Day 12 Just an update. - Al-Anon Family Group

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

Day 12 Just an update.

Jeannie · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Megan)))

Glad to hear you are doing well and relaxing, taking care of you.

Yes you do have decisions to make, but you have time, you don't need to make them today, or even tomorrow.

Hopefully your husband has been scared sober, but it is early to tell. Keep looking after you. Trust that whatever you do decide will be the right decision.

You are in my prayers.

Love Jeannie

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Girl

I am so proud of you. You have come a very long way. It is going to be hard but you will be able to make it.

Becky

jj · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((Megan))))))))))

You sound great! I agree with what the others say!! Trust in time and when you are ready you wiil know it!

JJ

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

My A is most concerned about the money drain

He thinks I should spend ALOT of time with him to get better

I did this for years and he only got worse

The time spent pursuing my own interests are a problem

I was a recluse for years and he still drank

He will do it on his own without AA

last time he did it on his own he relasped quick. The 5 months last year were truly a Godsend

He will do it to lose 30 pounds.

I have heard this so many times I want to puke

been there, done that to it all....

he is not drinking for 3 days now but he is not sober either....

bcanuck · Senior Member

Hi Megan,

Thanks for the update. I agree with Jeannie, you don't have to rush into any decision. You are fortunate to have the choice, as that is not always the case with some.

"scared sober" or just can't afford the booze now that you've cut off the money line? That's the only thing that slows my hubby down, when the bank machine says "no more" he cuts back until payday.

Good luck to you and keep the updates coming.

Bonnie

megan · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Bonnie

scared sober" or just can't afford the booze now that you've cut off the money line? That's the only thing that slows my hubby down, when the bank machine says "no more" he cuts back until payday.

My husband does not have a payday. He was fired 3 years ago. then he started his own business and did well for 1 1/2 years. For the last year he has not worked at all.

We have plenty of money in the bank from the sale of our house so I guess he will drink through that.

i met him yesterday for lunch and he offerred to buy me an expensive mountain bike that I covet if I move back in.

I explained that my moving out was not for bargaining to get a bike but an absolute inability to live like I was living.

And thank you Jeanne and all, yes I don't have to make any decisions right away....

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi again

I am glad to see that you didn't give into him and move back in. Do it when you are ready too not that he is trying to get you too.

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/s-h-a-r-e/

Here is a site for you to express some more of your feeling it is an Alanon site.

Becky

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