. Said if I can't get it, it is gone. Well it is suppose to go to our son, so I took my savings to get MY wedding ring out of hcck, and got it. He was so ashamed, he made me promise not to tell our son what he had done. He was sob...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

I just want to express my sorrow I guess. I am feeling so totally sad,hurt and betrayed. My A asked me tonight to move out. He has told me to leave many times but this time it was different. My daughter, baby son and I are leaving tomorrow. The weird thing is I now have nothing. I mean literly nothing. No job,...

Phil · Phil

Have you ever tried to love someone, but you could feel their emotional walls? You can feel them not letting you in. You can feel the little person trapped inside. Or have you ever felt somebody trying to get to you, but you can feel yourself stopping it? This is how most of us experience relationships. T...

Newbee · Newbee

Just went to my first Al-anon meeting last night. Boy was that hard! I have been reading the posts on this board and am starting to understand how this "self help" stuff could possibly work. But I have a few questions: 1) I have heard about the "detach with love" philosophy, but ob...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all, Had a rough night last night and need to get a few things off my chest. So it begins.... I had to work last night, left kids with hubby. Heck he had told me earlier in the week that it was time that he needed help. Finally I thought I could calm down even if just a little bit. I even asked him if he w...

whatif · whatif

We were supposed to spend the day together. My A and I. I always get such high hopes. This morning we worked in the yard weeding, planting. One small dispute over dumb stuff. Plant placement and where to put weeds. I said I need to take a walk and I just strolled around the house. Came back in a few minutes an...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((Debilyn))) As always you are so compassionate and wise and I do love and admire you for that. You are so right with me not doing well since the counseling started. I guess I haven't admitted that it is causing me a lot of pain emotionally. I agreed to go to the counseling hoping it might sink in, h...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, The book, High Bottom Drunk, speaks for itself: http://www.highbottomdrunk.com Love, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/mime.htm

holly123 · holly123

Hi All, I'd like to know how I am supposed to make boundries for a 33 year old a? I have noticed some changes in him, he used to spent every single day at his buddies garage getting drunk. This let to an affair and a DWI. He spent so much time away that the kids didn'...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735 Property Lines A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful prope...

megan · megan

Hello from my job. I' m still at the hotel. I will book another week. I am looking for a place closer to work. I thank each and every one of you for you ESH and for your support. Alanon gave me the strength to walk out the door. My shoes are new but getting broken in. I had lunch today...

dot · dot

Hi all - Steo One is posted on the Step Board. Please give your support and share your experience, strength and hope with the newcomer who is just starting their journey through the Steps. Love you all and look forwrd to your shares. Love in Recovery - Dot ((((((((((((all)))))))))) ...

debilyn · debilyn

Your post gave me shivers. You described what is going on perfectly. He keeps saying he does not know what to do, and he told me he is suicidal. I was thinking today that he may need me to make a decision for him. I feel like I always do and have learned from alanon: Being insane is doing the same thing and...

Ladyluck918 · Ladyluck918

My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she w...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I read this over on the AA message board and wanted to copy it over here for our side to read (as I know many don't read the other board). Lots of good stuff to be found over there, which I feel apply equally to both sides. I know it certainly has helped me a lot in my own recovery process. L...

whatif · whatif

Well this is the 3rd week in a row that husband has spent an 8 hour day getting absolutely stinking drunk.Since last week's episode he has mowed our yard and the neighbor's. Weeded and mulched the garden. Ran lots of errands. Spent a delightful evening with my son and his family for my son's birthday. To...

Deutch · Deutch

Did you never experience being in a friendship relation with an Adult from an alcoolic family. I am in Alanon since 12 years.. and at this time a friend... who is also an Alanon member...let me feel the same émotions as with an active alcoolic Sorry for my english french is my firs...

nmike · nmike

My husband moves out June 1st to start his new job and end our relationship. I am trying to be thankful for what I do have and what he is able to give. He said let's go to the lake and camp out. It was great to be outdoors. He resembles a shell of a man that I don't even know after so many years. He acts as if he is jus...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, We have had a few perfect spring days here in Jersey, so I have taken advantage of it and been getting the outside of the house in shape. I love to garden and take care of the lawn. There is something so freeing about playing in the dirt and the smell of the soil. There is also such a sense of sat...

AngelBearPoet · AngelBearPoet

I wanted to post a thank you both for Chairing Saturday mornings (5-14-05) for me.. I had a sever reaction to my place being exterminated on thursday.. It was done early in the day and felt i would be ok to be in my home do to the fact i knew i would be home late.. I went to bed at 2am and by 4am i was up and extremly...

sanddie · sanddie

After seeing the post of The Awakening, I thought I'd share a poem that I wrote about 3 years ago, as I was just sitting one day and decided to write and 5 minutes later.... This is what I composed. I have to say, I feel it's one of my best and most powerful poems I had ever written without...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Thinking of you today as you say goodbye to your dear friend Bluedini. May he live forever in your heart. Luv ya (((((((((((trina)))))))))))) Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I a...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, We had another counseling session tonight. The counselor took the gloves off. He told my husband that he is an alcohalic and that his parents are super enablers. He told him that nothing can be done to save his marriage or his life for that matter unless he decides to stop drinking. He told my hus...

cah · cah

Has anyone gone through an intervention? I watched Oprah today, and she had two girls on that were the subject of interventions(they were drug users, but honestly, it's not much different than alcohol), and I sat here wondering if that would work on my h, the alcoholic in my life. I am not sure, as h...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

sorry dear I tried to get into chat at work, no can do. I can get here !!!!! josey

sanddie · sanddie

There is ONLY ONE TRUTH that will set anybody free.... I don't claim to be right about choices and things in my life, but there is ONE thing I will ALWAYS claim and that is that I have been blessed in having God a part of my life and allows me to accept EVERYONE without restricting it to one reso...

jj · jj

I just came back into the living room, sat down and out my window goes by the brightest falling star I have ever seen. It was so mesmerizing. Any way it took my attention away from being anoyed with my husband who happened to be passed out on the couch. Anoyed because he comes home passes out a...

holly123 · holly123

Okay, I guess I need some help with this subject. I have been married 10 years this year to my a, it has been rocky for the last 6, it all started when I got pregnant with my son, this freaked my husband out, for many reasons, he knew we were trying but when it happened he got angry, I think it reminded hi...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, Thanks again for the prayers for my daughter and her friend's family. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide this past week, 19 year old boy. Her ex-boyfriend's cousin. This morning I got a call from someone looking for the ex-boyfriend. The kid's family was very upset...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Okay I realize I am probably being insensitive here but my hubby changed the brakes in our car last Friday night. On Tuesday thankfully the car died right next to a repair shop. He installed the brakes in backwards. Yep backwards and ruined the braking system. Ended up costing us a ton of money. When I to...

teddybear · teddybear

There are so many areas of my life that I cannot change. What I can change is my attitude. Today, I can accept my life as it is, just for today. I can be grateful and happy, here and now, with what I have. It is about living one minute at a time, and letting go, and letting God(HP) "Life holds so much, s...

melanieL · melanieL

I feel so so angry with my ex-A for the way he has treated me over the past few months. I feel used and abused, He has been sober and following his programme for the past 6 weeks and I feel to reach that he has just climbed all over me. I am really down and feeling vulnerable. He is hardling...

melanieL · melanieL

Been having an argument with my ex-h/a he says I should be careful what I pray for and how I pray. He suggested the pray in the big book on awakening. This just doesnt seem right for me. What things do you all say and pray for? I know this may seem like a strange question but...

kerry5 · kerry5

I want to explain my share this morning. It seemed to upset alot of people and i also got angry that wasnt my intention. So i will try to explain what i shared more clearly. I was sharing on my alanon experience last time i was in this program 3 years ago, its something ive never really shared all of but i will...

sanddie · sanddie

I wanted to share a website I came across that I found most interesting. The author is April Crum, who is a student in a university who gives meaning behind what it means to be unequally yoked...... Unequally Yoked? By April Crum In 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 Paul discusse...

sanddie · sanddie

Jeannie: You mentioned about not tending to the weeds in your garden and how if you don't do that, is God expected to take care of it.... That was interesting and I wanted to share a parable about weeds that you reminded me of when reading your post. 24 Another parable he put be...

Jill · Jill

oh so that's how it feels when I work it! tonight my a husband who is on a real toot called first his mom later his dad. I don't really think he needed a telephone to reach them halfway around the world. He was shouting loudly enough. I was watching "24" and I have to pay attention to the story line. It on its...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, Two very important quotes I received today which reminded me to stop saying, "I need a vacation!" to myself. I have the power to rearrange my own minutes, hours and days to do what I want if I want...I really do...even if it's just being kind to myself. It's really all up to me...and, in a way...

debilyn · debilyn

Working on me, focusing on my feelings I am wondering what makes me think I am stronger than I am? I am very happy with the way my home is. My sanctuary is doing well, I am not feeling overwhelmed. Then someone calls about a rescue and can I help? I want to say no. But she says she will have to put the...

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	right thing to do? (Preview) I keep asking my self that. Husband keeps saying that he wants/ needs help with his drinking, but hasn't took that step to do so. Meanwhile I'm here still dealing with his drinking. My anger is building and my sadness when I look at him I'm finding more difficult to control. I can't help but feel like I nee...	lil_feathered_one	5	924	May 19, 2005 by jo4
	"A" mad that I went to Alanon (Preview) I was shocked when I told my A sister that I went to Alanon and she was so mad at me! She has admitted to being an A and has gone to 2 AA meetings and was sober for about 2 weeks, but then went back to it and had a bad drunk in front of her kids and friends, etc and is now very upset, ashamed, etc....	Newbee	11	1181	May 18, 2005 by lin0606
	Self Esteem (Preview) We often use the expression "good self-esteem, "poor" self-esteem or "no" self-esteem. How does one "esteem" the self and what is the self anyway? Esteem involves loving respect and dignified caring. What of the self? We come into the world with it; it follows us through life like a shadow. If we lose...	Phil	0	963	May 18, 2005 by Phil
	Stomach Knot (Preview) Hi, Today I'm feeling a little sad, and I have that familiar knot in my stomach. My dad is my A (alcohol and pills), he has been attending AA daily for about eighteen months and as far as I know has been sober. My mother is a codependent without a program. Last night she was tel...	nal	5	1180	May 18, 2005 by Powerless
	Quote for Today (Preview) "When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us." --Helen Keller	wallsal55	1	698	May 18, 2005 by Belongtome
	Trust? (Preview) Hi everyone, I left my marriage of 10 years to an A last year and I am finding it very difficult to trust another person. I am always questioning their motives and their whereabouts, that it is just driving me insane. So much so, that I am having nightmares of being betrayed again!&n...	Samena	2	941	May 18, 2005 by abbyal
	Saturday May 21,2005 (Preview) I am sorry to say I will not be able to chair the meeting.. The place where I meet for my F2F will be painting the room we meet in.. I am on the paint commity for this.. We will be meeting up there early and painting all morning till the 2pm F2F meeting starts.. Them meeting in another room for that and then pain...	AngelBearPoet	0	753	May 18, 2005 by AngelBearPoet
	From AA board- Relationship Dance (Preview) Hi, Phil posted this on the AA board and I found it very interesting. I hope he doesn't mind but I copied it here. THE RELATIONSHIP DUET The Dance of Intimacy By Darlene Lancer, M.A., MFT The relationship duet the dance of intimacy that all couples do. If one partner moves in, the other...	Jeannie	0	1023	May 18, 2005 by Jeannie
	Our Closing Prayer (Preview) Hi all, I find myself reciting the closing prayer like I use to say the pledge of allegence when i was a kid in school. It becomes a ritual and I loose the meaning of the words, and just say the words. I have found that a new twist on the same words can help me to bring that meaning back to them and r...	mastiff	2	4287	May 18, 2005 by luv123
	I HAVE COME A LONG WAY (Preview) Hi Everyone I haven't been on this message board in a long time. I have been going to face to face. I have been talking to my new friends from Alanon. I have learn alot of things. My husband has gotten his license and in the begin I was very upset about the change. I have learn to deal with it better. I have be...	nycbt	4	944	May 18, 2005 by megan
	I told God my plans once... (Preview) …and my God gently laughed. I have not been here for awhile. I have not been here for two reasons or so I thought. Now it seems there is there has been only one. I have been enjoying the heck out of myself by going to a beautiful State park and riding my trail bike eight very hilly miles around the big beautifu...	richard	2	953	May 18, 2005 by Diva
	Jeannie.... (Preview) Been reading your posts and I want to thank you for sharing. Yes, my spouse is now back in AA, 4 month sobriety, saw him start to teeter, and wondered if he would stop meetings. He did go to an "open" AA dinner last night, and he then went to a meeting last night. Someone in...	wallsal55	1	707	May 17, 2005 by Jeannie
	It is never easy (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am feeling sad today, because yesterday I spoke to my oldest son, and he started speaking against my younger son. I told him that we don't throw stones, when we live in a glass house. He was talking against my youngest son, telling me that he was drinking yesterday, that...	teddybear	4	883	May 17, 2005 by teddybear
	Quote for Today (Preview) " A racehorse has to run, A bird has to fly, An artist has to paint, A teacher has to teach. There is something in you that you have to do. All that is left to do, do it." --(in closing) from Self Matters, by Dr. Phil McGraw ...	wallsal55	0	688	May 17, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thank you to you gusys and hp (Preview) hi, first Phil, we learn best when we really feel the pain. I am not sorry I went over there. I had wanted to all day. It was very ok. I just am very easily hurt, but you know I was given a gift. I found out what kind of person I am. Hp helped me. I did not do any revenge if she would have come out and yelled or tri...	debilyn	6	843	May 17, 2005 by jj
	With the help of the HP (Preview) Hi, I would like to share my experience about how change does become possible when I stay in my own reality, and work on myself. My son has been going from one relationship to another, he had found someone with whom he felt was the right person for him. He felt good about her, since he knew that&...	teddybear	4	815	May 17, 2005 by teddybear
	Thoughts to Josh (Preview) Hi all, Josh fell out of a tram on his way to a game. Soccer in the UK I believe it is. Now he is TBI (traumatic brain injury) Thank you for your thoughts n dreams n prayers to his life cycle. \/\/ille	wille	13	1463	May 17, 2005 by wille
	I WANT WHAT IS GOOD FOR ME (Preview) There are many times when I doubt the existance of anything that cares what goes on in this world, let alone in my life. Being agnostic, doubt comes easily to me, belief is difficult. But when I think of how someone guided me to Alanon, when my life was at its darkest, I reflect on times when the words and...	gardengal	3	966	May 17, 2005 by Jeannie
	just venting (Preview) Hi All, Yesterday I got a chance, before my a took off for the day with someone else and got drunk, to talk to him and tell him that I didn't believe he was a bad father but that he needed to realize that we really need him around and not to be drunk and annoying. I got to tel...	holly123	5	956	May 17, 2005 by Jeannie
	cant take much more... (Preview) well this morning we (my husband and I) meet my parents at a really nice hotel on the water to have brunch. we have our 2 yr old son with us and i am pregnant with the next. there is bottomless champaign served with brunch and my husband has a couple glasses. i figured we were in th...	kimmie	6	821	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Husband Getting Medical Help (Preview) It has been quite a while since I have posted last and a lot has happened. These past 2 weeks have been the worst. My husbands job had a fire in the area where he worked resulting in a lay off for a few days which turned into a drinking binge for him. I am now working nights until the new guy is trained and that...	debalina36	11	1083	May 16, 2005 by tiredtonite
	Is this IT? (Preview) A called me. He had hocked his telecaster. A very expensive antique like guitar. Said if I can't get it, it is gone. Well it is suppose to go to our son, so I took my savings to get MY wedding ring out of hcck, and got it. He was so ashamed, he made me promise not to tell our son what he had done. He was sob...	debilyn	5	991	May 16, 2005 by iona54
	I guess it is over (Preview) I just want to express my sorrow I guess. I am feeling so totally sad,hurt and betrayed. My A asked me tonight to move out. He has told me to leave many times but this time it was different. My daughter, baby son and I are leaving tomorrow. The weird thing is I now have nothing. I mean literly nothing. No job,...	jkiss03	8	1099	May 16, 2005 by nmike
	Emotional Walls (Preview) Have you ever tried to love someone, but you could feel their emotional walls? You can feel them not letting you in. You can feel the little person trapped inside. Or have you ever felt somebody trying to get to you, but you can feel yourself stopping it? This is how most of us experience relationships. T...	Phil	5	1519	May 16, 2005 by Samena
	Detachment...How much & how? (Preview) Just went to my first Al-anon meeting last night. Boy was that hard! I have been reading the posts on this board and am starting to understand how this "self help" stuff could possibly work. But I have a few questions: 1) I have heard about the "detach with love" philosophy, but ob...	Newbee	5	1061	May 16, 2005 by holly123
	rough night (Preview) Hello all, Had a rough night last night and need to get a few things off my chest. So it begins.... I had to work last night, left kids with hubby. Heck he had told me earlier in the week that it was time that he needed help. Finally I thought I could calm down even if just a little bit. I even asked him if he w...	lil_feathered_one	6	1095	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Such Anquish (Preview) We were supposed to spend the day together. My A and I. I always get such high hopes. This morning we worked in the yard weeding, planting. One small dispute over dumb stuff. Plant placement and where to put weeds. I said I need to take a walk and I just strolled around the house. Came back in a few minutes an...	whatif	4	1008	May 16, 2005 by holly123
	Debilyn (Preview) (((Debilyn))) As always you are so compassionate and wise and I do love and admire you for that. You are so right with me not doing well since the counseling started. I guess I haven't admitted that it is causing me a lot of pain emotionally. I agreed to go to the counseling hoping it might sink in, h...	Jeannie	4	916	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	HIGH BOTTOM DRUNK - the book (Preview) Dear Friends, The book, *High Bottom Drunk, speaks for itself: http://www.highbottomdrunk.com* Love, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/mime.htm	Lani	0	755	May 16, 2005 by Lani
	Boundries (Preview) Hi All, I'd like to know how I am supposed to make boundries for a 33 year old a? I have noticed some changes in him, he used to spent every single day at his buddies garage getting drunk. This let to an affair and a DWI. He spent so much time away that the kids didn'...	holly123	3	729	May 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Property Lines (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735 Property Lines A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful prope...	kismetstrand	2	1179	May 15, 2005 by Annie
	Isn't it Ironic? (Preview) Hello from my job. I' m still at the hotel. I will book another week. I am looking for a place closer to work. I thank each and every one of you for you ESH and for your support. Alanon gave me the strength to walk out the door. My shoes are new but getting broken in. I had lunch today...	megan	9	1102	May 15, 2005 by teddybear
	Step Board (Preview) Hi all - Steo One is posted on the Step Board. Please give your support and share your experience, strength and hope with the newcomer who is just starting their journey through the Steps. Love you all and look forwrd to your shares. Love in Recovery - Dot ((((((((((((all)))))))))) ...	dot	0	611	May 15, 2005 by dot
	Dear Phil (Preview) Your post gave me shivers. You described what is going on perfectly. He keeps saying he does not know what to do, and he told me he is suicidal. I was thinking today that he may need me to make a decision for him. I feel like I always do and have learned from alanon: Being insane is doing the same thing and...	debilyn	4	987	May 15, 2005 by david62
	Not sure.... (Preview) My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she w...	Ladyluck918	2	782	May 15, 2005 by holly123
	Contaminating a Relationship (Preview) I read this over on the AA message board and wanted to copy it over here for our side to read (as I know many don't read the other board). Lots of good stuff to be found over there, which I feel apply equally to both sides. I know it certainly has helped me a lot in my own recovery process. L...	kismetstrand	4	1128	May 15, 2005 by holly123
	different day same ole s@#* (Preview) Well this is the 3rd week in a row that husband has spent an 8 hour day getting absolutely stinking drunk.Since last week's episode he has mowed our yard and the neighbor's. Weeded and mulched the garden. Ran lots of errands. Spent a delightful evening with my son and his family for my son's birthday. To...	whatif	5	1100	May 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Friendship.... (Preview) Did you never experience being in a friendship relation with an Adult from an alcoolic family. I am in Alanon since 12 years.. and at this time a friend... who is also an Alanon member...let me feel the same émotions as with an active alcoolic Sorry for my english french is my firs...	Deutch	2	989	May 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	No One Home (Preview) My husband moves out June 1st to start his new job and end our relationship. I am trying to be thankful for what I do have and what he is able to give. He said let's go to the lake and camp out. It was great to be outdoors. He resembles a shell of a man that I don't even know after so many years. He acts as if he is jus...	nmike	5	760	May 14, 2005 by nmike
	Always thinking (Preview) Hi everyone, We have had a few perfect spring days here in Jersey, so I have taken advantage of it and been getting the outside of the house in shape. I love to garden and take care of the lawn. There is something so freeing about playing in the dirt and the smell of the soil. There is also such a sense of sat...	Jeannie	9	1051	May 14, 2005 by Deutch
	Thank you Greta and Shimo (Preview) I wanted to post a thank you both for Chairing Saturday mornings (5-14-05) for me.. I had a sever reaction to my place being exterminated on thursday.. It was done early in the day and felt i would be ok to be in my home do to the fact i knew i would be home late.. I went to bed at 2am and by 4am i was up and extremly...	AngelBearPoet	0	728	May 14, 2005 by AngelBearPoet
	Awaken (Thought I'd Share) (Preview) After seeing the post of The Awakening, I thought I'd share a poem that I wrote about 3 years ago, as I was just sitting one day and decided to write and 5 minutes later.... This is what I composed. I have to say, I feel it's one of my best and most powerful poems I had ever written without...	sanddie	4	628	May 14, 2005 by sanddie
	To Mastiff (Preview) Thinking of you today as you say goodbye to your dear friend Bluedini. May he live forever in your heart. Luv ya (((((((((((trina)))))))))))) Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I a...	kismetstrand	7	1039	May 14, 2005 by jj
	Counseling update (Preview) Hi, We had another counseling session tonight. The counselor took the gloves off. He told my husband that he is an alcohalic and that his parents are super enablers. He told him that nothing can be done to save his marriage or his life for that matter unless he decides to stop drinking. He told my hus...	Jeannie	7	970	May 14, 2005 by Annie
	intervention (Preview) Has anyone gone through an intervention? I watched Oprah today, and she had two girls on that were the subject of interventions(they were drug users, but honestly, it's not much different than alcohol), and I sat here wondering if that would work on my h, the alcoholic in my life. I am not sure, as h...	cah	4	984	May 14, 2005 by lin0606
	for lav (Preview) sorry dear I tried to get into chat at work, no can do. I can get here !!!!! josey	jrtjosey	1	711	May 14, 2005 by lav
	The Truth Shall Set You Free (Preview) There is ONLY ONE TRUTH that will set anybody free.... I don't claim to be right about choices and things in my life, but there is ONE thing I will ALWAYS claim and that is that I have been blessed in having God a part of my life and allows me to accept EVERYONE without restricting it to one reso...	sanddie	3	979	May 13, 2005 by Christy
	Falling star (Preview) I just came back into the living room, sat down and out my window goes by the brightest falling star I have ever seen. It was so mesmerizing. Any way it took my attention away from being anoyed with my husband who happened to be passed out on the couch. Anoyed because he comes home passes out a...	jj	4	879	May 13, 2005 by nmike
	Affair????? (Preview) Okay, I guess I need some help with this subject. I have been married 10 years this year to my a, it has been rocky for the last 6, it all started when I got pregnant with my son, this freaked my husband out, for many reasons, he knew we were trying but when it happened he got angry, I think it reminded hi...	holly123	6	796	May 13, 2005 by jrtjosey
	daughter's friend okay,,, (Preview) Hello everyone, Thanks again for the prayers for my daughter and her friend's family. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide this past week, 19 year old boy. Her ex-boyfriend's cousin. This morning I got a call from someone looking for the ex-boyfriend. The kid's family was very upset...	cdb	3	719	May 13, 2005 by cdb
	the stupid things (Preview) Okay I realize I am probably being insensitive here but my hubby changed the brakes in our car last Friday night. On Tuesday thankfully the car died right next to a repair shop. He installed the brakes in backwards. Yep backwards and ruined the braking system. Ended up costing us a ton of money. When I to...	jkiss03	3	872	May 13, 2005 by jj
	A reminder (Preview) There are so many areas of my life that I cannot change. What I can change is my attitude. Today, I can accept my life as it is, just for today. I can be grateful and happy, here and now, with what I have. It is about living one minute at a time, and letting go, and letting God(HP) "Life holds so much, s...	teddybear	11	664	May 13, 2005 by teddybear
	ANGRY (Preview) I feel so so angry with my ex-A for the way he has treated me over the past few months. I feel used and abused, He has been sober and following his programme for the past 6 weeks and I feel to reach that he has just climbed all over me. I am really down and feeling vulnerable. He is hardling...	melanieL	6	954	May 12, 2005 by KathyS
	HOW DO I PRAY (Preview) Been having an argument with my ex-h/a he says I should be careful what I pray for and how I pray. He suggested the pray in the big book on awakening. This just doesnt seem right for me. What things do you all say and pray for? I know this may seem like a strange question but...	melanieL	11	1181	May 12, 2005 by abbyal
	Explanation of some things (Preview) I want to explain my share this morning. It seemed to upset alot of people and i also got angry that wasnt my intention. So i will try to explain what i shared more clearly. I was sharing on my alanon experience last time i was in this program 3 years ago, its something ive never really shared all of but i will...	kerry5	19	1007	May 12, 2005 by sanddie
	UNEQUALLY YOKED???? (Preview) I wanted to share a website I came across that I found most interesting. The author is April Crum, who is a student in a university who gives meaning behind what it means to be unequally yoked...... Unequally Yoked? By April Crum In 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 Paul discusse...	sanddie	4	2879	May 12, 2005 by sooner
	Response to Always Thinking and the Garden Analogy (Preview) Jeannie: You mentioned about not tending to the weeds in your garden and how if you don't do that, is God expected to take care of it.... That was interesting and I wanted to share a parable about weeds that you reminded me of when reading your post. 24 Another parable he put be...	sanddie	1	1071	May 12, 2005 by Jeannie
	Detaching with Love (Preview) oh so that's how it feels when I work it! tonight my a husband who is on a real toot called first his mom later his dad. I don't really think he needed a telephone to reach them halfway around the world. He was shouting loudly enough. I was watching "24" and I have to pay attention to the story line. It on its...	Jill	5	1102	May 12, 2005 by holly123
	BE ON VACATION - TODAY!!! (Preview) Dear Friends, Two very important quotes I received today which reminded me to stop saying, "I need a vacation!" to myself. I have the power to rearrange my own minutes, hours and days to do what I want if I want...I really do...even if it's just being kind to myself. It's really all up to me...and, in a way...	Lani	6	1033	May 12, 2005 by bob6502
	wondering (Preview) Working on me, focusing on my feelings I am wondering what makes me think I am stronger than I am? I am very happy with the way my home is. My sanctuary is doing well, I am not feeling overwhelmed. Then someone calls about a rescue and can I help? I want to say no. But she says she will have to put the...	debilyn	4	822	May 12, 2005 by she123
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