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AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I am so exhausted from my husband's mood swings. One day he is so nice and loving and thankful the next day everything overwhelms him and we can't talk about anything without it becoming a fight. I have locked myself in my study and sent him out for the whole morning to "play with our kid" so I could clean th...

Lyne · Lyne

Gifts from Alanon : Today's reading talks about what the writer accomplished from being a member of Alanon as well as from having a relationship with HP. These gifts include proud of being a survivor, acknowlegement of having dignity, having a wealth of experience that he/she can share, doesn't...

a4l · a4l

I am really struggling to be my recovery self in the non recovery world. I know this is not helped by my long held patterns of "all or nothing". Example: I spent almost five years literally shut out from the world. By choice. To recover, starting with the road to rock bottom. Now I'm on wobbly legs....

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

My husband doesn't work. He spends money on things for himself regardless of whether we can afford it or not, when he wants to he just takes the money. He shoplifts and drinks and uses porn. He claims he has stopped now... He is angry and depressed a lot of the time. He speaks to me rudely and angrily all t...

Mabel · Mabel

Hi everyone. I'm really stressed over my ex's behaviour recently. We split up because of his drinking and being aggressive when drunk. And I will be leaving within the next couple months. His drinking has escalated recently and I'm finding him impossible to be around lately. I'm worried, he d...

fullmom · fullmom

My AD and her husband are over drinking. Not sure if they're alcoholics, or just over drinking, but that's for them to figure out, not me. We have a really good relationship with both of them. They are 30. This is not the first time my husband and I have worried or observed that they drink too much. So...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

My AH was once sober for 12 years then on and off every few months for years. Now he is drinking every month. It is escalating and I am scared. We have been through marriage counseling more than once and he has had counseling more than once. He has had a DUI. I am so tired of this. Even when he's not drinki...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I would much appreciate any ESH on the differences in detaching vs letting go.Examples sure would be great.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My daughter in having contact with her dad has once again had another bad episode of the anxiety/Tourette's. It was really bad. Of course she didn't tell me and that irritates me more than anything because someone who has known her 3 months and has not lived the situation with her has all of the inf...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

I ask AH to not come home for a while. About 5 days ago I had a chat with "sober" AH and we had a really good talk. Although he remained strong that he could stop drinking on his own without help. I told AH that I would give him one chance and one chance only. Never really believing that I would have to act on that...

DavidG · DavidG

-all seated on the ground... it is thanksgiving in Canada and USA, coming up- great expectations... In NZ we don't have thanksgiving- we wait until Christmas for family get togethers and feasting. Yesterday we had a birthday party down by the lake- for our youngest daughter. She had two friends wit...

2HP · 2HP

There was a recent thread where a newcomer had come to this MIP site to ask about an alcoholic symptom a "friend" is apparently exhibiting. I saw it and believed it belonged in the appropriate room of AA because we don't keep focus on the alcoholic in Al-Anon. ....yet I recalled my own need to understan...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I got to the end of reading the big book and it talks there about a wife whose formerly alcoholic husband drank a lot of coffee and smoked a lot after he became sober and how eventually her nagging led him to get angry and eventually drink again. The book says that while he was clearly at fault, she learned t...

Overcome · Overcome

Courage and I will be keeping the chat room open today for anyone that needs support during the holiday. This is something that we used to do in the room before John passed. In his memory I'd like to see us do this again throughout the holidays. We know that for many dealing with the disease of alcoholism,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the chaos that an alcoholic home can be. Many of us who grew up in or have lived in a home with an A have learned some survival techniques like-not trusting anyone, not being trustworthy, being unable to stand up for ourselves. A sentence that resonated fo...

serenity47 · serenity47

I have returned from my week long visit with my daughter. I did stay in the hotel for the entire week as planned and we carried on with our activities despite the chaos/drama unfolding at her house. For the most part she was very pleasant to be around and we had some fun. I was honoured to meet her sponso...

Lele · Lele

this is my first post in this forum, so I'm sorry if it's a bit all over the place. my mother has struggled with alcoholism for the past 5 years, and recently I've reached a breaking point. it's gotten to the point where Im not happy coming home anymore, and im constantly in fear of another relapse (she's...

MizzB · MizzB

Hey all! So, since ABF ended up on hospital (parents took him after seeing him in withdrawal - they finally saw the complete effect of his drinking) he hasn't drunk at all and he's been in group therapy and is on the waiting list for individual therapy. The stress of the drinking has reduced - although t...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So I get two cards on Thanksgiving from my AH's mother. One for myself, and one for my kid. Both have a $20.00 in them. So I called up my MIL to thank her, and I ask why the money? She told me she just feels so bad about this situation, and she loves us and wants to help out, but that's the best she can do. Awe, so sh...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This has been the craziest week and I think I pretty well kicked my program out of the window. Actually it was a way crappy start to the week. My daughter had a serious lack of aduling and has now been handed the mantel of this is so not my problem as a result. She's got some serious consequences at the mom...

Aline · Aline

Hi, working through my irritation with myself. Sorry if the post is jumbled, I'm tired and thoughts go several directions, I guess. Today was my last day in my current job, now a week ahead before starting the new one. Worked 10 hours, still didn't do all I wanted/needed (?) to make the passing of the pro...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Yesterday,being Thanksgiving,was full of so many thoughts and feelings and also decisions for me,and I really struggled to maintain my composure.I believed the best way to get through the day was to be as strong as I could,just suck it up and push through it.I came here to chat,which was very helpful...

joker · joker

I am still in hotel and having anxiety as I have to return home tomorrow. I am not looking forward to seeing the alcoholic. I keep thinking he is just a roommate, he is just a roommate. I have nothing to fear. I have nothing to fear. I had a good day today as I called some lawyers and got legal advise on the hous...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's daily discusses Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Step Ten is our daily reminder to let go of that which holds us back - judgment of others, inventory of others, etc. We are reminded to continue to take our own inventory instead of ot...

Lyne · Lyne

Happy Thanksgiving to my MIP family! I am grateful to all of you as you help me to grow and change. Love, Lyne

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning MIP I pray that everyone enjoys Happy Thanksgiving Enjoy and please do not eat too much turkey

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

HAVE A GREAT DAY AND BE GRATEFUL. HUGS TO ALL OF YOU. IM GRATEFUL FOR ALANON AND THE LESSONS I LEARN ABOUT. THEY SERVE ME WELL DAILY ALYCE

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Hello all..its been a while since Ive posted so I apologize in advance if this is longwinded. My sponsor is not available right now and Im boiling over and need to get it out....Just really need to vent I guess or maybe just need to figure out what program tool to use to pull myself together while I try to ge...

joker · joker

Just a update. I slept downstairs last night and this morning I got up and the alcoholic left for work. I did absolutely nothing, I mean nothing to clean the house. I am off on sick leave from work and usually I have the house cleaned and have a meal cooked, chorus done around the house, groceries bought e...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. Today's reading is about "Keep it Simple". The writer discusses goals and dreams that seemed way too hard or large to accomplish at times, therefore ... never started. Keep it simple can remind us to simplify dreams and goals into one step at a time instead of viewing the ta...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I'm sitting here with anxiety because I feel like I HAVE to snoop through my husbands phone and I'm trying so hard to not do it. He didn't work today,said it was cancelled due to the weather.I want to believe him and it's probably true,he works outside and his work is dependent on the weather and has been c...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I have really been trying to let go of controlling my husband. One of the biggest obstacles, both practically and intellectually, is parenting together. My husband's issues do not for the most part make him incapable of parenting our son. What's more, I really need him to be able to parent so I am abl...

lilkbbk · lilkbbk

Hi, I am new to forums and have only attended a handful of Al-Anon meeting in the past, but I need help and I don't know where else to turn. My husband started drinking again in June after being sober for over 2 years. I was very resistant to the idea of him drinking, but he assured me that it would only be a few...

joker · joker

After Saturday's breakdown, my behavior, being so out of control, due to the alcoholic talking with his ex-wife, drunk. I decided, after a face to face meeting Friday night, I had enough. I am not going to keep living like this anymore. I went out and looked at an apartment today, but just did not feel ri...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about Al Anon as a spiritual recovery program. (Other readings discuss that spiritual and religious or dogmatic are different things, and that each member is encouraged to find a spiritual connection to the higher power of their own under...

new member - am I eligible for AlAnon? · AnnieFenk321

Hi, I am married to a man who has been sober in NA for many many years until recently. When I married him, he was really involved in his fellowship and helping others. Over the last two years he dropped off and stopped attending meetings because we were living in an area that didn't have strong fellowshi...

thisisit · thisisit

I need help on how to set a boundary with my spouse. Last night I found out that he had driven with my 4 year old in the car after drinking. This is the first time this has happened, and I need it to be the last. I am very new to the concept of Al-Anon and believe I need to go to meetings, not only because of my hu...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I saw this posted on another site and it really got me to thinking that it isn't just a coincidence that my tiny house sits right next to a dove aviary! I hear them all the time! Dove:"The Dove represents peace of the deepest kind. It soothes and quiets our worried and troubled thoughts, and enables us to...

mamalioness · mamalioness

it CAN be done..Sobriety and good thinking CAN be achieved..With work, dedication, healthy self love and fair discipline it CAN be done.. My beloved girl is SIX YEARS SOBER as of yesterday, well its Monday, now, LOL, so SATURDAY marked the sixth year of being sober..We had a wonderful talk today!!! p...

gailstewie · gailstewie

I am recently broke up with a boyfriend who grew up in an alcoholic home as I did. We did live together once and we separated. It was a constant battle between us. We were both controlling and have trust issues. I still don't trust him and I want to but my instincts tell me not to. We talked about counse...

andromeda · andromeda

I was let go from my firm yesterday for underperformance. Long story short, I had a lot of deals pending in my pipeline, but nothing was coming in to the firm except a few small accounts and they said it wasn't enough. They gave me 17 weeks to perform to their standards and I didn't meet expectations. S...

Lyne · Lyne

Spirit: The writer speaks about generations of alcoholism in his/her family had broken his spirit. But Alanon has given him a fellowship which allows for healing. Finding a God of his understanding, could restore him to his true self. Today he is able to celebrate being alive. Today's reminder...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 21 speaks about the importance of keeping an open mind and embracing the humility of the program. The reading provides an example of a family who are accustomed to entertaining and when one enters AA, cannot understand why the alcohol consumption must be eliminated Th...

wikedfairy · wikedfairy

im debbie, and im engaged to an alcoholic. he doesnt lie, cheat or steal, like some. hes the hardest working man ive ever known, honest to a fault, and a good man. And most of the time, his drinking doesnt affect anything. Except when it does. We are in the process of him moving from Canada to the US. He is ho...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Living with an active A, at times could be pure hell. I never knew who was walking through the door. I was always on guard of what I said, as not start some pointless argument. I would often go to bed feeling empty and alone. Now here I am getting some of what I had prayed for, yet still feeling as crappy as I h...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, it's been so long since I have posted here, but I read this board religiously and it keeps me grounded, especially the stories from a few of you that have recently left their alcoholic partners like me, I have been separated since July. I still try and make it to f2f meetings, and I'm in thera...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

This is all so hard and I am soooooo thankful I have found this community to help me through this difficult time, and allows me to vent frustrations. So as I have said before in other posts--my AH is one that drinks only at night and usually 3-4 beers about 4 -5 nights a week. In order to cope and keep sane an...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64131660/alanon-step-10-11-19-2017/

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

My two girls have just started school. Its a great time in our lives. I eagerly volunteered to be a member of the new Parent Staff Association. However, one meeting in and two days of WhatsApp messages I am experiencing sinking feelings, dread, anxiety and probably a good dose of confusion. I feel that...

joker · joker

I am feeling so angry this morning again. The feeling inside me feels so awful. I feel in rage. I went to a face to face meeting last night and shared my feelings. I was so angry and i cried. I came home to the alcoholic drunk and he spend hours, upon hours talking to to his ex-wife who he says he plans to go back...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I had never heard that as a topic before in any recovery meeting I've ever been to. I went to the morning meeting because I needed to be in the dialogue where I often find the characteristics of my Higher Power and a friend of mine started the sharing and with the topic of Tenderness and I got triggered b...

WestMan · WestMan

I'm often reading something on my phone before bed or pulling it out if I've been tossing and turning. Once that light hits my eyes it's all over. Very difficult to get back to sleep. And even with the screen dimmed completely it's too bright. A couple months ago I downloaded a blue-light filter app. I fa...

The Learner · The Learner

Hi Folks Iâm new to the board and Al-Anon. Iâve been to 4 meetings and asked someone to sponsor me. Iâve been in and out of 12 step meetings for many years. In other programs I was encouraged to work an honest program but my new sponsor keeps telling me to keep it light and Polite and it seems like sheâs telli...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting the work we need to do for ourselves. I understand that many (including me) came to this program thinking it may help fix situations that arose with our qualifiers or even, may help fix our qualifiers! I quickly learned that I had plenty to do i...

lookingup · lookingup

I am Grateful for Alanon ,and that I'm a part of a worldwide group that offers me a better way of life despite the difficulties of living with an alcoholic/drug addict . their social and customs are different from mine,the spirit that motivates us is the same .this holds us together as one united fellow...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Yesterday I told my son that I changed the legal separation to DIVORCE. I told him that it took awhile, but in looking inward and working on me, I realized that even if his dad came out of rehab a new and improved version of himself, I would be thankful for that, and so happy FOR HIM, but I found that I will al...

Willing2try · Willing2try

My husband just decided to go to rehab and it's been a long struggle before hand. I'm relieved that he went because it has been a long time struggling to deal with the consequences of his actions and the pain that he's caused our family. because I have two beautiful children that I didn't want to separate...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

... and as an adult member of Alanon, I'm grateful for lessons learned in this program. I wish my non alcoholic parent had had the benefit of this program when I was living in our home with an active alcoholic. If my parent had been a member of Alanon, they might have read the Merrygoround of Denial pamphl...

Juno · Juno

I am considering attending an al anon meeting where I live but I'm not sure if my situation is right for these meetings, so I help that someone can help me. I've looked the things on our UK website that help you decide whether al anon is right and some of them I answer yes to but only a few. My husband is sobe...

joker · joker

After last night alcoholic being drunk and calling me down again, said I was lazy, I refuse too work, he is disgusted that I am not working, while he has to get up every morning and go to work, ect..I went to bed and put in ear plugs and went went to sleep. I did not wake up this morning at 5 am like I usually do, a...

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	THE MOOD SWINGS!!! (Preview) I am so exhausted from my husband's mood swings. One day he is so nice and loving and thankful the next day everything overwhelms him and we can't talk about anything without it becoming a fight. I have locked myself in my study and sent him out for the whole morning to "play with our kid" so I could clean th...	AnnieFenk321	8	479	Nov 28, 2017 by Maresie
	C2C, 11/27 (Preview) Gifts from Alanon : Today's reading talks about what the writer accomplished from being a member of Alanon as well as from having a relationship with HP. These gifts include proud of being a survivor, acknowlegement of having dignity, having a wealth of experience that he/she can share, doesn't...	Lyne	6	392	Nov 28, 2017 by Maresie
	Need to sit in the silence... Help? (Preview) I am really struggling to be my recovery self in the non recovery world. I know this is not helped by my long held patterns of "all or nothing". Example: I spent almost five years literally shut out from the world. By choice. To recover, starting with the road to rock bottom. Now I'm on wobbly legs....	a4l	10	2728	Nov 28, 2017 by Maresie
	WHY DO YOU STAY?! - so frustrated right now. (Preview) My husband doesn't work. He spends money on things for himself regardless of whether we can afford it or not, when he wants to he just takes the money. He shoplifts and drinks and uses porn. He claims he has stopped now... He is angry and depressed a lot of the time. He speaks to me rudely and angrily all t...	AnnieFenk321	9	609	Nov 28, 2017 by Maresie
	Stressed! (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm really stressed over my ex's behaviour recently. We split up because of his drinking and being aggressive when drunk. And I will be leaving within the next couple months. His drinking has escalated recently and I'm finding him impossible to be around lately. I'm worried, he d...	Mabel	10	558	Nov 28, 2017 by Maresie
	adult daughter and husband drinking too much, what's your advice for me? (Preview) My AD and her husband are over drinking. Not sure if they're alcoholics, or just over drinking, but that's for them to figure out, not me. We have a really good relationship with both of them. They are 30. This is not the first time my husband and I have worried or observed that they drink too much. So...	fullmom	10	602	Nov 27, 2017 by Maresie
	Suggested to AH separation (Preview) My AH was once sober for 12 years then on and off every few months for years. Now he is drinking every month. It is escalating and I am scared. We have been through marriage counseling more than once and he has had counseling more than once. He has had a DUI. I am so tired of this. Even when he's not drinki...	wifeofalcoholic	3	588	Nov 27, 2017 by Takotsubo
	Detaching VS Letting Go (Preview) I would much appreciate any ESH on the differences in detaching vs letting go.Examples sure would be great.	SoggySlippers	5	602	Nov 27, 2017 by Jerry F
	Missing memories .. (Preview) My daughter in having contact with her dad has once again had another bad episode of the anxiety/Tourette's. It was really bad. Of course she didn't tell me and that irritates me more than anything because someone who has known her 3 months and has not lived the situation with her has all of the inf...	SerenityRUS	8	563	Nov 27, 2017 by serenity47
	the hardest thing i have ever had to do (Preview) I ask AH to not come home for a while. About 5 days ago I had a chat with "sober" AH and we had a really good talk. Although he remained strong that he could stop drinking on his own without help. I told AH that I would give him one chance and one chance only. Never really believing that I would have to act on that...	Curlyblu	13	765	Nov 27, 2017 by Iamhere
	While shepherds washed their socks by night- (Preview) -all seated on the ground... it is thanksgiving in Canada and USA, coming up- great expectations... In NZ we don't have thanksgiving- we wait until Christmas for family get togethers and feasting. Yesterday we had a birthday party down by the lake- for our youngest daughter. She had two friends wit...	DavidG	19	3019	Nov 27, 2017 by Iamhere
	"The Spiritual Foundation" (Preview) There was a recent thread where a newcomer had come to this MIP site to ask about an alcoholic symptom a "friend" is apparently exhibiting. I saw it and believed it belonged in the appropriate room of AA because we don't keep focus on the alcoholic in Al-Anon. ....yet I recalled my own need to understan...	2HP	5	856	Nov 27, 2017 by Iamhere
	Financial consequences :( :( (Preview) I got to the end of reading the big book and it talks there about a wife whose formerly alcoholic husband drank a lot of coffee and smoked a lot after he became sober and how eventually her nagging led him to get angry and eventually drink again. The book says that while he was clearly at fault, she learned t...	AnnieFenk321	5	694	Nov 27, 2017 by AnnieFenk321
	Thanksgiving support (Preview) Courage and I will be keeping the chat room open today for anyone that needs support during the holiday. This is something that we used to do in the room before John passed. In his memory I'd like to see us do this again throughout the holidays. We know that for many dealing with the disease of alcoholism,...	Overcome	7	2387	Nov 26, 2017 by wp
	Hope for Today Nov 26 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about the chaos that an alcoholic home can be. Many of us who grew up in or have lived in a home with an A have learned some survival techniques like-not trusting anyone, not being trustworthy, being unable to stand up for ourselves. A sentence that resonated fo...	yanksfan51	4	502	Nov 26, 2017 by Iamhere
	A mothers fear but handing it over. (Preview) I have returned from my week long visit with my daughter. I did stay in the hotel for the entire week as planned and we carried on with our activities despite the chaos/drama unfolding at her house. For the most part she was very pleasant to be around and we had some fun. I was honoured to meet her sponso...	serenity47	3	469	Nov 26, 2017 by hotrod
	adopting new roles (Preview) this is my first post in this forum, so I'm sorry if it's a bit all over the place. my mother has struggled with alcoholism for the past 5 years, and recently I've reached a breaking point. it's gotten to the point where Im not happy coming home anymore, and im constantly in fear of another relapse (she's...	Lele	5	449	Nov 26, 2017 by Maresie
	Update (Preview) Hey all! So, since ABF ended up on hospital (parents took him after seeing him in withdrawal - they finally saw the complete effect of his drinking) he hasn't drunk at all and he's been in group therapy and is on the waiting list for individual therapy. The stress of the drinking has reduced - although t...	MizzB	9	617	Nov 25, 2017 by MaggieRuth
	Update (Preview) So I get two cards on Thanksgiving from my AH's mother. One for myself, and one for my kid. Both have a $20.00 in them. So I called up my MIL to thank her, and I ask why the money? She told me she just feels so bad about this situation, and she loves us and wants to help out, but that's the best she can do. Awe, so sh...	PosiesandPuppies	4	464	Nov 25, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Still Blah .. (Preview) This has been the craziest week and I think I pretty well kicked my program out of the window. Actually it was a way crappy start to the week. My daughter had a serious lack of aduling and has now been handed the mantel of this is so not my problem as a result. She's got some serious consequences at the mom...	SerenityRUS	5	483	Nov 25, 2017 by Aline
	Last day of work not fun (Preview) Hi, working through my irritation with myself. Sorry if the post is jumbled, I'm tired and thoughts go several directions, I guess. Today was my last day in my current job, now a week ahead before starting the new one. Worked 10 hours, still didn't do all I wanted/needed (?) to make the passing of the pro...	Aline	5	439	Nov 25, 2017 by Aline
	About Crying (Preview) Yesterday,being Thanksgiving,was full of so many thoughts and feelings and also decisions for me,and I really struggled to maintain my composure.I believed the best way to get through the day was to be as strong as I could,just suck it up and push through it.I came here to chat,which was very helpful...	SoggySlippers	9	518	Nov 24, 2017 by SoggySlippers
	craziness does not stop (Preview) I am still in hotel and having anxiety as I have to return home tomorrow. I am not looking forward to seeing the alcoholic. I keep thinking he is just a roommate, he is just a roommate. I have nothing to fear. I have nothing to fear. I had a good day today as I called some lawyers and got legal advise on the hous...	joker	6	1950	Nov 24, 2017 by Mattie
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/24/17 (Preview) Today's daily discusses Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Step Ten is our daily reminder to let go of that which holds us back - judgment of others, inventory of others, etc. We are reminded to continue to take our own inventory instead of ot...	Iamhere	2	369	Nov 24, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Happy Thanksgiving to my MIP family! I am grateful to all of you as you help me to grow and change. Love, Lyne	Lyne	5	2726	Nov 23, 2017 by Jerry F
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Good Morning MIP I pray that everyone enjoys Happy Thanksgiving Enjoy and please do not eat too much turkey	hotrod	4	2221	Nov 23, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	HAPPY TURKEY DAY (Preview) HAVE A GREAT DAY AND BE GRATEFUL. HUGS TO ALL OF YOU. IM GRATEFUL FOR ALANON AND THE LESSONS I LEARN ABOUT. THEY SERVE ME WELL DAILY ALYCE	YARNCRAZY	3	2455	Nov 23, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Struggling to get thru the holidays... (Preview) Hello all..its been a while since Ive posted so I apologize in advance if this is longwinded. My sponsor is not available right now and Im boiling over and need to get it out....Just really need to vent I guess or maybe just need to figure out what program tool to use to pull myself together while I try to ge...	Hopefull15	1	2130	Nov 23, 2017 by Maresie
	progress today (Preview) Just a update. I slept downstairs last night and this morning I got up and the alcoholic left for work. I did absolutely nothing, I mean nothing to clean the house. I am off on sick leave from work and usually I have the house cleaned and have a meal cooked, chorus done around the house, groceries bought e...	joker	3	1004	Nov 23, 2017 by 2HP
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/23/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. Today's reading is about "Keep it Simple". The writer discusses goals and dreams that seemed way too hard or large to accomplish at times, therefore ... never started. Keep it simple can remind us to simplify dreams and goals into one step at a time instead of viewing the ta...	Iamhere	2	2354	Nov 23, 2017 by Aline
	I HAVE To Know,I HAVE To Snoop (Preview) I'm sitting here with anxiety because I feel like I HAVE to snoop through my husbands phone and I'm trying so hard to not do it. He didn't work today,said it was cancelled due to the weather.I want to believe him and it's probably true,he works outside and his work is dependent on the weather and has been c...	SoggySlippers	10	3785	Nov 23, 2017 by Iamhere
	Parenting with an irresponsible person? How to detach?! (Preview) I have really been trying to let go of controlling my husband. One of the biggest obstacles, both practically and intellectually, is parenting together. My husband's issues do not for the most part make him incapable of parenting our son. What's more, I really need him to be able to parent so I am abl...	AnnieFenk321	4	2869	Nov 23, 2017 by AnnieFenk321
	My husband just started drinking again after 2 years sober (Preview) Hi, I am new to forums and have only attended a handful of Al-Anon meeting in the past, but I need help and I don't know where else to turn. My husband started drinking again in June after being sober for over 2 years. I was very resistant to the idea of him drinking, but he assured me that it would only be a few...	lilkbbk	10	2340	Nov 22, 2017 by WestMan
	taking sanity steps (Preview) After Saturday's breakdown, my behavior, being so out of control, due to the alcoholic talking with his ex-wife, drunk. I decided, after a face to face meeting Friday night, I had enough. I am not going to keep living like this anymore. I went out and looked at an apartment today, but just did not feel ri...	joker	5	2447	Nov 22, 2017 by YARNCRAZY
	Courage to Change November 22 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about Al Anon as a spiritual recovery program. (Other readings discuss that spiritual and religious or dogmatic are different things, and that each member is encouraged to find a spiritual connection to the higher power of their own under...	Skorpi	3	736	Nov 22, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	new member - am I eligible for AlAnon? (Preview) Hi, I am married to a man who has been sober in NA for many many years until recently. When I married him, he was really involved in his fellowship and helping others. Over the last two years he dropped off and stopped attending meetings because we were living in an area that didn't have strong fellowshi...	AnnieFenk321	5	2166	Nov 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	Need help with boundaries (Preview) I need help on how to set a boundary with my spouse. Last night I found out that he had driven with my 4 year old in the car after drinking. This is the first time this has happened, and I need it to be the last. I am very new to the concept of Al-Anon and believe I need to go to meetings, not only because of my hu...	thisisit	10	2994	Nov 21, 2017 by Iamhere
	The Dove (Preview) I saw this posted on another site and it really got me to thinking that it isn't just a coincidence that my tiny house sits right next to a dove aviary! I hear them all the time! Dove:"The Dove represents peace of the deepest kind. It soothes and quiets our worried and troubled thoughts, and enables us to...	PosiesandPuppies	7	2125	Nov 21, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	My beloved daughter is SIX YEARS sober (Preview) it CAN be done..Sobriety and good thinking CAN be achieved..With work, dedication, healthy self love and fair discipline it CAN be done.. My beloved girl is SIX YEARS SOBER as of yesterday, well its Monday, now, LOL, so SATURDAY marked the sixth year of being sober..We had a wonderful talk today!!! p...	mamalioness	9	910	Nov 21, 2017 by mamalioness
	Trust issues (Preview) I am recently broke up with a boyfriend who grew up in an alcoholic home as I did. We did live together once and we separated. It was a constant battle between us. We were both controlling and have trust issues. I still don't trust him and I want to but my instincts tell me not to. We talked about counse...	gailstewie	8	2958	Nov 21, 2017 by mamalioness
	I lost my job yesterday! (Preview) I was let go from my firm yesterday for underperformance. Long story short, I had a lot of deals pending in my pipeline, but nothing was coming in to the firm except a few small accounts and they said it wasn't enough. They gave me 17 weeks to perform to their standards and I didn't meet expectations. S...	andromeda	24	2797	Nov 21, 2017 by a4l
	C2C, 11/20 (Preview) Spirit: The writer speaks about generations of alcoholism in his/her family had broken his spirit. But Alanon has given him a fellowship which allows for healing. Finding a God of his understanding, could restore him to his true self. Today he is able to celebrate being alive. Today's reminder...	Lyne	4	2373	Nov 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	ODAT Reading 11-21-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 21 speaks about the importance of keeping an open mind and embracing the humility of the program. The reading provides an example of a family who are accustomed to entertaining and when one enters AA, cannot understand why the alcohol consumption must be eliminated Th...	hotrod	3	2104	Nov 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	hi i guess (Preview) im debbie, and im engaged to an alcoholic. he doesnt lie, cheat or steal, like some. hes the hardest working man ive ever known, honest to a fault, and a good man. And most of the time, his drinking doesnt affect anything. Except when it does. We are in the process of him moving from Canada to the US. He is ho...	wikedfairy	6	1527	Nov 21, 2017 by wikedfairy
	does it ever just go away (Preview) Living with an active A, at times could be pure hell. I never knew who was walking through the door. I was always on guard of what I said, as not start some pointless argument. I would often go to bed feeling empty and alone. Now here I am getting some of what I had prayed for, yet still feeling as crappy as I h...	Curlyblu	6	580	Nov 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	Do I go along with the lies?! (Preview) Hi everyone, it's been so long since I have posted here, but I read this board religiously and it keeps me grounded, especially the stories from a few of you that have recently left their alcoholic partners like me, I have been separated since July. I still try and make it to f2f meetings, and I'm in thera...	VickiR	8	2134	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Need help in understanding my relationship with AH (Preview) This is all so hard and I am soooooo thankful I have found this community to help me through this difficult time, and allows me to vent frustrations. So as I have said before in other posts--my AH is one that drinks only at night and usually 3-4 beers about 4 -5 nights a week. In order to cope and keep sane an...	Dancer66	2	2437	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	STEP 10 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64131660/alanon-step-10-11-19-2017/	hotrod	1	2408	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Sinking feelings as I join the new PSA! (Preview) My two girls have just started school. Its a great time in our lives. I eagerly volunteered to be a member of the new Parent Staff Association. However, one meeting in and two days of WhatsApp messages I am experiencing sinking feelings, dread, anxiety and probably a good dose of confusion. I feel that...	Faintly Falling	17	1116	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Not proud of my behavior (Preview) I am feeling so angry this morning again. The feeling inside me feels so awful. I feel in rage. I went to a face to face meeting last night and shared my feelings. I was so angry and i cried. I came home to the alcoholic drunk and he spend hours, upon hours talking to to his ex-wife who he says he plans to go back...	joker	3	3292	Nov 20, 2017 by Skorpi
	Tenderness (Preview) I had never heard that as a topic before in any recovery meeting I've ever been to. I went to the morning meeting because I needed to be in the dialogue where I often find the characteristics of my Higher Power and a friend of mine started the sharing and with the topic of Tenderness and I got triggered b...	Jerry F	6	1170	Nov 19, 2017 by Jerry F
	A Practical Sleep Tip (Preview) I'm often reading something on my phone before bed or pulling it out if I've been tossing and turning. Once that light hits my eyes it's all over. Very difficult to get back to sleep. And even with the screen dimmed completely it's too bright. A couple months ago I downloaded a blue-light filter app. I fa...	WestMan	5	1916	Nov 19, 2017 by 2HP
	Light and Polite (Preview) Hi Folks Iâm new to the board and Al-Anon. Iâve been to 4 meetings and asked someone to sponsor me. Iâve been in and out of 12 step meetings for many years. In other programs I was encouraged to work an honest program but my new sponsor keeps telling me to keep it light and Polite and it seems like sheâs telli...	The Learner	4	2417	Nov 19, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Nov 19 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting the work we need to do for ourselves. I understand that many (including me) came to this program thinking it may help fix situations that arose with our qualifiers or even, may help fix our qualifiers! I quickly learned that I had plenty to do i...	yanksfan51	2	3042	Nov 19, 2017 by hotrod
	odat 11/18/17 (Preview) I am Grateful for Alanon ,and that I'm a part of a worldwide group that offers me a better way of life despite the difficulties of living with an alcoholic/drug addict . their social and customs are different from mine,the spirit that motivates us is the same .this holds us together as one united fellow...	lookingup	2	1917	Nov 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	Told my son (Preview) Yesterday I told my son that I changed the legal separation to DIVORCE. I told him that it took awhile, but in looking inward and working on me, I realized that even if his dad came out of rehab a new and improved version of himself, I would be thankful for that, and so happy FOR HIM, but I found that I will al...	PosiesandPuppies	5	2382	Nov 18, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Anger (Preview) My husband just decided to go to rehab and it's been a long struggle before hand. I'm relieved that he went because it has been a long time struggling to deal with the consequences of his actions and the pain that he's caused our family. because I have two beautiful children that I didn't want to separate...	Willing2try	3	1692	Nov 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	As a Child of an Alcoholic (Preview) ... and as an adult member of Alanon, I'm grateful for lessons learned in this program. I wish my non alcoholic parent had had the benefit of this program when I was living in our home with an active alcoholic. If my parent had been a member of Alanon, they might have read the Merrygoround of Denial pamphl...	tiredtonite	4	1480	Nov 18, 2017 by Maresie
	Is al anon right for me? (Preview) I am considering attending an al anon meeting where I live but I'm not sure if my situation is right for these meetings, so I help that someone can help me. I've looked the things on our UK website that help you decide whether al anon is right and some of them I answer yes to but only a few. My husband is sobe...	Juno	10	3031	Nov 18, 2017 by Maresie
	Spoke my truth (Preview) After last night alcoholic being drunk and calling me down again, said I was lazy, I refuse too work, he is disgusted that I am not working, while he has to get up every morning and go to work, ect..I went to bed and put in ear plugs and went went to sleep. I did not wake up this morning at 5 am like I usually do, a...	joker	1	1468	Nov 18, 2017 by Isthisreallife
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