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verenda · verenda

My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...

Lyne · Lyne

My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...

brendasuethomas · brendasuethomas

Support for life with an alcoholic

brendasuethomas · brendasuethomas

Support for life with an alcoholic

anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

A moment in time. Where all gathered to support each other as we were going through our stuff. It was meant, for that moment :) How's Hotrod? DavidG? Are the regulars moved on? I hope to green & sunny pastures. Living this life to the best of What is available. Much love.

Lyne · Lyne

I see that some of you are still on the board and maybe can relate to my situation. My spouse is finally in AA and working with a sponsor. It only took 31 years. So some days I see a person who is more reasonable and grounded, definitely making progress. And some days I have that nasty, moody person aroun...

Summer44 · Summer44

I have two sons ages 18 and 20. Both of them smoke marijuna. My older son is in jail and going to prison most likely for a few years. My younger son just graduated but definitely is addicted to marijuana. My husband had been sober from alcohol and marijuana for 20 years with about 4 relapses between those y...

texas yankee · texas yankee

. . . . don't lose hope. Sure, I know that Mom's worry, too, but since today is Father's Day, I wanted to offer some hope to any hurting Dad's - yeah, we Dads do have feelings and we hurt, too, when our kids are in a bad place. My son was in a bad place for a long, long time - and his bad decisions took their toll...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am back on here after a long time! I am so grateful these days! So much has happened since the last time I was on here. I just went over 1 1/2 years since my AH passed away. I am grieving a lot less & am finally on the other side I think. I believe that the reason why I am doing so well besides the fact that I ju...

Summer44 · Summer44

Ive been in Alanon for about 10 years and Ive learned a lot. Well, my husband just had a relapse and my son is in jail going to prison soon. My younger son is graduating. I feel completely like Im in a daze. I didnt expect my husband to relapse and he also is so moody. I am so focused on everyone wise and it fe...

jliminal · jliminal

Alcohol has affected me in many ways. I have had some issues with it personally but generally dont drink anymore. My dad had a dependence on drinking at the end of his life. He had gained a lot of weight and had become pre diabetic. Just as he was turning his life around, he got Covid at the beginning of the p...

gig504 · gig504

Does any know how to get the daily readers online?

mamalioness · mamalioness

setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...

cwya · cwya

I'm stumped by something that has come up in my new Al-Anon group. I have recently moved to a new city after spending many years in a place with no meetings and I had to rely only my alanon mojo and literature for survival. I tried for years to get a meeting up and running to no avail. Its one of the reasons I'v...

mistercrowley · mistercrowley

My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...

texas yankee · texas yankee

. . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading mentions the 8th Tradition, stating that alanon should always be nonprofessional. It goes on to say that we help one another recover by sharing our experience, strength, and hope. Who better knows the devastating impact of alcoholism? And we can help those who really want help, ins...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's C2C reading asks Al-anon members to take an honest assessment of their recovery. The person in the reading refers back to their 4th step inventory. Although they feel they still have things they would like to work on, they realize their progress as well. They come to understand that to hold th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading speaks about prior to program people may hide in shame from their flaws or beat themselves up. We are reminded to let go of our impatience, self-criticism, and self-hatred. We can ask our Higher Power for help, and accept that making mistakes is a part of life. Therefore we will always b...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about the value of Al-anon tools for finding solutions. In this reading, an Al-anon member attends an Al-anon meeting where members are asked to draw an Al-anon slogan from a basket that is passed and apply that slogan to their day. The next day the member is faced with a problem that...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer of this reading felt confused about the slogan "Think" until they heard a child recite stop, look, and, listen, as a safety rule. Think is similar to stop, look, and listen, as it gives us time to look at what's going on, and possibly see our role in it. We have time for spiritual guidance, an...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading points out that we all make mistakes, but we can grow in self-awareness and learn from our mistakes. When mistakes happen we can make amends for any harm we've done, and we can try not to repeat them again. These experiences can help us create a better future. The reading goes on to say th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading made good sense to me. My behavior paralleled the alcoholic, without the alcohol--insane but sober. I blamed others, I took everything personally, and my reactions were based on fears. As time went on, I could see my reactions were less extreme. Some things that used to bother me d...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's Courage to Change topic is Faith. The reading begins with a reminder that my vision be limited by only the outcomes that I can imagine. It suggests that when one places faith in their Higher Power the possibilities are limitless. This takes practice when fear looms large but the reading sugge...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says that detachment is often easier with casual friends, than with people we are emotionally involved with. It can be difficult not to take on the negative frame of mind of family and loved ones. It is suggested we have a choice not to take on other people's moods and attitudes. Detachm...

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tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading uses the example of trying to control the drinking of an alcoholic. The person in this reading made many attempts but all were unsuccessful. They continued to try and expected a different result. Unable to admit their powerlessness over the progression of another's alcoholism, th...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reminds us to not only face our shortcomings, but to see our good qualities as well. They are reality just as much as the faults. We should appreciate our constructive qualities to help us accept ourself as a friend, and to eliminate the roadblocks to serenity. THE REMINDER says that i...

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Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares how to tell if we are trying to control someone, or if we are sincerely expressing ourselves. They say if we are repeatedly saying the same things, and cannot let it go if we don't get the response we want, then we are probably trying to control and have lost our focus. It's important t...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading shares about the value of the Al-anon program as a path for a better way of living. The person in this reading came to Al-anon as many do to find possible ways to stop another from drinking. Continued attendance resulted in a spiritual awakening. If they kept coming back and worked the A...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer shares an experience about learning detachment with love. Her husband fell out of bed often. When she first heard the idea of detachment, she stopped helping him back in bed. But as she learned about detachment with love, from that point on she still left him on the floor, but covered him...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading reminds us to keep to our own side of the street. It mentions a newcomer who felt helping their alcoholic was the right thing to do. Al-anon suggests we focus on our own needs and allow others to the freedom to make their own choices. The newcomer felt the Al-anon suggestion to allow the a...

Lyne · Lyne

This page reminds us about the importance of staying in the here and now. Worry about the future can give us depression, distraction, and fear. Does worrying in advance help, or will it be easier to face? Does it protect us? The answer to all of these questions is NO! It merely robs us of today: ODA...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading shows an example of Al-Anon's slogan Live and Let Live in action. As I often do when posting a daily, I searched the index for the associated Al-Anon topic. I was surprised by how many topics I felt fit well for this page. The reading mentions a desire for others to fulfill our needs rathe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading discusses acceptance of the acknowledgement that we cannot have control over others--that we are truly powerless. The writer realized that the alcoholic must have their own HP, and it is up to them to work out their future. Letting go and letting God allows us to feel like a new person....

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Today's reading is about Al-anon's 3 Cs in relation to alcoholism. I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it. The person in this reading reflects on their past actions during their growing up in a home with alcoholism and wonders if their less than perfect behavior - fights with their sibl...

Lyne · Lyne

I love the slogan, Progress not Perfection. My FOO was so damaging that I just felt like a complete failure and idiot in every way. Moving into adulthood I just thought I could never be adequate, even though I was successful in my career. This program has taught me to see what I can do right, and to look...

Lyne · Lyne

Since we are still here, I'm going to share. I'm having a full dose of being powerless. One of my brother's has terminal cancer, and besides for being a supportive sister, there is nothing I can do to change his cancer status. I pray, I've given him two healing stones, we send organic fruit, etc. But...

Tortuga_new · Tortuga_new

hello MIP family, I just checked, I have been on here last time in 2014....wow, what a journey it has been. Gratitude all the way for MIP and Al Anon, as it saved my life many times, and made me walk in the good direction. Life has been good...mostly, as I carry the lessons on a daily basis and keep sharing, j...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Bernie here. It's been a busy day and its not over yet. I'm picking up a 26 year sobriety medallion from my home group tonight and whenever I get one of those I remember the love and support that al-anon has shown me over the years. Thank you.

Lyne · Lyne

For anyone still checking in, I'm wishing you peace, happiness, and health in the new year, one day at a time. Lyne

NewRomantics · NewRomantics

Long story short got into a relationship with a woman this year who had not only major addiction issues but many other mental health issues. It has been truly toxic and after a year of enabling her behavior in many ways (buying alcohol, being her personal taxi when she called, paying for moving costs, e...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

My mother and father are my qualifiers. My mother is gravely ill. She's not drinking now because she's in a semi coma and bed bound. Her drinking had gotten pretty bad. She would drink from 5pm until 2 or 3am. At the beginning of September she went to the ER because she had the flu and wasn't getting bett...

Loudnlost · Loudnlost

I dated an alcoholic on and off for three years. Three months in he told me he was an alcoholic, I went into denial. My father was an alcoholic, I had aca recovery yet still I struggled to break free. He broke up with me suddenly, I was confused , a week later he wanted to try again. So we did. And so the dance be...

tryingtounderstand · tryingtounderstand

Hello, I did not grow up with an alcoholic. My husband of one year is an alcoholic and its taken me some time to fully understand and accept this. I have known for some time that my words, my emotions, my stress and pain due to his drinking - although real and valid - are not helping him and are making me feel...

Lyne · Lyne

In case anyone is checking in, wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving tomorrow. Lyne :)

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Greetings, all. I haven't been here for a bit. I got distracted. I was at a virtual meeting last night in Hawaii, another 12 step fellowship, and they had asked me to close the meeting with a reading and with a prayer of my choice. I did the AA third step prayer. This morning, I remembered that I hadn't been...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Somewhere at this site, is a story posted Feb 25, 2012. That was a few days ago. Anyway, it's the story of how Nancy (my wife) and I got together. It was printed in the AA Grapevine in May of 2010 and was also included in a grapevine book entitled Forming True Partnerships. So, we all know about the pandemic...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

On the topic of fear, today's author admits that was the primary emotion driving many decisions. When anything happened to alter an expected outcome, fears of the worst possible outcomes spurred panic, resulting in a crazy flurry of actions intended to ward off various imagined disasters. The aut...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer used to hear people say they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic, because they were grateful to have found alanon. You can learn many things in alanon, like gratitude and forgiveness are needed for peace of mind. A tiny step can be a great step in seeing life with increasing joy....

Lyne · Lyne

Good evening to all. I have been in contact recently with two members of MIP. It has been shared that MIP will be disappearing sometime in the near future due to financial issues. I don't know whether this will be tomorrow or the end of the year. As you can see, most of the people doing the daily shares...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's reading likens recovery in AlAnon to a Birch tree, rather than an onion, because it sheds its bark on its own after a period of growth: the bark serves a valuable purpose but then fall away as the tree grows and new protective bark takes its place. If a protective layer of bark is removed too earl...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

This writer recalled white knuckling the car armrest while riding a twisty, hilly road as a youngster. Such effort had no effect on the course the car took, much as many efforts and exertions in adult life upon events outside our control. Alanon can help, however, especially noticeable when we can't...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer thought the nightmare was over when the alcoholic got sober, but what a surprise! Many problems were still present, and old behaviors were occurring. With alanon's teachings, the writer knew that there was no need to accept what is unacceptable, nor does one have to argue back. There a...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Greetings fellow MIPers, visitors, and casual wanderers

As Lyne noted below, and others have mentioned and discussed over the past few weeks and months, there is some uncertainty about the future of MIP. That quite possibly has led to a migration of readers and contributors before the actual e...

Enigmatic · Enigmatic

Today's writer acknowledges the value of the spiritual learning that builds when one studies the 12 Steps one at a time, in order. Special consideration is given to Step 11, however, regarding prayer and meditation. That is an activity that can be worked at any time and brings great benefits at any t...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading says we may be powerless over circumstances, but we are not helpless. In the midst of problems or stress, we are reminded to nurture our mind, body, or spirit. Alanon is a program of action, and we always have choices. If we treat ourselves with love and tenderness, we can better cope wi...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer had trouble admitting being powerless, and did not want to "surrender." The writer saw this as admitting defeat, and having failed over alcoholism. Gratitude finally sunk in--it did not mean submission! Instead, it meant not fighting reality, not trying to do God's will, and doing on...

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	Daughter gives Ultimatum Need Advice!! (Preview) My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...	verenda	8	3439	Aug 18, 2024 by Lyne
	Newly sober spouse (Preview) My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...	Lyne	4	635	Jul 31, 2024 by bud
	Living with an alcoholic (Preview) Support for life with an alcoholic	brendasuethomas	1	604	Jul 25, 2024 by Lyne
	Living with an alcoholic (Preview) Support for life with an alcoholic	brendasuethomas	0	506	Jul 23, 2024 by brendasuethomas
	Oh wow! Y'all are still here! (Or are you?) (Preview) A moment in time. Where all gathered to support each other as we were going through our stuff. It was meant, for that moment :) How's Hotrod? DavidG? Are the regulars moved on? I hope to green & sunny pastures. Living this life to the best of What is available. Much love.	anewdayeveryday	4	860	Jun 30, 2024 by Lyne
	Could use some ESH (Preview) I see that some of you are still on the board and maybe can relate to my situation. My spouse is finally in AA and working with a sponsor. It only took 31 years. So some days I see a person who is more reasonable and grounded, definitely making progress. And some days I have that nasty, moody person aroun...	Lyne	4	612	Jun 25, 2024 by bud
	I thought he was sober (Preview) I have two sons ages 18 and 20. Both of them smoke marijuna. My older son is in jail and going to prison most likely for a few years. My younger son just graduated but definitely is addicted to marijuana. My husband had been sober from alcohol and marijuana for 20 years with about 4 relapses between those y...	Summer44	3	607	Jun 21, 2024 by StargazerLily
	If you're a Father, a Dad, and your kid isn't doing well . . . . (Preview) . . . . don't lose hope. Sure, I know that Mom's worry, too, but since today is Father's Day, I wanted to offer some hope to any hurting Dad's - yeah, we Dads do have feelings and we hurt, too, when our kids are in a bad place. My son was in a bad place for a long, long time - and his bad decisions took their toll...	texas yankee	2	592	Jun 20, 2024 by texas yankee
	where do I begin? (Preview) I am back on here after a long time! I am so grateful these days! So much has happened since the last time I was on here. I just went over 1 1/2 years since my AH passed away. I am grieving a lot less & am finally on the other side I think. I believe that the reason why I am doing so well besides the fact that I ju...	Hoot Nanny	2	668	Jun 13, 2024 by Lyne
	I forgot who I am again (Preview) Ive been in Alanon for about 10 years and Ive learned a lot. Well, my husband just had a relapse and my son is in jail going to prison soon. My younger son is graduating. I feel completely like Im in a daze. I didnt expect my husband to relapse and he also is so moody. I am so focused on everyone wise and it fe...	Summer44	1	596	Jun 12, 2024 by Lyne
	Advice or Encouragement (Preview) Alcohol has affected me in many ways. I have had some issues with it personally but generally dont drink anymore. My dad had a dependence on drinking at the end of his life. He had gained a lot of weight and had become pre diabetic. Just as he was turning his life around, he got Covid at the beginning of the p...	jliminal	4	804	Jun 9, 2024 by sunmustshine
	Daily readers online (Preview) Does any know how to get the daily readers online?	gig504	1	687	Jun 6, 2024 by norweidutch
	self care Tuesday (Preview) setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...	mamalioness	3	1660	May 19, 2024 by masonjones5711
	Cross talk and other rules ( 1 2 ) crosstalk alcoholics anonymity (Preview) I'm stumped by something that has come up in my new Al-Anon group. I have recently moved to a new city after spending many years in a place with no meetings and I had to rely only my alanon mojo and literature for survival. I tried for years to get a meeting up and running to no avail. Its one of the reasons I'v...	cwya	47	15307	Apr 21, 2024 by masonjones5711
	Hoping for the Best (Preview) My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...	mistercrowley	1	820	Mar 21, 2024 by Lyne
	So my son is sober now, at least as far as I know . . . (Preview) . . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...	texas yankee	5	857	Mar 17, 2024 by tiredtonite
	C2C, Monday, 3/18, ESH (Preview) This reading mentions the 8th Tradition, stating that alanon should always be nonprofessional. It goes on to say that we help one another recover by sharing our experience, strength, and hope. Who better knows the devastating impact of alcoholism? And we can help those who really want help, ins...	Lyne	0	787	Mar 17, 2024 by Lyne
	Courage to Change March 16 Progress Not Perfection (Preview) Today's C2C reading asks Al-anon members to take an honest assessment of their recovery. The person in the reading refers back to their 4th step inventory. Although they feel they still have things they would like to work on, they realize their progress as well. They come to understand that to hold th...	tiredtonite	1	674	Mar 17, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/11, forgiving imperfections (Preview) This reading speaks about prior to program people may hide in shame from their flaws or beat themselves up. We are reminded to let go of our impatience, self-criticism, and self-hatred. We can ask our Higher Power for help, and accept that making mistakes is a part of life. Therefore we will always b...	Lyne	1	763	Mar 13, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change March 8 (Preview) Today's reading is about the value of Al-anon tools for finding solutions. In this reading, an Al-anon member attends an Al-anon meeting where members are asked to draw an Al-anon slogan from a basket that is passed and apply that slogan to their day. The next day the member is faced with a problem that...	tiredtonite	1	772	Mar 10, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/4, Stop, Look, and Listen (Preview) The writer of this reading felt confused about the slogan "Think" until they heard a child recite stop, look, and, listen, as a safety rule. Think is similar to stop, look, and listen, as it gives us time to look at what's going on, and possibly see our role in it. We have time for spiritual guidance, an...	Lyne	1	780	Mar 7, 2024 by tiredtonite
	C2C, Monday, 2/26, create a better future (Preview) This reading points out that we all make mistakes, but we can grow in self-awareness and learn from our mistakes. When mistakes happen we can make amends for any harm we've done, and we can try not to repeat them again. These experiences can help us create a better future. The reading goes on to say th...	Lyne	0	782	Feb 25, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 2/19, the nature of my nature (Preview) This reading made good sense to me. My behavior paralleled the alcoholic, without the alcohol--insane but sober. I blamed others, I took everything personally, and my reactions were based on fears. As time went on, I could see my reactions were less extreme. Some things that used to bother me d...	Lyne	0	805	Feb 18, 2024 by Lyne
	February 17 C2C Faith (Preview) Today's Courage to Change topic is Faith. The reading begins with a reminder that my vision be limited by only the outcomes that I can imagine. It suggests that when one places faith in their Higher Power the possibilities are limitless. This takes practice when fear looms large but the reading sugge...	tiredtonite	1	755	Feb 18, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday,, 2/12, detachment--easy or hard? (Preview) This reading says that detachment is often easier with casual friends, than with people we are emotionally involved with. It can be difficult not to take on the negative frame of mind of family and loved ones. It is suggested we have a choice not to take on other people's moods and attitudes. Detachm...	Lyne	4	766	Feb 18, 2024 by Lyne
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	February 1 Courage to Change Topic - Change (Preview) Today's reading uses the example of trying to control the drinking of an alcoholic. The person in this reading made many attempts but all were unsuccessful. They continued to try and expected a different result. Unable to admit their powerlessness over the progression of another's alcoholism, th...	tiredtonite	2	793	Feb 9, 2024 by bud
	ODAT in alanon, Monday, 2/5, facing shortcomings (Preview) This reading reminds us to not only face our shortcomings, but to see our good qualities as well. They are reality just as much as the faults. We should appreciate our constructive qualities to help us accept ourself as a friend, and to eliminate the roadblocks to serenity. THE REMINDER says that i...	Lyne	1	690	Feb 9, 2024 by bud
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	C2C, Monday, 1/29, Are you trying to control another? (Preview) The writer shares how to tell if we are trying to control someone, or if we are sincerely expressing ourselves. They say if we are repeatedly saying the same things, and cannot let it go if we don't get the response we want, then we are probably trying to control and have lost our focus. It's important t...	Lyne	1	704	Jan 29, 2024 by tiredtonite
	January 26 Courage to Change (Preview) Today's reading shares about the value of the Al-anon program as a path for a better way of living. The person in this reading came to Al-anon as many do to find possible ways to stop another from drinking. Continued attendance resulted in a spiritual awakening. If they kept coming back and worked the A...	tiredtonite	1	777	Jan 28, 2024 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 1/22, detachment is not a wall (Preview) The writer shares an experience about learning detachment with love. Her husband fell out of bed often. When she first heard the idea of detachment, she stopped helping him back in bed. But as she learned about detachment with love, from that point on she still left him on the floor, but covered him...	Lyne	1	775	Jan 23, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change January 18 Keep the Focus on Yourself (Preview) Today's reading reminds us to keep to our own side of the street. It mentions a newcomer who felt helping their alcoholic was the right thing to do. Al-anon suggests we focus on our own needs and allow others to the freedom to make their own choices. The newcomer felt the Al-anon suggestion to allow the a...	tiredtonite	2	542	Jan 19, 2024 by Skorpi
	C2C, 1/15, why leap into the future? (Preview) This page reminds us about the importance of staying in the here and now. Worry about the future can give us depression, distraction, and fear. Does worrying in advance help, or will it be easier to face? Does it protect us? The answer to all of these questions is NO! It merely robs us of today: ODA...	Lyne	1	763	Jan 15, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Courage to Change August 31 - Live and Let Live (Preview) Today's reading shows an example of Al-Anon's slogan Live and Let Live in action. As I often do when posting a daily, I searched the index for the associated Al-Anon topic. I was surprised by how many topics I felt fit well for this page. The reading mentions a desire for others to fulfill our needs rathe...	tiredtonite	2	1308	Jan 9, 2024 by Allthingsnew
	C2C, Monday, 1/8, Let go and let HP (Preview) This reading discusses acceptance of the acknowledgement that we cannot have control over others--that we are truly powerless. The writer realized that the alcoholic must have their own HP, and it is up to them to work out their future. Letting go and letting God allows us to feel like a new person....	Lyne	2	769	Jan 9, 2024 by Daffodils
	January 7 Hope for Today Powerlessness (Preview) Today's reading is about Al-anon's 3 Cs in relation to alcoholism. I didn't cause it, I can't control it, I can't cure it. The person in this reading reflects on their past actions during their growing up in a home with alcoholism and wonders if their less than perfect behavior - fights with their sibl...	tiredtonite	1	833	Jan 7, 2024 by Lyne
	Thought for the day (Preview) I love the slogan, Progress not Perfection. My FOO was so damaging that I just felt like a complete failure and idiot in every way. Moving into adulthood I just thought I could never be adequate, even though I was successful in my career. This program has taught me to see what I can do right, and to look...	Lyne	1	773	Jan 5, 2024 by tiredtonite
	We are still here (Preview) Since we are still here, I'm going to share. I'm having a full dose of being powerless. One of my brother's has terminal cancer, and besides for being a supportive sister, there is nothing I can do to change his cancer status. I pray, I've given him two healing stones, we send organic fruit, etc. But...	Lyne	1	742	Jan 4, 2024 by tiredtonite
	back to MIP, back to work (Preview) hello MIP family, I just checked, I have been on here last time in 2014....wow, what a journey it has been. Gratitude all the way for MIP and Al Anon, as it saved my life many times, and made me walk in the good direction. Life has been good...mostly, as I carry the lessons on a daily basis and keep sharing, j...	Tortuga_new	2	931	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Checking in (Preview) Bernie here. It's been a busy day and its not over yet. I'm picking up a 26 year sobriety medallion from my home group tonight and whenever I get one of those I remember the love and support that al-anon has shown me over the years. Thank you.	Wolfie55	2	881	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Holiday Greetings (Preview) For anyone still checking in, I'm wishing you peace, happiness, and health in the new year, one day at a time. Lyne	Lyne	1	705	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	What to do now? (Preview) Long story short got into a relationship with a woman this year who had not only major addiction issues but many other mental health issues. It has been truly toxic and after a year of enabling her behavior in many ways (buying alcohol, being her personal taxi when she called, paying for moving costs, e...	NewRomantics	2	843	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	Critically ill loved one (Preview) My mother and father are my qualifiers. My mother is gravely ill. She's not drinking now because she's in a semi coma and bed bound. Her drinking had gotten pretty bad. She would drink from 5pm until 2 or 3am. At the beginning of September she went to the ER because she had the flu and wasn't getting bett...	StargazerLily	3	795	Jan 2, 2024 by tiredtonite
	I haven’t told my story (Preview) I dated an alcoholic on and off for three years. Three months in he told me he was an alcoholic, I went into denial. My father was an alcoholic, I had aca recovery yet still I struggled to break free. He broke up with me suddenly, I was confused , a week later he wanted to try again. So we did. And so the dance be...	Loudnlost	1	766	Dec 31, 2023 by Lyne
	new and cautious (Preview) Hello, I did not grow up with an alcoholic. My husband of one year is an alcoholic and its taken me some time to fully understand and accept this. I have known for some time that my words, my emotions, my stress and pain due to his drinking - although real and valid - are not helping him and are making me feel...	tryingtounderstand	2	842	Dec 17, 2023 by Lyne
	Holiday wishes (Preview) In case anyone is checking in, wishing everyone a happy Thanksgiving tomorrow. Lyne :)	Lyne	1	794	Nov 28, 2023 by Wolfie55
	Gratitude, etc. (Preview) Greetings, all. I haven't been here for a bit. I got distracted. I was at a virtual meeting last night in Hawaii, another 12 step fellowship, and they had asked me to close the meeting with a reading and with a prayer of my choice. I did the AA third step prayer. This morning, I remembered that I hadn't been...	Wolfie55	5	913	Nov 9, 2023 by Wolfie55
	One Day At A Time (Preview) Somewhere at this site, is a story posted Feb 25, 2012. That was a few days ago. Anyway, it's the story of how Nancy (my wife) and I got together. It was printed in the AA Grapevine in May of 2010 and was also included in a grapevine book entitled Forming True Partnerships. So, we all know about the pandemic...	Wolfie55	1	843	Nov 9, 2023 by Lyne
	10-31-23 C2C The Only Thing to Fear Is: Fear Itself…Closing Time… (Preview) On the topic of fear, today's author admits that was the primary emotion driving many decisions. When anything happened to alter an expected outcome, fears of the worst possible outcomes spurred panic, resulting in a crazy flurry of actions intended to ward off various imagined disasters. The aut...	Enigmatic	1	934	Oct 31, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 10/30, C2C, Grateful member of alanon (Preview) The writer used to hear people say they were grateful to be involved with an alcoholic, because they were grateful to have found alanon. You can learn many things in alanon, like gratitude and forgiveness are needed for peace of mind. A tiny step can be a great step in seeing life with increasing joy....	Lyne	1	878	Oct 31, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Outreach to the membership (Preview) Good evening to all. I have been in contact recently with two members of MIP. It has been shared that MIP will be disappearing sometime in the near future due to financial issues. I don't know whether this will be tomorrow or the end of the year. As you can see, most of the people doing the daily shares...	Lyne	2	952	Oct 31, 2023 by Enigmatic
	10/24/23 C2C Onion, or Birch Bark...Is There a Difference? (Preview) Today's reading likens recovery in AlAnon to a Birch tree, rather than an onion, because it sheds its bark on its own after a period of growth: the bark serves a valuable purpose but then fall away as the tree grows and new protective bark takes its place. If a protective layer of bark is removed too earl...	Enigmatic	2	933	Oct 25, 2023 by Enigmatic
	10/10/23 C2C Can’t Steer the Car by the Armrest (Preview) This writer recalled white knuckling the car armrest while riding a twisty, hilly road as a youngster. Such effort had no effect on the course the car took, much as many efforts and exertions in adult life upon events outside our control. Alanon can help, however, especially noticeable when we can't...	Enigmatic	2	930	Oct 24, 2023 by Enigmatic
	Monday, 10/23, C2C, when the alcoholic gets sober (Preview) The writer thought the nightmare was over when the alcoholic got sober, but what a surprise! Many problems were still present, and old behaviors were occurring. With alanon's teachings, the writer knew that there was no need to accept what is unacceptable, nor does one have to argue back. There a...	Lyne	0	906	Oct 22, 2023 by Lyne
	MIP - Call for Feedback, Input or Great Recipes (Preview) Greetings fellow MIPers, visitors, and casual wanderers As Lyne noted below, and others have mentioned and discussed over the past few weeks and months, there is some uncertainty about the future of MIP. That quite possibly has led to a migration of readers and contributors before the actual e...	Enigmatic	1	1008	Oct 19, 2023 by Lyne
	10/17/23 ODAT Prayer and Meditation – Wait Until Step 11? (Preview) Today's writer acknowledges the value of the spiritual learning that builds when one studies the 12 Steps one at a time, in order. Special consideration is given to Step 11, however, regarding prayer and meditation. That is an activity that can be worked at any time and brings great benefits at any t...	Enigmatic	1	922	Oct 18, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, 10/16, C2C, when surrounded by crisis.... (Preview) This reading says we may be powerless over circumstances, but we are not helpless. In the midst of problems or stress, we are reminded to nurture our mind, body, or spirit. Alanon is a program of action, and we always have choices. If we treat ourselves with love and tenderness, we can better cope wi...	Lyne	0	889	Oct 15, 2023 by Lyne
	Monday, October 9, C2C, submission vs surrender (Preview) The writer had trouble admitting being powerless, and did not want to "surrender." The writer saw this as admitting defeat, and having failed over alcoholism. Gratitude finally sunk in--it did not mean submission! Instead, it meant not fighting reality, not trying to do God's will, and doing on...	Lyne	1	832	Oct 10, 2023 by Enigmatic
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