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Lyne · Lyne

Today I make a commitment to be honest with myself. By facing reality, I become someone I can depend upon. This reminder allowed me to think back to when I couldn't be honest with myself or anyone else. I disliked myself so much, that I felt I had to hide who I was. I was also in so much denial about the abu...

a4l · a4l

There are none quite like this one though it's hit a slow patch admittedly. I recently spent some time on a mainstream board where subforums included alanon. Though not CAL approved. More of a venting space which this board had been for me 12 years ago. But MIP had lovely programme ladies and gents so...

Lyne · Lyne

Lately I'm not coping as well as I have in the past. I have one brother with aggressive cancer, and the other brother with heart issues. My sister is not grounded in reality at the moment, a great concern, and my spouse is in early recovery--life is tricky and inconsistent. I lean into my program tools...

Klynn13 · Klynn13

Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...

Klynn13 · Klynn13

Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...

mamalioness · mamalioness

setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...

Lyne · Lyne

The reading from yesterday talks about how much better we can feel after being with others who share our common experiences. The writer mentions a "healing, comforting Power" in these rooms. The Power is greater than myself, and speaks through other people. Often we hear exactly what we needed....

Wornthehellout · Wornthehellout

Hi everyone. This is my first post. I have a cousin who lives across the country from me who I used to be very close with. In the last 20 years, she has gotten on and off pills and for the last 40 years, she's had issues with drinking. She has tried to stop drinking many times and now she's on Naltrexone. ...

Lyne · Lyne

This is one of my favorite topics, and one I think I've mastered at times, and then I realize, not so much! The reading says we should let the alcoholic be--they need to hit their own bottom. We have to get out of the way, which is detaching with love. It's not disinterest, but others must be free to handl...

Macworkz · Macworkz

We have a new meeting at the community church in TwinLake Michigan in Muskegon county on Wednesday night at 5:30. https://m.facebook.com/100088071542574/ contact telephone number: 231-740-1860. my name is Matt C.

Lyne · Lyne

Betty said "compare = despair.". I thought that was so wise because before recovery I compared myself to everyone and always saw myself as a failure. I've learned to compare myself with myself, and looking back, I see positive change. No matter what anyone else is doing, it doesn't pertain to me. W...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading gives an adorable example of a child praying by reciting the alphabet. The child cannot remember the words to prayers, but trusts that God will know what he is saying. I view prayer as a very personal activity, and for me it includes of number of issues: -thanking God for many things -aski...

McTater · McTater

I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...

DFG · DFG

I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...

texas yankee · texas yankee

For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...

Lyne · Lyne

I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...

Lyne · Lyne

Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.

Lyne · Lyne

This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...

a4l · a4l

The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...

Lyne · Lyne

The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...

Lyne · Lyne

The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...

a4l · a4l

Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...

WendyP · WendyP

High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...

Lyne · Lyne

Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...

WendyP · WendyP

I recently heard someone mention the Slogans, I would like to share how I learnt to use them withing a Meeting, and in my personal Recovery journey. I read in one of the Daily Reader, that the Chair Person used the Slogans as a Topic for the Meeting. All the members after said that when they applied the Slo...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading sparked my interest as it speaks to the concept that no problem lasts forever. Some wounds do not heal quickly. Difficult times can bring out our courage, faith, and our need for others. All experiences can be growth-producing. And of course reminded me that all things shall pass. I...

Lyne · Lyne

This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we s...

Lyne · Lyne

The focus of this reading is reversing old ways of thinking. I criticized myself often, felt unloved and unwanted, thought I was ugly, fat, and stupid, and didn't think there was any way out. Because of the abuse I grew up with, and the alcoholism/addiction I've been exposed to as an adult, I guess I w...

Lyne · Lyne

"A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything." The gist of this reading reminds us that we need to be flexible in order to adjust, we will be making mistakes because we cannot be perfect, and we can learn that making mistakes can be seen as part of our adventure. Before recovery I was hor...

Lyne · Lyne

"We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action." Today's reading is about Step 4, taking a fearless, moral inventory of ourselves. We needn't be scared, but I certainly was the first time. Sever...

Lyne · Lyne

I keep checking in, hoping I'll see a spark of life on MIP. My last post, I think in Nov., did not receive one reply. Does anyone wish to continue on MIP? I keep hoping.....

BL2911 · BL2911

Hello, everyone. Looking for insights from others who have walked a path similar to mine. I was married to the father of my children for 15 years, divorcing due to his alcoholism. Fast forward about 10 years. I am remarried now for 3 1/2 years. My current husband binge drinks to the point where he is ob...

Lyne · Lyne

Good morning. I have family in from CA and lots of get togethers, reviewing the past--good, bad, and ugly. I have some anxiety hanging around from all of it, but it's mostly good--my brother with cancer is alive and two siblings that haven't spoken in about 30 years are speaking. I forgave my brothe...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In today's reading from courage to change, the topic is having a backup plan when making plans with someone who is unreliable. I like the reading, and I usually like most of them. I think there's something to be learned from them, no matter how many times I've already read them

I especially like the f...

Skorpi · Skorpi

In what is not my favorite week ever, I had to say goodbye to my 5-year-old English lab yesterday. He was such a sweet buddy, and totally unintentional. I started to foster him during the pandemic for a co-worker. She had been diagnosed with cancer and got the dog for her son but her family couldn't tak...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Al-Anon friends! It's been a bit since I've stopped by or been actively engaged. I had a lot of things with kiddos that were seriously all consuming. (But hey, I decided to be a foster parent, so that's what I get, lol!) And, I've decided to end my marriage with my AW. That's been a process requiring a l...

jewely · jewely

Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving. i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool. but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress...............

Ruby Grace · Ruby Grace

I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of...

cwya · cwya

I'm having an incredible challenge I just cant seem to detach from. I recently relocated to a different part of my state and there is only one alanon meeting. There is someone in the group who seems to believe that she is "in charge" and is responsible for always leading the meeting and its he...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Hi everyone .. it's been a long time since I've been in here .. So i have been reading there are problems on this board .. are the problems only with the ads that I see in between shares ? Is there more ? just trying to understand what's been happening .. i've been gone for several years but popped back in .. i w...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

For the day? Hour? Minute? The sun came up as usual and my recovery journey continues - work in progress, not cured. An oldtimer once told me that the nice thing about a higher power is that hp is portable - can be taken wherever I go. I hold that thought close as I do all we've shared here. Thanks for being he...

Lyne · Lyne

To Breakingfree: Hello and welcome back. At the end of 2023 we were told that whoever took care of MIP was not keeping it going. We expected MIP to close for good. But MIP did not disappear, yet most of the membership did. The moderators are gone, people who know how to get rid of the spammers are gone...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Things can only get better! Sometimes long distance relationships can be tricky but I can truly say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am living proof of that. My current significant other is miles away but our trust level is high enough that it is working. Today I see the hope in all of it. Sometimes...

Mamalion · Mamalion

Hi I am Mama lioness also known as Rosie I'm moderate the site next door the adult children board and I keep it spam free I am checking in several times a day to make sure of that Obviously the moderators here have jumped ship and sadly and I say this very very sincerely I was a member of this board when Be...

Lyne · Lyne

I really miss this message board as it was part of my daily routine. It didn't disappear--I don't understand why or why not, but it's still here. Is there any interest in reviving it from some of our former members?? I've looked online several times and recently emailed WSO to find a new message boar...

Rosie922 · Rosie922

I just wanted to say on the original invite (I am locked out, nothing would work so re-registered) but anyway, I just wanted to say that I am saddened to see my old board messed up with spam I moderate the ACOA board next door here on MIP, you can see it on top and you can , if you want, register with us, WE ARE...

Lyne · Lyne

Help!!

Lyne · Lyne

When my spouse started in AA, she did 90 in 90 and even went daily a few weeks more. Then she settled into 3xweek plus 1xweek with a sponsor. I thought that would work for her, and I did see progress, just a lot more work needed. After all, I have 13 years in alanon, and I'm still working my program. Well f...

Lyne · Lyne

I didn't know what an alcoholic /addict was. I have married two of them. One I ended with a divorce, the current one I have tolerated and survived with for 32 years. I think today's kids are exposed to the addiction aspects in life, and hopefully will make better choices for themselves and partners....

sunmustshine · sunmustshine

I was thinking about the power of gratitude. I can be really bogged down with crummy feelings and very much out of touch with what is really driving me to react to things and feel this way. Im talking about the kind of day when grace is not even within reach. I find fault, act catty and wind up feeling small....

Lyne · Lyne

Greetings alanon family~My newly recovering spouse is now dealing with a progressive lung disorder. Like we don't have enough to cope with! This was unexpected news and I'm at least used to coping with the uncontrollable events of my future. My A is not used to having our circumstances unpredict...

verenda · verenda

My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...

Lyne · Lyne

My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...

brendasuethomas · brendasuethomas

Support for life with an alcoholic

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Reminder from C2C, 8/19 (Preview) Today I make a commitment to be honest with myself. By facing reality, I become someone I can depend upon. This reminder allowed me to think back to when I couldn't be honest with myself or anyone else. I disliked myself so much, that I felt I had to hide who I was. I was also in so much denial about the abu...	Lyne	0	1575	Aug 19, 2025 by Lyne
	Alanon boards and life in progress. (Preview) There are none quite like this one though it's hit a slow patch admittedly. I recently spent some time on a mainstream board where subforums included alanon. Though not CAL approved. More of a venting space which this board had been for me 12 years ago. But MIP had lovely programme ladies and gents so...	a4l	1	1457	Aug 19, 2025 by Lyne
	When life is overwhelming, ODAT (Preview) Lately I'm not coping as well as I have in the past. I have one brother with aggressive cancer, and the other brother with heart issues. My sister is not grounded in reality at the moment, a great concern, and my spouse is in early recovery--life is tricky and inconsistent. I lean into my program tools...	Lyne	2	1486	Aug 19, 2025 by a4l
	Supporting spouse (Preview) Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...	Klynn13	2	1125	Aug 19, 2025 by a4l
	Supporting spouse (Preview) Have any other spouses/partners felt jealous or insecure about meetings or the connections made in AA? My husband was sober many years before I met him, which I have admired and respected always, I however did not expect to feel left out of a big part of his life after all these years. Wondering if othe...	Klynn13	0	1011	Aug 13, 2025 by Klynn13
	self care Tuesday (Preview) setting boundaries as to how much computer use I do quitting milk chocolate candy bars (was doing good then UI expired, I began to stress eat) and other junky foods doing my meditations and gratitude list to HP and visualizing my happy means of support/where i want to be..getting to bed earlier starti...	mamalioness	4	3815	Aug 13, 2025 by labutter
	C2C 8/11 (Preview) The reading from yesterday talks about how much better we can feel after being with others who share our common experiences. The writer mentions a "healing, comforting Power" in these rooms. The Power is greater than myself, and speaks through other people. Often we hear exactly what we needed....	Lyne	0	1557	Aug 12, 2025 by Lyne
	Tired of being supportive (Preview) Hi everyone. This is my first post. I have a cousin who lives across the country from me who I used to be very close with. In the last 20 years, she has gotten on and off pills and for the last 40 years, she's had issues with drinking. She has tried to stop drinking many times and now she's on Naltrexone. ...	Wornthehellout	5	1318	Aug 3, 2025 by newnoz
	C2C, detaching with love, 6/16 (Preview) This is one of my favorite topics, and one I think I've mastered at times, and then I realize, not so much! The reading says we should let the alcoholic be--they need to hit their own bottom. We have to get out of the way, which is detaching with love. It's not disinterest, but others must be free to handl...	Lyne	4	1747	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	New meeting in Twin Lake, MI 49457 (Preview) We have a new meeting at the community church in TwinLake Michigan in Muskegon county on Wednesday night at 5:30. https://m.facebook.com/100088071542574/ contact telephone number: 231-740-1860. my name is Matt C.	Macworkz	2	1400	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	Another Bettyism (Preview) Betty said "compare = despair.". I thought that was so wise because before recovery I compared myself to everyone and always saw myself as a failure. I've learned to compare myself with myself, and looking back, I see positive change. No matter what anyone else is doing, it doesn't pertain to me. W...	Lyne	4	1781	Jul 29, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/30, prayer (Preview) This reading gives an adorable example of a child praying by reciting the alphabet. The child cannot remember the words to prayers, but trusts that God will know what he is saying. I view prayer as a very personal activity, and for me it includes of number of issues: -thanking God for many things -aski...	Lyne	2	1566	Jul 28, 2025 by DFG
	Sponsor issue? (Preview) I am almost 3 years in the program and have had the same sponsor since month 1. She was a life line and a solid friend, when I had none. I still love her deeply, but I am wondering if our time together as sponsor/sponsee has come to an end. I knew going into working with her that she was on step 10. She had been on...	McTater	3	1710	Jul 28, 2025 by Macworkz
	Spouse Issue (Preview) I made errors on my insurance claim page last night and my spouse, who insures me through his employer, threatened to remove my rights to my account under his name, even though I found a way to correct those errors. He berated and belittled me for an hour and I have to admit I got sucked into the mayhem whe...	DFG	2	1532	Jul 27, 2025 by DFG
	C2C, for Monday 7/7, Maintenance Steps (Preview) This reading states that Steps 10, 11, & 12 are called "maintenance Steps," but the writer did not want to "stagnate." All the Steps are challenging, and especially when life circumstances change. It is easy to revert back to former ways of thinking.I must admit that the first time I did the Ste...	Lyne	2	1641	Jul 24, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 6/23, Being honest with ourselves (Preview) This reading is about learning to be honest with ourselves so we can grow spiritually. It's not easy to admit someone we love has a drinking problem and we are powerless. Many things are beyond our control and that's why we need a power greater than ourselves. Honesty has many positive aspects--adm...	Lyne	0	1603	Jun 23, 2025 by Lyne
	for Dad's that are estranged from their sons . . . . (Preview) For many years, I didn't get a Happy Father's Day call from my younger son - but I did this morning, as he was on his way to work. I'm very, very grateful that my younger son and I are on very good terms these days after many years of both of us struggling with the disease of Alcoholism. Of course, there was n...	texas yankee	1	1639	Jun 15, 2025 by Lyne
	Expectations, C2C P. 110 (Preview) I have grown frustrated with my recovering spouse and wonder if my expectations are just too high for someone who's only been in AA for two years (almost). I found a reading in C2C which reminded me of a number of things: -alcoholism is a disease -what is reasonable for me to expect? -I need to adjust my e...	Lyne	0	1653	Jun 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, for Monday, 6/2, gifts from alanon (Preview) This reading talks about one of the gifts from being a longtime member of alanon. We accumulate a large supply of healthy and positive experiences. We learn that we can count on and trust our HP. we still have problems and crises, but fear may be much lessened or absent at these times. Each day can be...	Lyne	0	1616	Jun 1, 2025 by Lyne
	no one can steal my serenity (Preview) Sometimes it feels like I can't win. I get headway and then something goes wrong in my relationship. I am not always in the right frame of mind so sometimes I don't see things the way they really are. I am not delusional just a bit confused. But, I am still a winner in God's eyes. He doesn't make junk. My rela...	Hoot Nanny	1	1755	May 20, 2025 by Lyne
	Something Betty taught me (Preview) Having had Betty as a sponsor for 7 years, although she is gone, she is still alive in my head. She said to me once when I was a mess, "I can't, He can, I will let Him." I try to keep this in mind when I'm having a rough time, my HP is always there.	Lyne	0	1572	May 18, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday 5/12, we are not alone (Preview) This reading reminds us that we are never truly alone. Those of us in recovery have so many resources, inside the program(honesty of people in meetings, our HP, literature, etc.), and outside (music, nature, animals, a waterfall, etc.). The reading emphasizes the importance of listening and se...	Lyne	0	1530	May 11, 2025 by Lyne
	Self care for Thursday (Preview) The last five years have blown past. I say blown because it seems globally like a huge wind swept through the world externally and from experience and conversations, internal shifts have been common too. Looking at life a lot differently. I have a new normal. People have passed away, children have g...	a4l	1	1758	May 2, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/21, unity in diversity (Preview) The focus of this reading is a reminder to keep an open mind. Not every alanon meeting has the exact same format. We are reminded that the Principles of our program remain the same in every city. Each of us plays an important part as we share our ESH. Our individual differences can make us richer as a w...	Lyne	0	1591	Apr 20, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/14, Distorted thinking (Preview) The writer says that we can become aware when our thoughts become distorted through recovery. We can learn to stop our negative thinking. We do this by exchanging the negative for something positive. Our attitude seems to be key to accomplishing this change. The reminder says to pay close atten...	Lyne	0	1579	Apr 14, 2025 by Lyne
	not so good grief (Preview) good grief! Is there any such thing? I am suffering from more grief these days & it is not good! It has been almost 2 1/2 years since my husband died & now my relationship is causing me a lot of grief. I think it may be over. I am not looking for advice or suggestions. I just need to vent! I wish I had gon...	Hoot Nanny	1	1719	Apr 9, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 4/7, Does God have a sense of humor? (Preview) The first sentence of this reading made me chuckle. The author says that when things go wrong, and we have dreaded expectations, may be opportunities to see life in a lighter, better way. It is suggested that our HP may throw us a curve ball that can turn out to be positive. Laughing helps us to be less...	Lyne	0	1774	Apr 6, 2025 by Lyne
	Accepting grace. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a minute. Life's good, kids are more grown and reached that wonderful stage of being able to use public transport independently and make a sandwich. Life is so much different on the outside looking in to how it was when i first fell into the supportive arms of this board ten years ago. ...	a4l	3	1724	Mar 31, 2025 by Lyne
	Changing the Things I Can, Trying To Accept Those I Can't. (Preview) High, it's Wendy P. I have been really struggling for a long time when I Message some of my Family Members, trying to keep in touch with them, and especially my younger ones.When I don't hear from them, nor see them, I have a multitude of emotions. I have had an awful lot to deal with the younger Members of m...	WendyP	3	1717	Mar 27, 2025 by PK
	C2C, 3/24, alcoholism a disease?? (Preview) Like the author of this page, I had great difficulty accepting that alcoholism was a disease. It seemed like it was a choice--to drink or not. The author heard that alcoholism was similar to Alzheimer's. We see the person we know and love slipping away, they become more irrational and difficult to b...	Lyne	2	1700	Mar 27, 2025 by Lyne
	using the Slogans. (Preview) I recently heard someone mention the Slogans, I would like to share how I learnt to use them withing a Meeting, and in my personal Recovery journey. I read in one of the Daily Reader, that the Chair Person used the Slogans as a Topic for the Meeting. All the members after said that when they applied the Slo...	WendyP	1	1869	Mar 23, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, Monday, 3/17 (Preview) This reading sparked my interest as it speaks to the concept that no problem lasts forever. Some wounds do not heal quickly. Difficult times can bring out our courage, faith, and our need for others. All experiences can be growth-producing. And of course reminded me that all things shall pass. I...	Lyne	0	1692	Mar 16, 2025 by Lyne
	C2C, 12/24, surviving turmoil and drama (Preview) This reading today is helping me with my situation, of constantly feeling pressured by my spouse to live full-time together again. I am not ready nor willing at this time. The reading says that it is important to pay attention to our own behavior thoughts, and feelings. The reading goes on to say we s...	Lyne	3	2041	Mar 13, 2025 by WendyP
	C2C, Monday, 3/10 (Preview) The focus of this reading is reversing old ways of thinking. I criticized myself often, felt unloved and unwanted, thought I was ugly, fat, and stupid, and didn't think there was any way out. Because of the abuse I grew up with, and the alcoholism/addiction I've been exposed to as an adult, I guess I w...	Lyne	3	1795	Mar 13, 2025 by Lyne
	Quote from C2C , 2/29 (Preview) "A person who makes no mistakes usually does not make anything." The gist of this reading reminds us that we need to be flexible in order to adjust, we will be making mistakes because we cannot be perfect, and we can learn that making mistakes can be seen as part of our adventure. Before recovery I was hor...	Lyne	0	1852	Mar 2, 2025 by Lyne
	Quote from C2C, 2/24/25 (Preview) "We all wish good things to happen to us, but we cannot just pray and then sit down and expect miracles to happen. We must back up our prayers with action." Today's reading is about Step 4, taking a fearless, moral inventory of ourselves. We needn't be scared, but I certainly was the first time. Sever...	Lyne	0	1790	Feb 24, 2025 by Lyne
	Hey, someone got rid of most of the garbage mail (Preview) I keep checking in, hoping I'll see a spark of life on MIP. My last post, I think in Nov., did not receive one reply. Does anyone wish to continue on MIP? I keep hoping.....	Lyne	1	2013	Dec 27, 2024 by Fedora
	Here I go again ... (Preview) Hello, everyone. Looking for insights from others who have walked a path similar to mine. I was married to the father of my children for 15 years, divorcing due to his alcoholism. Fast forward about 10 years. I am remarried now for 3 1/2 years. My current husband binge drinks to the point where he is ob...	BL2911	1	1881	Nov 16, 2024 by Lyne
	Family ties (Preview) Good morning. I have family in from CA and lots of get togethers, reviewing the past--good, bad, and ugly. I have some anxiety hanging around from all of it, but it's mostly good--my brother with cancer is alive and two siblings that haven't spoken in about 30 years are speaking. I forgave my brothe...	Lyne	0	1851	Nov 14, 2024 by Lyne
	Courage to change reading November 4th (Preview) In today's reading from courage to change, the topic is having a backup plan when making plans with someone who is unreliable. I like the reading, and I usually like most of them. I think there's something to be learned from them, no matter how many times I've already read them I especially like the f...	Skorpi	1	1784	Nov 7, 2024 by Lyne
	Farewells (Preview) In what is not my favorite week ever, I had to say goodbye to my 5-year-old English lab yesterday. He was such a sweet buddy, and totally unintentional. I started to foster him during the pandemic for a co-worker. She had been diagnosed with cancer and got the dog for her son but her family couldn't tak...	Skorpi	1	1729	Nov 7, 2024 by Lyne
	It's been a minute (Preview) Hi Al-Anon friends! It's been a bit since I've stopped by or been actively engaged. I had a lot of things with kiddos that were seriously all consuming. (But hey, I decided to be a foster parent, so that's what I get, lol!) And, I've decided to end my marriage with my AW. That's been a process requiring a l...	Skorpi	2	1817	Oct 20, 2024 by Lyne
	Miracles in Progress (Preview) Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving. i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool. but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress...............	jewely	4	5206	Oct 20, 2024 by bud
	New Here-Serious Question (Preview) I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of...	Ruby Grace	3	1522	Oct 20, 2024 by bud
	"controlling behavior" during meetings (Preview) I'm having an incredible challenge I just cant seem to detach from. I recently relocated to a different part of my state and there is only one alanon meeting. There is someone in the group who seems to believe that she is "in charge" and is responsible for always leading the meeting and its he...	cwya	36	6565	Oct 15, 2024 by Ruby Grace
	popped back in .. what's up ? (Preview) Hi everyone .. it's been a long time since I've been in here .. So i have been reading there are problems on this board .. are the problems only with the ads that I see in between shares ? Is there more ? just trying to understand what's been happening .. i've been gone for several years but popped back in .. i w...	MeTwo2	1	1548	Oct 13, 2024 by Lyne
	So Here We Are (Preview) For the day? Hour? Minute? The sun came up as usual and my recovery journey continues - work in progress, not cured. An oldtimer once told me that the nice thing about a higher power is that hp is portable - can be taken wherever I go. I hold that thought close as I do all we've shared here. Thanks for being he...	tiredtonite	4	2057	Oct 11, 2024 by MeTwo2
	What's happened here (Preview) To Breakingfree: Hello and welcome back. At the end of 2023 we were told that whoever took care of MIP was not keeping it going. We expected MIP to close for good. But MIP did not disappear, yet most of the membership did. The moderators are gone, people who know how to get rid of the spammers are gone...	Lyne	0	1486	Oct 8, 2024 by Lyne
	things can only get better (Preview) Things can only get better! Sometimes long distance relationships can be tricky but I can truly say absence makes the heart grow fonder. I am living proof of that. My current significant other is miles away but our trust level is high enough that it is working. Today I see the hope in all of it. Sometimes...	Hoot Nanny	4	1745	Oct 6, 2024 by Breakingfree
	I am moderator next door, I welcome all of you homeless al-anon's that need a loving place to share (Preview) Hi I am Mama lioness also known as Rosie I'm moderate the site next door the adult children board and I keep it spam free I am checking in several times a day to make sure of that Obviously the moderators here have jumped ship and sadly and I say this very very sincerely I was a member of this board when Be...	Mamalion	4	1354	Oct 6, 2024 by Breakingfree
	Reviving MIP (Preview) I really miss this message board as it was part of my daily routine. It didn't disappear--I don't understand why or why not, but it's still here. Is there any interest in reviving it from some of our former members?? I've looked online several times and recently emailed WSO to find a new message boar...	Lyne	12	1430	Oct 6, 2024 by Breakingfree
	HI...name mamalion was shut down, had to re-register as Rosie922 (Preview) I just wanted to say on the original invite (I am locked out, nothing would work so re-registered) but anyway, I just wanted to say that I am saddened to see my old board messed up with spam I moderate the ACOA board next door here on MIP, you can see it on top and you can , if you want, register with us, WE ARE...	Rosie922	2	1320	Oct 4, 2024 by Rosie922
	Does anyone know how to stop the non-alanon folks, and/or delete their posts?? (Preview) Help!!	Lyne	3	1520	Sep 23, 2024 by Lyne
	Minding my own business (Preview) When my spouse started in AA, she did 90 in 90 and even went daily a few weeks more. Then she settled into 3xweek plus 1xweek with a sponsor. I thought that would work for her, and I did see progress, just a lot more work needed. After all, I have 13 years in alanon, and I'm still working my program. Well f...	Lyne	5	1540	Sep 20, 2024 by Wolfie55
	I didn't know (Preview) I didn't know what an alcoholic /addict was. I have married two of them. One I ended with a divorce, the current one I have tolerated and survived with for 32 years. I think today's kids are exposed to the addiction aspects in life, and hopefully will make better choices for themselves and partners....	Lyne	0	1482	Sep 10, 2024 by Lyne
	Gratitude (Preview) I was thinking about the power of gratitude. I can be really bogged down with crummy feelings and very much out of touch with what is really driving me to react to things and feel this way. Im talking about the kind of day when grace is not even within reach. I find fault, act catty and wind up feeling small....	sunmustshine	2	1524	Aug 28, 2024 by Lyne
	Change is inevitable (Preview) Greetings alanon family~My newly recovering spouse is now dealing with a progressive lung disorder. Like we don't have enough to cope with! This was unexpected news and I'm at least used to coping with the uncontrollable events of my future. My A is not used to having our circumstances unpredict...	Lyne	3	1577	Aug 21, 2024 by bud
	Daughter gives Ultimatum Need Advice!! (Preview) My alcoholic fiancee and I seperated in July, he relapsed, but has returned to AA and has 60 days sober. We started talking again about 3 weeks ago by phone, but have not seen each other because I moved to MS to volunteer with the Katrina relief work. We are still very much in love, and want very much for our...	verenda	8	5001	Aug 18, 2024 by Lyne
	Newly sober spouse (Preview) My spouse will celebrate her 1 year anniversary in August. Of course it is not an easy path. But I've noticed of late, that she is shopping and eating in excess, I assume in the place of alcohol. I know I cannot control, change, fix, or anything else. I just have to watch what is taking place and focus o...	Lyne	4	1560	Jul 31, 2024 by bud
	Living with an alcoholic (Preview) Support for life with an alcoholic	brendasuethomas	1	1531	Jul 25, 2024 by Lyne
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