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I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid on 6 day jobs and the people who got them started @the plant in the 70's and early 80's.
Am also looking into seeing if I could get on days with a medical hardship. That is not as simple as picking up the phone and asking. One union person tells me to call so and so, she doesn't return my phone call. My boss says he will talk to some big wig. Let's just say this is a little bit of a hassle.
My best friend and I work this shift together and on the same machine. Put it this way: we just don't want to work 3rd shift the rest of our lives and have our spells where we are tired of being sick and tired. She is a single mom. I am married but am being treated for depression.
We are also getting sick of the bs with the supervisors discriminating against us because we are women. The other night, we got paged back to our machine two different times and both times, we were not even late! We left late for break and lunch because our break relief arrived late.
There is a new supervisor who told another supervisor we left the building and came back late. Well, duh, we punched out for lunch. Plus, again, we left for lunch late to explain something to our break relief person.
We rarely hear any men get paged. It is mainly her and I. We see men with seniority take extended breaks and nothing is ever said to them. Because they would turn around and tell the supervisor to screw!
I am hurt over a so called friend at work who has turned out to be a phony. Let's just leave it at that. I know I cannot control any one else's behavior. And I can choose my reaction, but right now I feel hurt somewhat.
Sorry to rant. I have so much in my life to be grateful for that I don't even quite understand how I can be complain. Guess that doesn't mean I won't get upset from time to time.
Guess I am not good in dealing in these feelings of anger, since my response in the past was to stuff and hold everything inside.
I know it is worth it to look into and do whatever it takes to find out about a schedule change w/a medical hardship. But the discrimination with the supervisors, what is that worth? To contact eeo and see what they say? Will they just say to document everything for awhile? A guy in the union told us you cannot file a grievance just because a boss is being an a-hole. And of course he doesn't care about our plight - he is a man and discrimination doesn't apply to him. He doesn't know what it feels like night after night.
Thank you for listening to me rant and rave. Funny thing is, I really am trying to apply the program in my life. But honestly, in letting go and letting God with these situations- I am still upset.
Take a breath and just do what your best and HP will guide you when you feel that your strength is almost gone a second wind will come, HP will carry you Keep up the good work trying to apply your tools we love you take care. always cloud
((((((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))) What you just wrote sounds exactly what my talks about his job. I don't dare to ask where you work at due to anonymity but it could be the exact same occupation. He works 4am to 12:30 pm. It is such a stressful job and he just quit the union after 20 years because they wouldn't do a darned thing! He has to stay with his job because he is the number one person in his craft. He was a union steward and got fed up with that too! We have learned for him to appreciate the job he as since many people do not even have jobs now a days. I hear him rant and rave so much and the job makes it hard for me to live with him too. I just shared this because I want you to know that I think I do understand how you feel. I do think my husband may treat some women there like crap too and I try to point that out to him. I don't know when he got so bitter towards women at work except for those that end up being supervisors and don't do a thing and don't even know the rules and regulations. Do vent more if you need too. I vent here alot to get it out of my system. Our daughter is the alcoholic/drug addict in our life. She just turned 21. That has made him even more moody at work. I guess it does help me when I feel understood and feel like I am not alone. I hope this helped. He did years ago have a doctor suggest he work days due to his depression, The place he works at couldn't give a crap and felt if they did that for one they would have to do it for others. My alanon skills have helped me in so many aspects of my life. I would say that working your alanon 12 steps, traditions, would help you too. your friend in recovery, cdb
Wednesday I dragged my body to a mtg. and was the better for it. Saw an old friend and chaired the mtg. My sponsor reminded me I am entitled to my feelings.
That day, I also spoke with a woman from EEO re: getting a medical hardship. (nothing to do with her really, but she told me who to call- ha, the same woman who never returned my phone call) I also described to her why my girlfriend at work and I feel we are being discriminated against. She must believe it is worth looking into because she is sending me paperwork to read and fill out. The plan is to meet with the supervisors in question and also a mediator hired by the company.
As far as the medical hardship, it maybe very well turn out the way it did in your husband's case.
I am sorry it is your daughter with the drinking problem. (my husband is recovered, my father still drinks) My daughter is 12 and already I'm going crazy with her.
Just like we can start our day over anytime, it might be wise for me to turn certain things over to hp more than once a day.
