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Powerless · Powerless

He got a job today and starts tomorrow. I am trying not to be negative and wonder how long he will keep the darn thing. At least it will get him out of the house each day and hopefully help us get caught up. Was offered a new position within the company I work for today and am seriously con...

nycbt · nycbt

MY BOYFRIEND TURNED HUSBAND In Aug of 99 I meet, Rick at one of my friends house. I was living alone because the person I moved down had left and I wasn’t dating anyone at the time. Rick had just gotten out of jail and was trying to get his life together. In the begin I really didn’t really notice on h...

megan · megan

i am going to send a note to my husband's sister explaining to her that I have left her brother and the reason why - his active alcoholism. It just came to me yesterday while I was riding my bike. I feel they should know. Since their brother is killing himself and when he is dead they will say...

fiona123 · fiona123

Which ....has been often in the 1st few years back in recovery ...here are some things that have helped me which I would like to share; Fear = F.alse E.vents A.ppearing R.eal Trying to stay in Just Today ... a day ( a minute) at a time The "Just for today " Bookmark REALLY helps me "Just for to...

kerry5 · kerry5

TO REALIZE > > > >To realize > >The value of a sister > >Ask someone > >Who doesn't have one. > > > >To realize > >The value of ten years: > >Ask a newly > >Divorced couple. > > > >To realize > >The value of four years: &g...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, I have not been able to post for a time, because my computer was out of order. My husband had it reformatted, and you can be sure that it was not important for him to keep my Al-Anon site. I was so upset, yet with the help of my HP I found it again. I am so happy about th...

teddybear · teddybear

Hi Everyone, Allowing yourself to be less than perfect allows you to accomplish great things in small ways. My HP, may I remove all of the pressures I overwhelming place on myself, and do what I can, when I can. Friday evening I was the guest speaker at an Al-Anon meeting, I felt...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

This is the chart they handed me at a mental health facility (when I told them I was going crazy. They said "No, you are not, your husband has a drinking problem." Wish they'd given this paper out when I graduated high school ! Go to: www.dog...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

A pamphlet available at alanon meetings, and at www.alanon.org is "Merry Go Round Named Denial." If you are isolated from meetings, etc. it can be found at www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (note spelling) Just type these in your address ba...

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I use to be so good at reading posts and replying. Since my situation with my parents' poor health and their moving to ND to be closer to me, I have been a mess with a routine! I haven't forgotten about you. I feel so bad I am not reading or replying. I even have 140 emails I have...

Finishgal · Finishgal

I am new in Alanon. I went to a few meetings and people gave me call lists and a few even gave me their numbers. I don't know what to do or say when I call. The meetings I went to I started to cry. My son just got back from treatment and has slipped a few times. I had a meltdown on Friday...

Powerless · Powerless

okay, here is the deal...there is something my HP must believe I am just not getting. I believe that when your HP is trying to teach one of his/her "gentle lessons" he will keep trying until the realization of the lesson dawns on you. Well, there must be something I am not getting because I f...

Emily · Emily

Hi..my name is Emily and new to the group and to alanon as well. I've tried calling my sponsors and I cant seem to get a hold of any of them. So, i thought I would give this a try. Just when everything seems to be going well problems from my past come back and my fiance always seems to get ve...

tk47834 · tk47834

This is my first time to this message board. My husband has been sober now for a little over 6 years. I'm very proud of him for that, but here lately I have been worried. I lost my job of 24+ years a year ago and we are really starting to feel the pinch. I've been everywhere I...

lil_feathered_one · lil_feathered_one

I just wanted to let everyone here know. Yes he went to an AA meeting last night. He looked so positive when he came home too. I am trying not to get my hopes up to high right now though. I know that sounds counteractive but I am so tired of being hurt by my own expectations of what I think he should do. We did tal...

Powerless · Powerless

I really could have saved his truck, but in the end I turned the problem over to him. He sold the truck and even got a little used car in the deal. He paid his mom some of the money he owed her and gave me $400 for groceries. He bought each of the kids a pair of shoes and four outfits a piece fo...

kerry5 · kerry5

I always live my life feeling trapped i can remember each and everytime in my life i have, and here it is again. When i was around 12 years old thats when the abuse starting full swing. Because my mother completely believed that me and my sister were raised at 12 and her job was done. She still believed it ti...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya everyone, As many of you know things have been very very busy for me. Have been wondering for the last couple of days if things will ever get back to normal. The new house is coming along - although very slowly. Have many boxes still yet unpacked because I need to paint. ...

jj · jj

Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. Shutting don, shutting off, closing ourselves and removing our emotionsl presence from a relationship is a powerful tool. We need to use it carefully and res...

dot · dot

Hi - Step three is posted on the Step board. Please come and share your ES&H. Love in Recovery - Dot

dori · dori

Hey all, It is been a while and I am still worknig my program and worknig my steps with my sponsor.This is my problem though I dont want to go to meetings.There are times I think I do not need them and then there are times I just dont want the hassel of it all.I have been in the program 2 years the a in my life is...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

As long as he will go to the counselor....wow! It took my husband several attempts this time around to make it stick. He had years and years of denial, habits, etc. I believe we are on five months sobriety. One attempt at AA didn't get us here. &nbs...

Jolert · Jolert

Hello everyone, I've been sitting here for an hour repeating the mantra ... oh Lord please help us both to find a way to follow your path ... this morning I decided I can not watch my husband go through the same cycle as every time in the last 12 years. I pulled out the seperation papers I had drawn u...

Powerless · Powerless

I keep trying to remind myself that I hate his addiction and not him. It is his addiction that causes the behavior I am seeing. He tried to draw me into an arguement today, although I responded, I caught myself and let it go. He found someone to buy his pickup truck for $3,000. I...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Below is an email I received from another MIP member who asked me to share with group. HI~How are U? I am letting you know that I will not be in AlAnon for while~I just found out last night that my best friend had been in serious car accident and her daughter was in with her Mom and wa...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, Well we went to the counselor again tonight. My husband was not drinking and was in good spirits. The kids and I told him what was on our minds. We told him how much we love him, miss him and how much we do want him home and well. We all decided that we are going to try. I would say one las...

Aspouse · Aspouse

Thank you, some of you, who i met in the chat room earlier. this is the first time i have attempted to get help. i am the spouse of an alcoholic, who feels i am his biggest trigger right now. i am scared. my husband relapsed after 3 and 1/2 years of sobriety. i may have triggered him....pushed him , becau...

holly123 · holly123

Hi everyone, I am feeling very down today. Yesterday was my 10th Anniversary and it went unnoticed by all. My mother in law did ask what she should get us and my mom the same but as far as my husband went, I had to remind him and then it was dropped. I am real...

jpquack · jpquack

hi - i'm new to wilmington, nc and would like to find meetings of al-anon, or aa if that's all that's here - feel very stressed out and could use some good support !!! - thanks - john

nycbt · nycbt

Recently I have put on some weight that is bothering me to death. Alot of people say I look good with the weight on but I don't like the weight. I ave a low self esteem. I been eatting sugar which I shouldn't be. So today I am keeping the weight thing in mind and I am not eating any snaks at work today. My husband...

nycbt · nycbt

WHEN I WAS A BABY When I was a little baby, my real mother did drugs and drank. She used to leave my brother and me alone while she went out. When she went out and left us alone, I used to feel angry, scared, frighten, about what would happen to me if she doesn’t come back. Because of her being drunk or...

WStar · WStar

Hello all, Today was a crappy day not trying to complain there are bigger things to piss and moan about. It started out my dog got sick took to the vet .Vet called back my dog died.Broken hearted I'm stund. Why in life does it take lossing somebody,something tha...

trishlafish · trishlafish

Hi, I am brand new to the whole Al-anon thing. I am still trying to figure it all out. I attended my first face to face meeting last nite. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to start? i feel so lost and hopeless. I grew up in an alcoholic household. I never realized how it affected me. I have n...

De Anna · De Anna

I started this program in March. I was at my bottom, yet I couldn't see up, isn't that ironic. 3 months into this program & it has given me important guidelines. My hub hasn't changed, & I don't know that he will. I do know I've changed. I used to be angr...

nycbt · nycbt

When I started Alanon, he still was drinking. Our cat died and we were fighting so I left and went to the diner and called him to see how he was doing he started screaming and yelling, so I hung up the phone and ate my diner. He wanted something to eat so I brought something to eat and when I came home he had hate...

Powerless · Powerless

I feel like I am really starting to get steps one and two. My husband has been making a lot of poor choices, but I have not tried to correct him. Even when he asks my opinion I tell him to weight out his options and make his own decisions. his pick up truck is about to be repossessed Friday...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We al...

megan · megan

Said to me by my co-worker this morning as we talked. He said that he has alot of emotional scars from growing up with 2 alcoholic parents He got alot of physical and mental pain and is struggling with his emotions over it. I gave him my "Hope for Today" book. Its an okay book but not too...

nycbt · nycbt

The things that are posted in section our my life story which I broke down into section hoping that I could help some of you out there. An it is good to hear feed back. Thanks

debilyn · debilyn

Hi, well I was not sure how to respond when A did call. I saw it was him and took a breath. I said hello, he immediately said how are you? I changed the subject quickly. I told him I will not be telling him anything about me. Neither will my loved ones. That I have learned who really loves me the last fe...

lilleah · lilleah

ok, my A decided NOT to go to the bar, and somehow, I know I will be blamed for this! I will be blamed b/c I didn't tell him which bar to go to! All I said was how I would like it if he stayed close to home, and didn't drive to the bar he used to go to which is across town. We moved, so now he is further away from that bar...

nycbt · nycbt

ALCOHOLIC FATHER My foster father turned adopted father was also an alcoholic. When my adopted father drank, I was upset, angry, and very disappointed in him. I lost trust in any promises he had. I wouldn’t believe anything he said when it came to going anywhere. I would wait outside for him and he wo...

sanddie · sanddie

I am not sure if any of you are familiar with this place. However, thought I'd share it with you, as it is a rehabilitation center for teens with substance abuse. I went there last week to see what they offered for adolescents. I wanted to stay--it was phenomena...

nycbt · nycbt

RICK’S SON MOVED IN In Jan of 2004 Feb. his son moved into a very small apt. He was supposed to be there for a little while. Rick drank so bad when he moved in her would start fighting and naming calling. He would start hanging out with people that were also drinkers. Two of them were drunk all the...

lilleah · lilleah

sorry I haven't posted in awhile, I had my baby 6wks ago and have been very busy. How is everyone? My A was good for awhile, he didn't go out all the time, and we would go together, but now he is blaming me for not going anywhere, and just being generally miserable. He has told me about 3 times recently that he...

nycbt · nycbt

I am proud of the progress that I have made in the last six months. My tempter: I have been getting very good with that. I haven't thrown glass, cut my self, only a couple of times started screaming. I have calm down quicker then I used to. I am trying to work on the things I like to do like reading, sittin...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, Just thinking today. I talked to the kids about what they want, and they basically told me it is my decision. They told me they love him and wish he would sober up. They said that they would prefer he wasn't with his parents becasue it is hard to even call him, as they answer the phone, and none of them w...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I haven't posted recently, I have been running around helping get ready for the Proms and Graduation. My sons Prom was on Friday night, he looked so handsome and of course I cried. His girlfriend looked lovely and they had a wonderful time. One down, one more Prom next weekend and two gra...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Hiya Everyone, Well we have closed on our new home. Myself and 5 teens moved all day on Friday to get us in there but we are in. Husband came home from work and couldnt believe that we pulled it all off in one day without him. He wasnt able to help with the move because of work...

jj · jj

I posted the other night about how hubby and I had gone to a friends and it ended up with me not ever wanting to go out like that again. Well I was upset and angry about what had happend and I don't think that I made the situation clear. Hubby had gone a week with out getting drunk and I had had reserv...

Jolert · Jolert

Hello, my name is Jenny. This is my first post to this board, reading other messages here the last few days has helped me. Hopefully sharing this will help others as well as myself. I'd also like to meet some people here who could provide good examples and share support. I live with my husband who is an a...

John · John

http://www.12stepforums.net/mid/musicballs.wmv Click the Link Above and put a smile on your face. John

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

My hubby stepped over the line a few nights ago. He physically harmed my 23 year old son. (Son is okay now but he did have to go to ER and we had to watch him for concussion.) Hubby is out of the house and I have stated he has to go for help if he wants to be here in this relationship and family...

chad79 · chad79

I am a 25 year old male in Iowa. I have never really ever drank myself because of my mom. She had me in high school and then got pregant again 6 years later and got married. Then she had another baby early and he died a few months later of SIDS and that was hard on her, then she got divorced and had a...

nmike · nmike

My husband moved out June 1st to a new town and a new job. We agreed on this date because it was after our last son's high school graduation and I would be on a trip. We didn't talk to each other for a week. He had originally said that he didn't want to talk to me or do anything with me for a year. Now, that is extre...

debilyn · debilyn

Been thinking and praying for you. What a hard thing to deal with. I know you love your family very much and do your best for them. One thing Kis that I have to say, abuse is NOT from being an alcoholic. It is a totally separate problem. Same as if they cheat, totally not from being A. Even if the...

nycbt · nycbt

Since I ave join the Alanon program, I have gain more friends. It is nice to have people I can talk to. A place where I feel safe. A place I know that they will not judge me. What every I tell them they understand because they have been there. Lately I have been opening up in the face to face meeting wh...

holly123 · holly123

I was just reading Chad's post and while responding I realized how much I had learned in the year I have been here about detachment. When I first started I believed detachment meant, put a big wall up between you and don't do anything for them. I completely missed the with love part of the...

nycbt · nycbt

On Saturday I got into a minor accident. I was a little upset but I had faith that everything would work out. I was glad that my hight power was watching over me. On Saturday I was going through a street that had cars park on both sides and very packed. I went through the street very happy that I made it. Cam...

gardengal · gardengal

This disease of alcoholism is a cunning, baffling, inciduous disease. As we become increasingly aware of the family disease, many of us discover that we have performed a particular function in our family or group. Friends and family members play a wide variety of supporting roles in the fami...

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	He got a job!!! (Preview) He got a job today and starts tomorrow. I am trying not to be negative and wonder how long he will keep the darn thing. At least it will get him out of the house each day and hopefully help us get caught up. Was offered a new position within the company I work for today and am seriously con...	Powerless	3	600	Jun 14, 2005 by Jeannie
	MY BOYFRIEND TURNED HUSBAND (Preview) MY BOYFRIEND TURNED HUSBAND In Aug of 99 I meet, Rick at one of my friends house. I was living alone because the person I moved down had left and I wasn’t dating anyone at the time. Rick had just gotten out of jail and was trying to get his life together. In the begin I really didn’t really notice on h...	nycbt	2	689	Jun 14, 2005 by nycbt
	Reaching out to his family (Preview) i am going to send a note to my husband's sister explaining to her that I have left her brother and the reason why - his active alcoholism. It just came to me yesterday while I was riding my bike. I feel they should know. Since their brother is killing himself and when he is dead they will say...	megan	3	712	Jun 14, 2005 by megan
	Things that help me when I am AFRAID (Preview) Which ....has been often in the 1st few years back in recovery ...here are some things that have helped me which I would like to share; Fear = F.alse E.vents A.ppearing R.eal Trying to stay in Just Today ... a day ( a minute) at a time The "Just for today " Bookmark REALLY helps me "Just for to...	fiona123	1	437	Jun 13, 2005 by De Anna
	To Realize (Preview) TO REALIZE > > > >To realize > >The value of a sister > >Ask someone > >Who doesn't have one. > > > >To realize > >The value of ten years: > >Ask a newly > >Divorced couple. > > > >To realize > >The value of four years: &g...	kerry5	3	747	Jun 13, 2005 by wille
	So happy to be back (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have not been able to post for a time, because my computer was out of order. My husband had it reformatted, and you can be sure that it was not important for him to keep my Al-Anon site. I was so upset, yet with the help of my HP I found it again. I am so happy about th...	teddybear	1	654	Jun 13, 2005 by cloud
	An Inspiration for today (Preview) Hi Everyone, Allowing yourself to be less than perfect allows you to accomplish great things in small ways. My HP, may I remove all of the pressures I overwhelming place on myself, and do what I can, when I can. Friday evening I was the guest speaker at an Al-Anon meeting, I felt...	teddybear	1	678	Jun 13, 2005 by cloud
	Jellinek Chart/Progression of Disease (Preview) This is the chart they handed me at a mental health facility (when I told them I was going crazy. They said "No, you are not, your husband has a drinking problem." Wish they'd given this paper out when I graduated high school ! Go to: www.dog...	wallsal55	0	6000	Jun 13, 2005 by wallsal55
	Merry Go Round Named Denial (Preview) A pamphlet available at alanon meetings, and at www.alanon.org is "Merry Go Round Named Denial." If you are isolated from meetings, etc. it can be found at www.bendfeldt.com/alcholism.htm (note spelling) Just type these in your address ba...	wallsal55	0	785	Jun 13, 2005 by wallsal55
	So Sorry message board friends... (Preview) Hello friends, I use to be so good at reading posts and replying. Since my situation with my parents' poor health and their moving to ND to be closer to me, I have been a mess with a routine! I haven't forgotten about you. I feel so bad I am not reading or replying. I even have 140 emails I have...	cdb	9	957	Jun 13, 2005 by teddybear
	Asking for help (Preview) I am new in Alanon. I went to a few meetings and people gave me call lists and a few even gave me their numbers. I don't know what to do or say when I call. The meetings I went to I started to cry. My son just got back from treatment and has slipped a few times. I had a meltdown on Friday...	Finishgal	7	879	Jun 12, 2005 by nikkilou
	Life's "gentle" lessons (Preview) okay, here is the deal...there is something my HP must believe I am just not getting. I believe that when your HP is trying to teach one of his/her "gentle lessons" he will keep trying until the realization of the lesson dawns on you. Well, there must be something I am not getting because I f...	Powerless	2	915	Jun 12, 2005 by dot
	constantly questioning fiance (Preview) Hi..my name is Emily and new to the group and to alanon as well. I've tried calling my sponsors and I cant seem to get a hold of any of them. So, i thought I would give this a try. Just when everything seems to be going well problems from my past come back and my fiance always seems to get ve...	Emily	3	635	Jun 12, 2005 by Annie
	First timer (Preview) This is my first time to this message board. My husband has been sober now for a little over 6 years. I'm very proud of him for that, but here lately I have been worried. I lost my job of 24+ years a year ago and we are really starting to feel the pinch. I've been everywhere I...	tk47834	5	708	Jun 12, 2005 by wallsal55
	hubby went to aa (Preview) I just wanted to let everyone here know. Yes he went to an AA meeting last night. He looked so positive when he came home too. I am trying not to get my hopes up to high right now though. I know that sounds counteractive but I am so tired of being hurt by my own expectations of what I think he should do. We did tal...	lil_feathered_one	5	586	Jun 12, 2005 by holdingon
	Having a good weekend (Preview) I really could have saved his truck, but in the end I turned the problem over to him. He sold the truck and even got a little used car in the deal. He paid his mom some of the money he owed her and gave me $400 for groceries. He bought each of the kids a pair of shoes and four outfits a piece fo...	Powerless	2	635	Jun 12, 2005 by tiredtonite
	Feeling Trapped (Preview) I always live my life feeling trapped i can remember each and everytime in my life i have, and here it is again. When i was around 12 years old thats when the abuse starting full swing. Because my mother completely believed that me and my sister were raised at 12 and her job was done. She still believed it ti...	kerry5	6	951	Jun 12, 2005 by fiona123
	Wondering When... (Preview) Hiya everyone, As many of you know things have been very very busy for me. Have been wondering for the last couple of days if things will ever get back to normal. The new house is coming along - although very slowly. Have many boxes still yet unpacked because I need to paint. ...	AlaMom	4	732	Jun 11, 2005 by cloud
	With Holding (Preview) Sometimes, to protect ourselves, we close ourselves off from a person we're in a relationship with. Our body may be present, but we're not. Shutting don, shutting off, closing ourselves and removing our emotionsl presence from a relationship is a powerful tool. We need to use it carefully and res...	jj	3	548	Jun 11, 2005 by jessi
	Step board - Step three (Preview) Hi - Step three is posted on the Step board. Please come and share your ES&H. Love in Recovery - Dot	dot	0	534	Jun 11, 2005 by dot
	another meeting (Preview) Hey all, It is been a while and I am still worknig my program and worknig my steps with my sponsor.This is my problem though I dont want to go to meetings.There are times I think I do not need them and then there are times I just dont want the hassel of it all.I have been in the program 2 years the a in my life is...	dori	4	793	Jun 11, 2005 by jessi
	Jeannie... (Preview) As long as he will go to the counselor....wow! It took my husband several attempts this time around to make it stick. He had years and years of denial, habits, etc. I believe we are on five months sobriety. One attempt at AA didn't get us here. &nbs...	wallsal55	0	402	Jun 11, 2005 by wallsal55
	HP please help us to follow your path (Preview) Hello everyone, I've been sitting here for an hour repeating the mantra ... oh Lord please help us both to find a way to follow your path ... this morning I decided I can not watch my husband go through the same cycle as every time in the last 12 years. I pulled out the seperation papers I had drawn u...	Jolert	3	647	Jun 11, 2005 by Jolert
	Trying to remind myself that I hate his disease and not him (Preview) I keep trying to remind myself that I hate his addiction and not him. It is his addiction that causes the behavior I am seeing. He tried to draw me into an arguement today, although I responded, I caught myself and let it go. He found someone to buy his pickup truck for $3,000. I...	Powerless	3	755	Jun 10, 2005 by Annie
	Prayers Needed (Preview) Below is an email I received from another MIP member who asked me to share with group. HI~How are U? I am letting you know that I will not be in AlAnon for while~I just found out last night that my best friend had been in serious car accident and her daughter was in with her Mom and wa...	kismetstrand	7	686	Jun 10, 2005 by wille
	One more try (Preview) Hi everyone, Well we went to the counselor again tonight. My husband was not drinking and was in good spirits. The kids and I told him what was on our minds. We told him how much we love him, miss him and how much we do want him home and well. We all decided that we are going to try. I would say one las...	Jeannie	11	622	Jun 10, 2005 by Diva
	need help (Preview) Thank you, some of you, who i met in the chat room earlier. this is the first time i have attempted to get help. i am the spouse of an alcoholic, who feels i am his biggest trigger right now. i am scared. my husband relapsed after 3 and 1/2 years of sobriety. i may have triggered him....pushed him , becau...	Aspouse	12	575	Jun 10, 2005 by Diva
	My Anniversary (Preview) Hi everyone, I am feeling very down today. Yesterday was my 10th Anniversary and it went unnoticed by all. My mother in law did ask what she should get us and my mom the same but as far as my husband went, I had to remind him and then it was dropped. I am real...	holly123	3	930	Jun 10, 2005 by nmike
	need help finding meetings - nc (Preview) hi - i'm new to wilmington, nc and would like to find meetings of al-anon, or aa if that's all that's here - feel very stressed out and could use some good support !!! - thanks - john	jpquack	3	2167	Jun 10, 2005 by kerry5
	WEIGHT (Preview) Recently I have put on some weight that is bothering me to death. Alot of people say I look good with the weight on but I don't like the weight. I ave a low self esteem. I been eatting sugar which I shouldn't be. So today I am keeping the weight thing in mind and I am not eating any snaks at work today. My husband...	nycbt	7	605	Jun 9, 2005 by dori
	WHEN I WAS A BABY (Preview) WHEN I WAS A BABY When I was a little baby, my real mother did drugs and drank. She used to leave my brother and me alone while she went out. When she went out and left us alone, I used to feel angry, scared, frighten, about what would happen to me if she doesn’t come back. Because of her being drunk or...	nycbt	1	684	Jun 9, 2005 by KathyS
	Canine vs. Human (Preview) Hello all, Today was a crappy day not trying to complain there are bigger things to piss and moan about. It started out my dog got sick took to the vet .Vet called back my dog died.Broken hearted I'm stund. Why in life does it take lossing somebody,something tha...	WStar	5	745	Jun 9, 2005 by kismetstrand
	i am new (Preview) Hi, I am brand new to the whole Al-anon thing. I am still trying to figure it all out. I attended my first face to face meeting last nite. Does anyone have any suggestions on where to start? i feel so lost and hopeless. I grew up in an alcoholic household. I never realized how it affected me. I have n...	trishlafish	8	857	Jun 9, 2005 by delucagirl
	going on.....alone? (Preview) I started this program in March. I was at my bottom, yet I couldn't see up, isn't that ironic. 3 months into this program & it has given me important guidelines. My hub hasn't changed, & I don't know that he will. I do know I've changed. I used to be angr...	De Anna	6	665	Jun 9, 2005 by sandie123
	STARTED ALANON (Preview) When I started Alanon, he still was drinking. Our cat died and we were fighting so I left and went to the diner and called him to see how he was doing he started screaming and yelling, so I hung up the phone and ate my diner. He wanted something to eat so I brought something to eat and when I came home he had hate...	nycbt	1	428	Jun 9, 2005 by lin0606
	Really getting steps one and two (Preview) I feel like I am really starting to get steps one and two. My husband has been making a lot of poor choices, but I have not tried to correct him. Even when he asks my opinion I tell him to weight out his options and make his own decisions. his pick up truck is about to be repossessed Friday...	Powerless	5	748	Jun 9, 2005 by dot
	Run Through The Rain (Preview) A little girl had been shopping with her Mom in Target. She must have been 6 years old, this beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence. It was pouring outside. The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters, so much in a hurry to hit the earth it has no time to flow down the spout. We al...	kismetstrand	5	817	Jun 9, 2005 by Jolert
	Even a dog can be conditioned to starve (Preview) Said to me by my co-worker this morning as we talked. He said that he has alot of emotional scars from growing up with 2 alcoholic parents He got alot of physical and mental pain and is struggling with his emotions over it. I gave him my "Hope for Today" book. Its an okay book but not too...	megan	1	583	Jun 9, 2005 by Jolert
	my life story (Preview) The things that are posted in section our my life story which I broke down into section hoping that I could help some of you out there. An it is good to hear feed back. Thanks	nycbt	1	548	Jun 9, 2005 by Jolert
	A called/update (Preview) Hi, well I was not sure how to respond when A did call. I saw it was him and took a breath. I said hello, he immediately said how are you? I changed the subject quickly. I told him I will not be telling him anything about me. Neither will my loved ones. That I have learned who really loves me the last fe...	debilyn	5	823	Jun 8, 2005 by Jeannie
	taking the blame again! (Preview) ok, my A decided NOT to go to the bar, and somehow, I know I will be blamed for this! I will be blamed b/c I didn't tell him which bar to go to! All I said was how I would like it if he stayed close to home, and didn't drive to the bar he used to go to which is across town. We moved, so now he is further away from that bar...	lilleah	5	814	Jun 8, 2005 by Jill
	my adopted father (Preview) ALCOHOLIC FATHER My foster father turned adopted father was also an alcoholic. When my adopted father drank, I was upset, angry, and very disappointed in him. I lost trust in any promises he had. I wouldn’t believe anything he said when it came to going anywhere. I would wait outside for him and he wo...	nycbt	2	723	Jun 8, 2005 by nycbt
	Adolescent Treatment Facility...... (Preview) I am not sure if any of you are familiar with this place. However, thought I'd share it with you, as it is a rehabilitation center for teens with substance abuse. I went there last week to see what they offered for adolescents. I wanted to stay--it was phenomena...	sanddie	0	562	Jun 8, 2005 by sanddie
	RICK’S SON MOVED IN (Preview) RICK’S SON MOVED IN In Jan of 2004 Feb. his son moved into a very small apt. He was supposed to be there for a little while. Rick drank so bad when he moved in her would start fighting and naming calling. He would start hanging out with people that were also drinkers. Two of them were drunk all the...	nycbt	0	497	Jun 8, 2005 by nycbt
	hi-sorry I haven't posted in awhile (Preview) sorry I haven't posted in awhile, I had my baby 6wks ago and have been very busy. How is everyone? My A was good for awhile, he didn't go out all the time, and we would go together, but now he is blaming me for not going anywhere, and just being generally miserable. He has told me about 3 times recently that he...	lilleah	2	692	Jun 8, 2005 by jj
	PROUD OF ME (Preview) I am proud of the progress that I have made in the last six months. My tempter: I have been getting very good with that. I haven't thrown glass, cut my self, only a couple of times started screaming. I have calm down quicker then I used to. I am trying to work on the things I like to do like reading, sittin...	nycbt	3	678	Jun 8, 2005 by jj
	Decisions (Preview) Hi, Just thinking today. I talked to the kids about what they want, and they basically told me it is my decision. They told me they love him and wish he would sober up. They said that they would prefer he wasn't with his parents becasue it is hard to even call him, as they answer the phone, and none of them w...	Jeannie	8	756	Jun 7, 2005 by honeybunnydog
	Not sure how to proceed (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted recently, I have been running around helping get ready for the Proms and Graduation. My sons Prom was on Friday night, he looked so handsome and of course I cried. His girlfriend looked lovely and they had a wonderful time. One down, one more Prom next weekend and two gra...	Jeannie	8	907	Jun 7, 2005 by jo4
	A Great Success... (Preview) Hiya Everyone, Well we have closed on our new home. Myself and 5 teens moved all day on Friday to get us in there but we are in. Husband came home from work and couldnt believe that we pulled it all off in one day without him. He wasnt able to help with the move because of work...	AlaMom	8	766	Jun 7, 2005 by cloud
	Isolation (Preview) I posted the other night about how hubby and I had gone to a friends and it ended up with me not ever wanting to go out like that again. Well I was upset and angry about what had happend and I don't think that I made the situation clear. Hubby had gone a week with out getting drunk and I had had reserv...	jj	3	516	Jun 7, 2005 by nmike
	Hello out there!!! (Preview) Hello, my name is Jenny. This is my first post to this board, reading other messages here the last few days has helped me. Hopefully sharing this will help others as well as myself. I'd also like to meet some people here who could provide good examples and share support. I live with my husband who is an a...	Jolert	8	830	Jun 7, 2005 by Jolert
	Talent Show (Preview) http://www.12stepforums.net/mid/musicballs.wmv Click the Link Above and put a smile on your face. John	John	2	721	Jun 7, 2005 by jj
	HELP (Preview) My hubby stepped over the line a few nights ago. He physically harmed my 23 year old son. (Son is okay now but he did have to go to ER and we had to watch him for concussion.) Hubby is out of the house and I have stated he has to go for help if he wants to be here in this relationship and family...	kismetstrand	13	591	Jun 7, 2005 by bob6502
	New to Board - Need Advice (Preview) I am a 25 year old male in Iowa. I have never really ever drank myself because of my mom. She had me in high school and then got pregant again 6 years later and got married. Then she had another baby early and he died a few months later of SIDS and that was hard on her, then she got divorced and had a...	chad79	9	896	Jun 7, 2005 by lin0606
	He's gone (Preview) My husband moved out June 1st to a new town and a new job. We agreed on this date because it was after our last son's high school graduation and I would be on a trip. We didn't talk to each other for a week. He had originally said that he didn't want to talk to me or do anything with me for a year. Now, that is extre...	nmike	5	840	Jun 7, 2005 by abbyal
	kis (Preview) Been thinking and praying for you. What a hard thing to deal with. I know you love your family very much and do your best for them. One thing Kis that I have to say, abuse is NOT from being an alcoholic. It is a totally separate problem. Same as if they cheat, totally not from being A. Even if the...	debilyn	1	614	Jun 7, 2005 by kismetstrand
	FRIENDS/God (Preview) Since I ave join the Alanon program, I have gain more friends. It is nice to have people I can talk to. A place where I feel safe. A place I know that they will not judge me. What every I tell them they understand because they have been there. Lately I have been opening up in the face to face meeting wh...	nycbt	0	501	Jun 7, 2005 by nycbt
	Detachment (Preview) I was just reading Chad's post and while responding I realized how much I had learned in the year I have been here about detachment. When I first started I believed detachment meant, put a big wall up between you and don't do anything for them. I completely missed the with love part of the...	holly123	3	733	Jun 7, 2005 by nycbt
	SATURDAY (Preview) On Saturday I got into a minor accident. I was a little upset but I had faith that everything would work out. I was glad that my hight power was watching over me. On Saturday I was going through a street that had cars park on both sides and very packed. I went through the street very happy that I made it. Cam...	nycbt	1	587	Jun 7, 2005 by holly123
	Are we blaming ourselves for the A's actions? (Preview) This disease of alcoholism is a cunning, baffling, inciduous disease. As we become increasingly aware of the family disease, many of us discover that we have performed a particular function in our family or group. Friends and family members play a wide variety of supporting roles in the fami...	gardengal	0	625	Jun 7, 2005 by gardengal
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