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Lifting of the "London Fog"/Sobriety
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Life in sobriety, here. I feel as if the London Fog has lifted. Great not living in the Fog, but didn't realize how much it protected me....how used to it I got..... Should I board a jet now to get to London for that familiarity. Serio...
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wallsal55
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Life, what a Ride !
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Wille,
Tonight, after you brought my attention to the statement I had made....."This life, what a ride". Being the literal person that I am, you helped me have the most amazing visual. Seeing myself going down this massive roller coaster.....no rails in sight but speeding, barely a...
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Peggy7
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Help for a newbie
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Hello all, Just a little about myself and my life with my alcoholic. We have 4 children ages 21 to 5. We have been together for 24 years and next May will celebrate our 20th Anniversary. I don't want to offend anyone, just trying to regain MY LIFE. My life right now is depressed, angry, hurting etc,...
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momdjel
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prayers helped! ty ty ty
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Hello friends,
Huge thanks for your prayers and thoughts. My daughter got out of the hospital today. Her white count was going down. The surgeon still isn't sure what the problem was. But the IV antibiotics and fluid helped. They did take out her appendix during the surgery. It was in good con...
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cdb
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Guilt
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It is amazing how guilty I still allow him to make me. I finally made the decision to ask him to leave and feel empowered by my decision. I did give him two weeks to find a place. I knew he would do this, but felt I at least owed him this much. I admit to be lsot when it comes to the step work.&...
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Powerless
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Help for a New Member
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Dear members, I'm new to your message board and I'm hoping that some of you can relate to the terrible pain I'm feeling, and yes, I think probably you ALL can. After all, we ALL love someone who is immersed (or has been) immersed in this horrible disease. My story I'm sure, is mild com...
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bonnie3000
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HP's messages
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The post about a message in a paper towel is so true, we must be open messages and feelings, even if we don't know where the path is leading.
I've noticed that the more I am open to my HP's messages, the more I see them. Awsome isn't it?
There are no coincedences.
I have a cousin that I've always...
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Christy
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Speaking of HP messages...
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Every day when I come online, I will usually pull up our main webpage (www.12stepforums.net) and from there access this message board to see what's new. I am about to start my 4th Step, but before I do, my sponsor gave me an assignment, part of which was to read the 3rd Step Prayer found in the AA Big...
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kismetstrand
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Life after the chaos
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Wow! It has been too long since I have been here. So much has happened, I have left my marriage of 10 years with an A/drug addict husband and I am currently fighting for my sanity back. The divorce is not yet final and he is fighting tooth & nails with everything I am proposing.&nb...
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Samena
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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY
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Hi Friends,
Hi Friends,
Just want to wish all you moms a Happy Mother's Day. Being a mom is not easy, but it can be so rewarding. We all deserve a pat on the back. Been thinking about all I have to be grateful for this mor...
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danz123
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Give yourself the gift of finding a sponsor
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Good Morning to all of my precious friends,
This has been such a difficult, and painful week for me. After four and a half years of Al-Anon, I am learning more about my self and my past. I realize that there is still so much denial from my childhood, and that I have repressed it for too many y...
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teddybear
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after rehab urgent question
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My husband went to rehab for 30 days---was doing great according to the counselor, really embracing the program they said. He was really quiet with me on the phone throughout, never really wanted to answer any questions or talk much about home life--this was very difficult for me but... ...
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mom to 2
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THANK YOU for the 3rd Step Prayer !
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DEAR John ! THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for adding that to the Home Page . I like to pray that prayer daily , sometimes several times a day ... i am so wierd , i still do not have it memorized , after 2 yrs ....
wierd mental block i have it printed and read it
i am so thrilled to have it there to see every day
T...
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fiona123
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I discovered why I want HIM to feel rotten
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I couldnt' figure out today WHY i wanted to call up the alcoholic and tell him what a rotten loser he is because he can't stay sobor. I wanted to berate him, yell at him, get a divorce, and watch him get run over by a steam roller......all after I have developed a solid resolve to love him despite his d...
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captcodee
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just stuff
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I don't even know if this will go! For some reason I lost my email account
and my internet.
Hoping I installed this right.
Been sorta weird lately. Not quite knowing where I fit.I feel like a puzzle
piece who is lost.
I live the day at a time, trust hp, detach. I guess it is probably being
alone so m...
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debilyn
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I need help with step board
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I can't get on the step board with my usual post name & password. It says wrong password or name. I even tried to reregister, but it won't let me, it say name already in use. Can anyone help?
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Tried to talk with AH/ bad new from doc
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So tonight I got the courage to try and talk to my husband about many things that have been weighing on my mind. It always takes me so long to build up the courage because it never turns out well and I usually wind up crying. So I figured with my new tools and new understanding that I would just bite the...
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jj
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Still broken-hearted and even more confused
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Thank you so much to all of you for your wonderful, encouraging words. I realize I'm not alone, and that means alot.
He contacted me this morning via e-mail. He said he has had a really tough emotional week, and was going to get away for the weekend. He also said he was going t...
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Brat
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Kind words
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Thank you again to all of you. Your kind words of support and encouragement have helped me tremendously. I know I may never find the answers to the questions I'm looking for, but I know I will find myself in a better place with the support of kind people like you.
I will continue to m...
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Brat
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Just want to scream!!!!!!!!!!
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I am still so angry I can scream! We where supposed to go to counseling last night. I rearranged my work schedule and other things to accomodate it.
My husband called me when he got home from work and said his parents had gone to Atlantic City for the day and left him a note. They had called and reschedule...
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Jeannie
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I'm hearing a lot about A's in recovery or at leas
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We've had a bad week again, actually it started yesterday. Another binge day, they've been coming about a week apart which is more than usual. I got my ODAT in the mail yesterday just in time. Well I'm not sure about some of the reading I've done. There sems to be a lot of talk about A's starting programs. I...
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whatif
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Broken-hearted and confused
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This is my first time here; I'm very new to all of this. I'm trying to understand what just happened to me. I've been in a long-distance relationship for almost a year and a half. We saw each other as often as possible, and things were spectacular. We were to be married, blend o...
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Brat
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a message in a paper towel..
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I was upset & crying one day last week. You know another one of those same old arguements. I threw away all my knowledge of al anon & the 12 steps for the moment, or more like the day. Anyway, like I said, I was crying & grabbed a paper towel. On the paper towel it said...
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De Anna
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A follow up on post "challange time for me"
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Hi all,
Well the second half of traveling for awhile was concluded on Saturday evening. Things went very well at home. Prior to leaving I always leave availability of enough funds to cover emergencies as I did again this time. In contrast to my past experiences where these funds ended up in lotter...
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Mark S
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to CDB
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Hi cdb, I prayed for you and your family. Is your daughter ok?
My darn email and explorer will not work. I put this on and it is not
working right. So anyone else forgive me for sending a private post here!!
I will have to get help dang it.
No did not get a car. Just decided to wait. I love my pickup and wi...
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debilyn
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Thier is no end in sight
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My daughter is back out with her 7 year old son. 32 years, 3 generations. is their an end in sight. I do not think so. I have to have hope without attachment, easier said then done. I like writing because I can talk to myself and not look completely crazy ha. I have w...
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kb
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Dealing With Anger
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By: Grant Kono, LCSW Anger is generally the most self destructive emotion that you feel. This is because it’s an emotion focused on action. If you are not acting on the anger, then you are thinking about acting on the anger or hoping that someone else will act on the anger. Anger always comes from a feeli...
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Phil
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What if??
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Good Morning, to all of my friends,
Yesterday, I was listening to the radio, the subject was, what if you knew, you only had six months to live. What do you think, you would do differently? what would you change? Simply asking ourselves this question, will sometim...
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teddybear
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Dot....12 step board
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Hi,
I've seen your request to join in on the 12 step board. I haven't reach the latter steps, so I've been waiting to start with step 1. Today I tried to sign on the step board post, & couldn't. Do I need to register differently for that?
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De Anna
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My first Al-anon meeting
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HELLO ALL! I HOPE TODAY FINDS EVERYONE DOING WELL. I WANTED TO SHARE THIS WITH YOU GUYS.
I WENT TO MY FIRST AL-ANON MEETING LAST NIGHT, THEY MEET IN MY AREA ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK. I WAS A NERVOUS WRECK ! AND IT WAS ALSO A STEP MEETING. I FELT SO LOST BUT I MADE IT THROU...
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GypsyRose71
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Is there such a thing as too much pride?
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Well my car is going to the garage. My FIL called me and said he will pay the ticket and pay for the tow. I did accept this time, and said thank you. It was not my mess, and I am tired of struggling to clean up after my husband tries to prove he is never to drunk to do things.
My FIL asked me why I must continue to m...
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Jeannie
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I met a recovering alcoholic
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I have met a recovering alcoholic who has been in AA for about 1 1/2 years. He is 39, he has already suffered loss of career, loss of 2 homes, loss of fiance, became homeless 3 times and almost died from alcohol withdraw.
Ok, I should run and not date this man. These 3 months I have known him have been the mo...
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Casey
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feeling anxious
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Hello all,
Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to...
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lil_feathered_one
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Puppies
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I just got home from my neighbors house. She came over a few hours ago to ask me to come and take some pictures of her dog having puppies.
I brought my four and seven year old sons with me and we spent the last two hours watching Maxie have puppies.
I have seen my own animals give birth many times and my boy...
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Jeannie
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Trying at Staying in TODAY
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Hi everyone,
I was at a good meeting earlier and could most relate to staying in the day as a topic. Working on it! I feel the urge to start predicting my son’s future (no one ever said I was psychic but I seem to think I am) and project & then emotional respond to those scenarios
He is treading on t...
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luv123
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Can we talk to her sponsor?!
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Hello all-
I am feeling really anxious that I am so "needy" for some advice when it comes to our daughter! I'm sorry I have not been able to plug into a f2f AA group here in my city. The times I have I am confused and leave wondering when I might be able to ask questions. We all just read and yes I get som...
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notaboutme
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Alanon saved me
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This is my first time posting here. I just wanted to share how grateful I am for the alanon program. I am an ACOH, and it has been a rough past two years. I had an "aha moment" about three years ago, realized my entire life I had pretended things were okay when they were not, I felt unsure...
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TammyS34
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Car trouble
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Hi,
The starter on my van went. I was going to take it into the garage to have it fixed. I was driving my sons car and my husband saw me. Stupid me, when he asked why I was driving that car I told him the truth and told him the car was going into the garage in the morning. It could be started to drive their if I wac...
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Jeannie
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Sadness/Pain/Growth?
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Trying to make sense of where I'm at right now...maybe trying too hard, maybe I need to just "sit and be still". I feel like something is happening, or about to happen, some kind of change. A whole range of feelings going on - sadness, pensiveness, melancholy? And yet, its not all "d...
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kismetstrand
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cdb...are you ok?
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Hi cd,
So sorry I missed kismets original posting about your daughter. I very much want to hear about where you are right now. Are you ok? How do you feel? Please share.
Sooner :)
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sooner
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one week
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Well it's been one week since I found you all. When I came home to an empty house. Of course there was a huge fight and lots of crying and begging(that was my role). We had a pretty decent week after that. I little bumpy on Sat. because I still wasn't over the "incident" of Tuesday.I immediately left the sit...
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whatif
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477
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Still waiting and trying
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Well, my fiance tried to quit drinking. Everyone was so proud of him. It was exactly one week. Then today he, once again, didn't go to work, and I did, well in so many words he cleaned the house, did the laundry and is now at the bar saying he deserved to have a drink (or 10). I am so angry at him. I want to leave b...
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boshu06
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Need prayers
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I could use any and all types of prayers right now. As a lot of those of you who frequent the chatroom know, I work in the addicts family business. We just closed up our retail outlet this weekend (I packed and moved ALL weekend). And so now are back to just the wholesale showroom and wa...
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DanaAngel
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BUS MTG AGENDA - MAY 4/05
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Following is our agenda for the Business Meeting tomorrow night. Every member is invited to attend these meetings and your input is important to us. Hope to see you there!
GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING May 4, 2005 - 7:00 PM EST - Al-Anon Chatroom &nbs...
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shimo
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New and Green
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Hello-
I am new and would be interested in hearing from some people that the A in their family is their child that they still support financially. My daughter is in college and does still live at home during holidays and breaks from school. Thanks so much.
notaboutme
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notaboutme
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Phil and all
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Hi...just checking in...am quite frustrated and sometimes angered. [So I like your post on anger]. Gee, hubby put up 4 fingers the other night, smiled and pointed at himself. I said, "What? You had a step four meeting? You are on the Fourth Step?" &nbs...
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wallsal55
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THE GIFT OF GRIEF
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Dear Friends,
Many of us have an intimate relationship with Alcoholism whether we consciously attracted it deliberately or simply by default. As a child of alcoholics my reality revolved around drink, drugs and rock and roll. Although I was blessed from the desire to drink a...
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Lani
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A H.A.L.T. Kind of Day
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Sorry....I am so out of Focus today! I posted the Alanon post on the AA board! So, if you care to login there to read it--I just wanted to share my notes I had to read today to help me get out of my FUNK!.... Tomorrow will be a better day! Si...
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wallsal55
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am I losing it?
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My husband and I were just sitting over coffee waking up. He started to tell me about a grandmother's ring that his favorite bar owners wife just received from her kids. He desribed it and said how nice it was. I got up and went to my jewelry box and placed in front of him a grandmother ring with both my grand...
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whatif
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Request from cdb - Prayers
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Cdb has requested I post for her about her daughter. They had to rush her daughter to ER tonight. She had an ultrasound and catscan. She went into emergency surgery. Her white count was 20,000. Doctors not sure what was going on but were going to take her appendix out....
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kismetstrand
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Protection
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"I enjoy feeling protected by my higher power and by the people who love me"
" .........it still may be difficult to let myself be and feel protected. I have created a network of supportive friends and healing people around me. I have turned myself and my will over to the ca...
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wallsal55
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When the teacher is needed!!
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Hi Everyone,
Last night my youngest son came over for supper, and during the conversation, he mentioned a name, that we did not want to hear. Three years ago, he was with a person who caused him and the family a lot of pain. I think that he is addicted to this person, ev...
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teddybear
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Update on Counseling
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Hi,
Well I guess I always knew the counseling wouldn't work, but I had to try.
When we went last week, the counselor was more focused than ever on my husbands drinking. He kept asking him to go back to the Dr and get a liver test, as his eyes did not look right. My husband kept telling him that his Mother d...
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Jeannie
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Prayers for cloud and her family
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Hello friends,
Cloud, hubby and kids have been having alot of tragic situations in their lives recently. Please say prayers or send out positive thoughts and energy their way. (((((((((((((cloud&family))))))))))) xoxoxo cdb
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cdb
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Life stinks,,,,lots of stress :)
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Hello friends,
I am hanging in. I don't know if my body it but I am doing the best I can. My parents are leaving Arizona and plan to be at my house Thursday night. Any prayers for a safe trip all greatly appreciated! My dad intends to let my alzheimers mom drive :( but will be awake. Step one for me on that one...
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cdb
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chat room access
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I have not been able to access the chat room. I am not computer savvy so I'm sure there's something I'm not doing right. Do I understand that the chat room is open every weekday at 9AM and 9PM? Maybe someone can explain to me what I'm doing wrong. I go to the home page and click on Chat room...it...
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notaboutme
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Conflicting Recovery Groups-- Ridiculous.......
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Firstly, I'd like to say that Religion and Jesus are two completely DIFFERENT things. Secondly, I'd like to say that in ANY situation, people are going to have different opinions. As I have a different opinion of how some Alanon groups do not allow a person to disclose during their OWN pr...
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sanddie
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Looking for Hugs
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I realized as I was starting to write this post that I am in a HALT mode. I am not Hungry, but I am Angry, Lonely, and Tired. I am in confusion about relationships, and the direction HP is taking me. I follow the path that HP sets before me, and then I run into a brickwall. I know I have options to go left o...
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bob6502
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Standing alone... (long)
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Standing alone: we are all in this together by ourselves. I verily much stand alone in my beliefs of God, Life, etc. If I were to fret to how or what others believe, then I could not say the previous. I have not met a 12-step program that was not an organization or a religion. I have nothing against organiza...
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richard
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BUSINESS MEETING
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Hi All - Monthly business meeting Wed - May 4 - at 7pm edt.
Ya'll come!!
Love in Recovery - Dot
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dot
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