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Learning to be a humble person


Hello friends,


I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble because of being insecure or having low self esteem. I would like to be humble with security and high self esteem. One humble person I thought of in my own personal belief system is Billy Graham. I am trying to think of humble people that are still alive. How do you think a person can be more humble for our journey in the alanon program? I am interested in other's thinking along with  different thinking related to each of us having our own HP,,higher powers.


I am leaving the cottage within the next couple of hours and have a 5 hour drive. My daughter will be doing all the driving :)  I will see you when I see you :) I may have to just go right to bed when I get home since traveling seems to always be hard on my health. I hope you all are doing as good as you can with all the struggles we have in our lives. I have been saying prayers for all of you. your friend in recovery, cdb :)



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Hi...hope your time at the cabin with your daughter has restored your soul.


When I think of my efforts to be humble, I try to not set myself above another person.  But I also try to not set myself below another person.  I do the best I can do and try to let it go.  I try to do things for me and for my own self esteem, not for the reason of getting praise or attention.


I try not to judge others or their reactions to any situation.  "There, but for the grace of God, go I".


I try to not call attention to myself, even if I'm sure I'm smarter or wittier than another person in the room. 


When I humble myself, before my higher power, it is not without a sense of self worth, but with a sense of worthiness, but being willing to accept that it is HIS will, not mine that will determine my correct path.


Thank you for sharing...gives me some food for thought...G



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I know that when I feel humility that I have truly connected with God in being the person He wants me to be only because when we are truly humble, we are not self-seeking, just as God wants us to be.  :)  It is during this time primarily that my entire focus and understanding of God is elevated since I feel as a child would with a parent in the protective care of the only One who is in control.

-- Edited by sanddie at 22:24, 2005-06-23

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hi cdb good topic. your trip to the cabin put me right back in my childhood. we had a cabin on lake metigoshe at the canadian border and going there was the peaceful oasis in my childhood. our A, our dad, would stay in town while we went to the lake. it's my destination of choice when i have guided imagery "go to a peaceful place".


being humble... for me it's gratitude. all the advantages i've had, the miracles i've received, the friends, the program, the forgiveness. i am at my most humble when i have my mind clearly focused on my gratitude list. i visit it frequently, re-listing reasons to be grateful.


Jill



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(((((Cdb))))))  (((((Daughter))))))


I hope that you have a safe trip home!!!


I don't know but I find hearing and being around my new friends from AA is humbeling experience for me, before Alanon and AA became a part of my life I was definately nieve and arogant when it come to this disease and what the alcoholics are going through.  I am greatful for a better understanding and the compassion that I can now feel.


Thinking of you lots.


JJ



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