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Kim · Kim

He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Jenny horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be st...

captcodee · captcodee

Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980) ~~The Ideal Sponsor~~ From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer. Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...

marmare · marmare

Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...

chrissy · chrissy

first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support . we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...

sunny1 · sunny1

Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005 "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." – Franklin Delano Roosevelt Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

((((Everyone))))) First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself. While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me. I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well I am a full blown horses you know what! He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you! Kis

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...

kitty · kitty

Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all. I...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down. Well, I’m not gonna let her. As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...

leo · leo

Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...

sandy · sandy

Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...

Diva · Diva

I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva

Kim · Kim

Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...

leo · leo

Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...

sunny1 · sunny1

Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie

sandie123 · sandie123

Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...

sunny1 · sunny1

I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...

brakkenk · brakkenk

This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...

Kim · Kim

Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...

chrissy · chrissy

MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...

Satori · Satori

Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...

Barbara · Barbara

This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...

nycbt · nycbt

THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...

sandie123 · sandie123

My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...

Kim · Kim

Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...

sandie123 · sandie123

You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...

barkley · barkley

I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...

sunny1 · sunny1

Does anyone have ideas

that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...

Diana · Diana

My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...

captcodee · captcodee

I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it...

I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...

gknee · gknee

I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...

nycbt · nycbt

My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...

hadit · hadit

Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...

pixel04 · pixel04

Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...

sunny1 · sunny1

Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...

UncleLou · UncleLou

This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...

Barbara · Barbara

Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...

ellena · ellena

My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...

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	he asked me to take him to rehab (Preview) He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!	Kim	6	535	Nov 7, 2005 by abbyal
	moonlight ride (Preview) Jenny horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be st...	Lauren ashley	2	344	Nov 7, 2005 by sunny1
	How to be an IDEAL sponsor... (Preview) Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980) ~~The Ideal Sponsor~~ From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer. Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...	captcodee	2	528	Nov 7, 2005 by sunny1
	if i were given a change of life (Preview) *If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain* In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...	rosie light shines	2	324	Nov 6, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	HAPPY FRIDAY! (Preview) Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...	marmare	9	735	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	amanda's results (Preview) first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support . we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...	chrissy	11	491	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	End of your rope.... (Preview) Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005 "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." – Franklin Delano Roosevelt Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...	sunny1	1	388	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	Thanks so much all of you (Preview) ((((Everyone))))) First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself. While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me. I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...	Jeannie	5	595	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	So fiull of hate and disgust (Preview) Well I am a full blown horses you know what! He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...	Jeannie	10	908	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	Attn: Ops/Chairpersons (Preview) I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you! Kis	kismetstrand	1	400	Nov 6, 2005 by mastiff
	Must do it for my kids and me (Preview) I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...	nancyfrances	6	724	Nov 6, 2005 by megan
	A Prayer @ Beginning of Day (Preview) Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all. I...	kitty	1	528	Nov 6, 2005 by megan
	My Mom.... (Preview) Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down. Well, I’m not gonna let her. As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...	CAM0914	2	518	Nov 6, 2005 by leo
	re-I've done it (Preview) Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx	leo	0	445	Nov 6, 2005 by leo
	I am here to listen and not judge you :) (Preview) Hello friends, I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...	cdb	6	805	Nov 6, 2005 by WakingUp
	I am Alive from your eyes (Preview) Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...	Lauren ashley	3	468	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Thanks for the replies to "I don't understand why" (Preview) Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...	sandy	2	1012	Nov 5, 2005 by KathyS
	Chrissy... (Preview) I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva	Diva	6	630	Nov 5, 2005 by chrissy
	bad day/good day (Preview) Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...	Kim	0	340	Nov 5, 2005 by Kim
	I've done it (Preview) Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...	leo	8	707	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	Why be greatful? (Preview) Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...	sunny1	0	489	Nov 5, 2005 by sunny1
	Looking for Lin0606 (Preview) Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie	browneyes	0	540	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Reality sinks in once more (Preview) Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...	sandie123	5	678	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	An old Al-Anon Slogan (Preview) Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...	bob6502	7	744	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Live and let live..... (Preview) Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...	Lauren ashley	2	430	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Can't seem to shake this one off (Preview) This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...	twinmom2	7	663	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	for a lifetime (Preview) I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...	sunny1	1	609	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Questions on Boundaries (Preview) I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...	JulieLynn	5	730	Nov 5, 2005 by JulieLynn
	What did I start? I REALLY dont want to do this! (Preview) Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...	Barbara	15	532	Nov 5, 2005 by kissers
	the truth....my PAINFUL pal (Preview) *Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise. --Sigmund Freud* The truth is our friend. It is a rough and humble kind of friend--but a friend nonetheless. Each of us will need to learn to spend time with this friend because it is one that is not easy to escape. It is always turning up when we le...	rosie light shines	3	605	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Question about boundaries (Preview) This is my question. I know I have to set boundaries and I know what those boundaries are but when it comes to telling my "A" what the boundaries are I am not sure in what format I should convey those boundaries. Does this make any sense? For example, if I walk up to my A and tell hi...	brakkenk	3	612	Nov 4, 2005 by leo
	Thank You All for your support (Preview) Hey roomies: I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for your support. You have all given me a place to speak my mind about how I am feeling and I have also felt that this is the one place that i am understood. Yes, my A is going to rehab and I am happy for him. But what I feel most strange about is the fact tha...	Kim	2	363	Nov 4, 2005 by megan
	I AM VERY UPSET WHATS NEXT (Preview) MY 13 TEEN YEAR OLD DAUGHTER WAS GETTING REALLY BAD CHEST PAINS & DOUBLED OVER IN PAIN SO I BROUGHT HER TO THE DR. THE DR. DID AN EKG & SAID HER HEART BEAT IS SLOWER THAN MOST KIDS WHAT THE HELL DOES THAT MEAN? I HAVE TO GO TO A CARDIOLOGIST TOMORROW I AM SO UPSET & SO IS &...	chrissy	14	807	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	When I thought I would give up.... (Preview) OMG you don't know how many times I have wanted to totally give up..... I thought live for what??? But now I know God gave me a purpose to live... I guess I blamed God for all the bad that has happened during my life... but God only gives us so much that we can handle... And everything happens for a...	Lauren ashley	5	671	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Fear....revisited. (Preview) Fear… Okay, I choked, not literally, at a meeting. One of the topics was fear, and I really, really wanted to share at that moment, and I just couldn’t get it out. Then, as the meeting started to close with a moment of silence, in my own silence I was feeling very, very, very small...	Satori	5	383	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	well another day he took off work (Preview) This guy didnt have enough sick time when he was out with his kidney. Didnt get paid for 3wks. He needs to go Nov 16 to have his thyroid lumps aspirated. Knowing he may need time off (if they decide to take out the thyroid) he's still taking time off now to stay home. What the frig is wrong with him?	Barbara	5	416	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Working on NOT Obsessing (Preview) All, Over the past few months I've been actively working on not obsessing on other people, places, things I can not control. Like many of you here, my obsession often focuses on whether so and so is going to call or not call, why haven't they called?, etc. Last night as I was in the midst of this familiar...	BlueCloud	3	718	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	this is me a 1 yr ago (Preview) THESE ARE POST FROM LAST YEAR WHEN I FIRST STARTED SOME THINGS ARE THE SAME AN SOME I HAVE LEARN AS I WENT ALONG. BUT THIS IS WHERE I WAS. THOUGHT THE NEW COMERS WOULD LIKE TO SEE. IT DOES WORK. My finding little bottles I am very angry because today I found that my husband was dr...	nycbt	2	674	Nov 4, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Attention Ops/Meeting Chairpersons (Preview) Howdy yall! At last night's business meeting, we discussed having a meeting of chat room op's/chairpersons on a monthly basis to discuss meeting protocol, etiquette...etc. Just a chance for us all to get together and go over things so we can all be on the same page. Fo...	david62	6	454	Nov 4, 2005 by kerry5
	I FEEL SOOO GOOD! (Preview) My A is not coming home tonight!!!! After the last few night of him being so mad at me for asking him to leave he called tonight and said he would not be home tonight. He said he wasn't sure where he was going but would not be home. I really appreciated the fact that he called and I told him...	sandie123	9	573	Nov 4, 2005 by lmt123
	very angry right now (Preview) i all just need to vent. my friends celebrating her birthday at a bar this weekend. and i already told her i wont be going for numerous reasons such as that aint my thing anymore and im taking her to a dinner theater as a present from me. she turned everything around and basically said you not going out beca...	notsonew1111	6	649	Nov 4, 2005 by hudsond
	how MUCH is enough??? (Preview) How Much Is Enough? We continue to weigh and measure our food when we are maintaining as well as when we are losing. Since we are compulsive overeaters, we do not have a built in concept of how much food is enough. Exact measurements relieve us of the anxiety of deciding how much is enough. Since we ar...	rosie light shines	1	326	Nov 4, 2005 by Satori
	He's going to rehab (Preview) Hello Roomies: Ok, so this morning I'm having a crazy day at work when my cell phone rings from a unknown number. As this phone doubles as my work phone, I answer it. It's my husband (A) telling me he needs to go to rehab. I'm in the middle of my work day and thankfully I work in the social service fie...	Kim	8	475	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Just a thought on feelings (Preview) You can feel only your own feelings, not another person's. Having empathy for those we love, and being able to share their joys and sorrows, is part of our nature as warm, caring human beings. Taken to an extreme, however, too much empathy can mean that we lose our boundaries as emotionally separa...	sandie123	3	361	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Still angry... (Preview) I went to a meeting Friday morning, went back to work to find my husband drunk. It wasn't even 10:00am. I knew he had to go to a job site. Wish with all my heart that he wouldn't drive. Got him something to eat before he left. By the time I got off work, he was worse. I t...	barkley	10	503	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	looking for an idea? (Preview) Does anyone have ideas that have worked for them that they would like to share, regarding your HP. Like a journal, prayer list or something like that? Im looking for ideas that might work for me? I did get one the other day from a post here about a "god bag". I liked that. ...	sunny1	6	428	Nov 4, 2005 by sunny1
	ACOAs (Preview) My name is Diana Breshears. I am an ACOA and a graduate student at Colorado State University. I have devoted my studies to accurate research of alcoholic families. I am curently conducting a research study for a class project and am looking for adult children of alcoholic...	Diana	1	390	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	True Romance (as well as an alcoholic can!!!) (Preview) I have been known to criticize my husband's (AKA the "A") romantic style. Of course, my own expectations have NOTHING to do with it... I got home from work before him yesterday, and there was a message from him. He just wanted to know if I got home safe, was thinking about me etc...	captcodee	9	836	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	suspicious minds (Preview) I'm caught in a trap.... I can't walk out... because I love u too much baby(?) My husband is home sick today. I think he is legitimately ill (as opposed to chemically) but I'm not sure. He has lied so often that I have no idea what to think. I know it doesn't matter and either way he is ill BUT I ha...	gknee	4	590	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	my dad (Preview) My dad has been sober for about 3 weeks now. On Wednesday wasn't a good day. I started off the day that I locked my keys in the car. I had to have a friend come up and open the door for me so I could open the door. I call my dad and told him I was running late and why. I told him 15 it would take my friend to get to my hous...	nycbt	2	366	Nov 4, 2005 by nycbt
	Book and website..... (Preview) Hi all.... I posted this earlier today, in response to another string, but with the amount of board activity on here today, it is already onto page 2.... I am a huge advocate of the MIP board, and think our discussion board is the best one going... There are other good ones out there as w...	canadianguy	4	512	Nov 4, 2005 by cidboy
	I think my marriage is over III (Preview) Hello Roomies, Oh I have so much to share. I can say now that my marriage is going to survive and that I am truly grateful for this program. I went to my home group last night. I have been to some great meetings, but last night takes the cake. I said in my last post that I have been thinking about my actions...	Dolphin123	5	578	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	Face-to-face meetings (Preview) I'm 18. Both of my parents are alcoholics and my mom is the reason I'm here. So I'd obviously be going to these meetings as a child of an alcoholic; not a husband or wife like I fear the meeting would be full of. I'm thinking of going to a face-to-face alanon meeting but I'm worri...	Lanchas	7	457	Nov 4, 2005 by canadianguy
	Does this mean there may be hope afterall? (Preview) Hello everyone, I feel like I have been on a vacation since I haven't been here on the boards for about two weeks. Sorta just been keeping to myself and trying to figure out what I am doing in life. I know going into myself and not sharing isn't good but I'm back. Still confused, but back none the less. I...	hadit	5	715	Nov 4, 2005 by Jeannie
	Question (Preview) Hi roomies, Question for you: we have a young girl at work (20) who's mother is an addict (alcohol and drugs) and is emotionally abusive to her children. The other 2 have gotten out of the house. "Emily" has now moved out. She's on the fringe of becoming an alcoholic herself. There are definte signs...	Karilynn	3	377	Nov 4, 2005 by cdb
	this weekend (Preview) Well, my father now has a court appointed guardian. I participated in the hearing, spoke honestly, and left the results to whatever they would become. I feel good okay about my part in it. I only spent a short time with family this weekend. While I can observe their often unreasonable behavior f...	pixel04	2	402	Nov 3, 2005 by iona54
	HP reminders (Preview) Wow what a reminder, you know when you just think its fate? Ya no! its your HP talking to you. I have been struggling alot lately. pining for more of what I dont know. My Ex who is my A, is very active and my current partner is in recovery with 16yrs this dec. My kids are little and demand a...	sunny1	2	344	Nov 3, 2005 by sunny1
	The roller coaster continues... (Preview) This has been one crazy ride. After all the tears and back and forth about whether to try to get out of the sale of our house to work things out. I resigned myself to the fact that if I push my ex to keep the house, it can only backfire. I need to let it all go. I held off calling the buyers and seeing if they...	UncleLou	8	559	Nov 3, 2005 by nmike
	when is it time to call doctor for medication? (Preview) Im irritable, depressed, very moody, very nitpicky have been for 2months now - nothing seems to snap me out of it When is it time to call the doctor for medication? (prozac) noone can stand to be around me - DS, friends, coworkers - my support system - I cant stand to be around DH -- Edited by Barbara...	Barbara	9	1013	Nov 3, 2005 by Barbara
	Wigging out with another addict... (Preview) My dad got sober last year. I thought things were getting better until he met a woman on a dating website who is going to Gamblers Anonymous and left my mom. In my opinion, he is acting almost as crazy as he was when he was drinking. This woman is a complete loony toon - no o...	ellena	4	782	Nov 3, 2005 by hopefortoday
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