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PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

So I get two cards on Thanksgiving from my AH's mother. One for myself, and one for my kid. Both have a $20.00 in them. So I called up my MIL to thank her, and I ask why the money? She told me she just feels so bad about this situation, and she loves us and wants to help out, but that's the best she can do. Awe, so sh...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This has been the craziest week and I think I pretty well kicked my program out of the window. Actually it was a way crappy start to the week. My daughter had a serious lack of aduling and has now been handed the mantel of this is so not my problem as a result. She's got some serious consequences at the mom...

Aline · Aline

Hi, working through my irritation with myself. Sorry if the post is jumbled, I'm tired and thoughts go several directions, I guess. Today was my last day in my current job, now a week ahead before starting the new one. Worked 10 hours, still didn't do all I wanted/needed (?) to make the passing of the pro...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

Yesterday,being Thanksgiving,was full of so many thoughts and feelings and also decisions for me,and I really struggled to maintain my composure.I believed the best way to get through the day was to be as strong as I could,just suck it up and push through it.I came here to chat,which was very helpful...

joker · joker

I am still in hotel and having anxiety as I have to return home tomorrow. I am not looking forward to seeing the alcoholic. I keep thinking he is just a roommate, he is just a roommate. I have nothing to fear. I have nothing to fear. I had a good day today as I called some lawyers and got legal advise on the hous...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's daily discusses Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Step Ten is our daily reminder to let go of that which holds us back - judgment of others, inventory of others, etc. We are reminded to continue to take our own inventory instead of ot...

Lyne · Lyne

Happy Thanksgiving to my MIP family! I am grateful to all of you as you help me to grow and change. Love, Lyne

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning MIP I pray that everyone enjoys Happy Thanksgiving Enjoy and please do not eat too much turkey

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

HAVE A GREAT DAY AND BE GRATEFUL. HUGS TO ALL OF YOU. IM GRATEFUL FOR ALANON AND THE LESSONS I LEARN ABOUT. THEY SERVE ME WELL DAILY ALYCE

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

Hello all..its been a while since Ive posted so I apologize in advance if this is longwinded. My sponsor is not available right now and Im boiling over and need to get it out....Just really need to vent I guess or maybe just need to figure out what program tool to use to pull myself together while I try to ge...

joker · joker

Just a update. I slept downstairs last night and this morning I got up and the alcoholic left for work. I did absolutely nothing, I mean nothing to clean the house. I am off on sick leave from work and usually I have the house cleaned and have a meal cooked, chorus done around the house, groceries bought e...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning MIP family. Today's reading is about "Keep it Simple". The writer discusses goals and dreams that seemed way too hard or large to accomplish at times, therefore ... never started. Keep it simple can remind us to simplify dreams and goals into one step at a time instead of viewing the ta...

SoggySlippers · SoggySlippers

I'm sitting here with anxiety because I feel like I HAVE to snoop through my husbands phone and I'm trying so hard to not do it. He didn't work today,said it was cancelled due to the weather.I want to believe him and it's probably true,he works outside and his work is dependent on the weather and has been c...

AnnieFenk321 · AnnieFenk321

I have really been trying to let go of controlling my husband. One of the biggest obstacles, both practically and intellectually, is parenting together. My husband's issues do not for the most part make him incapable of parenting our son. What's more, I really need him to be able to parent so I am abl...

lilkbbk · lilkbbk

Hi, I am new to forums and have only attended a handful of Al-Anon meeting in the past, but I need help and I don't know where else to turn. My husband started drinking again in June after being sober for over 2 years. I was very resistant to the idea of him drinking, but he assured me that it would only be a few...

joker · joker

After Saturday's breakdown, my behavior, being so out of control, due to the alcoholic talking with his ex-wife, drunk. I decided, after a face to face meeting Friday night, I had enough. I am not going to keep living like this anymore. I went out and looked at an apartment today, but just did not feel ri...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about Al Anon as a spiritual recovery program. (Other readings discuss that spiritual and religious or dogmatic are different things, and that each member is encouraged to find a spiritual connection to the higher power of their own under...

new member - am I eligible for AlAnon? · AnnieFenk321

Hi, I am married to a man who has been sober in NA for many many years until recently. When I married him, he was really involved in his fellowship and helping others. Over the last two years he dropped off and stopped attending meetings because we were living in an area that didn't have strong fellowshi...

thisisit · thisisit

I need help on how to set a boundary with my spouse. Last night I found out that he had driven with my 4 year old in the car after drinking. This is the first time this has happened, and I need it to be the last. I am very new to the concept of Al-Anon and believe I need to go to meetings, not only because of my hu...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

I saw this posted on another site and it really got me to thinking that it isn't just a coincidence that my tiny house sits right next to a dove aviary! I hear them all the time! Dove:"The Dove represents peace of the deepest kind. It soothes and quiets our worried and troubled thoughts, and enables us to...

mamalioness · mamalioness

it CAN be done..Sobriety and good thinking CAN be achieved..With work, dedication, healthy self love and fair discipline it CAN be done.. My beloved girl is SIX YEARS SOBER as of yesterday, well its Monday, now, LOL, so SATURDAY marked the sixth year of being sober..We had a wonderful talk today!!! p...

gailstewie · gailstewie

I am recently broke up with a boyfriend who grew up in an alcoholic home as I did. We did live together once and we separated. It was a constant battle between us. We were both controlling and have trust issues. I still don't trust him and I want to but my instincts tell me not to. We talked about counse...

andromeda · andromeda

I was let go from my firm yesterday for underperformance. Long story short, I had a lot of deals pending in my pipeline, but nothing was coming in to the firm except a few small accounts and they said it wasn't enough. They gave me 17 weeks to perform to their standards and I didn't meet expectations. S...

Lyne · Lyne

Spirit: The writer speaks about generations of alcoholism in his/her family had broken his spirit. But Alanon has given him a fellowship which allows for healing. Finding a God of his understanding, could restore him to his true self. Today he is able to celebrate being alive. Today's reminder...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 21 speaks about the importance of keeping an open mind and embracing the humility of the program. The reading provides an example of a family who are accustomed to entertaining and when one enters AA, cannot understand why the alcohol consumption must be eliminated Th...

wikedfairy · wikedfairy

im debbie, and im engaged to an alcoholic. he doesnt lie, cheat or steal, like some. hes the hardest working man ive ever known, honest to a fault, and a good man. And most of the time, his drinking doesnt affect anything. Except when it does. We are in the process of him moving from Canada to the US. He is ho...

Curlyblu · Curlyblu

Living with an active A, at times could be pure hell. I never knew who was walking through the door. I was always on guard of what I said, as not start some pointless argument. I would often go to bed feeling empty and alone. Now here I am getting some of what I had prayed for, yet still feeling as crappy as I h...

VickiR · VickiR

Hi everyone, it's been so long since I have posted here, but I read this board religiously and it keeps me grounded, especially the stories from a few of you that have recently left their alcoholic partners like me, I have been separated since July. I still try and make it to f2f meetings, and I'm in thera...

Dancer66 · Dancer66

This is all so hard and I am soooooo thankful I have found this community to help me through this difficult time, and allows me to vent frustrations. So as I have said before in other posts--my AH is one that drinks only at night and usually 3-4 beers about 4 -5 nights a week. In order to cope and keep sane an...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64131660/alanon-step-10-11-19-2017/

Faintly Falling · Faintly Falling

My two girls have just started school. Its a great time in our lives. I eagerly volunteered to be a member of the new Parent Staff Association. However, one meeting in and two days of WhatsApp messages I am experiencing sinking feelings, dread, anxiety and probably a good dose of confusion. I feel that...

joker · joker

I am feeling so angry this morning again. The feeling inside me feels so awful. I feel in rage. I went to a face to face meeting last night and shared my feelings. I was so angry and i cried. I came home to the alcoholic drunk and he spend hours, upon hours talking to to his ex-wife who he says he plans to go back...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I had never heard that as a topic before in any recovery meeting I've ever been to. I went to the morning meeting because I needed to be in the dialogue where I often find the characteristics of my Higher Power and a friend of mine started the sharing and with the topic of Tenderness and I got triggered b...

WestMan · WestMan

I'm often reading something on my phone before bed or pulling it out if I've been tossing and turning. Once that light hits my eyes it's all over. Very difficult to get back to sleep. And even with the screen dimmed completely it's too bright. A couple months ago I downloaded a blue-light filter app. I fa...

The Learner · The Learner

Hi Folks Iâm new to the board and Al-Anon. Iâve been to 4 meetings and asked someone to sponsor me. Iâve been in and out of 12 step meetings for many years. In other programs I was encouraged to work an honest program but my new sponsor keeps telling me to keep it light and Polite and it seems like sheâs telli...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting the work we need to do for ourselves. I understand that many (including me) came to this program thinking it may help fix situations that arose with our qualifiers or even, may help fix our qualifiers! I quickly learned that I had plenty to do i...

lookingup · lookingup

I am Grateful for Alanon ,and that I'm a part of a worldwide group that offers me a better way of life despite the difficulties of living with an alcoholic/drug addict . their social and customs are different from mine,the spirit that motivates us is the same .this holds us together as one united fellow...

PosiesandPuppies · PosiesandPuppies

Yesterday I told my son that I changed the legal separation to DIVORCE. I told him that it took awhile, but in looking inward and working on me, I realized that even if his dad came out of rehab a new and improved version of himself, I would be thankful for that, and so happy FOR HIM, but I found that I will al...

Willing2try · Willing2try

My husband just decided to go to rehab and it's been a long struggle before hand. I'm relieved that he went because it has been a long time struggling to deal with the consequences of his actions and the pain that he's caused our family. because I have two beautiful children that I didn't want to separate...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

... and as an adult member of Alanon, I'm grateful for lessons learned in this program. I wish my non alcoholic parent had had the benefit of this program when I was living in our home with an active alcoholic. If my parent had been a member of Alanon, they might have read the Merrygoround of Denial pamphl...

Juno · Juno

I am considering attending an al anon meeting where I live but I'm not sure if my situation is right for these meetings, so I help that someone can help me. I've looked the things on our UK website that help you decide whether al anon is right and some of them I answer yes to but only a few. My husband is sobe...

joker · joker

After last night alcoholic being drunk and calling me down again, said I was lazy, I refuse too work, he is disgusted that I am not working, while he has to get up every morning and go to work, ect..I went to bed and put in ear plugs and went went to sleep. I did not wake up this morning at 5 am like I usually do, a...

Isthisreallife · Isthisreallife

I've been slowly building evidence of my husband's drinking problem and looking for a way out. I'm a stay at home.mom with no access to our money. However, things have gotten to the breaking point. Yesterday I had a Dr appt and he said the kids could stay home with him while I went. However, he was drink an...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Good morning all. Today's reading is about "Keep Coming Back". It's a phrase that is stated and heard in recovery all the time. The writer discusses why it's so important. Many of us have grown so hardened in our fight with alcoholics or flights from them that we find it difficult to sit still for th...

joker · joker

I have been trying to keep myself busy so that I am thinking of the alcoholic and ways to keep myself so busy he does not see me. I have been going to face to face meetings but I find I am still around the house when the alcoholic is around and I really need to get a life of my own so I do not see the alcoholic much. W...

Aerin · Aerin

Did/Does anyone have issues with the A posting on social media? this was One of my biggest problems and I donât see anyone addressing this.. my boyfriend would be drinking and go on Facebook and post the most ridiculous statuses or pictures and it was obvious that he had been drinking . was very embarra...

Auntielala · Auntielala

First time to this board. I think, as a mom, I'm just trying to stick to the "rules" as given to me at Hazelden. I learned a lot in the classes that I attended as my 23 year old son was an inpatient there for 30 days. I was so optimistic and he seemed so much better. Although during his stay, he never relented fr...

joker · joker

I was in such a good place yesterday. I am not back in the dumps again. I cried this morning, as I was so hurt. It felt good to cry. I went to a face to face meeting last night and I came home to the alcoholic drinking beer again. I got angry with him as I came home to see him drinking. I should have known better the...

joker · joker

My crazy emotions of anger feels like it has gone down, finally. I was feeling so angry and now I feel a sense of giving up. I can not change the alcoholic. I do not discuss drinking anymore with him. I just let him be. Drink, see if I care. I just have given up completely. He is drinking daily now and I say what...

Iamhere · Iamhere

Today's reading in Hope for Today shares about letting go and letting God. The writer discusses a first trip after becoming handicapped. She was anxious to be travelling alone and even a bit more so because her travel was to another country with different customs, etc. She used her tools to get read...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Good Morning Everyone, If you would like an Alanon meeting, please join us. Our topics this morning are Choices, Courage to Change ane the slogan Listen and Learn. Thanks TT

serenity47 · serenity47

Difficult day today filled with much drama and extreme worry. As I had anticipated, AD relationship has gone from bad to worse. I did involve myself to the extent of calling the police this afternoon following a text from her that he had thrown her keys to her vehicle in the bushes when she attempted t...

Junenine · Junenine

i'm still processing everything i went through with my ex, who is recently in recovery. wondering if anyone can shed light on this addiction question. when we were together he went through 2 outpatient detox programs and 2 inpatient detox/rehabs. he stopped drinking, at least for some time. but the...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Good morning MIP! I am off my normal routine today, and so I'm using yesterday's posting from today's hope online for today's topic. That seemed like a great fit because the share is about accepting change. The author shares that there have been times they are terrified of change, and that fear prev...

CarlyH · CarlyH

Most days this is how I wake up. As the day goes on I do get better as I will speak to myself and do things to take my mind off my AH. todsy Is not a good day Ive woke up shoutwe at my kids and now I feel terrible. I feel hurt and rejected today and used. AH keeps sending me messages each day - sMall ones. their s...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I had a breakup for the books with A ex bf. I moved on to date someone who is a non drinker. We have a wonderful time together.. it has been 2 years since I saw my ex. I cut all contact with him. He trailed off on trying to contact me this Jan. If you had asked me then what was going to happen to him, I would have sa...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT reading for November 14, states the simple fact that we find that God is more conscious to us when we are in the depths of despair. The reading suggests that this is when we are able to say" please God help.".It then goes on to remind us that when we do receive. help we should turn to God to ack...

hotrod · hotrod

Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 9 Has been posted to the Step Board. Here is the link : http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64115420/alan...

Heaven76 · Heaven76

Ive not felt this insecure in years.... my AH has been sober for almost a month and he is doing great. Going to outpatient classes and AA meetings. He is making new friends that understand his struggle. I guess you can say Im jealous.... I want to Be his person but he has all these new people (men and w...

mamalioness · mamalioness

Hey all!! Just checking in to say "hey" and to let you all know that , no, I wasn't kidnapped, I had a back spasm and have been doing research on what I can do to PREVENT or at least, Lessen these horrible episodes...This year I have had THREE...usually I get one, maybe 2 per year but this year has been awful....

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	Update (Preview) So I get two cards on Thanksgiving from my AH's mother. One for myself, and one for my kid. Both have a $20.00 in them. So I called up my MIL to thank her, and I ask why the money? She told me she just feels so bad about this situation, and she loves us and wants to help out, but that's the best she can do. Awe, so sh...	PosiesandPuppies	4	424	Nov 25, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Still Blah .. (Preview) This has been the craziest week and I think I pretty well kicked my program out of the window. Actually it was a way crappy start to the week. My daughter had a serious lack of aduling and has now been handed the mantel of this is so not my problem as a result. She's got some serious consequences at the mom...	SerenityRUS	5	440	Nov 25, 2017 by Aline
	Last day of work not fun (Preview) Hi, working through my irritation with myself. Sorry if the post is jumbled, I'm tired and thoughts go several directions, I guess. Today was my last day in my current job, now a week ahead before starting the new one. Worked 10 hours, still didn't do all I wanted/needed (?) to make the passing of the pro...	Aline	5	399	Nov 25, 2017 by Aline
	About Crying (Preview) Yesterday,being Thanksgiving,was full of so many thoughts and feelings and also decisions for me,and I really struggled to maintain my composure.I believed the best way to get through the day was to be as strong as I could,just suck it up and push through it.I came here to chat,which was very helpful...	SoggySlippers	9	466	Nov 24, 2017 by SoggySlippers
	craziness does not stop (Preview) I am still in hotel and having anxiety as I have to return home tomorrow. I am not looking forward to seeing the alcoholic. I keep thinking he is just a roommate, he is just a roommate. I have nothing to fear. I have nothing to fear. I had a good day today as I called some lawyers and got legal advise on the hous...	joker	6	1857	Nov 24, 2017 by Mattie
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/24/17 (Preview) Today's daily discusses Step Ten - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. Step Ten is our daily reminder to let go of that which holds us back - judgment of others, inventory of others, etc. We are reminded to continue to take our own inventory instead of ot...	Iamhere	2	336	Nov 24, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Happy Thanksgiving to my MIP family! I am grateful to all of you as you help me to grow and change. Love, Lyne	Lyne	5	2581	Nov 23, 2017 by Jerry F
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Good Morning MIP I pray that everyone enjoys Happy Thanksgiving Enjoy and please do not eat too much turkey	hotrod	4	2106	Nov 23, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	HAPPY TURKEY DAY (Preview) HAVE A GREAT DAY AND BE GRATEFUL. HUGS TO ALL OF YOU. IM GRATEFUL FOR ALANON AND THE LESSONS I LEARN ABOUT. THEY SERVE ME WELL DAILY ALYCE	YARNCRAZY	3	2310	Nov 23, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Struggling to get thru the holidays... (Preview) Hello all..its been a while since Ive posted so I apologize in advance if this is longwinded. My sponsor is not available right now and Im boiling over and need to get it out....Just really need to vent I guess or maybe just need to figure out what program tool to use to pull myself together while I try to ge...	Hopefull15	1	2018	Nov 23, 2017 by Maresie
	progress today (Preview) Just a update. I slept downstairs last night and this morning I got up and the alcoholic left for work. I did absolutely nothing, I mean nothing to clean the house. I am off on sick leave from work and usually I have the house cleaned and have a meal cooked, chorus done around the house, groceries bought e...	joker	3	934	Nov 23, 2017 by 2HP
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/23/17 (Preview) Good morning MIP family. Today's reading is about "Keep it Simple". The writer discusses goals and dreams that seemed way too hard or large to accomplish at times, therefore ... never started. Keep it simple can remind us to simplify dreams and goals into one step at a time instead of viewing the ta...	Iamhere	2	2215	Nov 23, 2017 by Aline
	I HAVE To Know,I HAVE To Snoop (Preview) I'm sitting here with anxiety because I feel like I HAVE to snoop through my husbands phone and I'm trying so hard to not do it. He didn't work today,said it was cancelled due to the weather.I want to believe him and it's probably true,he works outside and his work is dependent on the weather and has been c...	SoggySlippers	10	3499	Nov 23, 2017 by Iamhere
	Parenting with an irresponsible person? How to detach?! (Preview) I have really been trying to let go of controlling my husband. One of the biggest obstacles, both practically and intellectually, is parenting together. My husband's issues do not for the most part make him incapable of parenting our son. What's more, I really need him to be able to parent so I am abl...	AnnieFenk321	4	2699	Nov 23, 2017 by AnnieFenk321
	My husband just started drinking again after 2 years sober (Preview) Hi, I am new to forums and have only attended a handful of Al-Anon meeting in the past, but I need help and I don't know where else to turn. My husband started drinking again in June after being sober for over 2 years. I was very resistant to the idea of him drinking, but he assured me that it would only be a few...	lilkbbk	10	2194	Nov 22, 2017 by WestMan
	taking sanity steps (Preview) After Saturday's breakdown, my behavior, being so out of control, due to the alcoholic talking with his ex-wife, drunk. I decided, after a face to face meeting Friday night, I had enough. I am not going to keep living like this anymore. I went out and looked at an apartment today, but just did not feel ri...	joker	5	2283	Nov 22, 2017 by YARNCRAZY
	Courage to Change November 22 (Preview) Good morning, MIP! Today's reading in Courage to Change is about Al Anon as a spiritual recovery program. (Other readings discuss that spiritual and religious or dogmatic are different things, and that each member is encouraged to find a spiritual connection to the higher power of their own under...	Skorpi	3	670	Nov 22, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	new member - am I eligible for AlAnon? (Preview) Hi, I am married to a man who has been sober in NA for many many years until recently. When I married him, he was really involved in his fellowship and helping others. Over the last two years he dropped off and stopped attending meetings because we were living in an area that didn't have strong fellowshi...	AnnieFenk321	5	2001	Nov 22, 2017 by Iamhere
	Need help with boundaries (Preview) I need help on how to set a boundary with my spouse. Last night I found out that he had driven with my 4 year old in the car after drinking. This is the first time this has happened, and I need it to be the last. I am very new to the concept of Al-Anon and believe I need to go to meetings, not only because of my hu...	thisisit	10	2843	Nov 21, 2017 by Iamhere
	The Dove (Preview) I saw this posted on another site and it really got me to thinking that it isn't just a coincidence that my tiny house sits right next to a dove aviary! I hear them all the time! Dove:"The Dove represents peace of the deepest kind. It soothes and quiets our worried and troubled thoughts, and enables us to...	PosiesandPuppies	7	1980	Nov 21, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	My beloved daughter is SIX YEARS sober (Preview) it CAN be done..Sobriety and good thinking CAN be achieved..With work, dedication, healthy self love and fair discipline it CAN be done.. My beloved girl is SIX YEARS SOBER as of yesterday, well its Monday, now, LOL, so SATURDAY marked the sixth year of being sober..We had a wonderful talk today!!! p...	mamalioness	9	822	Nov 21, 2017 by mamalioness
	Trust issues (Preview) I am recently broke up with a boyfriend who grew up in an alcoholic home as I did. We did live together once and we separated. It was a constant battle between us. We were both controlling and have trust issues. I still don't trust him and I want to but my instincts tell me not to. We talked about counse...	gailstewie	8	2807	Nov 21, 2017 by mamalioness
	I lost my job yesterday! (Preview) I was let go from my firm yesterday for underperformance. Long story short, I had a lot of deals pending in my pipeline, but nothing was coming in to the firm except a few small accounts and they said it wasn't enough. They gave me 17 weeks to perform to their standards and I didn't meet expectations. S...	andromeda	24	2639	Nov 21, 2017 by a4l
	C2C, 11/20 (Preview) Spirit: The writer speaks about generations of alcoholism in his/her family had broken his spirit. But Alanon has given him a fellowship which allows for healing. Finding a God of his understanding, could restore him to his true self. Today he is able to celebrate being alive. Today's reminder...	Lyne	4	2218	Nov 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	ODAT Reading 11-21-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 21 speaks about the importance of keeping an open mind and embracing the humility of the program. The reading provides an example of a family who are accustomed to entertaining and when one enters AA, cannot understand why the alcohol consumption must be eliminated Th...	hotrod	3	1973	Nov 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	hi i guess (Preview) im debbie, and im engaged to an alcoholic. he doesnt lie, cheat or steal, like some. hes the hardest working man ive ever known, honest to a fault, and a good man. And most of the time, his drinking doesnt affect anything. Except when it does. We are in the process of him moving from Canada to the US. He is ho...	wikedfairy	6	1472	Nov 21, 2017 by wikedfairy
	does it ever just go away (Preview) Living with an active A, at times could be pure hell. I never knew who was walking through the door. I was always on guard of what I said, as not start some pointless argument. I would often go to bed feeling empty and alone. Now here I am getting some of what I had prayed for, yet still feeling as crappy as I h...	Curlyblu	6	492	Nov 21, 2017 by Curlyblu
	Do I go along with the lies?! (Preview) Hi everyone, it's been so long since I have posted here, but I read this board religiously and it keeps me grounded, especially the stories from a few of you that have recently left their alcoholic partners like me, I have been separated since July. I still try and make it to f2f meetings, and I'm in thera...	VickiR	8	1999	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Need help in understanding my relationship with AH (Preview) This is all so hard and I am soooooo thankful I have found this community to help me through this difficult time, and allows me to vent frustrations. So as I have said before in other posts--my AH is one that drinks only at night and usually 3-4 beers about 4 -5 nights a week. In order to cope and keep sane an...	Dancer66	2	2267	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	STEP 10 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64131660/alanon-step-10-11-19-2017/	hotrod	1	2278	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Sinking feelings as I join the new PSA! (Preview) My two girls have just started school. Its a great time in our lives. I eagerly volunteered to be a member of the new Parent Staff Association. However, one meeting in and two days of WhatsApp messages I am experiencing sinking feelings, dread, anxiety and probably a good dose of confusion. I feel that...	Faintly Falling	17	1058	Nov 20, 2017 by Iamhere
	Not proud of my behavior (Preview) I am feeling so angry this morning again. The feeling inside me feels so awful. I feel in rage. I went to a face to face meeting last night and shared my feelings. I was so angry and i cried. I came home to the alcoholic drunk and he spend hours, upon hours talking to to his ex-wife who he says he plans to go back...	joker	3	3114	Nov 20, 2017 by Skorpi
	Tenderness (Preview) I had never heard that as a topic before in any recovery meeting I've ever been to. I went to the morning meeting because I needed to be in the dialogue where I often find the characteristics of my Higher Power and a friend of mine started the sharing and with the topic of Tenderness and I got triggered b...	Jerry F	6	1088	Nov 19, 2017 by Jerry F
	A Practical Sleep Tip (Preview) I'm often reading something on my phone before bed or pulling it out if I've been tossing and turning. Once that light hits my eyes it's all over. Very difficult to get back to sleep. And even with the screen dimmed completely it's too bright. A couple months ago I downloaded a blue-light filter app. I fa...	WestMan	5	1790	Nov 19, 2017 by 2HP
	Light and Polite (Preview) Hi Folks Iâm new to the board and Al-Anon. Iâve been to 4 meetings and asked someone to sponsor me. Iâve been in and out of 12 step meetings for many years. In other programs I was encouraged to work an honest program but my new sponsor keeps telling me to keep it light and Polite and it seems like sheâs telli...	The Learner	4	2230	Nov 19, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Hope for Today Nov 19 (Preview) Good morning Everyone- Todays reading is about accepting the work we need to do for ourselves. I understand that many (including me) came to this program thinking it may help fix situations that arose with our qualifiers or even, may help fix our qualifiers! I quickly learned that I had plenty to do i...	yanksfan51	2	2872	Nov 19, 2017 by hotrod
	odat 11/18/17 (Preview) I am Grateful for Alanon ,and that I'm a part of a worldwide group that offers me a better way of life despite the difficulties of living with an alcoholic/drug addict . their social and customs are different from mine,the spirit that motivates us is the same .this holds us together as one united fellow...	lookingup	2	1779	Nov 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	Told my son (Preview) Yesterday I told my son that I changed the legal separation to DIVORCE. I told him that it took awhile, but in looking inward and working on me, I realized that even if his dad came out of rehab a new and improved version of himself, I would be thankful for that, and so happy FOR HIM, but I found that I will al...	PosiesandPuppies	5	2238	Nov 18, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Anger (Preview) My husband just decided to go to rehab and it's been a long struggle before hand. I'm relieved that he went because it has been a long time struggling to deal with the consequences of his actions and the pain that he's caused our family. because I have two beautiful children that I didn't want to separate...	Willing2try	3	1554	Nov 18, 2017 by Iamhere
	As a Child of an Alcoholic (Preview) ... and as an adult member of Alanon, I'm grateful for lessons learned in this program. I wish my non alcoholic parent had had the benefit of this program when I was living in our home with an active alcoholic. If my parent had been a member of Alanon, they might have read the Merrygoround of Denial pamphl...	tiredtonite	4	1369	Nov 18, 2017 by Maresie
	Is al anon right for me? (Preview) I am considering attending an al anon meeting where I live but I'm not sure if my situation is right for these meetings, so I help that someone can help me. I've looked the things on our UK website that help you decide whether al anon is right and some of them I answer yes to but only a few. My husband is sobe...	Juno	10	2879	Nov 18, 2017 by Maresie
	Spoke my truth (Preview) After last night alcoholic being drunk and calling me down again, said I was lazy, I refuse too work, he is disgusted that I am not working, while he has to get up every morning and go to work, ect..I went to bed and put in ear plugs and went went to sleep. I did not wake up this morning at 5 am like I usually do, a...	joker	1	1330	Nov 18, 2017 by Isthisreallife
	When will I learn (Preview) I've been slowly building evidence of my husband's drinking problem and looking for a way out. I'm a stay at home.mom with no access to our money. However, things have gotten to the breaking point. Yesterday I had a Dr appt and he said the kids could stay home with him while I went. However, he was drink an...	Isthisreallife	1	1812	Nov 17, 2017 by hotrod
	Courage to Change (C2C) 11/17/17 (Preview) Good morning all. Today's reading is about "Keep Coming Back". It's a phrase that is stated and heard in recovery all the time. The writer discusses why it's so important. Many of us have grown so hardened in our fight with alcoholics or flights from them that we find it difficult to sit still for th...	Iamhere	2	2228	Nov 17, 2017 by Aline
	How to keep busy (Preview) I have been trying to keep myself busy so that I am thinking of the alcoholic and ways to keep myself so busy he does not see me. I have been going to face to face meetings but I find I am still around the house when the alcoholic is around and I really need to get a life of my own so I do not see the alcoholic much. W...	joker	1	2610	Nov 17, 2017 by Iamhere
	The A and social media (Preview) Did/Does anyone have issues with the A posting on social media? this was One of my biggest problems and I donât see anyone addressing this.. my boyfriend would be drinking and go on Facebook and post the most ridiculous statuses or pictures and it was obvious that he had been drinking . was very embarra...	Aerin	11	2860	Nov 17, 2017 by SerenityRUS
	Alcoholic 20 something son... (Preview) First time to this board. I think, as a mom, I'm just trying to stick to the "rules" as given to me at Hazelden. I learned a lot in the classes that I attended as my 23 year old son was an inpatient there for 30 days. I was so optimistic and he seemed so much better. Although during his stay, he never relented fr...	Auntielala	14	2743	Nov 17, 2017 by Iamhere
	Down again (Preview) I was in such a good place yesterday. I am not back in the dumps again. I cried this morning, as I was so hurt. It felt good to cry. I went to a face to face meeting last night and I came home to the alcoholic drinking beer again. I got angry with him as I came home to see him drinking. I should have known better the...	joker	1	2161	Nov 17, 2017 by tiredtonite
	Feeling acceptance (Preview) My crazy emotions of anger feels like it has gone down, finally. I was feeling so angry and now I feel a sense of giving up. I can not change the alcoholic. I do not discuss drinking anymore with him. I just let him be. Drink, see if I care. I just have given up completely. He is drinking daily now and I say what...	joker	2	375	Nov 16, 2017 by hotrod
	Hope for Today 11/16/17 (Preview) Today's reading in Hope for Today shares about letting go and letting God. The writer discusses a first trip after becoming handicapped. She was anxious to be travelling alone and even a bit more so because her travel was to another country with different customs, etc. She used her tools to get read...	Iamhere	2	2152	Nov 16, 2017 by Faintly Falling
	Thursday Morning MIP ALanon Meeting About to Start (Preview) Good Morning Everyone, If you would like an Alanon meeting, please join us. Our topics this morning are Choices, Courage to Change ane the slogan Listen and Learn. Thanks TT	tiredtonite	1	2722	Nov 16, 2017 by hotrod
	Breathe/Stay on my side of the street (Preview) Difficult day today filled with much drama and extreme worry. As I had anticipated, AD relationship has gone from bad to worse. I did involve myself to the extent of calling the police this afternoon following a text from her that he had thrown her keys to her vehicle in the bushes when she attempted t...	serenity47	13	528	Nov 16, 2017 by Maresie
	can you help me understand? (double winners?) (Preview) i'm still processing everything i went through with my ex, who is recently in recovery. wondering if anyone can shed light on this addiction question. when we were together he went through 2 outpatient detox programs and 2 inpatient detox/rehabs. he stopped drinking, at least for some time. but the...	Junenine	12	494	Nov 15, 2017 by Junenine
	Today's Hope November 15 (Preview) Good morning MIP! I am off my normal routine today, and so I'm using yesterday's posting from today's hope online for today's topic. That seemed like a great fit because the share is about accepting change. The author shares that there have been times they are terrified of change, and that fear prev...	Skorpi	3	411	Nov 15, 2017 by PosiesandPuppies
	Nervous about first al anon - angry and feeling sick (Preview) Most days this is how I wake up. As the day goes on I do get better as I will speak to myself and do things to take my mind off my AH. todsy Is not a good day Ive woke up shoutwe at my kids and now I feel terrible. I feel hurt and rejected today and used. AH keeps sending me messages each day - sMall ones. their s...	CarlyH	3	430	Nov 15, 2017 by Freetime
	Looking back on breakup with A BF- he seems great (Preview) I had a breakup for the books with A ex bf. I moved on to date someone who is a non drinker. We have a wonderful time together.. it has been 2 years since I saw my ex. I cut all contact with him. He trailed off on trying to contact me this Jan. If you had asked me then what was going to happen to him, I would have sa...	giraffe13	11	669	Nov 14, 2017 by Junenine
	ODAT reading 11-14-2017 (Preview) The ODAT reading for November 14, states the simple fact that we find that God is more conscious to us when we are in the depths of despair. The reading suggests that this is when we are able to say" please God help.".It then goes on to remind us that when we do receive. help we should turn to God to ack...	hotrod	6	472	Nov 14, 2017 by Aline
	ALANON STEP 9 POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! Step 9 Has been posted to the Step Board. Here is the link : http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t64115420/alan...	hotrod	1	359	Nov 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Need help (Preview) Ive not felt this insecure in years.... my AH has been sober for almost a month and he is doing great. Going to outpatient classes and AA meetings. He is making new friends that understand his struggle. I guess you can say Im jealous.... I want to Be his person but he has all these new people (men and w...	Heaven76	10	634	Nov 14, 2017 by Iamhere
	Just checking in!!!!! (Preview) Hey all!! Just checking in to say "hey" and to let you all know that , no, I wasn't kidnapped, I had a back spasm and have been doing research on what I can do to PREVENT or at least, Lessen these horrible episodes...This year I have had THREE...usually I get one, maybe 2 per year but this year has been awful....	mamalioness	3	375	Nov 13, 2017 by Maresie
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