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I haven't been on this message board in a long time. I have been going to face to face. I have been talking to my new friends from Alanon. I have learn alot of things. My husband has gotten his license and in the begin I was very upset about the change. I have learn to deal with it better. I have been working really hard on a control issue over trying to watch what he does. But I now know that he is going to do what he wants and there is nothing I can do to control him.
He has been in recovery for over 90 days. He is getting his pin today. So since I started here he has gotten sober and going to AA and he has some friends that he talks to that helps him.
I been working at my job for 7 yrs today. This is job is a change that I have dealt with. I moved down here from my parents house. This is my first full time job that I have every had. And I didn't think that I would be able to handle having a full time job and now look I have been here 7 yrs. I made it.
I have finally have moved onto step 2 with lots of work. I have know realize if he does go back to drinking I will be ok, because I have set up a nice support system. I got my job where I have set up a family leave if I have to leave my job to deal with stuff. I have 12 weeks. I could go to my uncles in Vegas if I need too. I have my parents. I now have girlfriends in and out of Alanon to help me.
I moved from a place that I lived out for 6 yrs and moved to a much nicer place. I didn't want to move because I don't like to change. But now I am in a nicer neighborhood and it is much safer. I don't have to worry about walking around that any one is going to bother me.
My husband is going to go for a physical with the post office so he is problary going to be getting a job, which is another change. I am hoping with the help of my support system I will be able to handle it. He is problary going to be getting a car which is another thing that I am going to have to deal with.
Thanks all
Becky
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Congratulations to both you and your a for 90 days in the program. Sounds like you are really doing well. Change is very hard but not always for the worst as you have found out. I am very resistant to change but when it happens I usually do my best to find a way to deal with it until I'm used to the change. I have always thought that I knew best but maybe I don't.
Anyway keep up the good work, and keep coming back you are worth it.
I am trying so hard to deal with the changes going on in my life. It is very hard and I spend alot of time thinking on how I can stop the change, but when it happens I try my hardest to work with it.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
