There are all kinds of people and they adapt to AA in all kinds of ways.  My spouse just hit two years of sobriety.  Life is better but the alcoholic personality is still around at times.  I think part of the problem is that if you are unable to look at yourself, then you don't see you own behavior.  Alanon has taught me to pause and think and treat others with compassion and kindness.  I don't know how that works with AA.

But I have a childhood friend who has been in AA for perhaps 16 years.  She has learned to be humble, act with grace, and has turned into a beautiful, compassionate, and caring individual.   So what I have learned is not to label everyone the same.  My spouse may never get where my friend is, but my friend sponsors alcoholics and I bet she is doing a fantastic job.  She is a wonderful role model.  

And in closing, I want to say that in my alanon home group,  one member used to attack others.  I have since left that group.  I strive to give everyone a chance and keep an open mind.  I try to treat others the way I want to be treated.  Life will always be a challenge and I hope I can weather the storms.