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nycbt · nycbt

I am having a hard time not talking to him.

I love to hear him talk.

But I didn't like the way he was talking to me last night.

So for at least the next 15 minutues I will try and stay strong and not call him. My mind set is different now then when I used to do this. When i used to get up here i wo...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

This is a true story.... Once you read this please email to your friends or your a in hopes of trying to save others..and themselves... Jennys horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life '...

marmare · marmare

Friday evening when my A was on his way home, at 6pm!!!! I know what a shock, he shared how his buddy asked him to go with him on Saturday to look at a couple of snowmobiles. It is such hard work not to read more into things then there is. I immediatly thought..."Oh great, now the two drinking bu...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey.. just had a mad notion to post my story in this chatroom. im 24 yrs old and met my recovering alcoholic and drug addict boyf. nearly 2 yrs ago. we were friends for a few weeks then became an item. he told me his background and i accepted his past..as "his past". we got on brilliantly for a y...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Food Is Not Mother In the mind of a baby, "food" is synonymous with "mother." As the baby grows, the two concepts become differentiated, but perhaps never completely separated. We compulsive overeaters may still be confusing food with mother.Often we feel a great deal of hostility and resentm...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband wanted 2000 and I told him no. I did ask what it was for he told me I don't want to know. So because I said no he was giving me a hard time. So I left and went to my parents house. I took a day off from work as well. I haven't cried or called him. He has called once so far and I hav...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to...

Feather · Feather

Last Friday my car overheated, now I don't know alot about cars so I took it to the mechanic, and rushed off to work (late) ,he fixed the problem (A jammed thermostat), I rushed back to the mechanics after work, picked up the car and was about 10 minutes late picking up the chil...

sunny1 · sunny1

Your quote of the day for November 7, 2005 "Believe that you can do it, under any circumstances. Because if you believe you can, then you really will. That belief just keeps you searching for the answers, then pretty soon you get it." – Wally "Famous" Amos Happy Monday all, Sun...

KathyS · KathyS

When I first heard about boundaries I completely misused them. A few examples of some of my first attempts at boundaries went along the lines of: I will not tolerate your drug use whatsoever anymore. If you use you will go immediatly into rehab. You will attend NA meetings eve...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

All, Over the last few days, I've been exploring the meaning of serenity in my own life by asking myself: What does serenity mean to me? What does it look like? What does it feel like? I've been reading all of the selections on serenity in Courage to Change and Hope for Today and just allowing the ques...

megan · megan

I bought a mixer today. A nice kitchen aid one like my mom had and like my wedding present mixer. My wedding present mixer is with my alcoholic husband who I am divorcing. When I left him in May I took nothing and bought all new, I was that upset and desperate. Since I asked him 3 times for the mixer (...

she123 · she123

I can't thank you enough my good friends for the love and support shown to me and my family following my husband John's death. My dear friend Flora123 [Maggie to me] also passed on your prayers and kind thoughts from friends in the chatroom. My husband was an alcoholic who sadly n...

kitty · kitty

same shit, diff day.... I guess i will be stuck at learning to become less involved with others & more involved with myself... 38 is 4 months away & I'm just learning to put myself first, love myself first. God has never left me - I have chosen not to listen in the past... well at...

tea2 · tea2

Ok today I am doing better, I had one of those light bulb moments. Also by me writing this may count as the daily writing I am supposed to do as per my sponsor's request (yes she is a teacher) so I will share and do my homework at the same time. I know that I grew up in a less then ideal world as a child, I have l...

Kim · Kim

Hi all: I read your responses to my earlier email and thanks for kickin' my butt back into play. It was a very weird feeling I had...I hadn't felt that concerned about whether or not he was using in a while and for some strange reason, it bothered me this time. Not to the point of obsessing, I called two ti...

sandie123 · sandie123

Alright ... I feel so stupid. I know I am not stupid but I haven’t been using what I have learned. Times have gotten tough and I easily fall into all of my old patterns. How simple it is to stop doing what you know is good and right for you and just sink in your little hole. I hadn’t even realized that this is wha...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall! Got this today and thougth it was worth sharing! Subject: Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee >>> When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a >>> day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee. >>&g...

Kim · Kim

So, called my A last night. He was supposed to pick up my stepdaughter and take her to the movies (which I'm sure he did) but now his phone is off (since 11:30 last night when I called) and now I'm wondering if he's had second thoughts about the whole rehab thing and/or he went out on one last binge before.&n...

notsonew1111 · notsonew1111

i dont know what is getting in to me lately. i have let my a and his mother walk all over me and i am just mad at myself for this. i have stopped enabling my a and his mom along time ago. somehow i got tricked into this. first of all my mother in law doesnt work just stays home and lives off other people. a little ov...

chrissy · chrissy

he was doing so good since rehab .i had such a bad feeling last night and my husband swore that he wasn't drinking. anyway we were suppose to see each other today and i havent heard from him since 11pm last night. i called his cell phone (nextel) and i two wayed him 4x and i...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

A.A. Thought for the Day I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...

chrissy · chrissy

i was just about to go to sleep an we got a phone call my daughters boyfriend was getting just rushed to the hospital in an ambulance chest pains and tingling in his arms and legs they had to give him oxygyen. he lives across the street so we rushed over. what is going on with the kids the...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Relationships There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...

captcodee · captcodee

I had a good last few days, but today I am mad, and don't know why. I woke up, and didn't want to get out of bed. My husband needed to go to work, but I freaked out on him first thing, and haven't done a single thing since. I have been in bed all day. My daughter is sick, and she stayed with me all day,...

princess433 · princess433

First degree relatives of alcoholics are 3-4 times as likely to have alcoholism than first degree relatives of non-alcoholics 20-25% of sons and brothers of alcoholics become alcoholic 5% of daughters and sisters of alcoholich become alcoholic http://www.familystudies.org/alcoholi...

txmom · txmom

This was given to me today and I thought that I'd share with all of my friends here. It applies to me so much in my situations but I know that there are many many more situations out there that could use just a little comfort. Funny how a silly song can bring comfort, but I guess it's just one of t...

gknee · gknee

Hi boarders- This morning I had an interesting talk with my A husband-- and noticed some changes in me that I wanted to discuss. He stayed home sick about 2 1/2 days last week. I knew he really didn't have anything physically wrong with him. I was concerned that he was using (there is a pattern with him-...

luv123 · luv123

Good morning all at this mornings meeting I related to topic of fear today as well as self esteem… I am very empathetic to all these situaitons I hear in meetings that this disease has caused and all the fear that can come along with it. I know HP will give us all the guidance we need to get thru it And l...

gardengal · gardengal

In time, however most of us find it important to talk about the things that trouble us. In alanon , it is often said that "we are only as sick as our secrets". A key to breaking the stranglehold that alcoholism has on our lives is to begin to open up and let those secrets out. Part of the isolation of this dise...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your kind words. I was down yesterday. I think I just took on to much all at once. I started a new job( Same company) and did some side jobs for a friend of mine. The house was a mess and my daughter was acting out. She does not like t...

Kim · Kim

He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Jenny horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be st...

captcodee · captcodee

Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980) ~~The Ideal Sponsor~~ From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer. Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...

marmare · marmare

Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...

chrissy · chrissy

first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support . we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...

sunny1 · sunny1

Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005 "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." – Franklin Delano Roosevelt Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

((((Everyone))))) First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself. While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me. I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Well I am a full blown horses you know what! He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you! Kis

nancyfrances · nancyfrances

I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...

kitty · kitty

Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all. I...

CAM0914 · CAM0914

Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down. Well, I’m not gonna let her. As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...

leo · leo

Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx

cdb · cdb

Hello friends, I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...

sandy · sandy

Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...

Diva · Diva

I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva

Kim · Kim

Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...

leo · leo

Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...

sunny1 · sunny1

Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...

browneyes · browneyes

Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie

sandie123 · sandie123

Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...

bob6502 · bob6502

Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...

sunny1 · sunny1

I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...

Barbara · Barbara

Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...

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	HARD TIME NOT TALKING TO HIM (Preview) I am having a hard time not talking to him. I love to hear him talk. But I didn't like the way he was talking to me last night. So for at least the next 15 minutues I will try and stay strong and not call him. My mind set is different now then when I used to do this. When i used to get up here i wo...	nycbt	3	696	Nov 7, 2005 by Christy
	Please read and pass on... (Preview) This is a true story.... Once you read this please email to your friends or your a in hopes of trying to save others..and themselves... Jennys horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life '...	Lauren ashley	2	467	Nov 7, 2005 by bubbles1990
	Hard Work (Preview) Friday evening when my A was on his way home, at 6pm!!!! I know what a shock, he shared how his buddy asked him to go with him on Saturday to look at a couple of snowmobiles. It is such hard work not to read more into things then there is. I immediatly thought..."Oh great, now the two drinking bu...	marmare	3	666	Nov 7, 2005 by Karilynn
	new person... (Preview) hey.. just had a mad notion to post my story in this chatroom. im 24 yrs old and met my recovering alcoholic and drug addict boyf. nearly 2 yrs ago. we were friends for a few weeks then became an item. he told me his background and i accepted his past..as "his past". we got on brilliantly for a y...	Rebecca	8	1185	Nov 7, 2005 by Rebecca
	my mom is not in my refridgerator (Preview) Food Is Not Mother In the mind of a baby, "food" is synonymous with "mother." As the baby grows, the two concepts become differentiated, but perhaps never completely separated. We compulsive overeaters may still be confusing food with mother.Often we feel a great deal of hostility and resentm...	rosie light shines	3	516	Nov 7, 2005 by rosie light shines
	I DID IT (Preview) Yesterday my husband wanted 2000 and I told him no. I did ask what it was for he told me I don't want to know. So because I said no he was giving me a hard time. So I left and went to my parents house. I took a day off from work as well. I haven't cried or called him. He has called once so far and I hav...	nycbt	6	501	Nov 7, 2005 by captcodee
	His friend (Preview) Yesterday when i left I called his sponsor but I didn't leave a message. His sponsor called me back and told me that he goes to meetings all the time. He was upset because my husband doesn't want help and he willing to help him. I know there is nothing I can do and he said the same thing. He told me to tell him to...	nycbt	2	643	Nov 7, 2005 by captcodee
	I can do it! (Preview) Last Friday my car overheated, now I don't know alot about cars so I took it to the mechanic, and rushed off to work (late) ,he fixed the problem (A jammed thermostat), I rushed back to the mechanics after work, picked up the car and was about 10 minutes late picking up the chil...	Feather	6	504	Nov 7, 2005 by ODAT
	Believe that you can (Preview) Your quote of the day for November 7, 2005 "Believe that you can do it, under any circumstances. Because if you believe you can, then you really will. That belief just keeps you searching for the answers, then pretty soon you get it." – Wally "Famous" Amos Happy Monday all, Sun...	sunny1	1	412	Nov 7, 2005 by nycbt
	Boundaries (Preview) When I first heard about boundaries I completely misused them. A few examples of some of my first attempts at boundaries went along the lines of: I will not tolerate your drug use whatsoever anymore. If you use you will go immediatly into rehab. You will attend NA meetings eve...	KathyS	9	589	Nov 7, 2005 by marmare
	SERENITY (Preview) All, Over the last few days, I've been exploring the meaning of serenity in my own life by asking myself: What does serenity mean to me? What does it look like? What does it feel like? I've been reading all of the selections on serenity in Courage to Change and Hope for Today and just allowing the ques...	BlueCloud	2	515	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	changing seasons, time for growth (Preview) I bought a mixer today. A nice kitchen aid one like my mom had and like my wedding present mixer. My wedding present mixer is with my alcoholic husband who I am divorcing. When I left him in May I took nothing and bought all new, I was that upset and desperate. Since I asked him 3 times for the mixer (...	megan	8	513	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	A belated 'thank-you' (Preview) I can't thank you enough my good friends for the love and support shown to me and my family following my husband John's death. My dear friend Flora123 [Maggie to me] also passed on your prayers and kind thoughts from friends in the chatroom. My husband was an alcoholic who sadly n...	she123	8	521	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Yes It Really is Groundhog Day (Preview) same shit, diff day.... I guess i will be stuck at learning to become less involved with others & more involved with myself... 38 is 4 months away & I'm just learning to put myself first, love myself first. God has never left me - I have chosen not to listen in the past... well at...	kitty	5	596	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	to thiNk first (Preview) Ok today I am doing better, I had one of those light bulb moments. Also by me writing this may count as the daily writing I am supposed to do as per my sponsor's request (yes she is a teacher) so I will share and do my homework at the same time. I know that I grew up in a less then ideal world as a child, I have l...	tea2	6	650	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	thanks for kickin my butt (Preview) Hi all: I read your responses to my earlier email and thanks for kickin' my butt back into play. It was a very weird feeling I had...I hadn't felt that concerned about whether or not he was using in a while and for some strange reason, it bothered me this time. Not to the point of obsessing, I called two ti...	Kim	1	418	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Duuh… The Light was Always Here but I still need Help! (Preview) Alright ... I feel so stupid. I know I am not stupid but I haven’t been using what I have learned. Times have gotten tough and I easily fall into all of my old patterns. How simple it is to stop doing what you know is good and right for you and just sink in your little hole. I hadn’t even realized that this is wha...	sandie123	3	1222	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Mayonnaise Jar & 2 Cups of Coffee (Preview) Howdy yall! Got this today and thougth it was worth sharing! Subject: Mayonnaise Jar and 2 Cups of Coffee >>> When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a >>> day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and 2 cups of coffee. >>&g...	david62	10	724	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	rehab? now I think that was a con (Preview) So, called my A last night. He was supposed to pick up my stepdaughter and take her to the movies (which I'm sure he did) but now his phone is off (since 11:30 last night when I called) and now I'm wondering if he's had second thoughts about the whole rehab thing and/or he went out on one last binge before.&n...	Kim	4	621	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	doormat (Preview) i dont know what is getting in to me lately. i have let my a and his mother walk all over me and i am just mad at myself for this. i have stopped enabling my a and his mom along time ago. somehow i got tricked into this. first of all my mother in law doesnt work just stays home and lives off other people. a little ov...	notsonew1111	4	693	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	lonely & very sad (Preview) he was doing so good since rehab .i had such a bad feeling last night and my husband swore that he wasn't drinking. anyway we were suppose to see each other today and i havent heard from him since 11pm last night. i called his cell phone (nextel) and i two wayed him 4x and i...	chrissy	9	734	Nov 7, 2005 by nycbt
	revenge!!! short term high....long term low (Preview) A.A. Thought for the Day I have lost many of my resentments. I have found that getting even with people doesn't do any good. When we try to get revenge, instead of making us feel better, it leaves us frustrated and cheated. Instead of punishing our enemies, we've only hurt our own peace of mind. It do...	rosie light shines	1	471	Nov 7, 2005 by Satori
	please pray for steven (Preview) i was just about to go to sleep an we got a phone call my daughters boyfriend was getting just rushed to the hospital in an ambulance chest pains and tingling in his arms and legs they had to give him oxygyen. he lives across the street so we rushed over. what is going on with the kids the...	chrissy	12	711	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	gratitude EVEN for the "pains in the butt" (Preview) Relationships There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing...	rosie light shines	0	619	Nov 7, 2005 by rosie light shines
	Could I be manic? Or is this just a pity pot (Preview) I had a good last few days, but today I am mad, and don't know why. I woke up, and didn't want to get out of bed. My husband needed to go to work, but I freaked out on him first thing, and haven't done a single thing since. I have been in bed all day. My daughter is sick, and she stayed with me all day,...	captcodee	7	556	Nov 7, 2005 by browneyes
	I read an article.... (Preview) First degree relatives of alcoholics are 3-4 times as likely to have alcoholism than first degree relatives of non-alcoholics 20-25% of sons and brothers of alcoholics become alcoholic 5% of daughters and sisters of alcoholich become alcoholic http://www.familystudies.org/alcoholi...	princess433	3	669	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	Something worth sharing (Preview) This was given to me today and I thought that I'd share with all of my friends here. It applies to me so much in my situations but I know that there are many many more situations out there that could use just a little comfort. Funny how a silly song can bring comfort, but I guess it's just one of t...	txmom	7	516	Nov 7, 2005 by Dolphin123
	maybe I have learned something! (Preview) Hi boarders- This morning I had an interesting talk with my A husband-- and noticed some changes in me that I wanted to discuss. He stayed home sick about 2 1/2 days last week. I knew he really didn't have anything physically wrong with him. I was concerned that he was using (there is a pattern with him-...	gknee	2	581	Nov 7, 2005 by canadianguy
	self esteem & concept/tradition 11 (Preview) Good morning all at this mornings meeting I related to topic of fear today as well as self esteem… I am very empathetic to all these situaitons I hear in meetings that this disease has caused and all the fear that can come along with it. I know HP will give us all the guidance we need to get thru it And l...	luv123	0	2739	Nov 7, 2005 by luv123
	BREAKING OUR ISOLATION, AND OPENING UP (Preview) In time, however most of us find it important to talk about the things that trouble us. In alanon , it is often said that "we are only as sick as our secrets". A key to breaking the stranglehold that alcoholism has on our lives is to begin to open up and let those secrets out. Part of the isolation of this dise...	gardengal	3	778	Nov 7, 2005 by WakingUp
	crissy and leo (Preview) Hi, I just wanted to thank you for your kind words. I was down yesterday. I think I just took on to much all at once. I started a new job( Same company) and did some side jobs for a friend of mine. The house was a mess and my daughter was acting out. She does not like t...	nikkilou	3	502	Nov 7, 2005 by leo
	he asked me to take him to rehab (Preview) He's waiting on a bed to open and it can happen anytime between tomorrow and Wed. He just called ot ask if i would take him and if he could leave his car here at the house. What do I do? I'm not sure what to make of this. Help!	Kim	6	606	Nov 7, 2005 by abbyal
	moonlight ride (Preview) Jenny horrific story Jenny was so happy about the house they had found. For once in her life 'twas on the right side of town. She unpacked her things with such great ease. As she watched her new curtains blow in the breeze. How wonderful it was to have her own room. School would be st...	Lauren ashley	2	414	Nov 7, 2005 by sunny1
	How to be an IDEAL sponsor... (Preview) Taken from "The Forum" June 1992 (which was reprinted from 1980) ~~The Ideal Sponsor~~ From what I've learned in Al-Anon, certain physical attributes would be very helpful to become the ideal sponsor of a newcomer. Big ears would help us listen, listen, listen to the newcomer. Then st...	captcodee	2	590	Nov 7, 2005 by sunny1
	if i were given a change of life (Preview) *If I were given a change of life, I'd like to see how it would be to live as a mere six footer......Wilt Chamberlain* In childhood many of us dreamed of being somebody else, anybody but who we are. As time went on, and we lost touch with our feelings, we also lost who we were. We hung in limbo, not being w...	rosie light shines	2	434	Nov 6, 2005 by Lauren ashley
	HAPPY FRIDAY! (Preview) Happy Friday, I came in to work extremely late today. I am doing really good. I was really stressed about sending my mortgage payment, was short some, we are buying from owner and I have never had to send partial payment before and I wanted a wireless router for my home comps, keep pu...	marmare	9	816	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	amanda's results (Preview) first of all i want to thank all of you for all your prayers and support . we had such a scare. amanda's heart is fine thank god!she has something thats called musculoskeletal chest pain the cardiologist wants her to take motrin 3 x a day and said the pain can come at an...	chrissy	11	683	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	End of your rope.... (Preview) Your quote of the day for November 5, 2005 "When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on." – Franklin Delano Roosevelt Just wanted to share this with you all, it hit home to me, Hang on for dear life not knowing what might happen if I dare let go. Also makes me thi...	sunny1	1	447	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	Thanks so much all of you (Preview) ((((Everyone))))) First please let me say I am sorry for being so off the wall last night. I lost it. I was so hurt and angry, I scared myself. While at the time I wrote it, I meant every word. I do not wish anyone to die a hirrible death, life is too preciouse to me. I am going to save what I wrote, to remi...	Jeannie	5	654	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	So fiull of hate and disgust (Preview) Well I am a full blown horses you know what! He said if I promised to go to counseling after he went into rehab, he would go. Since I believe I could use counseling to deal with the pure hatred I have for his mother I agreed. He then said he was going in on November 1st and asked if he could please come trick or...	Jeannie	10	1035	Nov 6, 2005 by Diane43
	Attn: Ops/Chairpersons (Preview) I will be sending out an email prior to our Op meeting Wednesday 11/9. If I do not have your email addy, please pm me with it. Thank you! Kis	kismetstrand	1	450	Nov 6, 2005 by mastiff
	Must do it for my kids and me (Preview) I just recently found this website and starting reading and chatting. I am the daughter of alcoholic parents - and they are children of alcoholics. I married a heavy recreational drinker 18 years ago. I have made myself sick - depression - hives, etc. - by trying to change my husba...	nancyfrances	6	806	Nov 6, 2005 by megan
	A Prayer @ Beginning of Day (Preview) Higher Power, allow me to greet the coming day in peace. Help me in all things to rely upon Your holy will. In every hour of the day, reveal Your will to me. Teach me to treat all that comes to me throughout the day with peace of soul & with the firm conviction that Your will governs all. I...	kitty	1	577	Nov 6, 2005 by megan
	My Mom.... (Preview) Just talked to my Mom. She’s such a downer. She makes her life depressing & doesn’t know it. Here I am trying to keep it up, so to speak…;) & she brings me down. Well, I’m not gonna let her. As Abraham Lincoln said “People are only as happy as they...	CAM0914	2	597	Nov 6, 2005 by leo
	re-I've done it (Preview) Thanks everyone for all your replies I couldn't have made those boundaries without your support here. Luv Leo xx	leo	0	498	Nov 6, 2005 by leo
	I am here to listen and not judge you :) (Preview) Hello friends, I just want to extend my hand and heart to you in here and in the chat room. I am here for you from the bottom of my heart. My purpose in alanon is to work my program and to also give back. No matter how many times you need to talk about the same thing, no worries with me, I will listen. This progr...	cdb	6	1023	Nov 6, 2005 by WakingUp
	I am Alive from your eyes (Preview) Its sooo perturbing that people think I am fine, and that there is nothing wrong with me....I try soo hard to not dwell on my past,but something in my everyday life always triggers something... even in my unconscious. For the past week I have been having terrifying dreams that I am being moles...	Lauren ashley	3	532	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Thanks for the replies to "I don't understand why" (Preview) Hi to all, Thanks to all that replied it always makes me feel better when I read them. It took me so long to write this because I was home for a week for my fathers 80th birthday. It was nice and he was really pleased. I just feel so fustrated all the time. I always feel t...	sandy	2	1088	Nov 5, 2005 by KathyS
	Chrissy... (Preview) I am thinking of you and Amanda this afternoon, and keeping my thoughts positive. Please let us know what the cardiologist had to say. With sincere concern, Diva	Diva	6	696	Nov 5, 2005 by chrissy
	bad day/good day (Preview) Yesterday was rough. I thought I was doing good until I had a situation at work. My boss was in the cube next to me speaking to a co-worker (and friend) about how she needed to "speak to me" at the request of her boss. Now any of you know that work in a cube know that there isn't too much privacy. I...	Kim	0	405	Nov 5, 2005 by Kim
	I've done it (Preview) Hi everyone please bear with me this will be a long post. I have set my first and most important boundary with my A. I started the conversation by saying I am not doing this to hurt you I just want you to listen and this is not a threat or an attack on you. I told him why I was seeing a counsel...	leo	8	781	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	Why be greatful? (Preview) Today Iam greatful that I was able to make the AM meeting and share. Once again my HP leads me to what I need to hear and say, so thank you for listening. I had a wonderful evening with a friend lastnight, but bumped into a freind from my past, i concluded she was a "season friend" funny though,...	sunny1	0	558	Nov 5, 2005 by sunny1
	Looking for Lin0606 (Preview) Hi guys Hope everyone is well Does anyone know where Lin is? I'm just wondering if she is on vacation or if anyone knows if she is? I would appreciate any info Thanks, Julie	browneyes	0	595	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Reality sinks in once more (Preview) Well it was so nice to have my real high day with my kids on Thursday. It really made me believe that I was doing the right thing. Made me think that my HP was telling me something. I knew it wouldn't last but I wished it wouldn't feel so drastically different. Today I never heard from my A. That is good in...	sandie123	5	742	Nov 5, 2005 by marmare
	An old Al-Anon Slogan (Preview) Dear Friends, I am finding myself a little irritated this morning and feeling the need to share an old slogan with all of you. As part of a continuing Step 10, I find it important to look at my behavior as I relate to other people. Step 10 helps me decide if I need to make an amends and learn fr...	bob6502	7	821	Nov 5, 2005 by browneyes
	Live and let live..... (Preview) Live and let live.... I totally learned something valuable for once in my entire life and that is living each day as if it was your last day. I have found myself so caught up in this fast pace materialistic world that I had forgotten where I came from, and what my values were. I am not saying I a...	Lauren ashley	2	483	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Can't seem to shake this one off (Preview) This week has been a tough week emotionally with me and my "a". We have been fighting like cats and dogs. On Wednesday morning we got into a major fight on the way taking him to work because he wants me to pay for his car insurance and his gas. He makes $7hr, which does not cover his end of...	twinmom2	7	741	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	for a lifetime (Preview) I bumped into someone tonight that was a friend of mine afew years back. Have you ever heard of the phrase, people are in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime? Well how true. (I met this person when I was single the first time. My daughter was only 2yrs old and she and h...	sunny1	1	663	Nov 5, 2005 by Maria123
	Questions on Boundaries (Preview) I feel that I am at a place where I don't know what to do about my marriage. I left for a while and came back after 6 weeks and things were good (the honeymoon period) for awhile. My husband works out of town alot and he called me last night and we were discussing money. We ended up getting...	JulieLynn	5	785	Nov 5, 2005 by JulieLynn
	What did I start? I REALLY dont want to do this! (Preview) Ok so now Im going through the "I dont want to do this" thinking. Why did I come to this website, why did I go to the doctor? Its not me! Its HIM! HE needs to get help, not me! Ready to stop and just take care of myself - do things that make me happy - take a walk, go to the movies, etc I DONT want to spend my night...	Barbara	15	588	Nov 5, 2005 by kissers
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