Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

McTater · McTater

I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...

DFG · DFG

I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...

texas yankee · texas yankee

For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...

Lyne · Lyne

I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...

Lyne · Lyne

Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...

a4l · a4l

The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...

a4l · a4l

Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...

WendyP · WendyP

High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...

Lyne · Lyne

Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...

WendyP · WendyP

I recently heard someone mention the Slogans, I would like to share how I learnt to use them withing a Meeting, and in my personal Recovery journey. I read in one of the Daily Reader, that the Chair Person used the Slogans as a Topic for the Meeting. All the members after said that when they applied the Slo...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading sparked my interest as it speaks to the concept that no problem lasts forever. Some wounds do not heal quickly. Difficult times can bring out our courage, faith, and our need for others. All experiences can be growth-producing. And of course reminded me that all things shall pass. I...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we s...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is reversing old ways of thinking. I criticized myself often, felt unloved and unwanted, thought I was ugly, fat, and stupid, and didn't think there was any way out. Because of the abuse I grew up with, and the alcoholism/addiction I've been exposed to as an adult, I guess I w...

Lyne · Lyne

"A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything." The gist of this reading reminds us that we need to be flexible in order to adjust, we will be making mistakes because we cannot be perfect, and we can learn that making mistakes can be seen as part of our adventure. Before recovery I was hor...

Lyne · Lyne

"We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action." Today's reading is about Step 4, taking a fearless, moral inventory of ourselves. We needn't be scared, but I certainly was the first time. Sever...

Lyne · Lyne

I keep checking in, hoping I'll see a spark of life on MIP. My last post, I think in Nov., did not receive one reply. Does anyone wish to continue on MIP? I keep hoping.....

BL2911 · BL2911

Hello, everyone. Looking for insights from others who have walked a path similar to mine. I was married to the father of my children for 15 years, divorcing due to his alcoholism. Fast forward about 10 years. I am remarried now for 3 1/2 years. My current husband binge drinks to the point where he is ob...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning. I have family in from CA and lots of get togethers, reviewing the past--good, bad, and ugly. I have some anxiety hanging around from all of it, but it's mostly good--my brother with cancer is alive and two siblings that haven't spoken in about 30 years are speaking. I forgave my brothe...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from courage to change, the topic is having a backup plan when making plans with someone who is unreliable. I like the reading, and I usually like most of them. I think there's something to be learned from them, no matter how many times I've already read them

I especially like the f...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In what is not my favorite week ever, I had to say goodbye to my 5-year-old English lab yesterday. He was such a sweet buddy, and totally unintentional. I started to foster him during the pandemic for a co-worker. She had been diagnosed with cancer and got the dog for her son but her family couldn't tak...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Al-Anon friends! It's been a bit since I've stopped by or been actively engaged. I had a lot of things with kiddos that were seriously all consuming. (But hey, I decided to be a foster parent, so that's what I get, lol!) And, I've decided to end my marriage with my AW. That's been a process requiring a l...

jewely · jewely

Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving. i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool. but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress...............

Ruby Grace · Ruby Grace

I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of...

cwya · cwya

I'm having an incredible challenge I just cant seem to detach from. I recently relocated to a different part of my state and there is only one alanon meeting. There is someone in the group who seems to believe that she is "in charge" and is responsible for always leading the meeting and its he...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Hi everyone .. it's been a long time since I've been in here .. So i have been reading there are problems on this board .. are the problems only with the ads that I see in between shares ? Is there more ? just trying to understand what's been happening .. i've been gone for several years but popped back in .. i w...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

For the day? Hour? Minute? The sun came up as usual and my recovery journey continues - work in progress, not cured. An oldtimer once told me that the nice thing about a higher power is that hp is portable - can be taken wherever I go. I hold that thought close as I do all we've shared here. Thanks for being he...

Lyne · Lyne

To Breakingfree: Hello and welcome back. At the end of 2023 we were told that whoever took care of MIP was not keeping it going. We expected MIP to close for good. But MIP did not disappear, yet most of the membership did. The moderators are gone, people who know how to get rid of the spammers are gone...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things can only get better! Sometimes long distance relationships can be tricky but I can truly say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am living proof of that. My current significant other is miles away but our trust level is high enough that it is working. Today I see the hope in all of it. Sometimes...

Mamalion · Mamalion

Hi I am Mama lioness also known as Rosie I'm moderate the site next door the adult children board and I keep it spam free I am checking in several times a day to make sure of that Obviously the moderators here have jumped ship and sadly and I say this very very sincerely I was a member of this board when Be...

Lyne · Lyne

I really miss this message board as it was part of my daily routine. It didn't disappear--I don't understand why or why not, but it's still here. Is there any interest in reviving it from some of our former members?? I've looked online several times and recently emailed WSO to find a new message boar...

Rosie922 · Rosie922

I just wanted to say on the original invite (I am locked out, nothing would work so re-registered) but anyway, I just wanted to say that I am saddened to see my old board messed up with spam I moderate the ACOA board next door here on MIP, you can see it on top and you can , if you want, register with us, WE ARE...

Lyne · Lyne

Help!!

Lyne · Lyne

When my spouse started in AA, she did 90 in 90 and even went daily a few weeks more. Then she settled into 3xweek plus 1xweek with a sponsor. I thought that would work for her, and I did see progress, just a lot more work needed. After all, I have 13 years in alanon, and I'm still working my program. Well f...

Lyne · Lyne

I didn't know what an alcoholic /addict was. I have married two of them. One I ended with a divorce, the current one I have tolerated and survived with for 32 years. I think today's kids are exposed to the addiction aspects in life, and hopefully will make better choices for themselves and partners....

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I was thinking about the power of gratitude. I can be really bogged down with crummy feelings and very much out of touch with what is really driving me to react to things and feel this way. Im talking about the kind of day when grace is not even within reach. I find fault, act catty and wind up feeling small....

Lyne · Lyne

Greetings alanon family~My newly recovering spouse is now dealing with a progressive lung disorder. Like we don't have enough to cope with! This was unexpected news and I'm at least used to coping with the uncontrollable events of my future. My A is not used to having our circumstances unpredict...

verenda · verenda

My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...

Lyne · Lyne

My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...

brendasuethomas · brendasuethomas

Support for life with an alcoholic

brendasuethomas · brendasuethomas

Support for life with an alcoholic

anewdayeveryday · anewdayeveryday

A moment in time. Where all gathered to support each other as we were going through our stuff. It was meant, for that moment :) How's Hotrod? DavidG? Are the regulars moved on? I hope to green & sunny pastures. Living this life to the best of What is available. Much love.

Lyne · Lyne

I see that some of you are still on the board and maybe can relate to my situation. My spouse is finally in AA and working with a sponsor. It only took 31 years. So some days I see a person who is more reasonable and grounded, definitely making progress. And some days I have that nasty, moody person aroun...

Summer44 · Summer44

I have two sons ages 18 and 20. Both of them smoke marijuna. My older son is in jail and going to prison most likely for a few years. My younger son just graduated but definitely is addicted to marijuana. My husband had been sober from alcohol and marijuana for 20 years with about 4 relapses between those y...

texas yankee · texas yankee

. . . . don't lose hope. Sure, I know that Mom's worry, too, but since today is Father's Day, I wanted to offer some hope to any hurting Dad's - yeah, we Dads do have feelings and we hurt, too, when our kids are in a bad place. My son was in a bad place for a long, long time - and his bad decisions took their toll...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am back on here after a long time! I am so grateful these days! So much has happened since the last time I was on here. I just went over 1 1/2 years since my AH passed away. I am grieving a lot less & am finally on the other side I think. I believe that the reason why I am doing so well besides the fact that I ju...

Summer44 · Summer44

Ive been in Alanon for about 10 years and Ive learned a lot. Well, my husband just had a relapse and my son is in jail going to prison soon. My younger son is graduating. I feel completely like Im in a daze. I didnt expect my husband to relapse and he also is so moody. I am so focused on everyone wise and it fe...

jliminal · jliminal

Alcohol has affected me in many ways. I have had some issues with it personally but generally dont drink anymore. My dad had a dependence on drinking at the end of his life. He had gained a lot of weight and had become pre diabetic. Just as he was turning his life around, he got Covid at the beginning of the p...

gig504 · gig504

Does any know how to get the daily readers online?

cwya · cwya

I'm stumped by something that has come up in my new Al-Anon group. I have recently moved to a new city after spending many years in a place with no meetings and I had to rely only my alanon mojo and literature for survival. I tried for years to get a meeting up and running to no avail. Its one of the reasons I'v...

mistercrowley · mistercrowley

My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...

texas yankee · texas yankee

. . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...

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	Sponsor issue? (Preview) I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...	McTater	3	1497	Jul 28, 2025 by Macworkz
	Spouse Issue (Preview) I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...	DFG	2	1337	Jul 27, 2025 by DFG
	C2C, for Monday 7/7, Maintenance Steps (Preview) This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...	Lyne	2	1485	Jul 24, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 6/23, Being honest with ourselves (Preview) This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...	Lyne	0	1434	Jun 23, 2025 by Lyne
	for Dad's that are estranged from their sons . . . . (Preview) For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...	texas yankee	1	1482	Jun 15, 2025 by Lyne
	Expectations, C2C P. 110 (Preview) I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...	Lyne	0	1517	Jun 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/2, gifts from alanon (Preview) This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...	Lyne	0	1466	Jun 1, 2025 by Lyne
	no one can steal my serenity (Preview) Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...	Hoot Nanny	1	1580	May 20, 2025 by Lyne
	Something Betty taught me (Preview) Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.	Lyne	0	1381	May 18, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday 5/12, we are not alone (Preview) This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...	Lyne	0	1361	May 11, 2025 by Lyne
	Self care for Thursday (Preview) The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...	a4l	1	1559	May 2, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/21, unity in diversity (Preview) The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...	Lyne	0	1420	Apr 20, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/14, Distorted thinking (Preview) The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...	Lyne	0	1398	Apr 14, 2025 by Lyne
	not so good grief (Preview) good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...	Hoot Nanny	1	1541	Apr 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/7, Does God have a sense of humor? (Preview) The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...	Lyne	0	1597	Apr 6, 2025 by Lyne
	Accepting grace. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...	a4l	3	1519	Mar 31, 2025 by Lyne
	Changing the Things I Can, Trying To Accept Those I Can't. (Preview) High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...	WendyP	3	1554	Mar 27, 2025 by PK
	C2C, 3/24, alcoholism a disease?? (Preview) Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...	Lyne	2	1546	Mar 27, 2025 by Lyne
	using the Slogans. (Preview) I recently heard someone mention the Slogans, I would like to share how I learnt to use them withing a Meeting, and in my personal Recovery journey. I read in one of the Daily Reader, that the Chair Person used the Slogans as a Topic for the Meeting. All the members after said that when they applied the Slo...	WendyP	1	1684	Mar 23, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/17 (Preview) This reading sparked my interest as it speaks to the concept that no problem lasts forever. Some wounds do not heal quickly. Difficult times can bring out our courage, faith, and our need for others. All experiences can be growth-producing. And of course reminded me that all things shall pass. I...	Lyne	0	1508	Mar 16, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 12/24, surviving turmoil and drama (Preview) This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we s...	Lyne	3	1870	Mar 13, 2025 by WendyP
	C2C, Monday, 3/10 (Preview) The focus of this reading is reversing old ways of thinking. I criticized myself often, felt unloved and unwanted, thought I was ugly, fat, and stupid, and didn't think there was any way out. Because of the abuse I grew up with, and the alcoholism/addiction I've been exposed to as an adult, I guess I w...	Lyne	3	1618	Mar 13, 2025 by Lyne
	Quote from C2C , 2/29 (Preview) "A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything." The gist of this reading reminds us that we need to be flexible in order to adjust, we will be making mistakes because we cannot be perfect, and we can learn that making mistakes can be seen as part of our adventure. Before recovery I was hor...	Lyne	0	1656	Mar 2, 2025 by Lyne
	Quote from C2C, 2/24/25 (Preview) "We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action." Today's reading is about Step 4, taking a fearless, moral inventory of ourselves. We needn't be scared, but I certainly was the first time. Sever...	Lyne	0	1602	Feb 24, 2025 by Lyne
	Hey, someone got rid of most of the garbage mail (Preview) I keep checking in, hoping I'll see a spark of life on MIP. My last post, I think in Nov., did not receive one reply. Does anyone wish to continue on MIP? I keep hoping.....	Lyne	1	1836	Dec 27, 2024 by Fedora
	Here I go again ... (Preview) Hello, everyone. Looking for insights from others who have walked a path similar to mine. I was married to the father of my children for 15 years, divorcing due to his alcoholism. Fast forward about 10 years. I am remarried now for 3 1/2 years. My current husband binge drinks to the point where he is ob...	BL2911	1	1653	Nov 16, 2024 by Lyne
	Family ties (Preview) Good morning. I have family in from CA and lots of get togethers, reviewing the past--good, bad, and ugly. I have some anxiety hanging around from all of it, but it's mostly good--my brother with cancer is alive and two siblings that haven't spoken in about 30 years are speaking. I forgave my brothe...	Lyne	0	1636	Nov 14, 2024 by Lyne
	Courage to change reading November 4th (Preview) In today's reading from courage to change, the topic is having a backup plan when making plans with someone who is unreliable. I like the reading, and I usually like most of them. I think there's something to be learned from them, no matter how many times I've already read them I especially like the f...	Skorpi	1	1614	Nov 7, 2024 by Lyne
	Farewells (Preview) In what is not my favorite week ever, I had to say goodbye to my 5-year-old English lab yesterday. He was such a sweet buddy, and totally unintentional. I started to foster him during the pandemic for a co-worker. She had been diagnosed with cancer and got the dog for her son but her family couldn't tak...	Skorpi	1	1453	Nov 7, 2024 by Lyne
	It's been a minute (Preview) Hi Al-Anon friends! It's been a bit since I've stopped by or been actively engaged. I had a lot of things with kiddos that were seriously all consuming. (But hey, I decided to be a foster parent, so that's what I get, lol!) And, I've decided to end my marriage with my AW. That's been a process requiring a l...	Skorpi	2	1619	Oct 20, 2024 by Lyne
	Miracles in Progress (Preview) Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving. i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool. but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress...............	jewely	4	4977	Oct 20, 2024 by bud
	New Here-Serious Question (Preview) I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of...	Ruby Grace	3	1337	Oct 20, 2024 by bud
	"controlling behavior" during meetings (Preview) I'm having an incredible challenge I just cant seem to detach from. I recently relocated to a different part of my state and there is only one alanon meeting. There is someone in the group who seems to believe that she is "in charge" and is responsible for always leading the meeting and its he...	cwya	36	5807	Oct 15, 2024 by Ruby Grace
	popped back in .. what's up ? (Preview) Hi everyone .. it's been a long time since I've been in here .. So i have been reading there are problems on this board .. are the problems only with the ads that I see in between shares ? Is there more ? just trying to understand what's been happening .. i've been gone for several years but popped back in .. i w...	MeTwo2	1	1365	Oct 13, 2024 by Lyne
	So Here We Are (Preview) For the day? Hour? Minute? The sun came up as usual and my recovery journey continues - work in progress, not cured. An oldtimer once told me that the nice thing about a higher power is that hp is portable - can be taken wherever I go. I hold that thought close as I do all we've shared here. Thanks for being he...	tiredtonite	4	1835	Oct 11, 2024 by MeTwo2
	What's happened here (Preview) To Breakingfree: Hello and welcome back. At the end of 2023 we were told that whoever took care of MIP was not keeping it going. We expected MIP to close for good. But MIP did not disappear, yet most of the membership did. The moderators are gone, people who know how to get rid of the spammers are gone...	Lyne	0	1305	Oct 8, 2024 by Lyne
	things can only get better (Preview) Things can only get better! Sometimes long distance relationships can be tricky but I can truly say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am living proof of that. My current significant other is miles away but our trust level is high enough that it is working. Today I see the hope in all of it. Sometimes...	Hoot Nanny	4	1538	Oct 6, 2024 by Breakingfree
	I am moderator next door, I welcome all of you homeless al-anon's that need a loving place to share (Preview) Hi I am Mama lioness also known as Rosie I'm moderate the site next door the adult children board and I keep it spam free I am checking in several times a day to make sure of that Obviously the moderators here have jumped ship and sadly and I say this very very sincerely I was a member of this board when Be...	Mamalion	4	1201	Oct 6, 2024 by Breakingfree
	Reviving MIP (Preview) I really miss this message board as it was part of my daily routine. It didn't disappear--I don't understand why or why not, but it's still here. Is there any interest in reviving it from some of our former members?? I've looked online several times and recently emailed WSO to find a new message boar...	Lyne	12	1266	Oct 6, 2024 by Breakingfree
	HI...name mamalion was shut down, had to re-register as Rosie922 (Preview) I just wanted to say on the original invite (I am locked out, nothing would work so re-registered) but anyway, I just wanted to say that I am saddened to see my old board messed up with spam I moderate the ACOA board next door here on MIP, you can see it on top and you can , if you want, register with us, WE ARE...	Rosie922	2	1195	Oct 4, 2024 by Rosie922
	Does anyone know how to stop the non-alanon folks, and/or delete their posts?? (Preview) Help!!	Lyne	3	1348	Sep 23, 2024 by Lyne
	Minding my own business (Preview) When my spouse started in AA, she did 90 in 90 and even went daily a few weeks more. Then she settled into 3xweek plus 1xweek with a sponsor. I thought that would work for her, and I did see progress, just a lot more work needed. After all, I have 13 years in alanon, and I'm still working my program. Well f...	Lyne	5	1357	Sep 20, 2024 by Wolfie55
	I didn't know (Preview) I didn't know what an alcoholic /addict was. I have married two of them. One I ended with a divorce, the current one I have tolerated and survived with for 32 years. I think today's kids are exposed to the addiction aspects in life, and hopefully will make better choices for themselves and partners....	Lyne	0	1284	Sep 10, 2024 by Lyne
	Gratitude (Preview) I was thinking about the power of gratitude. I can be really bogged down with crummy feelings and very much out of touch with what is really driving me to react to things and feel this way. Im talking about the kind of day when grace is not even within reach. I find fault, act catty and wind up feeling small....	sunmustshine	2	1280	Aug 28, 2024 by Lyne
	Change is inevitable (Preview) Greetings alanon family~My newly recovering spouse is now dealing with a progressive lung disorder. Like we don't have enough to cope with! This was unexpected news and I'm at least used to coping with the uncontrollable events of my future. My A is not used to having our circumstances unpredict...	Lyne	3	1376	Aug 21, 2024 by bud
	Daughter gives Ultimatum Need Advice!! (Preview) My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...	verenda	8	4609	Aug 18, 2024 by Lyne
	Newly sober spouse (Preview) My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...	Lyne	4	1358	Jul 31, 2024 by bud
	Living with an alcoholic (Preview) Support for life with an alcoholic	brendasuethomas	1	1305	Jul 25, 2024 by Lyne
	Living with an alcoholic (Preview) Support for life with an alcoholic	brendasuethomas	0	1193	Jul 23, 2024 by brendasuethomas
	Oh wow! Y'all are still here! (Or are you?) (Preview) A moment in time. Where all gathered to support each other as we were going through our stuff. It was meant, for that moment :) How's Hotrod? DavidG? Are the regulars moved on? I hope to green & sunny pastures. Living this life to the best of What is available. Much love.	anewdayeveryday	4	1644	Jun 30, 2024 by Lyne
	Could use some ESH (Preview) I see that some of you are still on the board and maybe can relate to my situation. My spouse is finally in AA and working with a sponsor. It only took 31 years. So some days I see a person who is more reasonable and grounded, definitely making progress. And some days I have that nasty, moody person aroun...	Lyne	4	1383	Jun 25, 2024 by bud
	I thought he was sober (Preview) I have two sons ages 18 and 20. Both of them smoke marijuna. My older son is in jail and going to prison most likely for a few years. My younger son just graduated but definitely is addicted to marijuana. My husband had been sober from alcohol and marijuana for 20 years with about 4 relapses between those y...	Summer44	3	1443	Jun 21, 2024 by StargazerLily
	If you're a Father, a Dad, and your kid isn't doing well . . . . (Preview) . . . . don't lose hope. Sure, I know that Mom's worry, too, but since today is Father's Day, I wanted to offer some hope to any hurting Dad's - yeah, we Dads do have feelings and we hurt, too, when our kids are in a bad place. My son was in a bad place for a long, long time - and his bad decisions took their toll...	texas yankee	2	1345	Jun 20, 2024 by texas yankee
	where do I begin? (Preview) I am back on here after a long time! I am so grateful these days! So much has happened since the last time I was on here. I just went over 1 1/2 years since my AH passed away. I am grieving a lot less & am finally on the other side I think. I believe that the reason why I am doing so well besides the fact that I ju...	Hoot Nanny	2	1479	Jun 13, 2024 by Lyne
	I forgot who I am again (Preview) Ive been in Alanon for about 10 years and Ive learned a lot. Well, my husband just had a relapse and my son is in jail going to prison soon. My younger son is graduating. I feel completely like Im in a daze. I didnt expect my husband to relapse and he also is so moody. I am so focused on everyone wise and it fe...	Summer44	1	1319	Jun 12, 2024 by Lyne
	Advice or Encouragement (Preview) Alcohol has affected me in many ways. I have had some issues with it personally but generally dont drink anymore. My dad had a dependence on drinking at the end of his life. He had gained a lot of weight and had become pre diabetic. Just as he was turning his life around, he got Covid at the beginning of the p...	jliminal	4	1690	Jun 9, 2024 by sunmustshine
	Daily readers online (Preview) Does any know how to get the daily readers online?	gig504	1	1590	Jun 6, 2024 by norweidutch
	Cross talk and other rules ( 1 2 ) crosstalk alcoholics anonymity (Preview) I'm stumped by something that has come up in my new Al-Anon group. I have recently moved to a new city after spending many years in a place with no meetings and I had to rely only my alanon mojo and literature for survival. I tried for years to get a meeting up and running to no avail. Its one of the reasons I'v...	cwya	47	18610	Apr 21, 2024 by masonjones5711
	Hoping for the Best (Preview) My wife just went into Alcohol treatment in another state, for 30-90 days. It is Day 6 today. I have just started to really share the details with my friends and family. Before that I mainly kept most to myself out of embarrassment or shame. I met my wife on the frozen surface of Lake Superior, during the...	mistercrowley	1	1619	Mar 21, 2024 by Lyne
	So my son is sober now, at least as far as I know . . . (Preview) . . . and I know that it's not my business to really know about whether he's really sober or not, so that's progress for me, right ? At any rate, I remember thinking in meetings early on when I heard someone talking about how their loved one was sober after many years of drinking and\or using, "How on earth...	texas yankee	5	1731	Mar 17, 2024 by tiredtonite
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