Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

debilyn · debilyn

I know a lot is becuz of my situation right now. Waiting for the ultra sound the 14th is pretty rough. Limbo is hard on us all. I woke at five am and drove to see A. He was very nice and appropriate. I mean he was empathetic and loving. Says he is clean and sober. Again I say that is not my concern. B...

gardengal · gardengal

Life is a package deal. It is not enough to look at the parts we like. It is necessary to face the whole picture so that we can make realistic choices for ourselves and stop setting ourselves up for the disappointment. Living with A's many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense o...

Christy · Christy

My 15 yr old son is having surgery in the morning (7 a.m.) on his sinuses. I understand it's nothing major, but he's my baby and I'd sure feel better with some extra prayers. I just reread the paper the doctor gave me of possible complications, and OMG!..I shouldn't have..lol&nb...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, What a surprise I had today!! Yesterday was a really difficult day for me, because I felt so misunderstood. We got up early in the morning, and my husband asked me to take a walk before breakfast. When we came back home, he decided to pull out weeds, so I ate breakfast alone.&...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi all, I was wondering what are the best books for a newcomer. I don't have alot of time (three kids) but know I need to start finding anwers. Also I don't go to face to face meetings. I am only onthis website. I have seen then here to oder but MY A dosen't like ordering over the...

debilyn · debilyn

You know, I feel like, if my A wanted help, he would get it. He is choosing to allow the disease to kill him. He is choosing not to be there for me. He chose not to be there for his dieing brother. I for one say I have had it. I hope I cont. to feel this way. I love him, I love how I love him. But it is wasted...

jj · jj

So Hubby and I got invited to a friends house, just supposed to be like a family thing with the kids. So any how I was informed this mornig that no kids were to be there and they were going to have this party rather than just a get together.... So of course going through ever thing that I am right...

lin0606 · lin0606

I went outside for a few minutes last night, just to let the dog out before I went to bed. Sat on the front steps, the streetlight was shining through the trees, and it brought back the memories of a night, ten years or so ago. At this point my husband was drinking heavily, spending most of his evenings...

megan · megan

i can't chair this meeting as the MIRC does not work through the hotel firewall. If someone else can chair please do I am sorry.

teddybear · teddybear

"Forgiving is not forgetting, it's letting go of the hurt." Mary McLeod Bethune I see this quote as very true, because when I have resentment or if I am unable to forgive, the only person that I am hurting is really myself. The person who we resent, does not...

lost · lost

i have filed for divorce. i am living at home, my husband has moved out. when i filed his tune changed---he would do anything--but of course that was limited to one marriage counseling session, only one month of sobriety that would only happen if i let him come home and of course, no long term help...

elizabeth · elizabeth

I Am Finding Me Who is it in this mirror that stands in front of me is that really who I am or someone I just see is she really something of anything I am inside or just another mask put on just another place to hide she's someone I think I love now that I've let her close she's the one I pushed away I've deserted h...

Donna · Donna

Hi, I'm curious. My A has been drinking for 15 years and more (I've been with him for 15). Anyway, I don't know if it's just the addiction or what but I have seen him really lapse in his hygiene habits over the years. It makes me feel like his mother when I point out that he maybe needs to bathe...

whatif · whatif

Megan, I just read your reply to my post. I have been reading here for a while. I have been reading what you have been doing and I am so glad for your truck! Also that you will have an apartment. When I go away for a few days I think a hotel is nice but after about the third night I want my own bed. And to have my jeep...

nycbt · nycbt

Six months ago I had two guy friends. Today I have lots of girlfriends on and off line. I am proud of my self with the progress I have made. I am also happy with the help of my new friends from Alanon that I can talk to an express my life with.

holly123 · holly123

Hi All, I am noticing so much change in myself, I have been trying to control my mouth and keep my mind on myself. My a is still active and still does things that make me want to strangle him but I have managed to maintain this calm, just don't react attitude for 95% of the week....

debilyn · debilyn

Sending love to ya's. I saw a REAL doctor today. My doc is gone for 3 weeks. Her nurse was so nice. the doc came in and she was so nice too! Made me feel right at ease. My blood pressure was not high like it is when I see my doc. My doc is a young man and his nurse is a bit of a crabby old lady... Anyway...

Belongtome · Belongtome

Hi...it's been a long week, but I finally feel like I'm finding a few moments to take care of myself. I've been enjoying my granddaughter, but have called and enrolled her in daycare duing the day, as all the family are busy elsewhere. (Don't they realize what a gift this time is with her vi...

jj · jj

So you all know that the "talk" went very well. Lastnight I fully expected hubby to go out and get bommed as a result of the talk. I was told by a friend that it is very common that the A's do that while trying to digest everything and then and only then would he come to me. Well I also kno...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

"No man is a failure who is enjoying life"---William Feather (Enjoying yourself and life, is one of the best forms of detachment there is!)

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Said to me, wallsal55, in an open meeting 3 weeks ago by an AA member: "The most powerful thing is a Wife in Alanon. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be here." "If I wasn't happy anymore, then there was nobody to blame for my unhappiness except myself."

Have a Gr...

whatif · whatif

Yesterday was another binge day for A (husband) this one over 9 hours. I've been posting about this for a while. That binging once a week like clock work ever since a good friend got killed in an auto accident about 2 months ago. I have been trying to stop the screaming and crying when he comes home. I did re...

nycbt · nycbt

I am going to try and not call my husband. It is going to be a very hard thing to do. I love to call him and see how he is doing. I love to hear his voice. It is going to be min to min for me. I am hoping by my help of my higher power. I don't why it is so diffuclt for me to stop calling him. When he goes to his meeting I am...

mastiff · mastiff

FEAR Hey now I gotcha to read my post with that topic didn't I!!!!!!! Just what kinda ladie did you think i was anyway? Know what I think about fear? I think it's a great big coward. Sure some fear has a bit of a big head and shows itself openly, but for the most part, I have found that...

elizabeth · elizabeth

- Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue. - Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them. - Always read stuff that will ma...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel like I am in the middle of a great big ocean and am sinking. I feel a deep depression coming on and am not sure what to do. I just feel so lost. I am looking for all of the wrong things in all of the wrong places. I feel irritable and moody. Doctor upped my Prozac. ...

Donna · Donna

Hi again, I wrote about 3-4 days ago and got wonderful feedback. I have a husband, married for 15 yrs. who is an alcholic, but doesn't drink on a daily basis--likes to spend his time at his uncle's bar for HOURS/DAYS at a time.. Anyway, he's been off work on a workman's comp case for over a year now...

dis5 · dis5

I am a social drinker. I will have a drink once every 3 months. It will only be 2 drinks and thats it. I grew up around an alcoholic and now husband is working on quitting. We both go to f2f meetings. Last night I had 1 drink and I felt guilty about having it. I know I shouldn't feel guilty since I can cont...

Parker · Parker

I'm adopted, and decided long ago never to contact my birth-parents. However, when my biological father sent me a letter, via the adoption agency, an inner struggle started and gave birth to an idea. I asked the agency if we could use them to correspond anonymously, and they agreed. My biological f...

nycbt · nycbt

Thank you to everyone that have answered my post. I have learn alot from everyone. This program by posting has helped me so much. With everyone sharing there experiences with me it has been great. For the new comers keep posting your feeling and you will learn from what the people are saying. It might be...

sanddie · sanddie

I posted the following as a response to another topic and thought I'd start it as a topic because I found this very interesting... I'd like to recommend a book by Neil Anderson, Victory Over The Darkness, A Battle For The Mind.... Basically, we are to take each thought captive as we begin to have the...

nycbt · nycbt

When I meet my husband 5 + yrs ago we used to fight something awful. We would get into physical fights. I would throw things, bite him and we would fight in the car. In the begin of time he was doing drugs and drinking. I wasn't aware he was doing drug until later on when I started to find stuff around the hou...

nycbt · nycbt

My name is Becky I just started Alanon six months ago. My husband and just got married about 10 months ago. We have know each for over 5 yrs going on 6 in aug. I am looking for a person with experience to talk to and help me through the program. If you are interested e-mail me nycbt@yahoo.com. I am looking f...

Phil · Phil

What is accepting personal responsibility? Accepting personal responsibility includes: Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life. Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think. Accepting that you choose the direction for your life. Ac...

nycbt · nycbt

I have a problem always calling my husband. He has started to get mad at me an told me that I am stalking him. When we first meet he was living at the house where the women was jelously that he liked me so she didn't want him seeing me. I wanted to see him so bad I would drive by the house in hopes of seeing him. I...

shimo · shimo

MEETING SCHEDULE & GUIDELINES - JUNE 1, 2005 AM Mon - tiredtonite/Shimo Tue - Shimo/wille Wed - kerry5/no alt Thurs - wille/no alt Fri - Mastiff/no alt Sat - Greta/Teddybearpoet...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Can someone explain the differences for Email Visible to Other Members between: Yes, email visible No, and don't accept email No, accept email anonymously please? I would really like to know the difference. Lanchas

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Hi all, Our home computer has once again crashed (second time this year!) : ( So if anyone was wondering why I am no where to be found, that is the reason. I am posting this from the puter at work which I cannot be on for long periods of time, so that is why I have not...

mariposa · mariposa

Is there a name for that attitude that my alcoholic gets before he starts drinking sometimes? Have any of you experienced it? Maybe it's something that I make up, but sometimes I can tell before he gets a drink that drinking is on his mind.

He wants to pick arguments, push...

teddybear · teddybear

Good Morning, My son will be going to court, he really needs to get on with his life, whatever the outcome will be. I am posting because I am feeling so nervous, and I know that it will calm me to express what I am feeling this morning. Last night I went to my therapy, and when I came home there we...

holly123 · holly123

Hey everyone, This weekend was very tough, but good. I slipped and recovered my program all in 3 days time. Actually I slipped more but oh well. Friday night my a spent most of his night at his drinking hang out, although he came home not so bad but they smoke po...

jj · jj

So as I mentioned in my last post that the interventionis I met gave me the much needed support and encouragement to talk to my husband and it worked. Last night when I had the oppertunity and didn't chicken out, which is huge for me because usually I think about it and get my self all worked up about...

Phil · Phil

What is Vulnerability? What is vulnerability? Vulnerability is: Feeling of being exposed to emotional hurt, being taken advantage of, or abused. Feeling of being fragile, weak, or susceptible to emotional pain and suffering. Feeling of being trapped or imprisoned in a situation where yo...

mandy_loves_GOD · mandy_loves_GOD

I am looking for a sponser e-mail me and we will get to know each other first, I am wanting a sponser to guild me through the 12 steps. if your into taking a sponcie e-mail me then we'll go from there......use title "sponser from Al-anon" mandy0002@hotmail.com -- Edited by mandy_loves_...

GirlSkates · GirlSkates

gawd...I feel like I am the only one around here with out kids. And then that makes me feel like my situation is very isolated....even more so. Makes me think how can anyone possibly relate? How can I relate to folks going through this with kids? Makes me feel incrediably alo...

nycbt · nycbt

I have been friends with this guy friend for 16 yrs. At times he has been the only friend that I have counted on and took advice from. When I was having problems with the man I was going out with who I have married he has been jelously of me. He was the first guy I dated as kids so it really wasn't. He has always ha...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya Everyone, I am having a really hard time with patience lately. As many of you know I am in the process of buying 1st house. Everything was going very well until late last week when we hit a snag for closing. Closing got pushed back 3 days. There is an issue with the apprai...

sanddie · sanddie

Just needed to vent, as my daughter who is 16 years old has suddenly in the last 2 months began to be tardy at school, which led to full days skipped, and now tonight is the 2nd night this week that she has not come home and I've had to file a runaway report. :( The scariest part about all of this is tha...

mariposa · mariposa

I heard this song on a country station the other day and just had to look up the lyrics. It made me laugh in an ironic way - since lately (even though I have been TRYING to work the program) my life is pretty much consumed with thoughts about drinking and alcohol and drunkenness..... So, I had...

elizabeth · elizabeth

THE YELLOW SHIRT The baggy yellow shirt had long sleeves, four extra-large pockets trimmed in black thread and snaps up the front. It was faded from years of wear, but still in decent shape. I found it in 1963 when I was home from college on Christmas break, rummaging through bags of c...

nycbt · nycbt

For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a rehab or aa or she says she is going to leave. My father suffers from health problems. My mom and my dad went to Florida to see the problems th...

nycbt · nycbt

Hi Everyone I finally made it I am working on step two. I am happy that I made it. I have a long way to go but I finally moved up at step. For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a reha...

debilyn · debilyn

The PA I saw was ineffective and said you need to come back and see your doctor. My doc will be gone 3 weeks. It was stupid for me to even have gone in. She sorta just left the room. I went to the recep and said, whilst in tears, I am not paying for that. She agreed dn actually answered some of my quest...

oceanbabe · oceanbabe

Hi everyone! My name is Shelley and I am here b/c my boyfriend who is a recovering alcoholic has asked me to try to get help to better understand what he is going through and some insight so I don't feel so left in the dark. I have to admit I was really reluctant to get involved b/c in the four months w...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Come on, now.....get out the Toby Keith CD's, country music stations......... I Wanna Talk About Me! We talk about your work how your boss is a jerk We talk about your church and your head when it hurts (?) We talk about the troubles you've been having with your brother About your da...

tullemars · tullemars

I don't know if I want her to come back. My kids and I are finally relaxing and my older ones don't want her back right now. She has caused a lot of pain. Financial burdens. Mental scars. I know it was my fault for not getting her out of the house sooner. I don't want her back. I need time to he...

Phil · Phil

Affirmations What are negative self-scripts? Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives. Negative self-scripts are the: Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. Negative statements about yourself w...

wille · wille

Hello all, First I would say thank you for dreams / prayer / thoughts to Josh. He keeps getting better. He went from a coma state to walking now in a short amount of time. He's not out of the woods quite yet, except he's made most miraclous responses to his treatment. Again, tha...

Phil · Phil

What is trust? Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately....

elizabeth · elizabeth

Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simp...

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	Please help me understand (Preview) I know a lot is becuz of my situation right now. Waiting for the ultra sound the 14th is pretty rough. Limbo is hard on us all. I woke at five am and drove to see A. He was very nice and appropriate. I mean he was empathetic and loving. Says he is clean and sober. Again I say that is not my concern. B...	debilyn	6	636	Jun 6, 2005 by Jeannie
	Are we ready to face reality? (Preview) Life is a package deal. It is not enough to look at the parts we like. It is necessary to face the whole picture so that we can make realistic choices for ourselves and stop setting ourselves up for the disappointment. Living with A's many of us coped with an ever-shifting situation in which our sense o...	gardengal	2	960	Jun 6, 2005 by Jeannie
	Prayer Request Please (Preview) My 15 yr old son is having surgery in the morning (7 a.m.) on his sinuses. I understand it's nothing major, but he's my baby and I'd sure feel better with some extra prayers. I just reread the paper the doctor gave me of possible complications, and OMG!..I shouldn't have..lol&nb...	Christy	7	636	Jun 6, 2005 by gardengal
	Communication?? (Preview) Hi Everyone, What a surprise I had today!! Yesterday was a really difficult day for me, because I felt so misunderstood. We got up early in the morning, and my husband asked me to take a walk before breakfast. When we came back home, he decided to pull out weeds, so I ate breakfast alone.&...	teddybear	3	801	Jun 6, 2005 by Jeannie
	books (Preview) Hi all, I was wondering what are the best books for a newcomer. I don't have alot of time (three kids) but know I need to start finding anwers. Also I don't go to face to face meetings. I am only onthis website. I have seen then here to oder but MY A dosen't like ordering over the...	nikkilou	4	794	Jun 6, 2005 by Jeannie
	today these are my thoughts (Preview) You know, I feel like, if my A wanted help, he would get it. He is choosing to allow the disease to kill him. He is choosing not to be there for me. He chose not to be there for his dieing brother. I for one say I have had it. I hope I cont. to feel this way. I love him, I love how I love him. But it is wasted...	debilyn	3	787	Jun 6, 2005 by Jeannie
	What Would you do?? (Preview) So Hubby and I got invited to a friends house, just supposed to be like a family thing with the kids. So any how I was informed this mornig that no kids were to be there and they were going to have this party rather than just a get together.... So of course going through ever thing that I am right...	jj	5	1028	Jun 5, 2005 by bcanuck
	Wasted Time (Preview) I went outside for a few minutes last night, just to let the dog out before I went to bed. Sat on the front steps, the streetlight was shining through the trees, and it brought back the memories of a night, ten years or so ago. At this point my husband was drinking heavily, spending most of his evenings...	lin0606	3	977	Jun 5, 2005 by TLC2
	7pm Sunday meeting (Preview) i can't chair this meeting as the MIRC does not work through the hotel firewall. If someone else can chair please do I am sorry.	megan	0	669	Jun 5, 2005 by megan
	A little quote (Preview) "Forgiving is not forgetting, it's letting go of the hurt." Mary McLeod Bethune I see this quote as very true, because when I have resentment or if I am unable to forgive, the only person that I am hurting is really myself. The person who we resent, does not...	teddybear	2	728	Jun 5, 2005 by Samena
	grief clouds it (Preview) i have filed for divorce. i am living at home, my husband has moved out. when i filed his tune changed---he would do anything--but of course that was limited to one marriage counseling session, only one month of sobriety that would only happen if i let him come home and of course, no long term help...	lost	5	968	Jun 5, 2005 by Samena
	mirror, mirror on the wall.... (Preview) I Am Finding Me Who is it in this mirror that stands in front of me is that really who I am or someone I just see is she really something of anything I am inside or just another mask put on just another place to hide she's someone I think I love now that I've let her close she's the one I pushed away I've deserted h...	elizabeth	1	804	Jun 5, 2005 by Samena
	A real smell here or ? (Preview) Hi, I'm curious. My A has been drinking for 15 years and more (I've been with him for 15). Anyway, I don't know if it's just the addiction or what but I have seen him really lapse in his hygiene habits over the years. It makes me feel like his mother when I point out that he maybe needs to bathe...	Donna	6	1058	Jun 4, 2005 by whitie
	Megan (Preview) Megan, I just read your reply to my post. I have been reading here for a while. I have been reading what you have been doing and I am so glad for your truck! Also that you will have an apartment. When I go away for a few days I think a hotel is nice but after about the third night I want my own bed. And to have my jeep...	whatif	1	550	Jun 4, 2005 by megan
	my progress with friends (Preview) Six months ago I had two guy friends. Today I have lots of girlfriends on and off line. I am proud of my self with the progress I have made. I am also happy with the help of my new friends from Alanon that I can talk to an express my life with.	nycbt	3	681	Jun 4, 2005 by TLC2
	Its working!!!! (Preview) Hi All, I am noticing so much change in myself, I have been trying to control my mouth and keep my mind on myself. My a is still active and still does things that make me want to strangle him but I have managed to maintain this calm, just don't react attitude for 95% of the week....	holly123	5	675	Jun 4, 2005 by TLC2
	2nd update (Preview) Sending love to ya's. I saw a REAL doctor today. My doc is gone for 3 weeks. Her nurse was so nice. the doc came in and she was so nice too! Made me feel right at ease. My blood pressure was not high like it is when I see my doc. My doc is a young man and his nurse is a bit of a crabby old lady... Anyway...	debilyn	5	929	Jun 4, 2005 by TLC2
	Just getting by (Preview) Hi...it's been a long week, but I finally feel like I'm finding a few moments to take care of myself. I've been enjoying my granddaughter, but have called and enrolled her in daycare duing the day, as all the family are busy elsewhere. (Don't they realize what a gift this time is with her vi...	Belongtome	1	773	Jun 4, 2005 by TLC2
	I have noticed change already/ update (Preview) So you all know that the "talk" went very well. Lastnight I fully expected hubby to go out and get bommed as a result of the talk. I was told by a friend that it is very common that the A's do that while trying to digest everything and then and only then would he come to me. Well I also kno...	jj	1	876	Jun 4, 2005 by TLC2
	Quote for Today (Preview) "No man is a failure who is enjoying life"---William Feather (Enjoying yourself and life, is one of the best forms of detachment there is!)	wallsal55	0	503	Jun 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	The Most Powerful Thing..... (Preview) Said to me, wallsal55, in an open meeting 3 weeks ago by an AA member: "The most powerful thing is a Wife in Alanon. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be here." "If I wasn't happy anymore, then there was nobody to blame for my unhappiness except myself." Have a Gr...	wallsal55	0	505	Jun 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	1st time ever admitting a problem (Preview) Yesterday was another binge day for A (husband) this one over 9 hours. I've been posting about this for a while. That binging once a week like clock work ever since a good friend got killed in an auto accident about 2 months ago. I have been trying to stop the screaming and crying when he comes home. I did re...	whatif	2	975	Jun 4, 2005 by wallsal55
	THIS WORK DAY (Preview) I am going to try and not call my husband. It is going to be a very hard thing to do. I love to call him and see how he is doing. I love to hear his voice. It is going to be min to min for me. I am hoping by my help of my higher power. I don't why it is so diffuclt for me to stop calling him. When he goes to his meeting I am...	nycbt	4	795	Jun 4, 2005 by txmom
	that 4 letter F word..... (Preview) FEAR Hey now I gotcha to read my post with that topic didn't I!!!!!!! Just what kinda ladie did you think i was anyway? Know what I think about fear? I think it's a great big coward. Sure some fear has a bit of a big head and shows itself openly, but for the most part, I have found that...	mastiff	2	688	Jun 4, 2005 by txmom
	just sharing some ways of dealing with the burdens of life: (Preview) - Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue. - Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them. - Always read stuff that will ma...	elizabeth	1	901	Jun 4, 2005 by lin0606
	Feel like I am sinking (Preview) I feel like I am in the middle of a great big ocean and am sinking. I feel a deep depression coming on and am not sure what to do. I just feel so lost. I am looking for all of the wrong things in all of the wrong places. I feel irritable and moody. Doctor upped my Prozac. ...	Powerless	5	741	Jun 4, 2005 by Jolert
	preparing for the weekend.... (Preview) Hi again, I wrote about 3-4 days ago and got wonderful feedback. I have a husband, married for 15 yrs. who is an alcholic, but doesn't drink on a daily basis--likes to spend his time at his uncle's bar for HOURS/DAYS at a time.. Anyway, he's been off work on a workman's comp case for over a year now...	Donna	2	897	Jun 3, 2005 by Donna
	Am I Wrong (Preview) I am a social drinker. I will have a drink once every 3 months. It will only be 2 drinks and thats it. I grew up around an alcoholic and now husband is working on quitting. We both go to f2f meetings. Last night I had 1 drink and I felt guilty about having it. I know I shouldn't feel guilty since I can cont...	dis5	5	1104	Jun 3, 2005 by tiredtonite
	A poem from my alcoholic birth-father in prison (Preview) I'm adopted, and decided long ago never to contact my birth-parents. However, when my biological father sent me a letter, via the adoption agency, an inner struggle started and gave birth to an idea. I asked the agency if we could use them to correspond anonymously, and they agreed. My biological f...	Parker	1	1004	Jun 3, 2005 by dis5
	thank you (Preview) Thank you to everyone that have answered my post. I have learn alot from everyone. This program by posting has helped me so much. With everyone sharing there experiences with me it has been great. For the new comers keep posting your feeling and you will learn from what the people are saying. It might be...	nycbt	1	662	Jun 3, 2005 by lin0606
	Obsessive Thoughts.... (Preview) I posted the following as a response to another topic and thought I'd start it as a topic because I found this very interesting... I'd like to recommend a book by Neil Anderson, Victory Over The Darkness, A Battle For The Mind.... Basically, we are to take each thought captive as we begin to have the...	sanddie	0	760	Jun 3, 2005 by sanddie
	my marriage (Preview) When I meet my husband 5 + yrs ago we used to fight something awful. We would get into physical fights. I would throw things, bite him and we would fight in the car. In the begin of time he was doing drugs and drinking. I wasn't aware he was doing drug until later on when I started to find stuff around the hou...	nycbt	1	851	Jun 3, 2005 by nycbt
	looking to widen my support system (Preview) My name is Becky I just started Alanon six months ago. My husband and just got married about 10 months ago. We have know each for over 5 yrs going on 6 in aug. I am looking for a person with experience to talk to and help me through the program. If you are interested e-mail me nycbt@yahoo.com. I am looking f...	nycbt	1	765	Jun 3, 2005 by De Anna
	Accepting Personal Responsibility (Preview) What is accepting personal responsibility? Accepting personal responsibility includes: Acknowledging that you are solely responsible for the choices in your life. Accepting that you are responsible for what you choose to feel or think. Accepting that you choose the direction for your life. Ac...	Phil	0	3255	Jun 3, 2005 by Phil
	always calling (Preview) I have a problem always calling my husband. He has started to get mad at me an told me that I am stalking him. When we first meet he was living at the house where the women was jelously that he liked me so she didn't want him seeing me. I wanted to see him so bad I would drive by the house in hopes of seeing him. I...	nycbt	10	923	Jun 3, 2005 by sanddie
	MEETING SCHEDULE (Preview) MEETING SCHEDULE & GUIDELINES - JUNE 1, 2005 AM Mon - tiredtonite/Shimo Tue - Shimo/wille Wed - kerry5/no alt Thurs - wille/no alt Fri - Mastiff/no alt Sat - Greta/Teddybearpoet...	shimo	0	781	Jun 3, 2005 by shimo
	About email (Preview) Can someone explain the differences for Email Visible to Other Members between: Yes, email visible No, and don't accept email No, accept email anonymously please? I would really like to know the difference. Lanchas	Lanchas	1	573	Jun 2, 2005 by Maria123
	Not in chatroom or here right now because.... (Preview) Hi all, Our home computer has once again crashed (second time this year!) : ( So if anyone was wondering why I am no where to be found, that is the reason. I am posting this from the puter at work which I cannot be on for long periods of time, so that is why I have not...	DanaAngel	1	694	Jun 2, 2005 by megan
	that "funk" (Preview) Is there a name for that attitude that my alcoholic gets before he starts drinking sometimes? Have any of you experienced it? Maybe it's something that I make up, but sometimes I can tell before he gets a drink that drinking is on his mind. He wants to pick arguments, push...	mariposa	5	835	Jun 2, 2005 by Jill
	Please pray for my son (Preview) Good Morning, My son will be going to court, he really needs to get on with his life, whatever the outcome will be. I am posting because I am feeling so nervous, and I know that it will calm me to express what I am feeling this morning. Last night I went to my therapy, and when I came home there we...	teddybear	6	806	Jun 2, 2005 by teddybear
	How do I mind my own business?? (Preview) Hey everyone, This weekend was very tough, but good. I slipped and recovered my program all in 3 days time. Actually I slipped more but oh well. Friday night my a spent most of his night at his drinking hang out, although he came home not so bad but they smoke po...	holly123	5	996	Jun 2, 2005 by nycbt
	Good Talk With Hubby (Preview) So as I mentioned in my last post that the interventionis I met gave me the much needed support and encouragement to talk to my husband and it worked. Last night when I had the oppertunity and didn't chicken out, which is huge for me because usually I think about it and get my self all worked up about...	jj	7	663	Jun 2, 2005 by jj
	Vulnerability (Preview) What is Vulnerability? What is vulnerability? *Vulnerability is:* Feeling of being exposed to emotional hurt, being taken advantage of, or abused. Feeling of being fragile, weak, or susceptible to emotional pain and suffering. Feeling of being trapped or imprisoned in a situation where yo...	Phil	0	1067	Jun 2, 2005 by Phil
	I"m looking for a sponser (Preview) I am looking for a sponser e-mail me and we will get to know each other first, I am wanting a sponser to guild me through the 12 steps. if your into taking a sponcie e-mail me then we'll go from there......use title "sponser from Al-anon" mandy0002@hotmail.com -- Edited by mandy_loves_...	mandy_loves_GOD	2	1098	Jun 2, 2005 by mandy_loves_GOD
	anyone without kids??? (Preview) gawd...I feel like I am the only one around here with out kids. And then that makes me feel like my situation is very isolated....even more so. Makes me think how can anyone possibly relate? How can I relate to folks going through this with kids? Makes me feel incrediably alo...	GirlSkates	9	812	Jun 2, 2005 by nycbt
	my friend of 16 yrs (Preview) I have been friends with this guy friend for 16 yrs. At times he has been the only friend that I have counted on and took advice from. When I was having problems with the man I was going out with who I have married he has been jelously of me. He was the first guy I dated as kids so it really wasn't. He has always ha...	nycbt	4	949	Jun 2, 2005 by nycbt
	Frustration... (Preview) Hiya Everyone, I am having a really hard time with patience lately. As many of you know I am in the process of buying 1st house. Everything was going very well until late last week when we hit a snag for closing. Closing got pushed back 3 days. There is an issue with the apprai...	AlaMom	2	590	Jun 2, 2005 by Doreanmsloan
	Daughter is Out Of Control Lately (Preview) Just needed to vent, as my daughter who is 16 years old has suddenly in the last 2 months began to be tardy at school, which led to full days skipped, and now tonight is the 2nd night this week that she has not come home and I've had to file a runaway report. :( The scariest part about all of this is tha...	sanddie	3	869	Jun 2, 2005 by sanddie
	Alcohol (Preview) I heard this song on a country station the other day and just had to look up the lyrics. It made me laugh in an ironic way - since lately (even though I have been TRYING to work the program) my life is pretty much consumed with thoughts about drinking and alcohol and drunkenness..... So, I had...	mariposa	12	1687	Jun 2, 2005 by mariposa
	the yellow shirt (Preview) THE YELLOW SHIRT The baggy yellow shirt had long sleeves, four extra-large pockets trimmed in black thread and snaps up the front. It was faded from years of wear, but still in decent shape. I found it in 1963 when I was home from college on Christmas break, rummaging through bags of c...	elizabeth	0	967	Jun 2, 2005 by elizabeth
	UPDATE (Preview) For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a rehab or aa or she says she is going to leave. My father suffers from health problems. My mom and my dad went to Florida to see the problems th...	nycbt	1	747	Jun 2, 2005 by jj
	me and progress (Preview) Hi Everyone I finally made it I am working on step two. I am happy that I made it. I have a long way to go but I finally moved up at step. For my parents: My dad is an active a and he doesn't show any time of wanting to stop. He drinks alot of scotch. My mom is getting to the point where she wants him to go to a reha...	nycbt	3	688	Jun 1, 2005 by TLC2
	update (Preview) The PA I saw was ineffective and said you need to come back and see your doctor. My doc will be gone 3 weeks. It was stupid for me to even have gone in. She sorta just left the room. I went to the recep and said, whilst in tears, I am not paying for that. She agreed dn actually answered some of my quest...	debilyn	10	653	Jun 1, 2005 by cdb
	New, lost, and confused! (Preview) Hi everyone! My name is Shelley and I am here b/c my boyfriend who is a recovering alcoholic has asked me to try to get help to better understand what he is going through and some insight so I don't feel so left in the dark. I have to admit I was really reluctant to get involved b/c in the four months w...	oceanbabe	7	698	Jun 1, 2005 by lin0606
	Summer Kick-off Singalong ! : ) (Preview) Come on, now.....get out the Toby Keith CD's, country music stations......... I Wanna Talk About Me! We talk about your work how your boss is a jerk We talk about your church and your head when it hurts (?) We talk about the troubles you've been having with your brother About your da...	wallsal55	0	645	Jun 1, 2005 by wallsal55
	She is in Rehab (Preview) I don't know if I want her to come back. My kids and I are finally relaxing and my older ones don't want her back right now. She has caused a lot of pain. Financial burdens. Mental scars. I know it was my fault for not getting her out of the house sooner. I don't want her back. I need time to he...	tullemars	3	668	Jun 1, 2005 by lin0606
	Affermations and Negative Self Scripts (Preview) Affirmations What are negative self-scripts? Before we can become self-affirming, we need to learn about the effects of negativism in our lives. *Negative self-scripts are the:* Negative beliefs you have about yourself and of which you remind yourself daily. Negative statements about yourself w...	Phil	1	1213	Jun 1, 2005 by Peggy7
	Thoughts to Josh in the UK (Preview) Hello all, First I would say thank you for dreams / prayer / thoughts to Josh. He keeps getting better. He went from a coma state to walking now in a short amount of time. He's not out of the woods quite yet, except he's made most miraclous responses to his treatment. Again, tha...	wille	1	548	Jun 1, 2005 by jj
	What Is Trust? (Preview) What is trust? Trust is: Letting others know your feelings, emotions and reactions, and having the confidence in them to respect you and to not take advantage of you. Sharing your inner feelings and thoughts with others with the belief that they will not spread them indiscriminately....	Phil	0	730	Jun 1, 2005 by Phil
	THE COMPANY YOU KEEP (Preview) Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are. If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl. But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights. "A mirror reflects a man's face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses." The simp...	elizabeth	3	763	Jun 1, 2005 by nycbt
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