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I wanted to share this (came from the AA db)...It was so good that I wrote it down in my journal. Such wonderful, reassuring words to help w/recovery.
Wait. If the time is not right, the way is not clear, the answer or decision not consistent, wait.
We may feel a sense of urgency. We may want to resolve the issue by doing something - anything now, but that action is not in our best interest.
Living with confusion or unsolved problems is difficult. It is easier to resolve things. But making a decision too soon, doing something before its time, means we may have to go back and redo it.
If the time is not right, wait. If the way is not clear, do not plunge forward. If the answer or decision feels muddy, wait.
In this new way of life, there is a Guiding Force. We do not ever have to move too soon or move out of harmony. Waiting is an action - a positive, forceful action.
Often, waiting is a God guided action, one with as much power as a decision, and more power than an urgent, ill timed decision.
We do not have to pressure ourselves by insisting that we do or know something before its time. When it is time, we will know. We will move into that time naturally and harmoniously. We will have peace and consistency. We will feel empowered in a way we do not feel today.
Deal with the panic, the urgency, and the fear; do not let them control or dictate decisions.
Waiting isnt easy. It isnt fun. But waiting is often necessary to get what we want. It is not dead time; it is not downtime. The answer will come. The power will come. The time will come. And it will be right.
Today, I will wait, if waiting is the action I need in order to take care of myself. I will know that I am taking a positive, forceful action by waiting until the time is right. God, help me let go of my fear, urgency, and panic. Help me learn the art of waiting until the time is right. Help me learn timing.
Thanks for that posting. I've been thinking along the same lines. Since I joined Al-Anon and since my A daughter's recent series of crises, it's tempting to dump her consequences on her all at once. She's been living with me. She needs to get a job and create her own life. However, the job needs to wait until her current health crisis is resolved and she is feeling better. Then she can job hunt. Then we can have a conversation about her living independently. I wouldn't feel good about tossing her out on her ear right now. So I'm trying to practice patience. It's tough.
thank you so muchfor this post. "A sense of urgency" is what I have always felt. I feel the impulsivity slowly leaving me now and I am grateful This post was a wonderful reinfircement of the fact that i need to keep on keepin on.
SQ....that was one hellova post.......in my hunger and drive for recovery, i have had to **wait for the right time* and it is hard!!! at my age 59...waiting is like a thief......but i ask myself when i am being impatient......do i want to screw up and make things worse???? NO!!!!! it was my will my having to be in control....rushing things......thinking i don't have enough time.....and **re do's* take more time away from me.....i hate to wait....but i accept it better cause i don't have many years left to throw away on being impatient ......sometimes i feel like biblical sarah, who got so impatient to give her husband a son, she had him , and she had to push him, mate with her maid and she had her **ishmael* well that **impulsive, refusing to wait* caused sarah much grief!!!! so when i think i am about to do an **ishmael* in my life, i stop.....think.......take extra care of me/ pleasing me/ more rest/ try to find more frolick and fun.....and i **make the best of the waiting*.....i know there are just sometimes i just gotta wait!!! and there is no fighting it cause that has only made things worse for me..................peace/ rosie
