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KathyS · KathyS

I was going to reply to WakingUps post but thought I'd just start this as a new topic so more would read it. When I sponsor someone, below is the stepwork I send for step 2. The first 3 steps are the most important because they build the foundation for the rest of the steps. If we don't ha...

Lyne · Lyne

Inspired by a recent post from a member, the only thing I think guilt and shame do are make us feel worse. No good has ever come from ruminating about guilt and shame. If I do something I feel was wrong or hurt someone, I will make amends ASAP (Steps 9-11.). However, if I choose an action to save myself, an...

Lyne · Lyne

I did some reading about the slogan, Just for Today. And yes, sometimes we are stuck Just for Today doing something we really don't like. The reading in Hope for Today said then we should look to make a change. We don't have to do something we hate day after day. Often it is fear that is holding us back....

A4L2 · A4L2

To be fair, I spent a lot of time around alcoholic brains. That might explain why this has arisen; nothing more than familiar contempt. I recall hearing stories about having a devil of a time around child support and ex-alcoholic husbands. Now going through it I need a place to be honest with myself....

Lyne · Lyne

This morning I was reading about how family can perceive our positive changes in recovery. The article I read was called: My Family Thinks I'm a Little Crazy. I have 14 years in alanon and coming up on 2 in ACA/Dysfunctional Families. I was thinking about all the positive changes recovery has given...

youknowme2 · youknowme2

Heyas. It's Mel. Good to see you all. Things are good, I work as a counsellor now and I'm doing OK. I won a bunch of prizes for writing this last year, and wrote 2 novels. Feeling pretty good. My brother Jimmy is in bad shape. He wants to come and live with me. He's 40, I'm 49. My parents are still stuck in deni...

A4L2 · A4L2

I filed for divorce end of May. I don't regret that for a minute. He moved next door to live with alcoholics. Literally behind my house which is so weird and messed up. There was little I could do about it and there he remains. It's unfair but honestly what can I do except pray on it and that's the point I'm at...

WendyP · WendyP

Recently, I had the opportunity to apply the Three A's to a Family situation that I was involved in. Like the reader in Courage To Change,April !st,who use to try to jump from awareness to action,without even pausing for acceptance.Their thinking went like this'Something's wrong!quick,let me fix...

Lyne · Lyne

Although Betty has been gone since right before covid, many things she taught me have stuck in my head. I like this one: I can't, He can, I will let Him.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yes, things do come out better. I am so much happier after Arizona! I have been feeling so much better since my boyfriend & I have been back together since the big misunderstanding & fight we had last March 31st. We may still have trust issues but at least there is forgiveness. I am staying on my s...

SteveC · SteveC

does anyone have any Al-Anon approved documentation or literature on this slogan? If so perhaps they can send me to anlinl or the area. I want to share this as a topic in my group meeting however any information that I google sends me to the point of origin and i am not certain I can explain this slogan clea...

nicuRN71 · nicuRN71

I am new to the group thing. I have had to deal with substance abuse for most my life. My brother brought AA into my families life but he never really believed or followed through with it. I went once with him to an AA meeting and it seemingly was a bragging s...

Franchia A · Franchia A

"Let It Begin with Me..." What are we being shown now that wasn't there before? Like a crowned, round thing that rose like the sun, the enigma of a Higher Power is revealed to us in the midst of our emerging awareness, a Higher Power who wraps newcomers and recovering fellows alike in the warmth of a merci...

Lyne · Lyne

Alanon has allowed many of us to grow up for the very first time. We can learn to face the world, take responsibility for our actions, and become responsible adults. We can learn that there is more to life than problems, and recognize we need to have more fun. Allowing a sense of humor can help us detac...

Lyne · Lyne

There are all kinds of people and they adapt to AA in all kinds of ways. My spouse just hit two years of sobriety. Life is better but the alcoholic personality is still around at times. I think part of the problem is that if you are unable to look at yourself, then you don't see you own behavior. Alanon h...

Lyne · Lyne

I was reading today about how it's never too late to become happy. Healing from trauma allows us to become alive again. I also read that we can use the power of our minds to change our brain chemistry. I believe this is what happens in recovery. During my 14 years in alanon I've gone from a depressed and...

Lyne · Lyne

Today I make a commitment to be honest with myself. By facing reality, I become someone I can depend upon. This reminder allowed me to think back to when I couldn't be honest with myself or anyone else. I disliked myself so much, that I felt I had to hide who I was. I was also in so much denial about the abu...

a4l · a4l

There are none quite like this one though it's hit a slow patch admittedly. I recently spent some time on a mainstream board where subforums included alanon. Though not CAL approved. More of a venting space which this board had been for me 12 years ago. But MIP had lovely programme ladies and gents so...

Lyne · Lyne

Lately I'm not coping as well as I have in the past. I have one brother with aggressive cancer, and the other brother with heart issues. My sister is not grounded in reality at the moment, a great concern, and my spouse is in early recovery--life is tricky and inconsistent. I lean into my program tools...

Klynn13 · Klynn13

Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...

Klynn13 · Klynn13

Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading from yesterday talks about how much better we can feel after being with others who share our common experiences. The writer mentions a "healing, comforting Power" in these rooms. The Power is greater than myself, and speaks through other people. Often we hear exactly what we needed....

Wornthehellout · Wornthehellout

Hi everyone. This is my first post. I have a cousin who lives across the country from me who I used to be very close with. In the last 20 years, she has gotten on and off pills and for the last 40 years, she's had issues with drinking. She has tried to stop drinking many times and now she's on Naltrexone. ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite topics, and one I think I've mastered at times, and then I realize, not so much! The reading says we should let the alcoholic be--they need to hit their own bottom. We have to get out of the way, which is detaching with love. It's not disinterest, but others must be free to handl...

Macworkz · Macworkz

We have a new meeting at the community church in TwinLake Michigan in Muskegon county on Wednesday night at 5:30. https://m.facebook.com/100088071542574/ contact telephone number: 231-740-1860. my name is Matt C.

Lyne · Lyne

Betty said "compare = despair.". I thought that was so wise because before recovery I compared myself to everyone and always saw myself as a failure. I've learned to compare myself with myself, and looking back, I see positive change. No matter what anyone else is doing, it doesn't pertain to me. W...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading gives an adorable example of a child praying by reciting the alphabet. The child cannot remember the words to prayers, but trusts that God will know what he is saying. I view prayer as a very personal activity, and for me it includes of number of issues: -thanking God for many things -aski...

McTater · McTater

I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...

DFG · DFG

I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...

texas yankee · texas yankee

For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...

Lyne · Lyne

I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...

Lyne · Lyne

Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...

a4l · a4l

The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...

a4l · a4l

Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...

WendyP · WendyP

High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...

Lyne · Lyne

Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...

WendyP · WendyP

I recently heard someone mention the Slogans, I would like to share how I learnt to use them withing a Meeting, and in my personal Recovery journey. I read in one of the Daily Reader, that the Chair Person used the Slogans as a Topic for the Meeting. All the members after said that when they applied the Slo...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading sparked my interest as it speaks to the concept that no problem lasts forever. Some wounds do not heal quickly. Difficult times can bring out our courage, faith, and our need for others. All experiences can be growth-producing. And of course reminded me that all things shall pass. I...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we s...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is reversing old ways of thinking. I criticized myself often, felt unloved and unwanted, thought I was ugly, fat, and stupid, and didn't think there was any way out. Because of the abuse I grew up with, and the alcoholism/addiction I've been exposed to as an adult, I guess I w...

Lyne · Lyne

"A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything." The gist of this reading reminds us that we need to be flexible in order to adjust, we will be making mistakes because we cannot be perfect, and we can learn that making mistakes can be seen as part of our adventure. Before recovery I was hor...

Lyne · Lyne

"We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action." Today's reading is about Step 4, taking a fearless, moral inventory of ourselves. We needn't be scared, but I certainly was the first time. Sever...

Lyne · Lyne

I keep checking in, hoping I'll see a spark of life on MIP. My last post, I think in Nov., did not receive one reply. Does anyone wish to continue on MIP? I keep hoping.....

BL2911 · BL2911

Hello, everyone. Looking for insights from others who have walked a path similar to mine. I was married to the father of my children for 15 years, divorcing due to his alcoholism. Fast forward about 10 years. I am remarried now for 3 1/2 years. My current husband binge drinks to the point where he is ob...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning. I have family in from CA and lots of get togethers, reviewing the past--good, bad, and ugly. I have some anxiety hanging around from all of it, but it's mostly good--my brother with cancer is alive and two siblings that haven't spoken in about 30 years are speaking. I forgave my brothe...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from courage to change, the topic is having a backup plan when making plans with someone who is unreliable. I like the reading, and I usually like most of them. I think there's something to be learned from them, no matter how many times I've already read them

I especially like the f...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In what is not my favorite week ever, I had to say goodbye to my 5-year-old English lab yesterday. He was such a sweet buddy, and totally unintentional. I started to foster him during the pandemic for a co-worker. She had been diagnosed with cancer and got the dog for her son but her family couldn't tak...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Al-Anon friends! It's been a bit since I've stopped by or been actively engaged. I had a lot of things with kiddos that were seriously all consuming. (But hey, I decided to be a foster parent, so that's what I get, lol!) And, I've decided to end my marriage with my AW. That's been a process requiring a l...

jewely · jewely

Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving. i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool. but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress...............

Ruby Grace · Ruby Grace

I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Step 2 Worksheet (Preview) I was going to reply to WakingUps post but thought I'd just start this as a new topic so more would read it. When I sponsor someone, below is the stepwork I send for step 2. The first 3 steps are the most important because they build the foundation for the rest of the steps. If we don't ha...	KathyS	7	12679	Feb 26, 2026 by Lyne
	Thoughts on guilt and shame (Preview) Inspired by a recent post from a member, the only thing I think guilt and shame do are make us feel worse. No good has ever come from ruminating about guilt and shame. If I do something I feel was wrong or hurt someone, I will make amends ASAP (Steps 9-11.). However, if I choose an action to save myself, an...	Lyne	2	867	Feb 19, 2026 by Lyne
	Just for Today (Preview) I did some reading about the slogan, Just for Today. And yes, sometimes we are stuck Just for Today doing something we really don't like. The reading in Hope for Today said then we should look to make a change. We don't have to do something we hate day after day. Often it is fear that is holding us back....	Lyne	4	887	Feb 15, 2026 by ClearTheFog
	Into the void of the alcoholics brain. (Preview) To be fair, I spent a lot of time around alcoholic brains. That might explain why this has arisen; nothing more than familiar contempt. I recall hearing stories about having a devil of a time around child support and ex-alcoholic husbands. Now going through it I need a place to be honest with myself....	A4L2	2	919	Jan 21, 2026 by Lyne
	Am I crazy or more screwed up? (Preview) This morning I was reading about how family can perceive our positive changes in recovery. The article I read was called: My Family Thinks I'm a Little Crazy. I have 14 years in alanon and coming up on 2 in ACA/Dysfunctional Families. I was thinking about all the positive changes recovery has given...	Lyne	1	866	Jan 18, 2026 by A4L2
	Hey hey kids (Preview) Heyas. It's Mel. Good to see you all. Things are good, I work as a counsellor now and I'm doing OK. I won a bunch of prizes for writing this last year, and wrote 2 novels. Feeling pretty good. My brother Jimmy is in bad shape. He wants to come and live with me. He's 40, I'm 49. My parents are still stuck in deni...	youknowme2	7	1022	Jan 16, 2026 by A4L2
	Circus monkeys (Preview) I filed for divorce end of May. I don't regret that for a minute. He moved next door to live with alcoholics. Literally behind my house which is so weird and messed up. There was little I could do about it and there he remains. It's unfair but honestly what can I do except pray on it and that's the point I'm at...	A4L2	3	982	Jan 16, 2026 by A4L2
	The Three A's (Preview) Recently, I had the opportunity to apply the Three A's to a Family situation that I was involved in. Like the reader in Courage To Change,April !st,who use to try to jump from awareness to action,without even pausing for acceptance.Their thinking went like this'Something's wrong!quick,let me fix...	WendyP	2	2477	Dec 12, 2025 by AngelVictory
	Thought I would share another Bettyism (Preview) Although Betty has been gone since right before covid, many things she taught me have stuck in my head. I like this one: I can't, He can, I will let Him.	Lyne	2	1626	Nov 16, 2025 by Lyne
	things come out better in the wash... (Preview) Yes, things do come out better. I am so much happier after Arizona! I have been feeling so much better since my boyfriend & I have been back together since the big misunderstanding & fight we had last March 31st. We may still have trust issues but at least there is forgiveness. I am staying on my s...	Hoot Nanny	1	1053	Nov 7, 2025 by Lyne
	Slogan but for the grace of god (Preview) does anyone have any Al-Anon approved documentation or literature on this slogan? If so perhaps they can send me to anlinl or the area. I want to share this as a topic in my group meeting however any information that I google sends me to the point of origin and i am not certain I can explain this slogan clea...	SteveC	21	5863	Oct 2, 2025 by DFG
	Anger and Frustration (Preview) I am new to the group thing. I have had to deal with substance abuse for most my life. My brother brought AA into my families life but he never really believed or followed through with it. I went once with him to an AA meeting and it seemingly was a bragging s...	nicuRN71	9	3998	Sep 5, 2025 by Lyne
	Let It Begin With Me... (Preview) "Let It Begin with Me..." What are we being shown now that wasn't there before? Like a crowned, round thing that rose like the sun, the enigma of a Higher Power is revealed to us in the midst of our emerging awareness, a Higher Power who wraps newcomers and recovering fellows alike in the warmth of a merci...	Franchia A	3	1735	Sep 4, 2025 by Franchia A
	C2C, 3/31, Growing up (Preview) Alanon has allowed many of us to grow up for the very first time. We can learn to face the world, take responsibility for our actions, and become responsible adults. We can learn that there is more to life than problems, and recognize we need to have more fun. Allowing a sense of humor can help us detac...	Lyne	2	2276	Sep 4, 2025 by DFG
	Thoughts about AA folks, inspired by a member's posting recently (Preview) There are all kinds of people and they adapt to AA in all kinds of ways. My spouse just hit two years of sobriety. Life is better but the alcoholic personality is still around at times. I think part of the problem is that if you are unable to look at yourself, then you don't see you own behavior. Alanon h...	Lyne	1	1660	Sep 4, 2025 by DFG
	It's never too late.... (Preview) I was reading today about how it's never too late to become happy. Healing from trauma allows us to become alive again. I also read that we can use the power of our minds to change our brain chemistry. I believe this is what happens in recovery. During my 14 years in alanon I've gone from a depressed and...	Lyne	2	2222	Aug 28, 2025 by AnnaBanana
	Reminder from C2C, 8/19 (Preview) Today I make a commitment to be honest with myself. By facing reality, I become someone I can depend upon. This reminder allowed me to think back to when I couldn't be honest with myself or anyone else. I disliked myself so much, that I felt I had to hide who I was. I was also in so much denial about the abu...	Lyne	0	1853	Aug 19, 2025 by Lyne
	Alanon boards and life in progress. (Preview) There are none quite like this one though it's hit a slow patch admittedly. I recently spent some time on a mainstream board where subforums included alanon. Though not CAL approved. More of a venting space which this board had been for me 12 years ago. But MIP had lovely programme ladies and gents so...	a4l	1	1762	Aug 19, 2025 by Lyne
	When life is overwhelming, ODAT (Preview) Lately I'm not coping as well as I have in the past. I have one brother with aggressive cancer, and the other brother with heart issues. My sister is not grounded in reality at the moment, a great concern, and my spouse is in early recovery--life is tricky and inconsistent. I lean into my program tools...	Lyne	2	1781	Aug 19, 2025 by a4l
	Supporting spouse (Preview) Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...	Klynn13	2	1418	Aug 19, 2025 by a4l
	Supporting spouse (Preview) Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...	Klynn13	0	1281	Aug 13, 2025 by Klynn13
	self care Tuesday (Preview) setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...	mamalioness	4	4313	Aug 13, 2025 by labutter
	C2C 8/11 (Preview) The reading from yesterday talks about how much better we can feel after being with others who share our common experiences. The writer mentions a "healing, comforting Power" in these rooms. The Power is greater than myself, and speaks through other people. Often we hear exactly what we needed....	Lyne	0	1836	Aug 12, 2025 by Lyne
	Tired of being supportive (Preview) Hi everyone. This is my first post. I have a cousin who lives across the country from me who I used to be very close with. In the last 20 years, she has gotten on and off pills and for the last 40 years, she's had issues with drinking. She has tried to stop drinking many times and now she's on Naltrexone. ...	Wornthehellout	5	1627	Aug 3, 2025 by newnoz
	C2C, detaching with love, 6/16 (Preview) This is one of my favorite topics, and one I think I've mastered at times, and then I realize, not so much! The reading says we should let the alcoholic be--they need to hit their own bottom. We have to get out of the way, which is detaching with love. It's not disinterest, but others must be free to handl...	Lyne	4	2007	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	New meeting in Twin Lake, MI 49457 (Preview) We have a new meeting at the community church in TwinLake Michigan in Muskegon county on Wednesday night at 5:30. https://m.facebook.com/100088071542574/ contact telephone number: 231-740-1860. my name is Matt C.	Macworkz	2	1650	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	Another Bettyism (Preview) Betty said "compare = despair.". I thought that was so wise because before recovery I compared myself to everyone and always saw myself as a failure. I've learned to compare myself with myself, and looking back, I see positive change. No matter what anyone else is doing, it doesn't pertain to me. W...	Lyne	4	2079	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/30, prayer (Preview) This reading gives an adorable example of a child praying by reciting the alphabet. The child cannot remember the words to prayers, but trusts that God will know what he is saying. I view prayer as a very personal activity, and for me it includes of number of issues: -thanking God for many things -aski...	Lyne	2	1847	Jul 28, 2025 by DFG
	Sponsor issue? (Preview) I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...	McTater	3	2012	Jul 28, 2025 by Macworkz
	Spouse Issue (Preview) I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...	DFG	2	1809	Jul 27, 2025 by DFG
	C2C, for Monday 7/7, Maintenance Steps (Preview) This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...	Lyne	2	1932	Jul 24, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 6/23, Being honest with ourselves (Preview) This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...	Lyne	0	1889	Jun 23, 2025 by Lyne
	for Dad's that are estranged from their sons . . . . (Preview) For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...	texas yankee	1	1929	Jun 15, 2025 by Lyne
	Expectations, C2C P. 110 (Preview) I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...	Lyne	0	1929	Jun 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/2, gifts from alanon (Preview) This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...	Lyne	0	1866	Jun 1, 2025 by Lyne
	no one can steal my serenity (Preview) Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...	Hoot Nanny	1	2099	May 20, 2025 by Lyne
	Something Betty taught me (Preview) Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.	Lyne	0	2032	May 18, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday 5/12, we are not alone (Preview) This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...	Lyne	0	1850	May 11, 2025 by Lyne
	Self care for Thursday (Preview) The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...	a4l	1	2067	May 2, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/21, unity in diversity (Preview) The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...	Lyne	0	1885	Apr 20, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/14, Distorted thinking (Preview) The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...	Lyne	0	1874	Apr 14, 2025 by Lyne
	not so good grief (Preview) good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...	Hoot Nanny	1	2045	Apr 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/7, Does God have a sense of humor? (Preview) The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...	Lyne	0	2100	Apr 6, 2025 by Lyne
	Accepting grace. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...	a4l	3	2241	Mar 31, 2025 by Lyne
	Changing the Things I Can, Trying To Accept Those I Can't. (Preview) High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...	WendyP	3	2028	Mar 27, 2025 by PK
	C2C, 3/24, alcoholism a disease?? (Preview) Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...	Lyne	2	2018	Mar 27, 2025 by Lyne
	using the Slogans. (Preview) I recently heard someone mention the Slogans, I would like to share how I learnt to use them withing a Meeting, and in my personal Recovery journey. I read in one of the Daily Reader, that the Chair Person used the Slogans as a Topic for the Meeting. All the members after said that when they applied the Slo...	WendyP	1	2220	Mar 23, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/17 (Preview) This reading sparked my interest as it speaks to the concept that no problem lasts forever. Some wounds do not heal quickly. Difficult times can bring out our courage, faith, and our need for others. All experiences can be growth-producing. And of course reminded me that all things shall pass. I...	Lyne	0	2300	Mar 16, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 12/24, surviving turmoil and drama (Preview) This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we s...	Lyne	3	2390	Mar 13, 2025 by WendyP
	C2C, Monday, 3/10 (Preview) The focus of this reading is reversing old ways of thinking. I criticized myself often, felt unloved and unwanted, thought I was ugly, fat, and stupid, and didn't think there was any way out. Because of the abuse I grew up with, and the alcoholism/addiction I've been exposed to as an adult, I guess I w...	Lyne	3	2099	Mar 13, 2025 by Lyne
	Quote from C2C , 2/29 (Preview) "A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything." The gist of this reading reminds us that we need to be flexible in order to adjust, we will be making mistakes because we cannot be perfect, and we can learn that making mistakes can be seen as part of our adventure. Before recovery I was hor...	Lyne	0	2154	Mar 2, 2025 by Lyne
	Quote from C2C, 2/24/25 (Preview) "We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action." Today's reading is about Step 4, taking a fearless, moral inventory of ourselves. We needn't be scared, but I certainly was the first time. Sever...	Lyne	0	2090	Feb 24, 2025 by Lyne
	Hey, someone got rid of most of the garbage mail (Preview) I keep checking in, hoping I'll see a spark of life on MIP. My last post, I think in Nov., did not receive one reply. Does anyone wish to continue on MIP? I keep hoping.....	Lyne	1	2344	Dec 27, 2024 by Fedora
	Here I go again ... (Preview) Hello, everyone. Looking for insights from others who have walked a path similar to mine. I was married to the father of my children for 15 years, divorcing due to his alcoholism. Fast forward about 10 years. I am remarried now for 3 1/2 years. My current husband binge drinks to the point where he is ob...	BL2911	1	2240	Nov 16, 2024 by Lyne
	Family ties (Preview) Good morning. I have family in from CA and lots of get togethers, reviewing the past--good, bad, and ugly. I have some anxiety hanging around from all of it, but it's mostly good--my brother with cancer is alive and two siblings that haven't spoken in about 30 years are speaking. I forgave my brothe...	Lyne	0	2172	Nov 14, 2024 by Lyne
	Courage to change reading November 4th (Preview) In today's reading from courage to change, the topic is having a backup plan when making plans with someone who is unreliable. I like the reading, and I usually like most of them. I think there's something to be learned from them, no matter how many times I've already read them I especially like the f...	Skorpi	1	2141	Nov 7, 2024 by Lyne
	Farewells (Preview) In what is not my favorite week ever, I had to say goodbye to my 5-year-old English lab yesterday. He was such a sweet buddy, and totally unintentional. I started to foster him during the pandemic for a co-worker. She had been diagnosed with cancer and got the dog for her son but her family couldn't tak...	Skorpi	1	2076	Nov 7, 2024 by Lyne
	It's been a minute (Preview) Hi Al-Anon friends! It's been a bit since I've stopped by or been actively engaged. I had a lot of things with kiddos that were seriously all consuming. (But hey, I decided to be a foster parent, so that's what I get, lol!) And, I've decided to end my marriage with my AW. That's been a process requiring a l...	Skorpi	2	2138	Oct 20, 2024 by Lyne
	Miracles in Progress (Preview) Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving. i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool. but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress...............	jewely	4	5557	Oct 20, 2024 by bud
	New Here-Serious Question (Preview) I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of...	Ruby Grace	3	1859	Oct 20, 2024 by bud
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