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I DID IT
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 Yesterday my husband wanted 2000 and I told him no. I did ask what it was for he told me I don't want to know. So because I said no he was giving me a hard time. So I left and went to my parents house. I took a day off from work as well. I haven't cried or called him. He has called once so far and I hav...
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His friend
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Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to...
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I can do it!
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Last Friday my car overheated, now I don't know alot about cars so I took it to the mechanic, and rushed off to work (late) ,he fixed the problem (A jammed thermostat), I rushed back to the mechanics after work, picked up the car and was about 10 minutes late picking up the chil...
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Believe that you can
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Your quote of the day for November 7, 2005
"Believe that you can do it, under any circumstances. Because if you believe you can, then you really will. That belief just keeps you searching for the answers, then pretty soon you get it."
– Wally "Famous" Amos
Happy Monday all,
Sun...
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Boundaries
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When I first heard about boundaries I completely misused them. A few examples of some of my first attempts at boundaries went along the lines of:
I will not tolerate your drug use whatsoever anymore. If you use you will go immediatly into rehab.
You will attend NA meetings eve...
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SERENITY
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All,
Over the last few days, I've been exploring the meaning of serenity in my own life by asking myself: What does serenity mean to me? What does it look like? What does it feel like?
I've been reading all of the selections on serenity in Courage to Change and Hope for Today and just allowing the ques...
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changing seasons, time for growth
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I bought a mixer today.
A nice kitchen aid one like my mom had and like my wedding present mixer.
My wedding present mixer is with my alcoholic husband who I am divorcing.
When I left him in May I took nothing and bought all new, I was that upset and desperate.
Since I asked him 3 times for the mixer (...
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megan
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A belated 'thank-you'
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I can't thank you enough my good friends for the love and support shown to me and my family following my husband John's death. My dear friend Flora123 [Maggie to me] also passed on your prayers and kind thoughts from friends in the chatroom.
My husband was an alcoholic who sadly n...
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Yes It Really is Groundhog Day
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same shit, diff day....
I guess i will be stuck at learning to become less involved with others & more involved with myself... 38 is 4 months away & I'm just learning to put myself first, love myself first.
God has never left me - I have chosen not to listen in the past... well at...
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to thiNk first
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Ok today I am doing better, I had one of those light bulb moments. Also by me writing this may count as the daily writing I am supposed to do as per my sponsor's request (yes she is a teacher) so I will share and do my homework at the same time.
I know that I grew up in a less then ideal world as a child, I have l...
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thanks for kickin my butt
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Hi all:
I read your responses to my earlier email and thanks for kickin' my butt back into play. It was a very weird feeling I had...I hadn't felt that concerned about whether or not he was using in a while and for some strange reason, it bothered me this time. Not to the point of obsessing, I called two ti...
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Duuh… The Light was Always Here but I still need Help!
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Alright ... I feel so stupid. I know I am not stupid but I haven’t been using what I have learned. Times have gotten tough and I easily fall into all of my old patterns. How simple it is to stop doing what you know is good and right for you and just sink in your little hole. I hadn’t even realized that this is wha...
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Mayonnaise Jar & 2 Cups of Coffee
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Howdy yall!
Got this today and thougth it was worth sharing!
Subject: Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee >>> When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a >>> day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee. >>&g...
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rehab? now I think that was a con
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So, called my A last night. He was supposed to pick up my stepdaughter and take her to the movies (which I'm sure he did) but now his phone is off (since 11:30 last night when I called) and now I'm wondering if he's had second thoughts about the whole rehab thing and/or he went out on one last binge before.&n...
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doormat
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i dont know what is getting in to me lately. i have let my a and his mother walk all over me and i am just mad at myself for this. i have stopped enabling my a and his mom along time ago. somehow i got tricked into this. first of all my mother in law doesnt work just stays home and lives off other people. a little ov...
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lonely & very sad
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he was doing so good since rehab .i had such a bad feeling last night and my husband swore that he wasn't drinking. anyway we were suppose to see each other today and i havent heard from him since 11pm last night. i called his cell phone (nextel) and i two wayed him 4x and i...
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revenge!!! short term high....long term low
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A.A. Thought for the Day
I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...
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please pray for steven
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i was just about to go to sleep an we got a phone call my daughters boyfriend was getting just rushed to the hospital in an ambulance chest pains and tingling in his arms and legs they had to give him oxygyen. he lives across the street so we rushed over. what is going on with the kids the...
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gratitude EVEN for the "pains in the butt"
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Relationships
There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...
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Could I be manic? Or is this just a pity pot
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I had a good last few days, but today I am mad, and don't know why.
I woke up, and didn't want to get out of bed. My husband needed to go to work, but I freaked out on him first thing, and haven't done a single thing since.
I have been in bed all day.
My daughter is sick, and she stayed with me all day,...
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I read an article....
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First degree relatives of alcoholics are 3-4 times as likely to have alcoholism than first degree relatives of non-alcoholics
20-25% of sons and brothers of alcoholics become alcoholic
5% of daughters and sisters of alcoholich become alcoholic
http://www.familystudies.org/alcoholi...
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Something worth sharing
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This was given to me today and I thought that I'd share with all of my friends here. It applies to me so much in my situations but I know that there are many many more situations out there that could use just a little comfort. Funny how a silly song can bring comfort, but I guess it's just one of t...
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maybe I have learned something!
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Hi boarders-
This morning I had an interesting talk with my A husband-- and noticed some changes in me that I wanted to discuss. He stayed home sick about 2 1/2 days last week. I knew he really didn't have anything physically wrong with him. I was concerned that he was using (there is a pattern with him-...
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self esteem & concept/tradition 11
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Good morning all at this mornings meeting I related to topic of fear today as well as self esteem…
I am very empathetic to all these situaitons I hear in meetings that this disease has caused and all the fear that can come along with it. I know HP will give us all the guidance we need to get thru it
And l...
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BREAKING OUR ISOLATION, AND OPENING UP
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In time, however most of us find it important to talk about the things that trouble us. In alanon , it is often said that "we are only as sick as our secrets". A key to breaking the stranglehold that alcoholism has on our lives is to begin to open up and let those secrets out. Part of the isolation of this dise...
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crissy and leo
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Hi,
I just wanted to thank you for your kind words. I was down yesterday. I think I just took on to much all at once. I started a new job( Same company) and did some side jobs for a friend of mine. The house was a mess and my daughter was acting out. She does not like t...
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he asked me to take him to rehab
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He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!
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Kim
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moonlight ride
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Jenny horrific story
Jenny was so happy about the house they had found.
For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town.
She unpacked her things with such great ease.
As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze.
How wonderful it was to have her own room.
School would be st...
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How to be an IDEAL sponsor...
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Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980)
~~The Ideal Sponsor~~
From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer.
Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...
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if i were given a change of life
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If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would
be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain
In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...
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HAPPY FRIDAY!
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Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...
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amanda's results
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first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support .
we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...
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chrissy
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End of your rope....
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Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005
"When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."
– Franklin Delano Roosevelt
Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...
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sunny1
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Thanks so much all of you
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((((Everyone)))))
First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself.
While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me.
I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...
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Jeannie
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So fiull of hate and disgust
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Well I am a full blown horses you know what!
He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...
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Attn: Ops/Chairpersons
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I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you!
Kis
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Must do it for my kids and me
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I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...
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A Prayer @ Beginning of Day
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Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all.
I...
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My Mom....
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Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down.
Well, I’m not gonna let her.
As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...
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re-I've done it
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Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx
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I am here to listen and not judge you :)
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Hello friends,
I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...
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I am Alive from your eyes
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Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...
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Lauren ashley
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Thanks for the replies to "I don't understand why"
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Hi to all,
Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased.
I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...
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Chrissy...
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I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say.
With sincere concern, Diva
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bad day/good day
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Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...
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Kim
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I've done it
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Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...
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leo
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Why be greatful?
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Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...
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Looking for Lin0606
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Hi guys
Hope everyone is well
Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is?
I would appreciate any info
Thanks,
Julie
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Reality sinks in once more
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Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different.
Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...
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An old Al-Anon Slogan
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Dear Friends,
I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...
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Live and let live.....
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Live and let live....
I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were.
I am not saying I a...
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Lauren ashley
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Can't seem to shake this one off
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This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...
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for a lifetime
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I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true.
(I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...
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Questions on Boundaries
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I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...
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What did I start? I REALLY dont want to do this!
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Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me!
Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc
I DONT want to spend my night...
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Barbara
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the truth....my PAINFUL pal
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Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud
The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...
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Question about boundaries
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This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...
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Thank You All for your support
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Hey roomies:
I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...
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I AM VERY UPSET WHATS NEXT
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MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...
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chrissy
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When I thought I would give up....
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OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live...
I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...
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