Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

debilyn · debilyn

hi, first Phil, we learn best when we really feel the pain. I am not sorry I went over there. I had wanted to all day. It was very ok. I just am very easily hurt, but you know I was given a gift. I found out what kind of person I am. Hp helped me. I did not do any revenge if she would have come out and yelled or tri...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi, I would like to share my experience about how change does become possible when I stay in my own reality, and work on myself. My son has been going from one relationship to another, he had found someone with whom he felt was the right person for him. He felt good about her, since he knew that&...

wille · wille

Hi all, Josh fell out of a tram on his way to a game. Soccer in the UK I believe it is. Now he is TBI (traumatic brain injury) Thank you for your thoughts n dreams n prayers to his life cycle. \/\/ille

gardengal · gardengal

There are many times when I doubt the existance of anything that cares what goes on in this world, let alone in my life. Being agnostic, doubt comes easily to me, belief is difficult. But when I think of how someone guided me to Alanon, when my life was at its darkest, I reflect on times when the words and...

holly123 · holly123

Hi All, Yesterday I got a chance, before my a took off for the day with someone else and got drunk, to talk to him and tell him that I didn't believe he was a bad father but that he needed to realize that we really need him around and not to be drunk and annoying. I got to tel...

kimmie · kimmie

well this morning we (my husband and I) meet my parents at a really nice hotel on the water to have brunch. we have our 2 yr old son with us and i am pregnant with the next. there is bottomless champaign served with brunch and my husband has a couple glasses. i figured we were in th...

debalina36 · debalina36

It has been quite a while since I have posted last and a lot has happened. These past 2 weeks have been the worst. My husbands job had a fire in the area where he worked resulting in a lay off for a few days which turned into a drinking binge for him. I am now working nights until the new guy is trained and that...

debilyn · debilyn

A called me. He had hocked his telecaster. A very expensive antique like guitar. Said if I can't get it, it is gone. Well it is suppose to go to our son, so I took my savings to get MY wedding ring out of hcck, and got it. He was so ashamed, he made me promise not to tell our son what he had done. He was sob...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

I just want to express my sorrow I guess. I am feeling so totally sad,hurt and betrayed. My A asked me tonight to move out. He has told me to leave many times but this time it was different. My daughter, baby son and I are leaving tomorrow. The weird thing is I now have nothing. I mean literly nothing. No job,...

Phil · Phil

Have you ever tried to love someone, but you could feel their emotional walls? You can feel them not letting you in. You can feel the little person trapped inside. Or have you ever felt somebody trying to get to you, but you can feel yourself stopping it? This is how most of us experience relationships. T...

Newbee · Newbee

Just went to my first Al-anon meeting last night. Boy was that hard! I have been reading the posts on this board and am starting to understand how this "self help" stuff could possibly work. But I have a few questions: 1) I have heard about the "detach with love" philosophy, but ob...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

Hello all, Had a rough night last night and need to get a few things off my chest. So it begins.... I had to work last night, left kids with hubby. Heck he had told me earlier in the week that it was time that he needed help. Finally I thought I could calm down even if just a little bit. I even asked him if he w...

whatif · whatif

We were supposed to spend the day together. My A and I. I always get such high hopes. This morning we worked in the yard weeding, planting. One small dispute over dumb stuff. Plant placement and where to put weeds. I said I need to take a walk and I just strolled around the house. Came back in a few minutes an...

Jeannie · Jeannie

(((Debilyn))) As always you are so compassionate and wise and I do love and admire you for that. You are so right with me not doing well since the counseling started. I guess I haven't admitted that it is causing me a lot of pain emotionally. I agreed to go to the counseling hoping it might sink in, h...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, The book, High Bottom Drunk, speaks for itself: http://www.highbottomdrunk.com Love, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/mime.htm

holly123 · holly123

Hi All, I'd like to know how I am supposed to make boundries for a 33 year old a? I have noticed some changes in him, he used to spent every single day at his buddies garage getting drunk. This let to an affair and a DWI. He spent so much time away that the kids didn'...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735 Property Lines A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful prope...

megan · megan

Hello from my job. I' m still at the hotel. I will book another week. I am looking for a place closer to work. I thank each and every one of you for you ESH and for your support. Alanon gave me the strength to walk out the door. My shoes are new but getting broken in. I had lunch today...

dot · dot

Hi all - Steo One is posted on the Step Board. Please give your support and share your experience, strength and hope with the newcomer who is just starting their journey through the Steps. Love you all and look forwrd to your shares. Love in Recovery - Dot ((((((((((((all)))))))))) ...

debilyn · debilyn

Your post gave me shivers. You described what is going on perfectly. He keeps saying he does not know what to do, and he told me he is suicidal. I was thinking today that he may need me to make a decision for him. I feel like I always do and have learned from alanon: Being insane is doing the same thing and...

Ladyluck918 · Ladyluck918

My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she w...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I read this over on the AA message board and wanted to copy it over here for our side to read (as I know many don't read the other board). Lots of good stuff to be found over there, which I feel apply equally to both sides. I know it certainly has helped me a lot in my own recovery process. L...

whatif · whatif

Well this is the 3rd week in a row that husband has spent an 8 hour day getting absolutely stinking drunk.Since last week's episode he has mowed our yard and the neighbor's. Weeded and mulched the garden. Ran lots of errands. Spent a delightful evening with my son and his family for my son's birthday. To...

Deutch · Deutch

Did you never experience being in a friendship relation with an Adult from an alcoolic family. I am in Alanon since 12 years.. and at this time a friend... who is also an Alanon member...let me feel the same émotions as with an active alcoolic Sorry for my english french is my firs...

nmike · nmike

My husband moves out June 1st to start his new job and end our relationship. I am trying to be thankful for what I do have and what he is able to give. He said let's go to the lake and camp out. It was great to be outdoors. He resembles a shell of a man that I don't even know after so many years. He acts as if he is jus...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, We have had a few perfect spring days here in Jersey, so I have taken advantage of it and been getting the outside of the house in shape. I love to garden and take care of the lawn. There is something so freeing about playing in the dirt and the smell of the soil. There is also such a sense of sat...

AngelBearPoet · AngelBearPoet

I wanted to post a thank you both for Chairing Saturday mornings (5-14-05) for me.. I had a sever reaction to my place being exterminated on thursday.. It was done early in the day and felt i would be ok to be in my home do to the fact i knew i would be home late.. I went to bed at 2am and by 4am i was up and extremly...

sanddie · sanddie

After seeing the post of The Awakening, I thought I'd share a poem that I wrote about 3 years ago, as I was just sitting one day and decided to write and 5 minutes later.... This is what I composed. I have to say, I feel it's one of my best and most powerful poems I had ever written without...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Thinking of you today as you say goodbye to your dear friend Bluedini. May he live forever in your heart. Luv ya (((((((((((trina)))))))))))) Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I a...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, We had another counseling session tonight. The counselor took the gloves off. He told my husband that he is an alcohalic and that his parents are super enablers. He told him that nothing can be done to save his marriage or his life for that matter unless he decides to stop drinking. He told my hus...

cah · cah

Has anyone gone through an intervention? I watched Oprah today, and she had two girls on that were the subject of interventions(they were drug users, but honestly, it's not much different than alcohol), and I sat here wondering if that would work on my h, the alcoholic in my life. I am not sure, as h...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

sorry dear I tried to get into chat at work, no can do. I can get here !!!!! josey

sanddie · sanddie

There is ONLY ONE TRUTH that will set anybody free.... I don't claim to be right about choices and things in my life, but there is ONE thing I will ALWAYS claim and that is that I have been blessed in having God a part of my life and allows me to accept EVERYONE without restricting it to one reso...

jj · jj

I just came back into the living room, sat down and out my window goes by the brightest falling star I have ever seen. It was so mesmerizing. Any way it took my attention away from being anoyed with my husband who happened to be passed out on the couch. Anoyed because he comes home passes out a...

holly123 · holly123

Okay, I guess I need some help with this subject. I have been married 10 years this year to my a, it has been rocky for the last 6, it all started when I got pregnant with my son, this freaked my husband out, for many reasons, he knew we were trying but when it happened he got angry, I think it reminded hi...

cdb · cdb

Hello everyone, Thanks again for the prayers for my daughter and her friend's family. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide this past week, 19 year old boy. Her ex-boyfriend's cousin. This morning I got a call from someone looking for the ex-boyfriend. The kid's family was very upset...

jkiss03 · jkiss03

Okay I realize I am probably being insensitive here but my hubby changed the brakes in our car last Friday night. On Tuesday thankfully the car died right next to a repair shop. He installed the brakes in backwards. Yep backwards and ruined the braking system. Ended up costing us a ton of money. When I to...

teddybear · teddybear

There are so many areas of my life that I cannot change. What I can change is my attitude. Today, I can accept my life as it is, just for today. I can be grateful and happy, here and now, with what I have. It is about living one minute at a time, and letting go, and letting God(HP) "Life holds so much, s...

melanieL · melanieL

I feel so so angry with my ex-A for the way he has treated me over the past few months. I feel used and abused, He has been sober and following his programme for the past 6 weeks and I feel to reach that he has just climbed all over me. I am really down and feeling vulnerable. He is hardling...

melanieL · melanieL

Been having an argument with my ex-h/a he says I should be careful what I pray for and how I pray. He suggested the pray in the big book on awakening. This just doesnt seem right for me. What things do you all say and pray for? I know this may seem like a strange question but...

kerry5 · kerry5

I want to explain my share this morning. It seemed to upset alot of people and i also got angry that wasnt my intention. So i will try to explain what i shared more clearly. I was sharing on my alanon experience last time i was in this program 3 years ago, its something ive never really shared all of but i will...

sanddie · sanddie

I wanted to share a website I came across that I found most interesting. The author is April Crum, who is a student in a university who gives meaning behind what it means to be unequally yoked...... Unequally Yoked? By April Crum In 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 Paul discusse...

sanddie · sanddie

Jeannie: You mentioned about not tending to the weeds in your garden and how if you don't do that, is God expected to take care of it.... That was interesting and I wanted to share a parable about weeds that you reminded me of when reading your post. 24 Another parable he put be...

Jill · Jill

oh so that's how it feels when I work it! tonight my a husband who is on a real toot called first his mom later his dad. I don't really think he needed a telephone to reach them halfway around the world. He was shouting loudly enough. I was watching "24" and I have to pay attention to the story line. It on its...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, Two very important quotes I received today which reminded me to stop saying, "I need a vacation!" to myself. I have the power to rearrange my own minutes, hours and days to do what I want if I want...I really do...even if it's just being kind to myself. It's really all up to me...and, in a way...

debilyn · debilyn

Working on me, focusing on my feelings I am wondering what makes me think I am stronger than I am? I am very happy with the way my home is. My sanctuary is doing well, I am not feeling overwhelmed. Then someone calls about a rescue and can I help? I want to say no. But she says she will have to put the...

lost · lost

My husband and i have been going round and round for a few weeks. i had decided that i was done living with alcoholism. i felt i needed to share that with him---even knowing that only he can decide to make that change. in the last three weeks he has yelled, screamed, told me to divorce,...

jj · jj

To start all of you wondering how I am doing.... I am getting healthier every day and feeling much better, Hey I even have some energy back

Well as I mentioned in one of my other posts I have had an awakening of sorts and have had alot of time to think about everything and how I am feeling an...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

The beginning of character building comes with doing things we dislike. There's always "an easier, softer way," but we hurt ourselves when we take it. Self-respect is built on deeds, not intentions. The best of intentions won't get us to work on time, cl...

Powerless · Powerless

I heard at a face-to-face that I don't always have to make a decision. Maybe I am having such a hard time with sticking to the decision of kicking him out because it is not the right time. Maybe it's the wrong time, but the right thing to do or maybe it is the w...

gardengal · gardengal

Alcoholics act and family and friends "react". Most of us dont realize we have a choice! It's as if we were holding one end of a rope and and alcoholic grapped the other end and started to tug. Most of us would react automatically. We would tug back. It never occurs to us that we dont have to play.If we knew w...

sooner · sooner

Many of us have lost our moms to death or to this disease. Some of us never had a mom. So today if it's in your power to do so please consider showing another human being some gentleness and tenderness. A little can go a long way and help someone get through the day. And even though I have little to give I'm goi...

Powerless · Powerless

I spoke with my usband last night over the phone and explained that I love him very much, but explained that I am scared for our future and the children's if he stays. He said that he does not want to leave, but will if it means saving the kids. I went to bed with a little less worry, but am wander...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Love turns on the sun; we have a happy day and all is well with the world. Love brings out full size in us. It discovers within us ambitions unnumbered, goodness unlimited. It multiplies our energy beyond our imagination. It excites a courage braver than any s...

shimo · shimo

Just a note to let you all know I have tests scheduled at the hospital on Tuesday morning and may not be back home in time to honor my commitment to chair the meeting. Between now and then, I will attempt to get someone else to stand-in for me but if I am not successful, I know someone wil...

megan · megan

Saturday night was it. I spent the afternoon with 2 alanon friends and when I got home my A was mad. So I took my bike and went to the park for 2 hours riding and decompressing i got home and we had a cookout and then he started in with the verbal abuse. I left the room, went upstairs, picked u...

Powerless · Powerless

I wouldn't be me if I wasn't confused most of the time. I felt so strong this weekend, angry, but strong. I felt peace because I made a vow that my husband would leave and I would follow through with my decision. Today, I am not angry. I am sad at the loss of what I originally thoug...

Maria123 · Maria123

May 4, 2005 Business Meeting Minutes for Al-Anon Attending: Shimo, danz123, Maria123, cdb, cloud, garom, greta, jrtjosey, kismetstrand, Quietvoice, SenoraBob, shadow 1, acebass, Peggy7, buzzfree, cindy, mamerich, haximon, david62, Mastiff, rollo, kerry55, Dot48730, tired...

Christy · Christy

Hi everyone!! a friend sent this to me....I guess timing is everything..... have a great day.... Christy The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUG...

Lani · Lani

Struggling with a decision?

"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." -- Dale Carnegie Our anxiety level spikes and we wrestle with whether to choose option A or option B. Fear of making t...

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	Thank you to you gusys and hp (Preview) hi, first Phil, we learn best when we really feel the pain. I am not sorry I went over there. I had wanted to all day. It was very ok. I just am very easily hurt, but you know I was given a gift. I found out what kind of person I am. Hp helped me. I did not do any revenge if she would have come out and yelled or tri...	debilyn	6	669	May 17, 2005 by jj
	With the help of the HP (Preview) Hi, I would like to share my experience about how change does become possible when I stay in my own reality, and work on myself. My son has been going from one relationship to another, he had found someone with whom he felt was the right person for him. He felt good about her, since he knew that&...	teddybear	4	620	May 17, 2005 by teddybear
	Thoughts to Josh (Preview) Hi all, Josh fell out of a tram on his way to a game. Soccer in the UK I believe it is. Now he is TBI (traumatic brain injury) Thank you for your thoughts n dreams n prayers to his life cycle. \/\/ille	wille	13	1233	May 17, 2005 by wille
	I WANT WHAT IS GOOD FOR ME (Preview) There are many times when I doubt the existance of anything that cares what goes on in this world, let alone in my life. Being agnostic, doubt comes easily to me, belief is difficult. But when I think of how someone guided me to Alanon, when my life was at its darkest, I reflect on times when the words and...	gardengal	3	753	May 17, 2005 by Jeannie
	just venting (Preview) Hi All, Yesterday I got a chance, before my a took off for the day with someone else and got drunk, to talk to him and tell him that I didn't believe he was a bad father but that he needed to realize that we really need him around and not to be drunk and annoying. I got to tel...	holly123	5	744	May 17, 2005 by Jeannie
	cant take much more... (Preview) well this morning we (my husband and I) meet my parents at a really nice hotel on the water to have brunch. we have our 2 yr old son with us and i am pregnant with the next. there is bottomless champaign served with brunch and my husband has a couple glasses. i figured we were in th...	kimmie	6	649	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Husband Getting Medical Help (Preview) It has been quite a while since I have posted last and a lot has happened. These past 2 weeks have been the worst. My husbands job had a fire in the area where he worked resulting in a lay off for a few days which turned into a drinking binge for him. I am now working nights until the new guy is trained and that...	debalina36	11	873	May 16, 2005 by tiredtonite
	Is this IT? (Preview) A called me. He had hocked his telecaster. A very expensive antique like guitar. Said if I can't get it, it is gone. Well it is suppose to go to our son, so I took my savings to get MY wedding ring out of hcck, and got it. He was so ashamed, he made me promise not to tell our son what he had done. He was sob...	debilyn	5	766	May 16, 2005 by iona54
	I guess it is over (Preview) I just want to express my sorrow I guess. I am feeling so totally sad,hurt and betrayed. My A asked me tonight to move out. He has told me to leave many times but this time it was different. My daughter, baby son and I are leaving tomorrow. The weird thing is I now have nothing. I mean literly nothing. No job,...	jkiss03	8	845	May 16, 2005 by nmike
	Emotional Walls (Preview) Have you ever tried to love someone, but you could feel their emotional walls? You can feel them not letting you in. You can feel the little person trapped inside. Or have you ever felt somebody trying to get to you, but you can feel yourself stopping it? This is how most of us experience relationships. T...	Phil	5	1267	May 16, 2005 by Samena
	Detachment...How much & how? (Preview) Just went to my first Al-anon meeting last night. Boy was that hard! I have been reading the posts on this board and am starting to understand how this "self help" stuff could possibly work. But I have a few questions: 1) I have heard about the "detach with love" philosophy, but ob...	Newbee	5	848	May 16, 2005 by holly123
	rough night (Preview) Hello all, Had a rough night last night and need to get a few things off my chest. So it begins.... I had to work last night, left kids with hubby. Heck he had told me earlier in the week that it was time that he needed help. Finally I thought I could calm down even if just a little bit. I even asked him if he w...	lil_feathered_one	6	906	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	Such Anquish (Preview) We were supposed to spend the day together. My A and I. I always get such high hopes. This morning we worked in the yard weeding, planting. One small dispute over dumb stuff. Plant placement and where to put weeds. I said I need to take a walk and I just strolled around the house. Came back in a few minutes an...	whatif	4	825	May 16, 2005 by holly123
	Debilyn (Preview) (((Debilyn))) As always you are so compassionate and wise and I do love and admire you for that. You are so right with me not doing well since the counseling started. I guess I haven't admitted that it is causing me a lot of pain emotionally. I agreed to go to the counseling hoping it might sink in, h...	Jeannie	4	737	May 16, 2005 by Jeannie
	HIGH BOTTOM DRUNK - the book (Preview) Dear Friends, The book, *High Bottom Drunk, speaks for itself: http://www.highbottomdrunk.com* Love, Lani Children of Alcoholics http://lanipicard.com/mime.htm	Lani	0	587	May 16, 2005 by Lani
	Boundries (Preview) Hi All, I'd like to know how I am supposed to make boundries for a 33 year old a? I have noticed some changes in him, he used to spent every single day at his buddies garage getting drunk. This let to an affair and a DWI. He spent so much time away that the kids didn'...	holly123	3	548	May 15, 2005 by Powerless
	Property Lines (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42735 Property Lines A helpful tool in our recovery, especially in the behavior we call detachment, is learning to identify who owns what. Then we let each person own and possess his or her rightful prope...	kismetstrand	2	761	May 15, 2005 by Annie
	Isn't it Ironic? (Preview) Hello from my job. I' m still at the hotel. I will book another week. I am looking for a place closer to work. I thank each and every one of you for you ESH and for your support. Alanon gave me the strength to walk out the door. My shoes are new but getting broken in. I had lunch today...	megan	9	920	May 15, 2005 by teddybear
	Step Board (Preview) Hi all - Steo One is posted on the Step Board. Please give your support and share your experience, strength and hope with the newcomer who is just starting their journey through the Steps. Love you all and look forwrd to your shares. Love in Recovery - Dot ((((((((((((all)))))))))) ...	dot	0	457	May 15, 2005 by dot
	Dear Phil (Preview) Your post gave me shivers. You described what is going on perfectly. He keeps saying he does not know what to do, and he told me he is suicidal. I was thinking today that he may need me to make a decision for him. I feel like I always do and have learned from alanon: Being insane is doing the same thing and...	debilyn	4	783	May 15, 2005 by david62
	Not sure.... (Preview) My father is currently going to AA and my mother is attending al-anon meetings in our area... so they are both trying to get on the road to recovery except that my mother just sits staring off into space or is in bed all day long. She will come home from work and sleep, on the weekends she will sleep, and she w...	Ladyluck918	2	590	May 15, 2005 by holly123
	Contaminating a Relationship (Preview) I read this over on the AA message board and wanted to copy it over here for our side to read (as I know many don't read the other board). Lots of good stuff to be found over there, which I feel apply equally to both sides. I know it certainly has helped me a lot in my own recovery process. L...	kismetstrand	4	933	May 15, 2005 by holly123
	different day same ole s@#* (Preview) Well this is the 3rd week in a row that husband has spent an 8 hour day getting absolutely stinking drunk.Since last week's episode he has mowed our yard and the neighbor's. Weeded and mulched the garden. Ran lots of errands. Spent a delightful evening with my son and his family for my son's birthday. To...	whatif	5	889	May 14, 2005 by lin0606
	Friendship.... (Preview) Did you never experience being in a friendship relation with an Adult from an alcoolic family. I am in Alanon since 12 years.. and at this time a friend... who is also an Alanon member...let me feel the same émotions as with an active alcoolic Sorry for my english french is my firs...	Deutch	2	790	May 14, 2005 by kismetstrand
	No One Home (Preview) My husband moves out June 1st to start his new job and end our relationship. I am trying to be thankful for what I do have and what he is able to give. He said let's go to the lake and camp out. It was great to be outdoors. He resembles a shell of a man that I don't even know after so many years. He acts as if he is jus...	nmike	5	549	May 14, 2005 by nmike
	Always thinking (Preview) Hi everyone, We have had a few perfect spring days here in Jersey, so I have taken advantage of it and been getting the outside of the house in shape. I love to garden and take care of the lawn. There is something so freeing about playing in the dirt and the smell of the soil. There is also such a sense of sat...	Jeannie	9	843	May 14, 2005 by Deutch
	Thank you Greta and Shimo (Preview) I wanted to post a thank you both for Chairing Saturday mornings (5-14-05) for me.. I had a sever reaction to my place being exterminated on thursday.. It was done early in the day and felt i would be ok to be in my home do to the fact i knew i would be home late.. I went to bed at 2am and by 4am i was up and extremly...	AngelBearPoet	0	525	May 14, 2005 by AngelBearPoet
	Awaken (Thought I'd Share) (Preview) After seeing the post of The Awakening, I thought I'd share a poem that I wrote about 3 years ago, as I was just sitting one day and decided to write and 5 minutes later.... This is what I composed. I have to say, I feel it's one of my best and most powerful poems I had ever written without...	sanddie	4	450	May 14, 2005 by sanddie
	To Mastiff (Preview) Thinking of you today as you say goodbye to your dear friend Bluedini. May he live forever in your heart. Luv ya (((((((((((trina)))))))))))) Do not stand at my grave and weep; I am not there. I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I a...	kismetstrand	7	870	May 14, 2005 by jj
	Counseling update (Preview) Hi, We had another counseling session tonight. The counselor took the gloves off. He told my husband that he is an alcohalic and that his parents are super enablers. He told him that nothing can be done to save his marriage or his life for that matter unless he decides to stop drinking. He told my hus...	Jeannie	7	773	May 14, 2005 by Annie
	intervention (Preview) Has anyone gone through an intervention? I watched Oprah today, and she had two girls on that were the subject of interventions(they were drug users, but honestly, it's not much different than alcohol), and I sat here wondering if that would work on my h, the alcoholic in my life. I am not sure, as h...	cah	4	806	May 14, 2005 by lin0606
	for lav (Preview) sorry dear I tried to get into chat at work, no can do. I can get here !!!!! josey	jrtjosey	1	545	May 14, 2005 by lav
	The Truth Shall Set You Free (Preview) There is ONLY ONE TRUTH that will set anybody free.... I don't claim to be right about choices and things in my life, but there is ONE thing I will ALWAYS claim and that is that I have been blessed in having God a part of my life and allows me to accept EVERYONE without restricting it to one reso...	sanddie	3	789	May 13, 2005 by Christy
	Falling star (Preview) I just came back into the living room, sat down and out my window goes by the brightest falling star I have ever seen. It was so mesmerizing. Any way it took my attention away from being anoyed with my husband who happened to be passed out on the couch. Anoyed because he comes home passes out a...	jj	4	717	May 13, 2005 by nmike
	Affair????? (Preview) Okay, I guess I need some help with this subject. I have been married 10 years this year to my a, it has been rocky for the last 6, it all started when I got pregnant with my son, this freaked my husband out, for many reasons, he knew we were trying but when it happened he got angry, I think it reminded hi...	holly123	6	582	May 13, 2005 by jrtjosey
	daughter's friend okay,,, (Preview) Hello everyone, Thanks again for the prayers for my daughter and her friend's family. A friend of my daughter's committed suicide this past week, 19 year old boy. Her ex-boyfriend's cousin. This morning I got a call from someone looking for the ex-boyfriend. The kid's family was very upset...	cdb	3	517	May 13, 2005 by cdb
	the stupid things (Preview) Okay I realize I am probably being insensitive here but my hubby changed the brakes in our car last Friday night. On Tuesday thankfully the car died right next to a repair shop. He installed the brakes in backwards. Yep backwards and ruined the braking system. Ended up costing us a ton of money. When I to...	jkiss03	3	670	May 13, 2005 by jj
	A reminder (Preview) There are so many areas of my life that I cannot change. What I can change is my attitude. Today, I can accept my life as it is, just for today. I can be grateful and happy, here and now, with what I have. It is about living one minute at a time, and letting go, and letting God(HP) "Life holds so much, s...	teddybear	11	499	May 13, 2005 by teddybear
	ANGRY (Preview) I feel so so angry with my ex-A for the way he has treated me over the past few months. I feel used and abused, He has been sober and following his programme for the past 6 weeks and I feel to reach that he has just climbed all over me. I am really down and feeling vulnerable. He is hardling...	melanieL	6	737	May 12, 2005 by KathyS
	HOW DO I PRAY (Preview) Been having an argument with my ex-h/a he says I should be careful what I pray for and how I pray. He suggested the pray in the big book on awakening. This just doesnt seem right for me. What things do you all say and pray for? I know this may seem like a strange question but...	melanieL	11	960	May 12, 2005 by abbyal
	Explanation of some things (Preview) I want to explain my share this morning. It seemed to upset alot of people and i also got angry that wasnt my intention. So i will try to explain what i shared more clearly. I was sharing on my alanon experience last time i was in this program 3 years ago, its something ive never really shared all of but i will...	kerry5	19	773	May 12, 2005 by sanddie
	UNEQUALLY YOKED???? (Preview) I wanted to share a website I came across that I found most interesting. The author is April Crum, who is a student in a university who gives meaning behind what it means to be unequally yoked...... Unequally Yoked? By April Crum In 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1 Paul discusse...	sanddie	4	2337	May 12, 2005 by sooner
	Response to Always Thinking and the Garden Analogy (Preview) Jeannie: You mentioned about not tending to the weeds in your garden and how if you don't do that, is God expected to take care of it.... That was interesting and I wanted to share a parable about weeds that you reminded me of when reading your post. 24 Another parable he put be...	sanddie	1	843	May 12, 2005 by Jeannie
	Detaching with Love (Preview) oh so that's how it feels when I work it! tonight my a husband who is on a real toot called first his mom later his dad. I don't really think he needed a telephone to reach them halfway around the world. He was shouting loudly enough. I was watching "24" and I have to pay attention to the story line. It on its...	Jill	5	877	May 12, 2005 by holly123
	BE ON VACATION - TODAY!!! (Preview) Dear Friends, Two very important quotes I received today which reminded me to stop saying, "I need a vacation!" to myself. I have the power to rearrange my own minutes, hours and days to do what I want if I want...I really do...even if it's just being kind to myself. It's really all up to me...and, in a way...	Lani	6	870	May 12, 2005 by bob6502
	wondering (Preview) Working on me, focusing on my feelings I am wondering what makes me think I am stronger than I am? I am very happy with the way my home is. My sanctuary is doing well, I am not feeling overwhelmed. Then someone calls about a rescue and can I help? I want to say no. But she says she will have to put the...	debilyn	4	629	May 12, 2005 by she123
	The game we are playing--help me! (Preview) My husband and i have been going round and round for a few weeks. i had decided that i was done living with alcoholism. i felt i needed to share that with him---even knowing that only he can decide to make that change. in the last three weeks he has yelled, screamed, told me to divorce,...	lost	10	941	May 12, 2005 by KathyS
	Taking Action/ In a good place (Preview) To start all of you wondering how I am doing.... I am getting healthier every day and feeling much better, Hey I even have some energy back Well as I mentioned in one of my other posts I have had an awakening of sorts and have had alot of time to think about everything and how I am feeling an...	jj	4	689	May 11, 2005 by jj
	Self Discipline (Preview) The beginning of character building comes with doing things we dislike. There's always "an easier, softer way," but we hurt ourselves when we take it. Self-respect is built on deeds, not intentions. The best of intentions won't get us to work on time, cl...	wallsal55	5	821	May 11, 2005 by Lanchas
	Maybe I don't have to make a decision (Preview) I heard at a face-to-face that I don't always have to make a decision. Maybe I am having such a hard time with sticking to the decision of kicking him out because it is not the right time. Maybe it's the wrong time, but the right thing to do or maybe it is the w...	Powerless	6	851	May 11, 2005 by wallsal55
	Hold onto the rope? Or let go? What's your choice? (Preview) Alcoholics act and family and friends "react". Most of us dont realize we have a choice! It's as if we were holding one end of a rope and and alcoholic grapped the other end and started to tug. Most of us would react automatically. We would tug back. It never occurs to us that we dont have to play.If we knew w...	gardengal	6	2116	May 11, 2005 by nmike
	Please remember those who've lost their moms (Preview) Many of us have lost our moms to death or to this disease. Some of us never had a mom. So today if it's in your power to do so please consider showing another human being some gentleness and tenderness. A little can go a long way and help someone get through the day. And even though I have little to give I'm goi...	sooner	11	623	May 10, 2005 by sooner
	Thank you...feeling stronger (Preview) I spoke with my usband last night over the phone and explained that I love him very much, but explained that I am scared for our future and the children's if he stays. He said that he does not want to leave, but will if it means saving the kids. I went to bed with a little less worry, but am wander...	Powerless	3	489	May 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	Love (Self-Love,too!) (Preview) Love turns on the sun; we have a happy day and all is well with the world. Love brings out full size in us. It discovers within us ambitions unnumbered, goodness unlimited. It multiplies our energy beyond our imagination. It excites a courage braver than any s...	wallsal55	2	472	May 10, 2005 by wallsal55
	May 10 - A.M. MTG. (Preview) Just a note to let you all know I have tests scheduled at the hospital on Tuesday morning and may not be back home in time to honor my commitment to chair the meeting. Between now and then, I will attempt to get someone else to stand-in for me but if I am not successful, I know someone wil...	shimo	3	557	May 10, 2005 by Faith73
	well I left even if for 2 nights.... (Preview) Saturday night was it. I spent the afternoon with 2 alanon friends and when I got home my A was mad. So I took my bike and went to the park for 2 hours riding and decompressing i got home and we had a cookout and then he started in with the verbal abuse. I left the room, went upstairs, picked u...	megan	13	1036	May 10, 2005 by Faith73
	Conflicted feelings (Preview) I wouldn't be me if I wasn't confused most of the time. I felt so strong this weekend, angry, but strong. I felt peace because I made a vow that my husband would leave and I would follow through with my decision. Today, I am not angry. I am sad at the loss of what I originally thoug...	Powerless	3	461	May 9, 2005 by captcodee
	May 4, 2005 BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES (Preview) May 4, 2005 Business Meeting Minutes for Al-Anon Attending: Shimo, danz123, Maria123, cdb, cloud, garom, greta, jrtjosey, kismetstrand, Quietvoice, SenoraBob, shadow 1, acebass, Peggy7, buzzfree, cindy, mamerich, haximon, david62, Mastiff, rollo, kerry55, Dot48730, tired...	Maria123	0	703	May 9, 2005 by Maria123
	A must read (Preview) Hi everyone!! a friend sent this to me....I guess timing is everything..... have a great day.... Christy The Awakening A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUG...	Christy	4	770	May 9, 2005 by TLC2
	STRUGGLING WITH DECISION (Preview) Struggling with a decision? "You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." -- Dale Carnegie Our anxiety level spikes and we wrestle with whether to choose option A or option B. Fear of making t...	Lani	1	656	May 9, 2005 by wallsal55
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