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haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] It's been a strange day already today. The fog was very thick this morning; the train ride to over the river to downtown was just plain creeeee-py! I hope Halloween night is like that. People had been telling me about Stumptown Coffee so I went there. Of course I got off at the...

sg · sg

I am beginning to think that I speak and no words come out anymore. For the past month to month or two I have tried to tell my A. (who has been dry for about 6 weeks) that I am having difficulties w/our marriage. Lack of communication between us. Him shutting down conversations. I'm not comfortable expres...

tullemars · tullemars

I am not going to be manipulated anymore. I am not fighting for someone who is too sick to love me. I am tired. I will not allow my house to be disease ridden. I am done. I am ready for the next stage. I am getting healthier. I am going to take care of me. Forget the rest To all take care o...

marmare · marmare

My A is working 4-10's this week, nights even. I was so excited about relaxing evenings (inbetween sleeping and his regular job he is doing a side job with a friend re-roofing a house) I got busy Monday night painting my toe nails and being the Queen of the Remote. Tuesday aft...

Tammy · Tammy

Today is day 13 of living away from my husband the alcoholic and I wanted to update everyone on where I am today. I also once again need guidance.. I have been living with my children in a condo on the beach for the last 13 days. I left my home because my husband wouldnt. Now w...

swolves · swolves

I am confused over what I'm actually feeling over a small event involving my husband. As many of you know he moved out in May, has gotten his own apartment, filed for divorce and has continued to use...even when he has the kids with him.

He likes to take tranquilizers of what ever flav...

Kim · Kim

hello roomies: well today I went back to therapy. It was the first step in the right direction for me. Next week my goal is to get ot a f2f meeting, I have been using what I knew from when I did attend up until now. The argument with my friend has left with little to do at night...I spent a large portio...

chrissy · chrissy

i was calling all over hotels for my a and at 4:00pm i located him at a hotel. i called and they put me through i think the hotel was ready to kill me. i called every day until i found him a couple times a day. he answered the phone trashed i said hello , he said hello i said who is this he said his name and then i said...

chrissy · chrissy

HE IS STILL NOT HOME SINCE SAT SHOULD I FILE A MISSING PERSON. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I AM SO TIRED AND LOST. .HE DRAINED THE BANK ACCOUNT THE BANK CALLED TO SEE IF HIS CARD WAS STOLEN -- Edited by chrissy at 21:54, 2005-09-27

nycbt · nycbt

He something from the book "Getting Them Sober you can help" Volume One written by Toby Rice Drews. Here is something from Chapter 2 Be Gentle with Yourself It's hard to do anything right during a crisis. And crises happen very regularly in an alcholic's home. When things are going well for a few...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I have been home now for two weeks and I returned home to empty promises which I know is my own fault. After all, nothing changes if nothing changes. The honeymoon period has already ended and I have watched my husband rant and rave on a couple of occasions about whatever injustice he seems to thin...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday night wasn't that good. Well my husband said he was going to Quick Check and then when his boss called I went out side and there was no car. He had taken my car without saying he was going to take it. I was upset with him. His boss came to pick him up because he said he would be back. I was...

jj · jj

" I may not be where I want to be, but I'm sure as heck not where I was!" Wynonna Judd She is going through her own difficulties in life and said this on Oprah yesterday and it just grabbed at me!! Her thought for the day deffinately applies to all of us. When we are not feeling quite as good about our rec...

captcodee · captcodee

Hey all. I have been such a delinquent (how the heck do you spell that anyhow). Since I have moved back with the hubby, and into the big city, I have been so bad. I don't think I have posted once since I have lived in Calgary! What kind of example is that. So, j...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Answering Machine at the Mental Hospital: "Hello, and welcome to the mental health hotline. If you are obsessive-compulsive, press 1 repeatedly. If you are co-dependent, please ask someone to press 2 for you or offer to press 2 for them. If you have multiple personalities, press 3, 4, 5, and 6. If you...

leo · leo

Hi Everyone, I am not sure if I am doing this right but here goes. I found this website last night and just wanted to say thankyou to everyone who has already posted. Just reading the messages has helped me enormously. I have contacted a counsellor today for me to heal and find out obstacles that lay a...

debilyn · debilyn

hi, just thought i would say how i see the separation of the disease and the loved one. I use the analogy that if he had a brain tumor that made his behavior not something very loveable, I would still love him. My mother was the best to me. She got a tiny bit impatient when she was so bad with the b...

Maypole · Maypole

I love this board! I have been going to f2f meetings for about 6 weeks and I know that I need a sponcer but I feel some weird shame and fear and so much resistance from myself...like I don't deserve one or someone will say yes but not want to...i am very reluctant to ask and I find it almost impossible to make p...

megan · megan

Hello OP's Could someone please chair the Sunday evening 7pm meeting for me? I leave for the Netherlands tomorrow to visit my brother and his family and will be unable to chair. Thank-you so very much Megan

Diva · Diva

Yes, I did know my husband for three years before we married, and yes, he did neglect to tell me that he was a recovering alcoholic. I think your word, "recovered" is a word I do not use. He lived in England you see, so our f2f meetings were not on a daily basis. We would see one another every three or four mont...

dogscribe · dogscribe

Last night I went to a rubber stamping party. I can't tell you how good it felt. I really was hesitant about going because Tues. especially are one of the A's drinking nights. He of course stopped at the bar after work and he knew I was going to this and that I had to leave early. So I just starting dinner - gri...

debi · debi

this is a poem i wrote one day, when i was trying to understand my how alcoholics think and react......not sure how true it is. I AM Sober This is how I see the alcoholic CONSUMED, LIQUID HELL MY MIND SATURATED…EMPTY ...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Found this in my email today - just wanted to share. A Lesson in Change It took a major health scare for me to learn that I needed to start paying attention to my life. By Alan Alda I was in an ambulance, bumping down a mountain road for an hour and a half. Someone on a gurney was moaning at the top of his voice...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi Rommies, I just need to get some stuff off my chest about work. I took off some time from work. (since July 4th) I was fighting with my boss and told his boss about his inablilty to manage many times. Which I'm sure got back to him. Well I asked for some time off at the begining of the summer. Well now I w...

browneyes · browneyes

Hey all I went to a new f2f last week just to see what it would be like. Well I heard two things that were pretty cool to me.

1. A woman said that she had a God Box. And some of you probably know what this is but for those of you that don't. A God Box as she explained it is wher...

search41 · search41

well, i guess whether people are interested in what i share or not, i'm going to keep sharing, cuz it's helping. my a just got done with ANOTHER one of his weeks of 5 weeks of vacation a year, and i have been AMAZED at how i have not engaged in the things he does when he is on vacation. usua...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Pardon my Humor here, [I am a mischievious alanoner!] My now sober spouse of 9 months thought I 'HAD' to say 'goodbye' to him, before I came to town. (hello, like does he ever say 'bye' to me when he scrambles to town for coffeeshop?) Anyway, I smile, grinned, and " Saluted!" He just smiled bac...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Basic Text, p.92 As using addicts, despair was our relentless companion. It colored our every waking moment. Despair was born of our experience in active addiction: No matter what measures we tried to make our lives better, we slid ever deeper into misery. Attempts we made to control our lives fre...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

xxxxxxxxxx If God has a Hand in it, Then That's Love [italic]/i] Are there not two points in the adventure of the diver? One...when a beggar, he prepares to plunge? Two--when a prince he ri...

sg · sg

"Hope for Today"...Sept 26th reading "My husband was not the sole cause of our troubles. I had been denying that my illness was deeply affecting our marriage." "If I am experiencing difficulty in a relationshiop, the root cause may be in my alcoholic upbringing. Once I find that ro...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day Continuing the consideration of the term spiritual experience: "What often takes place in a few months could seldom have been accomplished by years of self discipline. With few exceptions, our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected inner resource which they p...

cedarpines · cedarpines

Today I am panicky over things - some I am powerless over. 1. I have to move Oct. 31 & there is no 1 bed. apt. available to date - esp. w/ hurricane vics moving in. I have to have 1st floor & other needs since I'm disabled. If I don't move, my rent will increase by $300 per month. I've been calling - turning thi...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Love me or leave me…but it will be AS I AM!!!!! What I have wanted is consistency, ever since the day back in Wyncote when my mom and dad split. I have wanted to be liked. I have wanted to be loved. I have wanted to be in a family-type atmosphere. --Reggie Jackson How many of us gave ourselves away...

Kim · Kim

Hello all: Well, as you know yesterday was my birthday. My A had been calling for a week about our anniversary and my birthday to see me. I passed on our anniversary. After this weekend and his being there for me, I gave in on my birthday. I was having a horrible day all day, and he called several times to s...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

sept 27, 2005 NEED SUPPORT_big slip i have been playing my affirmation tapes for 36 days now, trying to be able to love and accept me as i am...not demanding perfection out of me...but to love me as i am....well i thought i was making huge progress, lately........than the big test las...

UncleLou · UncleLou

Had an interesting session with my therapist last night, the guy my ex and I stopped going to a year ago. Talking to him about what happened between my wife and I these past couple of years, something became clear to me. We were talking about what I was or wasn’t doing to meet my wife’s expe...

Powerless · Powerless

My mother-in-law put things into perspective for me. I interviewed at Wal-mart yesterday and was not crazy about the idea of a job there because it was a pay cut of almost $4.00 per hour. I guess I somehow felt it was beneath what I was capable of. I was trying to hold off for one of the m...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

September 27 Right Back Up "There is something in our self-destructive personalities that cries for failure." Basic Text, p.77 ######ROSIE…I am sharing on this NA share because no matter what the group??? It is still 12 steps and still recovery….. "Poor me;...

chrissy · chrissy

our two cars are in my name and i want to get his out of my name and to get the plates and turn them in. otherwise tickets and trouble will come to me and i cant afford any more problems in my life right now. my family said report the car stolen but i dont want him to get any trouble. he has enough pro...

sandie123 · sandie123

I am doing a lot better these days. Working on doing things for me (and my kids) not my A. I have started going to 2 f2f meetings a week ....not sure if i will be able to keep this up since i need someone to watch our foster child when I'm away! I'm going to kep trying though! I have set a few boundries and am stick...

gardengal · gardengal

I can easily itemize my loved ones limitations. Hours pass while I list the ways in which "he" could stand to change. But not one thing has ever improved as a result of this mental criticism, All it does is keep my mind on someone other than me. Instead of admitting my powerlessness over another person...

UncleLou · UncleLou

This was my ex's weekend with the kids. (We are both in the same house in seperate bedrooms until it sells) Friday evening, while she's still not home from work, my 14 yr old son has 2 friends over, one from the neighborhood, another driven over by his parents. I leave them at 7:00 to go to an AA meeting. My e...

Diva · Diva

Believe it or not, I have never known another alcoholic besides my husband, so have chosen you to hopefully answer a couple of questions. I read your post below about the alcoholic hating himself, being insecure and afraid, and I suppose I believe all of that is true. At the same time, my glorious A seem...

haximon · haximon

[[ room ]] I'm sorry for being such a wet blanket this weekend. I now understand what's going on and there is nothin I can do about it. It's called complex grief. The losses have come so fast and there has been so much additional crap that I haven't had the time to grieve em. Th...

Kim · Kim

Hi everyone. Well, my birthday is today. And the whole weekend a bust. An argument with my friends (one of whom is my best friend) erupted (it is a long story) however, it was my standing up for myself and not accepting unaccpetable behavior that started it however, in the end I also got v...

debilyn · debilyn

HI Ya'll, I have not done a yak in a long time. Been so into reading everyones shares. What a strong, neat group of people!! Life sorta settled for a bit. Have been seeing Social Security fall into place and to begin my benefits. I was told by them that my long term would not be offset, that I would c...

Powerless · Powerless

It is so odd that I feel more productive now that I am not working than when I was. I have been able to really get the house clean and keep it that way, cook wonderful meals, go to the library, run errands, apply for food stamps, recertify for medicaid for the children and...

chrissy · chrissy

i am so dumb i cant believe he is doing drugs this guy called my husbands cell phone. i was playing dective and it was his drug dealer he said he just sold my husband 30dollar weed bag. i didnt even know he was doing drugs too. he said him & this other guy hooked up he said my husband...

mom to 2 · mom to 2

For those that have followed my story here's an update. As most of you know my husband has been seeking sobriety for 6 months. He has mostly failed and has been on very long binges, no work and been pretty unavailable to myself, his family and his small children. He is sober 18 days now....

sandie123 · sandie123

I'm looking for Frank33 from the chat room. I talked to him a week ago and really would like to get in touch with him. If anyone sees him please ask him to read this post and send me a message where I can get in touch with him. Or just reply to this and I will send him my message. Thanks. Sandie123

sg · sg

I have been having such a hard time lately keeping my mind on "one day at a time" worrying about what will I do IF I make the choice to leave the home for awhile. Of course, a gazillion scenarios come creeping into my head and w/three kids and a houseful of animals, I, at times, felt stuck...like I was powerl...

wallsal55 · wallsal55

Hi, Haven't been on Board for a while. Reached a crossroad in recovery where my "inner voice" was screaming at me and so was my soon to be "50" year old bod in November. Took time off from the boards, then skipped my 2 alanon meetings last week. Was able to h...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I have been doing so much thinking here lately. I have been brutaly honest with myself, and it does hurt. I have been on this rollercoaster for so many years. Life has gotten relatively peaceful here lately. My husband is at his parents house, and unless I become willing to accept his d...

UncleLou · UncleLou

This morning my ex was looking at my son's wrist which was swollen from a dirt bike accident yesterday. I heard them discussing going to the doctor and asked if I could do anything. My ex got real angry with me and said in front of my son, "I don't want anything from you, I don't want you involved, stay out of...

napnyc · napnyc

THE LOIS WILSON STORY - WHEN LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH Choices Recovery Bookstore will be holding a book signing and Author discussion on: MONDAY, OCTOBER 3, 2005 at 7:00pm 404 East 87th Street (St. Joseph's Church) between 1st Ave & York Ave, New York City THE FIRST BIOGRAPHY OF THE GR...

Ratchie · Ratchie

Hi all. I'm writing my 1st post. Have been to a few internet meetings, which are very helpful. I would just ask for your prayers and support in my situation. I see myself in so many of you. My A of 17 years is packing as I type. We have finally decided to separate aft...

chrissy · chrissy

i cant believe he took out more money and left the bank with $32.00 i am so messed up right now. sometimes i feel like this is hell you know i just cant take it how am i going to survive

chrissy · chrissy

i want to hurt him he never came home.

i feel numb i only slept a few hours i am so wiped and my daughter has a game at 12. im so hungry my stomache is rumbling thats what woke me up. all i ate yesterday was frosted flakes in the morning. yeah happy 3yr anniversary we were suppo...

Tammy · Tammy

Today is day 7 of living without my husband, my a. As many of you know I left my husband last Saturday. I just felt that God wanted me out of the way so that he could get to him. I kept making excuses, pleading and begging for him to quit drinking. It was making me miserabl...

Jersey · Jersey

Hi all! I just read the following in an Alanon phamplet, I thought maybe someone else could benefit from sharing in the reminder. I think it speaks to AA and Alanons a like. *Accept the fact that there is a problem with alcohol, and that you can learn to deal with it. *Recogniz...

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	haxigonian XXX (Preview) [[ room ]] It's been a strange day already today. The fog was very thick this morning; the train ride to over the river to downtown was just plain creeeee-py! I hope Halloween night is like that. People had been telling me about Stumptown Coffee so I went there. Of course I got off at the...	haximon	2	862	Sep 29, 2005 by toto12
	Oblivion (Preview) I am beginning to think that I speak and no words come out anymore. For the past month to month or two I have tried to tell my A. (who has been dry for about 6 weeks) that I am having difficulties w/our marriage. Lack of communication between us. Him shutting down conversations. I'm not comfortable expres...	sg	7	698	Sep 29, 2005 by KathyS
	I am not going to live this any longer. (Preview) I am not going to be manipulated anymore. I am not fighting for someone who is too sick to love me. I am tired. I will not allow my house to be disease ridden. I am done. I am ready for the next stage. I am getting healthier. I am going to take care of me. Forget the rest To all take care o...	tullemars	4	842	Sep 29, 2005 by Diva
	I just don't understand (Preview) My A is working 4-10's this week, nights even. I was so excited about relaxing evenings (inbetween sleeping and his regular job he is doing a side job with a friend re-roofing a house) I got busy Monday night painting my toe nails and being the Queen of the Remote. Tuesday aft...	marmare	6	985	Sep 29, 2005 by KathyS
	Day 13 of living away from my A (Preview) Today is day 13 of living away from my husband the alcoholic and I wanted to update everyone on where I am today. I also once again need guidance.. I have been living with my children in a condo on the beach for the last 13 days. I left my home because my husband wouldnt. Now w...	Tammy	3	815	Sep 29, 2005 by KathyS
	how very strange (Preview) I am confused over what I'm actually feeling over a small event involving my husband. As many of you know he moved out in May, has gotten his own apartment, filed for divorce and has continued to use...even when he has the kids with him. He likes to take tranquilizers of what ever flav...	swolves	3	770	Sep 29, 2005 by KathyS
	another step in the right direction/trust (Preview) hello roomies: well today I went back to therapy. It was the first step in the right direction for me. Next week my goal is to get ot a f2f meeting, I have been using what I knew from when I did attend up until now. The argument with my friend has left with little to do at night...I spent a large portio...	Kim	4	830	Sep 29, 2005 by Kim
	i found him (Preview) i was calling all over hotels for my a and at 4:00pm i located him at a hotel. i called and they put me through i think the hotel was ready to kill me. i called every day until i found him a couple times a day. he answered the phone trashed i said hello , he said hello i said who is this he said his name and then i said...	chrissy	3	719	Sep 29, 2005 by nycbt
	HE IS STILL NOT HOME SINCE SAT (Preview) HE IS STILL NOT HOME SINCE SAT SHOULD I FILE A MISSING PERSON. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO I AM SO TIRED AND LOST. .HE DRAINED THE BANK ACCOUNT THE BANK CALLED TO SEE IF HIS CARD WAS STOLEN -- Edited by chrissy at 21:54, 2005-09-27	chrissy	12	905	Sep 29, 2005 by chrissy
	Be gentle with yourself (Preview) He something from the book "Getting Them Sober you can help" Volume One written by Toby Rice Drews. Here is something from Chapter 2 Be Gentle with Yourself It's hard to do anything right during a crisis. And crises happen very regularly in an alcholic's home. When things are going well for a few...	nycbt	1	885	Sep 29, 2005 by browneyes
	I feel finally feel like I am starting to let go (Preview) I have been home now for two weeks and I returned home to empty promises which I know is my own fault. After all, nothing changes if nothing changes. The honeymoon period has already ended and I have watched my husband rant and rave on a couple of occasions about whatever injustice he seems to thin...	JulieLynn	2	721	Sep 29, 2005 by gknee
	Angry (Preview) Yesterday night wasn't that good. Well my husband said he was going to Quick Check and then when his boss called I went out side and there was no car. He had taken my car without saying he was going to take it. I was upset with him. His boss came to pick him up because he said he would be back. I was...	nycbt	1	686	Sep 29, 2005 by captcodee
	Quote to share (Preview) " I may not be where I want to be, but I'm sure as heck not where I was!" Wynonna Judd She is going through her own difficulties in life and said this on Oprah yesterday and it just grabbed at me!! Her thought for the day deffinately applies to all of us. When we are not feeling quite as good about our rec...	jj	3	631	Sep 29, 2005 by sandie123
	An update from the long lost CAPTCODEE (Preview) Hey all. I have been such a delinquent (how the heck do you spell that anyhow). Since I have moved back with the hubby, and into the big city, I have been so bad. I don't think I have posted once since I have lived in Calgary! What kind of example is that. So, j...	captcodee	3	696	Sep 29, 2005 by captcodee
	mental health answering machine (Preview) Answering Machine at the Mental Hospital: "Hello, and welcome to the mental health hotline. If you are obsessive-compulsive, press 1 repeatedly. If you are co-dependent, please ask someone to press 2 for you or offer to press 2 for them. If you have multiple personalities, press 3, 4, 5, and 6. If you...	rosie light shines	2	672	Sep 29, 2005 by Karilynn
	my first post (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am not sure if I am doing this right but here goes. I found this website last night and just wanted to say thankyou to everyone who has already posted. Just reading the messages has helped me enormously. I have contacted a counsellor today for me to heal and find out obstacles that lay a...	leo	14	880	Sep 29, 2005 by leo
	The disease/the human person (Preview) hi, just thought i would say how i see the separation of the disease and the loved one. I use the analogy that if he had a brain tumor that made his behavior not something very loveable, I would still love him. My mother was the best to me. She got a tiny bit impatient when she was so bad with the b...	debilyn	6	721	Sep 28, 2005 by search41
	Scared to ask for a sponcer (Preview) I love this board! I have been going to f2f meetings for about 6 weeks and I know that I need a sponcer but I feel some weird shame and fear and so much resistance from myself...like I don't deserve one or someone will say yes but not want to...i am very reluctant to ask and I find it almost impossible to make p...	Maypole	7	941	Sep 28, 2005 by DanaAngel
	Sunday night chair needed (Preview) Hello OP's Could someone please chair the Sunday evening 7pm meeting for me? I leave for the Netherlands tomorrow to visit my brother and his family and will be unable to chair. Thank-you so very much Megan	megan	0	670	Sep 28, 2005 by megan
	Lou (Preview) Yes, I did know my husband for three years before we married, and yes, he did neglect to tell me that he was a recovering alcoholic. I think your word, "recovered" is a word I do not use. He lived in England you see, so our f2f meetings were not on a daily basis. We would see one another every three or four mont...	Diva	2	895	Sep 28, 2005 by Diva
	I did something for ME last night (Preview) Last night I went to a rubber stamping party. I can't tell you how good it felt. I really was hesitant about going because Tues. especially are one of the A's drinking nights. He of course stopped at the bar after work and he knew I was going to this and that I had to leave early. So I just starting dinner - gri...	dogscribe	9	742	Sep 28, 2005 by Karilynn
	just a poem..... (Preview) this is a poem i wrote one day, when i was trying to understand my how alcoholics think and react......not sure how true it is. I AM Sober This is how I see the alcoholic CONSUMED, LIQUID HELL MY MIND SATURATED…EMPTY ...	debi	0	581	Sep 28, 2005 by debi
	A Lesson in Change (Preview) Found this in my email today - just wanted to share. A Lesson in Change It took a major health scare for me to learn that I needed to start paying attention to my life. By Alan Alda I was in an ambulance, bumping down a mountain road for an hour and a half. Someone on a gurney was moaning at the top of his voice...	kismetstrand	4	724	Sep 28, 2005 by toto12
	My work (Preview) Hi Rommies, I just need to get some stuff off my chest about work. I took off some time from work. (since July 4th) I was fighting with my boss and told his boss about his inablilty to manage many times. Which I'm sure got back to him. Well I asked for some time off at the begining of the summer. Well now I w...	nikkilou	4	746	Sep 28, 2005 by toto12
	Anyone heard this before?? (Preview) Hey all I went to a new f2f last week just to see what it would be like. Well I heard two things that were pretty cool to me. 1. A woman said that she had a God Box. And some of you probably know what this is but for those of you that don't. A God Box as she explained it is wher...	browneyes	5	827	Sep 28, 2005 by browneyes
	hp's still working (Preview) well, i guess whether people are interested in what i share or not, i'm going to keep sharing, cuz it's helping. my a just got done with ANOTHER one of his weeks of 5 weeks of vacation a year, and i have been AMAZED at how i have not engaged in the things he does when he is on vacation. usua...	search41	4	609	Sep 28, 2005 by TLC2
	Life in Sobriety (ROFLMAO) (Preview) Pardon my Humor here, [I am a mischievious alanoner!] My now sober spouse of 9 months thought I 'HAD' to say 'goodbye' to him, before I came to town. (hello, like does he ever say 'bye' to me when he scrambles to town for coffeeshop?) Anyway, I smile, grinned, and " Saluted!" He just smiled bac...	wallsal55	1	648	Sep 28, 2005 by marmare
	my best friends!! steps 1-2 and 3 (Preview) Basic Text, p.92 As using addicts, despair was our relentless companion. It colored our every waking moment. Despair was born of our experience in active addiction: No matter what measures we tried to make our lives better, we slid ever deeper into misery. Attempts we made to control our lives fre...	rosie light shines	1	714	Sep 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	Quote for Today (Preview) xxxxxxxxxx If God has a Hand in it, Then That's Love [italic]/i] Are there not two points in the adventure of the diver? One...when a beggar, he prepares to plunge? Two--when a prince he ri...	wallsal55	0	552	Sep 28, 2005 by wallsal55
	Childhood baggage (Preview) "Hope for Today"...Sept 26th reading "My husband was not the sole cause of our troubles. I had been denying that my illness was deeply affecting our marriage." "If I am experiencing difficulty in a relationshiop, the root cause may be in my alcoholic upbringing. Once I find that ro...	sg	2	660	Sep 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
	living with my God within (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day Continuing the consideration of the term spiritual experience: "What often takes place in a few months could seldom have been accomplished by years of self discipline. With few exceptions, our members find that they have tapped an unsuspected inner resource which they p...	rosie light shines	0	535	Sep 28, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Panicky (Preview) Today I am panicky over things - some I am powerless over. 1. I have to move Oct. 31 & there is no 1 bed. apt. available to date - esp. w/ hurricane vics moving in. I have to have 1st floor & other needs since I'm disabled. If I don't move, my rent will increase by $300 per month. I've been calling - turning thi...	cedarpines	2	585	Sep 28, 2005 by sg
	love me or leave me....i am gonna be me!!! (Preview) Love me or leave me…but it will be AS I AM!!!!! What I have wanted is consistency, ever since the day back in Wyncote when my mom and dad split. I have wanted to be liked. I have wanted to be loved. I have wanted to be in a family-type atmosphere. *--Reggie Jackson* How many of us gave ourselves away...	rosie light shines	1	822	Sep 28, 2005 by cedarpines
	slipped again (Preview) Hello all: Well, as you know yesterday was my birthday. My A had been calling for a week about our anniversary and my birthday to see me. I passed on our anniversary. After this weekend and his being there for me, I gave in on my birthday. I was having a horrible day all day, and he called several times to s...	Kim	3	663	Sep 28, 2005 by canadianguy
	need support....i slipped (Preview) sept 27, 2005 NEED SUPPORT_big slip i have been playing my affirmation tapes for 36 days now, trying to be able to love and accept me as i am...not demanding perfection out of me...but to love me as i am....well i thought i was making huge progress, lately........than the big test las...	rosie light shines	5	677	Sep 27, 2005 by debilyn
	Looking back on early recovery (Preview) Had an interesting session with my therapist last night, the guy my ex and I stopped going to a year ago. Talking to him about what happened between my wife and I these past couple of years, something became clear to me. We were talking about what I was or wasn’t doing to meet my wife’s expe...	UncleLou	7	836	Sep 27, 2005 by Karilynn
	M-I-L put things into perspective (Preview) My mother-in-law put things into perspective for me. I interviewed at Wal-mart yesterday and was not crazy about the idea of a job there because it was a pay cut of almost $4.00 per hour. I guess I somehow felt it was beneath what I was capable of. I was trying to hold off for one of the m...	Powerless	2	676	Sep 27, 2005 by Jill
	"right back up" or trying to (Preview) September 27 Right Back Up "There is something in our self-destructive personalities that cries for failure." Basic Text, p.77 ######ROSIE…I am sharing on this NA share because no matter what the group??? It is still 12 steps and still recovery….. "Poor me;...	rosie light shines	0	623	Sep 27, 2005 by rosie light shines
	how can i get his car out of my name (Preview) our two cars are in my name and i want to get his out of my name and to get the plates and turn them in. otherwise tickets and trouble will come to me and i cant afford any more problems in my life right now. my family said report the car stolen but i dont want him to get any trouble. he has enough pro...	chrissy	6	725	Sep 27, 2005 by Kim
	Sponsor Advice Needed! (Preview) I am doing a lot better these days. Working on doing things for me (and my kids) not my A. I have started going to 2 f2f meetings a week ....not sure if i will be able to keep this up since i need someone to watch our foster child when I'm away! I'm going to kep trying though! I have set a few boundries and am stick...	sandie123	2	745	Sep 27, 2005 by Flora123
	Can it be so simple,,,to,,,,"Let it begin with me?: (Preview) I can easily itemize my loved ones limitations. Hours pass while I list the ways in which "he" could stand to change. But not one thing has ever improved as a result of this mental criticism, All it does is keep my mind on someone other than me. Instead of admitting my powerlessness over another person...	gardengal	4	1249	Sep 27, 2005 by marmare
	My ex's inappropriate behavior part II (Preview) This was my ex's weekend with the kids. (We are both in the same house in seperate bedrooms until it sells) Friday evening, while she's still not home from work, my 14 yr old son has 2 friends over, one from the neighborhood, another driven over by his parents. I leave them at 7:00 to go to an AA meeting. My e...	UncleLou	8	902	Sep 27, 2005 by Sallen
	Uncle Lou (Preview) Believe it or not, I have never known another alcoholic besides my husband, so have chosen you to hopefully answer a couple of questions. I read your post below about the alcoholic hating himself, being insecure and afraid, and I suppose I believe all of that is true. At the same time, my glorious A seem...	Diva	14	795	Sep 27, 2005 by Jeannie
	haxigonian XXIX (Preview) [[ room ]] I'm sorry for being such a wet blanket this weekend. I now understand what's going on and there is nothin I can do about it. It's called complex grief. The losses have come so fast and there has been so much additional crap that I haven't had the time to grieve em. Th...	haximon	3	702	Sep 27, 2005 by shimo
	hello again (Preview) Hi everyone. Well, my birthday is today. And the whole weekend a bust. An argument with my friends (one of whom is my best friend) erupted (it is a long story) however, it was my standing up for myself and not accepting unaccpetable behavior that started it however, in the end I also got v...	Kim	4	653	Sep 26, 2005 by debilyn
	sharing my path and miracles (Preview) HI Ya'll, I have not done a yak in a long time. Been so into reading everyones shares. What a strong, neat group of people!! Life sorta settled for a bit. Have been seeing Social Security fall into place and to begin my benefits. I was told by them that my long term would not be offset, that I would c...	debilyn	4	837	Sep 26, 2005 by debilyn
	It is so odd... (Preview) It is so odd that I feel more productive now that I am not working than when I was. I have been able to really get the house clean and keep it that way, cook wonderful meals, go to the library, run errands, apply for food stamps, recertify for medicaid for the children and...	Powerless	2	623	Sep 26, 2005 by Jeannie
	now i found out he is doing drugs too (Preview) i am so dumb i cant believe he is doing drugs this guy called my husbands cell phone. i was playing dective and it was his drug dealer he said he just sold my husband 30dollar weed bag. i didnt even know he was doing drugs too. he said him & this other guy hooked up he said my husband...	chrissy	10	830	Sep 26, 2005 by chrissy
	update (Preview) For those that have followed my story here's an update. As most of you know my husband has been seeking sobriety for 6 months. He has mostly failed and has been on very long binges, no work and been pretty unavailable to myself, his family and his small children. He is sober 18 days now....	mom to 2	11	747	Sep 26, 2005 by mom to 2
	looking for Frank33 from chat room (Preview) I'm looking for Frank33 from the chat room. I talked to him a week ago and really would like to get in touch with him. If anyone sees him please ask him to read this post and send me a message where I can get in touch with him. Or just reply to this and I will send him my message. Thanks. Sandie123	sandie123	0	553	Sep 26, 2005 by sandie123
	Footwork (Preview) I have been having such a hard time lately keeping my mind on "one day at a time" worrying about what will I do IF I make the choice to leave the home for awhile. Of course, a gazillion scenarios come creeping into my head and w/three kids and a houseful of animals, I, at times, felt stuck...like I was powerl...	sg	2	622	Sep 26, 2005 by Kim
	Just drop'n in...Stressing Dr. checkups!, Necessary Time Outs! (Preview) Hi, Haven't been on Board for a while. Reached a crossroad in recovery where my "inner voice" was screaming at me and so was my soon to be "50" year old bod in November. Took time off from the boards, then skipped my 2 alanon meetings last week. Was able to h...	wallsal55	1	724	Sep 26, 2005 by whitie
	resentment (Preview) Hi everyone, I have been doing so much thinking here lately. I have been brutaly honest with myself, and it does hurt. I have been on this rollercoaster for so many years. Life has gotten relatively peaceful here lately. My husband is at his parents house, and unless I become willing to accept his d...	Jeannie	3	675	Sep 26, 2005 by sandie123
	Should be an interesting session tonight (Preview) This morning my ex was looking at my son's wrist which was swollen from a dirt bike accident yesterday. I heard them discussing going to the doctor and asked if I could do anything. My ex got real angry with me and said in front of my son, "I don't want anything from you, I don't want you involved, stay out of...	UncleLou	1	766	Sep 26, 2005 by Karilynn
	FIRST LOIS WILSON BIOGRAPHY (Preview) THE LOIS WILSON STORY - WHEN LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH Choices Recovery Bookstore will be holding a book signing and Author discussion on: MONDAY, OCTOBER 3, 2005 at 7:00pm 404 East 87th Street (St. Joseph's Church) between 1st Ave & York Ave, New York City THE FIRST BIOGRAPHY OF THE GR...	napnyc	0	717	Sep 26, 2005 by napnyc
	New to All This, But Yet Feel At Home! (Preview) Hi all. I'm writing my 1st post. Have been to a few internet meetings, which are very helpful. I would just ask for your prayers and support in my situation. I see myself in so many of you. My A of 17 years is packing as I type. We have finally decided to separate aft...	Ratchie	6	688	Sep 26, 2005 by marmare
	well he cleaned the bank out since it was closed & he took the card we now have $32.00 (Preview) i cant believe he took out more money and left the bank with $32.00 i am so messed up right now. sometimes i feel like this is hell you know i just cant take it how am i going to survive	chrissy	9	1010	Sep 26, 2005 by marmare
	its now 7:56 am and he did it again he never came home (Preview) i want to hurt him he never came home. i feel numb i only slept a few hours i am so wiped and my daughter has a game at 12. im so hungry my stomache is rumbling thats what woke me up. all i ate yesterday was frosted flakes in the morning. yeah happy 3yr anniversary we were suppo...	chrissy	13	796	Sep 26, 2005 by marmare
	Day 7 of living without my A (Preview) Today is day 7 of living without my husband, my a. As many of you know I left my husband last Saturday. I just felt that God wanted me out of the way so that he could get to him. I kept making excuses, pleading and begging for him to quit drinking. It was making me miserabl...	Tammy	9	784	Sep 26, 2005 by marmare
	Daily Reminder (Preview) Hi all! I just read the following in an Alanon phamplet, I thought maybe someone else could benefit from sharing in the reminder. I think it speaks to AA and Alanons a like. Accept the fact that there is a problem with alcohol, and that you can learn to deal with it. Recogniz...	Jersey	2	716	Sep 26, 2005 by serenity
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