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tullemars · tullemars

I don't know if I want her to come back. My kids and I are finally relaxing and my older ones don't want her back right now. She has caused a lot of pain. Financial burdens. Mental scars. I know it was my fault for not getting her out of the house sooner. I don't want her back. I need time to he...

Phil · Phil

Affirmations What are negative self-scripts? Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives. Negative self-scripts are the: Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. Negative statements about yourself w...

wille · wille

Hello all, First I would say thank you for dreams / prayer / thoughts to Josh. He keeps getting better. He went from a coma state to walking now in a short amount of time. He's not out of the woods quite yet, except he's made most miraclous responses to his treatment. Again, tha...

Phil · Phil

What is trust? Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately....

elizabeth · elizabeth

Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simp...

elizabeth · elizabeth

I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR.......... I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying and meetin...

megan · megan

I went canoeing on the Delware river on Saturday and Sunday with my family and the Boy scout troop that my brother helps out with 7 of the 10 of us siblings went. (Most were in town from all over for my sisters law school graduation) It was great fun and the first time I had ever canoed on the river. T...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends! It is good to be back to this site! When I first left I said I would be back in 3 to 5 days,,,,but,,,,it was hard for me to leave my parents once I was with them. As I said before, my mom has alzheimers and my dad is in congestive heart failure and can't breathe well (but does not require oxygen...

jennybear35 · jennybear35

I am new here and going through depression because I just had another 'episode' with my family. My father is an alcoholic and growing up was very abusive, especially towards me. He would come home yelling for hours and I hit about 15 years old and would start telling him to stop. I started talking back an...

debilyn · debilyn

I have a doc app. at 11:45 today. There is something not right in my left breast. I feel like I am going to throw up. I had a mammogram not long ago that was negative. My mom was murdered by it in 2000. Doctor is concerned becuz of my other symptoms of bone problems The first place it goe...

jj · jj

take a look at the steps explained they might help. They helpped me they are back a bit you signed off before I could asy bye

Talk with insperational AA member · jj

So I have mentioned that I have met an interventionist and today I spoke to him again. He gives me so much insperation and helps so much. I feel great!!! He told many things to help me communicate to my husband. Being honest and laying it ALL on the line for him and asking him what he wants out o...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Am taking a little R and R this week, going off in truck with hubby tomorrow, gettin myself out of the house and all that. Mastiff has graciously agreed to chair the Thursday night Step meeting for me....thank you Mastiff! Will miss you all. Think I really need this break though.&n...

jessi · jessi

Lately I am shutting out people who are not healthy for me. This is new behavior for me because I typically will be less willing to let go of people I think I need in my life. This exercise is self-discipline and listening to my HP has been good and bad. I don't want to fall into isolating but I also a...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I hope you all enjoyed the holiday weekend. It was kind of peaceful here. The kids where coming and going, but we got a lot of work done on the yard getting ready for graduation and prom. (ouch! it snuck up so fast. I am stocking up on tissues though, as I get teary eyed thinking of it. Where di...

iona54 · iona54

I love this story about life and what we choose. Hope it helps some of you. hugs iona54 Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy...

lebe27 · lebe27

Living with an A is a tough road, especially if they are active. Early in our relationship when my A was active he caused me and my family alot of distress. After 9 months together he took off on me to Las Vegas, stealing items of mine and selling them to make his trip possible. Due to th...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi I just wondered how I could get an avitar? I think they're cute .... thanks!

gknee · gknee

Hi- Had to come check in--I don't come here enough, but I'm glad this board is always waiting for us. Its kind of like my quote on the wall that says "When we lose God, it is not God who is lost" This weekend I left my husband at home with his bottle of Vicodan, while I took the kids to an out of town socc...

funnygirl · funnygirl

Hi Y'all.... I'm new to these boards and new to the situation in my life. A few months ago I starting dating and am falling in love with a man who has been sober now for 17 years. He's committed to his sobriety and I'm behind that 100% and more than willing to do whatever it takes. I've...

Donna · Donna

Hi, I stumbled across this board online tonight. I have been married to my husband for 15 years. We met through friends and all of us used to go out to the bars/dance clubs on a regular basis back then. My husband & I started dating and it was instant attraction, within a...

Jeanne789 · Jeanne789

I just need to vent tonight. I am in the middle of a family crisis, but do I get any emotional support from my A? No. My Mom, who is 93 years old, had a heart attack and is in the hospital. The doctors have said the end is near, and so family has been coming and rallying around us. ...

Powerless · Powerless

I finally made a decision. Many of you may recall that i was having a difficult time deciding whether or not I want my husband to move out. After much talking and watching him make efforts to change, I have decided that I am not ready to throw away our marriage. I love him. I have...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

God has a funny sense of humor he places us on this planet filled with beautiful things he places us on this planet with alcohol and drugs We were all small innocent children and knew nothing of the kind but as we grew we were thrown choices along the way some chose to grow in God and s...

elizabeth · elizabeth

> Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words > "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to > become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably > using what-if thinking. > > WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? > &...

cdb · cdb

Hell sooner, I am missing you! Let me know how things are going with you when you read this? your friend in recovery, cdb :)

Emmie11 · Emmie11

Can someone please tell me exactly what to type to enter my nickname emmie11 and join the online chat? I keep doing it wrong and the chairman keeps kicking me out? Please help

whitie · whitie

I went to a great ftf meeting on friday noght. Nothing piss's my a off more! Anyway, I knew I'd pay for it the next day. Sure enough the fight was on at 7:30 a.m. (my first time to sleep in for once, gone). He was so quickly back to the negative nasty person he becomes and I wasn't gonna take it! He suggested tha...

Emmie11 · Emmie11

I am about to reach two years in the program this summer and am still working my way through the steps for the first time. I have grown a lot since finding Al-Anon, and my life and attitude have absolutely been bettered by the work I have been doing. I have two sponsors that I consult regularly, and attend m...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi everyone

I'm new and I can't figure out how the online meeting works. I read that peolpe like them but can't get it to work. If any one can help I would really love it. I don't go to face to face meeting. I would have to get a babysitter and money to tight rightnow.&nb...

Annie · Annie

Hi, all, please tell me how you love the A when he is actively drinking? I have been with him for about 35 years and out of those years, 15 were sober years. I really don't think I love him anymore. I am angry because he won't stop destroying himself. Yes, I do take care of m...

iona54 · iona54

I was in chat room and put this in as it helps remind me to kep the focus on me..hope it helps you all...hugs IOna54 An open letter to my Family I am an alcoholic, I need help. Don't allow me to lie to you and accept it for the truth, for in so doing, you encourage me to lie. The...

elizabeth · elizabeth

The Domestic Abuse Cycle Why do women return to violent relationships? This is one of the most common questions asked by the average person who doesn't understand domestic abuse. This question has become a hot button with advocates, because it placed blame on the victim instead of the perpetra...

dot · dot

Hi all - Steo Two is posted on the Step board. We need your shares for the newcomer to read so please support the board. This is another way to give back what was given to us. Love and hugs in recovery - Dot

jj · jj

Ya hoo I can post again!!! I would like to thank TLC for sending my message!! I was reading the posts on the board and there were many times that I wanted to reply and offer any encouragement and support that I could. I still have no idea what happened or why I couldn't post but it seems to be fixed. I...

shimo · shimo

Following is our agenda for the the Business Meeting on Wednesday nite. Every member is invited to attend whether you have been with us for one day or many years. Your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING June 1, 2005 - 7:00 PM...

elizabeth · elizabeth

Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happeni...

Jeannie · Jeannie

A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south. My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I have been having a really rough day. Today is my husbands and my 19 Anniversary. We where supposed to go out to dinner tonight (the counselor had suggested it) and we where supposed to go to an AA meeting last night. After the hospital fiasco the other night his mother called me to yell at me that...

buzzfree · buzzfree

This program is one of honesty. I have to come clean, and be honest with everyone here. I feel as if I have lied to everyone, and I am ashamed of myself; I have let myself down, I have let you all down, and I have let down my HP. I know that I have said I used to smoke pot. Howver, I did not say, that I also used cocai...

mamasan · mamasan

Hi Everyone.... I am new to this forum, but not necessarily new to Alanon. I gave up some of my "info" in the bio part of joining. I would just really rather "share as I go". I am 51 yrs old , divorced, remarried, mom to three kids that I love and a grandma to two boys.&nbs...

cdb · cdb

Hello, I have not been able to read or post replies yet to any posts so I wanted you and others to know that. Since you four and the ones I forgot to name are some of the first ones I met here, I wanted to let you know that I missed you all too! I will try to get to the old posts soon and...

flower · flower

I guess I have lost alot of courage in the past year. I had the whole talk last sunday, now today I've lost any energy to fight anymore. My son's birthday party for kids was today, by the time it was over of course my husband was dying to drink. Ya know what, I didn't fight it, I just let him go. I just can't figh...

WStar · WStar

I am new in here and Im hoping for some advice. I Have lived all my life with a family member that has been addicted . This person is my mom. What started this down hill of hell for all...39 years ago we lost my brother to a house fire he was 8. It took the heart out of all. My mom never was able to move on but...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"Sometimes we make choices with relative ease. One option feels right. We have no negative feelings about the other choice. On some occasions, we may be faced with what one man described as a "hard call". "I had raised my own children alone," Jason said. "And I did...

dot · dot

For any of you who heard about Cindy's dog biting her. It turned out very serious. She's in the hospital for the second time. The frst time they gave her antibiotics every 12 hours. This time they had to operate on her hand - infection had gone into the bone. She hopes to be home on the weekend - wil...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship? Are the costs (-) outwei...

jrudolph22 · jrudolph22

Hi everyone, I need to vent about what's been happening with me as of late. I ended up a 3 month long relationship with someone about a month ago. I broke up with her mostly due to circumstances - and the fact that I couldn't deal with her Bi-Polar disorder. Although she never took anything out on me, I...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, When I read this, I knew that this is what I am going through now!! If we want to heal, we need to feel. It may be very rough going at first, yet I know how my HP and the program will help me find my emotional center point. "The more we accept and share our feelings, the closer we come t...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Thanks to all of you who responded to me...I guess I just lost it yesterday, and it's wonderful to know you out there who've been there, and lived to relate to my woes. Today's better...my A worked at home today, and volunteered to keep our granddaughter...last night he mowed with her help. You're...

Annie · Annie

Thank you all for responding. I kept beating myself up because I can't feel the love for my A when he is drinking. It makes sense now why I don't. We all know those ugly characteristics caused by drinking...who can love that behavior...and there is no reason why I should. It is lon...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

There's nothing like inspiration while on a mini-vacation. Grab one if you can ! If it's for 15-20 minutes or 3 days! We left Monday evening and returned Thursday evening. Three nights at our cabin spot ! This time sobriety! What a difference. Kept i...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Help!!!! My dry drunk has about gotten the best of me again. Or, I've been so busy I've gotten the best of me???? I do my old job, run my new retail store, clean the house in the mornings, cook and laundry in the evenings...and in my spare time, tackle the weeds. Oh, that spare tiime i...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning, I have a difficult time to post what is really going on in my life for right now. Last week I was posting, and my husband came up in back of me and said, how interesting you are teddybear. He wanted to read what I had just wrote, so I deleted it. He became very angry with me...

breathless · breathless

There is no other discription of how I feel. Let me explain briefly here if I can. Twenty three years of verbal attacks, living with an alcoholic. Actually that just about sums it up. Why am I beating my self up. It's crazy. I had a red flag thrown at me before we got married. Com...

lost · lost

i left. i found some peace. i filed for divorce. he suddenly wants to work on it, salvage the marriage, try to get his drinking under control--will not get help, will do it his way. i feel done. i feel numb. why could he have not felt this way a month ago, when i was giving i...

Lani · Lani

Dear Friends, I struggled with money the same way I struggled with the alcoholic. I'm now thinking about money differently...you don't have to detach with love.

Attach with love!!! LOL "Being poor is a frame of mind." -- Mike Todd What do you think of money? Our beliefs create our r...

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, I wanted to post today and I wasn't sure what I would talk about. I do a lot of replying on this board and not a lot of new topics. I am thinking that maybe I am avoiding my own issues that I need to work on. Many times I can...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I'm trying to wind down a little before bed. My little Conner has just started walking and took a fall into a wall and split his lip open. It was bleeding horribly and very wide so my daughter and I took him to the ER. As a courtesy I called over and told my FIL what happened. He asked if my husband could come...

Powerless · Powerless

I don't know how many times I have explained or need to exlpain to him that I simply don't want to be with him anymore. He insists that we should try harder, give it another chance...How can I make him understand I don't want want to try harder, don't want to give him another chance and am at a point th...

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	She is in Rehab (Preview) I don't know if I want her to come back. My kids and I are finally relaxing and my older ones don't want her back right now. She has caused a lot of pain. Financial burdens. Mental scars. I know it was my fault for not getting her out of the house sooner. I don't want her back. I need time to he...	tullemars	3	728	Jun 1, 2005 by lin0606
	Affermations and Negative Self Scripts (Preview) Affirmations What are negative self-scripts? Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives. *Negative self-scripts are the:* Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. Negative statements about yourself w...	Phil	1	1365	Jun 1, 2005 by Peggy7
	Thoughts to Josh in the UK (Preview) Hello all, First I would say thank you for dreams / prayer / thoughts to Josh. He keeps getting better. He went from a coma state to walking now in a short amount of time. He's not out of the woods quite yet, except he's made most miraclous responses to his treatment. Again, tha...	wille	1	604	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	What Is Trust? (Preview) What is trust? Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately....	Phil	0	789	Jun 1, 2005 by Phil
	THE COMPANY YOU KEEP (Preview) Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simp...	elizabeth	3	824	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
	I am responsible for....... (Preview) I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR.......... I am responsible for myself. I am responsible for leading or not living my life. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical, and financial well-being. I am responsible for identifying and meetin...	elizabeth	4	760	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
	The rapids (Preview) I went canoeing on the Delware river on Saturday and Sunday with my family and the Boy scout troop that my brother helps out with 7 of the 10 of us siblings went. (Most were in town from all over for my sisters law school graduation) It was great fun and the first time I had ever canoed on the river. T...	megan	3	960	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
	I am back after 2 weeks away! (Preview) Hello friends! It is good to be back to this site! When I first left I said I would be back in 3 to 5 days,,,,but,,,,it was hard for me to leave my parents once I was with them. As I said before, my mom has alzheimers and my dad is in congestive heart failure and can't breathe well (but does not require oxygen...	cdb	7	1106	Jun 1, 2005 by wille
	Disowning my Family for Good?? Help! (Preview) I am new here and going through depression because I just had another 'episode' with my family. My father is an alcoholic and growing up was very abusive, especially towards me. He would come home yelling for hours and I hit about 15 years old and would start telling him to stop. I started talking back an...	jennybear35	2	976	Jun 1, 2005 by wille
	Maybe a prayer please (Preview) I have a doc app. at 11:45 today. There is something not right in my left breast. I feel like I am going to throw up. I had a mammogram not long ago that was negative. My mom was murdered by it in 2000. Doctor is concerned becuz of my other symptoms of bone problems The first place it goe...	debilyn	5	651	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	buggs (Preview) take a look at the steps explained they might help. They helpped me they are back a bit you signed off before I could asy bye	jj	0	550	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	Talk with insperational AA member (Preview) So I have mentioned that I have met an interventionist and today I spoke to him again. He gives me so much insperation and helps so much. I feel great!!! He told many things to help me communicate to my husband. Being honest and laying it ALL on the line for him and asking him what he wants out o...	jj	2	918	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	Gone for the week (Preview) Am taking a little R and R this week, going off in truck with hubby tomorrow, gettin myself out of the house and all that. Mastiff has graciously agreed to chair the Thursday night Step meeting for me....thank you Mastiff! Will miss you all. Think I really need this break though.&n...	kismetstrand	6	683	May 31, 2005 by Maria123
	trying to find my way (Preview) Lately I am shutting out people who are not healthy for me. This is new behavior for me because I typically will be less willing to let go of people I think I need in my life. This exercise is self-discipline and listening to my HP has been good and bad. I don't want to fall into isolating but I also a...	jessi	3	667	May 31, 2005 by sanddie
	Till death do us part (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope you all enjoyed the holiday weekend. It was kind of peaceful here. The kids where coming and going, but we got a lot of work done on the yard getting ready for graduation and prom. (ouch! it snuck up so fast. I am stocking up on tissues though, as I get teary eyed thinking of it. Where di...	Jeannie	6	730	May 31, 2005 by megan
	2 Wolves (Preview) I love this story about life and what we choose. Hope it helps some of you. hugs iona54 Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between 2 "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy...	iona54	3	622	May 31, 2005 by mariposa
	Family Acceptance (Preview) Living with an A is a tough road, especially if they are active. Early in our relationship when my A was active he caused me and my family alot of distress. After 9 months together he took off on me to Las Vegas, stealing items of mine and selling them to make his trip possible. Due to th...	lebe27	1	658	May 31, 2005 by Powerless
	avitars?? (Preview) Hi I just wondered how I could get an avitar? I think they're cute .... thanks!	mamasan	1	640	May 31, 2005 by oceanbabe
	Peaceful but Crabby (Preview) Hi- Had to come check in--I don't come here enough, but I'm glad this board is always waiting for us. Its kind of like my quote on the wall that says "When we lose God, it is not God who is lost" This weekend I left my husband at home with his bottle of Vicodan, while I took the kids to an out of town socc...	gknee	2	577	May 31, 2005 by jessi
	New Territory - Any Words of Wisdom? (Preview) Hi Y'all.... I'm new to these boards and new to the situation in my life. A few months ago I starting dating and am falling in love with a man who has been sober now for 17 years. He's committed to his sobriety and I'm behind that 100% and more than willing to do whatever it takes. I've...	funnygirl	5	1087	May 31, 2005 by funnygirl
	Help, I'm losing my mind.. (Preview) Hi, I stumbled across this board online tonight. I have been married to my husband for 15 years. We met through friends and all of us used to go out to the bars/dance clubs on a regular basis back then. My husband & I started dating and it was instant attraction, within a...	Donna	10	722	May 31, 2005 by TLC2
	No Emotional Support (Preview) I just need to vent tonight. I am in the middle of a family crisis, but do I get any emotional support from my A? No. My Mom, who is 93 years old, had a heart attack and is in the hospital. The doctors have said the end is near, and so family has been coming and rallying around us. ...	Jeanne789	3	676	May 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	I made my decision (Preview) I finally made a decision. Many of you may recall that i was having a difficult time deciding whether or not I want my husband to move out. After much talking and watching him make efforts to change, I have decided that I am not ready to throw away our marriage. I love him. I have...	Powerless	1	919	May 31, 2005 by Jeannie
	God's Gifts? (Preview) God has a funny sense of humor he places us on this planet filled with beautiful things he places us on this planet with alcohol and drugs We were all small innocent children and knew nothing of the kind but as we grew we were thrown choices along the way some chose to grow in God and s...	jrtjosey	1	608	May 31, 2005 by sue2
	Beating the "What-if" Blues - By Deanne Repich (Preview) > Do you find that a lot of your negative thoughts begin with the words > "What-if?" Does one anxious thought lead to another and another - only to > become a negative spiral of worry? When this happens, you're probably > using what-if thinking. > > WHAT IS "WHAT-IF" THINKING? > &...	elizabeth	0	770	May 31, 2005 by elizabeth
	Sooner,,,,where are you????? (Preview) Hell sooner, I am missing you! Let me know how things are going with you when you read this? your friend in recovery, cdb :)	cdb	0	550	May 30, 2005 by cdb
	Entering nickname for chat room (Preview) Can someone please tell me exactly what to type to enter my nickname emmie11 and join the online chat? I keep doing it wrong and the chairman keeps kicking me out? Please help	Emmie11	3	739	May 30, 2005 by Emmie11
	Thought I might be gone for good (Preview) I went to a great ftf meeting on friday noght. Nothing piss's my a off more! Anyway, I knew I'd pay for it the next day. Sure enough the fight was on at 7:30 a.m. (my first time to sleep in for once, gone). He was so quickly back to the negative nasty person he becomes and I wasn't gonna take it! He suggested tha...	whitie	2	1030	May 30, 2005 by cdb
	Steps Eight & Nine (Preview) I am about to reach two years in the program this summer and am still working my way through the steps for the first time. I have grown a lot since finding Al-Anon, and my life and attitude have absolutely been bettered by the work I have been doing. I have two sponsors that I consult regularly, and attend m...	Emmie11	0	738	May 30, 2005 by Emmie11
	online meeting (Preview) Hi everyone I'm new and I can't figure out how the online meeting works. I read that peolpe like them but can't get it to work. If any one can help I would really love it. I don't go to face to face meeting. I would have to get a babysitter and money to tight rightnow.&nb...	nikkilou	2	813	May 30, 2005 by nikkilou
	How do you do it? (Preview) Hi, all, please tell me how you love the A when he is actively drinking? I have been with him for about 35 years and out of those years, 15 were sober years. I really don't think I love him anymore. I am angry because he won't stop destroying himself. Yes, I do take care of m...	Annie	7	1082	May 30, 2005 by mamasan
	open letter from an alcoholic (Preview) I was in chat room and put this in as it helps remind me to kep the focus on me..hope it helps you all...hugs IOna54 An open letter to my Family I am an alcoholic, I need help. Don't allow me to lie to you and accept it for the truth, for in so doing, you encourage me to lie. The...	iona54	6	17178	May 30, 2005 by mamasan
	why do women return? (Preview) The Domestic Abuse Cycle Why do women return to violent relationships? This is one of the most common questions asked by the average person who doesn't understand domestic abuse. This question has become a hot button with advocates, because it placed blame on the victim instead of the perpetra...	elizabeth	8	917	May 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Step Board - Step 2 posted (Preview) Hi all - Steo Two is posted on the Step board. We need your shares for the newcomer to read so please support the board. This is another way to give back what was given to us. Love and hugs in recovery - Dot	dot	2	827	May 30, 2005 by dot
	I can post again!! (Preview) Ya hoo I can post again!!! I would like to thank TLC for sending my message!! I was reading the posts on the board and there were many times that I wanted to reply and offer any encouragement and support that I could. I still have no idea what happened or why I couldn't post but it seems to be fixed. I...	jj	2	970	May 30, 2005 by jj
	BUS MTG AGENDA - JUNE 1, 2005 (Preview) Following is our agenda for the the Business Meeting on Wednesday nite. Every member is invited to attend whether you have been with us for one day or many years. Your input is important to us. Hope to see you there! GENERAL BUSINESS GROUP CONSCIENCE MEETING June 1, 2005 - 7:00 PM...	shimo	0	823	May 30, 2005 by shimo
	Letting Go and Moving Forward - By Karim Hajee (Preview) Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point > have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose > to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create > physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happeni...	elizabeth	1	1110	May 30, 2005 by Phil
	Hiding out (Preview) A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south. My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids...	Jeannie	5	906	May 30, 2005 by TLC2
	Anniversary (Preview) Hi, I have been having a really rough day. Today is my husbands and my 19 Anniversary. We where supposed to go out to dinner tonight (the counselor had suggested it) and we where supposed to go to an AA meeting last night. After the hospital fiasco the other night his mother called me to yell at me that...	Jeannie	7	725	May 30, 2005 by megan
	MIP.....I am sorry (Preview) This program is one of honesty. I have to come clean, and be honest with everyone here. I feel as if I have lied to everyone, and I am ashamed of myself; I have let myself down, I have let you all down, and I have let down my HP. I know that I have said I used to smoke pot. Howver, I did not say, that I also used cocai...	buzzfree	21	1461	May 29, 2005 by shimo
	Hello! New here.. (Preview) Hi Everyone.... I am new to this forum, but not necessarily new to Alanon. I gave up some of my "info" in the bio part of joining. I would just really rather "share as I go". I am 51 yrs old , divorced, remarried, mom to three kids that I love and a grandma to two boys.&nbs...	mamasan	3	898	May 29, 2005 by jj
	Debilyn, Richard, JJ, MarkS and all... (Preview) Hello, I have not been able to read or post replies yet to any posts so I wanted you and others to know that. Since you four and the ones I forgot to name are some of the first ones I met here, I wanted to let you know that I missed you all too! I will try to get to the old posts soon and...	cdb	1	740	May 29, 2005 by jj
	denial (Preview) I guess I have lost alot of courage in the past year. I had the whole talk last sunday, now today I've lost any energy to fight anymore. My son's birthday party for kids was today, by the time it was over of course my husband was dying to drink. Ya know what, I didn't fight it, I just let him go. I just can't figh...	flower	3	951	May 29, 2005 by abbyal
	How to break the guilt>>>> (Preview) I am new in here and Im hoping for some advice. I Have lived all my life with a family member that has been addicted . This person is my mom. What started this down hill of hell for all...39 years ago we lost my brother to a house fire he was 8. It took the heart out of all. My mom never was able to move on but...	WStar	4	939	May 29, 2005 by WStar
	Make the Hard Calls (Preview) "Sometimes we make choices with relative ease. One option feels right. We have no negative feelings about the other choice. On some occasions, we may be faced with what one man described as a "hard call". "I had raised my own children alone," Jason said. "And I did...	wallsal55	1	854	May 29, 2005 by sanddie
	Update on Cindy (Preview) For any of you who heard about Cindy's dog biting her. It turned out very serious. She's in the hospital for the second time. The frst time they gave her antibiotics every 12 hours. This time they had to operate on her hand - infection had gone into the bone. She hopes to be home on the weekend - wil...	dot	6	1132	May 29, 2005 by cdb
	Costs versus Benefits (Preview) Relationships involving alcohol. ugh! The reality is everchanging, evershifting. For me when dating, I remember my guidelines. What is the costs of this relationship? What are the benefits of this relationship? Are the costs (-) outwei...	wallsal55	1	971	May 29, 2005 by Mark S
	Could really use some feedback (Preview) Hi everyone, I need to vent about what's been happening with me as of late. I ended up a 3 month long relationship with someone about a month ago. I broke up with her mostly due to circumstances - and the fact that I couldn't deal with her Bi-Polar disorder. Although she never took anything out on me, I...	jrudolph22	3	990	May 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	4th Step Inventory...very helpful (Preview) Hi Everyone, When I read this, I knew that this is what I am going through now!! If we want to heal, we need to feel. It may be very rough going at first, yet I know how my HP and the program will help me find my emotional center point. "The more we accept and share our feelings, the closer we come t...	teddybear	1	937	May 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	Thanks to all (Preview) Thanks to all of you who responded to me...I guess I just lost it yesterday, and it's wonderful to know you out there who've been there, and lived to relate to my woes. Today's better...my A worked at home today, and volunteered to keep our granddaughter...last night he mowed with her help. You're...	Belongtome	2	824	May 27, 2005 by Annie
	Thanks to all who responded (Preview) Thank you all for responding. I kept beating myself up because I can't feel the love for my A when he is drinking. It makes sense now why I don't. We all know those ugly characteristics caused by drinking...who can love that behavior...and there is no reason why I should. It is lon...	Annie	0	747	May 27, 2005 by Annie
	Full Moon; then Short Vacation (Preview) There's nothing like inspiration while on a mini-vacation. Grab one if you can ! If it's for 15-20 minutes or 3 days! We left Monday evening and returned Thursday evening. Three nights at our cabin spot ! This time sobriety! What a difference. Kept i...	wallsal55	1	784	May 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	I need you (Preview) Help!!!! My dry drunk has about gotten the best of me again. Or, I've been so busy I've gotten the best of me???? I do my old job, run my new retail store, clean the house in the mornings, cook and laundry in the evenings...and in my spare time, tackle the weeds. Oh, that spare tiime i...	Belongtome	7	1215	May 27, 2005 by teddybear
	The last week has been very difficult for me (Preview) Good Morning, I have a difficult time to post what is really going on in my life for right now. Last week I was posting, and my husband came up in back of me and said, how interesting you are teddybear. He wanted to read what I had just wrote, so I deleted it. He became very angry with me...	teddybear	8	1153	May 27, 2005 by teddybear
	Help my mind is EXPLODING!!!! (Preview) There is no other discription of how I feel. Let me explain briefly here if I can. Twenty three years of verbal attacks, living with an alcoholic. Actually that just about sums it up. Why am I beating my self up. It's crazy. I had a red flag thrown at me before we got married. Com...	breathless	7	1334	May 27, 2005 by lin0606
	now what? (Preview) i left. i found some peace. i filed for divorce. he suddenly wants to work on it, salvage the marriage, try to get his drinking under control--will not get help, will do it his way. i feel done. i feel numb. why could he have not felt this way a month ago, when i was giving i...	lost	5	918	May 27, 2005 by lin0606
	MONEY HONEY (Preview) Dear Friends, I struggled with money the same way I struggled with the alcoholic. I'm now thinking about money differently...you don't have to detach with love. Attach with love!!! LOL "Being poor is a frame of mind." -- Mike Todd What do you think of money? Our beliefs create our r...	Lani	1	890	May 27, 2005 by wallsal55
	words of encouragement (Preview) Hi everyone, I wanted to post today and I wasn't sure what I would talk about. I do a lot of replying on this board and not a lot of new topics. I am thinking that maybe I am avoiding my own issues that I need to work on. Many times I can...	holly123	6	1052	May 27, 2005 by holly123
	trip to the ER (Preview) I'm trying to wind down a little before bed. My little Conner has just started walking and took a fall into a wall and split his lip open. It was bleeding horribly and very wide so my daughter and I took him to the ER. As a courtesy I called over and told my FIL what happened. He asked if my husband could come...	Jeannie	6	1125	May 27, 2005 by TLC2
	Can't get away from the craziness (Preview) I don't know how many times I have explained or need to exlpain to him that I simply don't want to be with him anymore. He insists that we should try harder, give it another chance...How can I make him understand I don't want want to try harder, don't want to give him another chance and am at a point th...	Powerless	5	1026	May 27, 2005 by Diva
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